So I got caught egging my college campus and they re fining me $100. It s going to come up on my account as a "vandalism fee". What could I tell my parents it was as to avoid the rath that they would bestow on me if they found out I was egging their alma mater?

The father of my child used to be a great father we shared time with our son and he saw him on a daily basis,he got arrested for selling drugs and was told to attend a 15 month rehab,he got out 2 months ago now he barely ever sees my son.he takes him once a week to get a haircut and he always always buys him clothes & is there financially but to me that is not enough.he says he is so so busy all the time and doesn t have time because he is working on his future and I need to stop nagging about it.before being sent to rehab he was in jail for about 7 months my son is now 3 & his father has been incarcerated since he was 10 months.ive been doing everything on my own.i absolutely do not want to give him the satisfaction of putting him on child support b/c I just don t feel it s worth it.im trying to just accept that I may be possibly continuing to raise my son alone.i tried to make our relationship work (we ve been together for 4 years) but he s made it clear he doesn t care for me.however that is another long story.how can I come to peace with this? Am I wrong for feeling that there is no such thing as too busy for your child? If I ask him to do anything,pick him up from school etc it s "I m tied up right now" still doing the same thing that landed him in his previous position.he has the money to show for it but it s clear he is choosing to be selfish.how should I handle this?

My Grandma , 67, was diagnosed with lymphoma cancer about 4 years ago. Last night we traveled up to see her in the hospital and say goodbye, even though she is out of it, I know it meant a lot to her. Her husband, my grandpa, had a notebook of things she wrote in the hospital while she was still conscious, one of the things was for me to write a song for her funeral because she loves my voice. I'm scared I'll cry during the song, what should I do?

I had plans to see my dad. Booked tickets and hotel. After he told me he doesn't want to know me if I stay in a hotel, I decided to cancel my plans with him. Now my mom is not talking to me over an argument. I am sick and tired of both of them, it feels overwealming. Emotionally I can't handle it anymore. Should I just buy a ticket and go home now? I hate making decisions in an emotional condition like that, they are never good decisions. Plus I'll lose about 1k. Plus I am going to feel broken and lonely...

I have my laptop placed in my living room.I recently pratice painting with Wacom I got.When my dad comes he always asks me "what I'm doing what I'm drawing "it s always upset me alot. I'm beginner on this things so the artwork will suck anyway that why I don't anyone to see it expect it finished.When I'm browsing my facebook He once asked me "Hey! is that a jeans seller groups and I chat with friends he saw texts too longtime ago.Today I asked him that can I placed it in my bedroom? he replied that when I have it in my bedroom I wouldn't interactive with family and also out of parent's super vision. For **** sake I'm 15 right now next month 16 I'm not the brainless baby. I want to focus on work really hard but he ******* watchs movies in every saturday it so loud even I wear headphone He still stand behind me and touch my sholder and ask me again!! Its so annoying. || I know that I'm still young but I want to focus on my artwork .I am trying to build my portfolio if its not real artwork unless it can be just a practice and when it in my room it is my room so I can decorate anyway I want but living room its public . || sorry for my english cause I'm so mad right now.

Therapists say you're paranoid or people Say that. Even if they've done terrible things to you some people try to act as if it's not true. What is wrong with people. My crazy wicked mother has and still abuses me and all I get is criticism for it and she gets away with it.

I ve worked for my family s (mum s) business for 8 years now. My siblings have managed to break free, but since my mum begged me to stay longer (and pay me) I stayed to help her open a storefront. We opened in August and it was the first time in 8 years I was actually getting paid to work for her. The first week I worked open to close on no pay since I knew the business wouldn t be able to handle it. Fast forward 8 months, and I m working overtime to keep up in the kitchen. My mother doesn t listen to me anymore, she makes me stop all my plans to help her, when she is in the building I nonstop am following her around cleaning up after her, all the while being scolded and yelling at and being treated like s***. There is no pleasing her. When I get frustrated or show emotion I m "off my meds" but when she does it she s "stressed" and "needs everyone s help". She s hypocritical and quite possible bipolar and I m 18 with a car and she keeps saying I ll "never leave" that I ll work for her forever. B**** if I worked minimum wage for full time I could pay for my car. I hate how she acts like I ve never worked in a kitchen before and that I m like an 11 year old. I need some help before I blow because this is getting to it s boiling point.

