Family: Question: Shpuld I call my mom for her bday or was a text sufficient?

Question: Shpuld I call my mom for her bday or was a text sufficient?

Posted: 15 Oct 2018 02:23 PM PDT

She skipped my birthday and ruined christmas for me 2 years ago and we do not get along. I borrowed money but payed her back, and I am happier not living at home since moving out sometimes I miss jow easy life was but not the abuse because she got very mean, violent, or verbally abusive to me. I feel guilty not calling, but kind of dread calling too. Should I just not worry about it, or call? I'm so unsure and miserable right now unsure what to do and have anxiety.

Question: How do I get my parents to help me and my baby and not just my brother and his?

Posted: 15 Oct 2018 02:21 PM PDT

I'm 21, 7 months pregnant and I currently don't have a job since I moved in with my boyfriend who lives in a different state. My brother is 29 with 2 kids but only sees one, him and her live with my parents while they've been living there they help him out tremendously with her bringing her school, getting her from school, bringing her doctors appointments, staying up late with her while he sleeps and buying her clothes and helping him out with everything else. He doesn't even pay rent. Ever since I found out I was pregnant living on my own in April they refused to help me with anything they just resented me and this baby? They expect my boyfriend and his family to pay for everything. At this point my boyfriend doesn't want me to get a job till after I've have our daughter in December. But I feel like I'm living off him and his when it's mine and my boyfriends kid, I should be helping. But I feel like if my parents can help my brother why can't they help me, I'm not asking for much just the essentials for when she's here so we aren't relying on just one side for it all. But they won't. They won't even buy me maternity clothes to wear. I feel like I have no support on my side of the family when I see their support with my brother. What can I do?

Question: How do I get my parents to stop talking bad about me?

Posted: 15 Oct 2018 01:22 PM PDT

seriously, they constantly talk about me. when im upstairs in my room doing homework, i can hear them talk and fight about me. my bedroom is right next to theirs, and i can hear them talk about me and compare me to others. if i ask them if they talk about me, they say "we werent talking about you, we were just trying to improve your weaknesses" should i talk bad about my parents behind their backs, or should i sue them?

Question: Step-sister hates me?

Posted: 15 Oct 2018 12:48 PM PDT

In June, my dad married this woman, she's cool, has 2 daughters( 19 & 15). The older one is 19, lives at home still, commutes to college, and absolutely hates me. I'm 17. The younger one is cool, if she sees me in the hallway she'll wave or something. The older one won't talk to me unless its stuff like, " Where are the car keys?" " Where's the phone charger?" Now, I get it, she's 20, I'm just some kid, she looks down on me and there's no rule saying she HAS to be friendly, but its just weird having someone in your house who is just this dark cloud of " Don't look at me, don't talk to me" Is there anything I can do to better this?

Question: Did you ever have a small grocery store where you live and love it to death?

Posted: 15 Oct 2018 12:47 PM PDT

Remember how when you was young there use to be a small grocery store where people would not only shop but hang out there? You know the grocery store near your house and everybody knew your name?

Question: Why women get jealous if husband cheats or looks at other women?

Posted: 15 Oct 2018 11:35 AM PDT

Im a girl but why so many women feel bad if husband look at other women or cheat? Why cant we not just care? Like I cant control husband he chooses if he want to look or not but still sometimes I feel bad.

Question: As an adult my Parents have monitored my phone?

Posted: 15 Oct 2018 11:31 AM PDT

To make a long story short, I had a stroke(at 28) and was forced to move home. Because I was so isolated, sad, and desperate for a romantic connection, I got into some trouble talking to guys(one very perverted) online. So, for a time my phone was taken away from me(I'm 34 now) However, even though it was years ago, my Parents STILL act suspicious of me using my phone. Even the rude caregiver I have has made it Her business to ask what I'm doing online and then inform my Parents so "I don't get into anymore trouble." I basically hate this woman lately.

Question: If my moms say i'm a bad dad is it true.?

Posted: 15 Oct 2018 09:07 AM PDT

my moms say i'm a bad single dad. they are woman who raised 4 kids so maybe they know best. i try my best being a single dad rasing 2 daughters. i struggle to relate to them but i try they are still kinda young. i work and provide for them but im trying to play two roles. i could be better but they say i dont do near enough and that i need to stop feeling sorry for myself.

