I was just accepted to a few universities, I'm in my senior year of high school, and I was thinking about this just now. I have to write a letter stating that my parents don't live with me, and I'm including the time my dad told me he was going to put me in foster care. I remember him telling me that him and his siblings were in foster care once and how much it sucked, so why would he want to do that to his own kid? I mean maybe he's just really messed up. He forced my mom and grandparents to go to court so he could get full custody of me and make my family miserable since my mom didn't want to get together with him again. I want to believe he can be a nice person since he's my dad but with all the ridiculous things he's done to me and my family, I just don't think he is lol. But even if he is a sucky person, he can just leave his 2 kids like nothing? How do people even do that? Just pick up from a new state and start a whole new life and make a new family? I don't get it. I'm just wondering why or how a parent can just leave their own kid or torture them, abuse them, tell them no one loves them, etc. 

My grandma Mary died yesterday after fighting a battle with leukemia. She was 71. My grandpa,72, is a retired family practitioner. They met in high school.At first grandma didn't want to date him,then he left for the Marines and was sent to Vietnam,they got married in 1975 and had 3 children,one of whom is my dad. It's just so surreal the whole situation. I had never lost anyone and I feel lost,I want to cry so much. It came out of the blue especially since grandma had been feeling well for a long time. I mean,she did have leukemia but she had it for over a year and in the last months it seemed like she wasn't sick at all..she died in her sleep last night.at home. Today as I went to their house with my dad when we were all talking with him I noticed grandpa had teary eyes but told me he was fine,as soon as I told him I wanted to go upstairs and when he noticed I wasn't in the room anymore,he let himself cry with my dad next to him. I feel like if a truck had run over me. I have tons of thingd to study but can't focus on anything. Should I let some weeks pass before I start studing again? Idk I can't focus on ANYTHING. I sure need someone to tell me some nice things right now....adivces?

I missed the joy of Christmas because of my parents.

They are in their late 80's and in Florida. They can't come home to New York because everyone is still getting coronavirus and will have a second wave when stuff reopens or in the fall. So they are likely going to stay in Florida with my 1 cousin, their grandson, and they are able to stay in a small town away from everyone. They said it may even be summer of next year before it is safe for them to see anyone other then themselves and my one cousin. The cousin is unemployed and helping them out (he has learning disabilities), I envy him. Christmas is always so special with them and everyone, this Christmas they will be quarantined in Florida with my cousin Michael most likely. Michael's Mom might go down but she will be the only one who can. If they die next year we will all have missed their final Christmas. So my question is how do I get over the hurt of maybe not seeing them again and missing their final year or two and certainly possibly their last Christmas. Even my cousin Michael's parents and siblings can't go down as it would be too many people though his Mom may go alone at Christmas. 

My father's English friend died and left him a legacy.. As per the will, once the house is sold, the Solicitors will send the money on my father's bank account but sadly, my father passed away and his bank account was closed.. Since my parents are separated and I am the only child, I am the heir of my father and my son as per his last will.. I would like to know what if I will declare to the Solicitors that my father passed away already, does the Solicitors will allow me to get the legacy on behalf of my father?

such a wimp?

I fear it made our whole family look bad even though my parents were the ones neglecting my Dad's elders. My mother's elders they were good to almost to the point of obsession. My Mom fears her mother horribly and so if her mother is unhappy then my Mom is paralyzed in fear and embarrassment. My Dad fears my Mom and so he tries to please her and it becomes a sick and dysfunctional chain. So does this mean I made up for the pain my Dad caused or am I scarred by my Dad's disgusting neglect since I am his son? His parents died in 2006 and 2010 so it has been some time. My Mom's mother is younger and this still living at 89.

They still love her and I think one aunt does (they would be the only 3 mourning). While this happening is a nice thought, I certainly don't want it to for my parents sake and I would never wish death on someone. So in the event this happens, or if she gets really sick from COVID-19 even if she lives, how do I support my parents when it happens? I am close to both parents. 

So in the spring each year I have a gathering with family and their friends. Not really a family reunion for say but a reunion of family friends. My parents have died and this event has shrunk a lot. Last year I cancelled it cause my Mom had just died in March. This year I had to cancel due to COVID-19 though a few of us got together (it was this past weekend). One year what would happen if i had a reunion of family and their in-laws. So like my aunt's family but also her husband's family and even some of their in-laws? This would be the-in laws of about 20 families. Would this be good or would it end up being hundreds of people? I am thinking people would get to know each other. My uncle's now ex-wife used to do this at Thanksgiving where the in-laws of all her relatives came and it was why we went. Her family was redneck though so many in-laws were 2nd cousins also (true story). So would this be a good idea or am I crazy? Won't be doing it this year obviously with coronavirus and probably nothing next year cause of Coronavirus, but in 2 or 3 years when it is safe to see people again I am wondering of this.

