She's chinese, my family is chinese and it does have something to do with this. Let me say this, i ******* hate her. Dont tell me to love your mom, if you were her child you would've hate her too. Why? Shes selfish, abusive, emotionally unstable and ****** up in the mind. She tried to kill me and my brother when we were younger. (by strangling me while dad used his belt to scar my brother) Mom and dad take their anger out on us by beating us and threading to kill us. Every time mom yells or slaps us dad laughs and smiles while gritting his teeth in amusement. THEY ARE BOTH SADISTS!!!! Its like this everyday until the teachers told me to go to the office and we had some serious talk about the marks and bruises on us. They told me to not be scared and tell everything. I wanted it to stop so i told them what happened every day. After that the principal call in the cops and showed them the note from the lady that was recording things things down. We stayed at school while the cops went to our home and confronted them about mistreating children. I dont know what they said but i know that mom and dad doesnt know a lick of english. However when we came home, she grabbed me and threw me on the ground kicking me and screaming so loudly both of our neighbors heard us. She screamed that she wishes i was never born and how she could've lived another 10 years if i wasnt born. Dad was on the couch with his hands on his face but i know that he was scared because the cops came here.

I'm 15 and my mother never struck my face till last year. But now every time I swear at her, even if I don't mean it, she'll smack my face. Even among most of my friends, they say their parents have slapped them across the mouth. It's literally the most humiliating thing to experience, yet parents seem to do it to teens all the time. If I was even hit, just not in the face, I wouldn't even care. I can't explain it but I feel really degraded when she slaps me

He does nothing all day. My parents recently got divorced, and we still live at the house all 4 of us lived at when they were together. My mom works her butt off making money, yet my brother does nothing to help. His room and bathroom are a mess. He lies to my mom all the time about everything. He doesn't blatantly disrespect my mom, but does it nonverbally by the way he treats the house. I feel totally helpless. Our relationship is decent - it's shallow but slowly now that I'm home from college I feel we're building a friendship. He's always in his bathroom for hours. I suspected he's addicted to porn. He's for sure addicted to chewing tobacco, he takes it in his bathroom and has spitters in there and my mom has told him multiple times to stop. My mom has extended him so much grace. Asks him to clean the room / bathroom and he always says he is and never does. He never does what he says he will do. It stresses my mom out, he pretty much uses her. But if she kicks him out, she doesn't know what he'll do. He doesn't have money saved up, and our dad lives in a 1 bedroom apartment. My mom is very smart and is strong enough to not get walked on, so it's not like she's oblivious. I feel anxious and angry thinking about it and typing this up. I am 22, just got home from college, and doing my best to help mom out while she's gone at work. What's the next step? He won't take medication, and he won't consistently see a therapist. He's been like this even before the divorce.

For example our guests adjust our thermostat several times a day. She turns down air conditioner and we have to use blankets, even my visiting brother in law. We normally keep it at 74 degrees. Meals are always around her schedule and menu selection. She is the alpha mom and a great person. I am struggling to keep the peace because her rules become our rules when they visit. When I take a stand, my wife gets upset with me for being rude. After they leave, my wife and I talk and she agrees with me but when they visit, she always defers to her sister. It has been this way for over a decade, and every visit it only gets worse. It is not at all about the thermostat and I don't care about the cost. I use that as an example because she never has mentioned she is uncomfortable. We get an email every time the thermostat is adjusted. It is very easy to set a password to block her access. My question is just how do you most effectively deal with people who overstep without it being confrontational.

My boyfriend and I have been together for quite a while except his mom absolutely hates me because "my family is poor" and what not. So he's 17 and I'm about to be 18 and I planned on taking him with me out of town to my sisters wedding (about 200 miles away from where we live, for three days). His mom is threatening to call the cops and reporting him as a runaway if he goes, but my sister has already bought him and I tickets to do things, a hotel room to stay at, etc...is there any way around this or should he just not go at all?

I feel that I may be another man's child. My mom keeps a acting like that's absurd. How dare you accuse me of lying? I always got bit up really, really bad by mosquitoes, but none of my other siblings. I was told I have O blood type, that is why I get bit up so bad by mosquitoe.. There were other factors. I was told I have O blood type. I asked my siblings and my mom what blood type they are. No one will tell me. I'm really hurt. The man I know as my biological father passed last year. I want to know is there a way to find out if his blood type is the same as mine?