From as long as I could remember I ve always had a not so good relationship with my mother. I have 3 brothers and it s like I m treated like the black sheep of the family. My oldest brother ( who s 33 and still lives at home) can screw up as many times as a human being is allowed to and he s never been treated like I have. It doesn t matter what I do, I always face criticism from her. It s not constructive criticism. It s more like "tear you down for the hell of it" criticism. Throughout my childhood I ve been called ugly, four eyes, and just a bunch of other mean **** by her.I believe she s the reason why I have low self esteem and anxiety issues. She even undermines me when I try to raise my daughter the way I believe she should be raised. I ve threatened to not let her see my daughter if she doesn t stop,but threats don t phase her. No matter what I do it s never good enough for her. She always finds something negative to criticize me about. The way I dress, the friends I hang with, the hobbies I have, the people I date, everything! The other day I went to visit her and she made a joke about my fiancee. My fiancee has been battling spinal stenosis her entire life and it s caused her to put on a few pounds. I can take her criticism of me but I refuse to let her talk bad about the mother of my child right in front of her. Sorry about the typos, but I need some advice and fast!!!!

I turned 17 recently, will be 18 in summer 2018. I've had this big idea of "I want to see the world" for a few years now, and I thought about doing that in the summer of 2018, before I start college etc. My mum died in september, and my plan grew even stronger. "I was born in this world with one life, I don't wanna waste my time and die without having done the things I want to do." So today, I told my dad I'd love to travel (America, Canada, Alaska, UK, Australia) in the summer of 2018 and he got mad? I'm thinking about, when the time comes, just leaving (He can't force me to stay, I'll be 18 the) but I don't know... I hoped he'd actually support me, but it's the complete opposite... What should I do?

Whenever I express that I don't like something or don't agree with something, she tells me I treat her badly and then stops talking to me. It can last sometime. One time it lasted for a week. The stress was so tremendous that my feet got covered in shingles, it went away only in about 6 month. One time I got drunk with heavy alcohol and almost died. When I got my consciousness, she said she was embarrassed to call emergency for me, she was ashamed....there are many stories like that. Until I moved away. So now I flew across the world to have a vacation with her, bought her a condo by the sea, so she can enjoy. Small argument, and she does it again. Now she is not talking to me. What should I do? I feel like packing my stuff and going home now and never calling her again...in 31 years I am sick and tired of this.

Ever since I was 12, I've been begging my parents to let me change my name. Coming from an Israeli family, I was named Hagar- and that was fine when we lived in Israel. Our life now, however, is in Australia ( which we moved to when I was nine years old ). I try to explain how much it bothers me that no one can understand my name pronouncistion or that I always make up names at takeaway shops to avoid wasting time. I know these seem like little things but I feel like it's just not fair. In addition to this, I absolutely despise the origin of my name. The Torah. Yes, I'm Jewish but not only do I lack a connection with my religion, but Hagar in the Torah was a slave who was eventually kicked out and died alone in the desert. They refuse to accept any of this as reason, and act offended when I tell them I'm not happy with it. I'm almost 18, but this isn't something I want to do without their blessing , it wouldn't feel right. I've suggested a range of names - including ones with a Jewish origin that are common in Israel. My favourite is Abigail, which not only means " A fathers joy " ( which I think is very sweet, especially since I'm so close to my dad ) but it also combines my parents names into one, therefore still honouring them. Does anyone have any tips on how I can get them to listen to reason? I'm really struggling with my name

I'm 20 years old. My father (80) had a son from a relationship prior to his marriage to my mother. My brother (60 years old) is coming to our father's funeral. He was estranged from him (as I am), because of severe abuse (our sister actually killed herself because of the abuse 25 years ago. I don't know anything about him other than his name, his age and that he has children who are 10 and 15 years older than me. He is married. I have complex PTSD, depression and cronic suicidality from the abuse. I bet he is traumatized as well. So, my question is: What should I talk about with him? He wants to be in contact with me. What about boundaries? He is also 40 years older than me. This is so weird. The only connection we have towards one another is our abuser.

My mom never has answers for me. Whenever I ask her for an opinion or suggestion or an advice, the first thing she blurs out is "I don't know". Then she might switch it to "do what's best". I always thought the parents are there to guide us and give advices especially in hard times when I clearly can't see a way out on my own. My mom always has opinion for other people, a million suggestions of what and how they should do things and live their lives. And normally she expresses those behind their backs, not to their faces. When it comes to me she never has anything to suggest. I tried to confront her now on this subject. And she said I treat her badly, then started crying, then stoped talking and went to the bathroom. How to handle this?

