Family: Question: 18 year old not moving with mother and younger brother to different state,what do you think? Can my mom get the cops involved?

Question: 18 year old not moving with mother and younger brother to different state,what do you think? Can my mom get the cops involved?

Posted: 04 Jul 2019 02:35 PM PDT

My mom said that we're moving to Fl from NY by the end of this month. Me and my mother haven't had a good relationship since 9th grade bc I was growing up and she couldn't accept that. I look at myself as very responsible, I take care of my brother all the time as well as keep the house clean and neat. My mom told me that my only options were to move with her, my dad, or wait until my uncle buys his house with his family so I could live with him. She doesn't think that I'll do the right thing without someone 'supervising' me, she barely does that herself. I don't want to do any of those because I am capable of making my own decisions. My mom has made me feel like **** the past few years and I just don't think I should have to deal with it since I'm the age of majority now. I find myself mature minded and I know what I want to do with my life. I know it's not going to be easy but I'm willing to struggle to feel like I'm not trapped. It seems like I'm a brat but it goes so much deeper than just the amount of words I'm allowed to type on this website. Anyways, I have a job but I can easily get a second one to keep up with rent and my own finances, my best friend said that I can live with her when the time comes. I plan on packing up my stuff and when the day comes just take an Uber and leave. I don't have any physical handicaps and I don't have any disorders that would distort my views on my decisions so I don't think that my mom would get the cops involved. Any advice?

Question: My mom applied for section 8/Housing assistance and now she's trying to kick me out her house, what can I do?

Posted: 04 Jul 2019 02:30 PM PDT

She wants to ask for section 8/Housing assistance without me being in her household so she can get assistance faster because the income in the household would be lower.. I am quite sad, but what are my options? I have brothers but I hate them because they treat me like an outsider and would never help me even with simple things like a car oil change (i asked for their help and they pretended like I never asked them). Basically my brothers ignore my existence and if I could I would really like to avoid them at all cost. Same thing with my dad, he doesn't want to deal with any of us sons because we're related to our mom and our mom is the reason why he left. He says nice things but he never backs them up.. And yes I am aware that I have to move out if I am 22 years old but I have no place to go. It was all very sudden and I was not prepared for this. I was hoping to save up some money for myself first and then move out but I guess my mom just couldn't take it with me being here anymore..I feel like a hopeless kid drifting through the wind right now..

Question: My step-mother is pregnant. Will her child be my sibling?

Posted: 04 Jul 2019 01:52 PM PDT

My Dad is not the father as he died three years ago. We still keep in touch with my step-mother though. My parents were never married and thus there was no divorce so my Mom is not cruel to my step-mother like a divorced Mom would be. She is rather friendly. My step-mother is pregnant by her new husband.

Question: How do I handle the disappointment of not seeing my cousins at the beach this weekend if my parents end up seeing them?

Posted: 04 Jul 2019 01:52 PM PDT

Last question on this. I decided not to go to the beach. Yet, I am afraid now that my parents will run into them and my sister and parents will get to see them and I will have missed out cause of my fear of the shame of not seeing them. Because of my fear of that shame I have decided to stay home as the shame would hurt too much to go down there and see my parents friends who are not people I am crazy about and not the family members nearby that I love. Yet, I am too terrified of imposing or conflict to call on my own. So how do I handle the disappointment if I learn my parents did cross paths with these relatives and I missed out? How do I handle the "What If" that I might be missing out that I will get during my weekend back at home? Too much OCD here but it is all the terror of being less then and missing out.

Question: I hate my sister but she is joining my father and I tonight for the Philadelphia fireworks show. How do I handle being with someone I hate?

Posted: 04 Jul 2019 01:49 PM PDT

How can I still have a good evening.

Question: I’m a 16 year old girl who is miserable with emotional trauma. Should I run away?

