Family: Question: My mum called me a bad mother? I need some advice.?

Question: My mum called me a bad mother? I need some advice.?

Posted: 21 Feb 2016 01:04 PM PST

Question: How to get my mom to have a serious conversation with me?

Posted: 21 Feb 2016 12:56 PM PST

I'm a 14 year old girl and I have an 8 year old brother. My mom left my dad without notice when I was 6 years old. I live with my mom but I see my dad a couple times a week. My mom thinks that my dad put me and my brother "in the middle" and making her sound bad. The truth is, my dad did nothing. My mom isn't a very fun or loving person to be around. She has extreme outbursts over very little things and is always got something to yell about. She's verbally abusive to both me and my little brother. She has her moments of goodness, but all she really wants is power. My dad on the other hand, is literally so fun to be around. He's funny, we cook together, his girlfriend is super nice, he doesn't get mad, he pays attention to my brother and I, he's just a real parent to us. Sometimes, every other month, he gets really mad and will yell, but honestly, he's never bad. My mom acts like we are her whole life, but I know for a fact that's not true. She's a horrible mother, and she lies and cheats on everyone she meets and thinks it's everyone else's fault. I've tried to talk to my mom and tell her why we like my dad better and how she can improve herself, but she just gets angry. She doesn't want to here the truth, but I can't go one with her. We've tried to get out of custody as much as possible, but she just pops up and lies about things that never happen. What should I do?

Question: She got another dog!!?

Posted: 21 Feb 2016 12:47 PM PST

My sister & I live together in an apartment. She has one dog he's like 80lbs. I'm fine with one dog. Now she's brought another dog into the home! I'm furious!! she tells me it's her money & if she wants a second dog she can have one. I'm the one on the lease not her! Do I have a right to kick her out?!

Question: What going on is my aunt lying ?

Posted: 21 Feb 2016 12:36 PM PST

I said thank you to my aunt on the phone she said ya no problem then she says I want to talk to your mom so I said yes I will give the phone. My aunt tells my mo I didn't say thank you. I tell my other aunt thank you she said you don't need to say thank you to your aunt.

Question: Tips and advice for moving out at 18?

Posted: 21 Feb 2016 12:35 PM PST

Alright, I know this is a commonly done topic here on YA, but I would like some insight onto moving out at 18. So first off, I would like to move out because I feel like a spoiled brat (take a look at some of my previous posts if you want proof) who doesn't appreciate anything and is too sheltered from reality. I feel that my parents don't really love me because they conceived both me and my brother out of wedlock and my Dad's abused my Mom, me, and my brother. On the flip side, I also get very spoiled, such as getting a $200 debit card for my 16th birthday (stupid isn't it?), among other things. I've looked at some of the other posts and on other websites about this and know this is going to be difficult, so I am working very hard in high school right now to make sure I can be employable, and as soon as I get a car I will get a job and work very hard to get a lot of money to move. I will be moving out-of-state however (I live in MN), and am going to move to a cheap state (I'm considering NM or AZ), and take as little things as possible (basically my car, some clothes, and an iPad), and will either get a cheap apartment or rent a room. After a couple of years of doing this, I would like to join the military because they pay for your college and they would discipline me very well, all while getting the prestige of serving your own country. Any other tips and advice for what to do when moving? Personal testimonies would be great! Is my current plan also well though out?

Question: I need help running away?

Posted: 21 Feb 2016 12:35 PM PST

Ok so I m only 13 (I know I m really young for this) and I really want (need) to run away because of many reasons, one of the biggest reasons is abuse, I ve been abused my whole life and my parents say they love me but they don t, they hit me, yell at me, wish I was dead, threat me, and a lot more. My parents are Muslims and well I don t believe in god, and if my parents found out they would kill me. I already popped my cherry (which my parents think it s the "virginty") and my mom always tells me that if a girl loses her "virginity" before marriage she will be buried alive I wear shorts, tank tops, and clothes that my parents religion doesn t approve of, and my mom tells me that if people from her religion find out that I wear that kind of clothes they will kill me. I ve been abused a lot physically and mentally for stupid things, for example: yesterday my mom saw me wearing a sports bra to sleep and she started yelling at me and then my dad came and he started hitting me (I m still sore), if I don t do something right my mom will say that I m worthless and they wish that I was dead, and they use me as their slave. And they think that girls should work and guys do nothing, so baiscly my brother sits there doing nothing and if he makes a mess I have to clean it after him What I m asking right now is I really need help running away l, like what should I pack ? Where am I supposed to stay? Where can I get money when I spend the whole money that I have ?

Question: I cannot take my mom's constant questioning anymore?

