But then expect to not be cheated on when they're in a relationship? I know someone who got cheated on and was so upset when it happened. My long after she got involved with a married man and she knew he was married. Fast forward he divorced his wife and married her. Fast forward again and he cheated on her and now they're divorced. Just a case and point and it baffles me that she didn't think it would happen to her.

i can't live with his parents anymore :( i want to live on my own ,work my butt off with work and live like a mature adult . in law's treat me like I'm a kid . im 24.. husabnds 26. hubby and i been married for over a year.. i want to live separately but still be married.. i heard it cant percent a lot of fights and it shows true love too. .. hubby doesn't want to move because he makes so low income and i make high income. advice please. i meant.. prevent fights .. my bad

I'm 17 about to be 18 on dec, I want to know if I could still marry my boyfriend at bridge with my moms permission... and if I can marry him can he come to my state right away or does he have yo wait till he gets his passport. Pease no hating comments.

im 24 . spouse 26.. we been marriage for over a year and i bee waiting over a year to have sex again with my husband .. he's too scared he'll fail .. but i know he won't .. the last time we had sex was when we were engaged . thats feb 2014. :( i can't wait any longer.. what boundaries should i set up for that ? also, i don't want to live with my in laws .. but my husband want to live with his parents .. i been waiting so long to move out as well .. I'm still in love with hubby .

I told my girlfriend that we should try and get advice from couples who have been together for a long time to find out what we could do to have a happy and successful marriage, if we do get married in the future. What are the chances of couples actually giving us advice like this or even finding couples that would fit this kind of criteria? And has anyone reading this been happily married many years and are willing to give some advice to us? Any and all advice would be much appreciated, thank you.

I have this friend I met from my first job and we stay in touch quite often. Recently found out she s been cheating on her husband for the past few years. Keep in mind she has 2 children with her husband. Anyway I told my boyfriend and now he s not wanting me to really be friends with her anymore? I don t want to stop being friends with her, she s going through a lot and she s important to me. Just curious what others thought, would you want your significant other to be friends with a cheater?

My wife has been stuck in a horrible job where she has been treated awfully by her boss. She s going to be back a home as a stay at home mom again as our second daughter will be born in a few months. She asked for something special to celebrate her last day. I thought bringing her out to dinner to her favorite restaurant would be great but she said that wasn t a special way to celebrate. What can I do? I m sure she wants to go somewhere and be seen. Your ideas would be greatly appreciated. Thanks!

I am mother of 4 kids and had to have restraining order put in husband for kids and I. We were at court last week and were told it got moved to diff date cause he filed for divorce few days before court. Well I have custody of kids till we go to court for restraining order. Well in papers he is filing for joint custody of kids. Is this possible. I'm scared for kids and I.

I'm married with 2 young children who are at home with me. They start school in the fall. I've always worked here and there but we move so often or my husband's job I'm forced to give those up. I look for work that is going to work with my kids since child care will take most my wage. Basically, my husband wants me to work now because he doesn't want to pay for me financially…although I'm pretty cheap for a wife…don't spend his money unless it's food and necessities. If I do have anything somewhat special I buy it with my own money from various jobs or parents. I'm pretty sure he will eventually tell me to figure out how to pay part of the bills, food, rent, etc. So my question is, if my husband withholds from me financially, can the govt. provide aid to me while I find a position? I'm applying and looking but it's been a process. Not to mention I'm with my kids all summer and he doesn't help with child care. Basically I married someone who thinks his money shouldn't be "drained" by his family's needs.