Posted: 04 Jul 2019 01:37 PM PDT

So, long story short, my home used to be very dysfunctional. My mom had a boyfriend and they would always fight (once it was physical), and he would always bully (physically and emotionally) me. Now, I'm traumatized. He left for a while back in 2018, but now they're back together. I don't want to leave my room because of him and I have to stash food in my room just in case I get hungry, but I only eat it in emergencies. Usually, I just eat once or twice a day. All I can do is lay in bed all day and do nothing but use my phone. I'm miserable and barely take care of myself anymore. There's nothing to do and I'm bad at social interaction, so don't suggest something like volunteering or sports. I've also applied for several jobs, but none of them will call me for an interview. I hate looking at him and hearing his voice. I want him out of my home. I've tried to voice my pain to my mother and tell her that I would like nothing to do with him, but she's not understanding. She only bashes me for feeling this way and tries to make me talk to him, even though I've let her know that my trauma keeps me from doing so (I have anxiety attacks around him). I've done a ton of research and I have a friend's place that I have a fair chance of being able to stay at if I do. I have a game plan and a little bit of money. Also, if I leave, I have a better chance at getting a job because then I'll be able to work when I want (mom won't let me work weekends and night shifts). Should I leave?

Question: Is it ever acceptable that a parent spanks their 17 year old daughter?

Posted: 04 Jul 2019 01:31 PM PDT

Question: How come people with children don't consider people with no children?

Posted: 04 Jul 2019 01:27 PM PDT

My 80 years old Uncles keeps showing me pictures of his adult children and grandchildren... and them getting marrying or graduating... But he knows that I am 48 years old and have no kids. He kept asking me "Do you know who that is?" That's my daughter, that's my granddaughter, my son, and Leon and his wife... blah blah blah… Like he is so proud.... But I show him my lawn, and told him that I scratched the soil, planted grass seed, and then watering the lawn... to get rid of the bald spots on the lawn... I'm very proud of myself, taking care of the lawn... But he didn't care... frown at me... saying God will take care of the lawn. Make me feel that my achievement is nothing. I asked him, "so you're saying I should have kids?" I'm a female and can't have kids. Adopt kids? Sigh. I feel sad. Sometimes I do want kids. But you know, having kids is hard work. You have to take them bath, wake them up, dress them, do their hair, make lunch, watch them get on the yellow bus, help them with homework, cook for them, clean up after them... boss them around... give them ultimatum, buy clothes for them, throw birthday parties, buy Christmas presents, have patience.

Question: I’m planning my senior trip to France/England but my mom seems very unhappy about it. What should I do?

Posted: 04 Jul 2019 01:23 PM PDT

I'm going into my senior year and since I was probably 13 I've planned to go somewhere in Europe for my senior trip. Well recently when I've brought it up my mom seems very unhappy and cranky. It's every single time I've asked her about it or tried to talk about fun things. I'll say things like "this looks fun" and show her the activity but I get a plain smile. No excitement at all. I thought at first it was because of how expensive it was which seemed to make sense. But we are about to go to Hawaii ($$$) and she gets so excited when I talk about that trip. Sure, maybe the beach is more her style than historical monuments or things but whenever the trip is something me or my brother like, she always put on a fake smile. I've even confronted her about it. At the very beginning I told her that if she wasn't wanting to go that it ok. I plan to go back anyways so we could make the trip some place simpler. She really didn't react to that suggestion. It's such a stark contrast to my grandmother (she's coming too) who is rattling off ideas and learning French for this trip. We spent like an hour one night talking about it while my mom sat there on her phone not getting involved. It could be that she's stressed about planning things but she doesn't have to do that alone! My grandmother has been all over the world, recently too, so she knows the do's and don't s of abroad travel. Every logical explanation i come up with I end up getting rid of. I just don't know what her deal is.

Question: Do you know that Ronald Gamma's nephew named Giovanni and John Gollisz's son named Brandon are cougar hunters and motherfu€kers?

Posted: 04 Jul 2019 12:58 PM PDT

Do you also know that John Mayor, Dolph Lundgren, Bra Henry, Leonardo Dicaprio, and Bon Jovi are also motherfu€kers and cougar hunters? They told me that I am a $lut just like my mother. They told me that I have big fat "hooters" and "big knockers" just like my mother. And that they will suck my mother's big breasts in my sleep. They also threatened to squeeze their huge balls in my mother's a$$. Then they called me a fag and a girlfriend stealer. I think that the Ghanaian movie "Mommy's Daughter" starring Nadia Buari, Jackie Appiah, and Joseph Van Vicker has something to do with my misfortunes from my mother who is a witch. I think that the Ghanaian movie "In My Mother's Heart" has something to do with my broken home and misfortunes. I think that the song "I got it from my mama" by the black eyed peas has something to do with my misfortunes. After that the Caucasian, Asian, and Spanish girls on the pinterest and YouTube website went and lied that Brandon and Bra Henry are my husbands and I attracted guys those females like. It turns out it is actually the opposite way around and they are the ones who are married to guys I like. Brandon and Bra Henry never noticed me or talk to me plus their girlfriends and wives grew happy and laughed at me that it serves me right when my mother and their husbands had sex in front of me.

