My husband does it quite often. 

1-Many times I have heard of husbands dying for their wives.. 2- I often see husband buying their wives flowers. 3- I have never ever heard of a husband getting mad because his wife didn't buy him a gift for his birthday. 4- I have never ever heard of husband thinking that he is doing his wife a "favor" when he kisses her or hugs her. 5- Many times I have heard husbands saying " I don't know what I would do without her" but I have never heard a woman saying " what would I do without him" I was just reading a question about a woman whose husband works very hard to provide for her... he has even helped her to deal with her anxiety and OCD nonetheless she doesn't think he is her dream guy...she also mentioned that she is never exited about seeing him.. Another woman who answered that question said that she doesn't love her husband either even though he provides for her, bought her a lake house and she hardly has to work.. do you think in most marriage the man loves his wife a lot more than she loves him? could this explain why is common to hear that wives hate having any intimacy (not just sex) with their husbands? could this also explain why wives are the ones who file divorce most of the time? Could you please answer this question with honesty instead of providing politically correct answers? thank you

How you respond? 

It's me. Sorry about the post overload. So part two of the step kids playing ball picture ordeal. The mom thinks I should put my nickname on shirt as well as her husband. I already asked my husband if he was okay with us doing a group picture and he said he didn't care. Should I text the mom and ask her as well? 

Is this wrong of me and my husband has slept on the couch for 4 to 6 years . 

Both of my step kids are playing ball this year and we are getting shirts to match the kids. The kid's bio mom and her husband will be there along with my husband and I. I am hesitant about us taking a picture: husband, kids and I (just us) because I feel like it wouldn't really be fair to bio mom because it's her big day as well. I don't want to ruin her big moment. And I don't know if we should all take one as a group either. Should I just forget about the picture because it's been eating me up. I feel like I'm not going to enjoy their game without wanting a picture. What do y'all think? Would it cause an issue if I did get a pic with them? Or should I back off? My nickname will be on the back of my shirt and I thought it would be cute to all take a pic with our shirts, but I don't know. I feel like I "have to" you know? And I don't want to feel that way. 

Long term 2yrs plus phone conversation with another man is this wrong ?

I left my husband a few qeeks ago and I stayed at a domestic violence shelter for a week 2 let things cool down. Well, the reason I left was bc he kept beating me. He attacked me twice and it was terrifying. At the shelter, they took pictures of my injuries and marked them as "very severe." He punched me in my ribs and body several times and stomped me twice knocking thw wind out of me. Btw, we have a daughter whose 4. And whrn I left, she told the police she wanted 2 stay with him. He had her brainwashed and she didnt want 2 leave her home. During my stay, he wouldn't bring my daughter 2 me until I came back. I wind ul coming back bc OF HER. now cps got involved. They came today and ordered him put pf his pwn house. Nlw I ferl like **** for seeking help, and could lose ny kid. Buy I didn't hit myself, sp Y do I feel like this? I shouldn't have gotten help. Sorry for mispellings. Im typing in a hurry so dont judge.  Btw, it wasnt just a one time incident. I been abused my hin for like 13 years now and never did he answer for it. He thought I couldn't and wouldn't leave. When I did, he was crying and pleading. This is the only time I ever left for that long. Prior 2 this I had pleaded with him 2 stop what he was doing 2 me and my body and he acted non remorseful and it continued ubtil I HAD 2 leave and make a stand. Cps worker labeled my injuries as "very severe."

