My partner said he was talking to a girl on Instagram. He has been verbally and emotionally abusing me for 2-3 years ever since our sons were born and gaslights me constantly so I do not know if what he is saying is true because sometimes he'll lie to "test" me for fun. I went and looked in his DMs and there were no messages. Is there somewhere else he could have hidden them? Or a secret app you can DM through? If he deleted the messages I'm sure she would've messaged him back, he left his phone alone for almost three hours and I checked a couple of times. He has very few followers and following (under 100 each) and I did not see any females that were not family friends or actual family. So do you think he's just gaslighting/testing me again or is there an actual way to DM without it showing up anywhere? I'm not familiar with Instagram. I cannot leave him, I stay home with our children and not being married I'd be sent into financial ruin so I'm staying until he throws me out on my ***. Yes I realize I messed up big time getting pregnant but I am at his financial mercy, I do not want strangers raising my kids as long as I can help it. Yes, it does matter because I'm pregnant (he impregnated me after I told him not to because I knew I was ovulating that week, I use sex to keep peace) and I do not want to have sex with a guy or share towels that may have an STD if he is sleeping around, or pass mouth herpes onto my kids. Thanks.

I'm 30 years old and I have been single for 8 years now. The reason I don't get close to any men is because of the negative experiences I have had with the men in my life. My father wasn't so nice to me. I have 3 brothers and they have all been jerks to me and have made me suffer. The one past boyfriend I have was abusive and controlling. Now in my 30s I find myself being so afraid of getting close to any men. The thought of having children makes me want to cry. A lot of my friends dream of getting married and having children. I feel like I would live a devastating life if I ever got married and had kids. Does anyone else feel the same way or experienced something similar.

He really has always wanted oral, which I don't do for him.  He brings it up and let's it go, but it's clear that he has it on his mind.  The other day he told me that a student in his class (he teaches at a big college here) was worried about how she had done on the exam, and if she didn't do good, she wanted to explore other options for getting a 'good' grade in the course.  I asked him what she meant, and he said he didn't know.  I commented about maybe she wanted to meet on campus, and since no one is around, kneel under his desk.  And he quietly said "If only ...".  I let it go without saying anything else, but I'm concerned now.  He's going into campus next week to 'prep some stuff for summer courses'  I just can't stop thinking about it.  Do any other wives have any advice, ever been through that?  Do you wonder if your husband is thinking of cheating on you?  Thank you. James - you may be a retired teacher, but you are obviously not interested in this, so maybe just stay out.  Plenty of college campuses are open minimally, like for computer lab use

Cabin fever got nothin on ALL THIS! *Smacks Butt* Bring it!!!!!

The filthy liberals or the staunch republicans? The reason I'm asking the marrieds, its cuz those politics guys are SCARY! The worst I got to fear from you marrieds is some seedy history....and that's not so bad if you share it properly.  You with me?

We're not even going to bring up your seedy history!  Nobody askin anyway.  Instead, we gonna talk about GOOD moovies.  Comprende? One of my favorite memories is watching Steve McQueen jumping that beautiful motorcycle over several rows of barbed wire in an attempt to escape from the Nazis. NAME THAT MOVIE! If you can't name that film, then you have no business being married and you're a terrible human bean. What remind me of this you say? Well.....today as I'm riding my beautiful cycle, I was assaulted by a herd of fatties!  GODAAAAAAM!  Don' you guys know what social distancing is? I had to pull some maneuvers to get away from all dis. Please ladies.......you need to hit the gym more.

How could you forget Chinco de MaYO?  We gonna have some fun!