Question: Stresses of having many kids? Just had my 3rd and it’s been rough. The worries are non stop and I’m just so negative?

Posted: 04 Jul 2019 11:54 AM PDT

I'm a guy and I am worried about all the things I need to do. We have one vehicle that works but we will need a second bigger vehicle. I worry that something will happen and our emergency fund will be gone. I worry a lot about money. Don't have credit card debt but will be paying student loans for a while. Our house is 1100 so ft. So I worry that the house is too small. I also think that I'm taking time away from my older children. Such that they will get jealous and mad at me because we have a new one which will need a lot of attention. I thought only women go through this. Thoughts?

Question: Why should you wait until you're financially stable to have kids?

Posted: 04 Jul 2019 10:57 AM PDT

Many people aren't financially stable until they're 27, but thats the age when your fertility starts to drop making it much harder for you to get pregnant. I rather have kids at my younger years when I'm fertile.

Question: Why cant she just be happy im alive, healthy and,striving?

Posted: 04 Jul 2019 10:55 AM PDT

my mother is extremely overproctive too afault in my opinion which i know sounds ungrateful.snd i love her dearly and appreciate her massive literal contributions to my life..but it just feelslike unlessi follow the path she invisioned for me she wont be happy...i recently moved from my home without finishing college like she wanted and now shes always literally crying saying things like "i feel like if you leave you wont go bsck too school cause know one will tell you or your all i have in this world you needtoo make me happy(As if i live for her) and shell say nobody s kicking you out why are you leaving...even though everyday im there she complains about my presents and how much of a non contributing burden i am..even though i always did things around the house.shes acts so old and growtchy always ..i felt extremely underapeciated and on top of that like a baby cause im turning 25 thisyear and had too move on. She says things like she cant sleep at night cause shs worried about me and i cant stand thst cause im not oit here doing things i shouldnt..im just tryna become who i wabt too be..but she always assumes im up too no good snd well be poor just cause i dont want too go too college.

Question: Does it feel weird to you when you first move in to an apartment to not have a backyard?

Posted: 04 Jul 2019 10:21 AM PDT

Usually for 2 weeks out of the year my parents and I stay in a hotel that's very apartment like (it includes a kitchen etc..) But I've noticed this time since I'm planning on moving out next year, that this time it felt really weird not having a backyard. I guess since I've always had one it was a convenience. But I also have had dogs since highschool, and where I grew up I've always had a backyard. So this vacation it just hit me that I've always had one. I know I haven't moved into my new apartment just yet. But I'm sure it will take some adjusting because I can't just walk outside into my backyard, and let my dogs run around easily... Was it a shock for any of you when you first got your own apartment? Was it weird sleeping at night by yourself (in your new space that was just yours? etc..) How would you guys suggest adjusting to it quickly? I might be taking one of my dogs with me or if not, I might be getting a new pet of some kind to help keep me company. Would getting a pet be a good idea? Any advice would be helpful... thanks. I'm sadly highly allergic to cats...

Question: My parents buy alcohol for my underage brother, how do I do something?

Posted: 04 Jul 2019 10:10 AM PDT

My brother is 18 and is on the path to becoming and alcoholic, mostly because my dad is too old to stand up to him and caves in and buys him liquor, I come home some nights, by that I mean almost every night. And he's zoned across the sofa in the basement in an alcohol induced coma basically. He's too young to be drinking especially every night with hard liquor. I'm not trying to get in the way of my brother or tell my parents how to parent him, it's that I've seen situations like this before, and I love my little brother. How do I get them, or if worse comes to worse and they decide to do nothing, how do I personally step in and stop him from drinking alcohol underage.

Question: Why did God/Jesus let this happen to my brother?