I feel like I m not their child and they re not my parents. Like we don t have that "connection" as a family. And no I m not some "rebellious teenager", I just have always felt that way ever since I was a kid. Maybe I m not the only one? Does anyone else feel that way?

Well Ive been useing the same things for 4 years..my parents bill has always been around 300-400$,my dad is saying I'm causing the 300$ spike..my dad has mania disorder and compulsivly buys things and uses them ..and goes to the extreme..so instead of having just a ceiling fan he'll buy 6 stand up fans aswell and keep them on all day with the a/c on 73 24/7,same thing with lights..he says they last longer and saves money..but they're not LED lights so they still use power..they are on most of the night cause he doesnt like being in the dark for some reason.and nightlights added to everyroom AND outside lights on .the 10 nightlights and 7 outside lights are on all night .He has a tone of electronics plugged in that he doesnt use with the power on constantly uses the coffee maker like every 10min..watches tv all day and all night..aswell as the coffee maker.He has a mini fridge in his room and we have a normal fridge...I'm trying to get him to see the wasted power but hes stuck to the idea of me using a computer and watching tv as the problem, I do watch alot of tv..but I have always watched alot of tv the same amount of time I have always done but the bill was $300-$400 not 600$..he watches tv 24/7 ....so any ideas which of these is causing the huge spike in the bill?

i am not liking the fact my teenaged granddaughter is "occupying" my apt while I'm not there,eating my food,upping my electric bill.. but this is my GRANDDAUGHTER I'm talking about..a piece of my heart!! but on the other hand,I'm not rich,I'm on a fixed income.. comments,suggestions?? thankyou

My husband and I have been married for 7 years. He has a great family overall. They are really close. However his sister is so rude and disrespectful towards me. When I first met her she was really nice. Overtime she has grown to what I perceive as being very bitter towards me. I've tried to reach out and befriend her. she never calls me back or answers my messages. Whenever she does finally see me, she is always making rude belittling comments about me. Mostly about my looks. She will say anything to embarrass or degrade me in front of people....The thing is when I first met my husband their parents were going through a divorce. My sister in law is the youngest sibling to my husband and his brother so I kind of think she feels that I took him away from the family, which is far from the truth. I've tried and tried to reach out, but she doesn't want a friendship with me. I've talked to my husband about the way she treats me and he really doesn't do or say anything about it. How do I deal with this. I really would just like to punch her in the mouth, but obviously that won't make the situation any better. I'm to the point where I have even thought of divorce. Help?!

Well, to start off I am sixteen years of age. I live with my mother and stepfather in a quaint little town where everybody has extremely strong views on anything you could ever possibly debate. My mother seems to thrive on arguing with me. Every little thing I do and every word that comes out of my mouth she finds a way to start a debate with me about. She's constantly putting down my views and telling me I'm wrong. I feel like she deliberately says things she knows will irritate me just to start a fight. So, today she was discussing something about teachers with my stepfather. She was talking about how she believes society expects too much out of them or something like that. So I told her I believe teachers should be equipped with the right information to teach their students, and if they don't have the knowledge they need to teach a certain subject then they shouldn't be teaching. She went off at me a ranted and raved about how teachers can't be expected to know everything, and how they shouldn't have to do anything outside their job to learn about their subject and it went on and on and on. So when she got done talking I told her that I feel if college students are paying for an education they have the right to be taught what they paid for. If they aren't taught everything they need to know about, say, anatomy how can we expect them to become well instructed doctors that we very well may trust our lives with some day? Well we fought about this stupid little argument for ten minutes before she told me I was disrespectful. So I replied with "Mom, I'm entitled to my own opinion. How is that disrespectful?" and she told me "You aren't allowed to have an opinion. You live under my roof and you're under 18 years old. My opinions are your opinions." So i told her she couldn't stop me from believing what I believe in, and she grounded for two weeks. I just don't understand why she can't let me have my own opinion. I thought everyone was allowed to have their own. So, my question is: Why won't my mother allow me to have my own thoughts and views on the world, even if she feels their wrong? Is it just a mom thing?

