My baby's father has been telling his other baby's mom that I'm stupid, and he never wanted me after I took up for him when she started cursing him out about child support. And she obviously think it's funny,  because she keeps on contacting me on cash app saying, "I hope you're ready to take care of YOUR child by yourself. Because our baby's father BEEN showed you he didn't take care of my child."( then the laughing face). I really want to beat his ***! I'm so sick of him. Should I beat his ***? At first, I was believing he was nice and she was just jealous Now I'm finally seeing that he was the problem all the long. 

I am very disappointed in my son. He has a job and lives on his own but he won't adhere to the family's tradition or beliefs. My dad (his grandpa) even agrees that he needs to be like us. How do I discipline my son?

I live with my mom and my room is also the living room. Is it wrong that after an hour of her hanging out in here I tell her that I want her to leave? I would rather be alone but she wants to be here all the time. My brother used have his room in the living room and she didn't hang out in the living room unless he was out. Now she's guilting me with how staying in her room is making her depressed but she never had a problem staying in her room when my brother was in my situation..

I'm just struggling trying to understand how to be around my mother in law and not dread being around her. Basically she always has an opinion around raising ur daughter. She voices it strongly and doesn't keep an open mind. It brings me a lot of anxiety and even causes me to question who I am as a mom.  Some examples include: telling us not to use a sound machine so I worry about bringing it when I go to her house. I opened and shared my struggles of putting my 5 month old in her crib overnight and she said "you need to let go!" She told me to use formula when I talked about some struggles with BF after she told me BF is better than formula, but now at 5 months she's old enough for formula. When she was in the delivery room with me, she took the epidural remote out of my hands. She didn't like that I got an epidural. Just every little thing upsets me when I'm around her and it makes me want to avoid her 100%.  She is very Judgy and I get so much anxiety when I am around her I am very quiet and reserved.  I don't feel comfortable being that way. I don't know how to stick up for myself even when I strongly want too.  What do I do? 

And I'm not talking about the fat ugly white women either. They couldn't get an attractive white man if they wanted, so they settle for black men. I'm talking about attractive in-shape white women who would otherwise have lots of dating options.

I live with my parents, helping them out financially with house bills, etc. My mom had always depended on me and my siblings, mostly me with things at home. Even when I go out, she'll ask where I'm going and when to be back. I've been together with my bf (LDR) for exactly one year now. My mom does not like the idea of me possibly moving down to where he is (5 hours drive away), telling me I won't like it and is inconvenient, that I will regret it. I have been there to visit and I can see myself living there. So I've asked her what if I have a better life there, but my mom just got angry. She's saying that I've changed and I am abandoning her/the family, which is not true. I kept reassuring her that's not the case, but she's not listening. I know at this age, I should be able to make my own decisions. And I know most of you will just say I need to move out, even if is by myself, but that's not what I'm asking here. I don't know what to do to make her understand and be more open-minded. I don't want to keep arguing with her, I want to talk calmly about this.

Her brother is having his 5th birthday party on Saturday and she started to cry because she didn't get any gifts and saw the gifts we bought for him. Last year at his 4th birthday she tried to open some of his gifts and she threw a tantrum when I snatched her away from his gifts. It makes me irritated at how she behaves. He has 10 friends coming to his birthday party while she had only had 3 friends show at her 7th one in July of 2019. She doesn't have a lot of friends, she struggles in gym class, and she always tries to tease her brother.

