so i have a question. i have a 3.8gpa i have no friends/ social life no phone, only computer i'v been  homeschooled ever since 6th grade now im in high school i do house work and help out everyone in the family. But my ARAB mom is still on me, like she yells and sometimes i have a mental breakdown How should i act towards her? Should i just live with it or talk to her and if i do talk to her what do i tell her?

My mom's been dating a guy way younger than her (he's 27, she's 43). They've been dating for about a year. I've had concerns about my mom jumping into a relationship that's doomed to fail due to their age difference/differences in maturity/differences in stages of life. In the past I tried pointing out these concerns to my mom, but she insists there's not a maturity difference (even though I think there is one) and that age is just a number. She says she's viewing this with a clear head. She's told me they are in love with one another. Recently my mom/her BF announced that 1) they're engaged 2) she's pregnant (However, I do know for a fact the pregnancy was planned, so they're not getting married just because she's pregnant) Given that the relationship is more than likely going to last at least a decent while and they're going to have a kid together I've decided I want to be as supportive as I can be. Despite my concerns, I do recognize that he is a really sweet guy who treats her very well. I also know that my mom hasn't been with a nice guy in a very long time (my father was verbally abusive and a little physically abusive). In a lot of ways I want this to work out, but (as I stated before) I've had my doubts. Furthermore, I think the age gap is plain weird. My boyfriend is 24 years old, which means he's only 3 years younger than her boyfriend. I'm closer in age to her boyfriend than she is. (more to read) 've heard them have sex a few times, and the age gap just makes me want to vomit (my mom doesn't get how loud she actually is). I actually want to stop feeling like it's weird, but I don't know how to.  Given the circumstances, how can I best be supportive despite my doubts about the relationship and how weird I think it is? Is there any way for me to stop being weirded out by it? If so how? *I've Just to clear things up I don't live with my mom. I do have a key to her house and I have walked in to the sounds of her doing it. I don't live with her though. 

My older brother always copies me! It is not flattering in the least, and he speaks badly about me to other relatives. We were all at my mother's house, and I was in a bedroom that connects to the bathroom. The light was off in the bathroom, so I assumed no one was in there. I walked into the bathroom ,and my brother was standing in the dark. Apparently he was eavesdropping on me, and he wanted it to look like there was no one in the bathroom! Also, I have been taking acting lessons for years and now my brother is trying to become an actor too! I remember when I purchased my first car, my brother was visibly upset about it. He then traded in his car a few months later and purchased a car of the same make and model as my car. I also discovered a late artist whose work I loved. I posted about him on FB, and my brother saw the post and changed his FB profile name to the artist's last name. I cannot confront my brother about it because he says things like, "you're delusional" when confronted. My mother also sticks up for him too! I just want my privacy to be respected. I do not know what to do anymore. BTW, I am woman.

We used to have this elderly couple next door to us, but the husband died and the house was sold. There is a new couple there who my parents don't like. My mum says the wife is a phone, and the husband is a redneck, who drinks budweiser, smokes Marlboro reds and waste his time playing street hockey. Anyway, the wife is pregnant, and I told my mum that my dad was rubbing her tummy. Now she is refusing to speak with him. Should I feel bad? I could tell the truth, but this is too funny to ruin. Please help!

So right before easter  my aunt (mom's sister) was diagnosed with Stage 4 anal cancer. Apparently my aunt did not take it too well. She is usually very classy, but that night she had too much Chardonnay and posted on Facebook "I have Cancer of the A$$hole." My mom does not use Facebook, but I told her and she it the roof. She says it was a disgusting thing to say at Easter and that the family has been disgraced. She has ordered by aunt out of her home, out of the family, out of her company and out of our lives. Is she overreacting? Should I try to smooth things over or just stick with my mom and forget about my aunt. I do feel sorry for her though.

Hi, last week, my Dad dropped a bomb on me. Apparently when he was in the war in Vietnam, he met a local woman, who told him that she had a baby once he had returned home. He has known about it all these years and so has my mom, She is OK with it since it was before she met him. Any way, my half sister arrived a few days ago and my dad made me take her around school.  My friends are not very accepting as some of their dads were also killed in Vietnam. Anyway, some of the fellas made racist comments (The "G" word) which made my sister cry. My best friend and I got in a fist fight over it. I want to defend my half sister, but I also understand his position has his dad was killed in Saigon during the war. My dad tells me to just get over it, but it's not go simple. I want to accept my sister, but I am now getting bullied in school over it. I know it sounds horrible, but sometimes I feel it would be easier if my half sister returned to Vietnam. Does this make be a bad guy? Please help!

My parents are happy that I'm still living at home. I pay about half the bills of the house and contribute to house when needed. I'm okay with being here but there's just something about living in the place for over 30 years. My little sister who's 10 year younger than me basically got kicked out for being a party animal. So she moved out with her boyfriend and seems happy. Now I feel left behind ever since she left. Most of my old friends from school are married with kids. Some are living with their SO or living single alone. I'm currently have a boyfriend but we are taking a bit of break due this pandemic. I just feel like never grew up after high school. Sometimes I tell my parents I want to move out and buy house or rent apartment but my parents want to stay and don't really want me to leave.

