Most of the time, she calls when we're eating and my husband almost always takes her calls. She always wants to know everything we're doing and where we go, and is real invasive into our personal lives. She is elderly and lives alone, so I'm sure she just wants attention, but she gets on my nerves. Am I wrong to feel this way towards her?

I am a 25 year old single guy with a 15 year old niece Jill, my sister's daughter. Jill often comes to my house for help with her homework. If we finish her homework late she spends the night a my house and I take her to school the next morning. She told me she was a nervous wreck from her mom and dad fighting all the time and they were getting a divorce. She wanted to stay with me until the divorce was final. I told her that was OK with me but she needed her parents OK which I thought would not happen. However her parents thought it was best for her not to see them fighting all the time and agreed she could stay with me until there divorce was final. I was very surprised by their decision but I think they were thinking of what their fighting was doing to Jill. Jill moved in with me and has been living with me for 2 months. She is a very nice person and is no longer depressed. We have had a lot of fun time together going to school events and sporting events. Jill ask me if I would adopt her so she could stay with me permanently. I told her that I doubt if her parents would let that happen. I don't know if you can adopt someone that has living parents. Does anyone know if that can be done? Would a better solution be to just let her live with me as long as her parents are OK with it?

I met my husband while in college but he is from Scotland. We dated for 2 years in college before we got engaged. Now we have been married 13 years and we have 1 son and twin girls. About a week before Christmas his mom called from Scotland and he suddenly moved the conversation in the bedroom. He comes out and he didn't say anything then but he looked extremely worried. He did not act right all through the holidays and then on Jan 2nd he sat down and told me that a women is claiming that he is the father of her 13 year old son. He admitted to sleeping with her a few times while he was on holiday in scotland to visit his family and I stayed here. I wanted to scream and hate him but I know him and I know he loves our family. I told him I needed some time to think about it. We got the results of the DNA test yesterday and he confirmed he was his. I love my husband but I am having a hard time handling this situation. Like I Said I want to hate him but I love him. He was 21 at the time. I don't want to divorce him but I am not sure how to cope. He promised me and I know he wasnt lying that he never did it again. It was a moment of weakness at a young age. Any advice? If this was your situation how would you handle it? Before anyone asks my kids were not told yet. We are waiting to see how we are suppose to handle my husbands sudden 13 year old son. @Tavy where does it say I am punishing him. II found out this last month. Is a better reaction, "Oh well, things happen, I guess I should just get over it now?" We were not married but we were engaged. I have no intention of punishing him for the rest of his life but I am allowed to have some time to cope. @NoName No when he goes to Scotland to visit family I go with him and we bring our kids....Not sure were you read that. This happened over 13 years ago when we were engaged, no married.

this happens all the time. yesterday he picked me up from my act prep place, and he wore a pair of denim short shorts with the words "good ****" written on the back of them.

I turn 18 in two months and I've been looking forward to this day ever since I was around 8 or 9. I have a terrible relationship with my dad, who's a narcissist. I'm getting help from the local authorities to move out as soon as possible after I turn 18, because they understand how badly the relationship with my dad affects me mentally. I don't want to see him on my birthday, because I know he will only ruin my day, and the day means so so much to me. But both of my parents live together, so I don't really see how it will be possible. I have a really good relationship with my mom, and she understands how I feel and how it would be better for me to move out and cut contact to him. Do any of you have any ideas on how I can avoid to see my dad on my 18th birthday? I don't mean it in any criminal way at all, I just want him to be out of the house or something! If we tell him to leave or we go somewhere without him, he will turn extremely angry, even though he hates me (probably the narcissism).

She has been a victim of rape at childhood and as an adult by relatives and has not came forward with authorities. She's very vulnerable, sad and has the need to drink excessively. she has tried to come forward in regards to those past sexual assaults from other relatives and her parents have kicked her out and accuse her of being a pathological liar. She's in her mid 20's and has a 2 year son from previous relationship.