Hello. I have a problem. I just can't tell anyone because they'd tell me to get over it. I'm 17, I'm going to college this year and I really wished I could go somewhere far but my parents didn't allow me to. They told me to go to any college which is close to my house so that they can monitor me. Idk it has been years... I had to go through 12 years with verbally abusive parents especially my mother. Whenever I failed she would call me a disgrace, ugly, or stupid who couldn't do anything right. I don't know, I've been the best since elementary school but she would hit me whenever I refused to study. The abuse continued until I got into high school. I know I should have told someone about this but I don't want to get her into trouble. I mean I love my mom but I just want her to stop calling me names :( what should I do so that she would stop calling me ugly names? Please help me :(

Hello there. I m 17 and this year I ll be 18. Is it ok for my mom to check my phone regularly and tell me who I shouldn t be talking to? Yeah I have a couple of friends I met online and I ve seen some of them in real life but she said that I can t trust people I met online and that hurts me so much. I mean she didn t even allow me to text my real life friend who is also my neighbor, and then a minute later she would yell at me to go out and have friends like normal teenager does. Yes, I pay for my phone bill and she wasn t the one who bought me my phone; my aunt did. I think I m older now and I think I deserve privacy, but whenever I spoke my mind she would yell at me :( help me what should I do?

I love mother Nature.But I wonder nature is known as mother nature.But no one consider them as mother.So,why nature is called mother?

my little brother said he was going to kill me for real and shove a knife in my eye. he is 6 years old. i asked him if he was joking but he told me he was going to kill me!!! what should i do?

I'll come home from store and put groceries away and he'll stare and my backside when I'm bending down, or he'll show up right after I get out of shower and smile at me. It's not that I don't love my son, but its strange since his father passed away, he thinks he is the 'man' around the house. I also hear him masturbating in his room, like he wants me to hear him. Our rooms share the same wall and Ill listen to him at night. am I making this out to be a problem when none exists?

Ok there's really no category for this, but I'm putting it in parenting in the hopes of getting a good perspective because there's no way I can ask my own parents. I'm a 20 year old college student still living at home, and my sister is 13. The other day, she found a couple of my special "toys" in my room- completely my fault for forgetting to lock the damn drawer- she asked me what they were and said that she was really confused. (she's had a fairly sheltered upbringing and she knows about sex, but not much that goes beyond the basics) I was able to get away with telling her I had one item for my biology class and the other was a neck massager- I just froze up, I had no clue how to handle the situation! We're actually pretty open with each other and she's more comfortable coming to me with this kind of "girl" stuff than she is going to our parents. But now I'm afraid that she's going to realize what the toys really are and she'll start using them secretly, which of course, is gross and unsanitary. I do have an extra vibrator that I haven't used, and I'm wondering whether I should tell her the truth and give it to her before she starts experimenting with mine. I feel like 13 is maybe still too young for something like that, but I know that even in just a 7- year age gap, the world is a much different place from when I was 13. Kids are becoming more sexually aware at younger ages all the time, so what's the harm in encouraging her to explore her body? It's natural and maybe it will keep her away from boys for awhile longer. It's not something I'm going to discuss with my mother, because she doesn't know about my toys (although I know she has them too, and is not opposed to them) and that would be an incredibly awkward conversation, anyway. If my sister were 15 or 16, I wouldn't even blink, I'd probably just give her the vibrator, but I'm concerned that 13 is still too young for something like that. What should I do? I'd appreciated any advice or input on this! Thank you!

Me and my family have been through a lot. First our father was an alcoholic, beat our mum in front of me and my brother, tried killing us, got chased out of our own little hometown by a bunch of guys with baseball bats, had to leave everything behind and live in a disgusting apartment because we didn't have anywhere else to go plus my mum almost had to give me and my brother up because we had no money or food to help us in that apartment and all that was when i was only 6-7 years old. Me and my older brother promised never to fail our mum but it all got to him and he had depression plus a drinking problem because of it all which ruined him and turned him violent towards us an now at 26 he has nothing , not even a job but at least he has a girlfriend... All the "Have to make mum proud and don't fail" responsibility landed on me an tried my best but i was a failure before that weight was put on my shoulders so there was little hope. When i turned 15 i remembered and fully knew what happened in the past which got to much for me and put me in a spiraling depression and ruined everything. I'm 20 years old now, still depressed, I've constantly failed at everything i put my mind on. School was a disaster and left with no grades thanks to my depression, i'm still an all-around virgin whose only made out with 1 person, only have 2 or 3 friends, I've only had one job which i couldn't keep for a month, only had 1 girlfriend and that was 5 years ago and am now alcohol dependent. I ****** everything up and now i have nothing... i am nothing but failure and a loser. I can't take knowing that both me and my brother, mums only 2 sons are failures anymore.She deserves better. I just don't know what to do. P.S Sorry for this long, boring essay hah.