My husband and I came to visit my grandparents (they are like my parents because they raised me since I was a baby). This is the real first time that they really gotten to know my husband since my husband and I met at college and we live far away from them. I am 20 and I know I am young to be married, but that was my personal decision. Anyway, we have been here a week and leave here tomorrow. This trip has been terrible for me. On the first full day, my grandmother took me shopping because she did not like my clothes that were 1-3 years old and they looked unflattering on me. She made my husband stay back with my grandfather. On the ride to the store she criticized me saying I look awful because I don't do my hair and makeup anymore and I look awful because I gained a lot of weight. Last year before my wedding I gained 50 pounds in 3 months and I did not change my diet and was on birth control and the doctors say I have a hormonal imbalance, but my grandparents don't believe that. She then kept saying we need to get clothes to better hide my stomach and kept hinting I look ugly now. Honestly, the subject about my weight is a touchy subject for me and this made me really upset. I am not super fat, but I am pretty chunky now. She also kept asking if my husband would leave me or cheat on me because I am fat now and how does he feel about my weight. My husband loves me very much and is understanding about what happened. While I was at the store, my husband texts me saying my grandfather talked to him about my weight too. And both conversations were 30 mins long. They also have been making comments about my weight the whole trip and I have to do my hair and make up every day to please them. I don't do my hair and make up that much anymore because I am tired and its been hot lately. They keep saying I am letting myself go and told my husband I use to do my hair every day as well as my makeup, but that's not true. One night my grandmother made dinner and was some food I did not like and I told her I still didn't like that food and she kept saying I liked the food and got really made at me. Then my grandparents told me well its been a long time since you've been home so we don't know what you don't like. I have only been gone a year. They also keep trying to tell me I like certain foods, even though I never had liked them before. They treat my husband way better and when he makes mistakes they say it is okay, but when it comes to me they yell at me or jump down my throat. Like I accidentally through a bottle away when they recycle and I am use to throwing them away and they got mad at me for throwing it in the trash. Or I was trying to clean a crab and couldn't break it open they got mad at me. They give my husband options and talk to him more. When I talk they either ignore me or try to argue with me. Each time I leave a room for extended amount of time they talk about me to my husband and criticize me instead of confronting me about certain things. And I can't tell them how I feel because they take everything personally and would get super mad at me. They honestly don't care about my feelings and when they see I am mad or upset about something they will be like "oh there is nothing to get mad about or upset about." But, I am human and have feelings. What are some coping ways to deal with my family because they are driving me crazy and make me depressed. When I used to live here I would get super depressed because they never let me do anything and all I did was sit around in my bedroom. That's why I loved going to college and being married now. My grandfather has seen me on my wedding day with this weight problem. They also met him one time when we were dating and he has stayed here for 3 days when we were dating. I already told them I exercise and they criticize me on the phone though.

This guy and I have been having an affair for the past 4 months. His wife caught him yet he never broke it off with me. He has a 10 month baby. We keep seeing each other as usual. It's not just sex, we even go out for breakfast and movies when we can. But why is he still with me even if he got caught? Won't he get caught again?

I want to get married and have a family but I'm only 14 : ( I don't want to wait 10 years

I been with my fiancee for 4 years and the first year we were together was amazing then the 3 years of being together was awful he yells at me everyday and we haven't went on a date for 6 months and yesterday I was wearing a shirt and he kept looking at my **** and not me and I said is that really all you care about and he said yeah and I started crying abit and I slept on the couch thinking did he use me for my body? And then this morning he says he had a good dreams about me and he didn't even say sorry for yesterday and he's making me feel like **** everyday and I think I'm ugly because of him does he love me or is he full of ****?? :'(

I don't want anyone else to parent our children except for my wife and I. Is it possible to navigate through divorce without eventually adding on step-parents for the kids?

I have a civil order against ex. we are now going through a custody battle right now. The civil order says all issues regarding custody shall be handled via custody proceedings. It also says of course no contact order. I now got this letter in the mail that he gets her from Friday to Sunday. We have not even went through mediation. His lawyer had filed for temporary custody for him. I read in the temp custody papers it says nothing about the civil order. Please does anyone have an answer. Is that even allowed? I now he is a lawyer but there tricky.

if your love of your life was 23-24 yrs older than you? You are 23, he/she is 46-47. He/she is highly successful, intelligent and everything you ever wanted in a wife/husband.

I know he is a liar, cheater and an abuser. He is just all around no good. He left to go be with an enabler to his partying lifestyle. So why is it taking me longer to heal? He was already engaged before the ink dried on his divorce papers and his new one did the same to her no ex husband. Where does that leave us, the ones that were wronged.