Question: My fiancee's dad wants him to do something that will make our lives more difficult and costly right before we get married?

Posted: 15 Oct 2018 08:26 AM PDT

Long story. When my now fiancee was a teenager, an unexpected pregnancy came about the night he lost his virginity. When the baby was born, he was still a kid himself. That same year his mother had suddenly died and that caused his dad to run away to the north where he started a new life immediately. Yeah, he abandoned his teenage son. After she had the baby her entire family lost their minds and pressured him to stay around or they'd sue. Please believe me when I say neither I or him have dramatic lives and deal with heart breaking decisions every other day. That was just an unfortunate set circumstances that happened to a regular teenage boy. Mistakes were made, but he learned. When he was 19 he got away from her and that family. He wanted nothing to do with any of them, not even the kid. Had he been older when all of this happened, he may have had more of an obligation. Because he was so young and his Ex-girlfrirnds parents took legal custody of the kid at the time, he managed to escape. Modern day: we're in our mid-20's and two weeks away from getting married. Suddenly, his dad wants him go see his ex and the kid. He hasn't spoken to those people in years, and he's expected to just get up and do this for... Whatever reason? When he said no, his dad actually replied with: If I were you, I would do it. I didn't abandon you. Except he DID. Something about all of this feels off. Advice, please? Edit: I didn't have room to add that his ex has been tracking him down on social media, making multiple accounts to tell him he has an obligation to see his child. His dad agrees with her.

Question: Is it right to be mad about this?

Posted: 15 Oct 2018 08:15 AM PDT

So I drive a car that my stepdad bought a year ago for himself. He doesn't really use it because he works and he has his own truck for his job . So my point is the only reason I'm allowed to use it is because I drive to where I work and my mom convinced him to let me use it . I only use it for a couple minutes a day and when he uses it he takes it for more than a hour . So he's basically using up all the gas . I'm just saying, yeah sure he pays for the car insurance. The car is pretty old cause it's from 1998 . So he paid it off. I get mad cause when I use it and use up all or half the gas I refill it and he doesn't seem to care about wasting the gas he leaves it to almost empty. But I mean he is using his car so why have to be mad about refueling your own car . I use it to get to where I need to be and I still will refuel it to use it again. I'm just mad cause he thinks that because I work or earn money, I may have all the money in the world. I don't know wheather I should confront him or just let it be .

Question: My parents are so boring?

Posted: 15 Oct 2018 07:27 AM PDT

Now i know people are going to come at me but hear me out first. I'm a girl who just turned 15 and me and my sister cleaned out literally the entire kitchen today by ourselves because my mom and stepdad are too lazy to clean anything. Besides this, it's gotten to the point where we get so bored on holidays because all my mom and stepdad do is sit in the exact same place all day, everyday. Even just asking to go out to the cinema or out to eat will result in some kind of stupid lecture. Just now, my little brother is downstairs crying about how bored he is. They're kinda obese and ive noticed my brother and sister are getting that way to as all they do is sit around. The only reason im not getting fat too is becasue i stay active and refuse to sit around like they do. When we were younger we did clubs like dance, but now nobody can be bothered despite me asking to join track or dance again i just get told to shup up

Question: What are some examples of how you influence, affect, and contribute to your family, as a child under 18?

Posted: 15 Oct 2018 06:48 AM PDT

Question: What is your role in your immediate or extended family? How have you seen evidence of your impact on them?

Posted: 15 Oct 2018 06:24 AM PDT

Question: My mom says that If I move I better be moving out for the right reasons. Is she right?

Posted: 15 Oct 2018 06:06 AM PDT

She says that If I move out it should be because I want to be able to live on my own and be independently, not just because I don't want her to tell me what to do. Honestly I don't see why someone wouldn't want to move out if their mom or dad is always nagging them idk why it's so bad for that to be among one of the reasons for a person to move out. Or why it has to ONLY be because you want to be independent.

Question: Is this movie appropriate for kids ?

