Ladies, ladies....relax.  I know you all about dating many lovers, then next level sex, then marriage. But what comes next? I propose a SUPER marriage. That's right! I want to eat, breathe, and eat marriage.  I want marriage in every orifice until I explode from the pure ecstasy!  Every step an orgasm, every fart a baby, every breath an eternity of commitment to monogamy!   Actually, I want to go one step further and jump into a teleportation machine with the wife so we can be re-assembled as one giant womanimal thing! That is how intense SUPER marriage is.  Can you dig it? Who's with me? If you can't handle all this, you have no business being married.  You should be ashamed of yourself.

I grew up very poor with no parents. Some people might call me a 'street rat', like in Aladdin. I grew up alongside a man that would later become my husband. We've known each other since middle school and have been sweethearts ever since. He wasn't as poor as I was growing up, but we were both lower class.  We finished college, got married, had a kid, worked hard to have a nice home. My husband was lucky enough to land a corporate job and keeps getting promoted. He has a very well paying job now and insisted I stay home with our son till he was old enough to go to school. I agreed, taking care of our son while he was at work.  Now and days, he gets very embarrassed by things like my casual top and jeans, or how I don't often go to clothing stores so I don't waste any of our hard-earned money. When I suggested I return to work soon as our son is now going into school, he was upset by this and told me I shouldn't because his coworkers wives are stay-at-home moms. When we were invited to a picnic that one of his coworker's wives was throwing, he got upset with me because I wasn't 'dressed the right way', making me change my comfortable, nice sandals out for a pair of expensive heels. He also was angry that I was planning to bring watermelon/chips and salsa to the party. While at a dinner out to eat with another couple, I asked him to get me a beer. He came back with a glass of champagne because it 'looked better'. What do I do? It hurts to feel he is ashamed.

I used to be a boxer before I had my son. I've been with my husband since we were teenagers - high school sweethearts. I've seen him at his fast-food job all the way up to being a lawyer. Because he has such a well paying job, once we had our first son we agreed that I would stay home till our son was school age and take care of him because we didn't want him to be with a nanny when he could be with me.  Our son is now going to school and I really wish I could go back to boxing. My husband, however, told me that I can't because it's a dangerous profession. I agree that I shouldn't do anything dangerous, but it's hard to let go of it because this was one of my dreams. I also don't particularly enjoy him deciding my job options for me. I thought that maybe I could go back and be a coach instead of actually getting into the ring and he told me, once again, that I can't do anything even near the boxing ring. Every job idea I suggest, he shoots down. I am beginning to think he just would rather I not work.  Every time I meet up with the other wives at his work, he seems embarrassed to say that I am looking for work because "the other wives stay home". I want to contribute to our home, though! I know he cares about me and doesn't want me to get hurt for the sake of our son, which I agree with. However - my issue is that I really just think he doesn't want me to work at all. What do you think? 

for someone who can and/or will?

I reread our conversations over and over again and I'm constantly looking at his pictures. It was an emotional connection we and the other man had. No sex. We talked on the phone and hung out for 6 months. I haven't been that happy in years. Now that he's not in my life anymore I'm back to feeling empty. I was going back and forth on whether or not I should break up with my husband for him but I decided to try to work on my marriage.

I am sick and tired of married people dragging the most honorable marriage institution through the mud.  Do you guys have no shame? Lets hear ONLY positives for once and completely ignore ANY negatives. I'll start: Marriage is the one thing in my entire life that I would want to continue to do for all eternity.  Actually, I'm upset because I wasn't born already married.  I was unmarried for too long! Ok, your turn!

We used to be very happy together. We went through a financial hardship and it really hurt us. All I think about is money. My wife thinks I'm controlling now. We have 3 kids and want to make it work.  I told her I didn't realize how it was effecting her and I was sorry. However I don't know where to go from here. 

My wife was molested by her stepfather, he forced her to give him oral sex for 4 years when she was 8 -12, she told me months before we got married, i was ok with it but i told her not to tell my family because i dont know, i think theres no good reason for them to know, we have been married 6 years and we have 4 year old kid, and i just realize she told my mom and sister like 3 or 4 years ago, i got mad and we had a fight, the question is,  Should i be mad about it? Is she wrong for saying it?

If it was a mutual decision on both our ends to quit does that mean he won't have hard feelings and tell my husband? I want to Put it past me completely and work on my marriage The affair was mostly emotional with tons of texts. but we did have sex a couple times. I made sure to wipe all the texts and evidence off my phone completely  so the only way he would find out is if the other dude said something. It's been like 3 days and he hasn't said anything so am I in the clear 

She doesn't seem Into sex at all and she never shows me sexual attention. She admitted when we first got together that I wasn't her type but that I was a good man. She said she's focused on stability and security. I was like that's great but I want a wife that wants me sexually as well. That's a huge part of a marriage. She said that her "type" always cheated on her and that she was done dating that type of man. I feel like she's not fully in love with me but she knows no other man will do what I do. I told her that if her "type" showed her the kind of love and dedication that I do she would drop me in a heart beat and I know this for a fact. I drive her around everywhere since she doesn't have a license and take care of her financially since she doesn't work. Tell me how many men are gonna do that. Not many. Most men refuse to deal with a woman who is not independent. I told her that if she got with a man that she was sexually attracted to she would be having sex with him so much he would probably have to stop her. I know the problem is me because when we watched a movie she was getting wet off the main actor who apparently is her type 

