Family: Question: How should I handle this situation? (Harassment)?

Question: How should I handle this situation? (Harassment)?

Posted: 08 Sep 2019 02:24 PM PDT

Firstly, this person is my best friends aunt, an older lady. She tends to be very straight forward and doesnt seem to have any form of filter. I've know their family most of my life (I'd even go as far as to say they helped raise me) so we're all really close but she tends to cross a lot of lines she always has. We've had multiple conversations about boundries over the years bc a lot of times when I bring it up it gets played off and innocent fun and games, and is dismissed. She's like 50(something) and I'm 22 so no one really thinks anything serious of it. We live in small town so its impossible to avoid her and after all these years, everyone knows how she is and no one bats and eye bc it's become normal. Fine whatever, my bad for letting it get as far as it has but she has gotten waaaay worst with it this year she has no respect for boundaries or lines, or me being uncomfortable. My friend noticed that she's more forward about it too, and no matter how many times we've discussed it, the issue is ignored and no one cares at this point. I really dont know what else to do, I dont want to press formal charges or report her for harrassment or whatever. Especially since I feel kinda bad since I let it go one for all these years, but honestly it's gotten ridiculous lately and way more inappropriate than b4. Minor vauge examples (if you must) she puts he hands where they dont belong. She's bitten my ear and/or licked my neck from behind and is very verbally inappropriate.

Question: How to take care of 22 yrs old niece with mental retardation who was told by her mother (my sister in law) that she is a burden to her?

Posted: 08 Sep 2019 02:18 PM PDT

She has a mental age of a grade schooler but her emotions are similar to a teenager who gets all depressed and sometimes dramatic. I try to understand her feelings but how can I help her solve this? Her mother and father (my brother) has split up years ago so she lives most of the time with her mother and goes to ours sometimes (me, my brother, my nice live here in my parents' house). She still relies to her mother similar to how a common kid still seeks to her mother 24/7 so she cannot always stay to our house for a long time. But after my brother and sister in law has splut up, she became more difficult and lazy as she don't prioritize much about her daughter, doesn't work, and keeps on meeting her current boyfriend most of the time. Sorry, I meant that me and my brother only live in our parents' house. My niece drops by to our house in the morning then leaves when she insistently wants to go back to her mother's house, especially when it's almost night time.

Question: Is my son a sociopath?

Posted: 08 Sep 2019 02:09 PM PDT

When he was 5, he tried to suffocate his baby cousin to death but we caught him just in time. When he was 7, he microwaved the hamster he got for his birthday because he thought it was 'funny'. Last year when he was 8, he got expelled from school for breaking a boy's neck but did not get charged. He is now homeschooled. Will he ever learn?

Question: Why do I have anger issues?

Posted: 08 Sep 2019 01:41 PM PDT

I am 27 years old, and the other day I went to my parents home for a family dinner, they had food and I got up and served myself food, yet because I didn't serve my father he flipped out on me. I don't need to serve him, why do I have to?

Question: Poll: do you always remember to use IncestRepellant when you go camping with family?

Posted: 08 Sep 2019 01:33 PM PDT

Question: Social anxiety at family gatherings?

Posted: 08 Sep 2019 12:35 PM PDT

I'm currently at a birthday party for my niece and I don't know anyone here except my dad and my sister. I've just been following him around on my phone because I don't know anybody. He keeps leaving me by myself with these people I never met. I left and now am sitting in the car and I'm sure he's going to come get me and be mad because I'm not hanging out with people I don't know. How do I fix this

Question: My African parents unintentionally wake me up everyday and I seriously don’t know what to do.?

Posted: 08 Sep 2019 12:23 PM PDT

Question: Does this mean I have a concussion (or am I good)?

