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| Question: How to support my husband during a tough time? Posted: 30 Apr 2019 11:00 PM PDT I posted a similar question recently, but will post again with more details because I am open to more answers. My husband seems to be going through a tough time. He was a very heavy smoker but a month ago he quit smoking cold turkey due to the respiratory problems he began to develop... Then he began a new job shortly after he quite smoking but had lots of problems there so he quit that job, too. Now he is without work and rent is approaching. He has been irritable with me, I am walking on eggshells because every little thing I do irritates him and he wants a divorce. When I'm in a different room he will send me endless messages nagging me and wanting divorce.. Sometimes he tells me I make him want to kill himself. That he has seriously considered it. This is tearing me up inside. He has been talking about divorce and suicide shortly before he quit smoking cold turkey, so I'm not sure what to think. I suppose if I make him so miserable then it is better for his well-being that we separate? Still, I'm devastated and I'm just not sure how to handle this? |
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| Posted: 30 Apr 2019 06:46 PM PDT They go to lunch and text each other all the time... he has inside jokes with her and they even have nicknames for one another... I've seen the texts and there isn't anything improper about them but I feel like their relationship is too close for comfort... recently he compared her to me and it really upset me. Am I overreacting? |
| Question: Why wait so long to get married? Posted: 30 Apr 2019 05:48 PM PDT Someone told me they were going to get married in 3 or more years. So why are YOU engaged then? I couldn't wait that long to be married. I know it's my opinion. |
| Question: Hi I have a big problem,? Posted: 30 Apr 2019 02:38 PM PDT So I had a child almost 3 years ago. And I married this guy and he basically doesn't really want to live as a family with me and my child. The child currently lives with him and his family but I am alone living with my mom.This is kind of a problem for me because me and my mom we fight all the time because of this. I am upset because I can not have a normal family after marriage. During the marriage I was struggling to keep this marriage going because we had our own issues. My husband and his family decided to kick me out of their home because I accidentally broke my husband's TV and My husband and his family blamed me and said that I'm not responsible and kicked me out of their house. My husband was fine with it. I have been living with my mom ever since then. It has been 4 months and I don't know what to do. Because me and my mom fight and I can't go back to my husband because my husband and his family doesn't really want me in the house. My husband and my mom and his family doesn't really seem to help in this situation. I also want to file a divorce with him but he's willing to divorce me but I want to move on with different life. But, I don't really know what my first step to take is. Because my husband he believes that I should give up my whole life for him but he's unwilling to provide any plans. My financial situation is not that great at all. but my husband refuses to work together as a family to raise our child on our own . With my husband being married to me, I feel like that I can't really move on with my life. What should I do ? I still want to be involved in my child's life. I meant *unwilling |
| Question: What do you think of this man who is always talking about his wife? Posted: 30 Apr 2019 12:53 PM PDT I know a man where I work who looks for ways to inject his wife into every conversation. To me, it just seems like a fixation. They have been married for over 30 years so its not like he is a newlywed. Even his bio on the company website includes his wife and her accomplishments. His last two words are 'our marriage'. There are over 25 people and his is the only bio that mentions a spouse. What do you think of this? |
| Question: Has anyone had kids with their ex’s family member? Posted: 30 Apr 2019 12:39 PM PDT My wife and I split up 3 years ago. She's generally a good mom but was a horrible partner to me. She was very verbally abusive and ran into trouble with the law on numerous occasions. She drained our bank account multiple times and ran up a ton of debt. My point is that us splitting up was understandable to most people we were close to. About a year after we split up, my ex's cousin and I reconnected (we had dated briefly about 4 years before my wife and I got married). We realized we still had feelings for each other and are due to be married in July. Most people have been happy for us but there have been a few (mainly my ex and her parents/brother) who have been pretty nasty to us. We recently found out that despite taking precautions, my fiancée is pregnant. This new baby will be my kids' sibling and cousin, and we are really struggling with how to handle it. |
| Question: Can a marriage survive? Posted: 30 Apr 2019 12:12 PM PDT if both of you aren't interested in anything the other person is into or offered? It's a tug of war. It's like what we offer to each other isn't acceptable by the other person. I can't explain it but we don't want to listen to each other. We'll end up arguing all night. When ever we offer each other love or help. It's always not what the other person wants. Our love style is so different from each other. I'm lovey dovey and very sensitive. His way of showing love is through tough love. It's not easy being in a relationship with a cold brick wall. We both fought hard in the beginning to make this work but now we're burned up. It's exhausting trying to please one another especially when the feeling isn't being appreciated or returned. Now that when ever we do something nice for each other, it just seems like we're doing too much. This year seems tougher than all the other years. Like we both just don't give a damn about each other anymore.... |