Posted: 21 Feb 2016 12:33 PM PST

I'm 18 and I'm living at home. I have depression but some days can be really good. I can also get really angry, over nothing. I'll yell and call my mom names (do NOT tell me how wrong this is, I alread y know) and my head seriously feels like it could explode. I have an addiction to pornography, though I haven't been on it in a week, and I'm a cutter. The other day my mood went downhill all of a sudden after I had had a good few days, and my mom wanted to know why. Honestly, I don't even know what happened, but it pisses me off so bad when she constantly wants to know why I'm in a bad mood, what caused it, etc. I have literally begged her to quit asking me and to leave me alone but she can't because I'm "hard to live with" and I'm affecting her. She says I can find somplace to live this week. I know she doesn't mean it b/c I have Autism/anxiety and I don't have a job or car but I really want to get out. Is it rude to ask an adult whom I'm really close to if I could stay with them for a while?

Question: If a Family member ASKED TO PAY FOR Vacation TO A FOREIGN COUNTRY, would you?.where may you go?

Posted: 21 Feb 2016 12:21 PM PST

IMAGINE A FAMILY MEMBER coming to saying hey, YOU LOVE ME RIGHT. Now, i want to go to foreign country for vacation. Its like $3000-$10,000. I want you to pay half and I PAY HALF. come on, lets do this because we need to see where we came from, heritage, or just leave our country for sometime WOULD YOU DO THIS. when European economies were doing well, relatives would travel outside their country for some time. great food, hotels, fashion, and fund. they DID NOT SAY NO and forked over the cash PERSONALLY, I AM BLACK and have some ugandan in me. I did this before. I took my sister to Kampala Uganda. city 68 squate miles, 1.7 million people, and 24,000 people per square mile. The tripe for both was about $6000. Uganda was super cheap. I paid half and she did. was about 7 day tripe. It was like 95 degrees outside in Kampala and was in February 10-17 in 2006. It a third world country. we saw much slums, poverty, and beggars. food was ok but but western. Great shops rare. she liked it COME ON. why would you refuse to take a family members overseas. You can even take them country different from your background. international experiences do provide lasting memories for a family member. Its expensive but there are many third world countries that are cheap. IF YOU SAY NO, A FAMILY MEMBER MAY FEEL BAD. if another family do it, they may get more respect than you. ALSO, THEY WONT ASK AGAIN AND HAVE A GRUDGE AGAINST YOU FOR SAYING NO THE FIRST TIME. it pays off yo say yes

Question: My mom really annoys me and I want to make her move out. How do I do it? I need a plan?

Posted: 21 Feb 2016 12:14 PM PST

Shes just incredibly annoying. Shes bossy, she whines a lot and has mood swings. Shes a doormat for my dad . I can't even explain why she annoys me so much. Like I have arguments and fights with my dad all the time. But he doesn't annoy me anywhere near as much as she does. I just think our house would be better without her. Like just today, I was walking the babies with her and I just wanted to push her into a car I wouldn't. But that's how I feel about her. How do I make her move out? Shes like a bad smell that won't go away. My dad has cheated on her multiple times, moved country to get away from her. And still she follows him like a little dog. What can I do I'm starting to hate her. I want her out

Question: Should I reach out to my mom?

Posted: 21 Feb 2016 12:14 PM PST

Ok so my daughter missed school because she had a fever so I took her to my moms my sister texts me and tells me my daughter got spanked because she scream at my mom because she didn't want to eat good she wanted cookies(she is 5)I was thinking it was my mom that spanked her so I said good she shouldn't be screaming at mom.I then texted her & said wait who spanked her?She said me my sister is 18 and I have never gave her permission to spank her especially because she's always picking on my daughter and they fight like they are siblings.so I called my mom&asked her did kari (my sister) spank Bianca mom said no&I told her she just told me she did I(was calm)then she says well she doesn't listen I said you should have been the one to spank her mom I'm not ok with her spanking Bianca then she says in a very rude voice "next to time don't bring her to me"mind you that I rarely ever leave her at her house My sister then takes the phone&says how I'm stupid&that I should spank my child more often that's why she acts how she does&I told her if I choose to raise her the way I do it's my problem she then hangs up my daughter is good she has her bad days but she is such a sweetheart.It has been about 4 days and mom has not called me I feel like I did wrong I was calm when I called her I nicely told her I'm not fine wit my sister putting hands on my daughter.. Help plz I don't know if I should be the one to reach out because she was on the wrong one here

Question: My mom has cancer...?

Posted: 21 Feb 2016 11:57 AM PST

My mom has had cancer for a while (not sure how long) and she might not make it through the year. I am a teen and I don't want to lose my mom. Here's some backstory for you: My parents had me when they were older than other parents. My dad is in his 60s and my mom in her 50s. This means that most of the people in my family are older. I just can't handle the idea of my mom dying because that made me realize that when I'm older, most of my family will die. I am jealous of my sister (who is now in college) and my other siblings (who are all full grown adults) because their parents got to watch them grow up and get out of college and my mom won't live to see my graduate high school (or at the earliest, middle school). Sorry that this description is so long but I needed a place to rant about this and I can't talk to anybody because I don't feel comfortable...

Question: Why don't I love my mom?

