Our sex life lacks passion, love, acceptance, affection and much more. Tbh I ve pretty much tried to please him in our sex life bc I didn t know how to please myself. I ve never orgasmed the five years we ve had sex. When he s asked me in the past if o have I told him I have just bc I didn t want to kill his ego. I finally told him that I m honestly just not orgasming and that s why I use the shower head after sex. He now refuses to have sex with me and is continuing porn because I opened up to him. We ve never had a sexual communication line. Just never have. We shut each other out sexually for years and I just had sex to please him because I needed his connection and his closeness. Its starting to really bug me that I can t be honest with him without being judged and ignored. I get that I ve lied to him about orgasming and pretty much killed his ego, but I don t want anyone else but him. This is the man on of my dreams the father of my children. And he won t ever allow me to initiate sex anymore its only when he wants to have sex. Weight is still an issue years later even after he s gained 50lbs himself and is home with me and the kids 24-7 The other day I tried to give him a blowj and he told me he didn t like them and then didn t want to have sex like completely blew me off after getting me all worked up when I ve given to him before I long for my husband to accept and love me like he used to. What can I do? I am down 9lbs so weight is being worked on.

I want to get married soon. These are some of my qualities I can cook, I have a pretty face and a nice body, I'm intelligent, I'm kind, nurturing, supportive and Im willing to give my husband sex whenever he wants. What other qualities should a wife have? Thanks.

My wife is 5 months pregnant with our son. I love rubbing her belly and kissing it. Is this normal ?

I am 39 and my wife is 24 and over the last few months Ive had issues with erections. I now can t get up and when I do its not hard and I can "kinda" have sex with wife but goes down within seconds or I *** within seconds. Its frustrating for me and more for her to where she hasn t had an orgasm with me in 2 months (last time I was actually hard for her). My question is this. I have heard of some couples that the husband lets her wife find a (without more of a better word) "lover" to help herhave an orgasm. While Im not fond of the idea we did get some rules made and I want her happy and to experience life as a 24 year old she had to take care of siblings when she was younger so didn t have much of a "fun life" I let her go out to pub (or play pokemon she likes that too lol) and she knows friends that are guys but thats it and she does check in with me. I want her happy and all and for those couples who s hubby lets his wife do that how do you cope with that? I have self conscience issues anyhow and wonder well what if he s big and she enjoys it and she can *** forever and he lasts forever? I know its not love its just sex to take care of her needs but I want insight on those who are in this predicament and if there is a way to ease my issues?

Last night she was chatting with a guy from her home country. She apparently complained to him about me. That's what she straight up told me. I gave her a serious boundaries talk and how she has disrespected me to the extreme. Now because she can't orgasm very well with me and sex has become boring, I am really worried that she is going to cheat on me starting with late night chat sessions and God knows where else it leads. I've taken the stance that if it happens one more time, I'm gone out of her life for good. Especially as we have spoken. I ask her to be honest if she feels something is missing etc. She said nothing comes to mind. I need to talk to her tonight and take the lead in introducing new ideas into the bedroom. Our sex has become boring and there isn't any connection. She will get angry and say I'm not hitting her points and then she we will lie there afterwards angry and cold. I now feel a bit insecure like she will chew me out to other guys again. Like I'm just a fool hanging around trying to start a family with her. It's not fair that she has chosen to be selfish and run me down to another guy. She deleted the texts by the way. I am now starting to believe that she will eventually take any kids we have and disappear with another bloke or dump the kids on me and run off. I've lost my trust. I feel let down that she would complain about me and how we can't have kids yet. She always seems to take a negative view about me. Leaving is on my mind.

