Family: Question: Why am I afraid to tell my mom she almost poisoned my daughter?

Question: Why am I afraid to tell my mom she almost poisoned my daughter?

Posted: 23 Oct 2018 02:29 PM PDT

My daughter is allergic to peanuts, and of course everyone in the family is aware of this. My mom put together little Halloween baggies for my daughter and my other kids, and they all had Mr. Goodbars included in them. The adult thing to do is to tell my mom about her error and to be more careful in the future, but for some reason I'm terrified at the thought of doing that and find I'm preferring to just pretend it never happened. What's my deal?

Question: Hoe do I do damage control when I asassinated someone’s character?

Posted: 23 Oct 2018 02:05 PM PDT

my sister has been mean to me whole life and we have had some good times but she purposely hurt me when we were younger and it was malicious. Recently she msgd me to stop making political posts on FB because it makes me look stupid. I thought our relationship was going well,especially since we'd talked the night before.. She said I wasn't popular and this would make me get hated even more. I did such a big eye roll when I read that because I like having few close genuine friends rather than hundred not so intimite ones like her. Both are close to a particular cousin and I accidentally told her what my sister really thinks about her which aren't good thoughts and personal. They are frnds. My sister is even more close to this cousins sister. Both sisters talked and she told her everything and the closer cousin told my sister about it and now I am in trouble. My sister told my brother this and said she wants to kill me.That's how mad she is. But I'm mad at how I was treated as a kid and mad about her message to me about not being popular. My brother doesn't want anyone to know he's part of this or leaked the message out about the cousin telling my sister what I said about her sister. I'm sad,upset and scared. I shouldn't have told my cousin those personal inner thoughts. I feel awful. My sister will only tear into me and rip me apart if I say anything to her at this point. My cousin promised not to tell anyone. I'm doomed and hate myself. Please don't make me feel worse.

Question: Is this weird?

Posted: 23 Oct 2018 01:12 PM PDT

For the past few months, my mom has been nagging me to move out. Today, I told her I'm moving out, and she burst into tears and started begging me to not move out

Question: Do I pity myself?

Posted: 23 Oct 2018 01:02 PM PDT

My mom was sick and upset today and when I was on the way to class at 11 cause I do online school she lashed out at me telling me to get my work together and I said "Okay" but she went on for a good 30 minutes repeating the same thing which I understand cause it's on my part but she doesn't need to keep repeating it. She told I treat her like crap and I apologized in the parking lot and class didn't start yet so we went to get a drink and she said that she told my biological father to lay off till I'm older. And I got upset about that cause she said he could contact me but she lied behind my back for the past year the other years she stayed with her word. And I said "He's my biological father though." and she said " Well he gave up his rights" and then I said "It's not really fair though.." and she said "Then go live with that ba*****..." And then on the way she said "God I hate this life" "I'm just going to go swallow pills and kill myself" "I want to leave this family" and that hurt and she said that I don't love her and she also said "Aww poor you I'm so horrible and I have a good life" and it hurts it really does because I care but I hate when she says things like that do I pity myself?

Question: Mom wants me to leave,What should I do?

Posted: 23 Oct 2018 12:53 PM PDT

My mom has been telling me to leave home when I turn 16 for a long time. She has never officially kicked me out but has tried to send me away to live with my dad who lives in a different country (and doesn't want me) and my grandparents who are in their 70s. Now that I've turned 16 it's gotten more serious. I am in the biggest exam year of school and I'm hoping to get into university. However I've gotten depressed and fallen behind on school work due to constant arguing with her. I'm not a bad student, I try hard, I don't get in trouble, And I never have in school. Yet every few weeks she tells me to leave home and calls my dad asking him to let me live with him. When he refuses she say I can live with her but tells me she hates it and wants me to leave, and I'm too expensive. She also claims that I bully her, which I don't know how as I stay away from her as much as possible. It's at the point where all my friends want me to speak to the school about it but I'm worried it's not serious enough as she has not actually kicked me out ,but I am scared that she might. Am I overreacting?

Question: Will anyone be my dad?