Posted: 21 Feb 2016 11:52 AM PST

My mom doesn t hit me or anything, but she s constantly criticizing me and my brother. She ll tell me stuff like she hates being home all the time and she wish she could stay at work forever and that my family sucks. She always tells me I need to stop eating or I m gonna gain 30 pounds and that she won t feel bad for me when I do. One time I told her that I was depressed and she said boo hoo I m sorry I m such a terrible mother (she was being sarcastic) Like she doesn t take me seriously when I tell her this stuff. I ve asked her to take me to therapy so many times but she doesn t even look into it. She always is complaining about her day and how much she had to do and she doesn t have anything good to say about most people she works with. She complains about everything she does for me and tells me how ungrateful I am. She is also always yelling at me for the stupidest ****. I left a lamp on one time and she threw a ******* fit. Sometimes I can hang out with her and have a normal time with her but if I say one wrong thing she gets super pissed at me and just starts yelling again. And it s not even like I can hang out with my dad because we don t talk. He lives in the same house with me but doesn t even try having a relationship with me. I m 14 years old and I don t think I can deal with them anymore. What should I do

Question: My soon to be baby's father calls me names and doesn't think it's serious?

Posted: 21 Feb 2016 11:48 AM PST

I broke up with this imbecile because he came back into my life after I found out I was oregnant and I decided to give him another chance. He is still the same abusive dck he's always been. Our first fight and he starts throwing words at me like '*** you, a$$hole, *****) I mean cmon how childish are you gonna get resorting to calling me names when things don't go your way? I never speak to him like this and he started saying "I'm not insulting you I'm telling you how you're being and I'll wait for your apology" I broke up with him and he doesn't care. I don't need that kind of stress of verbal abuse. I tell him hats disrespect and he says it's not? Lol And I'm sure his friends are telling him I'm being a baby and dramatic but am I really? I don't like to be talked to that way and if he knows it hurts me and makes me angry why do it? Am I exaggerating? It just seems so childish to me I don't need that kind of stress or behavior in already gonna raise a baby I don't want to be teaching a grown man to stop disrespecting me.

Question: Who's more attractive -- me or my sister?

Posted: 21 Feb 2016 11:45 AM PST

My sister and I are super competitive about everything. We love each other, but it seems we are always trying to outdo each other. Which of us do you think is more attractive? To keep it fair, I won't tell you which one I am. http://i68.tinypic.com/9fmbk8.jpg

Question: Why do I dislike my sibiling so much?

Posted: 21 Feb 2016 11:43 AM PST

I've never tolerated her presence before even when we were kids I couldn't stand her. I would hide whe toys and in some way I was happy when she was crying and couldn't find them. We're 4 years apart. I'm 22 and she's 18. It's been like this forever and my mom is always yelling at me for being a terrible older sister to her. I wish we could have a great relationship like my friends do with their siblings but I just can't. We have absolutely nothing in common besides the fact that we have the same parents. We're polar opposites and she's just so annoying to me. I just can't stand her every little thing she does bothers me so much it ruins my day. I know I sound terrible but these are my true feelings and I wish I knew why or if this is common. Any feedback would be nice. Please, nothing negative. (Note: I was diagnosed with OCD so I tend to be easily bothered by little things but my sister is the biggest problem of all so I'm not sure if it's the OCD or a bigger underlying problem)

Question: What do I do about my future mother-in-law? I can t stand her and I do not want to be her daughter-in-law. Everything about her annoys me!?

Posted: 21 Feb 2016 11:42 AM PST

Question: I'm a straight male and need fashion advise from mature women. Can anyone help?

Posted: 21 Feb 2016 11:38 AM PST

I'm completely handicap when it comes to fashion sense. I just wear my mechanic uniform everywhere I go because I really don't know how to dress. I'm 6'0 (actually five eleven and a half), hazel eyes, full set of hair and salt and pepper hair color. I have a typical soccer player body type, just like David Beckham's body, fit but not too heavy on the muscles. My body never changes, it's always been that way. I have a Tom Cruise type of face, straight sharp projecting facial features, nothing round about my face. The hair is the same hairstyle Chris Pine sports in StarTrek Into Darkness, it never changes. I want to look handsome without crossing that gay borderline. I also don't want to radiate any sexuality. I'm looking for a conservative look. I want you to dress me up as if you are going to introduce me to your kids and the rest of your entire family. Suggest colors, pants and shirt styles, post pictures of what I should wear. Thank you.

Question: My Parents are Strict about grades, but i have a learning disability making it hard.?

Posted: 21 Feb 2016 11:33 AM PST

Every since i started high school my parents have been really hardcore on grades, non stop talking about it. I also have a learning disability to make school extremely hard, meaning my grades aren t so perfect. So my parents started calling my grades poor, and that i can do better, which is impossible for me to do. Please i need help. My parents have made me feel horrible out myself and have made my self esteem an all time low.

Question: How to make my parents buy me a new phone?