My son wants to go out and play in the snow I'm afraid to let him I read where a girl not much older than him went out to play in the snow by herself a few hours later she died because a tree branch fell on her. We live in the woods surrounded by trees I've always been afraid to let him go out by himself he's 4 she was about 6 maybe 7 it's been so long I don't remember. Since hearing about that I been afraid of letting my kid going out in the snow especially by himself. Especially if it's snowing really hard we have big snow and branches fall all the time it's not too bad today but it still makes me nervous his dad said it would be ok. Is it safe for him to go outside in the snow by himself ?

They won't let me walk. They make me crawl around everywhere we go. They say my other alternatives are being on a stroller or being in a wheelchair

Yesterday night we were at a church service, and my dad was drinking beer. At one point, he took off all his clothes, propped his legs up on the seat in front of him, and farted non-stop. When he had to use the bathroom, he peed in the beer bottle, pooped in the aisles, wiped with a hymn book, and then rolled around naked in the aisle, saying "gha gah gay gay poo poo"! All the kids and teens roared in laughter like a pack of wild hyenas, while the adults were so horrified they were shaking in anger and shock.

I have a field trip next Saturday (1/19), and he told my AP Art History teacher that he's going to be one of the chaperones. Well, I've got no problem with that. However, he wears short shorts all the time, and we're going to a museum in downtown. Everyone will laugh at him. This has happened many times in the past 6 months, and I've been badly mortified. None of the other parent chaperones will be dressed in short shorts, so nor should my dad. Please help!

He's 16, I'm 18, in college but live at home because dorms are expensive and that. I've shared a room all my life with him and it sucks. No privacy, he'll open the door without knocking because it's his room too, and it's really annoying when I'm changing because there's no privacy there either. He'll bring other high school boys in while I want to chill on my own, he snores, he plays loud music, and it's just really annoying. Any ideas on how to cope? It's driving me mad. Thanks.

this is so embarrassing. last time we were at taco bell, he was wearing short shorts. everybody saw that, and pointed fingers, laughed at him, and took pictures of him. i need him to stop! how do i politely ask him to donate his short shorts and buy longer, more appropriate shorts and pants?

My brother is so aggravating he's 16 and doesn't want to go to school. he constantly argues with my parents calls them the b word says the f word multiple times and the last time got in my moms face. He has been diagnosed with bipolar. Before that they thought he was depressed and a whole bunch of other stuff. I'm not gonna lie he doesn't talk to us and does act weird compared to us and I feel like it's my parents fault to be honest. Every time I pick up for them and fights him physically because he disrespected my parents they blame me afterwards! He even pulled a knife on my bf and when my bf was about to swing on him with a bat my mom blamed us? Although we were protecting her! Honestly at this point I'm done with my parents and him they could deal with him. My mom literally went to court Over him not showing up at school and went through lawyers and everything to get him into a school that'll help him and he still doesn't go! Even when the school provides transportation for him ( literally comes to our door) like I stated before I am done with them but I'm starting to feel bad. Was I in the wrong for fighting him all those times?

My wife recently informed me that her father told her that I am too uptight when I visit him and he doesn't like it. He said he wants me to be more relaxed when I visit. When we visit him, there are some people there I do not like and the visit are never ending and chaotic. Also, we have a couple of young children and I am frightened that they are going to break something valuable and I would hate more than anything for that to happen. I follow my kids around stressed and scared out of my mind that they will break something and cause a problem. My father in law tells me not to worry about them breaking things because nothing is too valuable. My attitude is that is what everyone says until something gets broken and then all bets are off. Is there a solution to this issue?