Even though me and the other guy didn't work out I'm still not even sure I want to be married anymore because our marriage hasn't gotten better. The arguments are still intense, we still fight everyday and I'm still emotionally empty despite communicating with my husband daily. I'm going to therapy and then filing for divorce if nothing changes. Can't take this anymore. I'm married and got caught up in an affair mostly emotional because we only had sex 3 times. We were mostly talking and texting. Sex isn't why I'm with him I don't give a *** about the sex to be honest. The sex was wack anyways because he didn't even kiss me. I was emotionally unfulfilled in my marriage and fell in love with this man who made feel special beautiful loved and listened to me dsy in and day out. It's a shame that my own husband couldn't spend time with me on New Year's Eve and this new guy wanted to ring in the new with me. Up until about 3 weeks ago I was sure this new guy was the one. Then out of the blue his texts and calls started getting shorter and shorter. Sometimes he would take two days to respond. Crazy because me and the new guy had amazing conversations that led us to talking till 2 am then suddenly we only talked for an hour -two hours per der day. We also had a ton of things in common. New guy was ready to be with me. He said he was willing to wait a couple months or however long it would take for me to leave  him. We actually planned on being in a relationship soon. But I guess he was turned off by the sex because he recorded us having sex the last time and he said the sex was weird because I wasn't looking at him during sex. We didn't use protection and I'm not on birth control so I wanted to make sure he didn't *** in me  I was looking at him to make sure he didn't *** in me and that he pulled out in time.  He texted me and told me " that was some weird sex. I was interested but now I don't even know anymore. It's just a turn off." I don't like how he's not romantic and doesn't kiss me during sex so that's a turn off as well so I just texted him and was like " you're a great person but I think we should be friends from now on. I'm not feeling this anymore. You're not romantic like I thought  He was like " I think you're a great person also. I hope we both find true love. I know you will find the right guy. You're sweet, smart, such and amazing woman.  Enjoyed your time and laughter you got so much ahead of you I know it" He was like " I apologize for any weird stuff you thought I was on.". He was like " I enjoyed the sex and jokes we shared and wish we could have did it without the anxiety you had but you do deserve a great guy. You have a lot to offer a man even though the sex was weird" So since we didn't end in bad terms does that mean he will keep quiet and won't tell my husband about this? 

One of my friends I've known for years set me a screenshot of his messages where women be begging him for sex and he ignores a lot of them. He's extremely attractive but seems to only be obsessed with having sex with me. He said he even has model chicks trying to get at him. Not sure where or why this obsession came about. I'm not even a Virgin I've had a couple of different partners so me being tight can't be the reason. It's so weird how lately he's been so sexually attracted to me because of all the years we have known each other we've only ever been platonic.

Never understood this. The more feminine a man is, the more "marriage material" he is. Even though it doesnt make sense at all logically from a biological attraction point of view

... I am still single and I am in my mid 30's! Why! Yet people with baggage, children from other marriages, BITCHINESS still get the guys? Am I too picky or something??! I had an almost two year relationship with someone and it fell through because he was 8 years older, a divorcee and had a child! I was jealous of that! Someone please help me be worthy and accomplished!! Others have done it, why can't I!

I'm in a dilemma here.  For whatever reason, my legitimate marriage and divorce questions seem to be randomly disappearing. I compliment all marrieds and never judge you despite being very mediocre but very "experienced". It's a bit of a contradiction having the experts be so boring. Anyhow, anyone else having this problem? I really feel like my input is making a positive impact on this lackluster marriage board.

I recently bought a replacement ring.  This one black tungsten with blue highlights. I don't want to give off a bad impression that I'm desiring side action!

This is for married women and asking how they personally handle it w/in their relationship

and has never even kissed any girl before her?

My English is bad and I'm wanting to expand my vocabulary. Yes, you can dig deep into the well that is your past life before marriage. Also put it in a sentence so I can better understand the proper usage.

Do you have an experience with this? Or do you know others?

Ok marrieds with excessive life experience! If money is no object, what would be your perfect valentines date with your spouse? Thank you for the ones that answered.  For the rest of you married prudes, I shouldn't have expected anything above mediocre anyway.  Doesn't seem like all those past lovers helped your creativity AT ALlL.

all for alimony for women like my mother, who stayed home to take care of the kids and didnt have the opportunity to grow a career, and then my father left her for another wonan when she turned 50. He was the cheater, he had all the financial security. Im.not for alimony for my mothet in law, however, who spent the ladt 6 years if her marriage gettibg 2 university degrees (thus was entirely employable) and then cheated on my father in law and refused to even try to work on their marriage and left him. She gets half of everythung of his. Its ridiculous.