And murdered why is this?just because they live with mother?

I'm in my early twenties. I was recently laid off from my job and saw myself forced to move in with my biological father. I'm still living here; I do pay a little bit of rent with my unemployment checks. I'm actively seeking work, but it's most likely going to take me 3-6 months to get back on my feet. Anyway, my biological father is trying to take out a mortgage loan for when his apartment lease is up in September. He's prone to cheating the system (i.e. cheating on his taxes, falsifying documents) when it suits him. Last year he tried to take out a mortgage loan but it got denied because he got caught altering his tax returns. So, my biological father has recently started persistently asking me for my drivers license number. Every day he asks for my drivers license to make a copy of it. I haven't given it to him. I've asked him why he needs it and he won't tell me and just gets mad and says he's going to kick me out. I suspect he wants it to fraudulently take out a mortgage loan in my name. It's not above him to try to forge my signature to get a mortgage. This situation is really stressing me out because I'm worried that if I keep saying no to him, he'll kick me out of his house and I'll nowhere to go. So far, I've been doing my best to make excuses and avoid him, but I don't know how much longer I can keep this up. What should I do?

If you were me and you had to pick between living with your biological mother and father, who would you pick and why? MOM Mom is very conservative and religious. She'll expect you to attend church and bible study on a weekly basis. She'll have very strict rules about things like leaving the house, socializing, dating, etc. She'll expect you to contribute financially to the household at least a little bit and run errands for her and your siblings throughout the week. She's a stay at home mother, so she'll be home most of the day. She lives in a small space, so you'd be sharing a bedroom and bathroom with 2 other people. or DAD Dad works full-time and is out of the house most of the day. He doesn't really care what you do as long as you stay out of his way, don't ask him for money or favors, and get home at a certain time (usually 10 or 11pm). He sometimes gives you money and buys you expensive gifts. You'll have your own bedroom and plenty of privacy. He's prone to angry/violent outbursts every now and then.

My grandmother passed away on friday and she was in the intensive care unit of a hospital in Pittsburgh. My older sister just had a baby and they advised her and her husband not to come into the room because they have a newborn baby. My sister now regrets not going in to see my grandmother because she died. I'm not understanding why they wouldn't allow them in. Its not like those doctors aren't parents and have kids of their own. I wanted to find out some answers to help my sister feel better about the situation. Thank you.

I've been loosing friends ever since I was in high school. My family is poor and toxic and I believe that was the root of me developing unhealthy relationships with other people. Because of this believe I've been trying to fix my family so in return in can fix me and then I can have healthy relationships. I thought if I only find my father and start communicating with him (it worked for a short while), then I thought if I only earn money and help my mom move away from her crazy sister, so she doesn't have bad influence on my mom, then I wanted to have a family vacation with mom and dad together, 20 years after he abandoned us. I paid for everything. These days I realize, that none of this is working. My dad still could care less about me. Now he has interest in me only because he sees that I have money and I don't mind spending it for him and mom, he even tries to ask for things here and there. My mom is still a very stupid person, I can not believe we are related, she has no wisdom in anything at all, she does everything in reverse, her jokes are stupid, she has no will power, no backbone, she can never give any advice at all, her favorite responses are: "I don't know" and "you should have". This is overwealning I have to decide, do things and care for her, and if I make any mistake, I'll hear "you should have..". I don't have friends, I used to be too needy, now I'm too suspicious of everyone and can't make a connection. My body language is weird. I am loosing hope...

This Saturday is my Mom's birthday. I am 18 years old, still in high school and work 16 - 20 hours a week after school, so I'm doing okay money wise. I'm making her dinner. Lemon-Pepper chicken, carrots, potatoes, and Caesar salad. I'm either going to get her an Italian Wedding cake or a red velvet cake because those are her two favorites. I'm going to set the dining room table with tablecloth and use the good china. She also really likes candles, and at work two weeks ago they had a buy one get one free on our store's knock off of Yankee Candle. I got her the Whiskey and Tobacco scented one and the apple pie scented one. The thing is I didn't get her like a BIG gift. Last year I got her the Soda Stream, which was like almost $100. But this year it seems like I'm being kind of chintzy.