My sister us pure evil but my father has some good qualities. 

I wish I was joking. I REALLY FRICKING WISH I WAS JOKING. I live in the room right next to my brother. His room already had an odd smell of must. Recently yesterday a new odor emerged. The smell of pure ****. I was dumbfounded. "No way would he do this." I thought. BUT NO I remembered. My mother once went into his room months ago because she was tired of the musty smell and wanted to get to the bottom of it. Among piles of old dirty rusty clothes she found jugs, I kid you not, MULTIPLE JUGS of urine and ****. My question is, How do I approach the situation? Like I don't know where to start? How do I just go up to someone and say "Can you please stop shitting in your room? We have a bathroom literally a few steps away." He has no good reason to do this. Also I'm asking because he also has a really bad attitude problem and doesn't take criticism well. He'll start yelling and being aggressive. What's the best way to word this when telling him face to face or with a written note? I apologize for the cursing but my goodness the level of PURE FUNK AND DISGUSTING ODOR makes me feel this is best way to describe what I'm smelling. Air freshener does not help.

So I got this diamond painting kit I waited for literally forever to come in. I was extremely excited since I am an avid artist. I worked super hard to organize all the gems it came with by color into cups I had already owned and I labeled everything. I decided to work on it over the weekend and I made a plan for how to do it. I decided to start on the boring parts first and then save the best parts for last (which were the roses). So I worked hard to finish the borders and all the other areas. I left it out on my kitchen table and on Sunday my sister said she was coming over with my niece and her spouse to go swimming (we have a pool). So my mom lets them come over and I leave with my grandma and mom to go to a gardening place. When I come back, I find my sisters spouse to be doing MY diamond painting without my consent and on top of that she completely ruined my strategy as I was doing the bland parts first and she immediately dove into the red roses I specifically wanted to save for last. I feel like she violated my artwork and this may be an exaggeration, but this was something that really meant a lot to me and I feel like she had no right to just touch it and mess with it. She said she had always wanted one too and kept working on it while I was there. I didn't have the guts to say stop since my sister was there, but still. I feel like she ruined it for me and I don't know what to do. I stuck the craft in one of my drawers and now I don't want to even look at it.

So I'm 20 and I recently graduated college with an associates. I'm still job hunting because this coronavirus pandemic pushed me back (I still live with my parents because it's impossible to move out right now). My birthday is coming up in less than a month. I never usually ask for anything for my bday. but my mom asked me what I wanted so I said there's a video game Ive always wanted to play (it's an old game so they're cheaper). My dad overheard the conversation and said "I think what you want is a job instead." In a very strict tone. So I just said never mind then. It was literally the only thing I wanted.  I don't have a video game addiction. I only play at night for a couple hours at most. I'm wondering if what he said Was inappropriate. Also, I am doing freelance off to the side in the meantime. I just don't have as much of it. I didn't want to go out and get a job because both of my parents are at risk.  I did work while I lived in campus. I was a tutor. I'm not being lazy. I don't want to make my family sick. Especially if my parents are high risk. That's not laziness that's being cautious.

My bf and I have been dating for a year. Never had anything bad happen between us. He's amazing and so loving. The whole year my parents haven't liked him. My dad said he's disrespectful because When we used to go out we would get home past 11pm (I'm 24) and that's truly the only reason. My mom hates him bc he smokes weed (occasionally; he's not a pot head //he's not always high). She hates him bc he has tattoos and bc his family is poor. He has a great job and hes gotten promoted a few times. He's well off himself and can take care of me. Recently, my parents banned him from coming to our house. He's not allowed inside. If I want to see him I have to go to his house or we can hang out in the street outside my house. I'm no longer allowed to talk about him at home. I get it's their house their rules but it breaks my heart that they hate him that much and those were their reasonings as to why he's not allowed here.   I know I'm 24 and can move out, but rn it's hard bc coming in June I will be jobless and I wasn't planning on it (got laid off as a teacher). I also know I can get a job after June but for the tome being my parents expect me to be happy and not upset about the whole situation.  Also if I leave they'll cut me off completely. 