Even though I am divorced I am still on friendly terms with my ex wife. We did not have any children. She emails me occasionally I and do the same for her. A buddy of mine told me he had a job opening at his company and asked if I knew anyone that could do the job. The qualifications for the job are exactly the skill set my ex wife has. She would enjoy and do well at the job. Besides it would almost double her pay. She recently e mailed me that her current job is probably going to be eliminated. The problem is her current husband. He is VERY insecure and EXTREMELY JEALOUS of her being around other men. In this job, she will have a bunch of young guys WORKING FOR HER. I know she can handle this but I don't think her husband can. Please help me decide what to do. Should I tell her about this job and let her decide what she is going to do OR would it be kinder to just say nothing about the job and spare her the problems it will probably cause with her marriage. Wives, I would really appreciate your input on this. I want to do what is best for her. I also want to stay out of her and her husbands life and not cause her any trouble. THANKS

Time and again men and women brag about having adventurous spirit before marriage to gain many life experiences including many lovers. Does your spouse really benefit from all this life experience or is he/she/it the one doing all the work? PS did you notice one being inclusive!

My husband likes to make comments about what I eat, saying stuff like "you do need to finish all that", "don't eat all of that", "wrap up the rest of the food"... He also says stuff like "it would be great if your stomach was better", "don't get fat"... I'm 5'0" 83lbs. My mother in law keeps saying that I'm too skinny and to gain weight because I don't look good. She also asks me if I'm anorexic. Should I tell her it's because of all the comments my husband makes? Or should I not call out my husband?

This is a very emotional topic for me. My husband and I went to Puerto Rico for our honeymoon and he fell in love with a dog that we found. I thought it was a bad idea to try and get him back to the mainland (just too difficult of a process), but we made it happen! Two years after rescuing him and my husband wants to re-home him. Our dog (Diego) is one of the sweetest dogs I've ever met in my life. Although, he does have a lot of anxiety and some other behavioral issues. For example, running through the house like crazy, whining, panting, pacing around the house. We take him out on walks and have tried to get rid of the excess energy, but he still seems to be anxious; which in return, causes my husband to be anxious and unhappy. I have suggested training numerous times, but he said that we cannot afford it and he is doesn't believe that Diego is not trainable. This topic causes us to argue everyday and it's causing a lot of turmoil in our marriage. What should I do? I'm stuck between a rock and a hard place. It is going to tear me apart to re-home him because I have spent the past two years falling in love with him, and he loves me too. He is very attached to me, but I don't want to argue everyday and ruin our marriage. We have gone to couples counseling over this and even the therapist suggested to re-home him to help our marriage. Please someone help! 

My husband and I purchased a townhome 2 years ago. It has been an issue since we moved in and it's getting worse.  When we moved in the neighbor complained my car was too red. Then, they complained my garden flag was too close to the curb. Then I got into almost a fiat fight with our 60 year old neighbor because we left our trash out till Saturday and we were supposed to bring it in on Friday. She was SCREAMING at me threatening to kick my a*s because we didn't bring our trash in and it sat for an extra day.We have another neighbor who watches everything everyone dies. She watches exactly what time I leave for work exactly what time I come back from work. She will make comments like oh I saw your husband was 8 minutes late today leaving for work. It's so creepy I can't take it anymore. 3 days ago the guy across the street tried to poison our 2 dogs. He apparently made so many complaints about my dogs barking and there being "poop" in our yard the president of the HOA got involved. Now he's been coming every afternoon to check our yard for dog poop and has found NOTHING. (Shocker) Now, this old bat across the street doesn't like that I give my 81 year old neighbor rides to the store. This is the 2nd time now she came out literally screaming at me to back off the 81 year old lady and leave her alone and that she's her friend not mine.  We are selling in June. I don't know how I'm even going to make it till June! Any advice? I think I'm going to go INSANE

Lately my husband has been telling me he's had to stay back late at work but I think he's cheating on me.  Here's the reasons.  He normally has a very distinctive smell when he passes wind. I've known him for 5 years. I know that smell. Even the dog knows that smell.  In the last few weeks whenever he passes wind it smells different. It's a bit sweeter. It's just not quite right.  I think he could be cheating on me and this is his subliminal mind trying to tell me.  Should I confront him about his infidelity?

things? Marriage section Marriage category

Like, if you know a girl has been emotionally hurt by men, and she doesn't like nor trust them now, is it wrong to discourage her from dating, since she cannot trust nor be happy in romantic love? I think it's okay.  Love isn't for everyone, and most guys WILL try to take advantage of her emotionally.  There are many kinds of loves in life, and romantic love is only one of them.  Why not have her focus on other love, be it familial,m career love, etc?

My baby 4 months and the judge got mad cause i ain't let my ex see my newborn baby. I told the judge he treated me bad while i was pregnant, and she said that has nothing to do with him being a parent to your newborn. And she told him 3 different times to make sure he file temporary custody orders. Then she said im being unreasonable what do i do to get a new judge

I have found that married people tend to be more lonely overall(even if they're happily married) because they tend to just have to focus on their spouse and kids, nothing else. Single people tend to be surrounded by more people in their lives and are more busy with others than married people. Am I the only one who has noticed this?