What do you ladies or guys think about letting your SO sleep with someone else, as long as your given the same privilege, as a one time thing before you get married? I am sort of possessive, I don t know how I would actually feel after my fiancé did the deed with someone else, even if I gave the okay. At the same time, I might be okay with it as long as I could do the same thing. It would be a one time deal only. However, I still have doubts and I m worried that it could hurt our relationship. What do you think? Bad idea? Have any of you tried this before? Neither of us have been with anybody else, in any way, since before we were together five years ago. We trust each other very much. I m just worried that it could change the way we feel about each other or hurt us in some way. Thoughts please 😊 Also, I am not okay with an open relationship on the regular, especially not after we have taken marriage vows. From that point on it will be each other only. This would be one person, one night only before the wedding.

Can you think of examples where members of your family, or others in your close surroundings, have been influenced by the media to change their opinion on an issue?

My husband had a daughter with this woman before we met. The mother took off with the daughter when she was a few moths old and they have not been able to contact her or been able to locate her, though they have been trying. His daughter is turning 4 now. The mother refused to put my husband on the birth certificate and didn't give her his name. Me and my husband have two children of our own now and just recently discovered where his daughter is. Apparently, the mother has gotten marriage and had two more children, and instead of contacting us (because we live at the same address and have the same number) for help, she decided to give his daughter away to live with her brother and his boyfriend and hasnt seen her in months. I dont believe it was in any legal way. I don't know the whole story about the time they spent together, but i know it wasn't great. My husband and everyone i have asked has said they thought he might be bipolar. We want to know if there is anything that we could do?

TEXAS divorce from 2012 states: Change to respondent's name: It is ordered and decreed that (married name) is changed to (maiden name) I never changed name because I was told that it was an option not a demand and it was best to keep my married name because I had the kids. This has been my name since I was 16 (38 now) NOW, in 2016 EX emails me about I need to comply with the decree. I don't want to can he MAKE me? I've read I can change it and change it back if I need to but is all that necessary? This is ALL it says about the name change-

my fiance and i will together nine years on March 1. we want to go ahead and go to the court house and get married, but i do not plan on notifying none of my family. just going ahead and do it. my mother, father, and brother are all deceased and i feel like i should not be holding back from being with someone i love. would you notify your family or just let it happen?

What made you decide to work things out and not move on completely and was it worth it in the end?

My husband and I have been separated for a few months now. I ve finally decided to stop waiting for him to file (like we agreed). Once the divorce is official, I plan on having a divorce party with close friends and family that supported me through it all. But I want it to be a crazy affair with lots of alcohol. Any ideas where I can throw this party? I d really like for it to be a place I can put up decorations.

My husband Cons * drinks 5 times a week . Drinks 2 cups wine in a day sometimes a bottle . * don't excrise *sex dysfunctions Pros: Caring Positive Cons about me: I'm emotional and sensitive with words and have a hard time understanding a lot of thoughts . Pros about me : Caring Positive but not all the time . Easy going Hard worker at everything Very patient Our relationship: Cons : finically problem ( we don't have the money to support each other ) I pay 2 bills and buy food and pay credit card bills . Hubby buys food, gas for car and buy coffee. That's all we do with our money . We live in a rent free home . Cons: I have to change myself for hubyy d to live with me ( that's bad !!!!) it hard to change something about me I tried soo many times before we met and Hubby accept it and now he don't !!!:( I'm naturally messy and I can't help it right now ! Maybe another time I can but not now .. Can't he accepted that ????? He lets his mom pay his health insurance bills . I get free health insurance because of my learning disability. Pros: we love each other like best friends and we have a very good friendship. We can't let go of each other no matter what . We are in our late 20s.

Im 53 woman who has been married to a guy who's barely worked I worked at a wire mill and made enough to buy a house and have a nice 401k plan i just started the divorce i have been providing for him and we have no kids, will the judge favor me since i provided everything or will he get half my stuff and half my retirement i live in new york and just wanted to know cause I cant stand the thought of that lazy bastard getting half my stuff, i bought him his truck and paid all the bills..

