Family: Question: My boyfriend is his family’s “cash cow”, how do I stop this?

Question: My boyfriend is his family’s “cash cow”, how do I stop this?

Posted: 20 Oct 2018 02:13 PM PDT

My boyfriend and I are 19. We have been together since we were 15. Ever since we have been together, my family has done SO much for us (paid for vacations, meals constantly, outings etc) because his family makes a normal wage. I let this all slide throughout our relationship but now I'm just getting upset. We now live together, we are both in college, buy our own groceries, he pays for his car, school, food, clothes, we have 2 dogs, we pay for EVERYTHING on our own. We make OKAY money for 19 year olds, since we are both in school we don't have actual jobs (my parents still pay for my school/clothes/car etc when I need it which is why we dont struggle). Lately we have been buying and reselling items, which makes us fairly good money for our age. We currently have around $1500 in cash at all times, but thats about it! Well his family thinks we are just LOADED, and now his sister has started to ask him for money. I got extremely upset when I saw this because of the principle, not because of the money I was taught to never ask for money unless it is NEEDED. He sees no problem with this and thinks I am a ***** for not letting him give his sister money, but it just bothers me because my family does everything for us and never asks for anything and his family doesnt do CRAP for us and is always asking for handouts. His mom lives in a house she cannot afford, buys luxuries for herself, smokes cigarettes, gave his sister a nice car for her bday. Am I wrong for being pissed off?

Question: I need help my boyfriend of ten years and father to my daughter puts his family before me?

Posted: 20 Oct 2018 01:54 PM PDT

for example he lent his mom about $500 without consulting me she didn't even ask she had his bank card took out the money and basically said I need it I'll pay it back later we are also coming into some money for a house and she automatically assumes were moving her his siblings and his niece and nephews in with us or were building them a house on our property so they can live there. also we just returned from a trip to California with his family (we took our 8 year old to disneyland and universal) his two brothers didnt go with enough money and drank the money they did have away & they didnt have enough to take their children to Disney. my bf payed for their meals and half of their tickets.I payed for our flight our park tickets our rental and our hotel room and he took about $2,000 in spending money for us. I had seen a 50 dollar jacket I had wanted and asked if I could have it and he told me no. when we came home he had about $600 left I asked to borrow $50 I told him I'd pay him back within 4 days he got mad and told me no he didnt have the money to even though that $600 was just extra spending money. hes also told me to buy cheap wal mart clothes for my daughter well he wanted to buy his sisters newborn a $60 outfit with my money. he also yelled at my daughter for being excited in universal but played around with his nephew the whole vacay wrestling and joking around. is there anyway to resolve this because I am just so close to walking away from him and moving on.

Question: How to comfort a girl during a scary movie ?

Posted: 20 Oct 2018 01:45 PM PDT

Me and my wife and my sister were watching the Wrong Turn movies my sisters never seen them. She loves scary movies but I think this is too much for her. Scary part is it happens in West Virginia were in Ohio not far from there. She said she's never gonna look at West Virginia the same way again now she's afraid to go back there especially at night sometimes in the summer we like to go to concerts over there she thought the Mothman was terrifying she said this is even worse than Mothman. Also we got family over there too. How can I help her feel better ?

Question: Is my dad selfish?

Posted: 20 Oct 2018 01:08 PM PDT

I can't stop thinking about the times my dad disrespected me. He's purposely doesn't clean his room or throw food wrappers bc he says he wants me to do it. Also he's hit me and called me names when I got in trouble. Yes, there were times when I disrespected him. And also not listening to me when his nieces or friends bully me. He also throws people parties at his house and he allows his nieces that bully me be there and he gives their dad money.

Question: How can I save my money?

Posted: 20 Oct 2018 12:58 PM PDT

My mom is planning to take $300 out of my account every month for tutoring. She refuse to allow me to check my account which is not good so I normally ask her. She won't allow me to have a job and I am in school. She wants me to just focus on school. College books are expensive. I have math tutors who are exspensive so for a while she was paying the tutors. Ever since I heard about Samsung Watch I've been trying to save my money for it. I decided that if she will tale $300 out of my account every month then I will buy clothes, shoes, the watch that I want, ect at the begining or the 1st week of every month before she takes my money. Just like I told her I get hungry too. January is a new semester of college I have to pay for my books which are exspensive, school supplies and new clothes. My family told me to ask my parents for money. My mom will give me money every month which is much lesser than the $300 she will be taking from me for tutoring. I also told her not to take out money next semester unless I have a tutor/tutors for the classes I will be taking. I also forgot to mention that for Christmas even though it's too early to say this but I will have to buy my parents cheap things this year because I have to save my money. Not just for the watch but for places my friends wants to go to go to because they sometimes wants to go places. If I had a job then that would be something different. .