Posted: 15 Oct 2018 05:32 AM PDT

My little sister is obsessed with Rocky Horror she's been watching it everyday she has it on DVD every year around Halloween she starts watching it. I never seen it until she got it I've heard of it. I think shes too young to be watching it yet our parents don't seem to care. She knows everything about it she knows all the songs in it. She loves scary movie's but it's not really that scary it kind is scary to me. I think it's the weirdest movie I ever seen I thought Yellow Submarine was bad this is worse. Also it's really confusing to me too. I don't understand it at all she makes me watch it. I get those stupid songs in my head they're so catchy. She has a crush on the alien guy in it he's her favorite she also likes the girl in it I think Magenta is the one she likes. She wants to be her for Halloween. Is this appropriate for kids ? Also could someone explain it to me ?

Question: I hate living with my mom because of her boyfriend. How can I improve my situation?

Posted: 15 Oct 2018 01:42 AM PDT

I hate hearing my moms boyfriend even his redneck voice is super annoying. He trys to be so extra with his redneck voice. Especially at dinner time, I can't stand his smart *** attitude and how he try's to be funny and isn't. Today he got upset because my mom and I bought the "wrong" car seat for my niece, like whats it to him? It's just a damn car seat but he said "this doesn't work". It works fine just like any car seat is meant to work! He's an a**hole who never answers my mom when she's asking him if he wants green beans or any other food we're having for dinner, like she has to guess what he wants. He acts like he's doing my mom the favor. He always watches his tv super loud and I'm trying to study. He has his own business so he's hardworking and my mom loves him but I don't. My mom says don't move or don't leave school but how am i supposed to concentrate when I live in this noisy unhappiness? How do I get over his dumb comments and personality? I have tried to get over it but I'm so tired and I have found that I just can't. What I just said here may sound silly but it's these little things that are building up every day and driving me crazy. I feel like living here is toxic how do I deal with this? I try to drown him and his tv out with soothing music but it doesn't always work. I need new ideas.

Question: Is a 35 year old man hating a 18 year old girl normal?

Posted: 15 Oct 2018 01:38 AM PDT

My older sister's boyfriend hates me. He's always complaining to her about me and saying that I have an attitude and that I'm a slacker, and I've only met him a few times (though he's been with her for a year). He thinks I'm taking advantage of my sister because I live with her and pay no rent, and he's constantly constantly complaining about how he's sick of me and sick of what I'm doing to her. My sister told me that she and him actually got in an argument over me, and he was yelling and talking over her. She said he escalated to anger very quickly just talking about me. Is this normal?

Question: How can I tell my dad I don't want to live with him and my stepmother anymore that I want to move in with my grandmother?

Posted: 15 Oct 2018 01:32 AM PDT

I can't deal with my dad and stepmother's rules anymore! I am 16 last Monday my stepmother caught me vaping she took my vape mod that cost me $ 80 buck!! I bought that with my own money that earned and she had no right taking it!! She she also took my phone for cursing at her. But that's okay cuz I went to Family Dollar and got me a cheap Android phone for like $30 and bought one of those prepaid Verizon cards and she ain't touching this phone! Last Wednesday I broke up with my boyfriend you're my stepmother heard me crying she came in my room and started hugging me when I told her to leave me alone to get out of my room she said I can come in your anytime I want and if I want to hug you I am going to hug you. I got expelled from school for 2 weeks for smoking in the bathroom and the one time that I skip school one time because I didn't want to see my ex boyfriend at school and I get grounded for 3 months. I Had to spend the weekend with my dad and stepmother and it was so boring!! Yesterday I got mad and told my stepmother that I was going to move in with my grandmother and my stepmother said no you're not I am not going to pass you off on your grandmother she's too old to do with your crap. I said that's not your decision to make because you're not my mother and you really need to mind your own business. I'm thinking about telling my dad that can't deal with his and his wife's Rules any longer and and then I want live with my grandmother!

Question: What would you say if your teenage daughter said, "Mom, you look even more like a lesbian than you did in your high school yearbook photo"?

Posted: 15 Oct 2018 01:23 AM PDT

Question: There is something going with my dad what should I do?

Posted: 15 Oct 2018 01:19 AM PDT

I am worried about what is happening to my dad he is sending me all these weird text messages wanting to share a small bed together when I come see him. What is happening to my dad! Something is going on with his head or something because he is starting to scare me. Telling me he will buy me a new nighty and he wants me. He is my ******* dad! I don't know what to do! Or how to help him? he needs help bad.

Question: Why do I feel so uncomfortable around my dad?

