So, my husband and I went on a trip with friends for three nights. The first night I was exhausted from work. I tried so hard to stay up. At this point it was almost 3 am. My husband was obnoxiously drunk. My friend also went to bed upstairs. My other girlfriend decided she wanted to get in the hot tub with my husband, friends husband, and their friend. My husband said "good thing two of us are married." At 3:45, the guys went upstairs near my room. They were so loud. I went out to ask them to keep it down. My husband laughed and said get over it. I went to bed and cried. Next day, he had apologized. I was hurt, but got over it. We went to dinner, hung out, and went to the cabin. I was so tired, but I couldnt nap because we had friends meeting us. That night, we played games and all had fun. My husband got drunk again and it started to annoy me. He told everyone secrets I had told him, smoked, and didnt seem to care about me. I ended up going to bed, because I couldn't tolerate it. Sunday, it was awkward between us. I was hurt and upset because I felt that he didnt care about my feelings and didnt seem to want much to do with me. Now that we are home he wants sex and wants to actually talk with me. However, I dont want to. I keep saying he had all weekend and didnt acknowledge me at all. I feel that he tells everyone things I told him.

I don't mean to create a problem for my wife, but I am not enamored of her family. I do not hate them, because hate is too strong of a word. But I do not like them. Their family feels like a cult. The wife of one of my wife's brothers appears to have been brainwashed by them because she just goes along with everything they say and do, where I do not. I will not be "trained" the way she is. I am outnumbered by them and when they are around, it feels like they are swarming all over my wife and me offering all kinds of "suggestions" about how we should do things and live our lives. Or at least that is how I perceive it. My wife sees nothing wrong with what they do. My parents my family now is just an aunt and some cousins, my parents passed away a few years ago. It seems like my in-laws now dominate my life because we visit them a lot and I have to deal with their opinions and influence on my wife. I would not try to stop my wife from seeing them, but I no longer want to see them because I no longer want a relationship with them. Divorce is not an option for me, but how do I handle this situation ?

Me and my boyfriend been together for two years now he tells me he wants to get married some day but I feel it's not true. We live together but we pay our own separate Bill's he helps me financially but only when its something that I really need. I feel if he's not going to marry me then we shouldn't be living together shacking up. Am I wrong for feeling this way?

This question applies to both women and men (male friend for women obviously). I often hear people say that it's ok for a guy to have female friends as long as they met them before they met their wife. If they met them afterwards, especially after marriage, that's wrong. Why is this the case? I'm married. Together for 11 years, married for 3. I met my best friend less than a year ago who is female. We talk daily and we hang out once or twice a week. We just have a lot in common and have fun hanging out. To me it honestly wouldn't make a difference if she was a guy. It would be the same strong friendship. Theres no secret to our friendship either. My wife knows her and loves her. When people find out she's my best friend they don't think anything of it until they find out we only recently met. Why is this an issue?

Is that type of thing ok or not? Why get married and have children after complaining about that very type of thing existing? Is that hypocritical? What's going on? If sex and that type of relationship is wrong, the person saying that should not be married with children. Right? That makes the person saying that wrong himself / herself, right? Because, if it's wrong, it's wrong. Period. So, how can someone reject the idea of sex and being personal with people like that, and then get married and have children?

My husband and I have been together for a year. During this time frame, it was spent on me asking for his attention to hang out and feeling as though I was a bother ( I'd text him and he'd reply with short answers or not at all). When I decided to draw the line and cut him off, he asked me to marry him. We got married a couple weeks later and moved in together. For the first couple of weeks he didn't want to have sex with me and always told me no which confused me. I'd cry and tell him numerous times that it made me feel unwanted bc we were intimate before we got married and now he won't touch me and will deny me 3-4x daily when I'd try and have sex. Id ask him if he was sure he wanted to be with me and to try and show more affection even if it wasn't through sex. He didn't. And said he tells me no bc I'm "spoiled" which I don't understand. As a result, I cheated. I admitted to him what happened and he's disappointed but wants to work things out. I don't want to bring up the fact that it was him denying me all the time that caused me to cheat when I only wanted him for so long , even before we got married. I'd complained and even tried to dress sexier and he'd bring up or show me pics of women that were bigger (I'm curvy fit ) and I mentioned that I wasn't his type either. I tried bringing other women into or sex life and he enjoys it but when it's just us he won't even take the time to turn me on. I know I'm wrong. But I'm lost and not sure what to do.

was he someone your husband also knows?

& now our 2 other boys. But our relationship has had many issues - we never had that "connection" phase and VERY little romance - just focusing on the kids. He pressured me for years to have sex when I didn't want to cause I didn't feel emotionally connected at all..and now I have ill feelings about being physical...We don't kiss or hold hands. I have to be drunk in order to get in the mood. He thinks being physical will fix our issues but I know that not true... I'm falling out of love if we ever really were as awful as that is.. I did fall before so I know that feeling, a close friend and I never was able to tell my feelings. Part of me wants that love but the bigger part wants to "stick" it out for the kids. To just put my feelings aside. Another part of me feels I'm being selfish because maybe if we did separate my husband would find someone who could give him what he wants/needs - a hug - a kiss. I do care for him a lot. I just can't help how I feel. We are seeking counseling but I feel nothing is moving forward for us. It would be nice to have an outsider opinion. Please be kind.

men, would you do it? Why or Why not? Please explain.