My wife has a genetic condition which predisposes her to cardiovascular problems. Now just turned 50 she may not be around much longer. The past 10 years since she was laid off from work we have been in financial hell, a sort of monetary limbo. She has been turned down many times for Social Security Disability for no apparent reason other than stupid Judges who do not understand her rare condition. Therefore we have been just barely getting by on my meager income where even though we spend zero money on ourselves or home maintenance we can barely exist paying our mortgage and utilities. They say make lilfe count because life is short. Life may be very short for my wife and I haven't the means to make it count. Both our 401k's are nearly worthless after the recent recession, and zero equity in our falling down home. Just found out today that within two years my wife will need very dangerous cardiovascular surgery, maybe as soon as six months, and she may not survive surgery. I cannot possibly earn any more money without going insane working multiple jobs. There is no spending money at all and there will not ever be any. So how the heck can I make my wife's last months count??? Sell our home? and live on the streets? I see no options. HELP

After several attempts to make love to my wife over a two week period and getting shot down every time, she attacks me literally 10 minutes before she has to leave for work trying to get some D. Being a man, I jump right up and gets mine. As she runs off to work she reminds me that her daughter needs me to drive her to school by like 11:00 instead of her normal time in which she would leave with her mother. No prob. Couple hours later, I'm at the kitchen table doing my computer work, with a coworker when my step daughter (12yrs old) comes down, eats breakfast and goes upstairs to get ready,I take her to school right on time. No questions asked. Well, as I'm leaving her school I get a weird thought. I believe my wife felt it necessary to get the poisons out of my system because She thought I would be alone with her daughter for a couple hours. Having grown up in an America where even the slightest accusation of perviness is life ending. It is one of my biggest fears. What could possibly be worse than living a life as a child molester? Am I wrong in thinking that over the previous 14 days of turndowns, even with ample opportunity to make love, either alone or freaky sneaky, she suddenly comes and gets my mind, body and soul right with a literal hurry up quickie because she didn't want me to be hungry like the wolf around her 12 year old daughter? Or do you think her letting her freak flag fly, out of nowhere, 10 minutes before she had to leave, was nature taking its course?

It's done all the time; they never change their ways.

I'm 20 but I have a friend, she's much older (50+). She always randomly blows up my fb notifications with 12+. Why does she do that? She'll do it one day then a couple days later, she will do it again. We're very close but why does she do that? She just likes to I guess

And vice versa..

My wife is due in August. We didn't plan this, but we do want kids, so we're just having our baby a little earlier than initially planned. I am in my mid 30s, and over the past 5 years, I have been less consistent about my workouts. I used to be extremely lean, and I still am in good shape, but my 6-pack is covered. I'm by no means fat, but I do have a little belly fat that I'm not comfortable with. I don't feel like myself. I have started a food diary to try and maintain as healthy a diet as I can, and I need to be much more diligent about hitting the gym. This means weight lifting at least 3-4 times per week, and cardio 2-3 times per week, for about 45 minutes per workout. I plan to do this either before or after work, and once on the weekend, so it shouldn't impact my wife too much. I'd be gone for 12 hours per day M-Th, but only for 9 hours on Fridays, as I usually get out of work by 3 PM. Weekends would be pretty open, and I'd only need to exercise once. I need to start making this a priority, but my wife just gets angry whenever I bring it up. She seems to be thinking selfishly and only wants me to spend time doing things that benefit the family in the short term, and has no regard for my own self-esteem.

I am so exhausted. It has been non-stop for the longest time. We finally had a chance last weekend to catch up on laundry and clean house, and my husband dropped everything to attend a fish fry at a friend's house last minute. Didn't even ask if I wanted to go or not; just accepted the invitation. Every invitation we receive, he accepts without asking me or at least talking about it. We have two little ones (toddler and preschooler) who are very active and don't ever stop! I've spoken to my husband about how exhausted I am, and his answer is to bring me coffee. Last Saturday, I offered to make lunch for the volunteers helping at our church this weekend, forgetting that we had RSVP'ed to a friend's baptism for their baby girl. Here we are again…my husband will be finishing up a painting project at the church, which leaves me with the kiddos again by myself, attending the baptism. We've had this on the calendar for 3 weeks. And also last Saturday, another friend spoke to my husband about a fundraiser they're having this Sunday, which again, he didn't ask me about. He even agreed to buy the wine and beers for them, in addition to transporting their DJ equipment to the venue. That's all fine and dandy, but he just found out his paycheck is delayed due to low funds on the company side. Before I knew the full details, I offered to make a couple of my cakes to auction or raffle off to help with their fundraiser. Now that funds are tight for the next week or so, I don't think we should go the fundraiser. On top of helping with the "merchandise" and transportation, they are charging a $15 entrance for everyone, on top of the food and drinks. I know my husband is still going to go, no matter what I say. I've thought about just giving him the cakes and not showing up, especially since no one asked if we can attend or not; just assumed we would be. I don't know what more I can say or do to show we need to take care of ourselves and our children first.