Posted: 15 Oct 2018 12:51 AM PDT

I'm a 24 year old woman and I still live at home with my parents. I have a very good relationship with them, but I'm planning to move out in a few months with one of my friends. It's very hot where I live at the moment and we're almost entering summer. For some reason, I feel extremely uncomfortable and self-conscious in the house wearing shorts or t-shirts when my dad's around. If he is around, I only wear very big, baggy t-shirts and long shorts that cover most of my legs. Even then, I feel uncomfortable when my arms, chest or any part of my leg is on show that he may see. I don't know why this is... I feel more comfortable in public wearing shorts/t-shirts around random men than my own dad. I hate feeling this way, as I want to be comfortable in the house when we're having such hot weather. I don't know why I feel SO uncomfortable. It's odd, and it has been on my mind lately. My dad is a decent man, and as I said before, I have a good relationship with him. How can I let go of this weird insecurity? Why do I feel this way?

Question: My mom keeps telling me I am dumb and she is embarrassed of me. What do I do?

Posted: 14 Oct 2018 10:47 PM PDT

I am 13 and not very good at school. My mom and dad and sister are all really smart. My parents teach at university and my sister is going to university next year. I do try and do my homework and study but don't usually get better than C's. I got my first B in English and I was so happy and thought for once my mom would be proud of me but she just rolled her eyes and asked why I would be so happy with a B when I am the son of a literature teacher and it is an embarrassment for her as a teacher that I don't try at school. I got upset and told her I really do try and she says well you cant be trying or you would do better and if you are trying and this is the best you can do then you are just too dumb. I told her and dad the next day that I was really upset at this and told them it is affecting me and she just laughed and told me to stop watching Dr phil because I am not a psychologist or something. I hate being so dumb. I feel so good for nothing. I cant do anything right

Question: How old are you, and what songs or musicians / groups do you associate with going to thrift shops with parents / friends when younger (0-18)?

Posted: 14 Oct 2018 10:34 PM PDT

" wtf " isn't an acceptable answer Bob, I'd expect better from a Level 7 user to be honest.

Question: Do black people have babies with other races so their babies will have nice hair and lighter skin?

Posted: 14 Oct 2018 09:12 PM PDT

Question: Is this type of tickling abuse and is this normal?

Posted: 14 Oct 2018 08:56 PM PDT

I don't normally seek advice or counsel from Yahoo, but I don't know where else to go at this point. I've recently started my second year of college as a commuter, and as I am beginning to view things in a different light, I believe my dad is abusive. It may seem silly, but he used to pin me and aggressively tickle me until I couldn't breathe and thought I was going to vomit. I would scream for help and tell him to stop but he wouldn't until my mom intervened. It was like he felt powerful when he could pin me and control me. He doesn't really do this often anymore (thankfully). What he does do more often is yell and call me horrible names. I've started to move into a serious relationship with a young man. We both have solid morals and treasure our faith, but my dad can't seem to handle this. He freaks out and threatens to keep me in the basement and not let me leave the house. He has shoved me, held me to the wall with a fist in my face, and even pushed me off of my bike. Eventually he will calm down and apologize, but he will just do it again in a week or so. *I will continue details in comments cause I ran out of space...* So... I don't have a clue what to do. I don't want to report him because my mom and I need him. We really do love him, but I'm scared of him and of the longterm effects this might have on me. Anyone have experience with this or have advice to give me to cope and make the best of this situation? I seriously would appreciate it. Thank you in advance!

Question: I think my mom is an alcoholic. What can I do?

Posted: 14 Oct 2018 08:21 PM PDT

I am 14 and live alone with mom. I have started to realise that she is an alcoholic. She doesn't drink every day, but certainly most days. She works part time and on the days she doesn't work, she will usually start drinking before lunch. Sometimes it's not a problem and she is just cheery, but other times she is angry (usually in the mornings when she is hungover) and she rarely gets up before i go to school. I never know what mood she is in when she gets home because if she has been drinking a while she is usually impossible to talk to. I suggested to her on the weekend that we should go out and not drink and she got really defensive and angry and sent me to my room. I don't know what to do because I am scared to bring it up with her but I think she needs help. Dad isn't in the picture. Any advice please? Thank you everyone (except the mean trolls. I am not a brat). I am looking up the sites and will talk to my school counsellor. The rest of you were all very helpful

Question: Why do I cry every night about missing my parents and family even tho I still see them everyday?