Posted: 04 Jul 2019 09:53 AM PDT

My brother (in kindergarten) accidentally spilled a mug of milk and my dad got angry and told him to lick it up off the table. My brother refused and then my dad forced his face into the milk and then my brother's nose started to bleed and his face was covered in milk and he started to cry. My dad decided to try to be nice and attempted to wipe the milk and blood off his face but my brother still crying refused, turned his head away from my dad a couple time because he was obviously upset that my dad pushed his face into the milk. My dad got angry then went to wet a hand towel and literally screamed at my brother and forced him to stand up and face the wall, then started whipping his back with literally all his strength and when my brother tried to wipe the milk and blood off his face, my dad screamed at him not to wipe it off, and continued whipping him, then when my brother started coughing from crying too much, and sounded like he was going to throw up, my dad said if he threw up on the floor, my brother would have to lick it up. My dad continued whipping him until my mom came into the kitchen and said his name in a pleading way that it was enough, then my dad stopped. Why the F*ck did God/Jesus let that happen to my brother?

Question: Can I get temporary guardianship over my 16 year old cousin?

Posted: 04 Jul 2019 09:10 AM PDT

My cousin is being abused by her mom, she let her come stay with me for the summer but she does not want to go back. Her dad has sole custody but she lives with her mom. Her dad has told me that he will give me temporary guardianship. Can anyone tell me if this is a thing that I can make happen or can she simply choose to stay with me because she is 16.

Question: READ FIRST!!! why is my dad like this?

Posted: 04 Jul 2019 08:42 AM PDT

first of all i feel i was wrong to be born. they could have my brother only and abort me. my dad is very bad with me.my mom is kind totally unlike him.i clearly sense my dad hates woman. i think he is sexist .whenever me and my mom talk he seem angry. then my older brother talk for 2 hours non stop he doesn't frown at him. me and mom talk like only two minute whole . when i say tell mom to buy a juice he seems angry like i told him to do a very hard thing. then he buys fruit every heckin day just because my brother told him ONLY once to buy fruit. when my bro ask him to give him money to buy expensive phone he immidiately gives money to my brother. then i asked money to buy a cheap lolipop he argues with me like he is the poorest man in the world. when i wanted to buy this laptop my brother asked for the money to buy it i am 100 percent sure he didn't give the money because of me. my bro is 28 and still not have a damn job.still depending on mommy and daddy.

Question: My younger sister stole my cucci watch and she claims that it is her's....how can i deal with that behavior?

Posted: 04 Jul 2019 08:42 AM PDT

My father gave me for a present a very expensive cucci watch but my sister told me that our father told her that it belongs to her... I told her many times that this watch is mine but she did not understand so she stole it and she told me that i have many watches and she does not have one .... What can i do???she does not give my watch back

Question: Is it worth it?

Posted: 04 Jul 2019 07:54 AM PDT

I believe I have a daughter out there. She is now of age to make her own choice to take a DNA test or not to prove if I am indeed her father. Her mother, has kept me in the loop since she was born but has refused to take a test and has refused to corporate. Although she is not sure whom the father of this beautiful young lady is, she has expressed she always wished it was me. I DO Believe I am. She looks just like me and my 2 boys I have from another Mom and I just for the past 21 years have always wanted to know. HOWEVER, I don t want to ruin anyones life. I have a wonderful relationship with a woman I used to date when I was younger. I am divorced from my 2 sons mother. I did mention to my current girlfriend whom I will be marrying sometime in the near future that I had a girl out there whom I thought was my daughter so she is aware but the subject has never been brought up again since that one conversation. Also I dont want to confuse or ruin this young womans life by taking a test and finding out I am not her father. What do I do???

Question: Do you think there should be a law that forces fathers to help raise their child?

Posted: 04 Jul 2019 04:49 AM PDT

I am a single mother of a 2 year old. The father was my ex. After I gave birth, he refuses to see the child, look after it, or help babysit. All he does is pay child support every month. Basically, the entire parenting thing is on me.

Question: Donald Trump is 73, his youngest son is 13. The gap is 60 years, isn't this unhealthy for a father-son relationship?

Posted: 04 Jul 2019 03:59 AM PDT

Like, by the time the boy becomes 20 his father would be too old. A kid his age should be out doing things with his father outdoors like fishing and stuff but Mr. Trump is busy managing a country and is already too old for those outdoor activities so it's a little sad for the boy that he couldn't have that special father-son connection. Thoughts?

Question: (2ND PART TO MY QUESTION)? I'm 24 and my family controls my entire life? I honestly can't take it anymore? :'( Please help?