Its the one where you can be a dragon. I have a sister whos obsessed with it and is getting bullied verbally and out of items, killed and as well as sexually assaulted in it all the time. There are perverts that come out and say nasty sh it and try to hump the character. She cries about all this to my parents and I and my parents force me to watch her play and verbally abuse me severely when I dont do everything for her. Im sick of her and doing all this sh it.

yesterday my Father shook hands with somebody at the gas station. I couldn't believe it i became so worried about my health that I kept nagging my Dad to stay someplace else. He got mad and punished me. That's not far, he said he's the Dad and will tell me what's fair Nd not fair

School got closed for the rest of the year because COVID-19 , I've been completing all my work online and getting good grades. The only thing that changed is I stay up later and wake up past noon which makes my mom extremely mad which I don't get because I'm not interfering with anything, she's been waking me up to sit in the living room all day and I don't get the reason. I'm also 15

Or am I supposed to fix it? It's over me calling my sister out on her bullying and since then she doesn't wanna speak to me. She's a 26-year-old who bullies like a small child

Am a 24 year old guy and I decided to stay with my mom because am almost done with college, but it's affected my self esteem to the point that i have no friends and never even had my first kiss. Am able to work full time as I attend college online, and am thinking, moving out will do wonders for my self esteem, but I don't want to move out in bad terms or abandon my mom. My mom is the type of person that's physically and verbally abusive, she's also more violent than my dad and tends to be pessimistic. She's very impulsive and sees herself as a victim of everything. She also tries to control me and I don't like it. I just want to be on my own so that I can have total control of my life. Do you think this is a good idea or not? I really appreciate your advice.

I go to bed between 8/9 and get up between 6/7.  My family goes to bed at 2 and gets up around 10am.  I just sat in bed for three hours trying not to wake anyone, and when I finally caved and went to get dressed for the day I woke everyone.  Sound travel so well in this house it's impossible to even use the bathroom without waking everyone.  They get offended when I go to bed before dinner (which is often served between 10-11) and never turn down the tv or mind how loud they talk when I am trying to sleep.  

I'm in my mid 20's, young adult going back to school to pursue a professional career. I was independent for a couple of years, I had bills and a cost of living I couldn't afford to attend school I thought. My parents offered to help me with no rent, food or internet, while I saved up for my school working a full time job. Great. Months of staying with them I felt were exhausting. I did not have my privacy, I was always bashed on my past mistakes, calculated how long I took to shower, forcing me to prove them they can trust me by searching MY PHONE to checking how much money I have in my bank & lecturing me for hours. I have had it. So I came to a point I needed to end this before I started school. I got admitted At the college but my mom didn't show much enthusiasm. I came clean to them and they weren't too happy. They went from "we will help you for school" when I haven't  even register yet to "oh you moving out. Ok pay us for the cost of living food and internet we provided you" I feel like they backstabbed me! I don't want to give them the amount they want & it's A lot to how bad they want a "better future" I was planning on giving them sum money before I leave but they're asking 2k for 3-4 months I've stayed under their roof. What would you guys do? After being treated like crap. At the same time they offered to help me. I was going to tell them last minute leaving but they'd be questioning why the boxes and luggage?

I applied for a job at a amusement park and got it so I told my boyfriend to apply so we can be gone, out of town this summer. He then proceeds to tell his cousin and everybody else to apply... now everybody and their mom is working with us from our home town when it was just suppose to be us... out of town for the summer. All because he talk too much 

I am 18 and I have Autism, Bipolar,Ocd,Adhd and I have always had a hard time finding friends my whole life but I have had one friend that has stuck with me through thick and thin since first grade. Me and my friend both have a lot in common...Both of our Moms abandoned us at a young age. My Mom divorced my Dad because she was cheating on Dad and similar things happened with my friends Mom and we have spent our wholes childhoods together (I even lived with him when Dad had medical issues he spent a long time in the hospital to recover from surgery) but my Dad is 57 (Mom is 56) but my Dad has very bad anger he was diagnosed with multiple personalities and intermediate explosive disorder (professionally diagnosed) for years now my Dad don't know when to stop when he is mad  he starts in with everyone my entire Dad's side of the family avoids him. My Dad got his first smart phone last summer and puts his and everyone's business out on Facebook. My Dad added each one of my friends on Facebook including their numbers in his contacts list and added their parents. My Dad and I have a stressful life its busy and we both have a hard time getting along My Dad will then post each situation of Facebook than text each one of my friends about me than not tell me. Well tonight my friend told my Dad to quit texting him and that what my Dad texted him was not his business. So about 3 hours ago my Friends Dad called my Dad and they had a serious argument I am not allowed to visit my friend  we both cannot hang out since both of are parents have the my house my rules. Its broken me down I cannot sleep I have been crying because my childhood friend is not allowed to go around me. They got sick of Dad texting them every day about me. it was a heated argument between our Dads. My Dad even drove to their house. I am devastated and sad  right now. I live in a rural area in a small farm town in Ohio of 4000 people and Dad has ruined most of my friendships in this small town. I amvery hurt

