Had a baby with a guy that I was with for 4yrs... we broke up right before the baby was born and I had to play hell getting him for child support. He sees her maybe once a week for 4 hours each time. He just married a girl that is active duty... my question is does child support change?? And what will a judge order for visitation when they are stationed out of our state in January?? She s is almost 2yrs old if that means anything....

Long story short: my sister and her husband got into a domestic dispute on July 1st. The police were called. One came & just made both parties leave. My sis left, idk about her husband. The next day she went down to file for a protective order. It was granted. So, word around the town if her husband pressed charges and the warrant should be issued in 8 weeks........... How legit is this? Im pretty sure that's not how the process works. We live in Indiana BTW

I'm turning 14, and my parents are divorced. They have been for a while now. I am living with my mom and stepdad along with my sister. I have recently moved to New York leaving everyone I know, including my dad, back in Texas. I am very unhappy up in New York and I want to know if I should move back to Texas with my dad, and if it is legal to do so?

I recently got married and like most women I took my husbands last name. I got my social security card in the mail with my married name but for some reason my duplicate drivers license and debit card got sent back. This is very frustrating. I called usps and they said they d update my info. Is this something that can happen? I ve had many of my women friends get married not had an ounce of trouble getting mail in there married name.

I have a weird situation with my manager. For a couple of months, I have noticed him displaying odd behavior towards me. I can't say whether he is the same way with the other females, but it doesn't seem like it. I can tell he's attracted to me by the way he looks at me, flirts with me, and smiles at me. There always feels like there is some sort of tension there. I wouldn't say it is sexual tension since I don't see him that way, but there is a lot of awkwardness between us. Today, I was clocking in and he was reaching up to put his hand on my back, while saying hi and I am 85% sure he "accidentally" brushed my butt with his hand before settling on my back. I didn't say anything because I felt it could be my imagination, but that's not the first time that has happened. Also one time, I looked up at him and he was looking at my chest and had no reason to. However, when we're alone in the office area, he doesn't say anything weird and he even gave me a ride to work one day and didn't say anything weird, so I don't know. He IS married and has a family, so that's another thing that makes this weird. What should I think? I'm 24, he's 34. Lol he's not cheating. And I'm not trying to go after him or anything. I honestly feel he would pursue me if he thought he could. No reason to get him fired and divorced over nothing too extreme.

My husband and I have been together for almost 5 years. We have 2 small children. He is currently in rehab for alcoholism. I worked so hard for such a long time to finally get him to go, I thought I would be more hopeful and positive. We have had a few issues cause major issues in our relationship: trust issues because he lies and is very "good friends" with an ex. Although, I don't think there was physical infidelity in our relationship, I have certainly felt betrayed a lot in the past few years. He used to call his ex when we got into arguments, met up with her and lied about where he was going, still said I love you to her, etc. I tried to talk to him about these things but he would always just shut me out and ignore me or leave the house. He has been in rehab for almost 2 months. He has been in counseling while there and we are doing joint counseling as well over the phone. We still have more bad conversations than good because he doesn't want to talk about any of our issues from before rehab because he says those are in the past and I should get over them. I feel like giving up. How do I know when it's time? In response to one of the comments, he is making progress it seems. But I know him, and he says he is committed to staying sober but stress is a trigger for him and from counseling the other day, it still doesn't appear he can handle stress in a good way. He says he loves me and is trying and working really hard, but I only see small thievery now and then. Yesterday, he apologized for something I had brought up in counseling the week before, so that's something.

Wife refuses to do wifely duties

OK, so don't me wrong I really want to, but I don't know how it works. I am bi curious and so is the wife so it works perfectly, the husband found me online and I have become good friends with both of them. I really want to do it but again...don't know how it works. I have told them I want to be sexually active with both of them and they both love that and we all LOVE each other and our kids love each other. What would you guys do?

Then make up excuses when you so them out for coffee?

