I m 20 years old almost 21 and my mom confiscated my new $200 bong while I was at work. She s very strictly against weed and thinks of it as methamphetamine or something and considers it very dangerous yet she drinks more than a bottle of wine every day. I m more than pissed off and feel violated. I don t feel that my mom has the right to come into my room and I especially don t feel that she has the right to confiscate my things as if I was a 14 year old and then call a "family meeting" about it. My current plan is to demand that she reimburses me the $200 and if she refuses I will dump out $200 worth of her wine. Any other better ideas?

My mom enables him and allows him to stay with us because "we're family." I don't know what to do anymore.

Every con I've ever known had daddy issues. Either their dad was an abusive drug addict, a cuck, or completely absent in their lives. Even Kanye west himself say he didn't have a daddy. Is that why they love trump so much? He like the daddy they never had?

I know that obviously I don't *have* to let her visit, but really what I'm asking is more of a case of if it's moral to just decline her requests. Bit of backstory: I'm 25 and recently married. Husband and I are super happy. He actually cares about me. As for my parents, I was the scapegoat for many years, which gave me lots of mental distress and lowered self esteem. To this day I'm not sure if my parents love me, and I have CPTSD. My mother projected her negative qualities onto me. When I'm around my entire family I often feel like I'm not worth much (although we do have happy moments). I know that I can't blame everything on my parents as I am an adult now, so I'm doing my own therapy to learn healthy behaviors, but since I've moved away to be with my husband I've just been so much better in terms of self esteem. Now my husband and I are living in a new country, a country that my mother has wanted to visit for a long time. She says she wants to visit me to "see how I'm doing" (aka acting like she's concerned for me), but to me I feel like she just wants a free place to stay to see the country and have someone show her around. I don't know what to do. I don't want her to come, because I feel like this is a safe haven away from my toxic family, but I feel a lot of guilt now. I feel like if I push my family away then I won't have a family anymore. I'm fine going to visit them on christmas and stuff, but I just don't want them to bring their energy here. Is that bad? I feel a lot of resentment because on the surface she just looks like a typical concerned parent, but to me I'm angry because she acts like she dislikes me 80% of the time and then 20% of the time she's suddenly a loving parent. She and I don't have that sort of relationship or bond where one person would actually travel to another country for the sole reason of checking up on them. Let me explain: she hasn't come to this country yet. She wants to come here and stay with me for a visit/vacation.

So the 3 brothers will become brothers-in-law also And the 3 sisters will become sisters-in-law also Is this incest

So my dad passed out drunk in my bed again last night. It happens all the time and isn't really a big deal most of the time but this time he kept throwing up on my bed and all over the floor. I've tried scrubbing the carpet and I washed the clothes I had down there but my room still smells really bad. The worst part is that my mattress is totally soaked through to the other side with vomit. Can I clean it myself or will I have to take it somewhere and get it cleaned professionally? I'm only 15 and don't have access to a vehicle so hopefully I can find a good way to clean it at home. My dad's completely useless so it's pointless asking him for help. My mom died almost seven months ago due to really bad liver and kidney failure. How can I stop him from doing this again? I don't have a lock on my door and he drinks a lot everyday so he'll definitely pass out in my room again. I thought about buying a plastic bed liner but I'm afraid that he'll just take it off before he passes out. Thanks. :)

My girlfriend lost her dad on New Years this year to a drunk driver, 2 weeks ago her 20 year old brother passed away unexpectedly. I can't imagine for myself what I would do, but what can I do for her? It is now only her mom and her and her grandparents, is there anything I can do for her to make this less stressful? Thank you in advance

I feel like I'm alone with everything. I'm trying to pay all of my bills, my car note and I take my mom places in my car with no gas money and give my little sister money here and there and top of this have a whole baby mother I just gave like 200 bucks a month for our daughter. Since she says I don't do sht so I gave her money and I don't make much only $14 bucks an hour but I feel like I have to do all of this on my own. I feel like I can't ask anyone for anything. Like I tried asking my older brother for 5 dollars and he says he doesn't have it. But when he didn't have a job, there were times when I bought him things without him even asking. I do what I can but whenever I don't have some money then People will get angry and expect me to have it. I know I'm a 23 year old adult but I'm starting to get irritated and overwhelmed.