Posted: 23 Oct 2018 12:36 PM PDT

i've wanted a father figure for so long. i grew up with someone who was abusive to me, my sisters and my mother. i left a while ago. i now live in a hostel and my need for a father figure is growing. i'm not sure if it's bevause i'm so alone and unhappy within myself. every time i see older men who have kids, i automatically wish that i was part of their family, even if i know nothing about them/ the father. i am 18 in under a week so adoption isn't really an option. people say that i'm looking for a "father figure" but i just want somebody to be my dad it's weird, but i'm open to any advice :)

Question: What would happen if I called the annual family reunion a homecoming next year?

Posted: 23 Oct 2018 12:23 PM PDT

Question: My sister is cruel.No one in the family likes her. Should I feel sorry for her or just consider it self-inflicted behavior since she's bad?

Posted: 23 Oct 2018 12:23 PM PDT

Question: My mom seems to want me to be miserable?

Posted: 23 Oct 2018 11:12 AM PDT

Ok I am 23 years old still living with her I bring in social security money every month but I hate having to rely on her with money she wants me to get my license first said well do driving this week though we been saying that if we don't soon I plan on doing everything without her I am on a diet I wanted to get 2 boxes of protein bars I did she gave me an evil look instead of saying no which is ok to say no if it was my own money I wouldn't have to put up with this I'm trying not to swear since this is the internet my plan is to walk to a few places to apply to if she doesn't want to help she can't keep me trapped like it seems what she wsnts again I hate having to rely on her there are many times I almost told her but I don't want to start a fight.

Question: Grandmother bought 2 burial spots for me and my sister after brother died and father passed away a month ago?

Posted: 23 Oct 2018 10:58 AM PDT

Out of my ma, my aunts, uncles and many many cousins and a half sister, my grandmother bought 2 burial spots after I lost my baby brother to a suicide. My half sister didn t wanna say anything about it but after my father died, my grandmother felt the need to inform us and tour us to our forever plot after impending death. She is a 85 year old woman who I m sure is probably going a bit senile but feeling awfully disturbed at this point morbid gesture to physically walk and show us to our burial spots, something tells me that because of my brother dying and coming from an incredibly dysfunctional family that I guess we are kinda expected to die or fail in some sort of way.. Is there a way that I can tell them that this makes me feel uncomfortable without offending anybody?

Question: I’m not sure what to do?

Posted: 23 Oct 2018 10:33 AM PDT

Ok so basically I was abused mentally and physically after I turned 10. for a few years I was even forced to raise my siblings as my mother had a drinking problem. I was blamed for nearly being molested by my mothers friend of which she took his side and had even made me stay in the same house as him. I have always known my mother had hated me since I was younger, She has even excluded me from my siblings many times and has huge expectations of me and chooses to blame me for all her problems. The year before last she had forced me to move to another country, of which she begged me to come back and so I did and she has started again with threats and calling me all sorts of names. I've been forced to mind her kids constantly while she does what she likes. I don't want to go to social workers because I don't want to moved away from my siblings.

Question: How to deal with husband and daughter who have depression?

Posted: 23 Oct 2018 10:03 AM PDT

I am feeling so overwhelmed with my husband who was diagnosed with severe depression and might even have bipolar, because he goes from kissing and loving me in the morning to yelling and cussing at me in the afternoon. He went to counseling and was on medication for a while. He is no longer on meds but his work has been extremely stressful, so he has been mean to me a lot lately. My 16 year old daughter who has been really mean to me was also diagnosed with depression. I have been very loving to both my husband and kids. I am afraid to discipline her because I was afraid she might commit suicide, since I found out she was cutting in the past. I am also afraid to confront my husband for being mean/rude to me because I am afraid he might commit suicide. I live in fear and let people walk all over me because I don't want them to die if I complain. I myself feel so depressed right now, feeling like a door mat, can't get them to get help, and I have read books, gone to counseling, etc. I still feel so down every time they are mean to me. I feel so overwhelmed, don't know what to do. Suggestions? Thank you!

Question: Can I adopt on of my students? I feel so stupid that I didn’t see this sooner. Help, what can I do?