Posted: 08 Sep 2019 12:14 PM PDT

I crashed my bike earlier this morning but didnt really feel like I needed to go to a hospital or anything. I dont think I was unconscious at any point just a small gash that's hidden in my hair. My parents get super paranoid and would quite literally kill me if I told them esp. since it was one of the only times I didnt wear a helmet. I was nauseous for a little while and threw up (only once) I guess from the shock or whatever. But that was it. Other than that I've been fine all day. I went through the school day no problem, but now I have a killer headache. Could that mean I have a concussion? Idk if its related but I'm doubtful bc it only started a little while ago and I was literally fine all day. I really dont want to have to explain it all to my parents and go to the ER over nothing.

Question: Did I ruin my mother’s life?

Posted: 08 Sep 2019 11:56 AM PDT

Sometimes my mom will take her anger out on me, call me mean names, threaten me when I don't agree with her, tell me I'm going to Hell/God won't bless me if I don't obey her, manipulate and guilt trip me. Sometimes she'll touch my thigh/butt (not sexually) and when I ask her to stop, she always says, "I'm your mother so I can do whatever I want." I'm 21, and she still views me as a kid, and always tells me that I don't have any boundaries, and therefore she "doesn't have to" respect me. So I told a church member what was going on, and they talked to my mom (my mom is a minister) and our pastor. My mom told me that they labeled her as a pedophile, and that her reputation is now damaged. I know my mother is not a pedophile and I never said that she was, so I asked the lady who talked to my mother what was said at the meeting, and the lady told me that they didn't label my mother as anything. Ever since I told that one church member what was going on, the entire church has been treating my mom unfairly, and I feel at fault. Yes, my mom and I have our issues, and she fits the traits of a toxic parent, but I never meant for her to get mistreated by the thing she loves most (church). I don't know what to do. I feel so guilty

Question: Is my dad wrong?

Posted: 08 Sep 2019 11:55 AM PDT

Basically, my two year old brother refuses to eat and my dad hits him on the thighs and legs hard. Then when my brother starts crying he still hits him and tells me,"If he's not gonna eat then don't give him anything else."

Question: Why are my parents like this?

Posted: 08 Sep 2019 11:46 AM PDT

I know I'm a complete whiny-*** teenager, but I'm just really frustrated right now. I have an eating disorder and my parents always get mad at me when I don't eat. Friday I only ate supper, Saturday I didn't eat at all, and this morning I didn't have breakfast. And I was actually kinda hungry this afternoon. So I asked them what we were having for lunch and my dad wanted Mexican food. I told him I didn't want that because it makes me feel sick. So he said "okay, then you're not eating". He comes back home, eats lunch, then comes into my room and asked me if I ate anything. So I said no. Then he started to get super pissed at me for not eating, when he was the one who said I wasn't going to eat in the first place.

Question: My friends son feels like he means nothing to his dad!?

Posted: 08 Sep 2019 10:57 AM PDT

My friends son is 15 his dad left the family home and moved into a house with his new gf and her child straight after .. he feels like his dad doesn't want to be part of his life and is more concerned in his new gf and her child.. eg he's never been away on holiday as his father never had the time or money to go.. but he's taken them 5 times this year.. his birthday was August he brought him some trainers but his gf daughter has £200 and a party just off him.. he's never had a party.. he's not ungrateful at all but can't help being compared to them all the time.. what advice do I give him as he's abit down about it all.. please no nasty answers

Question: Should I return the money to keep peace in the family?

Posted: 08 Sep 2019 10:20 AM PDT

I was at a women's club meeting and a woman ask if anyone would recommend a contractor to remodel her kitchen. I told her my ex husband Jim was contractor and she might contact him to get a bid on her job. She did contact him and liked his bid and gave him the job. She said he did an excellent job and thanked me for giving her Jim's name. Then I got a letter from Jim with a $500 check in it. The letter said "I always give a referral fee to anyone that sends me new business. I don't see why I should treat you any different". "Spend this check on something you will enjoy". Then I had an unexpected problem. My current husband do not want me to keep the money. He does not want me to have anything to do with my ex husband. I tried to explain to my current husband that this is a common business practice and is not personal. He still wants me to return the money. Should I return the money to keep peace in the family? What would you do?

Question: How could I enjoy being at home?