My parents have always been ridiculously controlling over me. I got a late start in adulthood because of that. For the longest time, they wouldn't let me work or drive. They refused to help me, wouldn't let me use their vehicles and refused to let me have my own income. My local friends worked, so they couldn't do much to help me. Now, things have gotten better. I have gotten help somewhat and am now working (have a long-term, fulltime job making decent money) and driving with my own car. Well, they still think they have the right to know everything about my personal life. My dad is a lot worse than my mom. He has been trying everything to know what I did tax-wise. He wanted to know what I made an hour/per year and what I was getting back (if anything). He got mad when I refused to tell him. Sorry, but that isn't any of his business. Am I right about that? Why would he have any right to know about that? How can I explain to them that some things are just not their business and I have the right to privacy? I had to make another trip to do my taxes because we go to the same person. They had to pick theirs up and sign today and today is when I was doing mine. I had to wait until they left and come back because they wanted to stay and listen in on the conversation I had with the tax person and my dad once again wanted to try to find out what I was getting back if anything.

Yesterday we had a snow day and my sister and I made lunch for my 4 brothers, our mom and us. And for some reason my older brother said two things that were upsetting and I don t know if I am crazy for getting upset about it. He was sort of messing with our younger brother trying by trying to make him smear BBQ sauce on his shirt and mom was like knock it off and my older brother replied saying something like **if his shirt is dirtier then it will feel like it will feel like you re actually doing something when you wash it** and then when Mom was thanking my sister and I for making lunch my older brother said you re welcome and joking along and said are you saying thank you because you re going to help clean up? and he said ** I m saying your welcome because youre lucky to have us to make lunch for** both of those times I m sure he was joking. But considering that I spend 1/2 of Sunday at the laundromat doing laundry for said 4 brothers including the older one and that my sister and I cook all the meals and wash all the dishes and do the grocery shopping. I don t know it just really rubbed me the wrong way. I probably am over reacting. But it felt like his words hurt in a familiar way because for several years I worked unpaid in the family business and my Dad acted like I was lucky to get to. And for several years our kitchen sink was broken and I used to sp- -end my entire Saturday doing the dishes in the bathroom sink & everyone acted like I was lucky they were humoring me to let me do the dishes, when no one else would do the dishes. So a lot of my life I've done hard work and people acted like I was lucky to get to do it and that they were humoring me. So maybe what my brother said only bothered me because I'm scarred from past experiences. Am I crazy for being hurt by what he said? 

I have such a loving relationship with my mom and my girlfriend has so much disgust and disrespect towards her mother. She has no patience with her. She says that their relationship has always been this way. I asked her why and she says it's because her mother is a narcissist. But what about her? Her mother is old now and she should be nicer to her because it's still her mother and now she's 78. She has no compassion for her mother at all. She says her mother is lazy, irresponsible and brings all her problems on herself calling her a negative person. This is disturbing to me.

My dad has an aunt and uncle in Oregon and we live in Atlanta. We're close to them so I feel like I should attend the funeral but I know my dad will discourage it. My dad says it is an obsession that I go to funerals for family members unless they were really close relative like a grandparent. Also my dad is not loyal to his elders so I don't think he would go either. Neither the aunt or uncle have died yet but they're both pushing 90. So how disloyal will I be if I just send flowers? I feel really guilty in anticipation of this. I know my aunts will go and one of them will bring her son. Most my other cousins are teens so probably will not go. I'm an adult but I work for my dad so we need the time off request from him. That's the one problem of working with family. Note— Sorry for any grammar errors as I'm talking into my phone so it might record some words wrong

Im gonna be a pallbearer in 2 days for my grandpa and I haven't been to a funeral before I'm 16. I'm just wondering how that works and how long they usually have to lift the coffin for. I have no idea what to expect.. 

I'm not good at confrontation especially if the enemy is a family member.

I certainly never got the idea of hitting anyone until my parents hit me. And boy did i beat them back when i got too big for them to gang up on. My dads a changed man now and i get on with him great. My mum's dead, so in hell i presume.

One cousin I am afraid will believe her cause that cousins holds grudges and apparently dislikes my father (she is my Mom's niece). I had to get mad at my sister a year ago for her bullying and now my sister embellishes it since I grabbed her by the shoulder and makes it sound as though I choked her.

My mom told me that I was a wanted kid and that she wanted to start a family but ny dad told me something completely else. He told me that after a night out at 20 and 22 he wanted to F and forgot to wear a condom and that's how I was born.