I thought I had an honest friend out of him. But our entire friendship was based on his terms. I'm married and had an affair. I know it's wrong and It makes me a horrible person. I just want to say that this man was the only person who made me feel good about myself he was the only one I was able to lean on for comfort. My husband said he is now making an effort to be a better person towards me and I've seen a change and him going to therapyMy husband had shut me out emotionally for months and months. I was tearing apart inside I needed someone. I let my emptiness and insecurity drive me into someone else arms. I feel like this man used my vulnerability to get me right where he needed me. I don't understand. I've known this man for 10 years but He made up lies about my husband cheating. He told me I was dumb and naive for wanting to work things out with him and he said my husband doesn't love me and thinks of me as only a peace of  meat. My husband and I might have went through a rough patch but I doubt doubt he loves me. We've been through every single up and down that life can bring. It's crazy because the other man was so kind before and now he switched up into some controlling psycho. I should've seen the red flags when he told me he shot his friend in the arm for betraying him. But I brushed it off because I wanted to see the good in him. I told him I want to be a better person and end this affair. I don't even want to be friends with him  He told me if you wanna be such a good person tell your husband you're cheating or I'll do it for you. You promised me sex again and I don't like when people break promises  I never promised him sex again first of all  He's threatening to send my husband nude pictures he took of me if I don't have sex with him. I told him I was sick with the flu to try to get him off my back but he's still been calling and texting me every single day. I have ignored all the texts but I've been getting them  I want to go to the police for black mailing me but then my husband will know right ? I just want him to leave me alone. Why can't he move onto someone else alresdy  Why can't he just move onto another girl. He always talks about how many girls are obsessed with him so why can't he leave me alone and deal with them  Unless he's in love with me? I don't understand why he's so focused me all these other women who can have sex with him and he's harsssing me for it 

Is this fair for an United States women? She wants to marry a European man. He tells her that he will not marry her, because European women have told him that 90 percent of United States women cannot be trusted. This man was told by European women more than 15 years ago that if he does not want his children to be ugly Americans, than he must create children with European women like Tiger Woods did and stay away for United States women.

I live in a townhome community. My neighbors are harassing me because they found out I tested positive for coronavirus. They actually started a petition to force me to leave my home and stay in a motel for my quarantine. My doctor called and told me to come get my cough medicine and they called the police that I left the house. I went on MY PORCH to throw my trash away and my neighbors flipped out. I've had a friend drop groceries off and he's been watering my flowers. I had to take my trash out front of my home and my neighbor complained that I was outside of my home taking out my trash. I have a sunroom it's an outdoor room with glass they complain about me sitting out there it's all inclosed. I haven't had major symptoms sore throat pretty bad, body aches, fatigue, low fever. I'm honestly considering getting a hotel it's that bad. These people are acting like I'm the grim reaper coming to kill them. Any advice? If I'm not coughing I'm shaking and crying. It's so bad I've honestly strongly been considering suicide. I live completely alone with no Family here at all they are all in California and I'm in Connecticut. Any advice? I'm honestly having a mental breakdown almost every hour. Considering checking myself into a psych ward even that's how bad this has gotten. 

His ex is a hateful person and we are glad she is out of the family but we don't want her to convince the 4 kids to hate us. The one daughter who is autistic already does.

So with all this coronavirus stuff going on my step-father brings his ten year old daughter over. When she comes over she has to sleep with me because I'm a female. Anyways I'm 16 years old and I believe that I would get very sick if I get the coronavirus because I have a pre-existing disease. I don't know who she's been around and where she has been because she doesn't live with us I don't wanna seem rude but I don't wanna get sick either. Please give advice on what should I do.

Most of my peers had two kids by 25. I dodged that bullet, and had a vasectomy young. My wife and I are 54.  She was a widow. I adopted her son.  I never had kids before and mostly avoided them except for my friends kids who all love me. Everyone used to say, "you are great with kids".  Well, I have a son now.   Only one problem, there is nobody for our son to hang with.  My wife and I are the oldest (or nearly so), couple in the hood.  Most everyone is 18-30.  How many of them have children?  How about nearly none?  There is only one other child living on our street, and she is half his age. My son is 15.  School is closed. He is new in this hood.

My spouse talks about his work sometimes, and it is not good. A couple days ago he said at dinner, that he will be working in one department and tell that boss that he wants to stay there, when they put them in another department he tells the boss that he wants to stay there, so bosses in each department believe he truly wants to be with them and they "go to battle" to keep him where he wants to be. He does this intentionally because he believes they are all ignorant and he likes to watch them argue over him. He tells me all the time that he is so smart and that he can manipulate them very easily. I started thinking about it the other day and I remembered when he and I were 1st married I caught him on several dating sites and he told me that he never hooked up with these women he would just get them to agree to meet somewhere, then he would not show up and then he liked when they were upset him. He basically wants to be wanted, he wants to be needed, it feeds him some sort of power. We've been married for nearly 10 years and I'm extremely independent and the last several years we've been having more and more conflicts. I am more than comfortable with compromising, communicating, even asked several times to go to counseling. I do truly love him but this behavior of needing to be almost submitted to on a daily basis it's not anything I can or will do. He refuses to go to counseling because he doesn't need it.