Question: I feel like i am seeing my granddad whom just passed i see him eveerywhere i go and all the animals that have passed whats it mean?

Posted: 20 Oct 2018 12:37 PM PDT

Question: How do you act towards in laws you have beef with during the holidays without being fake?

Posted: 20 Oct 2018 12:10 PM PDT

My sister in law moved to the other side of the country without ever telling me or my husband personally, not even a one sentence text. We only heard through my mother in law. It s been over a year now and my husband and I don t really know what to do. At first we were very put off by her lack of communication and didn t reach out to her at all. But we eventually sent her a birthday card and present. Since then my birthday has passed and so has my husband and we never receive even a text from her. Thanksgiving and Christmas are coming up and we have not seen her since she left over a year ago. Clearly there is some sort of beef or wall between us so how do we act? I feel it would be very fake to just go up to each other and say, "hey, good to see you again, we missed you, you look great." But we don t want to act like cold hearted people either. How do you balance being cordial but not fake?

Question: Why is my grandma such a weirdo bitter person?

Posted: 20 Oct 2018 10:55 AM PDT

Around her other grandchildren she doesnt act the way she does with me for example giving me negative vibes or watching me eat right after she had hers. She only wants more and never gets satisfied with what she already has, even though I am the one helping her the most in life out of the granchildren I seem to be the one who she dislikes the most. Why is that? I'm so done with her.

Question: My mom threatens to leave me?

Posted: 20 Oct 2018 10:38 AM PDT

Me and my mom got into a fight and she told me she's going to leave me with my dad and I won't see her for a very long time. She sounded serious this time. I called my dad to come pick me up because I don't want to be with her right now and she says "wow, you really hate your mother, you don't want to do anything with me but your own ****" and after that she said "if you walk out that door you won't see me for a very long time. What should I do?

Question: Depressed I can't afford college. How do I cope with depression?

Posted: 20 Oct 2018 08:52 AM PDT

So I'm 19, and working 2 jobs to help pay save up for school. I come from a poor family. I'm dyslexic, so I didn't get the best grades in high school. I graduated with a 3.2 gpa, so I didn't get a ton of scholarships. I can't afford any type of school. Neither one of my parents can cosign my student loans because of their own irresponsible decisions. My mom and dad also saved up a small college fund for me.... only to have my dad gamble it all away.. completely. My grandma also left me a very small amount of money for school... and my dad gambled that away as well. Not being able to afford school, and scrubbing toilets for minimum wage is really messing me up mentally. I'm constantly depressed... I cry all the time... I have screaming matches with my dad... I'm suicidal. I just don't know anymore. I feel like my future was ripped away from me. I was going to be the first person to go to college in my family. my dad is a janitor... and I'm currently cleaning toilets too... I'm so depressed. I can't even afford my in state tuition schools. I'm working 2 jobs and don't even have nearly enough for my first semester. Any advice? I've wanted to make movies ever since I was little... and now I feel like my dreams are stupid. I have all of this rage built up in me. I didn't want a single dime from my parents!!! I just wanted them to cosign my student loan for my first year!!! They didn't have to give me a single penny!! Any advice? how do I deal with this depression??

Question: Is it right to hate my parents for being short ?

Posted: 20 Oct 2018 08:42 AM PDT

I am 19 years old male, short . Both of my parents are short

Question: My mother hates me, and I don’t know what to do.?

Posted: 20 Oct 2018 07:50 AM PDT

We are a single parent family, and I'm an only child. I'm 15 years old. It's just me and my mother. Everyday she tells me how much she loves me and how lucky she is to have me. She also likes to say that me and her have a very special connection, and we do. No one else that I know are as close as me and my mother. I'm in ap classes and have lots of friends and I do all my chores. Im not out there doing drugs or drinking alcholol. Sometimes my mother and I get into fights, but this one was especially bad. She is the only person that gets me this mad, and she got me especially mad where I called her a c**t. She's gotten so mad after that to the point where she tells me she ******* hates me and that she's not my mom. I'm also adopted so it hurts. I just can't think how and why a person could go from loving me so much for the past 15 years to hating me so much. I keep trying to talk to her and she keeps telling me she lost her love for me. I don't know what to do and I just want all of this to be gone.