I'm 23 and still live at home due to just losing my job. I know I can move out but for the time being what can I do?  a lot of drama has been going on at home. I left for a few days to get it to calm down. When I left, I didn't take my iPad bc I didn't need it and it was dead and stacked in some piles of paper on my desk. I went to my bfs house bc it's the only place I knew I was safe.  Well I come back home and my parents know all this **** about me. I was confused but admitted to everything they said they knew - they banned my bf from ever coming over for letting me stay at his house when I needed somewhere to stay.  I was looking for my iPad and used find my iPad on my phone and made the iPad make a sound. Low and behold, it was in my dads drawer wrapped in his clothing. I opened it, fully charged, and all my messages were opened and read.  My mom wants to act like she has no idea how it got there and how she has no idea how she knew all this information about me staying at my bfs house.  There is 0 respect for privacy and like I said I can move but for the time being, until I find a job, I can't look at them the same. They said they expect me to have a good attitude, to not fight, to not argue, to not cuss, to respect them....but I came to find this out today.  my mom told me she hid it in my dads clothes without him knowing. said that she only took it to protect my sister (17) from my idiocy and my disgusting txts messages. None of my txts are ever disgusting. I don't sext. I don't send pictures. A bunch of my messages are to my friends about life or to my bf about situations I'm dealing with. idk what she meant. she also said she did it to find out if I was ok when I left then she used it against me when I came home about staying over my bfs house. 

My sister is 9 turning 10 in few months and she knows how to open up my iPhone 6s phone with password and I have already changed my password a lot of times and she still had a way to open it up don't know how but it's getting to the point where it's getting no in my nerves. I left my phone by the table bc I was about to leave and there she was caught looking thru my phone I got soo mad. I am 20 but goodness Idk how she had a way to open it up and I put the most hardest password she says there is another way to open it up without password. Would y'all get mad if someone did that to you like you're sibling ?

So I'm having online classes almost everyday and my teachers are pretty strict (some are just mean:( anyway I get yelled at a lot.... today I even cry but the teacher didn't notice....and it's really embarrassing cause when I cry my voice temble and my friends get to see me....how to avoid crying when I got shout/lecture at....

My 5 year old wants his father and I to spend time together with him. We have not been together since my son was 4 months old. His dad has his own life and doesn't want me in any part of it. I feel simular. He abused me in unspeakable ways and the small amount of time we are in the same room, he is very rude to me. I'm still scared of him. My son asked if he could have his whole family together and part of me wants to do that to show we can come together and support him.. but another part of me is like absolutely not. I threw the idea to his dad a few days ago and I got a reply back of just "no". Do I keep trying or do I just tell my son sometimes adults can't make it work but we both love him even though we're completely childish people? Any advice? 

The family sees it as we are the Hatfield's and they are the McCoy's.

My mother would use us as weapons against my Dad's family over her in-law issues.

We live in a two-bedroom apartment, and out of concern, my son asked if I was okay because he heard me yelling in pain.  Since he thinks we were wrestling, does it not matter if he hears us?  The space of our home makes the choices of intimacy very limited, and even if I was quiet, which is next to impossible, my son will still hear the bedpost hitting the wall, as well as the bed creaking.  

— doesn't have a job — was repeatedly in and out of jail — has five children by five women

I know someone who when he was 11 his mom got so mad at him she screamed at him and threw on the bed she grabbed his arm and he lifted off the ground and landed on the bed.

 One time I was doing my homework and I get a call from my brother telling me to go walk with his girlfriend because she was bored and unemployed at home. I am 5 years younger than her and she's 22, I told him that I'm busy with homework but he told me that she doesn't want to be alone, I feel as if everything she says goes. I feel obligated to listen to my brother because he's older than me and I come from an Asian family. Another time that has me regretting my actions was when they both got into a huge argument for the 4883398282938th time and she threw alcohol at his face while my brother just stood there. Then all of a sudden the next day they act as if nothing happened and tell me to clean their dishes. She does not approve of jokes directed at her because she will get offended.  My brother sucks up to her all the time and she acts like a big baby. They are both lazy and expect my other older brother to take out their trash everyday. I tell him repeatedly not to do it but they always seem to find a way to make us do things for them. My mom tells me that I have to listen to them since they buy us many things and sometimes cook food for us. I am grateful for that but I just feel depressed every time they force me to chill with them. It seems that If we refuse to chill with them they think we hate them or something which is half true. His girlfriend also likes to steal my cat and keep him with her. I DONT feel comfortable around her and it's hard to tolerate her. 

For example my dad doesn't want me to have a full bookcase in my room, to get rid of keepsakes etc.  he keeps acting like they are taking me in but I only moved back in because I can't pay for two houses

I have a bit under 200 books.  Most of them are specialized reference materials (very niche and difficult to obtain field guides) that were passed down to me from a professor who passed away.  The majority of the rest are curriculum I use for teaching, a good chunk of which were passed down to me from my grandmother who was a school teacher (most material of which is still relevant). I am not certain if my dad wants me to get rid of the books because he thinks they take up too much space or because he knows I would be dearly sorry to get rid of them.   I am an adult but moved back in with my parents because they kept asking for financial assistance I could not provide while living on my own 

We don't know her kids but knew them when they were really little. It was 2002 that they left the family and we've never seen them since though I saw the aunt on 1 occasion about 5 years ago. So how do I handle them on the family tree I am making? Do I contact them? My mother says not to so I figure I shouldn't.