I know mothers do have the right to care for you and to give u their honest opinions but when it comes to spending money which I earn from my own pocket she criticizes me for it but on the other hand her brothers took a loan from my father before he past away basically they stolen my fathers money and my mom always take their side and she knows the truth ,, I feel like if she had to chose between me or her brothers she will chose them over me I'm feeling so sad please advice me

I have family that lives in another state, it's 1,400 miles one way. It's been years since we've seen each other, so my mom, sister, myself, and my fiancee are planning a road trip to go see them. We're taking my compact sedan. My fiancee and I have a 2yr old and a 1yr old. If we take them, we won't have any time to actually visit with anyone, doing touristy stuff is out of the question, and the drive will be terrible. We've arranged a babysitter for the time of the trip, so my family is mad. They're saying if I don't bring the kids, I'm being selfish and there's no point in going. Am I in the wrong??

i'm 17, and my brother is 14. my parents track and check everything. it turns out it was a tracker to monitor how much water is used, how long the water is on, and the average water temperature for each 20 sec interval. then i found a similar thing on my bed. it tracks how many hours i sleep, how many times i get out of bed, and how many times i toss and turn at night. they also put cameras in every single room (except 2 bathrooms), track the odometer of the car. once every 2 weeks, they check our devices and history, bank accounts, backpacks and bags, drawers, trash, and even our bedsheets, to see if we fap at night. they also check the toilets before we flush to see if we were secretly fapping, using tampons, or doing drugs. how do i hide a metal safe from my parents. im not hiding any drugs or stuff, just need to stop them from looking into my backpack, laptop, phone, and prevent them from seeing my used pads. for saint peter's sake, my dad even digs around the whole backyard once a month to see if we were burying anything we aren't allowed to have or growing drugs. from my job at publix over the past few months, i accumulated enough money to buy a safe. they will shoot me if i have a safe, so how should i hide it?

My older sister has an eating disorder and has for years. I am sympathetic about that, always have been. But since I moved back home (she is older, in her 30s, and has no intentions of moving out, she has said this with no shame) she makes it extremely uncomfortable to eat. When I go in the kitchen to make food, she comes out and just watches me. I usually don't know she's there right away. She's just at the top of the stairs..watching..and a few times, she's had her phone pointed at me like she's recording. It upsets me and creeps me out, so I leave the room and wait to eat. I usually don't eat until the middle of the night now. Tonight I caught her just looking at my food in the fridge, which made me really nervous. She has done some shady things, so I keep thinking she could put something in my food. She's basically just always watching me. She doesn't have a job so she's always around, and I work from home. She's up all night and sleeps with her door open, where she has full view of the kitchen and common areas. How do I handle this? I'm financially stranded so I can't move back out yet. If I confront her, she'll deny it. Any suggestions? How can I confront her without really confronting her? I've tried to ignore it for months. Thank you! sorry this is a long one

I'm 16(girl), my sister is 14 and we've shared a room since she was born. I guess it brought us closer together when we were younger but it doesn't anymore. In the past people have thought it was weird that I share a room and I'm scared to have friends over because they might think it's weird. I wake up early at 5 in the morning to get to school, before she wakes up, and i have to stumble around in the dark. She gets mad if I wake her up which is understandable but there's nothing I can do. Due to extracurriculars i don't get home until 7, leaving me with no place to do my homework since my parents are talking in the living room and dining room loudly and my sister is singing in my room. I normally go up to my parents room until they go to bed (at 8 or 9) keep in mind I'm a junior in advanced classes with 4 hrs of hw. they kick me out of their room and I have to move all over the house. Changing is embarrassing in my own room because I have no privacy...I end up changing in the bathroom, but I wish i had a space to call my own. I have nowhere to go for peace and quiet or when I'm upset with someone in my family and I need space to myself there's nothing I can do. I'm an introvert and I'm surrounded by people all the time. I have no place to be by myself. I can be alone in another room in the house, but i always get kicked out because its not mine. there's a possibility to free up a room for me but my parents think its spoiled to want my own room. Am i being bratty?

out? What should I do?