I was an idiot, and basically was talking to my boyfriend at the time about a patient of mine. This patient was having on ongoing affair with her old boss, and her husband knew nothing about it. One day I had my boyfriend at my office for the lunch hour. After lunch, was when I was to see this woman, whom he knew by first name (I accidentally told him). I find this patient somewhat attractive for a 40 year old, and wanted my BFs opinion. So I had him go to the end of the hall to an empty office, turn off the lights, and get a good look at her as she walked in. Unfortunately, we broke up, and he threatened to contact either my patient, the patients husband, or the authorities to report me. He somehow knew her last name, and the name of her husband as well. Whats the worst that could happen? What would probably happen?

whenever my boyfriend and I are telling jokes he sometimes calls me "boring" or when I try to tell him something meaningful he calls me "boring" and deep down inside it does hurt my feelings because I feel I do bore him sometimes. I even asked him straight up at times if I do bore him, and he says no. but I think he's just being nice :/ am I being too sensitive? at first I used to play along with it but he says it quite often so now my response back is, "I'm sorry, Ill try not to be boring :(" and he always says, "I'm kidding" but it hurts. Should I tell him how I feel or am I being too sensitive?

I divorced 13 years ago, and have been paying child support monthly since then. Payment is based on the divorce decree. The "child" is now 18. He has never been to the United States because of the mother's choosing. I provided opportunities for him to study here in the USA after high school, but the mother decided that wouldn't work. I assume its so she can keep collecting child support money. The mother has had 2 more children (not mine) and took me to court twice for more money but the family court upheld the divorce decree and dismissed the cases. Nonetheless, I have been sending support, and paying school fees and buying books, clothes etc. The child and mother live in Jamaica (Caribbean). I have made numerous efforts to make a relationship with the child, but he is poisoned against me. Ok, but now they seeking more child support and payment of tuition, and while I am willing to continue the support, I got him into university here for tuition that is much lower than what they are charging in Jamaica. The child had no passport until recently when I had my sister personally take the mother to pay for it. Because previously, I had gone there myself and left the money for the mother to do it, I have sent the money for the passport and visa to the mother... and nothing was done (to my knowledge). Have I asked the child where he would want to study? Yes. In the space of 10 months, I got a variety of colorful answers...join army, start business, Canada need young people...kmt!

She's now ignoring me, and keeps reading her dozens of issues of "People" magazine. She's cycled through them about 5 times now. What is she trying? Ive tried reasoning. What else can I do?

Husband fell asleep sitting up in bed with stuff in front of him. I gently tapped his wrist. He said I scared him and wanted me to Pologu

My husband is 56.He's had cancer since 2010. I've slowly watched him and his health deteroriare. I work full time and we still have a son in college. My husband passed away on Saturday. I can't help but feel relief not only for my husband but for myself. For the past year we've had nurses in and out of our home. It's been a lot on me and my children. Am I a horrible person to feel relief that my husband has finally passed on? I feel like I can now finally move forward with my life. I feel guilty for feeling this way.

I'm writing an article. No names will be included. But I want to know "why people cheat on their partners." Like, literally, what you were missing... emotionally & physically. Can you do that for me? In YOUR words. Please include where you are from. Thank you for your help b

So far my 22 year son has moved out on his own with his girlfriend ( we don't approve of shacking but that's another story for another day) but at least he's under his own roof paying bills. And our youngest son is talking about moving out soon. Youngest is 18. It's ironic because she's the only one with a college degree but making far less money than both of our younger sons. part of me think the only reason she went to college was to prolong living with us. She knew that as long as she was in college we wouldn't bug her about moving out. She's a teacher and makes a little less than $1000. Most of her money goes to student loans, groceries, and her phone bill. So she has about 20-30 dollars left after all that's paid for. I also don't think she's motivated to get a better paying job. I told my wife she can't continue to live off us like this, it's not right. She HAS to get a job paying more than $1,000 a month so she can get at least a small apartment. She told my wife she's moving out in 2 and a half years and she's ok with that arrangement. My daughter knows we don't approve of shacking up and would never let her live with her boyfriend. We don't even allow her to go on vacations with him because that's for married folk. If they vacation you can guarantee they would be in the same bed sleeping together. So my daughter tried to play us by saying " only way I would be able to afford to move out is if me and my boyfriend split the rent and even then it would be a stretch."

This woman only wants to talk about herself with her new boyfriend. She does not want to discuss her adult children Not even like my daughter is getting married. Her new boyfriend has known her for many years and knows about her grown up children. She does not want to discuss them.