Family: Question: What should I do if my loser son at 30 won't move out?

Question: What should I do if my loser son at 30 won't move out?

Posted: 01 Mar 2017 02:11 PM PST

My son doesn't care about anyone or anything. He hangs out with losers that are useless and pathetic and never hangs out with anyone that a good person. He attracts loser friends and his friendships never last long because he doesn't care about them and as far as dating goes he can't get a date because he sees women as objects. He won't get a job because he has no interest in anything. In fact he has no interest in life. Basically he has no other place to live so I put up with him. But he has a loser frame of mind about life. He does a half *** job at everything and he can do much better because he is smart but acts stupid and I don't understand why a smart person would choose to be stupid. What should I do?

Question: I was ranting about this kid I've hated for a while and I didn't realize his sister was there! Help?

Posted: 01 Mar 2017 02:00 PM PST

There was a kid in my neighborhood that I've hated for a while and he threw rocks at me and my other neighbors. I saw him running because he was training to try out for our school track team and I recognized him and suddenly I was talking about how he threw rocks at me and my friends. I didn't realize his sister was on the bus (we were on a bus) and she overheard me and started yelling at me and saying it was not true. His parents are super overprotective of him and his sister tells them everything. I'm scared they'll tell the guidance counselor and I'll be in a lot of trouble. I have a reputation of hopefully being one of the nicer kids and I really feel horrible I ended up here. Please help! Thanks!

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Posted: 01 Mar 2017 01:47 PM PST

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Posted: 01 Mar 2017 01:29 PM PST

Question: My older sister is always picking on me, and I'm tired of it!?

Posted: 01 Mar 2017 01:29 PM PST

I m 19, and shes 25. She has no respect for me, she yells at me almost all the time. When I do something, and my mom asks who did it, she responds "your son did it". I have a name. She talks behind my back to her friends saying I'm lazy, spolied, i have ADHD, my parents feel bad for me because i have no friends and they get me everything i want. She makes me look bad. When she is sleeping, she wants silence. and if she hears a footstep, she yells my name, and she assumes its me, and even yells at me when I'm not at fault. My parents and everyone else get along with her well. My parents tell me not to talk back to her or she will throw all hell. My parents can't discipline her. They tell me she's mentally unwell. When she is with her friends, she's a completely different person. She respectful kind, and friendly. She is smart too, shes a university graduate, and works at a bank headquarters. When shes with relatives or at parties, she acts like such a sweet angel, a doll, is respectful, and shows the personality of a "cute girl", if you know what i mean. She's even nice to me. At parties, she tells me to come and dance with her, people compliment her, saying she beautiful with her makeup and clothing and so on. I play music, so when I'm performing a little bit on stage, she films me and all, but at home, its either i use headphones on my keyboard, or i don't play at all. Even when she's relaxing, i can't play on the lowest volume, or she will break my keys. I used to fight back, but I don't. I just let her say what she want. I don't argue with her either. And its because i don't want to deal with her anymore. Everytime I get into an argument with her, i can't help but to feel very frustrated. So i just don't bother. I plan on excluding her from my life once im financially stable, which is not unitl a few years to come.

Question: My parents keep making unhealthy food?!!?

Posted: 01 Mar 2017 01:27 PM PST

It is very irritating when my parents keep cooking deep fried tofu, and super oily fried egg. My mom just keeps telling me to stop complaining when I try to tell her how bad it is. She knows nothing about nutrition, unless something really ad happens, she doesn't care. I have high cholesterol and I'm 14! Like what?!? After the doctor told her that, she had me eat healthy for a week (I was so happy) but she went back to her normal stubborn self. She FORCES me to eat unhealthy food. Her excuse is that it's healthy. She say pork is red meat, she says 'you won't die' well at the rate I'm going I'll get a heart attack by the time I'm 30. Please help. We are economically stable, so money is not an issue. I mean she says pork ISN'T read meat I mean she says pork ISN'T read meat I Can't NOT eat it! My mom literally yells at me when I don't finish 3 cups of rice, and piles of meat. She says I'm ungrateful for not eating. She hates when I cook, she thinks I'm bad at cooking (I eat it) and she doesn't eat it because it's "too healthy". She's super strict about the kitchen being clean so she never lets be cook.

Question: Is it weird that I can identify my siblings by their smell?

Posted: 01 Mar 2017 01:04 PM PST

Yesterday my mom asked me if a clothing item was my little brother's, but I could tell by how it smelled that it was my oldest brother's. It didn't stink or anything, I just know his smell. Is that weird?