Posted: 23 Oct 2018 10:00 AM PDT

She then told me that it hurts when she pees. I was assuming it was a UTI. I asked her to come back and tell me how she's doing once the weekend is over. She told me it doesn't hurt anymore. I took all the students to the bathroom so that they don't ask during class but she said she didn't have to go. After we get in the class she peed on herself and a bit of blood came out. I asked why she didn't go to the bathroom and she told me because it still hurts when she pees. I ask her why she told me it was gone and she said that her mom told her to tell me that. I tell her that she shouldn't be bleeding and if she hurt her private part or if someone else did. She said her stepdad and big brothers, 24 and 26 did. I asked her if her mom knows and she said that her mom told her not to say anything because then her brothers and stepdad have to leave. I reported it and they removed her from the home. Her foster parents have been dropping her off and picking her up late. She's been sleeping inclass and has stopped doing her homework. She said her foster siblings are mean to her and her mom has given up her rights without hesitation. Yesterday she said "Mrs. __ why can't you be my mommy?" I love all my students and try to make sure they're safe. I feel so stupid that I didn't realize sooner. I want to know if I can adopt her, if there's any extra thing I'll have to do. I have my own place, my husband dead I make good money and I trust him and he doesn't mind adopting her. Thanks.

Question: Since my sister is a bad narcissistic teenager do I have to ever be nice to her?

Posted: 23 Oct 2018 08:55 AM PDT

Question: How to forgive yourself after a drunken mistake?

Posted: 23 Oct 2018 08:06 AM PDT

I'm 21 and I was drinking in the comfort of my own home. My step mom and sister had just gotten home. As I was laying on the couch passed out I threw up on my step mom's rug. I was so completely out of it to where I couldn't make it to the bathroom. I honestly didn't feel my stomach rumbling. To make the matter worse my step mom and sister cleaned up my puke. Then I threw up on the stairs. Now when I woke up this morning and remembering what I did last night. I feel so awful and terrible. I never apologized so much in my life. I apologized to my step mom and told my her I would pay for the rug to get cleaned. Then I called my sister to apologize and she was so pissed at me. She told me I didn't have the courtesy to make it to the bathroom and I just puked anywhere. I honestly didn't mean to do what I did. I feel so awful and irresponsible. I cried so much this morning and I just can't forgive myself.

Question: Uncle has been telling family that I've lied about him molesting me since I was little boy and my family doesn't trust me.?

Posted: 23 Oct 2018 07:20 AM PDT

Should I just end my own suffering because no one will help? I can afford any therapy or self defense classes. I can't even stand to be near men anymore and it's ruining me

Question: How do I stop obsessing over the war in my Mom's family between my narcissistic aunt and her siblings which include my Mom?

Posted: 23 Oct 2018 06:51 AM PDT

Both sides maintain it is a just war, it is a war in which good shall prevail. They say they are simply being truthful and not masking stuff anymore, both sides say that. It is like the third world war. Cousins turning on cousins at the order of their parents. My parents ordering me a year ago not to speak to the offspring of my enemy aunt. Her ordering her children not to speak to their aunt. The uncle getting drunk when he had to see everyone. The narcissistic aunt devoting Thanksgiving to her self professed hatred of her son who is more like his father, her ex while showering praise and awe and gifts upon her two daughters who make her majesty shine. An even larger battle will ensue when my grandmother dies in the coming five years. Do we shine the narcissistic aunt and make the funeral all about her, or do we me have normal and make it about my grandmother. Do we say hello and act nice to narcissistic aunt or do we shun her and her enemy offspring? The great war over narcissism. How do I stop obsessing over this battle of the narcissistic aunt? Ans yes I am an autistic OCD nutjob like people on here say but can't help it. My only posts are about this narcissistic relative other then three weather related questions and a Halloween question. It is why I joined Yahoo Answers last year.

Question: Am I being mean or acting appropriately?

Posted: 23 Oct 2018 06:35 AM PDT

So my older broke like 3 of his phones purposefully and has no device to use. He has a habit of doing this when things are not accustomed to how he sees fit (mind you he's 18 and I'm 16). He started asking me to use my phone I saw no prob with it at first I let him use it for a couple hours one day and then the day after that I let him use it for five consecutive days. Since then though he continues to beg for me to let him use it to text, listen to music, etc. as if I'm obligated. Even after I let him use it for hours and get it back he has a snarky remark or attitude. So recently I haven't been letting him use it album he will ask me literally every other minute. Am I being mean? It isn't my fault he broke all his phones why should I be subjected to his mishaps? What should I tell him? Thank you.

Question: Anyone a Phlembotomist?

Posted: 23 Oct 2018 06:30 AM PDT

Anyone a Phlembotomist? Wha are the normal hours you work? Is it possible to work only like a 9-2pm schedule? I have two small children and need To be home to pick them up from school Is this is good choice of work if I need to work those hours?