Here is my little story; I am 27, married for 4 months. I live in Hong Kong. I have 2 sisters, living with my parents abroad (my origin country) I think I have some issues, I mean disorder. I feel like I always need someone to take care of me, be on my side and support me,- love me at the end. And now that I am in a different country, my husband is working, and I am not yet, I am still looking for a job, I have no friends. no one. I used to have 2 best friends until last year, I found that they were not what I thought. I am very nice, kind person. Also my mum started working when I was 4 months baby. Also after my sisters she got back to work when they were 2 months baby. My family is rich, they were rich by that time too, so I feel like why my mother had to work ? Left us while we were babies ? We were with nannies all the time, I don't remember how many we got maybe 20? Because we (I especially) did everything to make them leave. I needed attention and loving maybe that's why. I know that my mum and dad loves me of course I am their child. But I don't feel like they care about me, just like I said about my childhood. When I got married 4 months ago, I had so many going on like invitations, and packing, buying stuff for new house picking wedding dress etc. my mum didn't care as much as I would do to my daughter - especially if she is moving abroad and getting married! What do you think my illness is? Neediness? or more? I will continue on below: We have a tradition; when you engage you give presents to your fiancé and you prepare like a big gift, we bought a luggage and put inside, that time my mother even didn't touch it, I did that with the cleaning lady, mother just come and go watch it. Now I feel like I am very dependent you know. I have no one around and no one caring. Trying to get all the love all the care from my husband- that just makes my marriage very controlling and demanding he feels like he has no space. My sisters texted me only 2-3 times in 4 months! When you ask everybody die for each other but you know I just told you the situation. So we are a disconnected family (in my view) and I can't accept it, every time I write to my sisters. and my husband says I should stop giving more. Well I am so lonely. Very sad and I know that I won't be doing this to my kids.. I am very jealous (lets say envy) when I see mothers around bought a little thing to their daughters, help them, do their ironing, (I did myself if the cleaning lady was not there) and I always have a little shock when I see that type of mothers. Its not about being housewife, I saw in US, from my very rich friends family and so. All I needed was a little bit help and loving, because I was their daughter. My sisters never asked me if I am doing OK, if everything is fine with marriage.

I have a Facebook and have very few friends about 132 they're all old co-workers and former school friends. I keep my profile private since I don't like anyone that I don't know viewing my photos. The other day my husband called me upset asking me if I've been talking or messaging one of his co-workers. I was shocked because I don't even know his co-workers. I have only met them once and that was at the employee Christmas party. Apparently the fake profile of me has my name and about the same pictures as I do in my profile. So this has to be someone on my friends list trying to jeopardize my marriage and my reputation.My husband's co-worker send him the messages and I was able to view them. They are very disgusting and says I'm willing to leave my husband and kids to go with him. I told my husband to ask his co-worker to meet up with the one running that page and they never reply. I was so angry and I set all my photos private and all my posts have been deleted. My husband has been acting strange and does not believe me :(

Hi, A weird thing happened with my husband. We were having sex and he said the 'f' word and that really pissed me off, I said I don't like these talking and then he really pissed off and said well then lets not do it at all. and stop having sex. I tried to talk to him, he ignored me and said doesn't want to talk. Also said we will not be having sex so I will not hear 'f' word any more. This is just because he was angry right? I said it is very silly thing to say well he remained angry. What do you think about this whole situation? Is it me ? And do you think he is serious by 'not having sex any more?' we are married for 4 months. Thank you

my fiance of 11 years and i fight a lot. in these fights we yell and scream and call each other names. i have hit him before like when i found out he cheated on me. for this reason he says i m the abusive one. just now he grabbed my shoulders and squeezed, saying it was only to stop me from hurting myself (doesnt explain the squeezing as hard as he could) and a sec ago he accidentally made me fall and while i was crying and yelling at him he called me a "stupid f------ing b-----h." idk what to do except maybe kill myself. who is the abuser? are we both? id never not help him after a fall but idk... sorry he called me a CRAZY f---ing b---h not stupid -.- i have considered breaking up but idk what to do without him. id have to go back to my mom's house where i was even more miserable, if you can believe it. i was 13 when we first got together and 17 when we moved in together. we're both very dependent on each other, but me more... we werent engaged for 11 years, we've been together for 11 years, and seeing as how not everyone is heterosexual or has money, you shouldnt assume that its purely choice that we havent gotten married yet. and to bonn, you dont even know how old we are. thanks for not being a d-bag for just a whole second while talking to someone who is vulnerable. oh wait.

Some times we as people seek help from the eyes of someone else. This will be very helpful to me. My husband and I have separated 2 months ago but he just left the home 1 week ago exactly today he goes out all the time and don t bother to care of what I m going trough. He s very much a machista. I love my husband and I wish we can make it work again I want to show him that we should still be a family and try to make it work but he s seems to be moving on quickly with his life. Now my questions is what would you ladies or men do I have friend inviting me out to clear my mind but where I live im destined to run into him . And I don t want problems or him think I m moving I because I don t want to but I m home always with the kids crying just thinking of ways to get home back but he just won t budge what would you do go out and try to have a good time or wait at home And hope that some day he will see that I love him still.