Question: My Dad is a very ignorant person to mental illness. He is more ignorant then a pile of ****. How do I at least attempt to educate him?

Posted: 01 Mar 2017 01:02 PM PST

Question: Who buys more food than they need?

Posted: 01 Mar 2017 12:46 PM PST

My mother passed away about a year ago. I am now in her house with a mentally ill brother. Somehow my cousin became representative payee a few years ago when a hospital planned to send my brother to a group home but my mom wanted him home with her. Around the time of my moms death she said we can maybe have me be the payee. I feel I should be the payee. For the last few years she sends a $500 check and pays electric, cable, phone, and heating of house. His payment is $1,100 a month. One day a social worker saw that the refrigerator didn't have a lot of food and must have told my cousin. My cousin called me and I tell her that my brother prefers a lot of restaurant and fast food. I tell her I get what he wants and he agrees I do. My cousin said she may not even send the $500 but I feel she is scaring me. I sometimes buy stuff like cereal and he doesn't want it. If my brother prefers we spend the money on outside food should I be concerned about the food at home? Should I tell my cousin to transfer the payee money to me?

Question: Can child be taken away if family is homeless?

Posted: 01 Mar 2017 12:24 PM PST

Hi my sister and her husband are living in a hotel temporarily with their 7 month old infant daughter. They don't have a car and they don't have much money put away they only have enough to buy food and cab rides to the husbands job. He is still working but all the money mostly goes to cab rides and are payinfrf 675$ a week for that hotel. Really, they can only get by doing that for 2 weeks total because that money will run out. Then where will they go? They can't even put a down payment on a vehicle or security deposit into an apartment. I'm worried because that baby has seen and been through so much already this is their 2nd time being homeless and bounchigf around place to place they haven't stabily stayed somewhere to settle down for more than a few months. Their daughter, my niece used to be so calm but now she's always screaming even if it's not to cry she just always is so loud in an abnormal way. Please don't comment to tell me I sound nosy and blah blah blah. Please. I am just concerned and I am only 17 so I can't take my niece for a while for them. And there's no other family except maybe in another state. So can my niece be taken away or what? They are pretty young themselves they're both 20 and sorry to say this about my sis and her husband but they don't seem responsible enough. They argue too much and my brother in law always has alcohol in his hands when I see him or he's drunk out of his mind and she's always depressed and wants to sleep.

Question: Would you let a 13 year old go to to a twenty one pilots concert by themself?

Posted: 01 Mar 2017 11:57 AM PST

Question: Why isn t my dad proud of me?

Posted: 01 Mar 2017 11:28 AM PST

I think that I m a good kid. I have all A s except for one B in a top advanced class, I was on the varsity basketball team as a freshman, and I never get in trouble. Yet through all of this, my dad never seems to be proud of me. My mom is always complimentary, saying how well I m doing or that she s so proud of me. On the other hand, my father never says anything but a put down if my grade is below a 90. I just wish that my dad would be alright with my best, rather than a 100.

Question: How close are you to your extended family (cousins, aunts, uncles, grandparents)?

Posted: 01 Mar 2017 10:30 AM PST

I use to be pretty close to my mom's side of the family. It seems like we use to spend more time with eachother. But as my cousins got older and started having families of their own and got jobs and some moved away, we don't see or talk to each other as much. After my grandma died a few years back, it seems like we have kept in contact even less. It was going that way before she passed, but it seems even more so since she passed. About the only way I keep in contact with them most of the time is through Facebook. With busy lives, time seems to slip by unfortunately. I never really had much of a relationship with my dad's side of the family for some reason. But after my grandparents passed, it is non-existent. How close are you to your family?

Question: Why did my heart beat so fast when she spoke to me?

Posted: 01 Mar 2017 10:17 AM PST

My heart started to beat so fast when my former friend spoke to me and my hands were shaking for the whole day... am I in love with her or was I just nervous? I could barely speak because I had butterflies in my stomach.. Btw we're both girls so just you know...

Question: My mom is an addict.?

Posted: 01 Mar 2017 10:15 AM PST

How can I turn her life around? I have done everything I can. I am 13 years old and my mother has never had a job during my childhood. My mother and her boyfriend broke up when I was 2 years old. I have never met my biological dad. My mother has been taking Xanax for over 30 years. She takes many other drugs and when she quits one drug she begins with another. She has taken every prescription drug from A-Z. She has a new boyfriend every month but they always start fighting and then break up. I always loved her no matter what she did. She usually stays up all night. Sometimes it feels like she does not care about me.