Posted: 14 Oct 2018 08:09 PM PDT

I cry a lot before i fall asleep about missing my parents and family and I get sad when we aren't together at times too. I don't know why or if there's a name for it or why I cry about it when I see them everyday. I just turned 18z

Question: Am i a bad person for not wanting my dad’s girlfriend and her daughter to live with us?

Posted: 14 Oct 2018 07:13 PM PDT

so my mom and dad got separated and divorced earlier this year, and my dad recently met someone and started dating her. i only met her and her daughter twice before my dad told me they were moving in. i now have to share a room with the daughter and i have yet to sleep in my room since they moved in (i stay the night at a friend's house, sleep in my sister's room when she's not home, or on the couch). i'm a very quiet person and i like being alone and having privacy, but i rarely get a lot of privacy since when i'm at my mom's house i have to share a room with my little brother (but i don't mind that as much because i have known him forever and we get along, also it's in a space that i've only known as our bedroom and not just mine). i wasn't against them moving in, and originally i wasn't against sharing my room either, but i've been getting a lot more anxiety about it, especially being in my room. i guess i can say i'm okay being in my room when it's not just the daughter and i in there, but it's unrealistic to expect that someone else will be in there just because i have anxiety about sharing my room with a person who is practically a stranger. i don't know what to do about this now and i feel like i can't even go in my room at any time while she's in there because i feel like i'm invading her privacy

Question: Childhood exploration.. please help am I overthinking or what? No negative or dumb answers 10 points best answers?

Posted: 14 Oct 2018 07:01 PM PDT

I know when kids are young they sexually explore, not knowing right from wrong etc. when I was younger I was about 9 or 10, my little cousin told my aunt I was touching her down there I guess. I didn't mean any harm we would tickle each other down there "tickle tickle tickle" it was no force or anything. She's about 3-4 years younger than me. My aunt pulled me to the side and said are you touching jane(fake name) in her private. I was like we all always tickle each other. We are both females. It's crazy because even tho jane is younger, she started that tickling each other privates when we were kids. So when she asked I said we all always do that. And she was like that's not how you play or something like that. She didn't really make a big deal about it. I always see them we always talk etc. It's been like 10 years since. but i was raped as a kid by my 16 year old male cousin in my sleep and I told my parents right away. They wanted to call the police and kill him. Years go by and I just came out to my parents and let them know how it truly has bothered and traumatized me all of these years. When my little cousin and I tickled each other it was no malice intent. But I'm afraid my little cousin will do the same even tho they never made a big deal out of it from the get go. I do suffer from depression and anxiety and overthinking a lot. I have been suicidal and on meds in the past. Please help.

Question: Why does my mom have such a bad temper? Why does she always get on to me?

Posted: 14 Oct 2018 06:34 PM PDT

I bought something from my step brother for $20 only to find out that it was worth $15. I told my mom about it and I told her that I got ripped off, and she started being mean and got angry in front of everyone in the room and embarrassed me. Why does she do this?

Question: Thinking about being less dependent on parents, are these changes rational to you...?

Posted: 14 Oct 2018 06:10 PM PDT

Alright, so I'm 15. I'm a black belt, a football player, and an AP student. I value masculinity, independence, and logical reasoning. We just had dinner with my mom, dad, and mom's friends. Mom and her friends kept taking jabs at me, but when I explained why they were wrong, they either made fun of me or told me to calm down, even though I'm calmer than them. Sometimes, they got angry and told me to respect them, and that they're authority. Also, they exposed the fact that despite trying to be self-serving and tough, I still ask the help of my parents, when I said soreness after exercise makes me stronger, they said that I ask for Mom to drive me from practice. I will admit, I've started to become slightly sexist over the years, and I value common sense over authority, plus I challenge the idea they should have authority over me in the first place, so this made me feel terrible. I'm thinking about stopping some of the things that make me dependent on them, to show I don't need them. I want to stop asking my mom for rides to and from school, and I want to learn how to cook myself various foods. Although there are many things I can't legally do with money yet, like pay taxes, I want to get a job and learn how economics work so I can manage my money for myself to some degree (despite the fact that they took all of my money, I still smuggle some). Plus, decreasing dependency on my mother will fix a problem I have with dating, I care too much about what women think.