My wife and I have a pretty unhappy relationship. She's very high maintenance, designer purses and clothes,trips to France all summer long with our daughter, daughter has to go to the best private school, always has to stay in the best hotels wherever we travel to, rarely lets me be alone with our daughter, yells at me for petty things like not closing the cabinet door all the way. We rarely have sex, she doesn't let me get any father than a light kiss. I can deal with all that but it makes her happy and I have the money to give it to her but I need sex more than once a month and need some quality time with our daughter. I work all day long running my business and take care of my dying grandmother. I'm just curious if I'm asking for to much?

My husband's birthday is August 1st, but I love to plan ahead. We don't have children, so getting away or having a peaceful evening to ourselves will not be an issue. I already bought him tickets to see Steppenwolf in September, as well as a new leather wallet since his old one was so worn out. I have gifts covered, but I am a little lost as to what I can do for dinner. I am torn between cooking his favorite lasagna dinner for him at home or making reservations at his favorite restaurant. I also want to make it romantic for him. But we don't have a hot tub or anything and the bathtub in our house is kinda small, so we can't do anything like that at home. Any suggestions on dinner and/or the romance parts of it would be great, thanks. :-)

I don't know if I can trust him and I feel like he's trying too hard to appease me like he is a real family man when he was living with a woman for 3 years during our separation. I'm concerned that this may be front for him cheating or about to. I feel like he uses me as crutch financially and doesn't appreciate me. Please help I need advice.

Her current husband has a job and their baby is a year old. I have helped her before she was married again with school tuition for my daughter who is 12 years old now. She is not working and still asks me for help for tuition. She gets about $16,000.00 a year from her ex and me. I am not sure what her new husband makes a year, but I am sure its decent. What is the right thing to both legally and morally?

My husband will just snap and say something he knows will start an argument out of the blue. I know it is because he is angry about other things in our relationship because agter we have been arguing, he is no holds barred, bringing up every little thing he thinks I do wrong. He seems to be angry at me and just picking something trivial to take it all out on me for. I know I have days where I get an attitude with him, but he call me names, talks down to me and really hurts my feelings. He blames me for everything and gets downright abusive once I shut down and refuse to take responsibility. All attempts at rational and respectful COBVERSATION are turned down and it seems like he just wants to hurt me. He will stop at nothing and go for days. I am ALWAYS THE ONE WHO HAS TO SMOOTH THIS STUPID **** OUT and I am TIRED of it. If he will not accept responsibility, then how do I get him to at least leave me alone? Divorce is not an option..

I am about to get married and I got told by people that I can't be clingy to my wife to be. I am marrying a woman from my native country vietnam who I was introduced to by family. I have bipolar disorder and depression and I am always lonely and depressed since I have absolutely no friends at all. I am very thrilled about getting married and I got told by people that I can't cling onto her. They told me that she isn't going to like it and it is gonna drive her away. I don't understand how cling onto her can drive her away. I thought it shows that I am a loving and caring and faithful husband. Why did people tell me not to cling onto her when she's my wife ?

I'm a master at arms stationed on offut afb and my girlfriend and I decided we wanted to get married and have an actual ceremony a couple years down the road. She is coming to visit me in two weeks is there a chance while she is visiting I would be able to go to the court house and get our marriage license so that she could move in with me this time next your after she finishes up her sophomore year of college?

This wife sent a text message to the woman ber husband is having an affair with and the text said that "what she is doing is not right and she needs to stop" why do you think the wife would not say who she is and what it is that she is accusing this woman of?

Really go flirt with your spouse if ur bored. Or gets divorce. I guess they do it because they can:(

So we have a 4 yr old daughter and another baby on the way and we havery a mutual friend that we went to her little girl b day party and his ex was there with her bf we use to be really good friends but not anymore since she dated my husband back in hs after we broke up, anyway me and my husband sat down and we were like 3 ft away from each other and his ex sat right next to him closer than I was to him and she was in a kid chair since there was no others well her bf found 2 chairs for them.and asked her of she wanted to sit with him she said no I m good and continue to sit next to my husband which he didn t mind I just felt he should of git up and came by me instead of having a smirk on his face cause he felt we were wining compared to them 2 and she tried in the past to spilt us up with telling him lies. I know I have the ring and kids and I shouldn t be jealous but I just can t stop thinking about it sometimes what do u guys think am I wrong or should my husband got up or showed more love to me ?