Posted: 04 Jul 2019 03:34 AM PDT

Ok, in the past I have helped out my parents and I still do to this day (as I am working part time). I began working in my mum's workplace (where she gave me a job) for which I am very grateful and I always contributed to helping out at home. I gave like £150-£200 a month to help them out and I still do to this day. My younger sister moved oiut when she turned 18 (on her 18th b-day) back in 2016 and she started doing drugs, smoking partying etc as she was given an apartment and everything paid for. (In our late fathers will, part of it would be used to cover all education costs) and so because shes at university and I am not, she got and still gets like hundreds every month to pay for everything (rent, water, food, heating, electricity, tv license, council tax) plus her university loan payments she gets. BUT as I'm still at home and working and I am not "in education" I DON'T GET ANYTHINGat all (even though Im constantly struggling moneywise) I only do 25 hours a week and get taxed brutally and I give my parents £100+ a month. So yea, after this had been going on, in my previous employment, I worked 2 jobs (the 1st being 30 hours a week 10:30-5:30pm) Monday to Friday, and then Id be working in the evenings 6pm-10/11pm at night in this restaurant I was working in). Id be doing about 3-4 evening shifts a week) which I saved all the money from my second job.

Question: I'm 24 and my family controls my entire life? I honestly can't take it anymore? :'( Please help? (1ST PART TO MY QUESTION)?

Posted: 04 Jul 2019 03:31 AM PDT

Hello, so basically to ask this question I am seated in a very serene place, my local library in my town as I am uncomfortable at home as my parents control everything in my life!! And I'm 24 year old girl. I had to ask for permission from my stepmum yesterday evening (as its my day off work today) to go as I don't want to be stuck in the house with them all day. (As I am not allowed to do anything at home (aka draw, listen to music etc if I get called to complete a task etc and I wont be able to hear them). You're probably wondering where this came about and I will explain everything. I have a set rules that I have to follow as I don't want to keep getting Youre probably wondering where this came about and I will explain everything. I have a set rules that I have to follow as I don't want to keep getting on the wrong side of my parents. In my last question I explained that I live with my stepparents ( my real dad passed away in September 2012), so my stepmum remarried a few years later and therefore I live with my stepparents, baby stepbrother and little half-sister. I don't talk to my biological mum ever, the most she speaks to me is once a year and my full sister bullied me in the past (she's 21) and is at university and drinks and smokes. Anways, I am here because basically my parents control my life to the point where I now keep lying every single day just to have some freedom!!!

Question: If my aunt does not respond to my text does it mean she dislikes me and will get her kids to dislike me from now on?

Posted: 04 Jul 2019 03:19 AM PDT

Question: How do I get over my feeling of being disrespectful and feeling of shame if I don't see the cousins while at the beach?

Posted: 04 Jul 2019 03:13 AM PDT

I had posted about this earlier and I am going to the beach and it may or may not work out to see the cousins their with their Dad and future step-mother. I am worried they will think I am disloyal and disrespectful like my parents who I am with are. My parents are with their friends and I don't really like their friends but I am going cause two of my siblings will be their for the 4th weekend (Saturday and Sunday). So how do I get over my feeling of being disrespectful and feeling of shame if I don't see the cousins while at the beach? I may end up seeing them, but this is for if not. I have a way I may cross paths with them.

Question: Can a relationship work out if their family doesn’t like you? How can you marry and start a family?!?

Posted: 04 Jul 2019 02:50 AM PDT

My boyfriend and I started off friends in 8th grade, started dating sophomore year and now living together as adults. Everything is great, we both found good careers and are financially stable, we take trips together and just experience a bunch of things together. There's just one thing I'll never be able to move on from. The way his family treats me. They have spread so many lies about me, from calling me a dropout (I became homeschooled and got my diploma); calling me controlling and brainwashing (the only ever "bad" thing I said was I didn't want to surround myself with someone who abuses drugs and alcohol") ; calling me a bad person because I come from divorced parents.His dad has yelled at him so much about me saying he can get better and is settling too young and telling him to get a new girl every night like he did. I got him this fancy cake for his graduation when his parents didn't do anything, he's completely stopped drinking and smoking telling me he has so much more fun without it, I found him a job nearly doubled what he was making. His parents yelled at him constantly for buying me any little thing. I always sense their fakeness towards me and I just can't take it anymore. I actual spend hours getting angry over it. Not to mention their last family vacation I wasn't invited but some other guy was who wasn't family because he was seen as marrying one of the family members. I'm just so tired of not being included or felt wanted. His friends are the same way.