& why does she not find a true man who's not rude to her/doesn't beat her/etc. I want your answers-not BS, if it bugs you, I don't need to hear it.

Lets just say that you're an adult (if not already), and has been dating them for a while. 2. Do you think its more acceptable if he were extremely pale, and wanted to have children so that they dont sun burn so easily? Whoever is constantly moving this question I am reporting you to Y!A. This question was in marriage and divorce, to anyone else that sees this.

I lost my husband sometime back who died in a trekking accident. I have a 6 year old daughter. Although I was deep in pain, I met someone who helped me get through it. He's very handsome and charming. My daughter loves him a lot and enjoys his company. He loves her too and bought her an Xbox for Christmas. He said I am so beautiful. We haven't gone out on dates but he has been there whenever we needed him. He once asked me "I know that you'll never love me like your husband. But do I have some place in your heart?" I said " not some place. my whole heart is yours".Fact is that we both love him like anything. So, should I ask him to marry me? He's 26 yrs old and single and I am 24. Am I selfish to ask this of him given that I am already a widow and he's single with thousands of virgins waiting to marry him. I am scared of rejection. Should i speak to him about this?

Are there a lot of marriages like that? Also, is there a lot of marriages where the wife makes more money? Thoughts?

My wife and I have been married 6 years almost 7. Early on I was arrested for murder. 3 years later it was dismissed on grounds of self defense. Soon after the charges were dismissed she received a job with the FBI. Like all couples we discused it an I gave my full support. We agreed after training the kids and I would move to DC with her and I'd find a job. As soon as she left for training all communication stopped. She wouldn't return texts phone calls or anything from me. Her mom would tell me she's alright because she would call her. This went on for a little over a year with no communication. We have 2 toddler ages children. Now she says she wants me to stay in Georgia or if I do move to DC I'll have to have my own place. I have a decent job here making 35,000 a year. My job offered to transfer me but when I mentioned it to her she threatened to have me arrested. I've never hit her or Ben violent. I just had the one run in with police and even that was dismissed. What should I do? Plz give good advice.

Permissive - No one has authority over anyone and no one needs permission to do what they want when they want and how they want. No one is in charge. There are no rules. Anarchy but not chaotic.

If you give a label to answer this question please explain that label. It seems to me it just reverts to surviving and nothing more.

So our marriage hasn t exactly been clean. I have caught him attempting to cheat numerous times. The first time was when I found out he was using escort services while we were dating. I don t know why, but I chose to forgive him for that because we didn t know each other much back then. Then I caught him a second time when he drunk texted his friend asking if a certain girl was going to be at a party he was going to attend. This was long before we were engaged and we were long distance, but I looked past it as he didn t actually go through with it. He lied about the drinking and at first tried to cover it up, but the evidence was there in his text messages... third time was after marriage when he had looked up girls on craiglist. At that point I was mad. He kept telling me he changed and changed but he still went that far. The thing is, all these events were more than a year ago now, and I haven t caught him with a lie or anything until today. My husband and I are currently going back to school. He s taking a few classes, and I occasionally stop by during his breaks to surprise him with some snacks and spend time with him. Normally however, he doesn t like when I stop by... today I brought him a snack because he had 20mins before class. However, he wanted to go right in and lied to me about how the professor was already in there and class was starting. I questioned him on that and he denied it stating im being detrimental to his grades. I m tired of his lies? To answer those who are wondering how I knew the professor wasn't there, I waited around a bit longer than usual. My husband walked into the classroom and I sat there waiting. Sure enough, the professor walks down the hallway and enters into the class 8minutes after my husband had walked in. In his words, "professor is already there and class is starting, I got to go." I texted him about that, and he said he didn't lie to me.