And just claps and praises me for every little thing like im sooo freaking talented. Even though im obviously 9o% of the time slow and not amazing. But he can just do it to make me smile 😁😁😁 like a cheesehead

My friend is from over seas. Has been in the states for 15 years working and can not leave or he may never get back in. He loves his wife but they never talk and have been separated for a long time. He says its a lot of work for a divorce but he doesn't want to divorce anyways but wants to start seeing someone in the states. (he may never go back and its easier to stay married for their kid so he can keep giving her money to help with their son)

We text 24/7 basically. He gives me a lot of amazing advice about my husband and joe toxic he is. He really has been there for me every step of the way. When we first started talking he wanted to meet up for drinks but I told him no because I was adraid my husband would find out about us but now I'm not worried because my husband works 24/7.. The other guy has all kinds of excuses to My husband is very controlling and manipulative just because he financially takes care of me he thinks he can control me I'm sick of it and plan I'm leaving as soon as I can afford to  Only reason I'm staying is because I would be on the streets or in a shelter without him  I told the guy " I don't want this to be just a sex and text thing" and he was like " if it was about sex I would have stopped talking to you after the first time we had sex.. but you can't eat your cake and have it to  He was like " you can't have two men catering to you. You want me and your husband to both take you on dates. " We don't even have to call it a date it just can just be and him having lunch. But I'm tired of just texting 25/7 and having sex in the car.. I want us to go out like he suggested when we first started talking 

It's me. Sorry about the post overload. So part two of the step kids playing ball picture ordeal. The mom thinks I should put my nickname on shirt as well as her husband. I already asked my husband if he was okay with us doing a group picture and he said he didn't care. Should I text the mom and ask her as well? 

after he was acting very friendly at first now he acts quiet... I am uttarabahdra girl  Help me make him say hi first. 

And what age did you get married.  I started thinking about it at age forty and now at 55 still hopeful.

My wife and I lost out apartment 2 months ago and around that time I was seeing someone because I wasn't happy in my marriage. We both wasn't but long story short we had no choice on where we was going to live. She moved back to Chicago with her mother and I'm out here with my girlfriend cause I didn't have no where to live and no one to live with in Chicago. They both don't know about each other and I wanna get to my wife but having terrible luck on getting to the airport. How can I tell my gf that I need to go back to Chicago without someone being hurt at the end.... any suggestions

And I dont think its just social media making her seem so happy as multiple people that have observed her have commented on it. She apparently does not act this way with her new husband even after several years.

In a previous question I asked about your father phrase for doing the deed. It isn't creative if you bluntly say the boring words for doing it! Please try harder. Your fren  Xavier

So ive known this guy for a few years and we always kinda liked eachother but were always in other relationships..just recently he is separated (getting a divorce) and i am single, we started sleeping together. Its been a few weeks and he still lives with his ex(or future ex wife) says the divorce is finalized next month since its a mutual thing. but sometimes she calls when im with him and he wont answer..is this all a red flag or does this happen often?

Seems to me people don't want to give love they only want to receive it. How do I put an end to all the use/abuse and hold everyone accountable for reciprocation?

Both of my step kids are playing ball this year and we are getting shirts to match the kids. The kid's bio mom and her husband will be there along with my husband and I. I am hesitant about us taking a picture: husband, kids and I (just us) because I feel like it wouldn't really be fair to bio mom because it's her big day as well. I don't want to ruin her big moment. And I don't know if we should all take one as a group either. Should I just forget about the picture because it's been eating me up. I feel like I'm not going to enjoy their game without wanting a picture. What do y'all think? Would it cause an issue if I did get a pic with them? Or should I back off? My nickname will be on the back of my shirt and I thought it would be cute to all take a pic with our shirts, but I don't know. I feel like I "have to" you know? And I don't want to feel that way. 

We've been together for 7 years and married for 6 months. Early in our relationship, we dabbled a little in the swinging lifestyle. It was fun while it lasted but after a couple of encounters, I found that while it was fun, I felt bad after doing it. It's been a long while since we had a swinging experience. Now, my husband wants to start swinging again even though we agreed that we wouldn't ever do it again. I told him that we can go to swingers clubs to watch and watch porn together but I didn't want to engage with anyone else. I feel like I'm going to eventually push him to engaging with other people by my not desiring the touch of other people. What do I do? Do I just give in or stand my ground? I love him and would hate to throw all of our years together over this.