| Question: Okay, what would you do? Posted: 30 Apr 2019 12:09 PM PDT My husband forgot my birthday in february. I was hurt. He never appologized or made it up to me. He just argued with me for being upset about it. A few days after my birthday, we went to dinner with friends. Our friends brought me a gift and carried on like we were all celebrating my birthday from earlier that week. It came time to pay the bill. (generally, my husband and I take turns picking up the check). The waiter handed the check to my husband. He looked at me and said "it's your turn isn't it"? The other husband at the table said to my husband "but this is her birthday dinner" my husband replied (snodly) "it's not her birthday" and slid the check to me. I paid the bill, but boy was I pissed. Now, his birthday is coming up this weekend. What the hell do I do?? should I just ignore it and say nothing, go all out with a banner, ballons, and cake,and gift, or just leave a card on the table and say a quick stale "happy birthday" and leave it at that? I am really bothered by this and need some advice. |
| Posted: 30 Apr 2019 09:27 AM PDT I am in confusion. Husband calls me bad words, calls me zero, bangs food and things and breaks them on the floor at least once in a month in front of our kid. And that's a very bad environment. Then comes the part of physical need of his, now obviously iF he is angry at me every other day inside house or outside in front of people and is dominating me over simple things and demands answers without delay to his questions and eats my brain over giving our kid only healthy food which he for himself would not eat, I say no to coming close to him - he gets angry to that as well, shouts and then I surrender in 30 minutes and I agree and let him touch me. He says I should relax and I will like it. He does whatever he wants to and I let him to and somewhere I start liking it to. So now i wonder what am I into? I am sticking due to my lack of job and lack of financial security. What I do. Do i need some counseling somewhere. What do I do? |
| Question: Should I get a divorce? Posted: 30 Apr 2019 07:56 AM PDT It's raining outside and my husband just whipped out an UMBRELLA. Who even uses an umbrella? It's windy too so it's just... he's just getting blown around by the wind. This isn't the kind of person I want to be with. I'm having second thoughts about our marriage. Also, I'm pregnant so would that be bad? Should I do it?? |
| Question: How do ya live with a husband who constantly belittles you, yet is a hard working man? Posted: 30 Apr 2019 07:14 AM PDT So he's a hard working man, works 2 jobs so I can be a stay at home mom of 3, homeschooling our kids. He was fine with this choice before we had kids. He belittles me, mocks me in front of the kids. Laughs when they poke at me, never says to stop. He plays video games for ALL of his free time, days off too. Spends 0 time with kids or I, no affection to either. He's lost control numerous times and scared us (yelling and throwing stuff). He takes care of all the big maintenance of the house like lawn, electric, plumbing etc. I do everything else. He seems like old school, but still had been wanting me to get a job so I can pay for my own medical bills cuz he's tired of them. Has no empathy/sympathy whatsoever. Wants sex, but gives me no attention. Constantly belittles my existence/criticizes/complains. Has hurt me once years ago, tipped a chair over with me in it cuz u didn't get up when he wanted me to. Never apologized, still thinks I was wrong.... Any advice? |
| Posted: 30 Apr 2019 12:51 AM PDT My huaband and I have been married for 2 years. At the beginning of our marriage, my brother in law was on hard times and stayed with us for about 4 months. It wore on our relationship because my brother in law would sit around all day everyday, never helped around the house, contributed towards food or anything. We went on vacation for 5 days and he was here to take care of the house and our animals and when we got home nothing was done. The house was a complete mess, etc. Eventually he moves out however after 6 mos of him leaving, hes back living with us again. My husband gives him everything like he feels he owes him something but if anything, he owes us! I am sick and tired of being a maid basically and feeling of being taken advantage of. I understand he is family and i want to help him but he doesn't even clean his own mess and is doing nothing to change his situation. My husband will mention 'you should look into income based housing' or will find apartments or rooms for rent to which my bro in law goes 'yeah yeah ill look into that' My husband and I are working on issues of our own which is impossible with his needy brother. Im feeling pissed and annoyed so AITA? |
| Question: What’s wrong with my mother-in-law? Posted: 29 Apr 2019 09:37 PM PDT We are in our late twenties and his mom treats us like we are kids! She has a very sweet side but says things that are harsh. It's confusing. Some examples: I grew up with a not-so-good mother and my father eventually got custody . She said it's not a good idea if we have kids because I might be the kind of mother that my mom was :( - which would not be the case! My niece and I have a wonderful relationship. She gets jealous and makes comments (she's the grandma) I try as much as possible to give them alone time! She makes comments about how we are just like kids and how are we able to take care of ourselves (mind you- I lived alone for 3 years in college and managed all my bills by myself and she knows this!) this is my husband's first time living out of the house . Good example is this- she once asked me the skills I need to know for my job and what programs/softwares I use. I told her and she mocked me! I said "what's wrong?" And she said "well you're just so qualified and love your job, why can't I have that?" She makes fun of us that we want to get a dog. Very funny because I trained my Labrador by myself when I was 12 and also have had a second family dog growing up and also trained him (my dad's deal was if he got my brother and I a dog that we had to train him). Both successfully trained dogs. Good boys :) How do I handle this? My husband and I have had talks but it's getting out of control... |
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