Found an address to 2 sex shop on husbands phone, I snooped in the history of my husband's Google Maps on his phone and found the address of two sex toy shops he doesn't know and he has not brought any toys home so any suggestions on what I should do next ? He is my financial support system so I don't want to mess anything up. Obviously he's not using the sex toys with me but with somebody else

How do i show this to her? Like how much I love her! Any ideas?

To make it short m wife and I have been together for 5 years, married for 3. We moved in a two fam home with my parents and my little bro. He just turned 18 like a month or so ago. I'm not fat but do have love handles while she's the slim type. My brother is a swimmer and has a way better body than I do. He even has a legit 6 pack. Anyway I've caught my wife admiring his physique when he's downstairs with us. I caught her at least twice staring at him with a look that rubbed me the wrong way. she touches his biceps when he's not looking and he just smiles at her. Anyway I came home early but she wasn't home. I texted her if she was home and she lied saying she was resting in our bed. I automatically thought she was cheating but something told me to go back to the car and text her that I was on my way home so I did. That's when I saw her coming from out from the upstairs entrance and heading into our home. I was shocked. I texted my bro and asked if he was home alone and said yes. He was studying for his summer class. I asked him if my wife was there and he said no. I know that they are both lying. She was pretending she was home all day when I entered the home again. Is it possible they are hooking up or am I feeding too much thought into this?

I met a great guy who is kind and nice and I don't know that I like him. He is so affectionate and it kind of turns me off. He is just so touchy feely! Anyways I don't know if it is because I might not be attracted to him? He has weird teeth which kind of bothers me and he isn't like buff, he is kind of thin but fat too but he works out a lot. He just isn't what I envisioned a military man to be. I feel like I want to like him so much because he likes me. He told me he loved me and it has been like 4 days that we spent together and it just feels rushed and I am freaking out! I don't know if I like him and I should because he is a good guy and likes me and isn't using me and wants marriage and babies!! What do I do??

My husbands company is transferring him in December. He has the option to transfer or not. He has to let them know by October 1st if he's going to accept the offer! He wants to wait until the END of September to go look at & price homes! He said if the market is too high, we won't move. To me this is INSANE to wait until the end of September to decide if we are going to sell our home/move by December to a new city/state & is nowhere NEAR enough time!!! Any advice? Is he out of his mind? We should be looking NOW not end of September

If your married and have cyber sex with a guy on the computer is that considered cheating?Also why do people do this when they are married

My wife wants me to take care of our son the instant I get home from work (oh first I have to buy us dinner) till I go to bed and all weekend except for a couple hrs when I surf. Ok he get's up at 8 am and I get home from work at 3 pm by the way so why the **** is her time watching him horrible and SAHM miserable but mine is not? So wait because she watches him 7 hrs in the day I should then work 10 hrs and then watch him 6 hrs and she should be off for 6 hrs? You women are ******* classic.

I am white male and my wife is poor minority why am I the default breadwinner?

So I used to think having a partner will add to your happiness. It is like icing on the cake rather than a pain in the butt. I am pretty happy by myself but I do feel like I want to love my partner & want his love back. But people tell me that "no one can make you happy" well it is true but shouldn't I be happier if I have a partner who gives me love back? No matter how much I do for my husband, whom I really love, he never gives me any affection or love. He always puts me down for no reason and always avoids any sort of intimacy. I have people telling me, it is ok. As if I should never want love. My husband accepts me the way I am but treats me as if I am just his roomate. No give, no take. Even when I show love to him, he gets irritated. But I read here people saying there partner completes them, bring happiness to their lives and all that. People in my life tell me, I should be tough and it is ok that my partner treats me this way. That I accept him the way he is. I am so confused. I have started to believe there is no love for another person. I should really live single for the rest of my life.