Posted: 08 Sep 2019 10:10 AM PDT

I dislike being at home and, I feel like I am in a prison. Before you assume that I am a spoiled brat, just let me explain. I dislike being at home because, every time I come home I am always being yelled at and sent to my room to rot. I went to a public school for a while then my parents switched my to a private school that I used to go to, it goes from K-8th grade. (I am in 8th grade), and the curriculum was a bit harder and we have more homework that I had to do. This is my third week and, I am still trying to get used to this school. I love school and hate being at home! Also, my parents always call me out if I accidentally raise my voice and they are so sensitive. I got a bad grade on a homework assignment that I fixed and will probably get an A on yet, my parents are mad at me for the bad grade. They took my phone away, witch is understandable but, they never let me go anywhere, stay up late, and I have not been over to a friend's house since 3rd grade. This summer break at home sucked, they did not even let me take a walk down the hill, (off course that didn't stop me from doing it, I NEEDED a break from this house. My parents are also verbally abusive and say I have a major attitude problem when, this is NORMAL behavior! I am grateful for everything I have, it is just my parents never let me have a good day at home. I just feel that I hate everybody sometimes, and I hate being 13. When I turn 15 my parents want me to emancipate. I think I might look into emancipation !!! They threatened to send me to a boot camp for NORMAL teenage behavior.

Question: Is it normal to buy 2 year old girl make up?

Posted: 08 Sep 2019 10:03 AM PDT

No. I'm not a pedophile. I know someone who buys make up to her daughter.

Question: I need my mother away from us.?

Posted: 08 Sep 2019 08:58 AM PDT

My mother is an abusive woman. She is abusive to me and my brother, and she is destroying my father s life. My dad got back with her just so me and my brother could be together as she got custody of him. She says words a mother can t say and does things that are unbearable. How can my father regain custody of my little brother so he can forever remove her from our lives? I m ok with meeting her every weekend, I just need her away for most of the time. This is very serious and trust me my soul isn t bad. I have tried many ways to change her but none have worked.

Question: How to make step sibblings get along?

Posted: 08 Sep 2019 08:50 AM PDT

I got married two weeks ago and my husband and I got a bigger house so our kids can have their own rooms. My oldest son was living with his father, he is an addict and he got an overdose about a year ago and went to rehab. At my wedding, my oldest son asked if he could go back and live with me because he misses his little sister and me. I talked about it with my husband and he said there was no problem, talked with his dad and there was no issue. We went to the court room and the judge allowed it. Anyway, my husband older son which is one year younger than my son is not happy about it. He's always critizing my son or making him feel bad about himself, like calling him a hopeless addict, or arguing because my son ate some cereal and he said it was his. My son avoids arguments with him, he just doesn't respond and ignores his comments. My husband already punished his son taking away his electronics. The other day we were having dinner and my stepson said to my son that why was he here, that my son deserved to be locked up in rehab because he was hopeless and wasn't going to last, that it was just a matter of time for him to relapse and indulge in drugs. My son just stared at me with watery eyes and my husband sent him to his room. He said no and kept putting my son down til my son stood up and snapped by punching him and knocking him off the chair. Now they are both grounded. We can't seem to find a way for them to get along.

Question: How do I stop my mother from overstepping her boundaries (financially) while livng with her?

Posted: 08 Sep 2019 08:37 AM PDT

long story short im 24 started working again about 6 months ago due to an injury that did not allow me to work for 2 years. before hand id pay my bills my schooling bought my own car etc. now that i work i do the same thing the only thing i dont pay is rent i live in a room with 4 other family members. i agree that at my age i should be paying rent but im just barely getting back on my feet and every single time that my mom asks to borrow money she guilt trips me and brings up the 2 years she was there for me financially. i am grateful for that but i feel that she needs to take into consideration that i wasnt just sitting on my *** i basically raised my siblings taking them to school and everything else even before when i was a minor i basically a second parent to my siblings. now shes charging me 150 for rent but she already owns me about 3000 dollars within a span of 5 months and every single month she asks for money and if i say no she basically says that shes going to kick me out and starts telling me that im a bad daughter. i pay for food and all other expenses im just afraid that now that she will charge me for rent she will still ask for large amounts of money and basically just use me as her piggy bank. im going to school and paying off debt i can still afford to pay her that amount of rent but if i pay rent i can no longer afford to let her borrow money and thats something i am afraid will cause friction between me and her

Question: Hate staying home. What I do if I can’t drive?