As painful as it may seem; I really need you to fully read this thread so that you can clearly understand where I'm coming from.  My father (who I love dearly), has this problem of giving me unsolicited advice.  I just now realized this in my mid- 20's.  I never noticed this until now because I was so used to it growing up.  Long story short: Anytime I call/talk to my father in person; he's always trying to teach me a lesson 24/7 365! Ive never been "hard-headed" and I love learning from others to improve my life, but I cant stand to talk to my dad sometimes because of the things he tells me.  It's gotten to the point where I cant even make "small talk" without him giving some deep, unrelated conversation about life.  Example: "Hey dad, I'm doing pretty good today!" "Today was pretty cold out-side burrrr!" My dad will then say "Well son, you need to prepare your self for these cold winters, always double-layer your self and drink plenty of water so you don't dehydrate yourself..." 30 mins later, the only thing I got to say in the convo is "uh huh" "ok" "yup". He completely takes over the conversation and I cant get a word in.  EVERY convo is always some "advice". Has anyone else experienced this with friends/family? How did you deal with it w/ out hurting feelings or burning bridges?  If this was a co-worker, it would be easy but being that its my dad makes it hard because I really DON'T want to hurt his feelings or think that I NEVER want to hear advice again.

This would really hurt me. For example, my sister who has Crohn's Disease is staying with my parents on and off. We have some out of town relatives passing through and if my parents have them over I am scared they will exclude me in order to keep my sister from having a fit. My sister is 26 but has the bully mentality of an elementary school child. I am an adult but highly sensitive to this stuff myself because of being bullied in school. On Thanksgiving I was asked not to come over until half way through dinner in order to keep my sister from being mad and also was asked to sit in the other room during dinner with an anti-social cousin to avoid my sister being mad. I just left at that point. On Christmas luckily my sister had a Crohn's flare up so was not there. So my question is what do I do and how do I respond if my mother excludes me from a visit with family to please my sister who dislikes me? I don't want to act all pissed or I will be behaving like my sister. My Dad doesn't mind me being there but my mother wants to keep my sister happy. This is how my sister got this way, if she screamed enough as a kid my mother would let her off the hook and she got her way. As a result my sister has become a narcissist.

I should love my father but I do not, I resent him to no end.

if I pretend I am doing my best with chores and school work, will they eventually assume I am not capable and then I can get by with doing the bare minimum A moocher is an adult, parents should not have kids and expect them to do things for nothing. As a kid, I am entitled to free food and shelter for nothing in return

I hate it so much I want to scream! I can't stand that ! I actually hold the phone away from my ear so I don't have to hear that. DRIVES ME GOD DAMN INSANE!

In a 10 year period, she visited me twice when I lived close by, but has visited my sister in Hawaii over 5 times. She even pays for her apartment because my sister got in trouble with an alcoholic. This year on my birthday, she gave me two $25 gift cards to a restaurant, which I was insulted by because I am a waitress. She sent a snooty birthcard too, and apologized for not being able to love me the way I need to, when I td her her favortism hurts me. Her newish husband asked to tell him what's going in, but that means telling him about the stuff she let her previous boyfriends do to me, which she would view as betrayal, so I dont see that as a good idea. Am I overreacting about the birthday gift? Should I tell my moms husband all the whys I'm hurt by her?

Dear all, I'm in a lucky position. My father doesn't care where I am or when/if I come home at night, netiher does my step mother. My mother is not in the picture any more. Sometimes I don't go to school for  a couple of days and I stay with friends who are much older. So far so good. It's very convenient. It's different for all of my friends who are the same age. Most of them have to be home by midnight, even during the weekend, even the guys. Sometimes I wonder why it is my parents don't care about me. I might as well be dead. Do you think it's normal that my parents don't care? What do you think: What do you consider an appropriate curfew for a 16 year old boy?