I'm a 16 year old male and my mother does not knock on my door, AT ALL... I understand it's her house, trust me I do.. Yet if I just get out of the shower and I'm changing I feel she should knock? I have talked to her countless times about please giving me privacy I'm 16! She seems to not care... she's walked into my room countless times after I got done doing the deed and she still continues to just barge in... I don't have a lock on my door because we aren't allowed to lock our doors. Does anyone have any suggestions at all to help me out ? I don't want my mom to see my grown man penis 🤷🏾‍♂️

I cannot go on. I have failed due to the sins of my parents being passed onto me

When I was 17 I had to go to the ER because of a migraine or some sort of head pain that lasted for 2 weeks, it made normal day to day functioning impossible. We went to the ER and they hooked me up on IV and some pain med. The care was under my parent's insurance and all was good. Now i'm turning 18 and I want to move out but my mother is codependent or just mentally not well and is threatening me in every way possible to ruin me and my life if I try to move out or establish any sort of independence in my life. Apparently she has a plan to leave the medical bill on me once I turned 18. Is this legal? Is this even possible? I was 17 when I got care and was under her insurance and she was the guardian who signed the papers, my name is only as patient. When I turn 18 will I have to pay the bills (which is in the thousands, and she wants to ruin my credit score that way she said). How do I fight back or at least protect myself. I have a debit card checking account, should I shut it down and wait until I'm 18 and open a new one? What are my options? Any help or advice is appreciated. These threats are also coming from a mother who is a well payed nurse herself and brings in almost 6 figures in pay a year, threatening a teenager who gets payed minimum wage, has no established credit or any notable assets and still has to complete their education. The money being paid in comparison is trivial to how bad I'd have it if I had to pay for it, and this whole thing is malicious and down right petty.

My wife and I want to have 3 kids, but we don't want them to experience empty nest syndrome when the oldest one goes off to college, so I want to have them all the same age so they can go to college at once and not get so sad. I don't really care if they're fraternal, identical, or a combination. Twins alone don't run in my wife's family. The only part thing that could help is my 2nd cousins are triplets, 2 identical and one fraternal, on my mother's side of the family. How can I increase my wife's chance of having triplets?

I have been talking in my sleep for years, I say things that I don't want people to know, like my secrets. It's so weird and I can hear myself talking and saying these things, it's like I cant control it. My secrets just come out, but last night my mother cam into my room and heard me, she was like "what are you talking about" but I still continued to fall asleep, now it's morning and I don't want to face her because my secrets are that bad, I know she will hate me. What should I do? how do I stop talking in my sleep?

My parents have never drank and always looked down on it. My moms father was an abusive alcoholic so her and my father never drank because of it. My whole life they have always acted like drinking alcohol was equivalent to doing hardcore drugs. I get alcohol can be bad, but a little bit or social drinking is not bad. Me and all my sisters are adults, but my parents still act like if they catch us with alcohol were doing something bad. My parents used to go over to my sisters house when she was 25 and search for alcohol in her kitchen, and if they found it they acted like my sister was in trouble or something. I don't drink because of stomach issues but I wouldnt hide it if I did. My parents are older, my dad is almost 70. I know they are not going to change. But how do me and my sisters live freely with always having to look over our shoulder?

Me and my boyfriend are planning to get married after high school. We are planning on attending the same community college at where we live and we are going to get an apartment together. I absolutely love the idea of being married in college.

I feel like I would be being disloyal if I don't see them at the same time I don't want to be rude and the uncle near by is real quiet in a way that seems cold as his fiance. The kids are nice but won't be if the Dad and step-Mom are cold. They are adult children so not really kids other then the grandchild. I feel weird and guilty only seeing my parents' social village there and not the family. My parents friends will be there but their friends are not my friends (nothing against them).

They are near to kill, but one of them is funny, that needed not too much that thing, but i ask from now, cause I,ve got out of at least one of them, one a very good strong psyched!