I kinda feel embarassed even asking but basically im 16 and im the oldest , my brother is 14 and my other sibling is 11. We stayed up till basically 3 am , I walked in into my 14 year old brother room and I saw him jerking off and it was just plain akward. He was really embarassed , I asked him an array of questions about it and he tried to play it off , but it didn't work. So Im sure if I just keep quiet about it , nothing will happen but any tips or advice?

So I'm 15 and my parents divorced and now I live with my Mom and her new husband and his family. They're all so friendly. I like living here. Yesterday though my step brother, who is 19, asked if I wanted to take a weenie ride with him? I dont know what that means - but I didn't want to be rude so I said yes. It sounds kinda lame - is it like a small rollercoaster or something?

My mom always wears one at the beach and it feels quite awkward

I have a 9 year old son who love his father very much but he Dad in and out of his life. Every since I put him up for child support he just pretty much disappeared. He will call and say Happy Birthday and my son won't hear back from him until the next year. My son started crying and said I don't understand why Daddy don't like me. I told his Dad if I take him off child support, will he be willing to be in our son life more. My question is, if I take my son father off child support for him to come around more, is that a bad idea? I just want to baby (son) to be happy. 😞 

When I was 11 my mom got so mad at me she screamed at me and grabbed my arm threw me on the bed she grabbed my arm and lifted off the ground and landed on the bed. did she lift me? was she strong?

I care about my parents opinion a lot but lately it's been hurting me.  My bf is amazing. He loves me, he respects me, he's there for me whenever I need him. He means the world to me. We've been together for a year.  He has a great job. He makes decent money for both of us to live. He's hardworking.  My parents have attacked him before out of nowhere. We casually mentioned we wanted to move out soon and my mom accused him of being a drug dealer and my dad yelled at his face. Of course, my bf stood up for himself. He didn't yell at them but spoke sternly about how they were wrong.  Yes he does smoke weed but it's 2020 and California. He has tattoos but that doesn't make him a bad person. His family has 2 people that struggle with alcohol abuse. Not too bad but a little. My parents know of this and are accusing him of also being an alcoholic (he doesn't drink alcohol).  They made this new rule at home that he's no longer allowed here. I can date him but he can't be around my family nor can I talk about him with my siblings.  I'm 24. I know I can move out but I just lost my job. I know it's their house their rules but they're also telling me that I better be happy 24/7 and they don't want to see me sad or with an attitude about their decision. They know it hurt me bc I cried the moment they told me that. 

My daughter has been with her boyfriend for 3 years.  He lost his mother 20 years ago.  She was killed by her boyfriend and he is in jail now.  I feel really bad for him because he lost his mother.  But he says she should be there for him on Mother's Day because he lost his Mother.  He expects her to baby him all day.  My daughter and I are really close and it really hurts my feelings that she puts his feelings above mine.  He seems to be jealous of anytime she wants to spend with me on the phone or in person.  He has a fit if she wants to come see me or spends any time with me on the phone.  She lives 2 hours away from me.  I was a single mother and raised she and her brother for years by myself.  I am so hurt.  Any suggestions?

I grew up really far away from my family, I feel so different, & judged. I honestly just really hate the family I come from. Family to me are people who love me for who I am & I don't feel that with "family". My cousin is upset that I don't talk to my other cousins. Is family suppose to talk to each other? I never felt close to any of my cousins & I can live without them...why does he care if I talk to my cousins? This one cousin has tried to keep in touch with everyone...why is family not important to me? 