Question: Toxic family cycle?

Posted: 23 Oct 2018 06:24 AM PDT

so I was just wondering how you guys would handle my situation..I don't have ANY friends and my family is really toxic. I really want to work and try getting out of here but I have bad social anxiety 😞 everything I want do feels wrong. I live with my mom- who's a complete narcissist (&ruined my confidence) and older 24 yr old sister who is a visual representation of what narcissist parents can do to someone. My sister has only worked 6months in her entire life and suffers from depression. I'm constantly surrounded by negativity and the times I want to go to the beach or do something I feel awkward cause I'd be alone. It's just really hard to get out of this destructive state of mind. I got into an argument with my sister over the weekend and my mom called me yelling at me talking about how tired she is and I need to get a job. I told her I had put out several applications that morning and she told me"WELL HURRY UP" without a word being said to my 24 yr old sister who is homeschooled in college, sits inside all day as well, and has no job. Anyways. I might have a chance at getting a part time job this week with about 20 hours/week at a Ross store and I was also wondering if I should take it or wait for a full time offer? I'm super nervous for no reason..but determined to get out of here

Question: My father called my brother SWEETIE and BABY?

Posted: 23 Oct 2018 05:04 AM PDT

I'm a girl, 15 years old. My brother is 21. He had an argument with my dad days ago. My brother said to my father "You don't really care about me. Sometimes I feel you've never really loved me" and suddenly he started crying which was really awkward because he never cries or shows any weakness. I started laughing (which was wrong) but my father was really touched by my brother's reproach. He hugged him and then he said: "Of course I love you, I love you very much. Don't cry SWEETIE you're still my BABY, you know that" and my brother cried on my dad's shoulder like a toddler!! Then I laughed even more!! My father has not called him by words like these ever since my brother was a child. My dad always calls me sweetie and baby but then again I'm a girl and much younger. What do you make of this? Isn't that quite weird and do you think my father is crazy?

Question: Am I being really mean doing this?

Posted: 23 Oct 2018 04:17 AM PDT

So, the past few times I have been going on holidays with my parents. I am in my mid 20's at the moment but I am all they have got left now and they really enjoy going with me. The last few times we went on holidays was a disaster, mum got sick once and then the last time we went my dad got sick too and ended up in hospital abroad. When this happened my other siblings were calling me abroad and giving out to me for it and it had nothing to do with me whatsoever. I was so angry and felt like my holiday was being ruined by their selfishness every time. The thing is getting them now is their age, they are both 70. We are meant to travel for Christmas abroad again for 2 weeks to the sun. I don't feel happy about going anymore because of the constant drama every-time and id rather spend Christmas here with my friends and go partying etc. What should I do?

Question: My mom said if i smell bad then my husband will cheat on me?

Posted: 23 Oct 2018 03:57 AM PDT

I ask my aunt and they said it true. Like why ?

Question: Why are some older woman so mean, insecure and nasty? (example)?

Posted: 23 Oct 2018 03:13 AM PDT

i always get along with most people but earlier today i was at the grocery and this older woman came up to me and randomly said "you are such a short little man, my nephew is 6 foot 4 and 250 lbs. you look funny too" i just looked at her kind of shocked and said "i mean i have a lot of support and love in my life, and i do very well with women. so i wouldnt care what some old ugly woman like you thinks, you probably have dementia anyway. go die and make this world a better place now" and i just went on to my shopping this really happened today. for the record im 5'9 i was measured at the clinic recently and im 170 lbs so not exactly small. and a lot of women tell me im attractive. why are older women so miserable and sadistic? im a 20 year old man she was probably in her 40s or 50s, really old

Question: My uncle keeps making creepy comments on my Facebook?

Posted: 23 Oct 2018 12:58 AM PDT

It's been going on for like three months now. Two days ago I posted a some pictures of me and my friend Kaylee at the beach and he kept posting comments like "very sexy" and even messaged me that he showed it to his friend at work. He's been liking all of my photos even ones on my mom's Facebook back when I was like 11 years old. I always thought that he was really creepy and like two years ago when he was living with us I woke up and he was sleeping on the floor in my bedroom after he took a shower and he was just wearing his towel. He posted a bunch of comments on my friend's pictures too and even tried to add them on Facebook and Instagram y stuff. I told my mom and she just said something about him thinking that he was still a kid and that he's just really immature. I don't know how old he is but I think he's at least 35 years and I don't think that my mom took me seriously. I wanna block him but last time I did that he actually showed up at our house and asked me why. What do you think I should do?