Question: Should I pull the trigger?

Posted: 01 Mar 2017 09:26 AM PST

Question: My mom wants to send me to Cadet Air Patrol!?

Posted: 01 Mar 2017 08:24 AM PST

Cadet air patrol is for kids 12 and older to join pretty much the air force, you get to patrol the skies so that means fly a plane, I hate heights and my mom said she only wants me to go for discipline! What the heck did I do to her that made her want me to join the Cadet Air Patrol?! I have been listening to her constantly and doing what she asked!

Question: Not sad over grandpas death?

Posted: 01 Mar 2017 08:12 AM PST

So my grandpa just died this morning. I know it's sad and i know my mom is sad. But i kind of feel indifferent. My grandma came anf told me and my brother and neither of us cried. I almost feel like this was better. For the past week I've visited him in hospice for hours. I never really wanted to go but did. I'm not sad or angry or anything. I'm kind of nothing. I mean i never really LIKED him that much. He was a very racist miserable man that always pissed me off, but i feel like i should feel sadness but don't really care.

Question: How to find my real father in a country I never been?

Posted: 01 Mar 2017 08:07 AM PST

I never met my father and he doesn't even know I exist. I want to find him and meet him but he lives in a different country. The only information I have is my sister's birth certificate with his name and my grandparents name. How and where would I start to find my dad.

Question: I hate physical contact, and I hate my brother because of it.. Is this my fault?

Posted: 01 Mar 2017 08:01 AM PST

I really really REALLY hate physical contact and it makes me want to kill myself whenever someone whisper in my ear. I'm serious.. My older brother always whisper in my ear when I play video games and he tries to poke me in the belly or hold my arm. It's very annoying and it makes me cringe. I tell him that it's annoying and not to do that again but he NEVER stops and he gets angry when I tell him that its seriously annoying... It's been like 4 years and he still do that... God.. for 4 frigin years I've been telling him not to touch me like that.. (I'm a girl and it makes me think as if my brother is a perv when he touch me) That's why I got really mad today and I tried to make myself feel better by telling it to my dad. And my brother was like "Hey I fking hear that. Don't you think I'm a human too huh?" So I said "You should've stopped when I told you to stop then." And then he said "That's why you don't have any friends bitc*" I mean, is hating physical contact that bad? Isn't it my brother's fault when he do something to me that I really hate? Am I overreacting about it? ;-;

Question: Did your father spend a disproportionate amount of the family income on drink, cigarettes and gambolling the same as my father?

Posted: 01 Mar 2017 05:44 AM PST

Question: I m 19 and my mum has taken my car keys off of me?!?

Posted: 01 Mar 2017 05:25 AM PST

I m 19 and my mum brought me a £400 car for my birthday. Since then I ve been paying everything for it (£277 insurance, £11.48 tax and around £60 fuel per month) and I have helped her out loads with it, taking my brother to A & E and work etc. Well my brother told my mum i was speeding and my driving made him fear for his life (he is 16, and I told on him for smoking and hanging out with some complete idiots). My mother takes his word, confiscated my car keys which now means date night tonight with my SO is cancelled as well as going out to lunch with my friend tomorrow. The thing is that my other brother (12) was with us when I was apparently speeding and told my mother the fastest I went was 50mph along a main road, the same as I had told her. She then says I shouldn t be looking at my speed if I m concentrating on my driving. I don t know what to do, especially as I have driven friends and colleagues around who say I m a good driver?

Question: How do I get my Dad to stop beating me (I am 41)?

Posted: 01 Mar 2017 04:49 AM PST

Question: Am I a bad father?

Posted: 01 Mar 2017 04:41 AM PST

A nice lady asked if my son is a good kid. I answered "He's a good kid? A good kid? Why? Does he help the fücking poor?" No. he sits on his àss all day, smoking dope and jerking off while he plays that fûcking game." She then looked at me and walked away.

Question: How to report a drug user?

Posted: 01 Mar 2017 03:26 AM PST

So my cousin who is a 30+ year old male had been scaring us because of his attitude and we thought he had stopped using drugs already years ago but he had been awake every midnight and cannot sleep. Hes been hanging out with people in the neighbourhood who are known for their drugs and we are just scared that because of his guiltyness on stealing food in our side of the house, he'll get revenge on us so my mom and dad decided to make me and my sister sleep with them in their room. If i call the cops and ask them to keep it anonymous, are they really going to make it anonymous and not mention me? Thank you.