I'm a 23 year old girl. I've been married to the most amazing guy for the past 2 years (I know I was young when I got married, but I have 0 regrets). We've been thinking of trying o have a baby, but we're not sure. I'm starting nursing school soon, and part of me thinks that maybe we should wait until i'm done. On the other hand I'm thinking, 'it will never be convenient to take up the responsiblity of a baby. If it's not nursing school it will be something else. Another thing I worry about is keeping my relationship with my husband strong after babies. I know kids make things harder on a marriage, but I do think that even things may be harder they don't have to be worse. You just have to put forth more work into the relationship and do things differently. What can we do to still have a stronger relationship after kids?

so my wife says its a fantasy but its better left in her head as fantasy, to see a woman with me, but another man shes not as into but curious. weve been together two years, can this ever change? have you had a similar experience?

do you love them actually? how far into the relationship to start swinging?

When I was 16 I was infatuated with this guy at my church. We became very close friends. He even got me a "best friend ring." He got on one knee and asked me to be his best friend. He said "from this day on, I commit my life to you." Long story short, he lead me on to believe he felt the same way. A year later after he gave me the best friend ring, he told me he never loved me and he removed me from his life completely. I lost my best friend and first love all in the same moment. Fast forward to now, nearly 5 years later. I've healed completely from what had happened, it really doesn't bother me anymore. However, I'm getting suspicious that I might have subconsciously kept the lessons I learned from it. Marriage for some reason bothers me to the point of making me emotionally break down. I have no explanation why marriage bothers me so much, other than what happened to be when I was younger. The weird part is it's only marriage, I'm fine with relationships. The best way to describe how I feel about marriage is this: Marriage is a tornado that cannot be stopped. It will destroy everything I've ever known and loved. Is it possible that my past could still be affecting my feelings towards marriage? Like I said, this was about 5 years ago. I'm 22 now. If you don't understand why marriage bothers me so much, then don't answer. Not everyone is going to understand what I'm going though, I get that. I don't take any offence to that at all. Please stop changing my category. My question belongs under the marriage and divorce category. I don't need counselling! I asked a simple question. Learn how to read! God. Thank you, I figured out how to change my category. Sorry, I'm new here still learning the ropes. Oh my word how many times do I have to say it... I'M OVER IT! All I asked was a simple question... THANK YOU EMILY for actually answering it! I don't need help. This is why I don't vent on the internet. I'm going to delete my yahoo. This is ridiculous.

could you also handle seeing your wife get taken by another man.. even maybe two or more of them?

If you and your husband love each other but your sex life has took a nose dive recently, how do you get it back going. Already have tried going on vacations together, went out for dinners, took walks around the park, watched movies together...nothing seems to be creating that "spark". Any more ideas...been married over 16 years.

My wife has bipolar disorder. When medicated, she's like every other person. We moved last August to a new town for my job. Since last August it has been h*ll trying to find my wife a Psychatrist. We've tried everywhere and they are booked out a year in advance or aren't accepting new patients. We found one Psychatrist who is terrible, doesn't take our insurance, and is charging us $300 per visit. My wife has now been on/off her medication for a year. I've been married to her 7 years and I've never seen her this emotionally unstable. I've been considering moving back to the area we previously lived but the job market there is abismal and we were barley scraping by. Should I consider a relocation for my wife? I'm not sure what to do.

