Hi everyone. Need some guidance from people. over 3 years ago, I invited my old high school friend who I found out later was gay, and his boyfriend to become room mates with me. My friends boyfriend is a selfish lazy prick so my friend left him and move out, still helping with rent but is gone now living somewhere else. Ive been wanted to move to Arizona since the middle of last year but the ****** up thing is, my friend doesnt give a **** anymore what happens to his ex and has left me with a ****** UP dilemma. The dude has no family, no job and noo money. IF I MOVE OUT HE WILL BE HOMELESS WITH HIS DOG. WHATT THE ****** DO I DOO?? MY SO CALLED FRIEND ****** ME.

... or is it okay as long as she doesn't give them "the talk" in response to the child telling her that he/she heard noises in her bedroom?  If she makes up an excuse such as "Your daddy and I were wrestling," can she continue not holding back the noise?  And if so, how long can this charade go on, since the child might eventually find out the truth from his/her friends at school after telling them his/her parents were wrestling, due to the friends talking about wrestling on TV or something?  The friends, who know more, might tell them what the parents were really doing.  So if the kids' childhood I'd ruined, and they tell mom, will she have to start keeping quiet.  Or can she then give "the talk" and tell her kids that she and their dad do it because they love each other very much?  Will the kids not be scarred for life if she doesn't start being quiet, or will "the talk" downplay it to the point where the kids are glad they heard their parents having sex... because it means they're not getting a divorce — something that saddens children to the point of feeling like they're at fault.   Will they be convinced that the noises are a good thing?

The one I had in childhood... I miss them.

So we're in lockdown obviously I hope anyone reading this is feeling good. I've been down lately and it's because my friends ignore my messages. I'll suggest to play a game or something and no one will respond. Then I'll see they're clearly playing games with other people I don't know but they'll appear offline. It seems so snide but I don't know if I'm overthinking it. This happens every day now and has for a couple weeks. If I do suggest something and we get playing something we play for like half an hour and that's it. No one wants to come back online. Even if we've had a good time. I'm bored of it tbh, I've stopped suggesting stuff cause I'm tired of being ignored. I like these guys, they're some of my best friends and have been for years. Our conversations are normally always good but they're just being ignorant now and have to control everything. The time we play etc. Sick of it. Should I just leave it from now on and let them do what they want? Just makes me angry now.

i wasn't sure if doing this is something that has gotten out of touch. i wanted to write a thank you card to my manager since i will be going to a new job

I sent a friend a text to thank them for being there when I needed them. They had been especially caring during a bad day recently. The friend replied "I'm here. Always!" Which I thought showed dedication to our friendship. 

I've gotten close with a friend that I met at work almost two years ago. She's a couple of years younger than me --- I spent all of 2019 hanging out with her, because I was happy that I finally made a friend and we grew closer. I always hung out with her because I was afraid of missing out or letting her down. But I loved her as a friend, and she liked me as a friend too. Although, we spent the time together doing nothing. Fast forward today, I felt like I've set aside my goals and chance to grow financially and haven't experienced any personal growth because of my decision to hang out and bum around. My friend is younger than me, and at the age of hanging out and starting college. Yes on her path. While I'm older than her, and need to focus on bettering myself and future. I feel like this friendship was holding me back, and honestly, she never really asked about my goals, and made a comment that it's not her job to motivate me or push me to follow my life goals. (It's true, i guess).  My question is, would it be selfish of me to think that In order for me to start accomplishing my goals, I'll need to cut her out of my life for awhile? Not completely, but spending less time with her to focus on myself?? Even if it means going days or weeks without contact? I meant to say, she's on her path of pursuing her own goals.  Also, I'm not blaming anyone, I just feel like I wasn't valuing myself. 

So I'm 20 I had a crush on a hot female friend of mine but she just wanted to be friends, shes single again now. She has really big boobs, in the DD range at least so I wanted to see them. I invited her and some other friends over to play poker which my (magic pick a card) deck, so I know everyone's hand we were little drunk so I suggested strip poker and was able to get her topless they were amazing. What I do to feel those. I'm planning another game maybe she'll agree to those terms since she was impressed by my "luck" is it wrong to do this?

It seems like the only time I feel genuinely happy is when I'm around my friends when without them I feel lonely and sad quarantine is making me really sad school is closed and I can't see my friends I feel alone and empty what should I do 

I sent a friend a text to thank them for being there when I needed them. They had been especially caring during a bad day recently. The friend replied "I'm here. Always!" Which I thought showed dedication to our friendship. 