Question: I'm a 16-year-old boy, and my father hits me and verbally abuses me. Should I report him or just deal with it? Help?

Posted: 01 Mar 2017 03:20 AM PST

Question: Hating my Sister in Islam?

Posted: 01 Mar 2017 02:57 AM PST

I am a Muslim and I hate my sister. All of my family does. She is a disgrace to our family and has tortured us tremendously. She tried to kill us all one night, throttle my mom and poison my brother. She killed her child while it was in her womb, had relations with other men, doesn't pray or is a good muslim. She But even after that, I let it go, until now, she is again pregnant but she doesnt eat well to torture her child inside her. And this is her 5th month the baby is extremely weak and may have some sort of disorder (I hope not). Then, she plans on abandoning the child after it is born. I hate her and want to cut all ties with her. My mother has become a severe anxiety patient because of her. Is it now permissible to cut all ties with her?

Question: Why don't I like anyone seeing me cry?

Posted: 01 Mar 2017 02:50 AM PST

When I was younger and wanted something I'd just cry infront of my parents. Now when I'm hurt, or when something/someone passed away, I don't like showing it. I like to lock myself away and cry on my own, and not let anyone see.

Question: Asian and living with parents into my 20's?

Posted: 01 Mar 2017 01:53 AM PST

I was raised by two Vietnamese parents, and as a result I'm very family-oriented. It's part of many Asian cultures to live with parents, even after marriage right? I don't understand the reason behind moving out so early, especially when so many things can go wrong. I'm thinking about getting a job, going to college, getting married, having kids etc. all the while living with parents. Do you think it would be wrong to be living with my parents during all this, especially when it's so ingrained in me and my culture? I mean, I DO want to take care of my parents, especially since they're getting older and older. Oh and also I forgot to add, my Mom literally wants to follow me everywhere I live and go. She made her children her life, and I'm sure my dad will follow.

Question: What should I say to my wife ?

Posted: 01 Mar 2017 01:38 AM PST

My wife is feeling upset because we're having a tornado watch. We keep having storms coming through. Our electric went off for a little bit she was really scared. She's afraid of the dark she hates it when there's a storm and the electric goes off at night. That really scares her but luckily it came right back on. She said it's a good thing because she's terrified of the dark right now she doesn't think she'll be able to handle it if it went off again. I think the storms are about over for the night. She's still feeling upset. How can I comfort her ? What should I say to her ?

Question: How can I comfort my sister ?

Posted: 01 Mar 2017 12:18 AM PST

My sister is freaking out because half of our state is under a tornado watch. She doesn't sleep when a watch or warning is out she's slept good until now. We rarely get a tornado around here it's going north west or south west of us. She's pregnant she's not feeling good right now. She's having morning sickness again. It scares her that we're in a 3 bedroom trailer with no bassment no shelter there's no way we can get into our closets. But the last 15 years we've lived here we never had a tornado. We had one years ago but it stayed in town it didn't come our way. The watch is out till 6am. It's after 3. She said night tornadoes are the scariest. She's starting to feel sick again. How can I help her feel better ?

Question: My cousin wants to marry a darkie?

Posted: 28 Feb 2017 11:16 PM PST

He moved up to Illinois a few years back and now he says he wants to marry a darkie. How do me and the rest of the family convince him to stop this nonsense?

Question: Should I stay or should I go?

Posted: 28 Feb 2017 10:59 PM PST

My partner of three and a half years says that he won t prioritise me over his parents and siblings. In his eyes we re all equal. My question is whether it s normal for a partner to prioritise their family over you? There are occasions were you need to prioritise your family, however overall, I think your spouse needs to be your #1.

Question: How do I deal with an 11 year old who throws tantrums?

Posted: 28 Feb 2017 10:34 PM PST

Middle school started for my child and she has become out of control! She will throw a tantrum if she doesn't get her way even in public. She has ADHD and is on medication. She's moody and has reached puberty this year. I miss the old her, but I'm trying to find new ways to deal with her. She is part of the "popular girls" and I recently found out that and a few kids have been making fake Facebook accounts. She knows very well that I don't trust her and she cannot have social media at all. I shut down her old Instagram account after she started using it to post bad things. My daughter wasn't like this when she was in primary school. Now she sneaks behind our backs, screams when she doesn't get what she wants, and tries to impress the older kids. She and a group of friends are trying to impress the older high school girls. It turned out that she stole tons of makeup from my bathroom, cut one of her t-shirts in half into a short crop top, and caked her whole face with makeup just to "impress" and have high school kids think she's cool. She's only in 6th grade! I had to remove her pair of scissors and she doesn't know where my makeup is anymore. It sounds like she's getting into peer pressure and preteen drama at a young age. How do I deal with her? She throws huge fits until she gets exhausted from all the screaming.