Question: Since my sister is a bad person does it make our whole family dysfunctional?

Posted: 20 Oct 2018 07:34 AM PDT

She is the only bad one.

Question: My Dad is an alcoholic. If we do an intervention must we disown him after if he refuses treatment?

Posted: 20 Oct 2018 07:33 AM PDT

Question: If I have some relatives in town I like but it doesn't work out to see them while they are here am I being disloyal to them?

Posted: 20 Oct 2018 07:29 AM PDT

Question: My cousin had a baby and only myself and my uncle's ex (her mother) know. Will this secret be revealed one day or is it forever secret?

Posted: 20 Oct 2018 07:28 AM PDT

Baby was placed up for adoption. It is a huge mega secret I am entrusted with which is why I am posting anonymous.

Question: Should I talk to my mom about her bedwetting?

Posted: 20 Oct 2018 06:52 AM PDT

Question: How can I deal with unsupportive family members & people in general while getting plastic surgery & appearance modifications?

Posted: 20 Oct 2018 04:59 AM PDT

It started when I paid 6k for Invisalign last month. I didn't feel right lying, so I cane clean & told my mom I got Invisalign to correct the way my teeth look. Rather than congratulating me, she says I'm one step forward into looking like Michael Jackson. So getting your teeth fixed is a problem these days? I'm sensitive about my looks and fitting in with people in general. I was always the laughing stock in middle and high school for being an ugly girl with strong features. No boys liked me & they were douchebags & I'm still insecure from that at age 25. I hate feeling hideous and ugly & I hate how God made me. My opinion is that I don't want to hear any unsolicited advice about how I don't need surgery because my looks is a part of the reason I'm insecure & sad. I can now see why people refuse to tell others about their plastic surgery because people are rude & judgemental. I'll just start denying anything about surgery from now on if anyone asks.

Question: Can I call the police?

Posted: 20 Oct 2018 01:22 AM PDT

My mom and dad has been drinking , everytime they drink together my dad brings up old stuff and sometimes new stuff and makes a big deal out of the little things and accuse my mom of cheating when she has been nothing but faithful , she has been taking hits and punches from him for years , I really want my mom to leave him and I tell her everytime to but she keeps letting him back into the house knowing me or my siblings doesn't like him , he hasn't done anything for me or my siblings he eats up all of our food and uses our soap and lays in my mom bed and all he does when he's sober is just keep his distance from us but when he's not sober he's horrible he's a downer , today my dad hit my mom on the side of her neck and I wanna call the police but they both been drinking and I'm afraid they both will go to jail what should I do ? Especially considering the fact that she keeps just forgiving him and letting him back in .

Question: How would you feel if your sister were still shy and quiet at age 19?

Posted: 20 Oct 2018 12:58 AM PDT

Question: Why is my sister so rude and hateful to our stepmom?

Posted: 20 Oct 2018 12:20 AM PDT

my sister 16 years old and she treats our stepmom awful my sister is always cussing at our stepmom and sometimes she throws things at our stepmom. The other day our dad and stepmom grounded my sister for staying out all night. my sister thinks that our stepmom doesn't have a right to correct or ground us. My sister got mad at me for taking up for our stepmom and she called me a silly child girl because I'm only 13. Yesterday my sister tried to pay a her friend $20 to give her a black eye and she can lie to my dad and say that our stepmom gave her the black eye but her friend wouldn't do it last night our grandma came in our room and caught my sister punching herself in the face when my grandma asked my sister what she was doing to herself my sister replied none of your business I told my grandma that she was trying trying to give herself a black eye so she could blame it on our stepmom our grandma went and told my dad with my sister was doing. Our grandma tell my dad and stepmom to get my sister some mental help. I just wish my sister would just stop the craziness cuz it's getting on my nerves I just wish my sister was stop causing drama

Question: Should I be sensitive towards my mom about asking her to cook me food?

Posted: 19 Oct 2018 09:43 PM PDT

Im 20 and still live with my mom. I want to ask her to make me food cause Im too tired to stand. Is it selfish for me to ask that she take on the burden instead of me? Or is it fine because women like to be feminine and nurturing and motherly and like to be of service? Should I have empathy or am I being too humble? no Im not lazy I've just had to prioritize my mental health cause Ive had some serious stuff going on like delusions etc.