Posted: 21 Feb 2016 11:24 AM PST

I asked my dad for a new phone and he said that I am selfish. I am not selfish and i always ask them to talk about our financial status and they have money for everything else just not for a new phone. I never got a phone from them I got a phone from my cousin 4 years ago. It s even broken and really hard to use. They don t give me pocket money and I can t save money alone. I am not whining and not happy with what I have but I have worst phone in my class nd everyone is talking about it behind my back. At first I didn t care but now i am Sick of everyone judging because of a stupid phone! Also I can t find a job because I am 15 and in my country you can t get a job until you are 18. Thank you for reading this and I would be really grateful if you gave me some ideas of how to make them at least talk about a new phone.

Question: Parents are controlling over my life..help :c?

Posted: 21 Feb 2016 11:22 AM PST

I'm 19 years old and i will be 20 next month. i have a bf of 1 year but ive known him for 8 years and we are in a great healthy relationship. My parents hate him and say he doesn't know what he wants to do with his life, he helps his mom with the bills and when he works, he works 15+ hours. my bf currently got in a car crash and hasnt been working for a month now because he hurt his back very badly.my step dad is in the military and he wants me to join the airforce. i dont want to join, my uncle ( also in the military ) has been bugging me about joining and i keep telling them i dont want to its not what i want, they keep saying to stay for 4 years and leave and they pay for everything. i understand that and that is great, but like ive told them before thats just not for me, i dont want to be doing something i dont like. my parents are very controlling over my life, i have to be home before 12am, they dont let me see my bf because the job that he has isnt what they want, he is going to be going to school soon to be a forensic tech ( something in that line of work ) which is great and he really wants to do it. we are still young and i just want to start living MY own life. i'm going to be saving up money for 3 years before my parents move to cali and when they do im going to be moving out with my bf. my step dad is forcing me to go to cali and i dont want to go, theres nothing for me there...i just dont know what to do, its their way or no way.. i feel trapped

Question: My mother lectures me on how to act in public (I am 41), how do I get her off my back?

Posted: 21 Feb 2016 11:22 AM PST

I know she is anxious and I don't mind occasional advise (I have ADHD and am socially awkward) but I am 41 and not 7, I have been living on my own for 19 years and haven't lived with her since I was 14 and moved in with my father. How do I get her off my back? The worst I do is tell a joke more then once or maybe not end a conversation in the most appropriate time but it creates my own social anxiety and fear of going to anything my mother is at unless it is just the two of us (she is fine when we are alone). She is terrified I will be judged like I was as a kid (as a kid I was very inappropriate but not now).

Question: What would you do?

Posted: 21 Feb 2016 10:57 AM PST

Hello guys, I'm just asking for advice. I am almost 36 year old Indian Christian. When I was 24, there was another Indian lady staying at our house. She was widowed, moving, and needed a place to stay. I am friends with her sons who are my age. She was staying in our guestroom at the time. One day, when I was alone at home, I went in to our guestroom and looked at her personal undergarments. I picked them up out of the drawer and put them back. I don't know why I did this. Immediately, I felt so ashamed. I confessed to my parents on my knees. My parents told me not to tell her. Bringing shame to an Indian woman is considered very wrong. And they can take drastic actions (ending one's life in extreme cases). I have confessed this secret to priests who said I am forgiven by God. A psychologist told me to never disclose this to her. Now, it is twelve years later...2016. I'm almost 36 years old. Life is not too bad. But I am living with this secret. And I'm friends with her sons. What should I do? Honesty is important to me. Sometimes I wanted to tell the truth. But if I do tell the truth, she'll probably feel awkward and upset. This may also plant the seed of lust between us. And even if I did want to tell her the truth-----my parents will never let me.--- What do I do? Has anyone else ever done something they regretted for life? Does anyone else have secrets like this? What do I do? Thank you Thank you everyone for the great advice.

Question: How to stay strong with divorced parents?

Posted: 21 Feb 2016 10:48 AM PST

My Mom is moving out of our house currently, I am really sad about it. My Mom is taking our pets with her and most of y stuff since I will be at her house majority of the time. My Dad's work schedule is tough so I won't get to see him as much. Currently he is on a business trip and is not going to get to say goodbye to our pets. How am I supposed to live like this?

Question: My brother always "looks out" for me. This is bad, don t do this. But when I tell my mom about his pirating, he gets mad.?

Posted: 21 Feb 2016 10:43 AM PST

I mean, I don t want him to get arrested. Do you think I did the right thing telling our mom?

Question: I really don't know what to do?

Posted: 21 Feb 2016 10:38 AM PST

My mam has depression and my older sister has anxiety and recently they had a fight and my Granny now wants nothing to do with my sister as she also got mentally ill and it's not good for her health to be stressed. My mam is crying saying she needs help and needs to go away for a couple of days my sister is crying too. If my mam goes away we have nobody minding ous as my Granny wants nothing to do with my sister my parents are split up and my father doesn't want anything to do with ous. I don't know if I can go to school tomorrow because of all this stress and I don't know what to do.

Question: How do I handle a suggestive comment that made me uncomfortable?