Today I came home from school in a really bad mood because I had received a detention for being late to first period. I was late because for some reason my alarm clock didn't go off in the morning. When I got home my mom could tell that something was wrong so she asked me what was wrong I told her that she should mind her own business. She told me to watch my tone. I rolled my eyes and then sat down on the couch. About 30 minutes later she came over to me and asked if I was ready to talk about what was bothering me. I responded by telling her, "I already told you. F off!" When I said that she told me to go up to my room, do my homework and then go to bed. I asked her about dinner and she told me that I could wait until breakfast to eat. I am starving! I skipped breakfast this morning because I was running late, I didn't pack my lunch (and therefore didn't have a lunch) because I was running late and now I didn't get a dinner. Is my mom breaking some law by doing this? If I went into the kitchen and got something to eat despite being told not to do you think that would be ok?

I'm homeschooled, and my nanny [shes been with us for 9 years] is also like my older sister. Shes 27. I was walking down the stairs, and heard her tell my younger sister that i was a baby and i was always late, and my younger sister said i was lame, and she agreed. I than said that they were both idiots, and now shes mad? They said they did that to make me mad

I know babies are more connected to their mothers since they usually are more familiar with their voice or touch, but I was wondering how a baby can tell who their father is? I remember when I was a baby, my dad was around sometimes. My mom and dad were never married, and he didn't live with us. However, when I did see him, I for some reason picked up on him being an "important man." I could distinguish that he was different from my mother (the woman), and I sensed that there had to be a man like my mother. I think that's pretty interesting looking back on it.

My cousin is 'high maintenance' I've been noticing these traits: She wears makeup almost everyday, dresses up in either tight dresses or anything sexy. According to her dad all her fri me have very big breasts, she doesn't have anything so she wears push-up bras and gets her dad to wash them for her The other day I saw her she didn't agree or want to listen to her mother so she was just standing there on her phone and turned away from her mom. Last year she told her mum to get out of the house so she could have an 18th birthday part with her friends

I am a grown female with longish hair. I saw posts about similar situations but they were usually because the women had short hair. I don't but I also don't wear makeup. I'm not mad at the kid, just sad that I look like a guy, apparently. I knew I was ugly to some degree but no one seemed to want to tell me the truth. Has this ever happened to anyone around you, whether it was asked of a male or female or has your own kid done this? Thanks for your answers.

They break my heart. I feel nothing but hurt and resentment by their indifference towards me. They always scold me when I do something wrong and never notice all the hard work I put into getting straight A's. I don't expect them to go gaga over me but I would like some attention once in a while like watching a show together or having a nice chat. They are too busy to do that with me. I have friends at school but I just want my parents. I get jealous of my friend because she and her mom do things together. My mom gets distracted or falls asleep and my dad just zones out or gets on his phone when I talk to him. I just feel like yelling and crying when this happens because they make me feel disrespected. I just want to kill myself because of this. I know this probably sounds stupid but sometimes I really need them to be there for me and well they just don't seem to care me.

What does this saying mean? my mother recently said her dad, my grandfather said it and I have no idea what it means

All I really remember is the main guy buys the main girl's little brother Pizza Hut for his birthday and brings it to his school for him and all his friends. I think she may be living alone with her brother because their parents went away (possibly to stay with relatives?) to work and send them money. I know this is a horrible description, I'm just trying my luck.

I have been watching my cousin for the past 3 years who has special needs as soon as I get home from work and also on weekends.I feel like I can never get a day off. Not to mention I work at a special education school with multi need students. So, I am already drained for the day from doing that. Its been such a big weight put on my shoulders since I'm always the reliable one and i feel like I can never go out and do the things I want to do to live the kind of life i want. And I feel like history is repeating itself because when I was growing up and being the oldest out of my own siblings I had to watch them and be like the mom from the ages of 10-17 while my mom got to go out and act like a child. So i never really got to experience a normal childhood. And I dont want that kind of burden put on me again. And its not because of the money or anything its just I want and need to start focusing on myself. So I can have the opportunity to live my life just as Mich,as anybody else and do the things I want to do before its too late.

Literally she complains to me about her gf, but when I need to talk to her about something important she slams the door in my face. 😔 I have my baby tomm and the last thing I need is stress on me while I deliver. I don't know why she complains to me about her gf I have my own family and issues.