B/c I have no qualifications & I'm afraid to be a single mom (I'm pregnant). Idk about the child support system; would it be enough for our child, and how about me (I don't want our child to have less of everything b/c I must use parts of the support for my own needs)? If I work, who'll take care of the baby? My dad and step mom said they wouldn't. I get married to him b/c of the pregnancy. He wasn't sure but I insisted. I thought it was the best for us (he graduated from university, has a job & his own place, & I wanted to be a good wife and mom). Now he says I set him up and he feels confined. He slaps me often, even when his younger brother stayed at our place. It was the first time I saw anyone from his family, so it was painful. My BIL said nothing at that time, but when I saw him off at the airport he said he'd help if needed. I didn't ask for help b/c what a mess it would be. I'm in my last stage of pregnancy & recently my husband hit me quite bad. I called my BIL out of desperation, cried, & he told me to come to his place (in another state), & we'll figure sth. out after I give birth. He said I needn't tell my husband anything except that I go to my parents' place (he wouldn't check anyway). My BIL was nice to me during his whole stay at our place, but I'm afraid of the repercussion. I don't have many friends; the few I have can't take me in. One said BIL only wants to take advantage of me (what advantage? I feel worthless & he can do much better). What should I do?

or can any of you actually remember the first time you kissed your now spouse?

I know 2 ppl. He is military & still married, but separated. She is civilian and married, but separated. They have miscarried one child already. If he is to get her pregnant, can he still get in trouble even though he is getting out soon? This does not pertain to me, but I know them and she does not seem to wanna listen to me. Thanks in advance.

take for instance tonight I was trying to get him to tell me what flavor of pizza he wanted because he told me he wanted pizza instead of what I cooked. he was joking around so much about it that I really didn't think it was funny. I would say something like"what do you want on your pizza tell me so I can order it."and he would start by interrupting me and listing off a bunch of oddities for the pizza. after about 4 minutes I started getting irritated and said"ok that's funny can you just say what you want?" and he still wouldn't so I turned to his son and said"can you tell me what flavor of pizza you want tonight?"and his dad started being louder I geus convinced it was funny and I finally just snapped and said"oh my god john its not funny just tell me what you want to eat tonight the place is closing in like 5 minutes ?!" I was definitely irritated but I thought he realized that from the start and that was what he thought was funny. anyway after I finally placed the order for the food they wanted he took me in the other room to let me know how upset he was about me snapping at him. and along with the chewing out I got I also was threatened with divorce. am I missing something? should I be saving up my money getting ready to be kicked to the curb? because it seemed like a minor argument to me but he took it hard I gues? its not the first time its happened. we have been married for 6 years and these past two years he has started to threaten divorce during minor arguments. I don't want to leave my husband but should I be preparing to be kicked to the curb. I have a two year old daughter so I don't know. is this something guys do before they divorce there wife? threaten it during minor arguments? lately I have felt like every time I have even a small minor upset or irritated moment toward him he threatens to divorce me but we don't fight that often.could it be his stress at work?i need a guys perspective and advice on this.i want to keep my family together I also want to make a note that I wasn't upset about dinner. this is kinda a common occurance the fast food places are tasty and they get home late. I never realy feel offended when people don't like my food.i only got irritated when he kept messing with me.

I love cooking for my husband so other than Breakfast, Lunch and Dinner. I like to make brunch, snacks or supper for him. Sometimes I would cook brunch or make some snacks and supper 2 hours after our daily meal for him while he works in his office at home. However recently my husband randomly just comment that I have been feeding him a lot. I don't know its a negative or positive comment. Please help me. My husband is still very healthy and have a BMI of 22.1. He plays basketball, swim and run many times a week. He rarely gain weight and has a high metabolic rate.

I need help right now. My head is spinning. I'm 32 and she is 29. We have no kids and don't go anywhere. Barely talk. She said for months that she had nothing to talk about. I thought it was just the way she was being Chinese. We used to argue a lot until I gave up pushing her to talk and let her stay on her phone all evening. Then I did some prying through her phone. I found out that one of her young clients is a guy studying at uni. They started out with a common interest in property and he introduced her to a client. But then things changed. I discovered hours of chat and meetings for lunches and dinners. She bought him a gift of a belt and iPad. Recently things apparently have gotten more regular where they have been meeting at least once a week. He even brought food to her company and commented to her that he would make a good husband. So all those lonely months I spent working and studying while she was eating and talking to him. It has broken my heart and really damaged me this time. I stupidly believed that she was working and doing the right thing while I was at work. She brought his food home and ate it in front of me. I feel stuck. I'm seeing a lawyer. I always tried to work hard on our relationship...I feel used and abused. And like this time we really are over. She came to lie on my chest and tell me not to worry so much because I daid that another man seems to able to take care of her better than me. She couldn't believe that. But it makes sense for her funny behaviour, laughing at home etc. She tried to kiss my neck too. How am I supposed to deal with it? But I think the verbal abuse and going out with the other guy has hurt me the most. Because that's what we had in the beginning and we never go anywhere or connect.