Posted: 08 Sep 2019 08:18 AM PDT

I literally get deeply depressed when I'm stuck at home or anywhere for hours? My sister loves to stay home and I don't. But I don't drive and she's no help to get places and Uber gets expensive where I'd want to go. Right now I'm stuck at home bored to tears, crying. No bus stops near me. Can't ride bike, too dangerous anyway. I cry if I'm stuck at home too I'm 29 and have horrible vision, hearing and cognition, and can't drive

Question: Do you think there's something wrong with me?

Posted: 08 Sep 2019 07:34 AM PDT

i'm an 18 year old girl. i wear t.shirts, sweatshirts, baggy pants and etnies shoes. i have short blond hair and never wear make up. i go skate and play soccer. i read manga and fantasy novels, watch horror and splatter movies, listen to metal and play bass in a band. i like RPGs and violent videogames. i have tons of friends, both male and female. i'm a lesbian and my female friend with benefits is my best friend, we have known each other for about a year before having sex. i burp, fart, spit and cuss. i adore studying math, next year i want to enroll in physics at college and then become a researcher.

Question: I'm mad at my parents?

Posted: 08 Sep 2019 07:28 AM PDT

Okay, so I'm not a person that shows excitement on the outside, but I feel it on the inside. Today, my dad said he was going to buy me a new phone and when we finally found a phone brand that he liked and didn't ridicule, he asked me if I wanted the phone. I said ''yeah'', and on the inside I was excited. Then he just got mad and refused to buy it for me, because I wasn't excited enough. So I tried to show my excitement but he said it was too late now and that I had missed my chance, and no matter how much I begged, he refused. I've been waiting for years and years for a phone, and now I'm just sad that it's not going to happen.

Question: Husband wont lock bathroom door even when hs daughters are home.?

Posted: 08 Sep 2019 06:55 AM PDT

I have told my husband countless time to lock the door when he goes the restroom. His daughters are 10 and 7 and constantly go in there to use the bathroom, ask random questions. Obviously seeing him, we have glass doors. I have told him it makes me uncomfortable and its just plain weird they are to old to be seeing him. This morning he was in the shower the 7 yr old went in to pee and he finished showering and came out like that. He said how was I supposed to know she was in here, I simply said lock the door. I told him this is the last time this happens I am not going to put up with this weird behavior he said go ahead leave they are my daughters and nothing bad is happening. He got mad when I confronted him and left. We have 2 restrooms and told them they need to be using the other one when this one is in use I don't get this behavior, how to do I stop it, am I the one who is wrong? Also I know he is not abusing them in any way, we talk to the kids all the time and I am always around even at bed time so I know its not that. Again am I wrong, how can I stop this, make him understand it makes me uncomfortable, its not normal to me or anyone else in my family.

Question: I’m really scared of my sister, how do I get over this fear?

Posted: 08 Sep 2019 06:38 AM PDT

She is an abusive person

Question: How do I get my father to stop being so arrogant?

Posted: 08 Sep 2019 06:38 AM PDT

He's known in the family as the Arrogant Puss

Question: Can i marry my paternal great-grandfather's_Cousin brother's_Son's_son's_daughter?

Posted: 08 Sep 2019 02:49 AM PDT

Question: How do i buy and keep girl underwear without my parent knowing as a boy?

Posted: 08 Sep 2019 01:35 AM PDT

I usually not allow to go out and if I did buy it my mom does the laundry and I'm not allow to do the laundry so she will notice. I'm usually not allow to go out and if I did buy it my mom does the laundry and I'm not allow to do the laundry so she will notice.

Question: Why do they behave this way?

