I don't like how others hate me so much when I don't do anything to me. This is what led to me posting a Facebook status talking about how I wished I didn't do anything that made the kids think that I was weird back in MS/HS because I think that's why a lot of people bullied me.  I feel like I didn't really say anything wrong because me being weird was the main reason why I didn't get along with females in the past. They couldn't stand me & went out their way to humiliate me and put me down. Then some of them tried to come back in my life and be friends with me again without holding themselves accountable. I also had bad friends because of this. I used to wonder why I was STILL holding grudges from MS/HS until I realized that some people remind me of the kids from there with the way they act.I don't care what anyone says. If you're socially awkward as a female, people WILL HATE YOU and you will attract the worst type of females.  And yes I will admit that I am hurt from past experiences, because even though I changed my social skills, I still don't have many friends. My apologies if this came off as a rant :-/.

I'm gay. My friend is bi. I moved a long growing up and so made a decision to stop making friends. As a result I didn't truly start until college. In my junior year I took a class with a guy I'll call J.  The second day of us taking a class together, we matched on Tindr. He used Tindr for pick up lines only and not seriously. We became friends and part of our friendship since has been sort of playful flirting and him asking when I'm going to finally admit I've got a massive crush on him.  Last year I graduated. I still see J often (well, not now with everything going on). I'm constantly in awe about how he prioritizes me still. I'm in awe that he still keeps me in his life bc that hasn't really happened with me before.  I feel safe with him, safer than with anyone else. I feel comfortable with him, more than anyone. This has led to me wondering if I have feelings for him or if I just feel deeper friendship than ever before? I've been trying to figure out what I want here for months. There's a straight friend of mine I'll call G. G knows us both. I had a massive crush on G (still kinda do) and told G about it. G said he was glad I told him when I had a crush on him but given I didn't expect anything from G (to quote G "he knew I knew he was straight") and given J is bi, G doesn't know whether or not I should since I don't know what I want yet. Should I talk to J about how I don't know what I want or what I feel? Or should I wait until I figure it out?

I am basing this on the following incident occurred at my house: I am 17 years old.  My two friends were at my house.  One of them (who is morbidly obese) was sitting in my mother's swivel chair.  When he leaned back, the backrest snapped off.  I called my mother at her job to inform her of what happened, so that she'll be prepared when she gets home and sees this.  Naturally, she was mad.  But she didn't go postal on me, and therefore told me to not worry about it.  When I got off the phone and told them it's okay and everything's fine, my other friend (not the chubby one) said, "What?!  You mean you're not getting a whooping?!" Keep in mind he's never seen my mother violently put me in check, as she never had a reason to use those parenting methods on me.  Therefore, I was under the impression that my friend's mother has belted him just for breathing, so to speak.  Based on his shocking reaction to the fact that my mother was "kind and understanding" about something that wasn't my fault (except that I made the mistake of letting our chubby friend sit in the chair), is it possible that the other friend is scared of his mother?  I don't understand why he would be surprised that my mother's not going to hit me.  He basically reacted like I was a monstrous child on "Dr. Phil" who's getting timeouts.  But I didn't say anything disrespectful to my mother.  So what's his problem?  Was I supposed to risk offending our friend by saying "I don't think you should sit there"? 🤷‍♂️ 

With this whole quarantine, my school has obviously been shut down and we're all learning from home. At school I feel more acknowledged by my friends cause it's easier to talk and stuff but now I feel like I'm ignored, which would be understandable if it didn't happen every second I breathe. When I facetime my friends, I'm almost always getting talked over or they will ignore a lot of the things I say. Almost like I'm not even there and when I am they're like 'you haven't said anything for 10 minutes!' when I have said things. I tried blaming it on poor connection but bruh there's no way it's that every single time. Everyone has asked me for homework answers. People have contacted me specifically for homework answers but when I suggest we play a game or something later it's always 'oh I can't I'm busy'. Also, one of my lesser friends who I recently started distancing from because of this just texted me again so I could be her therapist. We aren't even that close anymore but she spilled her whole life story which I've already heard 10 times. Never bothered to ask how I'm doing.  Is there any reasonable way to go about this? I don't wanna have this animosity if there's no reason to

I told my friend if he is mad with me to let me know he replied ok. That mean he ain't mad at me but that he acknowledged that he will let me know in future right? 

I'm 22 year old and it seems like all I do is sit at home and feel depressed. A few years ago I used to go hangout with all kinds of people, run around, go on trips, etc. now it seems that I barely do anything interesting, I'm rarely invited to do anything. Most of the solid friends I had then have either moved or changed. I try to be positive but it's hard, I feel like I lost my way?