Me and my husband are young. And we go through a lot of problems. I dont really want to have sex with him when I do not feel respected by him. When he wants to have sex with me he'll approach me sometimes and say I don't want to cheat on you and i dont want to be a cheater. And im like what the hell that will not turn me on to have sex with you. I feel like im being given a choice. Either have sex with him or hell be tempted to cheat. Should I withhold sex from him to get respect. Or is their another way I can get respect from him. I literally be grossed out by him because we don't get along at all

I found out just now that my wife has an email account I didn't know about. It is full of gaming subscriptions and a news site. A little spam here and there. She was logged in and forgot to log out when I got onto our joint computer. I didn't know she had this account and I am really upset she didn't tell me about it. She doesn't have any contacts in it nor anything coming in from dating sites. Just the game and news subscriptions. So since she isn't cheating why wouldn't she tell me about this? How do I confront her about her secret email?

My husband and I love each and we are very happy. But his ex wife is getting on our last nerve. They got married at 19 and she divorced him 2 years ago because of domestic violence and she didn't want to be with him any more. They have 2 kids together and she has full costody. She cheated on him through the marriage and was selling her body for money. My husband said he was miserable with her and treated him badly and wasn't happy with her. But now they're divorced, she has been calling him everyday and texting him inappropriate stuff. She acts so bitter towards me and I don't know why and I didn't do anything to her

I dont want to go back with Him..I give more chances to him to get back our marriage harmonious but still no use..He even not do something for our good..I want to have a legal way ..what should I do except file annulment?its takes long time ..I want my work for my kids..Plz.I need ur help..Thanks and more power!

I do want to get remarried soon. How long do k need to wait jntill this is final? 30 days from the day i recieved papers from the mail? His lawyer nor court will tell me anything.

I did nothing to her. I tried to talk to her and get to know her but she rejected me. Why is she doing this?

Several months ago my husband found out I was talking to a guy over a game I had been playing on my phone, me and this guy never exchanged any personal information but did enjoy talking to each other, my husband is adamant that this is cheating, and has been very distraught/depressed, no matter what now, he thinks I am messing around on him, how can I get him to believe that I am not cheating? I know it was not appropriate for a married woman to do this, but nothing was going on.

As hard as this is for me to admit I have ED We can't really afford the medication. If we don't get this fixe then I think it may ruin our marriage. My wife thinks I'm not attracted to her. We want to have a child, but with my ED, it makes it difficult to get up and stay up. I love my wife. Is there any way to get free ED medication?

I'm 22, single, and at this point, I just want a husband. Trying to find close friends is exhausting. Recently found out someone whom I considered my best friend got married last year, via Instagram. Here I am thinking we're "sisters" and not only did she not tell me about her marriage, I have yet to see her son who is now almost two. Every time I've made an effort to see them, she's cancelled. This is just one example, but there's plenty more. It hurts me that everyone I've ever considered myself to be close to, clearly don't feel the same way about me. Intimate relationships mean a lot to me, and it's really bothering me that I don't have any. I've learned to enjoy my own company. To do things, go places, travel alone. But I just want someone, one person to be there for and to have be there for me. I could be so loving and supportive of someone just gave me the opportunity. I know marriage has its own trials and travails, but I feel like that's the only way I'm ever going to get the kind of intimacy I want. Is that wrong? Normal?

One of the people were my sister. Why am I just numb to the situation?

It use to seem we were perfect for each other..it has been 6 years and I hate the sight of him. He always has to be the victim even when something has nothing to do with him. he yells, he is hostile.. He think's it is my job to do all the house work , serve him in bed and have sex with him any time he wants. He tries to have sex with me when I'm sleeping. I have to wake up and fight him off of me. he tells me it is not rape because we are married.but I feel like he is violating me. He throws temper tantrums and punches holes in the walls. He goes to work and tells everyone about our problems but when I try to talk to my mom about it, he throws an angry fit and says everyone has turned against him. I'm always angry when he is around, but happy when he is not. I have told him how I feel but he will not leave. He constantly bashes me . He has even puts his hands on me but denies it and says if he was to actually hit me I would be dead. He blames me for all his problems . right down to his father being in prison. I don't know how that has anything to do with me.. he says if it was not for me he would have had more time with his dad and it would have never happened. Every day I dread waking up and sometimes I want to end my life... Even if he did leave I could not afford things alone. I'm disabled to the point I can hardly walk. and do not make enough money to pay the bills alone. I'm only 31 but feel like my life is ruined past the point of fixing it.