Inquiring about the age difference.

When a guy doesn't think you are the one for him, keeps his options open, but doesn't let you go and even when you say it's over, he still keeps calling and showing up at your house.

I don't want to be married anymore, but I don't want to leave my husband because I don't want him to be lonely. I also don't know who will cook for him and make sure he has everything he needs. He's used to me making his meals and doing the household chores. I also still care for him as a person, and want to be able to check in with him and see how he is doing, but I know that will probably be overstepping my boundaries. He says that he doesn't want to be my friend outside of our marriage. I'm not used to putting myself first, so I feel like i am abandoning him. I know me moving out will tear him apart. Nothing is set in stone, but I do plan on moving out in the next several months. I feel very bad for wanting to move out. Any suggestions for how to deal with these feelings of guilt?

I was told by police to get restraining order on husband cause he is physically/emotionally abusive and I have pics and proof of everything. So I got temporary restraining order and we went to court yesterday. Well when I got there our name wasn't on there, so I asked clerk and she said it got moved to August. They said I should of got a letter, nope npr did lawyers cause they didn't know either. Well then found out it got moved to family court cause husband filed for divorce last week. I asked court about restraining order and it still is in effect till. Court date. I'm just worried why they moved it and. An he get out of it? Is this good thing or bad thing for me? I have set up several appt for consultations with attornys to talk to, but just needing some piece of mind.

I got married two years ago and when my husband and I got married we agreed on not having any children. I already have a daughter that's 13 and he has two children from his first wife but he hardly gets to see them because his ex wife is a selfish you know what. But lately I've been wanting to have another child though especially with my other child already growing up and not needing me like she used to and we can afford it. Plus I've always wanted other kids but since he said he didn't want anymore I just didn't say anything. But how can I tell him and convince him that we should have a child together?

My husband and I get along really good except for one thing that's really been bothering me. He doesn't like me giving him bjs. I have given him two bjs in 3 years that we've known each other. One of those bjs was while he was sleeping !! He doesn't have hangups about his penis ( he is well endowed) I don't bite it or anything like that, I do say I give good bjs if he'd ever let me ! Last night I started giving him a bj while he was sleeping and he loved it, was moaning, groaning and holding my head in his hands. then he wakes up and it's all over, he takes me picks me up and deposits me beside him. Tells me not to do that again. This morning I had to bring up the subject because I feel like I raped him almost, I mean, what's so wrong with me wanting to give him a bj ? He finally said that he thinks it's sleazy dirty something a prostitute would do and he just doesn't feel comfortable with it. He did say he got bjs from his ex, so this bothered me even more. How can I make him be ok with 0ral s3x ? He loves going down on me, so I thought if I refused him that until he let ME do it to him,then he'd let me finally give him a bj, but instead he ended up pushing my legs apart and eating me out while I was furious about it. Any ideas on how to ease into giving him a bj ? This is part of sex and I feel cheated. @ Sunrise, he did let her give him bjs, I was able to get that information out of him, but he won't let me do it, that's like rejecting me I feel.

6 years ago I was diagnosed with low testosterone. If you aren't aware this makes men feel dead. There's overwhelming sleepiness (like, sleep now or die), lowers sex drive tremendously & contributes to ED. My wife & I discuss frequently how this affects her, i.e. I don't want sex enough which makes her feel undesirable, when we have sex I might not get fully charged so to speak. It's humiliating & I've felt awful for 6 yrs. Some treatments work for a limited time so we have an amazing time when I'm treated properly. But waiting on insurance to approve things is a nightmare. She found someone online 1,000 miles away in the same situation. It was safe to her because neither wanted to leave their spouse. They chatted online for 3 years behind my back. She met him on a weekend disguised as a girls trip. I found out & we began trying to fix what's wrong in our relationshpip that led to this. I'm doing a lot of things different as is she, but she still chats with him. she doesn't want to lose this part of her because she doesn't know that once we work through this, if I'll be able to show her that I want her (which goes back to the testosterone thing & low sexual confidence because I never know how my body is going to react) -- should I pressure her to end the friendship with him? And would most people leave their spouse over this? Would most understand why she did it? Obviously I don't want to share all details with friends so some anonymous objective advise would be great.