Okay, well a couple of minutes ago, my sister comes in and has an attitude over something. I do not know what it is about. I ordered something and brought it to the bedroom we shared. I put it on her bed, but I was going to remove it after sorting out my room. So, she comes and sees it there and she throws it on my bed. I fell asleep, but woke up because she entered the room. My mom ordered new headboards and mattresses for us. Before they came yesterday, her mattress and bed set broke. She was sleeping on my bed because of that. I had no problem. Then, before her bed broke, even if I sat on it for a few seconds, she'd scream and get mad. I'd never behave that way over my bed. Yet, my brother has sat on it and she's said nothing. Now, I didn't sit on her new bed today, yet she complains and has an attitude because of my box being there. She throws the box on my bed where I'm laying down and sucks her teeth. She's also been using my MAC concealer. I have said nothing nor made it a big deal. Yet, if I ask to use her Dior mascara, she'll want me to pay her $1. She'll get very mad if someone uses her stuff. Now, she has a part time job. My brother will be 23 on Tuesday and she said she's buying him something for his birthday. I asked her if she'll get me anything for Christmas since I bought her a birthday present this year. She said, "well I didn't ask you to buy me that present so I'm not obligated to give you anything." I was like wow. She kept hassling my brother and I to buy her something. I told her I wanted something that's cheaper then what I got her (for $22) but she's like no. My brother bought her a hoodie, so she's buying him something too. Then we all have a mutual friend. He wants the same pair of Nike Jordans she wants and she even considering buying a friend sneakers instead of me. I was hurt, because she's willing to spend $185 on him but not even $22 on me. I had a summer job 3 years ago and bought her clothes with my paycheck. I even bought her a pair of Converse sneakers that she lost in her school, so one day she steals mine and uses them. Then she'll use my hair products and dislike if someone uses hers. I've bought her food whenever we went out and she only repaid me back once. I've done this numerous times. I feel like now I should never ever buy her anything with my money nor should I spend a dime on her again. I also feel I should hide or lock my stuff too. How can I go about this? I was crying a few minutes ago because this hurts but I'm sick of being treated that way and taken advantage of. I'm 19 and she's 16. She always uses the excuse "if you offer me something I'm not obligated to offer you anything." Thank you.

My mom was divorced when I was a baby, so I don't remember anything about going through the divorce. I still see my dad, but obviously we don't have that bond that some kids have. My mom got remarried when I was 7. I just can't get along with my stepdad. He doesn't even feel like family. He makes fun of me all the time, once he even flat out told my entire family that I suck at singing (which I enjoy doing, thanks.) I really really try to be patient and get along with him, but he just ticks me off with the way he acts. We just don't click. He's rude to me, and the worst thing he does is when he influences my mom to get mad at me just because he is. For example, today, everything went fine. Nothing happened. Then my stepdad and I got in a little arguement but nothing major at all. So he got all pissed off and took my phone, which isn't really a big deal because I'm not on it much. But then he told my mom that I was screaming and slamming doors, which NEVER happened. So then she gets all mad at me and I can't convince her that I didn't do that stuff. I just can't deal with him. I know I could have it worse, but I can't deal with this for the 3 more years until I go to college.

My aunt is pregnant and she s dating this amazing guy but they live in Cali and they want to come down for the holidays. How would you make the holidays work for them? The boyfriend has his mom who lives in San Diego and all of my aunt close family that she grew up with lives in Washington. Should she do like the classic where it s Thanksgiving with her family and Christmas with his family and rotate? But how would they handle Mother s Day and Father s Day or something like finding out you re pregnant? She s trying to not fly that much cause she s worried about giving birth on the plane

My parents expect me to have perfect grades and be the top of my entire class (literally). I can't relate to my "friends" and can't complain about my grades because they're doing much worse than me and tell me to chill out, but I can't. I want to leave this school, but have no where to go. I feel dumb, I'm always rushing school work and hiding in my room. I'm not even getting bad grades, but they just aren't good enough and no one understands. And my parents don't even get how much stress it is. They think it's so easy for me and it's not. I don't even have a real question I just wanted to rant. I talk to my mom and it just doesn't work out. I feel like school should be easy for me and it's not, and she doesn't get it, at all. And saying just relax and not care so much ISN'T AN OPTION AND I'M SO SICK OF EVERYTHING. I FEEL LIKE SUCH A FREAKING LOSER... wow that escalated quickly.

to whom ever is reading this i am a 16 year old student who has been in a relation ship with a girl for 5 months it took me while to notice but one day she just came out and told me when she was twelve her step father came into her room and put his hands on her sexually she had to go threw this until she was 14 the only evidence i have is her telling me what occurred on those tragic nights i would take matters into my own hands but what good would that do is there something i can do to make sure the person responsible receives time behind bars... her family is unaware of what happen although her little brother woke up to his big sister being molested that is all i have is there a way to make sure she is safe?