I have many interests and hobbies and I often invite my wife to participate but completely understand nor do I make a fuss if she's not interested which is often the case. My wife however has very few hobbies or interests so I have been encouraging her to find some. Well she found one...golf. She used to play golf when she was younger and recently has found a taste for it again. So much so that after her first trip to the driving range in years...she went out and bought a golf outfit and signed up for lessons. Now every time I turn around she's inviting me to go to the driving range with her or go golfing...she even wants me to get a set of clubs. I've played golf before and I think you either love it or hate it and I am not a fan. It;s boring and frustrating to me. I feel like I should support her (and I have gone to the driving range and have agreed to go golfing with her) but I am never going to be into golf. How do I handle this situation I created?

i married him..bcs i love him too much...i had give him my whole happiness my carrier for love..but he return cheating...he love to flirt with other....he love me when he thinks of other girl..its hurt me...i want to kill me...but i have 1 year baby .i want ti fight with him...i want to slep him.but i cant live alone without him..i cant leave him beacouse my parents will not support me..its really tough situation..everyday i cry a lot..i have plan to die after few year bcs of mydoghter..help me

Im 25yrs old I had a palatal expander and tongue crib put in the root of my mouth 3weeks Ago. I feel as if my husband started working nights because he does not want to be with me. I used to satisfy him every night but now that I have all this metal in my mouth I cant it would really hurt him probably even cut him. I really dont want to use the proper word in case a minor is reading this but all the adults problably know what im talking about. I know he is used to it every night its been 3weeks since I could satisfy him in that matter. I think he is gonna go out and find someone to do him that favor. Should I track his iphone to make sure I know were he is at.

And if I would have had her by ex she would have been ugly. We have a baby girl and a newborn. He claims the newborn isn t his. We argue all the time. What should I do?

My mom is getting a divorce and I wanted to make her a cake so I could see her smile amongst all the stress her abusive husband has been putting on her. I couldn't find any good toppers for the specific use of a divorce cake. But, I did find this topper that is supposed to be a bride pulling her husband back but I think it looks like she is pushing him off the cake. Do you think that this would be suitable for a divorce cake?

I've been texting with an old friend for almost a year now. All of a sudden he stops texting me, and it has been two months. We both are married, but we seem to connect and we enjoy each other's company. We can only text because we live in different countries. We have done video chat once that lasted for more than 5 hours. Our texts are sometimes very intimate. I am truly devastated that he hasn't texted me for a long time. It has happened before, and it was his phone/connection. Not sure what it is this time, but I'm sad regardless. I know this is wrong because we both are married, but I am so infatuated with him, and I guess we both are having emotional relationship. I have great relationship with hubby and love him very much, but I get this unexplainable thrill and happiness when talking to this guy. It's almost like being high on drugs. How can I forget about this man, move on and not think about him every minute? I try focusing on my family, but still can't get him out of my mind. Being ignored really hurts, esp when there is no explanation and I have fallen for him. I may sound like a dumb teenager right now, but I'm not sure how this happened… I would appreciate your advice, esp if you have experienced this before. Thank you.