Question: When is my dad gonna be back from his fishing trip?

Posted: 22 Oct 2018 09:37 PM PDT

He went to Canada with his friend Marty like a year ago and I ain't seen him since. I wonder about it every day but my mom won't talk about him anymore.

Question: Why is it okay for my mom to verbally degrade me?

Posted: 22 Oct 2018 09:05 PM PDT

Usually, if my mom's mad at me, she'll verbally degrade me and threaten me as well (i.e If I don't answer her the first time she'll threaten to pull out my hair, or she'll call me a problem child, or say she'll beat me until I show her some proper respect). Sometimes she'll hit me as well, but that's not really as big of a problem for me since I'm used to it. It just doesn't seem fair to me when she curses me out and then afterwards try to play the victim card (i.e "why do you do this to me?" "what did I ever do to you to deserve this attitude?" "I feed, clothe, and keep a roof over your head you could at least do this much."). She'll never let me voice my opinion and if I ever say something she doesn't agree with, she just won't listen. It really makes me want to stay at my dad's house, but I still want to live with my siblings and I don't want to inconvenience my dad. Any suggestions?

Question: So my mom and dad lock their door at night and start having sex. What do I do? Also I get very sad whenever they do it.?

Posted: 22 Oct 2018 08:40 PM PDT

Question: What do I do if I don’t like my daughters boyfriend?

Posted: 22 Oct 2018 08:17 PM PDT

I feel like she's the man in the relationship & he's the woman. She's in the military and he does work out five days a week but that's as masculine as he gets. He doesn't eat the food my wife makes because he sticks to a diet for the gym which is an insult every time he comes to my house. Without sounding rude he dresses kind of gay & he bakes pastries (he doesn't eat them) for my daughter. I think she deserves somebody who's masculine not someone with a baby face that watches Bravo

Question: Why is my dad like this? is he abusive/neglectful, i feel hopeless help!?

Posted: 22 Oct 2018 07:41 PM PDT

i'm an 18 year old girl who is also a triplet. I've been really stuck in my situation for too long. Been through severe anorexia(recovered now) losing our house , dysfunctional family, living with grandparents-grandma being abusive etc. Things have just been neglected and have gotten out of control. My dad is an entrepreneur but for the past like, 5 years his business has been going nowhere and he doesnt make enough to support our family . We don't have a car (dad borrows our grandparents car) my grandpa pays for our groceries etc. and a lot of times we lose internet, gas/light goes out. Also our dishwasher broke and so did our washing machine, my dad cant pay to get them fixed so we have to get our clothes washed at our grandparents washing machine . my showerhead needs to get fixed because hardly any water comes out and showering in there is torture n very cold. Dad hasn't been paying for our homeschooling so we're left with no education . My dad stupidly bought a dog knowing that he couldn't afford her. I am in pain for our dog cause she has a bad ear infection but theres no money to pay for her treatment . My dad ignores her when she constantly scratches her ear in pain. there is also mold in the house i am looking for a job but not sure how it'll workout with the whole no car situation . We have tried to confront our dad and tell him to get a new job or something, he walks away , yells like a madman and tells us that we're crazy and stupid , that i'm spoiled etc. help!

Question: Why does he wink but not text me?

Posted: 22 Oct 2018 07:21 PM PDT

When I texted him he played the hurt card and cast blame on me. I said okay despite all that i tried giving you the doubt but you're still stuck in the past bittnerness and resentment. He said Ok I'm not going to argue with you enjoy your trip( i was going on vacation). I'm back now and at church this Sunday he keeps staring at me and he passed by me and winked at me but why does he text me? What does this mean?

Question: Am I being unreasonable?

Posted: 22 Oct 2018 06:52 PM PDT

So my boyfriend is letting a recovering addict live in our trailer that is for my mother that has all the stuff my mom bought for it in it. He is also letting her drive one of our cars when she is supposed to have a bresthilizer in the car. His excuse is that he has to go in early and she would have to wait four hours in a parking lot till she works. Everything is in his name and I am a stay at home mom. She lost her son and is trying to get him back and friends that are in recovery with her are dying. While I can have sympathy for this I can't help but resent her. We are financially supporting her, she doesn't even put gas in the car or gas in the heater tank for the trailer. My main concern is her driving our car. If she gets pulled over they can impound it, she goes to jail. I am not sure if he would get in trouble for letting her drive it. He totally freaks out and gets super angry at me when I tell him I don't want her driving it or her even living here. He tells me it's something he has to do, because he can't just let her live in the streets to get hooked again and possibly die. I don't know if I'm being unreasonable here. I tried to compromise and say we can just drive her and she needs to save up money to get out of here. He will not budge and gets super angry with me. Am I being unreasonable?