His mom finally had it w him and he gets to work in the heat instead of vacation :)

I know mothers do have the right to care for you and to give u their honest opinions but when it comes to spending money which I earn from my own pocket she criticizes me for it but on the other hand her brothers took a loan from my father before he past away basically they stolen my fathers money and my mom always take their side and she knows the truth ,, I feel like if she had to chose between me or her brothers she will chose them over me I'm feeling so sad please advice me

Back story: A daughter got a job in the city in which the mother resides. The mother agreed to let the daughter stay for 5 months. The daughter pays $400 a month in rent. The complex they reside in does not allow parking on the premises unless you have a parking permit. The complex allows you to safelist your vehicle however you're only provided 20(days) in a 12 month period. You can not receive a parking permit unless you are on the lease. The daughter is not on the lease. The daughter exceeded the amount of usable safelist and her car got towed. The mother has a disabled plaque which permits parking on the premises The mother is not disabled and solely uses the plaque for parking convenience. The daughter is asking to use the disabled plaque at night so she won't get towed The daughter is currently parking off the premises and walking a mile home after work There are 2 other children in the home (minors) The daughter works full time The mother and father work full time Who is right? Who is wrong? Should the mother give over the plaque? Should the daughter suck it up and just walk home? Is the mother being harsh? Is the daughter being entitled? Listen to the audio here: clyp.it/user/p4jdlhij (You might have to sign up to listen, please do as I need help understanding this situation)

She never pays me back.

First of all, my mom had me when she had an affair with my dad who was a married man with kids. From that right there, she didn't instill some good sense into me. She never taught me how to cook, never taught her how to ride a bike. I never had to wash a single spoon, a single blouse, never had to clean my room, never made my own bed. I never had a boyfriend, or went out with friends. She never worked for 19 years and used up all my child support support my dad gave to. her.

Thanks Domald Trump. now i can just sit in bed all day and eat gummies. I will just lie in bed and watch videos of my grandma stripping thanks.

My Dad is the prophet, messiah, and master of all the Universe. Those who follow his teachings are my brothers and those who do not are my enemies. When my Dad's body dies he says I will inherit his prophecies. I am to be the commander of the universe from there. I am 19 now but in time will be Master of the Universe when he reaches the next life of a new universe. How do I get those I know to follow the teachings of my Dad so they can be my brothers and not my enemies? At the end of time we will have the eternal world while those who didn't will be trapped on this earth for eternal darkness and frozen lands, (Tom : 23-28 of 2014). My Dad is the master for he was given the perfection of spirit realized when he was 12 and the dead came to him.

It was the biggest secret ever in family history and I am blessed with the honor of knowing. I am the trusted one. The secret is something bad she did in the past and regrets.

His reason is that I am not psychologically sound but he is the reason I am not as well as my mother as they made me a "Wounded Self" victim. Wounded Self is the psychological term.

I have known this girl for a few years and early on she tried to get my attention and acted flirty. Like she blushed around me and got red couldnt look me in the eyes. She couldnt even say hi first and when I did first blushd and smiled. She got giggly and laughed at all my jokes. Found any excuse to be around me, get close as possible and talk to me. Could only approach me with her friend besides her. Her friend couldn't talk to me. Well her bFF looked at her when I entered a room and said her name. Her BFF helped her approach me. She stared @ me in school. A teacher she talked to told me she talked about me. Well her friends stare at me when they see me around town. Then like family members noticed me like her cousins and they stare at me. I see her around town he places herself in spots she can c me and Ill see her.Well her and her mom have done mean stuff on my fb like they unliked a picture announcing my dads death when I blew her off. Then her mom removed my dad on facebook. Shes done dumb stuff like that. Well I go to the same college as her and she saw me in a class that is her next class. She walked in and saw me then sat down and stared at me for a few seconds. She showed up on time but after that. She shows up 30 minutes early before everyone else and then walk by the room looking in and then walks by the door when its open. She walks by at least 4x then stands in the doorway and then waits outside for when I walk out. She doesnt have her friends to help her.