Question: How do I deal with an 11 year old who wants the same freedoms as a 16 year old?

Posted: 28 Feb 2017 10:19 PM PST

My 11 year old daughter insists on having the same freedoms as my 16 year old son. She will start crying and lock herself up in her room after an argument. We decided to ignore her tantrums and talk to her when she calms down. I made my 16 year old do some tough chores and have my 11 year old do them as well so they can be "fair". She doesn't understand that he's much older and she only just started middle school. No middle schooler should be staying up past 10pm at a party. She doesn't understand why I won't let her have social media, it's not because of her age, it's because she's not trustworthy and she will post inappropriate things or get herself into dangerous situations. She got herself suspended in 5th grade over sending mean messages to another child. She insists that she should have social media too just because her brother did at her age (her brother was more responsible and had nothing to hide back then). Also, predators are out there and they're much more likely to target young girls than boys. Especially if my daughter attempts hiding things from us and she tries to put herself in situations where it may make her more vulnerable. I've tried counselling and having serious talks with her (also restrictions certain activities, sending her to her room, trying to educate her). I give her those talks when she uses inappropriate language or throws a fuss. I get that she's a tween, they're immature and full of hormones with a lot of peer pressure.

Question: Do you think my family friend's son sounds strange?

Posted: 28 Feb 2017 09:44 PM PST

My dad's friend's son gives me some kind of odd feeling whenever he's around. He's either in his early or mid 20's and there just seems to be something unusual about him compared to what's expected. Maybe because I'm autistic and I'm very observant. I'm a 15 year old girl and when we were at a party full of our parents' friends and our relatives, I noticed he had unusual ways of describing kids. One mom was showing my mom a picture of her 5 year old daughter and he just said that the kid was "just simply divine" and other exaggerated words like heaven, attractive, special, etc. I know its normal to give compliments and shes pretty but he didnt use words like pretty or beautiful. He's childish for his age and has lots of toys at his house (he said they were from when he was a kid but they seem pretty new to me). And also most of those toys are girl toys too. He keeps saying how he loves kids and I think he's a bit too fixated on little kids, no offense. He sure spends a lot of time babysitting! I think he probably wants a child of his own or is preparing for a child with all those toys but he doesn't even have a girlfriend or a wife... and nobody ever said he was adopting a kid. He babysits for a few little girls whom I know and they spend one on one time doing normal activities like playing games, going to the park, going swimming, etc. But he has an unusual amount of obsessions related to kids or toys. I don't know if I should ask him ...

Question: I think my mom has bipolar? help please?

Posted: 28 Feb 2017 09:05 PM PST

heres why, she has random break downs every couple of months maybe weeks some times but usually like every 4 months or 5 is when she has big ones, she has been subscribed with anti depressants but refuses to take them and one day she was going like super dooper crazy then norma and she started throwing them every where saying that I'm trying to drug her up so that she'll turn into a zombie, she also threatens to kill herself on some of her breakdown times and calls me a **** and says she wishes i wasn't born and my sister was an only child. one day when my sister was driving (she is on her L's) she asked mum if she could adjust the mirror bc we were on a really scary road with heaps of corners and my mum was on the phone and my sister said excuse me mum and then asked the question, and my mum just hung up on the person and started yelling and screaming at my sister calling her all sorts of names and pathetic because she can't fix the mirror herself and then started throwing punches at my sister whilst driving put not actually hitting her face like 1 centimetre Away and if my mum miscalculated where she was punching then we all could have died (it was like a hill thing so a big drop off where we were driving) and then once we got off that rode demanded my sister stop the car immediately so my sister did an then mum jumped out of the car and ran away she came back obis but ye she also randomly starts crying too. she can be really nice though at times and yea. what do i do?

Question: House sauna use, question?