My wife posts her naked boobs on Reddit and j just caught her by checking her account so what shall I do?

My wife and I have been married for 5 months.  She gets aggressive when she sees me trying to understand her she is wrong.  Now, you might get me wrong. You might think I dont know how women are. But no. I think I do. I dont criticize her over something childish.  When I criticize her, it's mostly about an issue that needs to be resolved due to things having an impact on trust.. for relationship's sake. I explain everything to her when she thinks I am wrong regardless of how aggresively she criticizes and assumes things given the circumstances. I help her get rid of whatever bothers her about me.  But when I have something to resolve about her behaviour or something that makes me feel really bad, I start by telling her about how it makes me feel. And I read the room. I am a very calm and civilized person. I cherry pick my words. I never attack her. But she gets mad in a manipulating/gaslighting way when I approach to her about how she makes me feel about something. I know she can not be a manipulative person. If she was one, I would be able to tell  I wouldn't be writing this question here. I would get a divorce. This is my situation. I dont want to break her heart. But she is giving me reasons to question things almost everyday. I try to stay calm and not try to bring up everything that bothers me.  When I do bring up the bad ones that I can not stand with the idea, I open up myself. Should I NOT open up my feelings? Is that what relationships or marriages are all about ?

My wife and I both order from Amazon on the regular. We both have prime accounts. Earlier this week I told her I was expecting a few pkgs and even told her what I had ordered. The boxed were delivered today so I sat them on the bed to open later. She comes in the bedroom and starts going through my boxes like a kid on Christmas. When She gets pkgs delivered I don't even tough them cause they're not mine. But when I told her not to go through them before I do she got all huffy puffy like I didn't want her touching my stuff. Honestly, I didn't. I'm one of those people who likes to open my own stuff. I hate when I have to buy a new cell phone because the sales person likes to open the box and peel the plastic off the phone before I do. Maybe I'm just anal about stuff like that. Yeah, I know it's my wife but again, I don't go through her pkgs before she does so what gives her the right to go through mine before I do?

My oldest son (28) just got married and I know his wife's family is much bigger than ours. I have never been married, and have always taken care of my kids by myself. I have another son (24) and daughter (21) My now DIL (26) and I have always had a mutual relationship. In the beginning she damn near lived with us because my son always had her over when she was going through a tough living time with her roommate. She was always respectful, helped cleaned, offered help around house whenever she was present etc.) At the time, my daughter had a very hard time adjusting to her being around. I didn't know for years because of this my son and daughter don't talk anymore. Apparently, for years my daughter had been harassing my DIL via text telling her how she felt and how she felt she took my son away from all of us causing our family to now be dysfunctional. A lot of hurtful things have been said, and when I ask my daughter why she's done this, she says "blood is thicker than water it's bullshit that he treats her better than the family." So, I assume she is upset her and her brother don't have a close relationship, but his wife hasn't done anything specifically to anyone. Now, my son comes to our family gatherings alone and says his wife "doesn't want to be around the drama, and protect her peace" but I can tell he's not even that happen when he's here. Plus he doesn't even look or talk to my daughter after what she's done so it's just silent and an unpleasant feeling. What to do?

Been reading about Oprah Winfrey's life. Stedman went from being her boyfriend and fiance in their thirties to now just referred to as her life partner she keeps around as an accessory or trophy boyfriend. Could you settle for being attached to someone rich or famous without ever getting the title of husband or wife or having children with this person for decades of your life? Also, he has a daughter from a previous marriage. 

I just got home from dropping my husband off at work. Since it was warm out and I did not get out of my car and was only gone for about 45 mintues I just drove in my bare feet and did not bring any shoes with me.

My wife talks to me like that, Like a baby. I hate it so much !!! I don't like it and I've told her to stop. She says it's how she shows love to me. I was raised in a family that didn't show love through words. They showed it through action. My mother never even told me she loved me while growing up, but she showed it everyday. I am not very emotional. Am I doing things wrong. Should I embrace the baby talk? It also slips in public sometimes. I get really embarrassed.