I'm a very private person. I'm extremely perfectionistic, hate noise, and like my living areas in dimmer settings. I find other people talking to me to be, most of the time, incredibly annoying. I can't stand being watched, or feeling heavy footsteps. It's at the point where I dread going into the living room or kitchen I share with roommates. (I'm 25, if you're curious) I can easily go YEARS without being in contact with people and feel guilty, but no actual desire to reach out to them. I've tried the dating thing, but the few that are the kind I look for are either taken, not interested, or wind up pushing other single people at me. I've never been in a relationship as a result. I'm starting to realize that I've only ever pursued relationships was because everyone else is. Same goes for children. I can't stand going to church and hearing all the screams. I don't like the idea of having kids just because I'm told to. Even if I'm more sexually driven than the average woman. I don't think I've ever met someone else (or heard of for that matter) who feels the same. I feel like I'm being used when I invest in others. I wouldn't say this makes me selfish or conceited. Some of the things that make me happiest is when I make others laugh or help them out. I just don't feel a desire to continue with any specific people. Maybe this is because of my toxic family past, maybe this is because of all the bad luck I've had in the past, maybe I just have a mental disorder, no idea.

so my family and i are going to greece this summer for vacation and my parents' friends are coming too. we have rented a hotel at an island and they're bringing their kids too. i know their kids since the day i was born because we always hung out together, but they are all boys and I'm also the youngest one (16 going to 17) and their 18, 20, and 21. at first i told my mom that i didn't know if i was gonna have a good time there because the boys usually get to hang out together by themselves more and when I'm with them it's getting kind of awkward. i wanted to ask how i can overcome this. i really don't know how to act around them, because sometimes they fight (friendly) in the sea and sometimes i get bored even though they're adults! i wanna be able to hang out with them and have fun because they're my friends even though we don't get to hang out together as much, but i know that as you grow older, hanging out with boys only isn't as bad as when you're a kid (because you're all grown up and have mutual stuff to talk about now). my mom told me that but i still think that i won't be able to really hang out with them? i need advice. they're*

Okay, so the other night my friends and I walked around town. It was so much fun and I actually didn't force any smiles. They were real. But at home I constantly have headaches and breakdowns and my family and school is just too much to deal with. I want to be happy, like that feeling I had with my friends. Do I like... find drugs or something?!? What do I do?!?

My friends tend to sing loud and often. I think I might have some type of misophonia so when they sing I feel like i'm literally about to go crazy and sometimes it gets so frustrating that I want to cry or scream or pull my hair out. I've asked them to stop singing and humming but my one friend usually just says "No." very simply and sometimes sings even louder and more obnoxiously to make it worse because she thinks it's funny to annoy me. I don't know what else to do because I've tried asking them to stop and obviously that didn't go over very well. I've tried to leave the room but they always find me and just start doing the exact same thing. I don't want them to think i'm a b*tch but it drives me crazy.

Ok so I live in an apartment with two other girls. One of which has been my friend since we met last year in college, the other only recently moved in. I have been so sweet and friendly to her, but I am a bit of a clean freak. Anyways, she is very, very messy. As in leaves food wrappers and garbage everywhere, doesn't do dishes, just in general she doesn't clean up after herself. We kept our place so tidy up until she moved in, and now I'm cleaning up after her like I'm her mother or something. Anyways, my question is, I want to somehow tell her this. Let her know that we like things clean and the way she keeps it is just not okay (but friendlier). My friend however (the other roommate) seems to think that's me being bossy and "authoritarian." How should I go about this?? Thanks to all who took the time to respond!

This might sound dumb, but ever since I've been in community college I haven't had one friend. And I plan on switching community colleges soon too. But should I be more involved in clubs? Because I haven't joined any, since there weren't any clubs at my current college that I liked. So I thought there wasn't any point to waste a spot for someone else and to not waste my time either. I mean that's just silly. I've always had at least 2-3 solid friends. Which would last for a long time (I have two friends that I still keep in contact with that have been a childhood friend and a highschool friend I met outside of school at a community theatre.) But school classmates have never stuck around as friends. Anyway... how can I meet more friends? I'm always nice to people, I'm friendly but sometimes a bit awkward and shy until I get to know you... I mean what more can I do? I don't mind not having any friends. But I wouldn't mind having a good boyfriend around either that could possibly be more ( You know- marriage. But not right away of course!). Because I've realized I don't want to end up alone my whole life... and I am an only child so it's even harder. But I am independent so I do like and actually love my alone time, but I really want friends again. How can I have friends again? Should I join clubs? Do people even become close friends in clubs? Do any of you have any advice? And I'm a girl by the way. Thanks. I still keep in contact with 2 friends, but I haven't seen them in years because they live far away. But we still talk to each other quite a bit, if that makes sense. So like a "long distance friendship" if that makes sense.