Today while he was using his hammer hard to push a screwdriver into the wall, my brother complained about it being too loud and giving him a headache. My stepdad who is my 8 year old brother's dad tell them to "stop being a *****" [if that's bleeped that's the b-word] and that it's just a sound Yesterday he blasted the music very loud while driving with my mom and me and my brother in the car and my brother was closing his ears and said it was too loud and my stepdad was being harsh at him in telling him it's just a song and he even said "******" while attempting to switch over from a rap song.. we almost didn't hear it but he said it My stepdad and my mom (an enabler) both make fun of Asian people in private by mocking their voices and I think I heard my stepdad downstairs say to my brother "God damn [N-word]" (though it's unclear whether it was *ga or *gers.. I think the latter part but I think he said it in a more "quiet" tone) We're all Armenian-Americans (I have half of Jordanian in me)

My mom had me at 16. My dad was 17. When I was three, my dad left my mom and I. We still stayed in touch. Although, I only saw him once or twice a year when I was little. My mom is my best friend. I use to be scared to go stay with my dad because I thought he would take me to live with him and I would Never get to see my mom again. My birth dad talks bad about her all the time.My dad has a really bad back and he always uses this as an excuse as why he cant come see me or why hes so depressed all the time. He tells me that I probably have it because of him, which I know it is not Genetic. I get scared that I am a bad person. I'm scared that I am dead inside. What if it is Genetic? Anyway about 13 years later, I see my dad more and more. Although, i do think he is growing up and going to spend more time caring about me. My mom marries my step dad and he is everything to me. He cares about me more than my dad would ever. So after 3 years of having my step dad in my life, I put my FB page as Keira and then my step dads last name. Apparently someone told my real dad that I put it as that, and he calls my mom and starts yelling. My dad never wanted to talk to me about these things and it hurts my mom because he blames her for everything. I called him and he wont answer me. Hes ignoring every call. Im finally ready to share my feelings with him. I dont know what to do. I love him but sometimes he can be so child-ish. Please help!!

In 2014 I changed my name by deed poll, after 7 years of having this name I'm beginning to think I've made a mistake as I was young and stupid when I did it. So when I do go back to my birth name would I need to keep or show my deed poll to anyone else in the future or can I get rid of the deed poll and forget I made this mistake?

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one time when I was 11 my mom got so mad at she screamed at me and threw me on the bed like she grabbed my arm and I went flying onto the bed

I'm 16 and I am currently in my house with my parents and my sister. We are all stuck in the house because of quarantine and it's getting a little crowded so I want to move my room to our detached garage. There is already a guest room on top of the garage, I would just want to redo it a little. Plus, I need something to do since I'm stuck home.  My sister is supposed to be away at college but because of quarantine her school shut down so she and her dog moved back home. Now we have 4 people and five dogs in the house. And in my room I have 3 pets of my own and it is kinda cramped. My family also doesn't respect my space and they constantly barge into my room.  I basically want to move to the garage because it will give me something to do for the next couple weeks, it will give me more personal space, it will allow more space for my pets, and it will give my family more space. Plus it would force me to be more responsible, and I would still be like 10 feet away from the main house. When I asked they said no because they don't trust me enough. Even though I never did anything to make them not trust me. They are just extremely overprotective. Another reason why I need space.  EDIT: my sister and I already have separate rooms. 

My youngest child turns 5 this week. My parents will not becoming to his small family party due to the CA governors stay at home orders. Would you be mad/sad at them too?  They say that even though the order will be lifted soon and none of us are sick that they will follow the orders even missing his Birthday.  (On a side note, I am against the stay at home orders)  Thank you in advance for any reply. God bless! *due

My 20 year old brother has always been a nightmarae for my mum.He has my dad wrapped around his  finger and he cant see his true character. They both work in our family garage.He and my father fell out 3 weeks ago after he verbally abused him the same way he does my mum. My dad kicked him out so he removed all his tools. My dad was upset but my mum stuck by his side. He helped my brother get started out in the career path he is going down and supplied him with everything.For 2 weeks he barged around our home with an attitude towards my parents, gave cheek to my mum,  ran down my dad and his work to my mum and others, didnt help out at all around our house and picked on our younger brother. My parents told him to change his attitude and at least help around the house if he didnt want to work in the garage. A week passed and he just did the absolute minimum and still had the same attitude. Over time he and my dad started to speak again. Yesterday his behaviour escalated when he reduced my younger brother to tears through verbally abusing him on front of his friend. He physically hurt him last week also.  My mum had enough and burst into tears. She told my dad that he is being kicked out. My dad just stood there looking at her and went to bed. Today he hardly spoke to my mum now that he and my bro are on good terms. My dad treated my bro as though nothing happened today  My mum is mad with him. Opinions please? I think my dad is a coward and my bro is evil.

I'm just curious. It's weird because some brothers and sisters get along well yet some sisters avoid physical contact (ie-hugs) with their brothers at all costs. 

I'm only sensitive when it comes to my parents. I get to sad when they say the slightest thing to me. I can never hold back my tears. They don't really do anything but I don't know why. I'm not sensitive at all with other people.