My husband and I have been married since December (2 months ago) but, we have been having sex for longer than that. So the other day my husband brought up the idea of having a three some with his best friend. I know it would be fun and I know his friend too but, my husband is the only man I ve ever slept with or even ever kissed so I m nervous to have sex with another man that is not my husband. I m also afraid of this hurting our relationship. I m not sure how it would I m just scared of the thought of it hurting our relationship.. so should I go with it and have the three some or should I say no?

how can the drinking be positive? I have been trying to get my life right with god so that I can be positive for my kids. how can that be positive if they see how he is drinking when he s off of work? he keeps on saying let s be a family when he s hurting the family by his decisions.

That just tells me he has been screwing other woman good thing I have not been sexually active with him, but it does concern me even thinking in giving him another chance we also have a 2 yr old baby.

Long story short: me and my husband decided to split up.. We have a 4 month old son. He rarely has done anything to support my son. I buy literally everything. He took care of the bills, rent, electricity etc when we lived together. Barely wanted to watch my son so i could go to work. But he feels like he doesn t have to support my baby because he paid rent for not only him to live but me & baby. When I left he told me he would give me $50 a week. He missed 2 weeks. He has another kid. He told me he spent $400 on her but has only given me $50 to support my kid which is why he missed those 2 weeks. I m unemployed BTW. & as his wife $50 is not nowhere near enough when I could be getting alimony and child support legally. I feel he is beyond wrong. How do I deal with a selfish deadbeat?

I was attracted to tall and strong woman from child hood. My height is 5ft4 and weight is 56 Kg and my age is 30. I told my parents to search a woman around 5ft11 to 6ft for marriage. My parents saying it will not look good for husband to be small than wife.I like the life where woman is tall and strong than me and lift me and take lead. Is it wrong to marry woman tall than me

So the day before Valentine's Day, my wife decided she wanted to go to a friend's house and spend the night promising she would be back the next day. I agreed. She then presented a Valentine's Day card without a personal comment... just wrote "I love you." So, she leave's... her friend is 2 hours away, btw. Has a good time. Valentine's day she texts me at 10am saying what her and her friend had planned for the day: lunch, shopping, etc. So i reminded her of her promise to be home and we were going to take our 5 kids to the movies for Valentine's Day. The kids and I, also made her a surprise Valentine's day banner.... needless to say my wife was upset that I was holding her to a schedule that wasn't "set in stone." She drives back home after making a fuss to her friend and takes a nap. We take the kids to a movie and get back home kind of late. My wife goes to bed. No "happy valentine's day," no "i love you." Nothing. We've been married 10 years and Valentine's Day has always been a big day for her. I mentioned something about wanting to have spent more time with her but she flipped out and said we did spend time together... Now i'm just irritated. I mean, what's the deal? FYI, for Valentine's Day I got her a new purse, scheduled a hair appointment for a Keratin treatment, bought her favorite dinner, gave her cash, gave her an overnight "girls night out." All I wanted was to spend some time with her.

I've been married for almost 4 years. I love my hubby so much. We don't have kids yet. We only do it like once a month because he's afraid to have children. I have two test to take and a crediential program to get into to be a school teacher. I feel so stuck because I've waited so long to finish my goal. I'm 36 and I also want kids. My hubby doesn't want to raise a child in our condo because of where we live. He wants to buy another place. He doesn't make a lot of money. I just feel so stuck. I feel like I'm running out of time to have kids. On top of that, I need to finish my goal. I just hate knowing I waited this long. I just feel so stuck and I can't get out of it.