Question: Asking your parents for gifts?

Posted: 19 Oct 2018 09:02 PM PDT

I've never asked my parents or others for things. but, my parents have been long time neglectful of me (truth). We are all communicating way better now as I am 28. My mother is more religious now and my father has been having life difficulties so they are both changing in to nicer better people. I don't celebrate holidays so, I don't get things for say Christmas while they still gift to others for the holiday. Is it wrong to ask of your parents? I was thinking of asking if my dad would buy me a small $200 laptop. I don't have a lot of money and have been homeless at times and have travelled a lot than to be a part of society. Is it wrong of me? Janet: 18? Says who. and you sound like a societal materialist. Far from morals or basic true understandings of life. Just because you slave for no purpose and have 'money' because of it, does not mean that you lead a real life. I have seen things you will never see because of the way that I live and the way that you do not. I have seen your world and my own but you have not seen mine.

Question: I was harrassed and then shoved to the ground by a family member. I hit my head on a door jamb while falling. Can I press charges?

Posted: 19 Oct 2018 08:59 PM PDT

This happened after he confronted me and cornered me and I repeatedly told him to get away. I called the police and they said that since I had no marks, I could not press charges to have him arrested. The police stayed until he left. I am located in Oregon. I might head to the doctor tomorrow to get my head checked out. Thanks for any help in advance.

Question: I have a problem trusting guys. What should I do?

Posted: 19 Oct 2018 08:12 PM PDT

Background: My dad has been cheating on my mom since I was around 7. Maybe earlier, I don't know. All I know are the things I hear from their arguments. My dad keeps insisting that they're mistakes, and doesn't leave my mom alone until she forgives him. He just begs and cries (in a clearly manipulative way), saying stuff "no, we're not getting divorced, I need you. You're my only friend" and then if that doesn't work he gets angry and tells her that she's overcomplicating things, and sometimes "accidentally" hurts her. My mom cries, and it hurts me so, so much. She's just such a genuinely good person and she moved all the way around the world from her family just to be with my dad. This whole thing makes me have serious trust issues. Relationships scare me. I know that there are a lot of great guys out there, but I never really feel 100 percent safe. I really want this to change, so what do you think I should do?

Question: Why did a guy call me white even though I'm Indian?

Posted: 19 Oct 2018 07:37 PM PDT

This guy and his friend were looking at me as they were talking about me. And I overheard one of them saying, ''yeah, too bad she's too white'' And they're also both Indians themselves

Question: What should I do? My mom is “she” btw?

Posted: 19 Oct 2018 06:55 PM PDT

She tells me I'm a bad child, I'm impossible to live with, I am worse than any other child! Once she Forgot to close the dishwasher rack on the way, and asked me to close it, so I did but I didn't realize that the top door was not closed, and broke a fragile glass. She freaked out and yelled at the top of her lungs at me telling me how horrible I was and how disrespectful and disobedient and rude and bad and inconvenient I was for the next 40 minutes. I told her I was sorry and offered to help you but she just kept screaming at me telling me to sit down and go away. She does stuff like this to me every single day all the time 24 seven, she tried to tell me that she was going to give me a consequence for it but my dad told her that that wasn't necessary. so the next day she kept telling me All of these mean things about how I was a bad kid and all this stuff and when I asked her why she was saying all that stuff she said well you broke my glass, so I'm going to Yell at you all I want!Once I was"late"so she took away my coat in the car and when I asked her to make it warmer she made a colder explaining that she wanted us to leave five minutes earlier than what she had said! And lectured me again the whole way home. When my dad gets home she tells him that I am being a bad kid and then I'm being disrespectful and rude and tells him all these things and he doesn't know if he should believe me or my mom and he gets mad at me because he thinks that my mom is telling the truth.

Question: Is it normal to have escaped being murdered innumerous times? Does everybody have memories of near misses of...?

Posted: 19 Oct 2018 06:42 PM PDT

..... Of when they were a child? I want to know if it's only me who was nearly assassinated various times before even becoming an adult. Is this a normal thing or do most children grow up with no one around them actually trying to kill them for whatever reason? I had a lot of near misses, I am surprised that I am still alive today.

Question: How do I help my mother?