Posted: 08 Sep 2019 01:12 AM PDT

My dad and my relatives keep insulting me all the time. They say stuff like I'm a loser, I'm a failure in life, I cannot have a good career, I'm not employable. They say stuff like tell me what are you good at. Then i tell them that im a good student at school. I'm a prefect and there so many things I'm good at.My teachers always praise me and say that i have a bright future ahead. Then they say stuff like your teacher are fools,they don't know the real you. We are the ones who see you for who you are....that is a loser. Whenver i talk about my achievements they say that these things don't mean anything and it doesn't change the fact that I deserved to be abused at home. They keep saying that im good at nothing but the irony is that whenever i try something new like a new hobby or a new sport i always do it so well getting praise from my peers and teachers.

Question: Was he insulting me?

Posted: 08 Sep 2019 12:46 AM PDT

Me, my dad, my uncle and his son had been for a drive. On the way we stopped in KFC.My uncles son had ordered more than he can finish. We all were done with our snack. So my cousin was like can you finish this for me. I was like no I'm full. Then my uncle was son just tell him how delicious the food is and do that repeatedly for 2 minutes and see how the burger will dissappear. I don't know what he meant but i felt as though he was insulting me.

Question: Is this a sign my Grandma is still with me even though she has passed away?

Posted: 07 Sep 2019 11:57 PM PDT

I am 25 years old and I have always been close with my Grandma. She lived with us growing up, so we had a close bond. When she died I was 5 months pregnant and she was so excited to be a great grandma for the first time. She died suddenly and unexpectedly from a brain tumor. It's been one year since she has been gone and I still don't know how to "get over" it. I am constantly looking for signs that she is here with me but I don't know what to look for. I'm having a hard time accepting the fact that she never got to meet my son. So anyways (sorry I'm rambling) for the one year anniversary of her death we had a family picnic in her memory (her wishes instead of a funeral, another reason I think I'm having a hard time) at the picnic they got all her grandkids a necklace with some of her ashes in it. We all (22 grandkids) opened our boxes and mine was the only one that was opened! I freaked out because I thought it was bad! All of her ashes were in the jewelry box! Everyone said that was a sign that she was showing me she was with me but I think they are being nice trying to comfort me. Do you think she was with me? She is the first person I've ever lost so I don't know how to grieve properly. Thank you for any input and if you took the time to read this.

Question: What’s the length of resurrection day ?

Posted: 07 Sep 2019 11:26 PM PDT

on that_ Day all created beings shall stand heartbroken, their eyes raised aloft. They shall not speak, and no attention shall be: 'What think you of a Day in which men shall stand on their feet for a period of fifty thousand years, earing not a morsel and drinking not a drop, until, when their throats are lacerated by thirst and their bellies burned up with hunger, they are taken away to Hell and given to drink from a boiling spring, whose heat had already been prepared, and the scorching of which had grown intense? 'By Him in Whose hand lies my soul, it shall be shortened for the believer until it becomes briefer for him than the prescribed prayer which he used to perform in the world.'Strive, therefore, to be among those believers. As long as a single breath of your lifetime remains chis affair and the preparations for it lie in your hands.So labour during days that are shore for ochers which shall be lengthy, and you shall reap a gain of unceasingjoy. Consider your lifespan to be short, and that of the world itself {which is seven thousand years}, for were you to remain steadfast for seven thousand years in order to escape from Day the length of which is fifty thousand, your gain would be immense, and your effort paltry indeed.

Question: My grandma died (Please Help)?

Posted: 07 Sep 2019 11:00 PM PDT

She died I kept 3 of her fingers to symbolism the 3 years I took care of her and I want to cook them and eat them so she will always be a part of me, am I weird

Question: Getting my sister to buy a gun?

Posted: 07 Sep 2019 10:59 PM PDT

I told my sister, that I know she's big and strong... But she is 45 years old and suffering from rheumatoid arthritis from her years lifting and being a waitress and moving and lifting refrigerators by herself... And beating Scott Steiner in Arm Wrestling just like I did.. Years before I did.. I told her that she is hitting age and getting into a physical circumstance.. Where being raped is more and more of a possibility. And that as a woman... It is time for her to go buy a gun.