Posted: 28 Feb 2017 08:34 PM PST

We just moved to a new place because dad got transfered. Our new house has a sauna. I've used it only a few times and I liked it. Tonight I was in the sauna. Through the glass door I saw mom come wrapped in a towel. She kicked her flip flops off her feet, hung the towel OUTSIDE, opened the door and came in completely NAKED! We were both like "whaa..?" She sat across me and began to ask about school. I don't remember ever seeing her naked so it was weird. I think she noticed, because at some point she said "you guys don't need to wear your swimsuits in here, you know?" and laughed. I said maybe next time and since I was pretty hot already I excused myself. What should I do next time? What would tou do?

Question: Is it wrong that one wants to have relationship with their sister?

Posted: 28 Feb 2017 08:21 PM PST

If the sister looks like EVALION (Girl who came on YouTube god know what happened to her) & since i love EVALION a lot then is it wrong that I was standing naked near my sister room (who looks like evalion) secretly while she lies on bed but she sees me & doesn't seem to mind while im completely naked. Can they start a relationship and go further?? Or is it wrong and why

Question: Hindi word for paternal uncle? For Muslims?

Posted: 28 Feb 2017 08:17 PM PST

Generally, in Hindi, your father's elder brother is bade papa or tauji and your father's younger brother is chote papa, chacha or kaka, right? I heard somewhere that Indian Muslims, the Hindi speaking ones, don't use certain words like kaka and prefer chacha instead. Is there also an alternative for the father's elder brother? Do they use chacha for that too? And do they use chote/bade paper or do they prefer not to? *chote/bade papa

Question: Why does my mom make me feel worthless?

Posted: 28 Feb 2017 08:11 PM PST

the title seems a bit odd, but its the truth. im 14 and whenever my little brother does something bad or make noise, i immediately get blamed. i try to explain what really happend, but she never listens to me. she tells me to tell her if my brother hits me insted of retaliating, but whenever i do, nothing changes, ill give u an example: an hour or so ago, i went up to my bed ( i have a bunk bed) and was on my phone, minding my own business, and my brother comes up and starts hitting and bothering me, i try to push him away and stop, but he just wont leave me alone. he starts getting mad and yelling, and my mom tells ME to stop and lets him get away with it. then she told me to stop or else shes gonna force me to go to this seperate room in my house. a few seconds later, she tells me to get out ( neither me or my brother did anything). yeah, this stuff may sound like a thing everybody with siblings go thru, but its gotten to the point where i wanna kill myself, idc if its a normal thing people go through, NO ONE SHOULD GO THROUGH IT

Question: Why do family and friends treat you differently after you loss you newborn baby?

Posted: 28 Feb 2017 08:02 PM PST

Seem like when my second baby passed away , family and so called friends just acted funny towards me. I can just feel it. I feel like I got some type of contagious diesease. My baby passed away a few months ago and now that my sister is expecting, it seems like she standoffish towards me. I understand no one knows what to say but I mean staying away from me is better? I just don't get it. It really bothers me.

Question: Is it normal to get nervous when family gossips to you about other family?

Posted: 28 Feb 2017 07:44 PM PST

Today I got nervous when my sister and aunt were gossiping about family and I wasn't sure how to respond. I didn't want to anger the aunt but I didn't want to bad mouth my cousin (aunt and her son are estranged so aunt and my sister were trashing the son). Also insults about another aunt were being exchanged, My sister, mother, and aunt (Mom's sister) are all chronic gossips. My mother is not as bad about it as my sister and aunt though when my mother is mad at someone she is ruthless beyond words.

Question: How to Ask my grandma if I can borrow her car for prom?

Posted: 28 Feb 2017 07:39 PM PST

My friends and myself are 6 people. (3 couples). We don t want a limo this year, but we also don t want to be split up on the drive to the restaurant and the dance, which are about 45-50 minutes away. No one has a car that will hold 6 people in their immediate family. My grandma has a Nissan Pathfinder that seats 7. I am a little reluctant to ask her because it was expensive and she doesn t really pay for it herself, my step-grandpa does. Would it be okay to ask, or should I just forget it? If so, how should I ask to make it seem the most reassuring?

Question: Comp dancers: does your mom drive you crazy?

Posted: 28 Feb 2017 07:37 PM PST

So my mother and I don't really fight that much, accept when it comes to dance. Anytime she tries to talk to me about it or help me with anything at competition or recitals or shows, I just get really flustered and annoyed and we end up not talking to each other. It just seems like both of us are super irritable when it comes to comp. Also, today we were discussing a costume idea, and she asked me if I would like to wear a wig for my musical theatre solo. I said no, but she kept insisting and showing me pictures of different wigs I could buy. I told her I DO NOT WANT TO WEAR A WIG because I have nine routines so a quickchange is inevitable at most comps. I told her I didn't like that she was insisting on me wearing a wig because she asked me what I though and I told her I didn't want to so she wasn't accepting the fact that I didn't want to do it. She got mad, stormed off and told me "just wear what you want" which is what she was asking me about in the first place. So I guess my question here is really whether or not other comp dancers get angry with their moms this easily.

