I met this guy who is going through a divorce. They've been married 20 years & this is the only person he has been with since high school. Having been in a similar situation, I was initially there for a shoulder to cry on, a listening ear, a line of support. Over the few months we have known each other, we have become more drawn to each other. Things have progressed & we have become intimate on a few occasions but we have not had intercourse. I feel like I may be getting mixed messages & I don't really know how to proceed. He is obviously hurting over the divorce & has told me that we can't continue because he doesn't want to hurt me since he isn't in the right place & can't promise this will develop into anything serious. He sometimes goes a week without speaking to me after being intimate, although he says it's because he still feels guilty because the divorce isn't final & he feels conflicted. In the next sentence he will tell me there is just something about me that he can't stay away from, tell me I am a good woman, can't keep his hands off me, wanting to do things for me that he knows my ex husband never did for me, etc. We've talked about this being a friends with benefits/casual dating but haven't discussed in detail the guidelines of that agreement. I am falling for this guy. I just want to know if my feelings are premature, am I setting myself up for another heartbreak or am I right that he might possibly feel more for me too?

I'm having an emotional affair with a single guy. My husband is always working and I became good friends with someone from our church in Provo. My husband is an alcoholic and when he's home he's drunk or passed out. He often sleeps on the couch because he's so drunk. My freidn and I have prayed together cooked together even hiked together. We became closer when my friend was diagnosed with leukemia. I live him like a brother and I've met some of his girlfriends but I'm falling in love with him. These feelings have been happening for 3 years. I sometimes drive him to treatment but I need you to understand I don't want to hurt my husbamd. Once when my friend was feeling sick from chemo I made him soup and he want me to just hold him on the couch. He was in my arms his head on my shoulder and sometimes my breasts. I've been praying on it and I've gone and met an attorney to divorce my husband. Am I out of my mind? All that my friend and I have done is cuddle and kiss. Should I reconsider this?

You meet a seemingly nice guy who expresses interest in you and starts talking to you and inviting you to hang out with him sometimes so that he can get to know you. After you have fallen in love with him, he then lets you know that he's married and tells you that his wife has been very ill and that he doesn't think she's going to make it. Then one day, he calls you and invites you to his house. When you get there, you find both him and his wife dead in an apparent murder-suicide along with a note that reads: "You thirsty, unscupulous b*tch. You are really desperate for love, aren't you? I bet you just couldn't wait for my wife to die so that you could make a move on me. Well, I've got news for you. [Wife's name] is the love of my life and no other woman can ever compete with her or take her place, so I have decided to end her suffering and go to be with her. Therefore, you can just f*ck off."

So we were having a debate about this and some people say spouses should be put first. What examples would you ever choose your spouse over your children?

My husband admitted he has had an addiction to porn since childhood. He claims that because I "do not take care of his needs and do my wifely duties as the Bible claims I need to" that I "caused" an addiction to porn and subsequent relapse. He refuses to accept that I do not cause this. I have a long term illness including chronic pain- how is this my fault that I cant "keep up with his needs?" It led to an affair before

I would never act on it, especially since he's married with a family and I have a boyfriend. Before he was a pastor, he was working at a middle school, so I am sure he's used to younger girls having a crush on him. I am 28, he's 41. I've been going through a hard time lately and he's been there for me and my family. He's been hugging me a lot lately and he's very muscular and smells INCREDIBLE. It's hard for my hormones to not react to everything sometimes. Is it wrong to have a crush on him? Again, I would never in a million years act on it. He's definitely the type of guy I would love for my own husband if we were both single, but he and his wife are beautiful together and have a beautiful family. Stylem, actually, at my church, hugging is very normal. We're non-denominational. humpty, I AM respecting his relationship. I just said I'd never in a million years act on it, I have a boyfriend, and he and his wife are beautiful together and have a beautiful family. Pay attention. E, I have a boyfriend. That doesn't help me get over him lol. I've had this crush for over a year now, but it's been strong lately. HE hugs me. I don't go up to him and hug him.