Question: My own kid drives me crazy. What if parenting doesn t come naturally?

Posted: 07 Sep 2019 09:50 PM PDT

She drones on and on talking; sings off-key; and gets upset if others try to sing along. How am I supposed to deal? I mean, we re all sitting around watching a movie and she still won t shut up! I don t even know who she s talking to! But the ONE TIME I make a comment, she fussed? WTH! What do i do?

Question: I need advice for my 11year old?

Posted: 07 Sep 2019 07:48 PM PDT

My son is 11 years old he's way out of control he's to the point where he busted my windows out of my car he's very disrespectful I lefted him with my friend for the weekend and he even got to the point where he ran away from her house walked to the freeway and when they came to get him he crossed the busy freeway I'm a single mother of 4 I just had a baby I really need some help some advice please no rude comments he's the only one that does this I put him in counseling I called the police on him they did nothing he knows that so he feels he can do what he want

Question: What would you think about a mother that just leaves you when you most need her??

Posted: 07 Sep 2019 07:36 PM PDT

To make long story short l, my mom lives with me and my 6 kids and well she goes on vacation to Mexico every year since I was 15 years old now I'm 36 now but the thing is this year I'm giving birth on October 20th and well her vacation time each year is around October 26th so she is making plans this year that she is going and well I don't have sisters or brothers or friends to help me out with the kids or baby she doesn't care to leave me on my own she is still leaving for a whole month and I need her but she tells me it's my problem she didn't send me to have a baby this time! So she is still going on vacation what do you think? Plz serious ppl I feel so broken right now

Question: Is it wrong to feel so angry over people taking what’s yours?

Posted: 07 Sep 2019 05:58 PM PDT

I live with my aunt and cousin for work-related reasons and, because the house isn't mine, have to keep my things/food clearly separate from theirs. When I say 'clearly separate', I mean that they have to be actively searching way behind their own stuff for mine (ex. If I have an orange, they have to dive all the way to the back of the fridge and look under their food for my orange). Now, if I were to take something of theirs (not that I do because I'm not inconsiderate) then they'd fly off the handle...but they don't seem to understand why I react the same when the tables are turned (especially so when it's something that can't be returned, like food or a beverage). Not to mention, they don't even truly feel sorry about it! Sure, they'll flippantly *say* the "I'm sorry", but they don't/won't actually *mean* them even a little (and they never replace what they took). This whole deal applies to the rest of my family as well. It's something that's always irritated me like nothing else, but now it's like I'm choking on an apoplectic rage (that I have to shove down deep inside and do nothing about, else I just make my life way more difficult and I don't need that with everything else too) whenever a situation happens. Is it wrong that I get angry about that or that I get *so* angry about it?

Question: How can i make my sister feel better ?

Posted: 07 Sep 2019 05:41 PM PDT

My sister was watching a documentary about Patrick Swayze she was obsessed with him when she was younger she was very upset when he died she can't believe it's been 10 years she knows where she was when she heard it. She was getting ready for school that morning when it happened she saw it on the news before she left. She didn't even want to go to school that day she cried on the bus she even said she cried during class she cried again when she got home because she was being made fun of for making such a big deal of him. She did a report about him a week after he died she got bullied even more for it. It's like those kids didn't even care she lost her hero also a childhood crush. She didn't even watch his movies for a long time after that she said it would bring back bad memories. She said to her it was like 9/11 all over again it was a long day for her. In a way it was because he died just a few days after the 8th anniversary of 9/11. She said she wishes she hadn't gone to school that day he died she's regret it for the past 10 years she's glad she's not in school anymore. It's making her even more sad now looking back watching this documentary of him. How can I help her feel better ? Watching this show on him seeing what all he went through till the end is also making her kind of sad

Question: My dad said the n word?