This has happened with my husband a few times where he gets s uper annoyed with my texts coming in and distracting him (like hey can you stop and grab milk on the way home) type stuff and will tell me to stop because he's busy...but it just happened again with my brother. He lives with my dad and I got a strange message from my other brother that something might have happened to dad. So I texted him is dad ok (dad wasn't answering) and he got irate that I would dare text him while he's working and he ripped into me about it (I didn't respond because I suspect he's a sociopath) and he was so upset he called our 66 year old mother and screamed at her about it too. I'm so confused how sending a simple message is so intrusive and distracting to some people and I don't understand how it warrants such anger towards another. I'm a nurse, I don't answer messages while I'm on the floor. I typically don't have my phone either. I've never gotten upset with anyone texting me anything even on my worst day. Someone explain! I

My daughter (she's a junior in high school) met a girl online who's 23 last summer. They met in person recently. I just found out about it. I wasn't worried because she seems nice (she is in college, has a boyfriend, lots of friends and a close relationship with her whole family). She is very empathetic and friendly. But I have been warned that a 23 year old can buy alcohol, go clubbing and stay out with no curfew. In that case, most 23 year olds will experiment and it has nothing to do with whether they're a good person or not. I'm scared that my daughter might feel pressured to be more grown up.

On the family computer my mom left on "preejaculatory secretion & pregnancy". My heart fell into my stomach because I've been stuck helping out for many yrs now as a second mom my dad never help. I had a talk with my mom she said " I don't think I'm pregnant at all I'm not 80 you keep saying how easy it is to get pregnant so I was just looking". I ask her if she was done with kids she said she didn't even think she'll have 3. Then today I spoke to her & she said "it isn't good when you keep saying how easy it is to get pregnant in the 40s". I ask her to pls just use protection & she nodded her head like yes she kept saying she knows she would get all choke up tho, I said pls no more she said she can't even handle what she has already I believe she said god forbid, I told her I was planning to go on birth control because I know if I was to have a baby we would be stuck. I told her we can even go to the doctors together to look into it & she said ok then put her hand up and said alright & sounded/look very iffy. She said she was told it was just 3 she had her last kid, only reason it shows 4 in card readings is because she miscarried when she was 15. I told her grandma said something about a pregnancy again, she looked freakout she told my dad & my dad said why even worry. I don't get why she freaked when I told her that it's like everything is still left up in the air. My dad later on show me a video how to turn fear into positive thoughts. Mom fell asleep holding my hand

My 13 year old sister is starting high school in the fall (we live in a specific part of Canada so high school starts in Grade 8 here). My mom bought her a smartphone to keep her safe. She discusses real life dangers and knows that my sister can be immature for her age. However she's unaware that a smartphone could also bring new dangers to my sister's life. My sister can't wait to download all those apps and build online friendships. She's the happiest she can be right now. My mom sees no problem with that because she's unaware of the dangers online. As for my dad, he's even more clueless about it and has made a few mistakes online himself. My sister is the type of kid that online predators and trolls would trick. Socially immature, desperate, attention seeking, overly friendly, kind, etc. I know it's not my parents fault, because they were born and raised in a different country where people tend to be less educated about technology. They immigrated here and gave birth to us, so we're growing up in a society that they don't know much about (haven't integrated in much either).

I'm a 25 year old girl and went to college and got a Business Management degree. My parents basically forced me to get a 4 year degree. Since I've graduated I've worked in a daycare a few months and that was a disaster and quit. Now I've been floundering for a while and have no direction. What should I do? I really just want to get married and have kids but it looks like that's not going to happen. I'm going to be forced to find something I just don't know what kind of job or career to do? I'm not an ambition girl I know it's bad. I'm lazy, stupid, am not ambitious, and don't have a great attitude.

My mom and stepdad are fighting and im wanting to self-harm also my siblings are taking it pretty hard what do i do?

I have 4 siblings and I get along well with 3 of them. I'm best friends with one of them. But the other one, my 15 year old brother, is horrible. I can't stand being around him. I look at him and this hot firry rage burns inside me. It takes all of my energy and will power to not punch him or attack him. I feel like I am going to explode just by looking at or thinking about him. I try to ignore him for as long as I can. (Up to 35 minutes) but this comes to no solution. He will never stop bothering me. I couldn't care less about him. I don't care what happens to him and I wouldn't be upset if I couldn't see him again. I'm not the only one in my family who feels this way. The rest of my siblings mostly agree. Anyways does anyone have any suggestions on how to deal with him?