Question: Am I weak for worrying so much?

Posted: 28 Feb 2017 07:29 PM PST

I try not to but my best is not good enough

Question: Should I report this online stranger to the police?

Posted: 28 Feb 2017 07:26 PM PST

My 9 year old daughter played a kid-friendly game that appeared to have strict monitors which restricts players from saying inappropriate content. I found out earlier today that she had a "boyfriend" who claimed to be a kid who's a year older than her. I banned her from the site immediately and explained to her about online safety and how this person is most likely an online predator. I found out today when she asked me what the word rape meant and I never even talked to her about rape before. When I asked her where she got the word from, she attempted lying a few times and finally admitted that she's been talking online and this person has been talking to her about rape! This player hacked the system so they can say whatever they want in the game. I always monitor her online activities and this game has very limited chatting (users can't interact much because of the strict filtering system). She even created an email account and I found inappropriate messages on there. I don't know what to do except to closely watch her and to take all Internet access away from her. These pedophiles are smart - they can even hack electronic toys just as well as games so they can socialize with kids more freely. She is grounded, and the only fun things she's allowed to do is to play outside or join extracurricular activities. She has no idea what she's gotten herself into and she needs to understand that I'm the parent but she will keep talking back at me and trying to get online again

Question: What should I do?!?

Posted: 28 Feb 2017 07:24 PM PST

I live with my drug addicted mother bc I have nowhere else to go. It's my gdmas house but she's frequently out of town leaving me and my mother alone. She brings her bf when he's not allowed and they do drugs together. I'm almost graduating community college, I'm 20. Idk what to do and I don't have nowhere else to go.

Question: Why do we act like a person hitting their spouse is such a big deal?

Posted: 28 Feb 2017 07:22 PM PST

parents hit their kids and we don't blink an eye, so why is it wrong for them to hit each other?

Question: Am I the only 1 who worries a lot, does it make me a weak person?

Posted: 28 Feb 2017 07:14 PM PST

I try my hardest not to, although it feels like I'm doing a terrible job. I'm 19.

Question: Is my family dysfunctional?

Posted: 28 Feb 2017 06:49 PM PST

I grew up in a family of four children. My parents were strange in the way they treated my siblings. My brother was the second born and the most unlike any other member of the family. I remember he never could do anything right. They would put him down for everything. They would tell people bad things about him while he was standing there and behind his back. In his teen years he became unapproachable. He would scream, swear and punch you in the mouth if you came up to him. My only sister was the jem of my fathers eye. He was wrapped around her finger. My oldest brother could never do anything wrong. Even when he did things terrible it was never his fault. It was someone elses or it was my other brothers fault. I was really invisible, no one ever noticed me. I would get beat up a lot by my other brother. They wouldn't notice it unless it was happening infront of their face. He was always so angry all the time. He ran away and reported my dad for abuse. My brother left and has nothing to do with the family. He has kids and a wide. When he left my parents a grief stricken because they have no access to his kids. We are all adults now. I criticied my mom saying ahe shouldn't have been so mean to my brother and should speak about him that way. Now all the sudden everything has become my fault. Their house needs repair and it's my fault even though there were five other people and two grandchildren living there after all these years. Why am I the bad guy all the sudden?

Question: Whenever I say self-degrading things, my mother ignores me. Why?

Posted: 28 Feb 2017 06:23 PM PST

I really do believe I m fat and selfish, because I am. If you knew me, you d believe it too. I tell that to my mom when I cry and she stops comforting me and just ignores me. Why does she do this?

Question: Should an empty refrigerator mean no food?

Posted: 28 Feb 2017 06:15 PM PST

I am living with me mentally ill brother for a year since our mom passed away. My brother and cousin will talk like why is the refrigerator rather empty. I will say I get what my brother wants and he we get fast food or go to restaurants a lot. I feel if I eat my meals out mostly I will have less in refrigerator. Should an empty refrigerator mean we don't eat and is it really any of other peoples business?

Question: Disowned by my family?