Question: My mom said something inappropriate that made me uncomfortable, do you agree that a mother shouldn’t say things like this to her son?

Posted: 22 Oct 2018 06:42 PM PDT

My step dad jokingly said we should go to a "titty bar" and my mom actually said "Enjoy and be safe!" then she said "Especially because you never get to see them!" I refuse to ever talk about anything of a sexual nature with my family, even as a joke. I'm 22 and still a virgin who's never had a girlfriend, but I wouldn't want to discuss that type of stuff anyway, I don't think things of a sexual nature is family discussion. I'm not gay, I'm just ugly according to every 9 out of 10 girls/women.

Question: Besides pumpkin patch, what are fun activities/places for kids during Halloween time?

Posted: 22 Oct 2018 06:30 PM PDT

Question: Question about black athlete and kids without fathers?

Posted: 22 Oct 2018 06:18 PM PDT

i m just wondering that all these black kids that grew up with their mother and some mother even knows who the father is never go to court and fight for child support from the father, why?

Question: I’m still pretty young and I have older parents?

Posted: 22 Oct 2018 06:11 PM PDT

I haven't really thought about this until now and it kinda worries me from time to time. It might sound dumb to most people but I feel like people with older parents might've had this feeling at one point in their lives, I'm not going to say my real age but I'm between 13-16 and my dad just turned 60 and my mom is in her 50's. I know my parents had me at an older age(long story) and I'm not really ashamed about it because they don't really look old in my eyes but I'm worried about what happens later on in life and I shouldn't be thinking that far ahead at such a young age but it worries me.No rude comments please

Question: Why do my parents try to solve all of my problems for me?

Posted: 22 Oct 2018 05:55 PM PDT

Question: My mom tells my boyfriend about her issues with my dad?

Posted: 22 Oct 2018 04:29 PM PDT

My mom and dad are elderly and have a lot of issues: it is extremely toxic and fighting all the time, insults, rape, suicide attempts etc etc it goes in and on. We live with them because they can't adford to live on their own and we are kinda stuck right now. But my mom tells my boyfriend about all their issues, I don't like it. But she says she needs someone to confide in. How would you feel about it

Question: Sleep paralyzes or something else?

Posted: 22 Oct 2018 04:21 PM PDT

Ok... today I woke up at 8am I got ready & took my husband to work, then I went to get my nails done I got out of the nail shop around 11am. So I then went to get lunch with my little sister after that I decided to run some errands when I was done I went back home, by the time I got home it was like 4:30pm. I got home and I went upstairs to my room I was on my phone watching YouTube videos then I turned off my phone and I decided to take a nap.... so while I was napping I got a feeling through my body that something was holding me down very tight.... I couldn't move at all the it started saying something in my ear I couldn't understand it it was talking in different languages I wanted to move and I couldn't I wanted to scream and I couldn't I was very scared all I could think of was god so I started praying and as soon as I did whatever it was just let go off me and finally I could move.. idk what it was but it was very scary can anyone help me?

Question: Should I exclude my sister from my wedding since I don't like her?

Posted: 22 Oct 2018 04:10 PM PDT

Question: My Mom, My Mom, she is gone. What do I do and how do I live without her?

Posted: 22 Oct 2018 03:48 PM PDT

She died from the drink. It was Saturday. I cannot think straight. I failed to protect her from her alcoholism, I am her care giver after Dad and my brothers left and I failed her. She was alcoholic but that was okay. I took care of her so no one knew. Now she is gone. I came home from the store and was getting food and her drinks like she asked me to and she had collapsed. She'd been drinking heavy. I am so upset, I am the only daughter, I was responsible for her. My selfish father and brothers left her because of it 12 years ago and it was just she and I. I have no one now. I am in despair. My father found out last night and called today and offered to come see me but I don't even know if I want to. He did not keep her drinking private and so it was made worse by him sharing it and then he left. He gave an ultimatum but she couldn't help it, her mother had it to. I was her guardian and special friend, I failed her. What do I do? What do I say if my father comes to see me? He failed her but I can't get mad, I don't let myself do that. If my brothers who I haven't seen in 12 years come to the funeral what do I do? Do I even have them or should I ban them? They failed her. She couldn't help drinking as her mother made her that way. How do I go on, please help me. I am feeling like drinking myself, I cannot take it. I failed my mother.