Posted: 21 Feb 2016 10:35 AM PST

I am a 42 year old woman. I do homecare for my handicapped neighbor who is 83 twice a week. I have known him my entire life, and started helping him with his bathing and house chores when his wife passed away 3 years ago. When I leave, I generally give him a hug, but recently he s gotten a little too friendly, and today he made a comment that made me very uncomfortable. Do I say something to him or just deal with it?

Question: Did I handle this situation correctly?

Posted: 21 Feb 2016 10:27 AM PST

I am a girl that is just starting high school. I have 3 older brothers that I think are the greatest guys ever. They are the best thing that ever happened to me. They are very protective of me. They are also very concerned with my privacy. They never come in my room without knocking on the door before they come in. They insist I lock the door in the bathroom when I take a shower. They insist I wear a robe when I come in their room something I never did before. However they are not concerned with their own privacy. I usually see one of them with out their clothes on most days. I think nothing of it and neither do they. My friends at school that know my brothers tell me they are hot looking guys. I NEVER thought of them that way. Someone at school asked me if I ever say them nude. I truthfully answered them yes. They wanted to know if when I saw them it got me excited. I told them NO WAY, THEY ARE MY BROTHERS. Then someone ask me if they were hung. I told them it was none of their business and if they wanted to know the answer to that question, they should ask them. Did I handle this situation correctly?

Question: Want more responsibility from parents?

Posted: 21 Feb 2016 10:20 AM PST

I am very grateful for my parents for providing, loving, and protecting me (probably too much), but now that I am graduating from college, I find it immensely stifling. I have always been an extremely independent, "too mature for my age" child. If I had a problem, I always learned how to fix it work through it on my own, most times without my parents even knowing. However, they still think of me as an incapable child. Every time I try to be an adult, take on more responsibility, or show confidence in what I'm doing, they take it as an insult and give me the "don't be in such a hurry to grow up because you'll regret it" speech. They tell me I can't do things like I am helpless. Like, when I was learning to drive, they wouldn't let me on the highway because I've never driven on the highway before... (you have to drive on the highway to learn how to drive on it). When I'm home, I do 90 percent of the cooking, cleaning, do my own laundry, do grocery shopping,and whatever else needs to be done. I am a straight-A student, have a job on campus. Every professor/employer I ever said raved how mature, professional, responsible, etc I am. When I was an intern, one even wanted to replace one of their employees with me! I also want to move out to get a sense of satisfaction that I am earning what I have. It will help with my confidence, maturity, and self-esteem to have my own place. i want to make mistakes and learn from them. I'm worried if I move out, they'll never forgive me for it. I can support myself on my job, I just won't have much to put aside and my parents really stress saving as much as possible, which is why they probably won't let me move out.

Question: Im mad at my mom becuz she always seem grumpy and lazy??!! She doesnt work, she has a house, food, and good health?

Posted: 21 Feb 2016 10:18 AM PST

My mom argues with my dad almost everyday becuz he has the mental maturity of a child. He works everyday and my mom stays at home, shops, eats, and watches TV. She goes out... She had internet all her life and she doesnt try to learn about the world. She has been in America for 20 years. Im 17 and I said "so this janitor", and she is like what is janitor?? She is almost always grumpy and mad sometimes, and I dont get it. She has a house (no mortgage), she and me and my sis are in good health, we have food, we are not poor, and she doesnt work. Cooks, cleans, has a washing machine, has a car. She is in her 40s, and I dont understand why she gets mad so easily. She said she feels pressure becuz my dad has low self esteem and doesnt do anything as a father with us. He doesnt take vacation, doesnt take us out to anywhere, my dad pretty much works and that is it. If they had financial issues, (my mom had a computer, there was access to college), why didnt she get a new college degree or a job?

Question: Is my husband being rude to my sister?

Posted: 21 Feb 2016 10:16 AM PST

My younger sister that I am VERY CLOSE to is staying at my husband's and my house for a month while her home is being remolded. She likes to go around the house in a loose fitting robe and nothing else on. Everything is visible. My husband has asked me several times to ask her to wear some more clothes when he is around. I would hate to tell my sister how to dress. When I ask him why, he said he did not want to get in trouble with me but men will usually get a b0ner when they see ANY girl almost nude. He said they can not help it. It is just the way men are. Guys, is that true? Shouldn't he be able to control himself and not get a b0ner. Now when my sister comes in with just her robe on my husband leaves the room. I think my husband is being rude doing this. Is he?

Question: I made myself throw up for the first time last night, I didn't tell anyone Should I tell my parents or my siblings or should I tell no one?

Posted: 21 Feb 2016 10:14 AM PST

Question: Did I open my mouth and put my foot in it?