I was with a guy and everything was going well till he suggested a threesome with me and another girl. I really thought he wouldn't be like the other guys and we would be monogamous forever but I really enjoyed the physical stuff he used to do to me, so I get very mad and couldn't get over the fact that I would see him do with another girl. I looked for other guys and I was a virgin that point and immediately found two. We liked each other and I happened to be the first time for one of the guys and he was mine! But what's important is, things continued going downhill and it's like my ex was requesting me to let him go because I'm straight and I don't like girl on girl at least for my first time. I kept breaking up with my ex. I kept breaking up with my ex. He kept trying to keep me and I was all the more disgusted that he would bring that sick stuff up then still want to be with me. At last I cut him off completely and I left him on his own. Plus i'm currently pregnant. Right now no amount of soothing can stop this pain, and i'm actually happy he's told me he's found someone else to date even though he's said he's hurt from me breaking up These 2 months I've disconnected from the world, from my friends, colors faded away, and now i'm carrying a baby with a guy who possibly loved me when I didn't even notice him. But my ex, he's still saying hurtful things like "he was willing to give him to the right girl and it's not me" Please tell me your thought's opinions and how I should deal further.

My Mom sees us as kids still so she gives subpoena's and not invitations.

I moved out of my parents; my mom passed away. My dad wants me to stay with him and help with rent. I'm 27 year old guy with college degree working on my mba and working full time in accounting field. I don't want to get my own place then I'll feel selfish or bad for spending money on myself. When my mom passed away I got some money from her I don't want to spend it .....everything I make goes to college grad school expenses and car payment...I'll admit I have bad spending habits....my granddad Dad's dad also gave me some money after selling one of this properties over seas .....Before spending the money I had asked him if I can spend it however I want because if I do then I won't give it back he told me with assurance that I can spend it however I want it's mine... I'm the only child but I feel like my dad or my grandma do play games with my mind to control me or lower my self esteem ....to be noted I'm not very good Muslim ...

Like my parents teach one way and then do the other to hurt people out of spite. They teach me to be nice to my siblings and then my Mom is hateful to her siblings and poisons my Dad's mind to do the same.

By us I mean the entire extended family cause my Mom had set him up with his new fiance.

I got a nice house for myself and have been working on my weight / better health - I feel much better and more positive about myself and life lately. Only downside is my family and relatives are acting jealous, cold / weird. I don't think isolation is healthy but i find myself happier the less I am around them lately since they have been acting this way. Has becoming more successful made people hate you or change their attitude towards you? Any opinions are welcome.

As a father its my job to keep my kids protected, and everytime I talk to my neighbor, he makes some kind of remark about how he likes my son and how he seems like a cool kid. But initially I thought he was just being nice But what really concerned me is that earlier today he asked me to come over help him work on his car, and when we went inside his house to take a quick break, and when I walked by his computer I saw that his desktop background was a picture of my son. I asked him why that picture is his background and why it's even on his computer and he seemed like he was nervous and tried changing the subject. Honestly I'm starting to think that he likes my son a little too much and I don't like it. Im starting to think he has bad intentions. Am I overreacting?

My dad had five sisters and three brothers. He did so much for his family, his dad died when he was 23 and he had all the responsibilities to get them married and up and about. My dad loved all of them and got them married. They hate us and gossip about us for no reason. My dad passed away from dementia last month, at the funeral they cried like no other. Like where was the cry when he was suffering for the past 20 years. He passed away at 67. My aunts look down on us since my mom had two cancer and dad suffering for Frontotemporal dementia, we became rich to poor and they changed on us. Never helped us in anything but just gossip behind our backs. what should I do, they show me love all the time but talk **** still.

every time me and my fiancé are out in public I'm always yelling and screaming his name. I don't mean to talk to him in that tone but I guess that's how I am.. he tolerates it as usual but I feel very bad when I think about it 😩Some people would probably laugh or maybe feel bad for him.