I really liked a guy who decided to move away for a few years to study abroad. I was devastated as I really liked him but at the same time I didn't want to ever date him as he wasn't really working and I thought it would really irritate me if I was paying for everything. He never asked me out anyway. He came home for summer each year and he'd always come over to me to chat and I was still irrationally mad about him and couldn't help it. Last time he was away my father told me he met someone and was in love. I was devastated again and weirdly felt betrayed. I know I had no reason to feel this way. He ended up having to come home for a family matter and not sure that his romance lasted. But when he did come home I ignored him and he came over to me after a few times of ignoring me and made a smart remark at me and then said I ignored him. I avoided the confrontation but have ignored him since then. I don't know why but I still feel strongly about him even though I havnt spoken to him for a year now. I feel really angry about him, like why did he have to turn out to be like someone having a mid life crisis and why do I always end up liking guys who I have no romance or future with?

My little sister's Jaylyn's friend Hayleigh is kinda a brat and there is this new girl that came along and she's black. Her name is Juliana and when she was playing with my little sister. Her other friend Hayleigh got jealous because she wanted Jaylyn all to herself. So then she said something that was rather racist. She said Jaylyn shouldn't play with Juliana because she's black. I tried to tell her how wrong that is to say that but then she gave me the middle finger. 

I am a college student with a VERY limited amount of money. I needed a place to stay that is as cheap as possible. A fellow student told me to check out a place that might let me trade off work for a place to stay. I was met by 2 fairly attractive women who looked to me to be in their early 40s. They showed me the room in their home and it was great. For free rent I had to do several things. I had to keep the yard mowed. This would be no problem for me. They told me they were both gay and asked if I had a problem with that. I told them no problem. I was not gay but it was fine with me it they were. They told me I would see them in various states of being undressed around the house. Some times they would have no clothes on. I told them that also was fine with me. I could not imagine how any straight male would object to seeing women with out any cloths on even if they were gay. The last condition for the room was that a few times a year they needed a male escort to the country club for dinner and parties. They said they would pay for everything. This seemed like a great deal for me so I plan to move in next week. Am I getting in over my head? Is there some problem I have not thought of? Any advice would be appreciated.

I usually have to cross this bridge with everyone I meet and try to get close with, but how do I inform them of this fact without upsetting them so bad they stop talking to me?

Maybe one night you got too drunk and said or did something that made you cringe while your in college. maybe you flirted too much, had too much to drink or made a stupid decision. If you're out of college (maybe even still in college), do you look back at them and cringe still or laugh at them and wonder why you worried so much at the time?

So I have a family-owned restaurant. My parents own it and I'm helping out during corona.  Today a group of Karens (ugh!) came in and now are starting to leave but they have not touched their bill, and don't seem to wanna pay. They said, "They forgot to pay." They left a purse behind and my gfs are telling me to take the 130$ that I deserve, but I don't want to steal. Should I chase after them or email them? What should I do?

There's a group of students at my school who consider themselves better than everyone ekse in our grade. They only take their friends into certain groups/clubs and look down on everyone else. How do I stop caring about them? I am good at academics but being around them gives me so much anxiety. 

So she's had friends in her past who let her down and walked out of her life without reason, and then recently her best friend walked out of her life. She's been trying to reach this friend but no response. I reached out to her today and asked how everything is going, and she said shes fine and then asked about me? I didn't respond, so she posted online that its no point in her having friends cause at the end of the day people will just walk out of your life without reason.

I lost while playing in the mirror.

First of all, I CAN think for myself, I'd just like to hear from the crowd. I recently went no contact and unfriended someone. This particular person and I were basically high school best friends, no longer held the same beliefs, and She has come to spend time with me 4 times tops at my Parents home in the seven years after I had a stroke(even though She lives an hour away) So. Thoughts? Opinions? Advice?

I told my friend that local prison is hiring, and we should apply. My step mom worked there so we can most likely get in. They are looking for people to work in lock up, and transport.  My friend who's a girl 21 , and they will not hire her. That she is only 5'1, 115 lbs. Then she said not to sound conceited but she's way too pretty to work in a prison, some of men just because she's a young decent pretty girl is most likely asking to get rape.   She needs the money,  but she thinks it's a wast of time to put In an application. I put one in and got called right away,  but she wont. What's your intake? 

there is this girl in my class who has been giving me a hard time . she has a really unpleasant personality & everyone knows it , she acts like she is superior to everyone . it started when we were in class & she was saying some mean things about me which she was doing for a while and i finally got tired of her & said some things back . after that day she has been calling me mean words like "ugly" and saying unpleasant things about me making sure i can hear her , it's like she is trying to make my confidence go down . she has spread several lies about me & always tries to humilate me . she always talks about me with her friend . her & her friend have made threats against me . she looks for bad things to say about me & when good things happen to me she finds something bad to say . people have told me she must be jealous since she acts so obsessed with me , but i don't know . she also tries to make others dislike me . she always calls me ugly & says bad things about my body but a lot of other people say good things about me & my looks . whenever people say anything good about me she always says the opposite . her and her friend seem to hate me . she is always staring at me trying to find something to talk about . her and her friends gang up on me because i am a quiet girl who has friends in different classes . 

