In my opinion when someone is trying to get married is not a sign of true love but a sign of the selfish act. I believe that true love should be shared and not enslaved in a bondage. I believe that true love should be shared among those who do respect it and protected against those who don't.

When my husband and I argue he calls me names. I don't call him names but rather I state the issue. I don't believe in calling people names because it gets away from the issue. I usually respond by telling him to stop using those terms, remind him they are not going to lead to resolving the issue and it's an attack for which the purpose is to hurt me. I also point out that I'm not calling him names even when I'm angry. What should I do? Also I'm not sarcastic or belittling towards him. He will take any request I have and escalate or change the direction of it. For example, please don't drive so closely to the car in front of us (70 MPH and 3 car lengths behind the car in front of us). He then begins to say things like, "oh so you think I'm an unsafe driver?!" No, I didn't say that, just asking him to put a little more distance between him and the car in front of him. Then he says I do the same thing. To which I reply, "I try to maintain a safe distance." to which he yells "liar!" So he screeches over on the interstate, almost hits a concrete curb, almost blows the front left tire by hitting a pothole, and hits gravel going from 70 to 0 in less than 10 seconds (not sure of the time, let's just says when he hit the brakes, we slid on the gravel). So I offer to drive. That's just one ex. I did take over the driving because he was angry. However, he continued to yell at me so I told him I would have to pull over because his anger outburst is distracting to my driving and unsafe for us. I pulled over and asked that he please calm down so I could drive. he just retired and to tell you the truth, I'm relieved for those who had to work w/ him because I have seen how he treats them. The only time he has backed off me is when my son grabbed him & told him to stop.

I m breaking up with my boyfriend of 8 years because he has always been jealous, possesive, manipulative and insecure. He is very upset about it and says he is ok with us separating but at the same time wants us to keep dating to what I keep saying no. Our lease ends on March 31 and are currently still living together until one us us moves out. He suggested I stay because it would be less stressful for me and cheaper, which is true, My only fear is him coming back and spy on me because he has done it before or find him waiting outside my apartment and watch me without me knowing or worse, start following me and beg me to get back with him, I m also afraid he could hurt me or someone else if i start dating again which i probably wont but still wouldn t feel safe bringing someone home, he can get crazy and do crazy things. I asked my apartment manager and she says the locks can be replaced. Now, if i move to a new place, I m sure he would follow me from work to know where I live and it would probably be the same situation as me staying at my current place. I m confused, I don t know what to do, my head is not thinking straight and I don t really have anyone to talk to about this. Please let me know your opinions on what would work best and please no rude comments.

My mom had never fully accepted her and had said some things in the past that my wife didn't like at all . I brought it up a few months ago to my mom and since then my mom didn't say anything back to her negatively . For the past 3 months she doesn't want to go at all and it's looking bad on my end . At the moment I sleeping on the couch because of all the negative things my wife says . Example : she thinks my mom did some curse on her , it's your mom not mine you go , I don't want anything to do with your mom. My mom kept asking me for her to come by and the wife kept refusing . I can't live like this . Even my wife mother told her she should go sometimes

I think I will take him back. I miss him terribly, and every man misbehaves from time to time; it's normal.

Hi. i have been with my boyfriend 13 years we have this friend well..ex friend he knew her since childhood they did date before me nothing sexually she ended up cheating on him. over the years he seems obsessed with her we live in another state he would go to the state she lives in to help her withouting me knowing. we have fought and argued leading me to be suspicious i have not been in the mood to be romantic because of this. she lives a troubled life throughout our relationship she's been in and out of prison for stealing and a numerous things her mother has full custody of her two children they have different fathers neither belong to my boyfriend. people are in my ear telling me they slept around when i confronted her on Facebook she blocked me, when i asked him about it he denies the allegations. there was a incident last year a few days before our 13th anniversary where he wanted to leave me for her claiming he has feelings for her but i convinced him to stay. she only calls us when she needs money and when we don't give it to her she stops talking to us. right now she's in prison again i heard for prostituting for money she's been released this month but i can't shake off the suspicion how can i prove he cheated on me with her? whenever i accuse him he would say yeah, okey i won't sleep with him because she has a reputation of sleeping around with different men everyday and i don't want to catch diseases from her. Thanks! I also found texts and pictures of her in his phone my sister told me in his old phone he had pictures of her half naked if i find out he did i will leave him.