Posted: 19 Oct 2018 06:11 PM PDT

I'm not sure what's wrong with her. She focuses on nothing but the negative, she reads too far into situations and blows up about the tiniest things. She ignores everyone's problems for her own and she just seems to generally hate everything. She's 43 years old More context on the situation, basically she has a small group of friends but complains she has no friends at all. One of these friends is 28 and trying to live her life, moving to a new place, getting fresh start and going out every night. And my mom just seems so insanely bitter about the whole situation. Every day she fights with my dad over nothing at all and lately she's been fighting with me about the smallest things too. She always starts **** for no good reason then cries until somebody either apoligizes or takes pity on her. She's trying to copy people yet gets super judgemental of people like that. And she's just being overall really strange. I give her all the love that I can, but it's very difficult when she's pushing me away and acting cold. I'm at a point where I feel nothing I do for her will ever be enough for her because she'll find something else to complain about. If one tiny thing upsets her she starts slamming cabinets, doors, throwing things, and cursing up a storm. Is this some kind of mental condition, or midlife crisis, or anything? Can I help her find some new friends, maybe a talk therapist or something? I just hate seeing my own mother so miserable.

Question: Was my mom cruel or was it me?

Posted: 19 Oct 2018 04:55 PM PDT

When she was mad at me for something I did wrong she would often times call me, Stupid azz, stupid azz kid. Then she would smack me in the face and kinda hard too or so it felt. At times she would even kinda have a smirk on her face as she called me names. One time, I had a bad day in school and i remember my mom calling me, stupid, psycho, ugly, ugly, ugly azz kid. When I would eventually yell at her to stop she would hit me. Much of the time the other family would get in on the "fun" and then continue to talk about me when I'm in the facinity and often laugh at my misery. my brother used to make fun of my weight problems back when I was a boy and mom would just tell me to "oh stop" whenever I complained about it. Brother is 10 years older than I and I'm 37. I guess that might have affected my self esteem. also my mom would talk to me under her breath and say discouraging things to me or straight up just spiteful and nasty.

Question: Why do i hate my parents so much?

Posted: 19 Oct 2018 04:41 PM PDT

I'm a first year college student, and I suffer from constant depression. I have these episodes where I just contemplate and weigh out the options on suicide. Emotional aspect aside, I sometimes contemplate as to what my purpose of living is, and why I shouldn't just end it. I'm convinced my mom is bipolar, as she occasionally breaks down, her mood could change in an instant, and she constantly tells me how there is something wrong "up there" (referring to my brain). I recently had a friend commit suicide at the age of 17 via drowning, and had my cousin die at 17 due to an asthma attack. My mind isn't in the right place. Whenever she tries to make conversation, I answer her at a bare minimum. When I do that, part of me is in pain because I don't mean to, but another part of me is building this burning hatred for my mother, reminding myself on how she tells me to go to hell. My parents refused to pay for my college education after demanding me to go, so I'm going on Federal Loans as a commuter after expressing my desire to dorm. Now I have no friends since I don't stay on campus, no life since I only go to school, work a job for $9/hr, and go home, and I'm $7000+ In a hole plus interest should I decide to leave school now. On top of that, my mom demands I pay the cable bill otherwise it's getting shut off. Mind you, we aren't poor, and my parents are actually doing decent with finances right now. I'm so upset with every aspect of my life. I feel like everyone is out to get me.

Question: Should I cover my face for a prank on my brother?

Posted: 19 Oct 2018 04:37 PM PDT

My family has 1 brother and 3 sisters, me being the middle one. We all get along, but my brother and us girls prank each other for kicks every now and then. My brother did this prank with my soda and I want to get back at him with a prank while he's sleeping. I haven't decided what exactly I will do, but I also don't want my brother to know it was me in particular if he wakes up. I was wondering if i should cover my face if I prank him. I'm thinking of tying a t-shirt into a ninja mask that only exposes my eyes or getting a ski mask or something

Question: My mom went let me get the new iPhone! Ugh I'm so pisseed! **** this piece of **** world! Why cant I just get what I want?!!!?

Posted: 19 Oct 2018 04:27 PM PDT

Question: How can I help my sister ?

Posted: 19 Oct 2018 04:15 PM PDT

Our parents are going out to a dance tonight my sister doesn't want to go she wants to stay home and watch the Halloween movies. She's kind of scared to stay home alone and watch a scary movie even though she loves them. How can I help her feel better ?

Question: My father is an alcoholic and I want my children to know their grandfather but not be scared. What do I do?