I dont mean to sound incestitive, but are some people just too talkative and vocal? I feel like people who never exercised their whole life, and do not want to start now should try to be mentally stronger. What do you do if you cannot get them to be fit either or use a softer bed? I just leave the room. Before you say "you will too someday", I am not trying to be insensitive. I exercise almost every single day, and stretch and do warm ups, they don't.

i'm in high school and my parents are so controlling. they are so invasive and try to ruin every aspect of my life. I am going to resent them when I am older. they track my screen time and ask other parents stuff and check my texts and I can't deal with it. what do I do? they are more strict than any other parents I know and I wish I could just stop it

Our honeymoon was in Aruba and she loved at the time. Now for the past 3 years we been going to Vegas annually with our now 15 year old child. If I give her the choice I'm fairly certain she will choose Vegas but I'm fairly certain she will choose Vegas as our boy loves it there so much and she likes to see him happy - Should I just surprise her Aruba or go back to Vegas.

I went to a white house because they invited me for dinner and we ordered takeout and had dinner at home. I was shocked to learn that this couples kids were sleeping the whole time and they didn't want them to find out that their mum and dad was having a delicious dinner without them. And later on, I dated a white girl. She said her mum and dad made her pay rent when she was with them. And her parents met me and they went on this expensive organised tour without taking their daughter or me. No brown parent would do this. I'm brown by the way. Are white people less emotionally attached to their families? I never had to pay rent to my mum when I was living with her. Not being racist. I'm not racist. Brown people have bad points too. Like brown families are overly religious and creepy.

My Dad will lie if I ask him as my Dad is a chronic liar. If I ask the rest of the family, extended family, then it will be rude and invasive as well as compulsive. I am terrified that the family is doing a post-Christmas White Elephant Party like they did on January 13, 2018 (last year) and my Dad is not telling me and I am going to miss it. I am totally fear stricken. What do I do? How do I manage this fear that is likely irrational?

Should I expect he will still relapse and die? He always felt different and his real father abandoned him. My Mom's 3rd husband later adopted him when he married my Mom and raised him from age 6 onward. The brother always felt the abandonment even though he was two when the real father took off. I am from my Mom's 1st marriage so was not abandoned (my Dad was decent). He felt different cause the real father was black so he was black in a white family. Anyway will this brother relapse most likely and die from it? Most people are fine with the biracial thing, for some reason my brother was not cause of peer abuse from it. We lived in a racist area.

She is a dirty gossip.

I don't want to share my exact age, but it's in the 13-16 range. My parents split after I was very young, because my dad would abuse my mother in front of us, and I am stuck with my mother and one sibling. My mother has this issue of randomly getting angry and resorting to violence with my younger (developmentally disabled) sibling, and she's done it since we were very young. I often seek refuge at with grandparents (her parents), because they are sane and a voice of reason amidst the chaos. Recently, my mother claims they're stealing me from her, and she gets mad whenever my grandmother gives me a ride somewhere or something. She continues to try and convince me that my grandmother is the enemy and mentally ill. My mother has never bought me an outfit in my life. It has always been my grandmother. My grandmother also pays for my phone, and she bought my entire bed set. And all of my school supplies. My grandma was able to privately speak to me, in tears, and said as much as it breaks her heart, she can't see my brother and I anymore because it's killing her and my grandfather, what my mother is saying and doing to them and accusing them of. So I've lost the only grandparents I have. Whenever I ask to see them, my mother screams at me and calls me names and says "they won" and will sometimes hit me if it resorts to that. Anyway lol, is this abuse or am I overreacting? I've been googling what abuse is and I can't really pin anything to me specifically. Any idea if it is? Also, for the holidays, my mother got my brother and I a puppy. Things were going well, until tonight. Tonight, she is screaming and shouting at my brother, who is holding the puppy. The puppy is shaking and barking because of my mother. I, about to take a shower, begged my mom to stop, and she came over and nearly pounded the bathroom door in, saying "Do you want me to hurt this puppy? Then shut up." Is that normal, or am I overreacting by being so upset?

Me and my sister formed a bond together. I did something really stupid, she has been very hurtful to me. She's never home and she's always partying. I told her that she is not my sister and I think I have meant it. She doesn't exist to me. And I don't think that she cares. Is it wrong to disown my sister for that? Is it hurtful? OK, I .GET IT For the fvcking record. I changed my mind. Screw it.

My sister is in the bathroom crying she asks me to come in and sit with her. How can I help her feel better ? What should I say to her ?