I know, I'm a wishful thinker. I have been for 5 years. Almost all of the problems I'm having is the result of some bad teachings she and I received that make us incompatible UNTIL we let go of (and train ourselves to not return to) habits from our past. But that's where I know that I'm being wishful. A problem that I see in the marriage does not necessarily mean this is a problem to my wife; so when dealing with someone with a personal bias for/against a certain thing, is there anything I can do? Example: I believe in compassion. It is something that guides me through life. My wife does not share this belief. My wife believes in survivalism. It guides her through life. I believe in helping as many people as I can without giving up too much of my resources. She believes in helping only her closest family/friends, and to keep everyone else at arms distance (what's mine is mine, what's yours is yours - I worked for it, I deserve it). I'm not looking to change her, or her change me, I'm just looking to improve how our beliefs affect our marriage. I'm tired of arguing with her over our differences. And when we argue, I'm looking for compassion (caring for both of us) and she's trying to survive (be the bigger threat). Honestly, all I want is to live a happy, peaceful, fun, focused, and loving life (who doesn't want that?!?). How do I get her on board? Nothing works. Anonymous said that Marriage = Sacrifice. Sacrifice doesn't compute with a survivalist who takes all the good things about systems (culture, mannerisms, feminism, monarchy, authoritarianism, pacifism, traditionalism, new age movement, etc) and gets rid of all the bad things about them (inequality, expectations, actually working, being responsible, needing rules, needing to not fight, gender identity, being confident)... So she's stacking the deck where everyone has to sacrifice but not her.

My husband and I have known each other for about 5 years, dated for 2, and have been married roughly six months. Everything is great I m truly blessed to have married my best friend. But... courses is awful. We open when it comes to talking about it and trying to fix it, he actually sits here as a write. We are both 23. We re are both pretty sure it s just performance. It s like sex is speaking Japanese and neither of us know the language. The desire trust and love is all there. For play is ok but as soon as it comes to the act everything is all wrong. Neither of us are very experienced. Anybody know how to fix this?

We both work and get home tired, but i try to clean up after work or during my days off. She doesn't. I have to ask her to clean all the time. After cooking she leaves the dishes with food sitting for days, sometimes we even have to throw them away. I have told her that i will help her clean but she always ends up upset. Our room is a mess as well. I know i have to clean too but is not fair if i only do it. Now that she is pregnant ik she will use that excuse. Shes a great wife but its just the cleaning.

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Even if it is not a big issue he starts to talk louder and says I should keep silent and give him space to calm down, but sometimes it is really stupid argument so I say things like lets just forget about it, and try to hug him, and things gets worse because he doesnt want to make up immediately. And he starts yelling like go away, and if I keep on talking he starts to use abusive language, anything that would hurt me. It is like he doesnt love me at all when we argue.. And I cant stop talking sometimes I feel like we need to make up because I dont like going bed this way. Sometimes it might be pushy of me but is it ok for him to use abusive language at all? And I never ever say anything bad to him, and I keep saying we should cut this off its not a big deal etc. and he continues to yell , with dirty words. What do you think I should do? Should I be silent ?? By the way we are married for 4 months. Sometimes it is very stupid issues and can't believe he stays angry, so I try to hug and make up every time when it is a silly argument, and he goes crazy, I keep talking calm and act normal but he keeps saying that he doesn't want to talk and make up, and if I talk more to him he starts yelling, sometimes he has high blood pressure and try to lower it, he has hypertension. If the fight gets worse, he won't come to bed and sleep in the couch. He is working,I'm not. He says all he does is work& come home and work for me. He says he doesn't allowed to do anything else but my needs,he thinks he doesn't have space to live.sometimes I need attention because I'm home,when he comes I want to enjoy dinner,talk,watch TV together.Sometimes my romantic guidance would make him angry too, if he wants to watch news, and if I keep talking we start arguing.I mean these kinds of arguments I keep talking because I don't see it like we need to stay mad

We have a 4 month old son. In the beginning, things were rough. We have a very good baby but I wanted help from my husband. So, we weren't communicating well which resulted in fights and failure from us. I realized that the mom needs to do the majority of the work (since I am breastfeeding) and that I just need to suck it up. My husband gets to have time to himself and still does the things that he loves. I am still fully responsible for the baby and I'm ok with it. It breaks my heart that my child wont have a playmate or a lifelong friend to go through things with in life. Any suggestions on how to convince your husband that having a sibling for your only child is a good thing? I don't want to discuss having another one just yet. He had threatened to have a vasectomy since things were rough between us in the very beginning. That threat stuck with me and it's turned my whole world upside down. Since then, he has agreed to hold off on the vasectomy. When I asked him why he is holding off, he said because I asked him to. When I asked him to explain it further on why he's holding off, he said he doesn't know. Another problem we have is that I am 30 years old and my husband is 43. He is afraid that he is too old to have more children. So my baby clock is ticking FOR him. I have plenty of time to have another child, but he fears he will never retire and he doesn't "want to be raising kids the rest of his life". He's very selfish and its hard to be on the same page with him. Thanks for all of your answers so far. It helps me to think of things from different perspectives.