BF is delaying summer wedding idea because of the virus and some personal stuff he has to do. He said "if you are in rush for wedding, you can leave or if you can wait, ok". He also said something like "even if you find another guy, it's impossible to date right now and you have to spend time all over again to know the person". I asked him if he wants me to stay, and he said "that is why I am asking you". Does he want me to stay but was giving me freedom to choose? He says he does see future with me? Thanks! Why does this sound terrifying though? Could you please explain what is wrong? We are in exclusive relationship for sure.

So I have a roommate who is very nerdy but I love her. The issue is she has all of these action figures and anime posters and I would hate for them to be hung up around the house. We also share a room. What place would be the best place for her to hang them up where they wouldnt get seen so often? The bathroom? If you're a nerdy roommate how would you react to someone asking you to not put your nerdy stuff every where? To me it looks very cluttered and tacky and I literally cant stand the sight of it. I like more clean walls with the occasional picture and I dont like a bunch of stuff on my dressers, tables, shelves, ect.

The other day at work there's this girl who sometimes goes to the place I work at to buy food & she always goes to the drive through I heard her calling me baby. Then when she was leaving she said I love you. Then last week when it was my day off from work a coworker told me that she was asking about me. And then awhile back she asked me to hang out.

Keep in mind the $150 was on behalf of two guests ($75 each), which was enclosed in a singing birthday card.  On top of that, a wrapped-up gift - a shawl.  Since the birthday girl (who was turning 50) wrote "monetary gift appreciated" in the invite, should her cousin have just given her $100 in a less expensive birthday card, and NO shawl nor any object? FYI - the birthday girl, who is the family gossip, told the cousin, regarding their lower class cousin (we'll call her Jane) who was also invited, "Knowing Jane's broke-a$$, she'll probably just give me a picture frame for my birthday."  Obviously, Jane is poor and doesn't have much of an education, therefore her nearly penniless upbringing.  So it's not like she's a cheapskate, but instead the birthday girl gossiped about her being poor.  Also, the birthday girl is a God-fearing Christian.  Was she out of line for asking for money to help pay for this party, as well as for criticizing Jane, and should the other cousin not have been that generous with the $150 (even though it's on behalf of two guests), singing birthday card, and shawl? The birthday girl lives over 200 miles away, so she and her cousin didn't grow up together.  The only reason she never  forgets her birthday is because she gets a reminder from Facebook.  So in addition, she was overly generous a cousin she rarely sees. If I'm not mistaken, the more you'll cry when they die, the more expensive the gift, which she didn't deserve anyway because of "monetary." gossiper*

Ok in like 2 months is my 21st birthday. The thing is I don't really have friends or a girlfriend or anything I have one friend who is dumb and stupid. I'm not being mean but it is true one girl asked me if I'm doing anything big and I said I have no clue. What if she comes and it's just me and this other weird guy oh man that will not go down well. I really want new friends, real friends who can be trusted and not losers who never shower and break my stuff. It's upsetting not having anyone to talk to and my parents get on my nerves. The thing is people will probably look at me and think I have hundreds of friends because I'm always happy and I'm clean and not scruffy. But they have no idea that I'm I'm just a loner. It just makes me feel hopeless. What girl will want to talk to someone like me? If I had real friends then problem solved. What can I do?

Guys I need help! I made a snap account cause my friend forced me to. Now my my figured out and I said it wasn't me.. now they think that someone is pretending to be me and is sending a police officer to someone's house.. I really messed up I should've told the truth but I lied and lied and now the fbi might go through my phone and look at deleted data. I'm scared I don't know what to do. Cause if I tell my mom I lied she would get mad and I don't want her to. But if I tell the truth my friend will get in trouble and mad. There's a photo of me saying I wanna die and my mom thinks it's someone else when it's really me.. I don't know what to do. I need help

and she cant make friends there either...? She is not retarded because she makes good grades so what do you call a person who makes good grades who is not retarded but who does not have any friends?

My best friend and I ended our friendship 7 months ago. He betrayed my trust and showed his true colors after I defended my boyfriend, which my friend always had something against because of his own old romantic feelings towards me. He humiliated me in front of my friends and tried to make me feel bad and apologize for things that should never be apologized for. Now, 7 mos later I'm able to recognize my mistakes, and I think we were both too stubborn at the time to fix the problems in our relationship. If they were fixed, our friendship probably wouldn't have ended so soon. Now I hate to say it, but I miss him tremendously. Our happy memories constantly remind me how much I miss him being my best friend, talking to and seeing him everyday. I've grown so much, I've even rekindled my friendship with 2 people who were involved in that situation who sided with him at the time. However, my boyfriend rightfully dislikes him and distrusts him, as I should too. But I miss him so much. And I know that if he were to reach out, I wouldn't be able to let him back into my life because it would be such a betrayal to my boyfriend, and I understand that. I'm so stuck, and I don't want to hurt my boyfriend who genuinely cares about me. Who helped me through that whole situation. There's so many people who "forbid" our relationship and I don't wanna screw up any of my healthy relationships for someone who hurt me and may have not changed. But I miss him, please help. 