Question: How much money should I be giving my parents? Am I being selfish?

Posted: 04 Jul 2019 01:22 AM PDT

I'm 20 years old and I have recently started an apprenticeship, I get £700 a month which is not really a lot and I was planning on saving a lot of it towards moving out. My mom wants me to pay £200 in rent and she now wants me to pay my £70 phone bill, I would never have picked an expensive deal like that but she chose it as it was a Christmas present from last year. I don't mind paying the phone bill but having to pay £270 out of £700 is quite a big chunk that I would want to have in savings instead so I can leave and not going towards their bad habits. I don't think it's fair for me to have £430 left for myself. Even when I was working part time while at college she would take £35 out of my £70 a week wage, which I thought wasn't fair either. Do you think I'm over reacting?

Question: Do other moms pressure their daughters to stay in shape?

Posted: 03 Jul 2019 11:23 PM PDT

When I was overweight my mom nagged at me to lose the weight. My mom was very hard on herself to look good. She said my looks are very important, so I wonder if other moms are like this?

Question: I found out I was born through ivf. Is it normal to be kinda depressed after finding this out cause I feel different.:(?

Posted: 03 Jul 2019 10:45 PM PDT

Question: Spoke to my mom again. She got upset & when I saw you look how to get pregnant she said “your kidding me”. So she is telling the truth?

Posted: 03 Jul 2019 10:42 PM PDT

Me- "I got really scared" she was like stop now I'm getting upset. I said you tell me one thing but look up yourself how to get pregnant & all that. Mom- "you kidding me, stop this ****. You know how u press on one thing & goes to others" she was trying to explain but then my dad came in. Shes still not admitting to googling those things. She got really upset when I brought it up again but was trying to explain.. My mom search "very difficult over 40 to get pregnant, chances of becoming pregnant at 44, how to get pregnant at 44, ways to get pregnant in 40s, the only way to get pregnant in 40s, natural ways to get pregnant." I ask my mom & she became a bit speechless & wasnt so clear on why all she said was "its not how to, its because all these things u told me". Which was that since she is in early menopause still get pregnant. I told her few times, she would freak when spotting thinkin its cancer. U think she would google how to NOT get pregnant. Anyway she said "I'm getting old everything goes by so fast I remember when I was in my 30s I'm getting hit in the face with being 44". She went on how she cant live life, I ask her if shes done, she quickly nodded yes & changed subject then I ask her again is she really done with having kids, & she nodded I repeat it then she made a smirking face & kinda like a laugh like get outta here & she said "PLS I want to (or) I cant even enjoy my life now". I said I want to enjoy life as a family now before I have mine & she said me too.

Question: Somebody help me please! What should I do?

Posted: 03 Jul 2019 10:24 PM PDT

I feel lost and unhappy. I'm 19 years old and last year my father encouraged me to study fisheries engineering. Though I didn't like this field of study, I worked so hard in the first semester that most of my professors started admiring and encouraging me, but when I realized that although I work too hard, I still can't be as good as those who don't work as hard as me (I was the third top student among 24 students in my class, but I really deserved to be the first), I was disappointed in myself. I never liked this field of study and I only decided to pursue it, because my father was planning to culture fish and raise money with it, but he never listened to me when I said that he's not doing the right thing with his fish. Anyway I always loved acting, drawing, writing and learning different languages, but my parents believed that I can never raise money with them. Now I want to quit this field of study and pursue acting, but my mother frequently reminds me of how my father used to encourage me to study fisheries engineering and warns me that now that he's encouraging me to study acting, he's just trying to play with me another time. I'm confused, angry and lost! I don't know who to trust and what to do!

Question: Do you think the loss of my dad could have prematurely aged me from the stress?

Posted: 03 Jul 2019 09:41 PM PDT

Or is all stress related stuff temporary

Question: Family Seperation?