I ve never had a drink or done any sort of drugs, and I really don t want to in college (they scare me!). I know my boyfriend has smoked weed in the past and I told him I didn t want to be with him if he kept doing it. He did once and we almost broke up but he promised he never would again. I don t know what to do next year. I feel like I m holding him back from the college experience he wants, but underage drinking seems stupid to me. What should I do? Should I just let him drink as long as he doesn t smoke? The smoking bothers me more. Should I try drinking? I have a lot of food allergies and I m partially concerned that alcohol could give me a really serious reaction (and I could be too drunk to notice). That being said I also don t want to have to babysit my friends whenever we go out. HELP!!! my boyfriend has seizures a lot and so alcohol is super bad for him... i know marijuana can help seizures but i just dont like it

I am a college senior about to graduate that volunteered to tutor freshmen in math. I got assigned to a sorority which had lots of beautiful girls. I became good friends with many of them and thought I might date them until one of them told me most everyone in that sorority was gay. I was VERY disappointed but we became good friends. One problem they told me they had was they could not go to some school activities they really wanted to go to without a male date. I said problem solved. I will take you. One of the sorority girls must have told her father about our "dates". I got a call from the father one day asking me to join him for lunch at his country club. At the lunch he thanked me for changing his daughter to straight. He introduced me to several company presidents and told them I was an outstanding young man and he would consider it a personal favor if they had any job opening to give me a chance at the jobs. I got 4 job offers at that luncheon and I am going to take one of them. I thought changing someone from gay to straight was not possible. If she changed it is news to me. The dad was very nice to me and I wonder if I deserve his gracious help finding a job. Should I just take the job I was offered with his help and hope for the best for him and his daughter? I don't want to take credit for something I did not do but it is a really great job offer.

In my experience people that love Down syndrome people just can't seem to stand people with autism, and i wanna know why?

I had a mutual friend that was basically a bully towards anyone he felt threatened by. So he'd judge/insult me for things—that his OTHER friends were completely guilty of!!! (But since he favored them, he accepted them for it). Obviously, I know his motive for doing this, but I still wonder why, like: does he KNOW he's being a hypocrite? Is he unaware? Is he stupid?? Seriously, I'd like to hear other insight. Thx!

I always lose them, probably my fault. I've been friendless for one year or so. I've forgotten how to interact with new people, how to connect. Help, please. I'm serious. Thank you.

I lived at a shelter and was kicked out 7 months ago. 3 of the people who lived there with me were emotionally abusive and one physically to my son. Two days ago a staff member there texted me about my son turning a year, I'm not sure how she knew. The woman who texted me wasn't abusive, I actually like her. But I'm slightly concerned because I feel like the 3 other people are trying to come in contact with my child.

Im 26 years old and have been playing video games for 22 hours straight every single day. But i am so lonely living in my parents basement and i am tired of playing games. I want to go out and have a good time especially before i hit 30 years old. I just started college and i have 4 years to go. I work with a lot of younger kids at my job 18-22 years old and they actually have better social skills than i do because i never learned them. The only reason they think i am interesting to talk to is because instead of playing the game for 22 hours straight, i am reading different news articles for 22 hours straight (travel, food, sports, pop culture, etc...). So i use the information in these articles to pretend like these things have been going on in my life. Like if an article talks about a person name "john", i pretend like i am john and tell stories. Or if it talks about some exotic travel experience, i pretend like i actually went there. How much longer before this wont work anymore? Or will i just get better?

I'm a girl. I have a good number of female friends in my circle but the close ones and ones I'm most at ease with are guys. I get a bit nervous around girl and for some reason I can't just act naturally. I don't think that girls are "dramatic" or in any way are worst nor better than guys (and vise versa). I tried to force myself to befriend more females but I didn't really get along :( i don't understand

A receptionist at a dentist place and I get along really well, sharing pictures and talking about plans and personal things. Her birthday is coming up and I thought of getting her some balloons and a gift (nothing too personal) is that acceptable or weird? thoughts?