This is completely dumb but I'm honestly torn. A girl i was good friends with for months has a birthday in a few days, right now i don't really think we are friends and she's being real shady. nothing really happened, but that's kind of the problem. our friendship just sizzled out over quarantine (which shows we apparently weren't good enough friends in the first place). I don't want to look desperate and honestly I don't want to look stupid if i say happy birthday. I don't really care to be friends again, i never really saw her as a lifelong friend, we just started hanging out after we became coworkers. We did become close, but like i said she's shady now and she's a **** talker. is it even worth it? she isn't acting like she wants to continue a friendship so should I just leave it be and act like i don't even realize it's her birthday lol. I know not saying it would be rude and there would absolutely be no coming back from that, but I kind of want to make a point that she's changed and i don't want to be around her negative energy and fake ness.  if i said "happy birthday" it would be just that, no emotion or anything, not a sappy post, literally the most basic thing ever. i mean we really aren't friends anymore. but even if i make the happy birthday message just "happy birthday" it will cause more destruction and it will make matters worse i feel like. so should i even do it??

I've been living here for years now. When I moved here it was with a couple roomate and after they moved out I only made 2 friends. One was from a past job I had and a mutal friend. I made many acquences. I made poker friends in the past but not many good friends. I would find a bar I like and made bar friends. I now just started playing basketball and met people to play ball with but not good close friends. It's all ok with me but for some reason its harder to make good close friends as you get older

I used to get bullied in high school because of my physical appearance. I had a severe underbite and people at school made fun of me. They kept calling me names like chinny chin chin guy and crimson chin. It started on 9th grade. It really hurt me and I felt so embarrassed. I only had a few friends but because of the bullying, I just wanted to be alone. I have thought of not going to school anymore so many times. I never made any friends the following years not even in college. I did talk to some people but not enough to be friends. None of my family knew about this and I still have no intention to tell them. I'm 24 now. I wore braces to correct my underbite and I look much better now but I still have a very low self esteem. I always try to avoid having any conversation with people. There's only one person that I feel very comfortable to talk to. I met her last year at a dance practice and since then we became really good friends and I like her so much. We've been hanging out and she's so amazing. She never judges me. I never felt so much appreciated like this before. Of course my family does but it's different when it comes to other people. She always makes me feel special and she motivates me to do things that I think are impossible for me to do. I always wonder why people gotta be so mean? What does that give you? Do you achieve something when you make fun of people?😢

Why would she ask this?

Started a temporary job recently on secondment and have been very unmotivated to do the job well and haven't done anything at all. Supervisor has asked me if job is right for me or not and she told me if not the right fit then let her know. I am scared and worried that if I let her know I will be out of work and have nothing to do. What should I do as I don't like job at all and have tried forcing myself to do it well. If I do ring my supervisor what should I say to her? I feel very embrassed if I lose my work. Currently suffering from anxiety as well so please help if possible 

I work for a Packaging  company,  and i knew this girl Alyssa for 2 years.  Alyssa was a secretary,  and we would always talk.  Alyssa would always stare at me like crazy, and there was lots of chemestry when we talked.  I had feelings for her but she was married with 3 kids,  i obviously respected her. She would always blush around me One day Alyssa was having a deep conversation with one of my besfriends (a girl)  and Alyssa told her that she is falling for me, and cares for me  but feels guilty because she's married.  She begged my friend to never tell me the secret.  Alyssa and i began getting closer and closer,  but later other coworker's caused drama because everyone thought we were having an affair. My manager told me to stop talking to Alyssa to avoid drama.  Alyssa told me she didn't want to see me get into trouble because of her.  Alyssa was having major problems with 2 specific coworkers and i know she was stressed.   I later began noticing that Alyssa would give me the cold shoulder,  and was acting different with me.   one day for her birthday I gave her a gift card,  but she told my manager about the gift card and my manager got mad and moved me to a different department.   3 weeks later after I was moved I heard Alyssa resigned from her job, and blocked me from Facebook...   early this year around February I noticed she returned to work but she doesn't look me in the eyes.  it's like I don't exist anymore!  Why is she so cold with me??