Every time my husband doesn't get his way he gets upset and has a mad fit. Tomorrow he has a meeting in town with a company that's gonna try to help him find a job today he wanted to wear his favorite pair of blue socks but he couldn't find the other one he got really pissed off I told him to look for it tonight maybe he can wear it to the meeting tomorrow he got mad and whine " no I don't wanna go I want my favorire sock ! ". He acts like this all the time. He watches a lot of those kid shows where it teaches kids to whine and be spoiled brats. He probably gets it from that. Hopefully when he gets a job he'll be better. The other day we were at band practice him and my friend were doing something he was trying to show him something on the guitar he got pissed off and yelled " no I wanna do it myself ! " then he threw his guitar down and stomped his foot. See what I me. I love him but he turns into such a spoiled brat and has hissy fits when he doesn't get his way. We have a daughter who's 2 months old good thing he doesn't act that ya in front of her. What's going on with him ? Is this normal ? He's 24 years old

Our kids are 4, 3 (twins) and 3 months. My wife is what you call neurotic. She likes everything just so, and everything has to have a "home". She's the type of person who would re-write her class notes when she was in college. She kind of loosened the reins when the twins were born, but now that our youngest was born, she's gotten back into that whole control, everything must be in its place type attitude. We moved a few months before the baby was born, so not everything is quite finished yet. Our 4 year old has started doing some chores all on her own. My wife says to me that she needs to relinquish control a bit, but doesn't quite know how. I've thought about possibly hiring a maid for Valentine's Day to come help organize the rest (it's really not that much in the grand scheme of things), but considering her personality, I'm not sure if wife would approve or hate it. She's already beyond stressed out. Is a maid for a day a good gift? Also, can stress affect the length of time a woman is on her menstrual cycle?

The question was about my husband and his homosexual boss hugging my husband at the funeral home. This man has been calling, sending emails, leaving voice mails, following us, and sits across the street from our house. His boss asked my husband out to dinner and my husband told him; my wife and I will meet you there and he said three's a crowd. My husband told him I am NOT gay and was being compassionate because of your Dad's death. My husband told him to stop calling,leaving voice mails, and emailing him. My husband learned that ten years ago his bosses Mom died and all the co-workers went to the funeral home for his Mom. He did this to another man and this man quit due to him harassing him. My husband was offered another job position two months ago and now he is going to take the position.( main reason more money) My husband now has two phones one for work and the other personal use. I am hoping this will stop and going to let my husband handle it. I was accused of being immature, a bigot, and other comments made to me from the first question I asked. I do NOT know what to do because my husband is upset about what this guy is doing. My husband he went to Human Resources today turned in his two week notice. He REPORTED his boss to Human Resources and tomorrow he is going to try to see if he can put a restraining order against him. My husband told the company he will file sexual harassment charges against his boss. My husband and I talked about this situation and encouraged him to go to Human resources. I love support and stand by my husband 100%. We'll see what happens and thanks for your help This is too Mad Luv ; stupid answer and remember sticks and stones?? I may be taking your answer the wrong way but I had to respond to you.

When you go on the internet or talk to men in your life all you see read hear about is horror stories of marriages falling apart , divorce Stories women write of wanting to leave their husband and have a divorce , have affair cheat for petty reasons like you see on here everyday Read about and hear about Divorce horror stories told by miserable men who lost everything and were humiliated in divorce Taking to the cleaners by their monster Ex wife claim their wife lied to them cheated on them had an affair divorce them left abandon them during hard tough bad times and took everything including the kids left them In poverty or worse cuclholded them With someone else's kid which they have to pay child support for When you read about how high the divorce rate is and how likely you are to be divorced How can a man not be afraid of marriage and divorce and come to the conclusion that he will never marry any woman or trust any woman ever How can a woman even ask a man to get married or about marriage knowing all of this Knowing that he knows and is aware of all this When all you see hear and read about marriage online and from other people is the bad negative stuff