My boyfriend and I have been dating for 8 months now, best friends for a year, but knew about each other in high school (we're college juniors).Around the 4th month, we saw a future possibility but somehow fell deeply in love on the 6th and already assume we are meant to be and such But the way we met...it was MESSY. In high school, i heard rumors that he was a pervert.He heard rumors about me how I'm all about school and being an overachiever. We officially met in college and happen to have the same class. He developed a little crush on me. Meanwhile, i had a crush on his best friend haha.Drama happened between me and his friend, i fell into depression and became fwb with my "bf". And then MORE DRAMA happened where i found out he was "secretly dating" one of my friends! My friend and i ganged up on him and stopped the relationship. Few months passed by, he kept bugging me and we somehow became friends again. We casually talk about love life and help each other out. Until one day, i finally scored a date with this guy, but then my "bf" confessed to me. I thought he was joking. For a month. Eventually i realize he always had feelings for me and it grew stronger. I decided to give it a try. We're extremely happy together now :) And i feel like he is the one and our messy situation proves that things happen for a reason. But...hearing about how other couples met and how magical it is...I feel a bit embarrassed and ashamed. Do all couples have a wonderful story of how they met?

I honestly don't deserve her. Besides kissing her butt and doing as I'm told, how else can I make my wife realize my appreciation that she chose me?

I met my husband in December 2012. I got pregnant only a couple of weeks after meeting him. We got married in May 2013 during my first pregnancy. Then, we had another baby in 2014. After our daughter was born, and even during both pregnancies, he was very attentive and wanted to help care for his daughter (i.e changing diapers, bathing, feedings). Since our son was born, he's changed. He gives our daughter an attitude when she wants to be picked up or runs around screaming. Yes, she's at that age, but I think she's "acting out" because she wants attention. She no longer has our undivided attention like she did before our son was born, so now she has to share with him. The problem is my husband has no problem telling us (his family) no, but when it comes to his friends--or even just acquaintances--he's there at the drop of a hat to help. He has been working side jobs every weekend for the past 5 weeks. This time he said the guy he will be working for needs him, but paid no attention when I told him that we need him, too. It seems like it's working, his friends, his family in his home country, and then his kids, then me. I have a demanding full-time job, too, on top of taking care of most of the household stuff and raising the kids, which he plays off as nothing since I spend most of the day in an office behind a computer. Yes, I can sit down for my job, but dealing with irate residents and moronic employees is just as difficult sometimes (BTW, he's a contractor). Lately I've been thinking that maybe this isn't working anymore. It's not fair to the kids. They can pick up on when there's tension in the house--such as last night. It's probably wrong to give hubby the silent treatment, but there's nothing more I can say or do. He hasn't listened to my concerns, so far. But on the other hand, if I do pack up the kids and leave, then what happens to his immigration case? That also has me thinking, too, as to what his intentions really are. I've already been divorced once before, whereas he's never been married. I know what I want/need from a marriage and family, and the way he's behaving lately is just like my ex the last half of that relationship. Luckily I never had kids with HIM. If I had known how hubby really was before, I'd have insisted on taking things slow or just not gotten involved with him, but then again, I wouldn't have had the kids. Just so you know--although really none of your business and irrelevant to the issue--I was on birth control. Someone too stupid to know not to make ASSUMPTIONS about another person, really should NOT BE giving ANY advice.

I always hear people saying how their life ends at marriage and how much they hate their husband/wife. I also see an increasing amount of people choosing a single lifestyle, not that there is anything wrong with that. Everyonce in a while I see a very old couple still going on dates, holding hands, smacking each others butts, kissing on the cheek etc. I get that there are some marriages that are just incompatible but it seems like society tries to dissuade people from marrying.