Posted: 03 Jul 2019 09:41 PM PDT

I don't know how to explain this but I mostly want to get it off my chest. My parents separated almost a year ago (July 12th) and divorced in February of this year. Independence day was always our HUGE go out holiday. My mom promised that we'd still do our usual big event before I move across the country. However, she decided to dump my siblings on my dad and run off with her boyfriend for the weekend. My dad does nothing for planning or social events and just this morning decided to do fireworks and try to make it as fun as it used to be. So my mom is gone, my siblings are at my dad's (Due to my fathers actions and his psychopath son who lives with him. I refuse to go over there) and I am alone. I just turned 20 (literally) and I know it's stupid, but I feel so utterly abandoned and alone. Maybe I'm just mourning the loss of the family unity? (Wanting/Creating a family bond is a huge part of who I am) I know this isn't a real question, but like I said, I am utterly alone and wanted to get it off my chest

Question: Am I being selfish or am I in the right with my parents?

Posted: 03 Jul 2019 08:34 PM PDT

Long story short, my father passed away, and didn't leave much. My parents have a house that's costs 3k a month in California. My question is, I recently graduated with my bachelor's degree and got a job opportunity in a different state for 40k a year. I have enough money for a down payment for a small house and the house would cost 700 a month. My mom says I am being selfish for wanting to leave and buy my own house, she says that I should try to help pay the house, but I just hate it there and I even offered my mom a place at my small house. Am I being selfish or am I doing the right thing in starting my life?

Question: My Grandpa is a horrible narcissist person?

Posted: 03 Jul 2019 08:07 PM PDT

My Grandpa is 72 years old, has a job, and is in shape. He is very two faced and I hate it. He can act nice sometimes, and can be rude another time, and when he was previously rude, he acts like it never happened. First off, he always tells me to do tasks for him that he can easily do and he never asks, just tells me. Second off, he doesn't keep his promises. He tells me stuff like he's gonna give me money because I did something for him or that he's gonna buy me a birthday gift, etc. Third, he ALWAYS yells and hits him and my Grandma's dog (which is also my dog btw) and will not listen when me and my Grandma tell him to stop. He treats me like I am a tool, and like I don't matter. It is very sad because sometimes I avoid coming to their house just so I can avoid my Grandpa. I am extremely close to my Grandma, and me and her have a special bond. I would be closer to him but I just can't deal with his attitude. He always treats my Grandma like a queen and says that I am the king but he never treats me like a king (and I'm not saying he needs to treat me like a KING but I want him to treat me with respect).

Question: Anyone who feel the same as me I hate my family they treat like ****?

Posted: 03 Jul 2019 07:44 PM PDT

My family always treat me like ****, treat me like the odd one out and everyone else is treated really well. I'm always getting put down I am called ***** all the time, ugly they say things like "no one will ever like you" you will never be loved because your different and no one will ever want to be round you. I don't even want to be round my family anymore that's how much hurt and abuse they caused to me I isolate myself from my family all the time I don't want to be round anyone in my family. It's just soo sad you know 😥😥 because I can't think of a time I have ever been happy round my family I have more sad memory's then happy. They aren't even supportive of me and my mental health issues they treat me bad because of it. I have even be physically hit by them and abused physically. don't know want to do anymore but I really have no worth in myself anymore or any reason to live They make me feel so worthless

Question: I betrayed my parents. How do I get things back to normal again?

Posted: 03 Jul 2019 07:41 PM PDT

Long story short: my sister lied about where she was going and my parents found out. I messaged her to let her know that they're looking for her as a warning. What makes it bad is that I was in the car with them, and went behind their back to messsge her. I did a shady thing, and regret it so much because it didn't change anything but makes me look untrustworthy. I apologized and I'm sure they forgave me, but I feel so bad, I can't even look at them.

Question: Lmao should I have helped my cousin?

Posted: 03 Jul 2019 07:00 PM PDT

Me and my cousins are all 15, 17,and 18. Are parents let us all go on a mini trip about four hours away in this country city. We all went to a bar and danced. There was a mechanical bull and this dude was on it who knew my one cousin who was 15 and hes like 45 with a wife and family were we live and begged her to go on it and we encouraged her so she did and then when they got off they made out outside in the back and we were all laughing hysterically. My cousin was laughing to cause she was grossed out, this was a while back ago and I kinda feel bad for doing these things to her

Question: A sibling has not talked to me in a long time. Months. I love this sister very much and she hasn't told me why she doesn't return calls?

Posted: 03 Jul 2019 06:05 PM PDT

What do you think this is about? She's done this before and she just says she's been busy, but it feels dismissive and possibly rude. It hurts even though we're older. What would you do?

Question: I'm disowned my sister, hate her ex's family, I skipped her kid's graduation, but she texted grad. photos of them, ignore it or tell her off?

