I'm asking to find out because we don't really plan on living together yet but maybe in a few years. I know many say that you have to because that's the only way to prove that you are married... I'm in the state of CA. I have friends who have done that and don't live together yet. So can someone please clarify??

In my opinion, it doesn't concern them and they should stick their nose where it belongs. What goes between me and my wife is none of their business.

i dont want an Eastern wife. It'll feel just like my childhood I'm not racist. I'm trying to fix the damage that has been done to me.And the best way is with a partner

I don't want an eastern wife. It'll feel just like my childhood.

I have been dating my boyfriend for 9 years. We have two kids together. We have a 2 year old boy and 3 year old girl. He is very verbally abusive on pretty much a regular basis and he is the master at making it seem like it's me who is the problem. For example he calls me a loser, worthless etc His new nick name for me is chromosome meaning he is saying that I have an extra chromosome. He calls me sloppy, fat and the list goes on. He tells me he has been trying to lift me up for years, but you can't change loser. Here is the thing I'm a stay at home mom. I'm going to school to become a nurse, but I'm not even done with prerequisites for the nursing program.  I will be done with nursing prerequisites next semester.  Lately the names have been coming more often and they are getting worse. He makes me feel like I'm not good enough and all I want to do is cry. I feel helpless. Now he has told me to leave many times and honestly the only thing that has kept me from doing it is that I want to take my kids with me. He wants them to stay with him and I get to visit. The car I drive is in his name. What I want to do is in the middle of the night take the carseats out of his car and put them in mine and drive to Las Vegas where my family. We are in Texas. In the nine years he has got physical twice giving me black eyes and bloody nose. I'm ready to leave with my kids any advice appreciated. We have never been married and no court order for custody in place. 

I'm trying to get my husband to Eiffel tower me and other friend but he keeps saying no!

I think it's more so his paralegal but they have been awful. I filed for divorce and I have a child visitation mediation session scheduled for Thursday and they haven't even told me about it. I only know about this because I searched the court dockets. Is this normal? I plan to speak with my attorney on Thursday, that is if he shows up. 

I'm a 39 year old woman who is seriously considering dating a 24 year old guy. We met about 3 months ago and have progressively been seeing each other more and more frequently. Last night he strongly hinted he wanted me to be his girlfriend. I didn't answer him because I do have a few worries about the age difference. Firstly, I'm highly attracted to him on many levels. I honestly don't feel an age gap when I'm around him. We have a lot in common/he's easy to talk to, he constantly makes me laugh, he treats me very well, and his body drives me wild! We've had sex a couple times now and he made me feel so amazing! If it wasn't for the age gap I would have said "yes" in a heartbeat. However, even though I am very attracted to him I'm trying to think with my head and figure out if dating someone so much younger is a good idea. He is 15 years younger than me. I am concerned he may be in a different place than me. Maybe I'm too worried because he has finished grad school and he does have a good paying job (I wouldn't be a sugar mama). Again, I don't feel an age gap when I'm around him, but 15 years is a significant gap and I do worry it may become an issue. From my understanding such a big age gap can be an issue in and of itself. Furthermore, I am a little concerned about how my family would react to me dating someone so much younger. Also, the whole "if it works out he'll want kids" thing doesn't bother me because I actually want more kids. (read more; click on link)  I have 1 son right now (10 years old), but the only reason I never had one or two more is my ex-husband didn't want more. I personally would love to have 1-2 more kids and I'm not so old for that to be out of possibility. I really like him and I want to date him, but I'm also trying to figure out if the age difference would be a big problem. Should I date him? Would the age gap be a big problem? Why or why not? Thank you for your help! 

I am the one who would have given it to him because he and her were clean. They are no longer sexually active.Will she find out she has it?

2 days ago, we had an argument. I've been supportive of my wife through her struggles at work, always listening to her. There are times after work that I really don't want to hear her daily job complaining, but I still do to be there for her. But 2 nights ago she uttered the most hurtful words ever in history. She was crying and told me that she made a mistake to marry me. She made a mistake to get married. I was quiet for the rest of the evening, and the day after. She has a lot of pent up anger from other things and she cut it loose on me. The argument was over something stupid also. She didn't know where to go eat and kept rejecting my suggestions  And then got mad when I said that we'll just go home to eat. After that everything went downhill. Have any of you other husbands ever had your wife tell you that she regrets marrying you or anything of that nature? It's really affecting me negatively. I'm not a violent person, but kind. How did you other husbands deal with this after your wife said very disrespectful cross the line type of words like this? 

Wonder what she would think? What do other married women think about this? Would you entertain a 3 way MFM? Have no urge for fuc king or being fu cked by a man.  Just the thought of playing or passive oral is a turn on as well as seeing my wife being pleasured by another man is a turn on.

My husband gives our oldest son everything he wants and falls to pieces if I say anything negative about him. He puts him before me, and it breaks my heart that he gives our son 98% of his affection when my youngest and I get the two percent. The kids seem to come first to him, and I have often thought about leaving, because of it. What would you do in this situation?

So my MIL hated me from the start. I won't go in details of what she's done, but she's been a manipulative you know what and pretty much told me I do it her way now. After years of being polite, I snapped and said enough is enough. She basically wasn't invited anymore and visits were very limited. Then the kids came. Now I have 2 girls and she feels she's entitled to see them. I have a hard time after all the s*** that occured. I don't want to visit her 3 times in December for all her Xmas parties. I don't care what she demands of my husband. I will see her once and done. Who's in the right? We fight with husband all the time as he tries to not piss mommy off and can't tell her "no". I don't want to celebrate Xmas with her! Why should I have to? I should add. She doesn't care what rules we have in our house. She "knows better" how to raise kids. Just laughs at anything I say.