Posted: 28 Feb 2017 06:00 PM PST

A few years ago my family disowned me. There was a property dispute and accusations of thieft. I was living in their second home and repaired it because it was a wreck. Holes in the cieling. No carpet just concrete floors and it was an electrical disaster waiting to burn down after 20 years of neglect. It was loaded with junk hoarded through the years. I took it upon myself to dispose of the junk that mostly belonged to my brother. He left me with a huge mess to clean and I did. After 23 weeks of living there I got evicted and left homeless. Aparently the junk had some sentimental value. I spent everything fixing the house to make it habitable. They also disapproved of my girlfriend who is now my wife. They have never met and have never spoken. She met my brother who treated her like crap and she told him off. Every birthday and holiday I would measage them in hopes of starting a dialogue that could lead to paching things up. I was always given a one word measage back say something like "thanks", or, "you too". Also when my daughter was born still I got nothing. They contacted me to wish me a happy birthday after all these years. I started talking to them and was told till I make things right the silence will continue. The estrangement has been painful over the years and was getting better. Now I'm hurting again. Nothing I can do will fix the situation. Why am I so upset over people who want nothing to do with me? Why do I care so much? What should I do?

Question: How can I gain back my mom's trust?

Posted: 28 Feb 2017 06:00 PM PST

I apologize if this is lengthy, but I am sincere with this. Anyway, a few years ago when this began, I bought an iPod Touch with saved money. I was 13. I will admit, & I regret this deeply, I very much abused my right to the Internet, especially at my age at the time. I talked to strangers and sexted with them, among other inappropriate activites that would be a parent's nightmare to see their child engaging in. If I could go back in time to undo my actions, I would in a heartbeat. My mom found out after she took my iPod and inspected it. Of course, I felt my privacy was invaded and I was very, very nervous to await her reaction. I got my iPod taken away for a couple months before I could use it again. About a year after that, my iPod has started to malfunction and my dad bought me a phone (which I'm typing on right now, fun fact!) and I was so glad. Ever since my mom has taken away my iPod, I have been very clean with my actions and have truly changed, as talking to perverts is disgusting. I haven't done anything I'd feel nervous for my parents to see. Despite how I initially felt, I'm eternally grateful now that she did what she did otherwise I probably would be in a bad situation now. A week ago, she asked for my email and Facebook passwords and I gave them. I don't have anything to hide anymore, however I feel uncomfortable when people look through my accounts if you know what I mean. So, how can I regain trust and prove to her I have changed my online behavior? Thanks!:)

Question: Moms would you have done this?

Posted: 28 Feb 2017 05:39 PM PST

I just got home from picking up my daughter at her friends house. Since I did not go in anyplace and was only gone for about 15 minutes I drove barefoot and did not bring my shoes

Question: My 1 year old son fell asleep while latched to my breast should I unlatch or leave him attached while doing homework with my friends around?

Posted: 28 Feb 2017 05:31 PM PST

Question: Surprising 73-year old mother who lives 600 miles away with birthday lunch: good idea?

Posted: 28 Feb 2017 05:28 PM PST

My parents live 600 miles away. I visit them for a weekend once a month. My mother's birthday is coming up in a few weeks, on a weekday. I checked flights, and to do a daytrip without getting home too late, I can fly down, get to their house at about 11:15am and then would need to leave at about 1:15pm for the flight back. I could get my brother (who lives 600 miles in the other direction) to get her to agree to be home then (he gets them to do stuff for his business at set times, and they do it). I could stop at Outback on the way in from the airport, pick up lunch and serve lunch when I arrive. Is this a good idea? What could go wrong?

Question: I am nursing my 5 1/2 year old daughter and I want to wean her right now. I don't know how to wean starting right now. What should I do?

Posted: 28 Feb 2017 05:18 PM PST

Question: My mother keeps threatening me..?

Posted: 28 Feb 2017 04:55 PM PST

My mom keeps threatening me to send me back to my dad (who we aren't good terms with in anyway) just because I've been upset with her because she told me to just accept my pet is going to die, 2 weeks after my other pet died. At the moment i have 4 pets and she threatens to let them go or die; even though she knows they help with my depression, anxiety, and trust issues. She has done worse, but this was the tipping point. I'm 14 and I've been through traumatic experiences since i was 6 all including her or my father. i wanted to know if i could be put into a foster home or something of the sort. My family is sick of me and i know cause i hear them all the time saying horrible things about me. My older brother makes fun of me cause my self harming and my food problems. I've also debating running away or just killing myself cause im sick of this environment since I'm hated at school and I'm disliked at home. what do i do?