Me and my wife (22, 21) have been married for the past year, we met and were married in the span of 8-9 months. She lived in Ireland and I was from the US and so I dropped my life here and moved over to Ireland with her to start our lives together. Over the year I struggled to adjust here and there (You know, homesick every now and again) and work was a bit hard to come by, but we managed for the most part and were happy. She worked and then started school while remaining at work, I moved from job to job as all I could find were Temp jobs for the most part. Never a mention over the year of any issues. On 10/12/18 she went out with her parents and when she came home I went to see how her day out was, when her father said we all needed to sit down and have a chat. Thats when I was told I should go "home" for a bit as this wasn't really working out as planned between me and her. Keep in mind my wife never said a word about it, I had to hear this from her father while I sat there. She barely spoke to me before I left the next day on 10/13/18. She did see me off with a hug and kiss with tears from both of us and that was that. I did ask if she wanted a divorce but she didn't want to talk about it at the time We video chat at least once a week to catch up and such but whenever I try to talk about "Us" I get vague answers like (More In Update:) -I don't know if I want to fix things/Don't know if I want to fix things right now -I'm happy on my own for now I think And so on The only straight answers I can get are -She felt smothered -Felt like we didn't "click anymore" -Says she wasn't too happy the last couple months (without a word to me) -Says she didn't like how we didn't have very many serious conversations. There are a couple things upset/make me feel weird though, like (More In Update:) -She says she wants to be there to support me emotionally and such -When I mentioned that my folks wanted to talk with us she got a bit upset saying "This is between you and me" Even though it was not when I was there, I was not apart of the conversation or decision, that was her and her parents. I'm just confused and all over the place and dont want to push her away more then she already feels.

So he wrote these letters years ago (before he and I even met) and saved them on some folder in his email and forgot about them. Well I snooped in his email and found the letters to her, and in them he wrote such passionate things (how he'll always love her, etc). She ended up breaking his heart. I can't get over these feelings of jealousy. I know it was wrong to snoop. I wish I never read those letters. How do I get over this? He says he's over her now (we're married now) but I still think about it every day for a week now. Please can you give some solid advice/wisdom for me to get over it?

Ive been with this lady now for over 2 years. As someone whos been divorced i dont want to say i know a thing or two but rather, feel a thing or two. This lady i have met and have had this time with has been the most amazing of my life. She is what makes the songs sound like life, her touch puts me in a place i cant even fathom words to find. In her arms is my heaven an as a man im not ashamed to admit i just melt into her. She is my soul mate, my lobster and i love her dearly. When we both met we were both divorcing our exs. We did an the plan was to get a place together. My admition to fault here was i chased a dream of being on stage as a comedian during this time, she stayed by my side, supported me and came to some of my gigs, but, the more i pushed into the dream, the 0 time i spent working and taking care of....well anything. I told a few stupid small but never the less damaging lies, didnt work and would often blame her for most things during agruements that arose. In september she went ahead and got the place herself. Thats when things really went downhill. She froze me out, blocked me on every aspect of technology we seem to horribly depend on these days. In the time since sept 8 till now she had dumped me a grand total of 7 times, ive been blocked 23 of those days and she has told me 6 times to move in, then not too.

My wife and I made a financial mistake, and have no savings, high debt, and recently had overspent to where we could not afford a bill, which in turn would overdraw our account and we would be charged a late fee. My mistake incurred, where (since I keep tabs on our finances) I decided I would make up for the money we didn't have by selling her Nintendo Wii we haven't used for the last couple years since we have been married. I figured since it wasn't being used she wouldn't mind it being sold. However, this morning when I went to ship it out, she found out that I sold it, and was beyond livid because I sold it without her permission. She told me she wasn't mad I sold it, but more upset that I didn't inform her and ask. She then informed me of something I didn't realize, which was she was given the system as a Christmas present by her mother that waited over 9 hours in line to get it. I understand her points, and realize I should have done what she said and asked before selling her property to make up for bill money. I feel really bad for selling it now, and want to make it up to her. Right now she doesn't want to talk, which I can understand. However, I want to know if there is anything I can do to remedy this.