Me and my friend like messing with each other (in a jokey way) we pull pranks and it's always a laugh. Does anyone have an idea for how to make your friend uncomfortable or confused throught text?

They're either bitchy, annoying, or smartasses. How do I find better friends? 

I was going out to with a small group of friends to watch a movie, so beforehand we go out to get some food. We got sushi, and my friend wanted to try what I was eating, so with his chopsticks I feed him with nothing impure in my mind other than feeding him. My friend across the table suddenly says "that's one of the gayest things I've ever seen you do." And then we get into an argument over it and we need a clear answer. Is feeding sushi with their chopsticks reserved for a couple or can friends do it platonically?

I just had an argument with a friend It was small and stupid...  Now I haven't heard from him in the last few days neither has his brother or best friend and he hasn't been on Facebook either  Idk what to think  But I'm scared and worried ...

So my friend moved last year for school and she's been back twice now. The first time I saw her once, brunch and there were wishwashy plans for the next day and I told her to let me know and I'll be there, never heard from her, we were supposed to get dinner and she was kinda backing out cause she had a room for a night or so on the days I was free (cause I still work) and I was like cool let me know. Never heard from her, until she left 3 days later, saying how sorry she was for not seeing me before she left. When she was playing bingo with another mutual friend all days.  To this time, heard from her a week ago that she was coming into town and I was like cool I'm settled in the house we're having a bbq this weekend come over, booze games ect and gives her and the other friend a chance to meet one of the guys in the bridal party. And I haven't heard from her since. And once again mutual friend is hanging out with her. I guess I feel so off about this cause both of them are my bridesmaids.. and we were all so close before. But I'm kind of the odd one out with how my life is going. And I'll admit I don't reach out but after time of days before a response like there's no reason for me to keep reaching out. And asking them to be bridesmaids was cause we are close when we're together. But I'm at the point where I can't ask them and never interact besides the occasional phone call and txt.  I guess I'm wondering if it's worth the confrontation if I get blown off again.

Today I received word that my performance management was set to continue at my workplace once I return to the workplace. Recently I have gone on secondment and things didn't go to plan and I decided I wanted to go back to my original position. Management heard about this and are now very upset and have decided to continue my performance management plan to see if I am suitable for role or not, I have already been on this plan for five months. The thing which upset me the most was my performance review and objectives were already in place for 2020 and I was set to have a meeting to review this week. Now I feeling very overwhelmed and shocked by this and don't know what to do. I feel like a ton of bricks have fallen onto me all in a couple of days. I am feeling very stressed and anxious on one hand I was so close with being let off this performance plan I think and now this has happened. What should I do in this situation I really hope covid lasts for as long as it can so I don't have to go back into the office and get reviewed everyday. Were they really going to let me off if this didn't happen? What do I should I do now and I feel very upset and can't make any decisions 

Why do Russian people use the word " comrade " instead of friend or mate or colleague... et cetera . And why they get upset when they been asked that question ? is it something a shameful ?

After a close friend betrayed me and really hurt me so many times. I don't look at them the same ever again. Even if I tried it is not there. They used me, lied to me, ditched me, betrayed me when I was there like an idiot for people like that.  And I hate them more then anything in my heart. 

I can't stop thinking about certain moments when I was drunk and it is making me extremely upset. I'm extremely outgoing and caring when drunk so along with that I get very touchy and not even in a flirty way. One time, I was hanging all over my guy friend and walked him down to his car and apparently got really close to him but nothing happened and he never brought it up. And another time, I was doing self defense with a friend completely platonically as a joke and a friend of mine told me the next morning "that's not a way she would be touching a friend"- even though I didn't think it was inappropriate at all. It just makes me overthink ever little scenario. I just don't want anyone to hate me or think I am desperate or flirting too much. Do you think they do or just think I had too much to drink? Should I message them and say I'm sorry even if it's been a few months?

I constantly keep re-opening old wounds and moments that embarrass me so much. From how I acted drunk with a guy friend, to friendships that didn't end well and it is making me overthink for hours on end and I can't stop. I constantly keep thinking that these people may hate me or that the one thing I did will make them think im annoying and desperate even if it's not how I am all of the time. Is there anything to help me forget or mend those feelings?

My name is David and im 25 years old,  and im usually a player when it comes to women.  I doo flirt alot but there was one specific  person that made me change.  Her name is Samantha, but Samantha was married.  We were friends but i fell hard for her,  ive never fell like this for anyone. We haven't talked in 9 months and i still miss her sooo much.  Ive even began drinking alot to forget about the pain.  This is driving me crazy!!  I miss her smile and they way she would look at me.. Why is this happening to me???????