I'm still a teen in high school and have 2 sisters that are older than me, one being 4 years older and the other a decade and a few years older than me. Seeing as I'm the youngest I'm not that close with the both of them due to the age gap and just our differences. Since my oldest sister moved out when I was young as she was an adult by then, I was left with my other sister who always verbally bullied and made fun of me. She would always do this with our cousins, one who was male and younger and one who was female and older. Due to the mistreatment I received from her growing up through the years I've not been able to trust her or have the same thing as most people do with their sisters. The way we all are now is still in contact, but not close. The 2 older sisters are closer with each other than me due to the fact that they are adults and have more to talk with each other than me. I just wanted to know how everybody else who has an older or younger sister deals with things like this?

I recently had a terrible roommate incident and am supposed to move in with my sister, however she is not responsible, she does not drive and her job is not close. There are several other reasons why I don't think this is a good idea. I just feel as though the financial responsibility will fall on me. She is also wanting to move her girlfriend in for the first few weeks. My mother thinks it's a great idea for her but I personally don't. She hasn't done the application yet and I refuse to keep reminding her she is 28 & I'm 23. I don't want to babysit an adult. What should I do?

I am 16 years old and my dad was going to let me go to Pensacola Florida with my best friend's family but my stepmom said that she didn't feel comfortable with me going out of state with another family. So he told me that she was right and I could till we went Florida later in July. Earlier today my dad told that I could go spend the night with my other friend and my stepmom said that Sunday was family night and that I couldn't go. My dad agree with her. Then my stepmom yell at my dad for telling me that I could do stuff without running it by her first.

I'm 13 and my mom struggling she has no money! Can't pay bills! My brother is 20 and has a job! and his sorry *** doesn't want to help our mom! all he wants to do is just sit in his dirty *** room on that dirty *** bed! and smoke weed all day and night! i tell my mom she needs to make him help! but she won't do it for some reason! So how can i apply for a job to get some cash to help my mom! Since my sorry piece of **** of a brother won't do ****! And please don't say! oh just mow lawns or babysit or walk someone's dog! I can't do all of that! So give me other ways to make money!

My daughter and her friends like rappers with brightly colored teeth, swear in every sentence and act aggressive. I don't like their attitudes and the things they do. Some examples of the people she listens to are artists that begin with Lil ____ (insert name), XXXTentacion, R Kelly or Cardi B. I can't stop her from listening to it when she's at other kids' houses or at school, but I can forbid it when she's at home, in my own household. She says that most kids her age are listening to these artists, and they'd even blast that music in the hallways when school was still open.

Ever since I was young my sister has always wanted to control and use me. If she was nice, she had a motive. After this semester, I decided i NEED to cut her off. I'm very positive, forgive, and bottle up my emotions. She's the opposite.Possibly a narcissist honestly. Freshman year of college I gave her $1,000 from my refund so she could intern in New York which was never paid back, this semester I let her stay in the open room in my dorm apartment due to commuting from her job to campus (could have gotten kicked out). This was AFTER she went on a trip to Asia with my ex-best friend who also hurt me which she's aware, and now she's back to her old ways of treating me, my oldest sister, and mom poorly. She only shows up as the good sister when others support me at events on campus. She treats her friends way better and it's sad. So many hurtful things she's done. I'm 21 now and she's 23 this year. She's always gotten a rush from confrontation and controlling situations with others. She's very good at convincing she has changed just to strike again later. I've talked to her once about her ways, but nothing changed and was awkward Should I completely ignore her or just be cordial when i have to be around her? She may paint me as the bad person to others or be cordial for her image.She's unpredictable. I've already told her over instagram that me and her are done. Didn't even read her response. I just want to be ready for whatever she brings in public or one on one.

my cousin must hate me.. im a small girl (5ft.1in.) and he's a tall guy (6ft. 2in.), and he would sometimes harass me.. like last year, i got upset because something my mom did, and that bully cousin followed me outside and actually punched me in the head.. also, he would take some of my stuff when im not home and would either keep it or doesn't give it back till he's done using it. i'd try getting it back cause it is mine, but he snatches it and shoves me.. even like a week ago, he thinks i made a mess in the restroom, and he just stands there over me talking stuff.. and i got annoyed and said, "okay, dad." then he takes my phone and threw it at my face. when i got it, i thought of recording it, but he slapped my phone out of my hand before i can press record. then he starts saying stuff like: "You'll never be a girl, and keep talking so I can beat your a** like youre a guy!" and all's he does is pop morphine pills so it's no wonder he's so dumb.. i wish someone taller and stronger than him would stand up to him to see how tough that bully cousin really is. it makes me feel unloved and like nobody cares, when it's bad enough i have anxiety.. i live in Arizona..