My sister has been married for 17 years and of course, there are problems in that marriage. Her husband has annoying ways but he is loyal, kind and loves her and their two boys. My sister has lost lots of weight and ran across an old boyfriend. She started an affair and now wants to leave her husband. She is so happy she could die, she says, but I know from experience she's responding to the attention and ego-stroke of this and that it isn't true love. It also irks me that she had to have someone lined up before leaving her marriage. I guess what I am feeling is a loss of respect for her. She is going to do this just as her brilliant sons go into the later part of their high school studies. I am reacting this way, I know, because it has happened to me. My hubbie did the same thing, but at least our son was only 9 weeks old and knew no different as he grew up. (And good riddance to my ex) but I feel my sister is acting out of total selfishness. Unfortunately, she picks up on the fact I don't support her and I am going to have to say it. What would you do? How would you feel? Do you think her behaviour is okay? Has it happened to you? Thanks

It really hurts me that none of my family will be at my son's birth .. Seems everyone has excuses. My son's dad is making arrangements to come. What hurts me the most is my mom won't be there. Seems everyone putting their problems above my son's birth.

Well, im a girl, and I'm 16 coming to the end of my junior year. Recently we've had at my school a moving up ceremony for the juniors to get ready to be seniors. Well lately my moms been arguing with me over little things saying I don't respect her authority and she keeps rubbing in my face she's in charge but that's a given. I just re did my room and she kept coming in so I made a comment about it and she said well this is my room , my names on the paper work I allow you to be here and all this other stuff and just now I didn't want to try a shirt on and she went off on me saying I never listen to instruction so about time I get a job and go on my own. I have no clue why she keeps arguing with me over power and authority. In return to her arguments I made a statement under my breath that referred to the fact I'm about to be a senior their for about to move out and she got really MAD! I don't know why though she's starting things for no reason. Also if it helps I'm a very distant person I stay in my room listening to music barely around her.

I know this might be a mean or heartless question, but I have to ask. My mom bullies me and talks down on me. She has done a lot of drugs, smokes everyday and drinks everyday. She's still not dead. My mom makes me want to kill myself and she told me to go ahead one day. My dad didn't do anything he had a good job and a good family, but all of a sudden he's gone. He didn't do drugs, smoke, drink or none of that.

My dad is just ughhhhh. He thinks I'm weak because I'm a girl and then women can't handle being by themselves and need some stupid man to protect them. He's always judging what I wear and saying how I should wear something more prettier and how I should "paint my nails" because it looks pretty. Like nooo I don't want to. He thinks all woman should obey their husbands, cherish them in love, take care and have children 24/7 while the men go out and get a job and be the "head of the house". I've told him multiple times how he's being sexist and he yells and gets irritated! I know he's not trying to be sexist, but it's just the way he is. I can't stand him. it's all the time. One of the reasons he divorced my was because our mess was always a mess and she was "disorganized", but that's a whole other story. What do I do? -No hate comments please. correction- "...our HOUSE was always a mess...." Well I suppose you're right. Everyone has a different opinion.

My uncle got engaged over the Easter weekend to my aunt. Well let me explain that. My uncle (mom's brother) has been dating and is going to marry my aunt (Dad's sister). I know they are not related, but it seems weird to me. And so are they going to be like a double uncle and double aunt to me now? Question title should be Everyone is OK with IT but it seems weird to me

I'm so scared of dying and that it's gonna happen I don't want to die I'm only 14 and love my mum and dad so much .

Okk let me rant now. My mom is dating a guy I hate, we're moving to a diff state(ghetto area) we're basically broke. My whole life is falling apart!! Idk how to not go insane. Any ideas on how to stay optimistic?

(Mom and dad are divorced) So today my dad told me when I see him I'm not happy to see him. He then said how everyone else he knows is happy to see him except for me. I'm a 17 year old girl, and I'm more independent now. My life doesn't revolve around him, and neither does my happiness. His girlfriend is in love with him and he's her only friend, so of course she's happy to see him. Why is he being so whiny? He seems to be complaining a lot about me recently as well. Probably because he doesn't want me to grow up, but he needs to get over himself...

we argue every day , and i carnt seem to stop. i am 14 and she is 19. she will just but into conversations that doesn't include her and just pick a fight with me. she can never say anything nice and she thinks she is always right . how can i stop arguing pleeese help 10 POINTS FOR BEST ANSWER! thanks