I have had serious issues with in abusive Father In Law, which spiraled into negativity with the wife who is idolizes the the abusive father in Law. Me and wife then had counselling, which turned ugly, as she was very negative about it and started blaming me about a lot of things.I was taken aback by the accusations. Anyways, after a bot of distance I started to slowly try and be positive with her again, reminded her of our good times. Till now shes been putting our baby sons picture in common groups, but today she sent me a video after I messaged her a bit. Is it a step positive or am i seeing too much?.

I been dating this guy for 2 years. All I told him is that I feel he dosent communicate and shut down on me, and just think relationship is based on material things bc when I bring of a problem that needs communication he brings up material stuff or cause he is a hard worker(which is nothing to do with it). Last time I bought of communication he told me he had one mother. What does your mother have to do with communicating. Should this be a red flag??

My whole relationship with my wife has been with children and I just wondered if things get better or worse when the kids move out

I know this sounds unbelievably awful, but in my opinion its not as bad as it sounds. I am a 19 year old girl, I have had sugar daddies in the past which has turned me onto the idea of married men, but now I truly just go after married men. I just find it so arousing to captivate a man who is supposed to be "unattainable". Its just fun to me. A couple of my friends have been shaming me and I do not feel like I deserve to be shamed. Just bc its not accepted in society doesn't mean its wrong. Their wives and children do not bother me, I could care less about them because at the end of the day its not my fault that their husbands want to sleep with me. If it wasn't with me it would be with another girl so might as well take advantage of the opportunity. I am more worried about being bashed and shamed for it.

For me I really don't want any relationships with men bc I think they're pointless, bc I could never see myself marrying. I could never picture myself w/ just one man. To me that's dreadful. Hate to be graphic but I also really enjoy group sex so I just don't think the marriage life would suit me. I don't think girls need men in life, they are honestly useless. Am I the only one?

is this weird for an adult male? I grew up the oldest of 10 children, and would love a few of my own, but I can't see myself marrying anyone, a Man or a woman. It's just not for me. I don't work well with other adults. Is this normal? is it weird? Would I even be able to adopt children, or use a surrogate on my own? I'm VERY responsible, and Im very mature. I have a good job, house etc. I helped my mom raise 9 younger kids growing up, so I know what it's like taking care of children everyday. I will probably end up in a relationship JUST to have children. is that bad? wrong? I don't work well with other adults on a romantic level. I'm just fine being civil with other adults. I have plenty of friends, and peers that I get along great with!

My husband and I are becoming more hostile with each other as the weeks progress. Several years ago, I went to the mall with my ex boyfriend while I was visiting his town. My husband went crazy and contacted the guy and told him to leave me alone/delete me from SM, etc. We went to counseling, he claimed he forgave me in front of a pastor too, etc. Recently, I discovered a FB message to his ex s bro saying he has been desperately searching for his ex and that he wanted to know how to contact her. He claimed he left his page unlocked on the computer for me to find to "set me up and punish me for what I did in the past". He also claims that he has a right to commit adultery with porn because I am not "doing my wifely duties as often as he needs". I am sick of him and have the papers ready to file, but I am "not allowed to say the D word" - is this normal? What is his problem that he suddenly digs up an old argument and punishes me later on? He claims to have no feelings for his ex, he sure talks about her a lot, including how great the intimate moments were! Counseling didnt help- the therapist threw us out claiming my husband was too hostile and we were arguing in his office too.

Would she be surprised ? By the fact that he hits her for not performing the most basic house chores, not knowing how to cook, being a compulsive liar etc Its not like he hits cause she won the lotto and bought him a present, he hits her cause she needs to wake up and assume some responsibility and just demionstrate the added value in his life for marrying her. So how would a woman feel if she's hit by her husband for failing as a wife ?

I am married. we have a child. He acts like a fool and I know hes had affairs. He has a public profile so has threatened me not to leave as he wants to maintain the illusion of happy marriage. He trots me out to meet clients and colleauges but has no real interest in me. If I leave he will do what he threatens I am sure. I feel like a hostage - yet with money.