Posted: 07 Sep 2019 05:08 PM PDT

my dad said the n word and he is super white. should i disown myself? commit suicide? idk. what should i do?

Question: My sister who is cruel and abusive to me is now at risk of gossiping about me to others. What do I do?

Posted: 07 Sep 2019 04:37 PM PDT

I would spread lies that she's in jail on felony drug charges but that's below my moral standard as I'm a better person than her.

Question: I’m going to an extended family celebration tomorrow but my parents won’t be there. What do I do if people start verbally attacking me?

Posted: 07 Sep 2019 04:35 PM PDT

I'm really scared

Question: My father will not tell me any good qualities about me but he’s quick to point out the bad ones. Are a lot of fathers like this?

Posted: 07 Sep 2019 04:26 PM PDT

My mom's father, my dad's father-in-law, is the same way.

Question: How do I break toxic generational legacy stuff my parents have passed down to me?

Posted: 07 Sep 2019 04:25 PM PDT

Gossip is one of them. Also a matter of love hate where you're in or you're out and there's nothing in the middle. Dad would be at work all day so I was closest to Mom as a kid and Mom had a major case of gossip and either loving or hating someone and nothing in the middle. She still has it to some degree but has softened with age.

Question: Is there anything wrong if I move to Chicago when my parents live in Minneapolis?

Posted: 07 Sep 2019 04:18 PM PDT

My brother is an alcoholic so he's not reliable and my sister won't speak to the family for 12 years now. My mother is diabetic and blind in one eye and my father has Alzheimer's

Question: Aggressively rejecting favors?

Posted: 07 Sep 2019 03:43 PM PDT

My grandaunt always insists on doing things for me when she comes over to my apartment. She cleans, does my dishes, and does my laundry among other things (I do all these things myself regularly). But, she does it in such a way that is sort of annoying. She'll clean dishes halfway with residue on them, she'll put them into my cupboards and I can't tell what's "dirty" and what isn't. Plus, she'll put the dishes wherever she feels like and I can never find certain things in the kitchen when I need it. This also applies to my room. She just walks in my room disregarding my privacy and start reorganizing my room as she sees fit. She also vacuums at 6 in the morning. The biggest problem is she takes my dirty laundry back to her house to clean them. But, she only returns on weekends and this last time she took my dirty work clothes that I had set aside and was going to wash them later that day. They're gone now so I have to borrow a coworker's uniform. Each time something like this happens, I ask her nicely and tell her that she doesn't need to do chores for me. She just ignores me and still does the same things so I get a little more aggressive and then she starts crying and saying I don't love her, etc. I don't scream or yell or curse but I do get more stern/insistent. Is there a good way to get her to stop or do you think I should not let her come over anymore (I don't want to do that). If I am doing something wrong let me know.... I want to solve this in a way that makes us both happy

Question: How do I handle an insecure mother-in-law?

Posted: 07 Sep 2019 03:00 PM PDT

I've about had it with my MIL. Since my husband and I started dating, she seems to have made the decision to forge a rivalry between herself and my mom, who wants no part of it. It's very immature in nature. It worsened when we had kids. From backhanded insults, huffing and puffing to eye rolling, she makes it clear she doesn't like it when my mom is around. She always tells my husband she feels like she isn't being considered enough, but that's pure b.s., because when my husband and I contact her if we can take the boys to see her, she always says she's busy, etc. She works, and so does my mom, but my mom was willing to adjust her schedule to look after them. My MIL will not budge, yet complains when our kids don't respond to her as well. She came over the other day, but left abruptly in a sullen mood when the kids were listening to my mom. The other day our boys had a family picnic at their school and grandparents were invited. First of all, she didn't look happy at all to see me there and asked "I didn't know you'd be here. Don't you have school??" My mom is originally from Sicily and said that she heard our son speaking Italian the other day. My MIL glared at her and asked, "Who's teaching him?" In a very condescending tone. I put her in her place and said, "Most likely from my mom. He hears her speaking it at home." She asked, " who is she talking to?" She's been nothing but rude and ungrateful to my side of the family and I've had it. What to do?