My parents have recently divorced and live in separate houses and I'm completely fine with that, my issue is I'm losing all my stuff. I use a lot if expensive hair and body stuff so I can't afford to lose them but going from house to house is making all my things disappear, what should I do? My things are to expensive to get two of each so that's out the question. I was called shallow and criticized for this question above. Why? I have job. I pay for my membership at a fitness center, I pay half of my Car note and a little of the insurance, I can't afford to be losing products I was just looking for suggestions to help keep me better organized or anything of that nature.

My parents used to be a very loving couple. I started out in a happy home with parents that kissed and hugged. When I started high school I noticed a slight change in the way they acted around each other. I figured they were just arguing because although a loving couple they still argued. This wasn't like any argument I'd been used too months past of limited talking and distance between them. Soon it got to the point where I would come home from school and walk in to a screaming fight. Afterwards my mom would always end up crying on the couch. It's been like that for 2 years now. A week ago things started getting weird again, but a good weird. My dad sat down at the table and held my mom's hand. It's been like touch and go since then till today. I was watching TV and in the kitchen I heard my dad say "I love you Jennifer" she didn't say anything back but maybe it's a step in the right direction? I don't want to get happy just to have everything return back to the way it was. I don't know what made them this way but it obviously takes a lot of fixing. They've been married 25 years it breaks me to see them not care. Help?

My wife's motto to life is "Everything in moderation". She will binge watch a show, then feel guilty and do a lot of family time, then feel bored and binge play a video game, then feel guilty and buy the kids clothes, then feel frugal and do cheap crafts, then she'll feel neglected and get her hair done, then she'll feel judged so she'll avoid people and play a game on her phone, then she'll feel depressed and have sex with me, then she'll feel dirty and eat Taco Bell, then she'll feel fat and eat healthy, then she'll feel overworked and eat freezer meals... There's just a bunch of "bouncing around". She's driven almost purely on dopamine and her next "high". For me, I'm steadily trying to improve relationships in my household. I've put trying to improve my marriage on hold because our entire relationship flows based on her mood, and without her cooperation to put her "feelings" aside for the sake of the marriage, there's not a lot I can do except wait for my number to be called in the attention queue... So instead I'm trying to improve my relationship with my daughter and my son; and I'm trying to improve my kids' relationships with others. It's been fun but sometimes my wife's "moderation" gets in the way of my efforts... So in the case of my wife's inability to stay focused to a single task, what would you do in my shoes? She's been the center of my life, but now I'm just feeling like this mood disorder shouldn't be accommodated. What's your thoughts? Oh, I have to add. A lot of her bouncing is triggered by something. Something will tempt her and she impulsively moves to the next thing. She's in the middle of writing a Novel from last year's novel month challenge and her best friend (our Nanny) will show her something and distract her away from it... She has hopes of one day quitting her job, but to do that she'd have to be a success on this book of hers. She's motivated, until something more "fun" comes along - hence dopamine addiction. I have been gone for 2 months and I would be gone longer but I want to make sure that I'm trying everything I can. If you have nothing that *I* can do to improve this situation then I will continue ignoring her and focusing on the kids. It's worked for 2 months, so there's no reason it can't keep working, I just don't see how this is a "functional marriage" other than it is "functioning to NOT function"....

i talked to my husband about us only having sex twice a month and then the next day he says lets do it , would you have done it ? I didn't because I felt like he just wanted to do it to make me stop talking about it for a while , I want to do it when it means something

My fiancé right now is in tech school until December. I'm planning to go there from Maryland and get married. I've been searching in the Internet about how to get married in other states but I still don't understand. Can someone explain me please. Thank you so much. Shes right now in Missisipi and we are lesbian couple. Please don't judge

Hi, I have a child with a girl & we live together. Both our names are on the lease. We fight physically & verbally day in and day out. It's not healthy for the child to witness such things. I want to take her name off the lease. We can't live together & I don't know how to make her leave. She has no income & I have been paying the bills since we moved in. Please help.

My fiance's last name is Trash. I'm keeping Wilkins. Ryde On, why are you internalizing everything? I can't thumbs down you 4 times so no need to point the finger at me