My 30 year old daughter has bipolar disorder and we do not get along very well due to this. We got into a very heated argument and she asked me numerous times to leave the room and that she was about to have a breakdown and wanted to cool off. Looking back I should have left the room but I didn't want to back down because I felt I was right. I guess I triggered her by whet I said and she snapped and shoved me to the ground. Should I call the police? I now have a bruise on my arm. I'm sitting in my room shaking and crying. What do I do? 

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I know men are generally more physical than women. We all know that. But my fiance wasn't like other guys. At least not the first year of us being together. He genuinely cared. Genuinely listened. And when we'd lay together that's all he wanted to do. Hold me or be held. Sex wasn't as much as a priority as it has recently become. It's like he cannot be satisfied all of a sudden. 3 times in one weekend, and he was still trying on Monday after I got off work. If he had it his way it would be every single day. Yet, go back about 6 months and he was perfectly happy with a couple times a week. Which is about where I am at. He would even tell me how happy he was we were matched in that area. But not lately. I can't even lie down with him without him feeling me up, or telling me how much he wants me. Even if it hasn't even been 24 hours. I cannot confide in him fully because lately, he only half listens. He used to be genuinely interested and concerned for my welfare. Now he only seems interested in the welfare of his physical needs. Sex is great. I enjoy it. But I feel like I cannot have just a moment to just be with him without him thinking it needs to lead to something. What is going on? He was never like this before. This is just in the past few months. Help? Thank you... Blonde, so I am supposed to just...give in whenever he wants? Nevermind now I feel? Forget the fact I have ownership of my own body and feel guilty for saying "no" if I'm not feeling it? I don't think that's healthy practice in a relationship.  I think it mostly concerns me because I feel like I am starting to be looked at as more an object than the woman he loves... Linda, thank you for your kind and thoughtful answer. 

My husband still has same bed, sheets and pillows from previous marriage. The sheets and mattress has been cleaned many times since the divorce, (was about 2 1/2 years ago since their divorce). But ex wife slept in them and also their kids did too. They were together for 7 years, but he's only had the bed for 3 years and half the time she never really was there. Should it bother me if he has same sheets still? 

She look for cooking skills, neatness, education??

This is not my parent so I don't care but his children I am sure do. They have to have two Christmas' for example one with their Mom on Christmas and one with their Dad this following weekend. They couldn't see their Dad on Thanksgiving except the weekend before. They will have trust issues I am sure. They have to get used to only having Mommy at home. Luckily they are teens so it is not as traumatizing as if they were little but how do parents handle the pain the children experience? My parents divorced and my mother had no sensitivity to it and just told me our Dad left "us" and thus I have rejection terror 27 years later. My father just got distant for a time due to my mother's alienation though he could have reached out more. I am a scarred man 27 years later. So I am wondering how parents handle this. My uncle is 18 years younger then my Mom so he is still young with kids in their teen years. He was married 21 years.

Am I overreacting here. It was my birthday yesterday. The wife talks up birthdays, one of the kids was at school, I was off work with her and the other (we kept him off daycare). She was very nice all morning, then in the evening, after the kids were in bed, she keeps moaning about stuff, saying how she was feeling stressed etc. Btw, that is not unusual, it is pretty regular, I just assumed for one evening she could avoid doing it and not make it about her? Thoughts? 

Am I overreacting here. It was my birthday yesterday. The wife talks up birthdays, one of the kids was at school, I was off work with her and the other (we kept him off daycare). She was very nice all morning, then in the evening, after the kids were in bed, she keeps moaning about stuff, saying how she was feeling stressed etc. Btw, that is not unusual, it is pretty regular, I just assumed for one evening she could avoid doing it and not make it about her? Thoughts? 

She couldn't say. he didn't figure it.. she still rolling hair, bend etc" + know wife B color of Pa*ties. whenever she bend etc. Notouch. nothing he did. She had a fight with neighbor. friend B was not at home, friend A (my firiedn) was passing by her house n she calld him n said fights arose--- plz come .. before things go off hand. friend A helped. she cried. she was going to cry on his shoulder. he moved back.  5 minutes later her husband called her phone n she siad blah...he said to her on speaker he can't do anything rightaway call cops. she said can you please call from your cell, he said, let you do it(let his wife B call herself)_ "friend A heard on phone call, "dear it will beasier for you to call because you are facing trouble (firend b) i am not " friend A got shocked. wife b looked at him as she needs some hug or proection you know men and women look at each other and they hug n more .. but he still control. firend a said to wife b. he got her. didn't touch and stood with her for next 2 hours.  end of sotry. - after 2-4 months. both are looking at each other, same flirt is back--- she is flirting he is not .. he is not even smiling and he looks at helps if she needs anything without touching a single finer,... and eventually . Friend A said to "wife B", he has some "thoughts" about wife B.  last end of story - that ***** wnet back to husband B and told "your friend A is hitting on her!"     what you say? 

I don't like opening up to people in day to day life or on the internet. If i say private things its usually as anonymous. I even get uncomfortable just saying super basic non-interesting things about myself. Others seem to be able to let others get to know them even on a most superficial level but i dont. I dont wanna blame it on others for mistreating me but it porbably factors into it.

So i have a 10 year old son who hates these 2 girls who are the same age and live in our neighborhood.  He says he hates one as much as Sadahm Hussein and the other as much as Adolf Hitler.  He has class with one of them and he hates SEEING her (even though she is NOT talking to him).  He says just SEEING her already makes him upset. My daughter and ex wife and OTHER neighbors keep bothering him about it (they keep trying to excuse those girls or make them sound like good people). My son gets mad when people try to excuse those girls or make them sound good or get him to be their friend. My son gets mad at my daughter, ex wife, neighbors anyone that does this to him and my daughter, ex wife, and neighbors are not willing to let him be.   How do I deal with this?