Posted: 21 Feb 2016 10:09 AM PST

My wife's mother Amy is beautiful. She is also the best mother in law a guy can have. I just adore her. She is 42 years old and looks 22 and is single. I really hit the jackpot in the mother in law category. We were talking one day and she told me she wanted to get married again. I told her with her good looks, that would not be a problem for her. She would make some guy a trophy wife. There are plenty of guys even guys my age that would jump at the chance to marry her. She said, if you were not married to my daughter, would you be one of those guys. I told her absolutely if I was not married to her daughter, she would be on the top of my list of women I would want to date. My wife heard what I said, and (jokingly I think) told me I should not be telling her mother I wanted to screw her. She said mom would probably take me up on my offer. I told my wife she misunderstood what I said. I only told her mother the truth to cheer her up. There are plenty of guys our age that would like to date her but I AM MARRIED so that is NOT AN OPTION FOR ME AND I DON'T WANT TO SCREW HER MOTHER. Gals, did I open my mouth and put my foot in it? Did I do something wrong that I should apologize to my wife for.

Question: My family is never home and we never spend time together?

Posted: 21 Feb 2016 09:58 AM PST

ok, so I'm 14 and I know a lot of kids would rather not spend time with their family but my family doesn't spend time together at all. I think The last time my whole family was together was 3 years ago on a vacation. to start, I have 3 other siblings and my parents. my two siblings are 16 and 18 and they work most nights. and I have a younger brother who is 9. so my siblings are never here on school nights or weekends. my dad is really into basketball and he runs a league that my little brother is in and he's at the gym with him everyday. week nights it is 5-9 and weekends 12-8. my mom doesn't get home from work till 6 and sometimes she goes to my little brothers games or she takes night classes and goes to those. and on weekends she goes to my brothers games or out with friends. I'm always stuck at home :( and when I complain to my parents, they tell me that j should do something with my life and get friends. but when I do want to go out with friends (which is like once a month) they say no because nobody will be able to pick me up/ drop me off. I feel so lonely and my family rarely talks anymore. what should I do??

Question: Could my wife really be OK with me doing this? Gals, PLEASE RESPOND.?

Posted: 21 Feb 2016 09:57 AM PST

My mother in law Jennifer (my wife's mother) is in her early 40s and really enjoys life. I can truthfully say Jennifer is a very good friend of mine. She has a wonderful sense of humor and loves to tell me sex jokes. I am not sure how I should feel about this. Nothing gives her more joy than telling me a sex joke except when I joke back with her. She REALLY enjoys that. Her jokes are usually funny but I am worried that my wife who is usually around will think I am flirting with her mother or have a thing going with her mother. NOTHING could be further from the truth. Should I ask Jennifer to stop telling me these jokes or should I ask my wife again if she has a problem with what her mother is doing. My wife usually laughs at these jokes and she has never said anything to me about joking back with her mom but I am still worried she has or will have a problem with this. PLEASE tell me what you think I should do to stay out of trouble with my wife.

Question: My moms dysfunctional, what can i do?

Posted: 21 Feb 2016 09:56 AM PST

Mom used to be caring sweet, would talk softly and loved her children more than anything (brother and me) She met a guy when i was 7, got pregnant, he tried to stab her when she was pregnant, she forgives him, he targeted me and inflicted pain and fear physically and mentally as a child because he loved when children,small animals and my mom feared him my mom allows it all, like if she was blind and couldnt see she was unhappy he would leave my brother alone but would look for me and hurt me (knock on my head like if it were a door, call me useless and so much negative stuff as a child growing up, shove me, stare me down like a angry pitbull. all i ever wanted was a simple death as a child all she says is God will do something, im like if you want god to do something just leave him, and then she bursts into flames, instead of leaving the problem she began having his personality and becoming a problem too, all she does is yell even when shes not mad just yells and hurts my ears everyday she became negative like him and says words and phrases that only he would say. he beat me once really bad and rushed me when i was 14 cause i looked at him for half a second, mom did nothing. i had to move out twice rather than my mom having the problem out instead, my mom was crying cornered on the sofa when he was over her gonna beat her cause she couldnt find him the remote to the tv, i defend her. but when i want to get back at him for hes done my mom defends him when i defend her

Question: My daughter said she doesnt love me anymore is she just going through a phase or?

Posted: 21 Feb 2016 09:42 AM PST

It was in a argument she is 15 years old

Question: I'm so stressed about spanish class?

Posted: 21 Feb 2016 09:39 AM PST

I'm a freshman in high school and I take spanish, and we are on a family unit so he asks questions about my family and once he asked "what is your moms name" and i said her name wrong on accident and now I have to deal with saying her name like that and especially about the family presentation. for the family presentation we have to have 7 slides of pictures+ info about our family. the thing is my mom told me to tell people (if they asked) that i have no cousins or aunts or uncles and so I have to deal with not having enough slides and I don't want anyone judging me or anything, i'm so stressed i dont know what to do?

Question: My boyfriend got me pregnant on purpose mind you, and mentioned marriage in the past, I brought it up again and he said he wanted to wait?

Posted: 21 Feb 2016 09:33 AM PST

until he got our fiances in order. What should I do? Get an abortion or wait on him? I am only six weeks pregnant. He is 50 mind you and divorced two grown kids. I am 36 and divorced with two kids.