I'm not even sure I can call it anxiety. I have been married to my husband for 2 years now and we have had issues with sex from the beginning. Before we got married we didn't have sex, we messed around quite a bit but never went all the way. My husband grew up watching porn, and has admitted twice in. The past couple of years that he still watches it occasionally even tho he tells me each time that he will stop. That in itself makes me very upset and not want to have sex with him at all. So I think he truly means it when he says he will stop, but I have doubts about if he truly is. He may go a month or two without watching and then start again, but it's hard to say because I've never caught him. He has always admitted it to me. Also we both work completely different schedules, so I'm off in the evening and he works in the evening. So we may only have a couple nights a week together. And even on those night we don't always have sex. I also find it very hard to get aroused. I never had this problem until we got married. But once we got married the foreplay stopped and all he wanted to do was "****." He doesn't seem to have any interest in foreplay or anything romantic at all. I've tried to hint to him that it takes more than 30 seconds for girls to get in the mood but that doesn't seem to do much. And because of this sex is almost always painful, which turns me off even more. So I am at a loss of what to do, I want to fix this and have a good sex life.

getting private lap dances and touching strippers' breasts at a bachelor party where you were drunk and everyone else was doing it? whoever keeps changing the category for my question to Dancing, please stop or you will be reported.

As many of you already know my husband had a daughter from a previous relationship prior to us meeting. Not his bio daughter but he helped his ex raise her after her own father was killed when she was about 2 or 3 years old. Well, that girl has two kids now and they call my husband granddaddy. the oldest, a 7 year old girl thinks my husband hung the moon and the stars in the sky. There's nothing he won't do for her and she's always wanting to go with her grand daddy. At church she sits on his lap the entire time. He loves her more than he loves me, I think. Well, my husband has been working on his master's degree and is one class away from graduating. That class begins later in March. We're making plans to travel to his school which is several hours away to attend the graduation and he mentioned to me that he wanted to take his grand daughter with us. He's not even taking his own bio daughter who is in college herself. Don't get me wrong, I love the little girl too but when ever we make plans to go "anywhere" he always suggests we take her with us. I want this to be our trip so I can go celebrate with him getting his master's. While he's in the crowd with the graduates I'm going to be the one with his grand daughter in the stands. Am I wrong to want him to myself for this weekend? His own bio daughter is going to be in some sort of cheerleading competition at the beach in a few weeks for her college and yep, he wants to take the grandbaby with us. Does he never want to just spend time with me? We went on the yearly "Family Labor Day Trip" last year and yes, he took the grand daughter with us then. He never wants to just go somewhere with me.

A married man and I who have been very close for the last 4 years. We have been intimate with each other now and then. Over all though we have been more talked quite a bit we both are on the same page. I do not want a relationship. Up until this Valentine's day I had understood that he wants to stay with his wife. He has told me numerous times because he doesn't want to hurt the kids. (understandable) However after not talking for nearly two weeks because I had gotten really sick. He contacted me on Valentine's Day and wanted to spend time with me after he got off work and not go home. I have children of my own and we had plans already so I couldn't but he seemed pretty upset. Does he really want more or am I being weird? I don't want to come right out and ask him if it's just me...

If they done something then they will say you are "ACCUSING" them even if they really done something wrong. They don't want you to find out they done something behind your back but won't admit to it either.

My husband is always very gassy and farts in my presence. We have had many fights about it and now he finally agreed to leave the room when he needs to fart and has started taking bean-o. This is a slight improvement but he still farts on all our seats, our couch, and sometimes on our bed during his sleep. I just bought a $2,000 couch and it already smells like farts. I have taken the covers off the cushions and washed them to get rid of the smell, but I have done it so many times that the fabric is starting to look old because you're not supposed to wash them often. I gave my husband an ultimatum that he is not allowed to sit on the living room furniture anymore but he is not listening!! I am considering divorcing him now and asking him to pay me $2,000 to replace the couch after our divorce. What do you think?

husband got REALLY drunk at a party and hooked up with his ex girlfriend who was coming on to him. I was at the party as well but didn't see them. Someone else walked in on them while they were on the couch. He told me the following day and was full of guilt and shame. he was crying saying he didn't want to lose me. we've been married 10 years and I can't believe this happened. Is it worth working through this or should I just leave and cut my losses? We have no kids.

Is this normal of guys?