Question: Mom cant accept when shes potentially wrong?

Posted: 14 Oct 2018 05:08 PM PDT

She findd a way to feel satisfied that shes right whether by sarcasm , self deception etc. I guess ill let sleeping dogs lie.

Question: My mother is angry at my Dad for having a job and working. Why would this be a marriage problem?

Posted: 14 Oct 2018 04:58 PM PDT

I thought not having work would be what causes tension, not having it

Question: My mother has a brother who is having an affair. Should he be reported for this to the extended family?

Posted: 14 Oct 2018 04:57 PM PDT

Question: How do I get my brother to stop stealing checks from our parents?

Posted: 14 Oct 2018 04:57 PM PDT

Question: Everyone blames me for my mother's drinking (alcoholism) cause I am her son. No one talks to me anymore. How do I go on when I am hated?

Posted: 14 Oct 2018 04:51 PM PDT

I sometimes think about suicide. I am 22 and not living with her anymore but everyone in the family still blames me so I am alone. Friends don't bring me joy, family does.

Question: My adult half-sister is pregnant with my step-father's baby, Is this incest when she is not from my step-father part of the family?

Posted: 14 Oct 2018 04:45 PM PDT

So my parents divorced and my Dad remarried a lady shortly after and they had a baby, this half-sister. They later divorced. My Mom remarried as well and is still remarried until she died 8 years ago. My step-father began going out with this younger woman who is my half-sister from my Dad and former step-mother. She is pregnant now and he is the father. She is 32 and he is 62. Is this incest?

Question: How can I be happy when my parents are getting divorced and did my Dad have an affair or does it not count?

Posted: 14 Oct 2018 04:42 PM PDT

My parents split up after Christmas last year. My Dad was an alcoholic but got help like Mom demanded. She still doesn't want to be married to him, They split at the end of January but haven't officially announced they are getting divorced yet. Mom says "we will see". Now I learned my Dad slept with a woman that his sister is friend's with. They were on a business trip and all at the same hotel in Washington, DC area where the US capital is. We live in Minnesota so far away. My cousin says my aunt said that my Dad and her friend got in the bed twice. I also know they took a one day road trip to see my aunt back in August. So how do I be happy and is Dad cheating on my Mom or is cheating, an affair, only when your living together and having sex with someone else? My parents are separated but not divorced yet. Is this an affair?

Question: Regularly my Mom gossips to me about my loved ones. How do I get her to stop?

Posted: 14 Oct 2018 04:31 PM PDT

Question: How can I get Dad to stop hitting my Mom when he is mad at her?

Posted: 14 Oct 2018 04:19 PM PDT

Question: Rude much?

Posted: 14 Oct 2018 03:36 PM PDT

My bf was on the phone with his sister and he asked her a question and replied "I didn't know if you was gone be at home with that baby" our son we just had not even a week ago? How should I handle this? Would I be wrong for keeping my baby away from the dads side of the family

Question: My mom makes me feel awful and threatens to move out away from me and my dad. I am recovering from anorexia and it’s not good for me. WSID?

Posted: 14 Oct 2018 03:27 PM PDT

I am a 13 year old girl, I think my mom caused my eating disorder and just depresses me what do I do☹️

Question: What effect do issues of space have on the way your family communicates with one another?

Posted: 14 Oct 2018 03:18 PM PDT

Question: Should i feel guilt for shutting out my parents?

Posted: 14 Oct 2018 03:00 PM PDT

OK, so I am 25, live on my own, support myself, life is great. In the past, i've always been good about keeping in touch with my parents. I feel like it is my way of saying thank you to them in a way. They were a bit over protective when i was living with them, which annoyed me, but i've realized they have done a lot. As of recently, i've sort of cut the rope (certain details of this i will not discuss) but basically ive been gradually pulling myself away. Long story short, they wont listen to something from my point of view and its causing a huge disconnect. I've never truly been emotionally attached to them. i don't text them, and its been around a month since i've talked with them. I just want thoughts on this, i already sort of know my decision deep down, but has anyone ever been here before? Is there a better approach? I know there could easily be a solution but back to what i said previously, they wont listen. id appreciate any comments. this might sound childish and ridiculous, but its me regardless. thanks!