Posted: 19 Oct 2018 03:02 PM PDT

My one sister no longer allows her kids to speak to him. I feel this is cruel. Is it? He is not violent but very moody. How do I handle this? My kids are 4, 7, and 12. The 7 year old has been upset before on two occasions by him saying "get the brat to shut up". The 12 year old is very quiet and 4 year old is too young to notice. We only see him every other month so 5 or 6 times a year. I do not go weekly at all like we do with their other grandparents. Both my parents were alcoholic and my mother already died from it 15 years ago (possible suicide as well).

Question: I avoid my mother because she is mentally insane and obsesses over her disorders. Is that wrong?

Posted: 19 Oct 2018 02:56 PM PDT

My mom has schizophrenia, bi polar, OCD, PTSD, whatever else u can think of and she is OBSESSED. She has made her problems her and not just a part of her. She posts nothing but things about her disorders on Facebook that bluntly say she's a victim of this and that and it's annoying. She's never worked and spends her husband's money on stupid stuff. When I'm around her I feel uncomfortable. Her house is always messy and smells like pee and she does nothing but sleep and play on her laptop. She has an autistic daughter who doesn't know how to read and her husband is a little off too I feel like she could've done a lot more to help with her kid and she doesn't manage what she eats and let's her just sit in front of the computer too all day she's only like 9 but she acts like she's 4 and I feel like there's more my mom can do like with her weight and hygiene. My mom has showed up at my door before with out asking (she has no vehicle she'll just walk). I just don't really want much to do with them because it's just depressing and they kinda smell. I have nothing to do with any of my family really and I think my mom neglected me as a child. Also anytime I'm around her, all she does is talk about past things and abuse and stuff. I have bi polar but at least I try to not harp on it and try to eat healthy and just try to do things to make me happy. The least she can do is try to help herself but she swims in hopelessness. Wtf to do?

Question: Do you ever feel like you really don’t relate to other people who have siblings with closer together age gaps? & like you missed out?

Posted: 19 Oct 2018 02:54 PM PDT

I always feel like most people I've ever known/met/hear about in general are 2-3 years apart from their siblings. That seems to be the most common/normal/average age gap. My sister is so much older than me that we couldn't have the typical, normal "close" sibling bond relationship that I always hear about where you play together and pal around and I feel like I really missed out on that growing up and always wonder what that's like. It was like I was an only child and she was just a stranger in the house that I saw and didn't really talk to that much at all. It was like 2 completely separate kids and childhoods. We're 6 years and 7 months apart. I just resent the fact that my mom had us so far apart and screwed me out of having that relationship that I find really important to childhood and development. We're closer now and go out and whatnot but it's just not the same. We're at 2 totally different points in our lives and always will be. She was always nice to me growing up and protective over me, she was never really mean to me at all but I feel like it's just not the same as someone more close in age and I feel so left out hearing about those sibling relationships/bonds constantly. Maybe it's a social media thing. But I feel like it's always being rubbed in my face.

Question: I have this cousin who revealed to me she had a baby in 2009 and put it up for adoption. How do I make sure this secret is kept?

Posted: 19 Oct 2018 02:51 PM PDT

Only other person who knows is her mother. Even her Dad, my uncle, and her step-mother and siblings do not know. Our grandparents, aunts-uncles, my parents, and cousins don't know. I am the only person along with my uncle's ex-wife who know this HUGE secret. I have been entrusted with the biggest secret in our families history, it is an honor to be trusted, how do I make sure it stays this way? I am so proud to have this. Marking anonymous for the purpose of keeping the secret.

Question: How do I respond when my narcissistic sister bullies me and belittles those around?

Posted: 19 Oct 2018 02:40 PM PDT

Our mother made her narcissistic by enabling. Our Dad contributed as well though not as bad as our mother.

Question: Family argument - How to make my niece change her mind?

Posted: 19 Oct 2018 02:26 PM PDT

My niece (not giving out names so I will just say Niece A) had a baby girl and called her Rachel, my other niece (Niece B) is upset because she wanted to call her baby (if she has one in the future) Rachel after her sister who died; Niece A and Niece B are cousins. Niece A refuses to change her mind on the baby's name and her husband told me to mind my own f-----g business. The day Niece A got out of hospital I barged down there with my boyfriend and sons, my sons had wheel braces to confront her husband for swearing at me and I tried to get her to change her mind and she refused, I called her a selfish b***h and she told me to get out her house, I refused to budge but my boys pulled me back and we went home. Niece B is heartbroken, she wanted to call her baby Rachel, what should I do? The family is falling apart.