Allah Almight made the homes thrice, the home of world, the home of El-barzakh " The interspace " " The life of grave", and the home of hereafter, and made a home of rulings for each one . And created the human from body and soul, and made the rulings of the world upon the body whilst the soul is just a follower, and made the rulings of El-barzakh upon the soul whilst the body is just a follower. As the souls followed the bodies in the rulings of the world, and they " souls" suffered with their pain and relished with their comfort, and they " bodies" which took charge of all the ways of bliss and punishment, also the bodies , in the life of El-barzakh, followed the souls in their bliss and punishment, and the souls at that time they which assum / take charge of the bliss and punishment. -So the bodies here " in world" are visible and the souls are invisible and they "bodies" are as graves to them " souls" , whilst the souls there " in El-barzakh" are visible and the bodies are invisible in their graves... the rulings of el-barzakh happen to the souls and the bliss and punishment happen to their bodies as the rulings of world happen to the bodies and the bliss and punishment happen to their souls. Allah Almighty showed us by His kindness and mercy from that an example of the condition of Sleeper in world ,that what He feels of bliss or torment during his seleep is originally happening to the soul whilst the body is just a follower, however it may become more stronger and affect the body a visible impact. so the sleeper may see in his sleep that he was beaten, and when he gets up in the morning finds the signs of beating on his body,or he may see that he ate and drank, and when he gets up in the morning finds the signs of food and drinking on his mouth. This is something that really happens The most amazement that you find the sleeper can get up without consciousness during his sleep, and strike and scramble and move with violence as though he is awake in reality. That because when the ruling came upon the soul, It " the soul" resorted to the body from outside, and if it went into it, it" the body" will get up and feel . And If the soul suffers and gets bliss, and this reaches to the body by the way of following , thus is the status in el-barzakh, but it is greater. so the soul is still connected to the body and doesnt leave it totally, and when the resurrection comes, the bliss and punishment are on the soul and body together. When Allah the Great desires bliss or punishment for the soul, He connects it to the body. It is in Heaven, but at the same time it looks at and is connected to the body in the ground "as the ray to the heavens". Finally, If the body and soul of a sleeping person can experience joy and pain that are not felt by the person next to him, and a sleeper may even cry out because of the intensity of pain or fear of what is happening to him, and those who are awake can hear him, and he may speak, reciting Qur'aan or dhikr, or talking to someone, and those who are awake can hear that, even though he is asleep with his eyes closed, and he does not hear them if they speak to him then how can we deny that the one who is buried in his grave also feels thing.

whats the point of doing chores if we get no recognition for it minors are entitled to all the stuff from their parents. Until I turn 18, its a free ride i never asked to be born. Why should I be responsible for being born because my parents were having sex.

I'll start by saying I don't hate my stepmom. Really, I love her and I'm happy she married my father and brought my little brother into the world. I'm staying with my father and sm for the summer and having a lot of fun but just an hour ago my dad asked if I was mad at my sm. I was really confused because I've never been mad at her before nor do I hold any sort of resentment towards her but apparently there were a couple of times where she tried to talk to me and I ignored her. I didn't notice I had ignored her and I think I just couldn't hear her or I thought she was talking to someone else. I really don't know but this is making me feel like utter sh*t. I thought we just didn't talk much because we don't have a lot in common but apparently she thought I was mad at her so she stopped talking to me. I don't know how to go about talking to her because I'm socially awkward and scared of messing things up further. I just don't want her to think I dislike her. Again, we don't have much in common at all so it's hard for me to bond with her over anything. What can I do to make her not think I'm a total sh*t bag. I'm 17 and female if it helps.