I know my wife loves me and i love her. We are both 23 years of age. The issue she has is that we have nothing in common (and i agree with this). All she wants out of life is to travel and have fun. Which i can see that being enjoyable. Every weekend she wants to go to some hiking trail or some park to take photos for social media and for fun. I do enjoy it sometimes and others not so much. I have a desire to own a Pest Control business. Im working on it Now with my father. In april or may me and my wife will be moving to panama beach city in florida. My wife isnt thrilled at all about leaving L.A. I explained to her this is our first step in moving us in a direction to have more freedoms. She has some friends who work in utah and are offering her a job. She says things like "i can work there while you work in florida". Which i tell her is not a good idea. She has days where she is really depressed and wants to go back home to the philipines to see her mom and wants to be independant again. (Because she doesnt have a job or her own money now). I want a business and a lot of success and she just wants a simple life where she can travel like her old farm lifestyle. She likes to do things on the weekend and i would rather work on the weekend. I live her but i am contemplating my own happiness going forward. I can tell she is doing the same. So should i leave her so we can fufill both of our desires or should we stay together and not be sure if we will ever be happy?

I would like other people thoughts on something. A husband and wife leave the mall. it is raining outside around 5:00pm not dark outside. They had a 10 year old child and drove the wife's car. Not wanting everyone to walk through the rain she leaves the husband and child at the mall enterance and gets the car. it was raining but not dark outside. she drove about 500 feet from the parking lot to the mall door. when she pulls up to pick the family up the husband gets in the car and says.. " if you are picking people up at the mall you should at least turn your head lights on so you are not putting me and your daughter in danger". then proceded to tell her she is breaking the law and violating common sense.. Was that statement an acceptable thing to say?

Was involved wit this female for 10 year's thought I knew everything about her.so we got married at the 10th year this year 2018 makes 2 years we never lived together after marriage because I was fooled into thinking that she had changed from her reckless behavior.constantly yelling,hanging in face,saying no man will never tell her what to do.my opinion don't only hers.she went to a carnival and she met an guy and tried to find him on social media got caught and she said she wanted him on the side 6 months into marrige the reason did it just so I can show her more attention.i did everything for her from wiping her A#$. by her side with surgeries to emotional breakdowns.now she crying wanting to do the right thing after I threw in towel when i gave her chance after chance to stop her madness.want to file for a divorce but don't have the money right now but will in the next 4months.i recently found someone who truly appreciate me as a man now no more crying trying to figure out what I done wrong I got my life back now.long story short.told wife I'm leaving I want a divorce told her where things went wrong and I told her this was very toxic and to keep the kids from being emotionally ill from the drama. been with new woman for 6 months she Kno my story and willing to work thru it wit me.im not divorce yet could she get me for alimony ect..we share no home cars,bills only 2 kids she stated that she moving on also.is I'm right or wrong what are the consequences behind this?

First of no judgements please!!! My husband and I were great until he cheated on me with prostitutes. I decided to give him another chance hoping for a change but while we were still at counselling trying to make things work, I found out he's still cheating on me with many different women and wasting our time and money on therapy when he's still cheating. We both work and split all the bills. Atm We are struggling with money but he pays for escorts, hotel rooms then comes home singing on how he's too broke for holidays, date nights or shopping etc. He doesn't know that I know. Since I found out he's trying to play me all has changed. Everything about him repulses me. Can't stand his look, his touch, his simple presence or just the idea of him. But I have to stay with him for a couple of years before I leave him. I have to play along and put up with all of it to get what I need then leave. I know it's bad but I have to do it. Me feelings and conscience are out of the window. Any ideas or tips on how to cope and survive this mess please ? How to play along without losing it or going crazy.

He won't and we are infertile. He says he doesn't want to have someone else's kid but I keep telling him adopt means he or she will be our kid.

Right now I look at him and I feel lime I wont see him again. I feel so scared, terrified. Tose are my feelings right now and when I look at him I strat crying. Can anyone make me understand what I sm feeling? It is so real.

I have a strong sense that my wife gets jealous when my daughter (20 yrs old) and I have private talks or anytime we hangout together. Initially, I thought that it was just slight jealousy so I brushed it off however, she is constantly trying to prevent my daughter and I from doing any activities together. Now, we barely discuss anything anymore other than the "hey dad, goodbye, hows school" My wife is also a narcissist and is very mean to my daughter. They don't have a very good relationship together. My wife still loves her however, I don't believe my daughter loves her back. I have a feeling that it is only me(dad) which is why my daughter bothers sticking around the family. Years ago, my young son snuck and told me that she is planning on abandoning the family.