Hi I'm 28 years old and I've been with my husband for 12 years now but recently he has been hiding and looking at porn but with 95% of his porn history being "black lesbians" "black big asses" and the list goes on and on he is black and I'm not. Should I really be concerned or worried? He tries to make me happy and comfortable but I can't seem to let go can you guys help me! We have sex probably 4 times a week but I would initiate it 2/4 times and I would initiate it more times and he would refuse so I would probably want sex 6 times a week and he'll refuse 2 or 3 times and I start wondering if it's because he'd rather have sex with the type in his porn, he refuses to talk about it when I confronted him he admitted that he watches it but it is like his own little space he even said that sometimes he just looks at it without jerking off! I have noticed that he closes his eyes sometimes while we're having sex and when I asked about it he claims that when he is having sex with me and looks at me it cuts our sex time short because he'll *** faster and the thing is I actually noticed it after and he wasn't lying so I'm confused by it all!!! If he's attracted to me like that why look at that type of porn? He will look at porn on Mondays and Fridays because the family he works for is usually never home on those days or if I run to the store and he's home alone which is rare so I don't believe that he's addicted please help.  Thanks in advance 

Why do some people call a change in your life after around 45yrs old mid life crisis? A buddy of mine bought himself a late model corvette that he always wanted but wasn't able due to having a family. Now that he has put his 5 kids through college, put a nest egg up for himself, stable time of 21yrs at his job. He buys the car he wanted and people are calling it a mid life crisis he is 50yrs old and just wanted the car...why would that be a crisis.

i am glad my daughter died she is a horrible **** she was an unwanted pregnancy i abused her both emotionally physically and verbally i was never a mom to her and i am a mom to my husbands daughter my ex husband loved our daughter he called yesterday and told me that my daughter died when i found out my daughter died from him he asked me why i didn't go to her funeral i told him " i am glad she died" and hung up the phone i am always a mother to my husbands daughter but not to my own daughter my husband and i are glad that she died but my family friends and ex husband told me that i am a horrible person for neglecting my daughter for not going to her funeral and they cut me out of their life but my husband step daughter and i are happy we are even going to a diner to celebrate my daughters death am i a horrible person? ANSWER MY QUESTION NOW!!!!

My wife told me today that talking to me is "like talking with a 2-year-old" and that the stress with living with me is more than she can handle. My sin, evidently, is that I have different opinions than her and my adult children regarding politics. So I'm thinking I'll just quit voicing an opinion on anything that could be controversial. I'm 59, married 25, and tired of the ridicule at home. Our children are 23 and 19, btw. Seems like the three of them basically hate it when I voice an opinion that is different from their opinion. On anything, really. And they can't understand my taking it personally when they basically tell me I'm full of s---.

My son owes thousands in back child support for his other kids with first girlfriend. He re married and has two kids with his wife. They are now separated, one lives in one state with me (the wife) and her daughter lives with us, she does work and pay for most things but she lives here rent free. My son has moved on and took their son, with him to another state and he works in that state  Can i file both kids so his taxes aren't taking for back child support for his exes kids?  We have done this for years when they both lived with me, to prevent her from getting the money 

Both of my step kids are playing ball this year and we are getting shirts to match the kids. The kid's bio mom and her husband will be there along with my husband and I. I am hesitant about us taking a picture: husband, kids and I (just us) because I feel like it wouldn't really be fair to bio mom because it's her big day as well. I don't want to ruin her big moment. And I don't know if we should all take one as a group either. Should I just forget about the picture because it's been eating me up. I feel like I'm not going to enjoy their game without wanting a picture. What do y'all think? Would it cause an issue if I did get a pic with them? Or should I back off? My nickname will be on the back of my shirt and I thought it would be cute to all take a pic with our shirts, but I don't know. I feel like I "have to" you know? And I don't want to feel that way.