Question: If You are taller in the morning does that mean your still growing?

Posted: 21 Feb 2016 09:12 AM PST

Question: Are there any step mums in existence that aren t evil? I have an evil one and I need to know that I m not alone.?

Posted: 21 Feb 2016 09:12 AM PST

Every step mum that I ve known (which is a lot) have always been so awful, including my own. What have we step children done to make them dislike us so much? I really hoped to have a nice, friendly step mum, but I ve been unlucky. Where are the nice step mums?! She was nice at first, but now, she is constantly rude and pushing me around, she has corrupted my father and they say I don t deserve respect because I m young (I ll be 16 in July.) She yells at me all the time for the stupidest things. Then, she ll turn right back around and say how beautiful and sweet I am, and how she s always wanted a daughter, etc.. It s so upsetting because I ve tried so hard and all she s done is abuse me and make me feel worthless and crazy. I have tried telling my dad, but he calls me ridiculous. She s so full of it and she tries to act like she s 20 (She s in her mid-forties.) Any time I want to do something in my physical appearance and I tell her, she copies me. She copies the way I dress and look. She wants me to do ridiculous things for her and if I don t do it, she flips. Yet, if I ask her to do something reasonable for me, she says something like "You can do it yourself. You re a big girl." And, to make it worse, she s an alcoholic. She s twisted and I feel trapped and worthless. People say "Oh you re overreacting," or "It s just life", but she s not like this to her three other children. My friends think she s nice when they first meet her, but sometimes she shows her true colours. I forgot to mention she's been in my life for 7 years this October.

Question: How to deal with the neighbor's creepy son?

Posted: 21 Feb 2016 09:08 AM PST

Our next door neighbors used to argue almost every night. The father used to be an alcoholic, and as a result of the things he said to us while drunk, we tend to avoid interacting with them. They also have a 20 year old son, and the kid gives me the creeps. He looks normal, and he's never done anything to give us a reason to dislike him, but he's extremely anti-social. No job, no girlfriend, not going to college, etc. He used to mow the lawn every week, but I hadn't seen him for months until just recently. Lately he's been in their driveway working on their truck that's been parked there for years. He avoids eye contact at all costs, never says anything, unless I say hi, in which case he says hi back. He makes me think of all those reclusive mass shooters. We also have 4 daughters. The second eldest walks home from school and past their house every weekday, but the neighbor's son is making her uncomfortable. She said that he acts unnatural when she walks by, and goes out of his way to avoid looking in her direction. We're going to start picking her up from school because of this. Should we talk to his parents?

Question: Big *** fight with my mother?

Posted: 21 Feb 2016 09:05 AM PST

Yesterday we went to a friends house and my moms friends daughter tried to get extremely disrespectful with me so I got disrespectful back with her and shut her *** up because I do not tolerate disrespect, then my mom asked me what happened and I told her but my mom tries to shut my mouth physically IN FRONT of other people and they started to laugh at me ? So that REALLY got me heated , she went to sit back down , I then called her over and told me "I don't care who you are, if I didn't touch you , don't touch me , especially my face" I'm not ******* 5 for you to touch me like that , cause that just tells everyone that I'm not old enough to be respected because of my "age" I was really mad at her because i respect her all the time, I clean the house twenty four seven , I just fixed her brand new phone, I mow the lawn , clean the bathroom , so she would come home and just relax. I texted her "I still am upset with you cause you really disrespected me for no reason" then she texts me back "I am your mom, you need to respect me at all times, you need to sit and think about it" and all this other bullshit, then I just got mad so I said "I ALWAYS respect you , I clean just so you can come home and relax, you're are in the wrong this time not me do figure it out " then 10 minutes later she tries to text me "I still love you" and I'm an extremely stubborn but smart person I don't let sweet things get to me when you just disrespected me

Question: Was my family right in this argument we had?

Posted: 21 Feb 2016 08:59 AM PST

Edit Okay, so this is a REALLY long and twisted story- Okay, so I had a crush on this boy. Let's call him Jake. My friend, Alison, knew I liked Jake, so she gave me his number. I texted Jake, and he actually turned out to be a total jerk and I was super upset. I texted Alison and told her that he was rude. She felt really bad about it. BUT then somehow, my sister received all the texts I was sending to Alison. My sister was SUPER pissed at Alison and blamed her for everything that happened between me and Jake. She called Alison worthless and said to never talk to me again. She thought that Alison had set me up intentionally. My sister has never liked Alison though. My mom and dad agreed with my sister, but I didn't. My family said my sister was just protecting me. I feel like she was unnecessarily rude. My whole family got super pissed at me and said I can't hang out with Alison anymore. But I'm not mad at Alison at all and still want to be her friend. I hung out with Alison today. But my family doesn't know that..

Question: Would you be friends with people like that?