Question: Is it right to not tell my aunt this?

Posted: 22 Oct 2018 03:27 PM PDT

About a year ago I lost contact with my parents after suddenly moving out after an argument became violent on my dad's part. He's always had anger issues, and has done and said some horrible things to me over the years. It seems that literally everyone around me always tries to make excuses for him (and has been doing so for years) because he makes a ton of money. Before I moved out, I had dinner with my mom, and she told me he had left bruises on her when they had argued the other day. He had apparently blamed me for something, and my mom had tried to defend me. I asked her why she had never decided to leave him, and she said "I can see why any other woman would've left him by now, but I'm not like them, I'm strong. I can handle your dad." So yeah, apparently she thinks this behavior is normal. I don't keep in touch with my dad's family (they only hear his side of the story and believe him), but I've been keeping in touch with my aunt and grandma (mom's side), and they always tell me to come and visit, but I don't feel comfortable doing that because I feel like I'll be pressured to "make things up" with my parents, and I don't think my mom has told them about the bruising he gave her or the other things she tolerates (she's secretive about these things). So to them, it just appears that we "fell out." Do I have any right to tell my aunt and grandma how bad my dad really is? Or should I leave that to my mom when/if she feels comfortable doing so?

Question: My brother is just so cringy?

Posted: 22 Oct 2018 03:03 PM PDT

My younger brother plays roblox a lot. I mean its normal for a kid to play video games of course, but he acts too cringy. Yesterday after my parents bought him more robux, he got up, started dabbing and was saying "boi boi boi im rich boii " constantly. I told him "please stop being cringy." And then my parents automatically said i was being mean to him. He literally said "im a cool kid and im not a noob anymore boiii" and got up again and did fortnite dances. I had to leave the room because i was cringing too hard. I know this is not an important question, but how do i deal with it without getting in trouble? All he worries about is fitting in and being a "cool" kid. When you should be yourself though. Besides, just play the game and have fun, stop worrying about being like everyone.

Question: How do I deal with my grandparents know that I know my grandfather raped my grandmother than married her to avoid persecution?

Posted: 22 Oct 2018 02:54 PM PDT

That right I found out that my Grandfather raped my Grandmother many years ago. They are both in their 90's . Then he avoided prison by marrying her. They don't come from no Arab country their Italian, I never heard of that. But the strange thing is they are so much in love you couldn't believe it. I wish I never knew about this

Question: Partner won t leave house.?

Posted: 22 Oct 2018 02:46 PM PDT

I m writing on behalf of my mother. She is in a relationship with an abusive man the last 15 years. The house they live in with their 3 children he owns. She has nowhere to go and has no money. He is very minipulative and knows she is weaker than him as she suffers from depression. He says he s not going anywhere. We are looking for somewhere for her and the 3 children to rent at the moment but nothing is available but for her sanity they can t stay as they are. Any help on this matter would be greatly appreciated

Question: How can I get my mom to realize that it's our choice and not hers?

Posted: 22 Oct 2018 02:12 PM PDT

First things first I grew up in a house full of siblings. I was 1 out of 7 kids and I'm the second eldest. My boyfriend is 1 of 3 kids and is the middle child. My boyfriend and I are parents to our ONE and ONLY child, but since our daughter turned 2 my mom has been constantly asking when we plan on having our second. Each and every time I firmly tell her "We're not, xxxx is the only grandbaby from us" She always goes into a meltdown saying, "How I failed her as a daughter" and "how she'll never be a grandma to lots of babies" Yet all my siblings have kids! I keep telling her that it was our choice not to have anymore because one is plenty for us which in turn she replied, "You'll change your mind" I tell her that we've always planned on having just one child and he got a vasectomy to insure that. She then tells me that I'm "being mentally abused" by my boyfriend into thinking that way and I should "think about having a big family because that's how I was raised" How can I get it through to her that we don't want anymore kids?