When the uncle was convicted, multiple other victims came forward, it even made the news, and there was physical evidence why would my grandmother not only claim I lied but refuse to ever associate with me again. She died two years ago and had not spoken to me since 1995 in a profanity laced phone message my mother didn't want me to hear (but I heard it anyway). Also, why would it be that my mother who is otherwise a good mother, did not stand up for me and according to my aunt (not sure why she told me this) would tell my grandmother when she would attack me "well I am staying kind to everybody" to please my grandmother, even to the point of offering to visit my uncle in jail with my grandmother (he refused visitors and died in 2004). Worse of all was my mother tried to stop me from having the closure of going to my grandmother's funeral and I went anyway but was not welcome at the reception (my mother was hosting it on my parents farm). She just said "I am respecting my mother's wishes". This man did it to many children and a few years ago my cousin revealed to me that he did it to her. I kept the secret and she committed suicide two years ago. Now I feel guilty thinking if I had broken her confidence maybe people would have been able to help her though she did have other issues also. So with all this my question is why would I be the villain to my grandmother and why would my mother not stand up for me and instead tried to make her mother happy? Posted anonymous only so the family is not identified. Never usually do (not a troll)

Let's say she put a foreclose on her house, and owes several relatives/friends money which she borrowed years ago.  Although, she frequently takes group vacations throughout the U.S. and Virgin Islands.  Is she spending too much money on herself, or did her son send her to the poorhouse by bailing him out of jail and helping with child support payments?

It is why she is divorced and now an enemy of ours. Yet, I feel my parents are doing the same thing this ex-wife of my uncle's does and why they are mad at her. She and my mother have always been very similar. So what are the unhealthy things about doing this?

My older sister is my mom's favorite. She treats my sister the best and always chooses her way. One time I was wearing mismatched socks and my sister kept bothering me saying that she wants me to wear matching socks. I really didnt care so I told her to go away. Then my mom I intervened and only started bothering me in order to fulfill my sisters wishes. I end up ignoring them She makes a big deal if she has a job and tries to make everyone go to bed early. Claiming are single foot steps will wake her up. I always worked different work schedules. There were times I worked at 5am or 6am or 8am, but I never bothered anyone and just went to bed my own time. There were times she would also bother me when I came back from work but my mom never did anything.  Also she would tell me haha you're goi g to have debt because of the accident. You do stupid things and you're an awful person.  She was saying I would end up living in my van in the future. She also was bothering me last night on purpose when I had an important paper due and she was bothering me on purpose because she wanted me to fail She also comes in my room at random times in the night yo bother me and take my stuff.  My mother doesn't care. This daughter is all her favorite but apparently to her Im just a second class citizen here.  My mother has never ever stood up for me when she harassese me. I'm just not worth as much to her.  Before we moved there was a time period in which I didn't even have a room and I slept on the couch. I was giving my mom $400 a month because of our situation. But my sister kept saying I'm catching a free ride. You're riding on us  My mom never stood up for me at all I was 19 at that time I was working at that horrible home depot where I got treated like sh1t

My great grandmother is turning 99 on May 11 and I don't know what to get her for a present. Any ideas?

He is a very bad man and a liar

He was a horrible teenager but this was in 2006 and he's got his life together. Was cursing my mother out in it.

I was eating dinner today with my family and my sister got up and left and on the way she pointed at a picture on the wall and pointed at herself and was like "isn't your daughter cute?!"   And my dad was like "yes ( he said my name ) is beautiful "  Then my sister started laughing and was like "I'm not playing with you" and my dad started laughing too  Ik it was a joke so when my dad said I was beautiful and my sister started laughing and was like "I'm not playing with you" I took that as an insult. Was she saying i was ugly? Or was she just joking around?

So I worked in a store for 3 months and it was just stressing me out. I don't want to go into details, but it was interfering with school and I would come home crying and dreading the next shift. So after one big altercation that I had with a customer that resulted in me having a mental breakdown and quitting on the spot, my whole family shamed me, especially my mother. Mainly Because the job was paying me $13hr and I was making more money than my family members.  My mother has been working with a home health agency for eight years. Recently she quit because one of her elderly clients got in a car and drove off while under my mother's supervision and no one blamed, nor did she get in trouble but my mother was just so freaked out about it that she just quit the entire agency.  She has also been working for an online grocery shopping app which she is now quitting because a customer refused to hand her their ID for a bottle of alcohol and then the customer took away the $20 tip that she was originally going to give to my mom. I just now finished helping my mom sign up for unemployment and food stamps...  Now my question to you is, don't you think that it was a bit unfair for me to be shamed for leaving my job? I understand that I left a good paying job because of my stupid, sensitive emotions but I don't think I should've been put down so badly. Even my neighbors were asking me why I quit :/