A friend asks "how much would you charge me to park my car in your yard"? They all know I rent out my yard. So I charge him $50- he discusses working on his car in the future to my bf, who then goes out of state for work. Soon after his car is in my garage, no one asked me to park it there. ask my bf, he didnt know about it either but he said it was our friends who was parking it out in the yard. So, he texts the pal "hey if your gonna change an engine, your going to have to do it in your own garage I have a rule ever since my roommate left a whole truck and parts a few years back which I had to pay to remove. That anyone who wants to use my garage has to pay me $100- deposit and once they are done cleaning and taking everything with them when they leave, they will then and only then, get their $100 back. And they only have 1 week of garage use for this rule.the friend agreed. However. He never gave me the deposit. He changed the engine cleaned up and sold his car afterwards. Then I see him after 4 months of him not talking to us. I ask him today why hes not saying hi. He said cause I was talking to our other friend (my roomate) hes lying so I go back over there and say are you mad that my bf said you couldn t use the garage? Or mad about a political fb post? He says no.i say, I know your mad cause normally youd be saying hi and responding to texts. He says i was a lil irritated that youd charge me $100. Yet he never even gave me the $ & now hes lying about ever being mad

I am at a sleepover and my friend is asleep and I'm so bored. It's 12pm and I've been waiting four hours, my mom is texting me saying "when do u want to be picked up" but my friend is still asleep. Ps her phone is on silent

3 of my friends came over to my house and we all decided to play a game of monopoly, It went very wrong. They got mad over a board game. One of my friends cried, there was at least a few arguments, and the little plastic houses got thrown around. By the end of the game no one spoke to each other, it ended in a fight they got mad because I won, one of my friends literally cried.

Im 26 years old and have been playing video games for 22 hours straight every single day. But i am so lonely living in my parents basement and i am tired of playing games. I want to go out and have a good time especially before i hit 30 years old. I just started college and i have 4 years to go. I work with a lot of younger kids at my job 18-22 years old and they actually have better social skills than i do because i never learned them. The only reason they think i am interesting to talk to is because instead of playing the game for 22 hours straight, i am reading different news articles for 22 hours straight (travel, food, sports, pop culture, etc...). So i use the information in these articles to pretend like these things have been going on in my life. Like if an article talks about a person name "john", i pretend like i am john and tell stories. Or if it talks about some exotic travel experience, i pretend like i actually went there. How much longer before this wont work anymore? Or will i just get better?

I didn't make the cut for the play in 6th grade. I remember moving on, but also wishing I could have made it. I had really liked acting, even if I was only an extra in scenes. We had too many kids for everyone to make it though. I made it in 7th and 8th grade though. I didn't make the cut for the volleyball team in 9th grade. That didn't bother me. I had tried out on whim. I did feel bad about my parents spending $25 on tryout fees, and then my friend felt bad she made it, but I didn't. I told her not to feel bad though. In 10th grade I didn't make the school play. It was the first time not everyone would make it. Seniors would make it though. I tried again in 11th grade as well. I enjoyed the tryout process both times, feeling at home there. I was devastated not to make it, but moved on and wrote for the newspaper.

I transferred to a new school my junior year. My best friend was already saying that we'd probably not be as close once I transferred before the year. I figured that was true but now I'm thinking the reason we aren't friends is because she expected it to the point where she caused it. We barely talk and I confronted her about it once to fix things but she literally asked me "what's the point" as if being friends wasn't enough. Am I valid in being angry about it and at her?

She is always judging people. Saying people's hair looks hideous right in their face and even calling one of our other friends, Jenna fat when she isn't around. She says she feels bad for her boyfriend for having a fat gf and constantly touches him. I can tell Jenna gets really upset when she touches him I dont want any drama happening but I can see them fighting... I hate her for this and I can only imagine what she says about me. I'm very shy and the only reason people talk to me is because I have giant boobs but I'm always hiding because everyone stares at me :/ like the first thing this ***** told me was how she loved my boobs and that she wanted my number. Jenna told me she said I am goofy before and not in a friendly way... On Friday I had about enough with her and snapped at her. She saw some boy sitting alone in the lunch room and yelled "loner" so I told her "shut up leave people alone!!!" really loud too. Then she gave me a look like "excuuse me?" I played it off like I didnt mean it and laughed like I was only teasing then she laughed like the dumbass she is. But I can't take it anymore I just dont want her to start bullying me if I ignore her

We're just neighborly, not close friends, so I don't get why I feel the way I do.

My friend really loves cats he's got 4 cats of his own he was watching Pet Semetary 2 he's never seen the sequel. He got upset because there was a part where this group of kids took this boys cat and hid it from him in the cemetery. It made him upset because a while back there was someone going around here stealing pets from peoples yard we live way out in the country luckily no one can find us out here. It still upset him though it scared him a little too because he thought the kitten hood turn up dead. He knows it's just a movie but people do do that stuff. He's really scared for his cats. Not long ago there was someone who walked right into this kids yard and took her dog. I haven't heard nothing about it in a while I don't know if the dog has ever been found. That was about a year ago. How can I help him feel better ? He also cried when one of the boys father got abusive and shot his dog. Hint my friend is usually one not to cry