I am 16 years old and 2 Months ago my mom called my dad and told him to come and get me and my brother because her fiance doesn't want around. I have been bulimic for six months. My mom knows about it she said it wasn't her problem. Last Thursday we went to Gatlinburg TN and My Dad rented a Cabin I pretty much ruined the whole thing. Saturday morning my stepmother heard me throwing up I forgot to lock the bathroom door she caught me and tackled me.my dad heard us screaming at each other he ran in and my stepmother had me pinned down to the ground she made me tell my dad what I was doing to myself he freaked out he through my stuff found laxatives and diet pills. they made me tell them how long I've been doing this. my dad called my mom and asked her why she didn't tell him she just said it's not my damn problem. The rest of the weekend my stepmother made me eat every meal in front of her and she would not let me go to my room the bathroom for 3 hours after I ate. Saturday night was bad because all I wanted to do is make myself throw up but Stepmother wouldn't let me get off the couch when she just wrapped her arms around me and wouldn't let me go. They are going to make me go to treatment and counselling. I am not mad at my stepmother for making me tell my Dad I'm not even mad at her for making eat me in front of her. I don't understand why my stepmother cares more about me than my mom does it hurts me.

I graduated high school a few years ago but my younger sister still has yet to graduate. Today, she was called into her counselor's office. She didn't make an appointment. She called my sister into her office for the same reason she did to me; we had the same one. I'll presume that she didn't do this during my sister's appointment since my sister didn't mention it, but our counselor left her office for a few minutes while I was sitting in it waiting and returned with my cumulative record folder. Looking back, I remember her pulling random things out of the overloaded folder, stating what it is, e.g. standardized test scores. She mentioned back then that it had pictures of me when I was little. Then she pulled up an index card that had each of my school portraits year-by-year when I was in elementary school taped/glued on it. As she was putting it back in, she was like in a fairly drawling voice, "Cute," especially prolonging the Long "U" sound. I felt a little embarrassed since our she's quite uncompromising but now in hindsight, did she actually mean it? Or was she just saying that for the heck of it? Typo: "our" shouldn't have been between "since" and "she's."

I think about what about him that makes me think he s a father figure to me, I realize it s just a job accommodating with me and he even helps me which could be work related if we look at it even though it isn t. Deep inside I feel like it s more than that which is "he s my father figure". I want to tell him but I feel I shouldn t because what if he feels like he needs to keep our boundaries professional. I don t want things to be awkward and I know I would be hurt if he starts to draw lines between us to keep things professionally. I know it s important to always keep work and non work related life separate, my mom, friends and my work friends said I should tell but I don t know what words to use in order to not let things get weird. Thank you for your time.

Last thing I want is to treat my kids how my parents treated me. My mom was emotionally abused and always tells me she doesn't want to treat me how she was treated but she still does. I dont know if she notices. I want to be a good mother to my kids and make them feel loved and feel like they can talk to me.

So basically my father needs me or my mother to write a letter saying that he took good care of me growing up. The issue is that he never raised me (he didn't even pay child support) My mother is refusing to write the letter and so am I. He constantly messages and calls us begging us to write the letter. Now my main concern is of my mother getting hurt. My mom is OBSESSED with her home country (i'm not saying what country it is but it's a third world, poverty stricken, high crime rate, corrupt country) and she goes there for vacation every year. I'm aftaid of my dad's family (who lives in this country) finding her and hurting her. I've begged her not to go to this country anymore but she thinks she's safe. Any suggestions? Too long didn't read: My father needs a letter of recommendation from me or my mother stating that he took good care of me; the issue is that he neglected me as a child. Now i'm scared of my father's family, who lives in a third world country, hurting my mother if she visits this country

I don't know if his two kids will be with him or not. He is a very cruel person who has no thoughts for other people, maybe a narcissist. He verbally abuses people and has a bad heart. How do I stay calm around this cruel person? It is my Mom's brother and luckily she will be with me.