Posted: 03 Jul 2019 05:58 PM PDT

Question: What do I do about an annoying sister??

Posted: 03 Jul 2019 05:47 PM PDT

I moved into dads house maybe six months ago.. I clean up after myself, mostly keep to myself, just trying to save up to move out. Now my sister finally graduated and moved in too... Dads a huge pushover and does anything my sister wants cuz shes pushy and thinks she owns the place...... Now she had a grad party about a week ago and no one has touched the decorations still hanging up..... Dad just seems to "pout" that my sister wont clean up her mess (mostly decorations) and me and him arent touching it cuz its her mess. And she seems to think its "not her problem" theres a mess cuz WE are the ones annoyed by it, not her... I told her today im tearing stuff down and throwing it all away if she doesnt clean it and she just said "you cant their mine", and shes just a lazy *** and sits around watching tv all day and doesnt do school or work, while I'm currently doing both.... What do I do and how do i get my dad to be a ******* dad so I can have a ******* clean house???

Question: Should I be offended that my mother ignores me when I'm depressed?

Posted: 03 Jul 2019 05:41 PM PDT

I've been crying a lot lately and she ignores me when I'm in that state, so does my brother, I feel like I'm cursed.

Question: Why wont my parents let me go out with friends for more than 3 hours at a time,??

Posted: 03 Jul 2019 04:46 PM PDT

(this includes no sleeping over and nothing less basic than going to the mall or movies)

Question: My whole family thinks i’m weak?

Posted: 03 Jul 2019 04:45 PM PDT

i'm a 14 year old girl and literally everyone in my family pushes me around. i'm 5,0 and 95 pounds so i understand that i'm small for my age. but, i'm angry that all my family does is think of me as a weak little kid! whenever my sister and i get into fights, she'll twist my arm around and it hurts but she's like 50 pounds larger that i am and 5,4 (shes 12 btw). it's embarrassing because i'm getting pushed around by my younger sister. even my parents say that she can beat me up. they constantly joke about how little i eat (i eat like once a day) and how skinny i am. the thing is, im the one who does all of the sports in the family. i just want them to stop pushing me around. i guess i want to be more intimidating and strong but i'm puny :( i just want them to leave me alone!

Question: I found a lot of receipts for alcohol in my moms night stand, she’s a former alcoholic and i fear she’s drinking again. What should I do?

Posted: 03 Jul 2019 04:31 PM PDT

I found 73.. each with two or more bottles of Smirnoff vodka. Do I confront her about it, or just let it go and let her drink her self half to death again?

Question: Should I adopt kids or visit a sperm bank?

Posted: 03 Jul 2019 02:56 PM PDT

I'm approaching 30 and single but I want to have children. For adoption, I don't want a baby because I'm not that good with them. I would prefer an older child under 10 years old. But getting pregnant from a sperm bank sounds really nice too.

Question: Husband has secrets? Long story.. he has joined this organization to help others. I am very proud of him for his desire . Recently...?

Posted: 03 Jul 2019 12:23 PM PDT

he decided to go to a class which was about 5 hours away. He had to drive. He ended up taking a female person with him, had dinner, went to the 45 minute class and drove back. He tells me about this the day after. He did know prior to leaving that day that she was riding with him. I admit I am very jealous but my problem is, I was hurt and felt deceived finding about it afterwards. He stated that he would always tell me in the future of things such as this. This was months ago. Fast forward to recent, he goes to a practice which is about 10 minutes from out home. Prior to leaving he has his wedding band on, but removes it before he leaves. I questioned him about it when he got home and his reply was "he did not want to lose it". Which I think is b.s. So, going back a little farther, I have asked to go with him to see what he does, so I can best relate, because I am interested in what my husband does, he claims that I can go sometime but that "sometime" never happens. There is always some excuse. So, my question to you folks is.. am I over-reacting or do I have a reason to worry? I am really trying to understand but It keeps popping up in my head. I struggle with it daily. Part of me thinks he is ashamed of me and have asked him but he denies it. So this has been going on for about 8 months and yet I have not been invited to join him with all the "gang" which does include females as well as males. What do I do? PS.. we are old and in our 50's. Ideas?

Question: I thought my son was looking at porn, so I checked his internet history. He was watching Adolf Hitler's speeches?

Posted: 03 Jul 2019 10:52 AM PDT