I'm a 40 year old woman, & I have been married for almost 20 years, & have 2 young children. My husband and I have become estranged in that time, we do not even sleep in the same room anymore, nor has he touched me in years. We're more like friends/roomates, as opposed to spouses. My friend in question is a 26 year old man. He's very handsome; gorgeous really, tall - around 6'4ft, glowing with health; as well as a very positive vibe, hardworking, driven, ambitious, adventurous, & has a heart of gold - one of the kindest people I've ever known. We've known each other for 5 years, & are very close friends. Hell, we can practically read each other's minds! And we hang out quite a lot as friends, we go hiking, swimming, off-roading, dancing, singing Kareoke, go to movies; & sometimes have dinner afterwards. When I'm with him, I feel amazing, like I wouldn't want to be hanging out with anyone else. He makes me feel wonderful. He's so on fire with the spirit of life; despite having been through some very hard times, and he makes me feel that way too. And my kids love him! He's like a cool uncle to them. I'm married, so there is a big problem there. Plus he's so much younger than me, young enough to be my son. Based on those two factors, I probably shouldnt have feelings for him at all, but I do. What can I do?

He always wears underwear, when he goes to bed... I keep telling him to put off all his clothes and even his underwear, but he doesn't want to listen and I can't have sex with him, if I don't see him completely naked... I've explained to him how I feel, but he doesn't care about my feelings... Why doesn't he sleep naked?

I always thought I just wasn't that into sex but after cheating with another man I realized that I actually love sex but that my husband is just very awful at sex. Should I tell him in a nice way ?

And please don't play around with this question. I'm trying to understand. When I ask him he can't explain it. I'm not a mind reader He seems to like to touch my body, I don't understand that part either. I'm not interested in women either so not gay. But I don't find men's bodies interesting. Just explain things please. I meant to ask the most important part, why not just masturbate to orgasm? I masturbate - it's much easier to orgasm that way, it's fast, and much more intense, it doesn't even involve penetration at all. All stimulation comes from the outside. It's odd how misunderstood that is, that penetration is not the main thing for a woman. I think I'm going to get a divorce. Now I wonder if the law allows me to get a divorce if I say I don't want to have sex anymore. What do you mean by "intimacy?" Penetration/sexual intercourse??? Steven K, I agree the best thing is divorce. It seems like I come second to all his other interests like fishing and playing electronic games. It's fine he has his interests, but if I want something specific to what I like, similar to what he likes (sex), he forgets or seems to ignore it. He says he only wants one thing and I want many. I want one thing, to feel I matter to him. I don't think my needs matter to him.

I am soon to be 22 years old and in May I am graduating college, civil engineering. I'm doing my graduation work now and they offered me a job if I want when I finish. On top of that my gf is moving in with me this summer. We talked about moving together 6-7 months ago but I felt it was too soon. Now I feel like I don't really have a choice. I talked to my brother. Him and I are two VERY different people. He is 28 and getting married this summer. He has spent many years traveling, working abroad for Engineers without borders, backpacking. I think he has been too 60 countries or something like that. He said: "I know that you are not much for adventure and doing crazy things and that's ok. But that life with a house, wife and kids will always be available. You can always come back to that road but once you start you can never walk away. Why don't you take 2 years and just do you? Move to the closest big city, come visit me in Australia for a few months. And for Gods sake don't marry your first serious gf. Believe me it rarely ends well. You are young, you have the time and I can lend you some money. There is more to life than this small town". I don't know. That's his thing. I don't know what my thing is. I'm happy with my gf and I don't have a need to meet new girls every weekend. But maybe I should do something. I just don't know what. What would you do?

The jist of my dilemma is this: I just got married a year and a half ago. I've lost three jobs since then due to calling of work. I honestly hated all of those jobs. I was working on my master's degree at the time, so I thought I would be okay since I could graduate with a degree like that soon and land an ideal job. My husband and his parents think I sabotaged his career and my own. I need advice!