So basically, my mother always accuses me of lying about practically anything she could think of. One time, she accused me of drinking at a (adult supervised) birthday party. Of course, she didn't believe me after I defended myself by saying that I wasn't drinking. I decided to go about this logically by offering some form of proof. I recommended that she calls the host of the party's mom. Or come along to the next birthday party and see for herself that there is no drinking. After offering a lot of ways she could see for herself that I wasn't drinking, she just said: "If I don't want you to try to prove it, you shouldn't." It's really annoying because this happens every single time. Regardless of how much valid proof I offer, she always just refuses to look at it and accept that she wrongly accused me. Additionally, on the rare occasion that she actually decides to look at my proof, she disregards it completely and says that my proof is "a lie", or sometimes say that "your version of things doesn't add up" and not even explain why. Sorry for ranting, I am just really pissed. How do I make her stop accusing me?

So, I work at a college helping students apply for our college and help them with the programs we offer. Anyways, my aunt came over and wanted to go back to school. I was more than happy to help her. I was absolutely excited that she's going back to school since she had to put her life on hold since she has kids. She was able to qualify for our programs that pays for her books and etc. once my aunt let my co worker ( who's my cousin) had told me that I let people walk all over me. A couple of my months ago my aunt had said some awful Things about me but, I ignored it and when I saw her wanting to go back to school I was happy and wanted to help her regardless of what she's said and had done to me. I don't get how I let people walk all over me?

So my sister let's call her Gemma. She's really nice to me. But she also belittles me, critisizes me, insults and mocks me (jokingly), we argue a lot, she's irritating and knows how to get under my skin. She says nasty things to me and calls me a lot of names. We apologise and get over it. But I've realised she's toxic to my mental health. Other issue is I have low tolerance towards her now, everything she does annoys me. When she asks me a question she annoys me. I also thing I'm very critical of her idk if this is because I'm insecure. I think I do have jealousy towards her too... she gets a lot of attention and it annoys me because I think she's so fake wit her behaviour. Now you see there's so much going on and idk if she is actually toxic or whether I'm just a insecure person. Idk what to do.

I was all set to dye my moms hair and I said wow its greesy, and she changed her whole mood and started accusing me of making excuses not to do it, blah blah bah I denied her claims several times but to no avail. eventually she was putting up such a fight that I decided not to help her because she was making it too hard for me by putting barriers in my way and putting on her "aggressive" voice putting on a tough guy front like she always does. then she went in the bathroom sobbing tears crying while dying her hair and then she came into my room still sobbing like a fcking baby begging me to help and I wasn't interested. does she think crying will help her get what she wants? I hate that my wole life my mom has manipulated me in one form or another. this crying tactic is a new one shes pulling, growing up if she didn't get her way she would scream and yell and pull my hair until she got her way, and me being a young child I had no oother choice. and now im a grown adult she is still trying to pull these stunts on me and manipulate me. this sucks, I wish I went to college so I would be smart and wealthy enough to live on my own

I asked earlier but was told to provide more details by Dr. Stephanie. The deal is this. So this aunt is a narcissist. She hurts every member of my Mom's family who does not glorify her. She also has turned on one of her children who was not excellent like her other two kids. She falsely alluded to my mother committing adultery and is twice divorced largely due to her narcissism. She even puts her ex-husband down to her kids. So she is not violent but my parents resent any contact I have with her. Yet I take tremendous pride in being good to all my family. During childhood my mother would make me take sides in feuds she would get in with family. As a teen I got closer to everyone and am now as an adult. I have learning disabilities and some Asperger's so am a little different. I feel safe with family and extended family. So this narcissistic aunt is coming to town cause a friend's father died and she is attending Friday's funeral then staying at my grandmother's for the weekend. I can offer to go by but if my parents find out (they live just a mile away) then they will be pissed I spoke to their enemy. I am 30 but they still want me to hate who they hate. This aunt does the same to her kids. They help me see more important family members so not the end of the world if I don't see this narcissistic aunt. So how do I stay safe from the anxiety I am going to feel? How do I stay safe from getting used by either side? Both sides play these games.

I dont like him but still love him.

Would my Mom be mad?