Posted: 21 Feb 2016 08:57 AM PST

Would you be friends with people who go to discos every weekend, people who are lewd and expose themselves on facebook. Not to mention going out with 10-20 people and causing drama. Would you want to be friends with people like that and why? Well everyone is friends with these people in my school and I'm disgusted by them.

Question: Family members giving away stuff?

Posted: 21 Feb 2016 08:38 AM PST

My mother has been giving away stuff to her friend's son without asking, i clearly bought the things with my own money and it really is getting me on my nerves. I haven't done anything bad or anything. My mother has been giving away stuff to her friend's son without asking, i clearly bought the things with my own money and it really is getting me on my nerves. I haven't done anything bad or anything. She never asks me if they can have it which pisses me off.

Question: What the hell is my Mom's problem?

Posted: 21 Feb 2016 08:27 AM PST

I just turned 20 years old and I'm still living at home because of college for now anyway and ever since I turned 20 she's been treating me like nothing but ****! If I ask her a simple question she yells in response, she looks for every reason to blame me for things that I didn't do and get mad at me for fighting back when it's necessary. She got mad at me for hanging out with friends on a Saturday when I wasn't missing anything like chores or anything important, it's like growing up is a crime

Question: I want to kill myself?

Posted: 21 Feb 2016 08:23 AM PST

my sister is better at me at everything we both run track and she has been braing so many records and i havent. She has more friends then me she's skinnier then me and my parents hate me So does my brother I want to kill myself. I'm in band and marching band and my parents never come out to see me they always have time to go watch my brother and sisters events but not mine. Both of them get everything they want. My sister got a call from our aunt who is throwing a family reunion and she has a big surprise for my sister and brother and not me. And I was like OK whatever. Every time we go out to see our families for dinner they always walk pass me and go to my brother and sister and talk about the sports their doing while I'm here looking stupid. I've been depressed for months and I want to die so bad please help me!

Question: I hate my life and dont know what to do?

Posted: 21 Feb 2016 07:45 AM PST

Im a 15 year old boy and ever since i was little i was a problem child but not in a doing bad things kind of way, just my attitude was bad. My parents have always been major assholes most of the time to me. My family is so dysfunctional and i know its partly my fault. Ive always been a short tempered person, just the idiotic things that people do (mostly my family) piss me off so much and i cant stand but getting heated and angry. I'm fully aware of the fact that im partly the problem, but the thing is i dont get mad for no reason, my parents push my buttons as much as they can and they like it. So around when i was 12 things got really bad and fast foward to today, 3 years of fighting every day, im completely miserable. My parents just dont understand my personality because it doesn't match with theirs. Im not gonna go into major details and make this to long but im extremely depressed, i have social anxiety, i have no energy to do anything, none of the stuff i used to do like ride my bike, skateboard, go to the movies with friends... none of that interests me anymore. My life is literally wake up, go to school, come home, do homework, then i go on my computer, parents come home, get into a fight with them, dinner, sleep. And on the weekend i do nothing, i sit in bed all day and maybe go out every once in a while with the one friend i hang out with. I dont know what to do with my life, i feel like everything wouldve been better if i wasnt born

Question: How do I handle this revelation from my mom?

Posted: 21 Feb 2016 07:44 AM PST

I live with mom in a small apartment since her divorce three years ago. Last night during dinner she told me that since I am a 14 year old and almost a man, she feels I can act maturely. She said she wants to feel more relaxed at home. I was yeah, whatever. So this morning (sunday) we both sleep late. I got up and first thing I notice is she is not wearing her usual pajamas but a robe. We ate breakfast and then she got up and said ok, I am ready now. She took the robe off and I was like whaaa...?! She said she liked the idea of being without clothes when at home and that she never felt the courage to do it until now. I was ready to freak out but I don't want to make her feel bad! How do I deal with this?

Question: Where to move? Orange County or San Jose? Who's from there?

Posted: 21 Feb 2016 07:42 AM PST

Newley married, would like to start a family soon. Where should we raise our family? We're looking for a place that's family oriented, safe, and offers some diversity.

Question: Is my mom ok looking..she feels plain?

Posted: 21 Feb 2016 07:36 AM PST

http://imgur.com/Y4bxx93

Question: I feel like a terrible daughter and I'm angry or sad almost all the time.?

Posted: 21 Feb 2016 07:34 AM PST

So I'm a freshman in highschool. I know that people are gonna answer with stuff like "high school girls are moody anyway" but please don't. This isn't normal high school moodiness at all. My mom and dad are divorced, but they always make compromises for me and try to make sure I get the best. I know that I'm so lucky to have a family like mine. I know. But I'm always rude. I'm always frustrated or upset and I'm jealous and possessive of my friends and I feel lonely all the time. I don't have a boyfriend, and I never have, and that fact bothers me more than it probably should. Last night, my mom and I were watching a TV show and someone called her. It seems like she's always on her phone or Facebook now and I'm tired of it, so I told her to tell them she was busy with this sound of disgust in my voice. She told me to stop and I just went to my room. After that she came and got me and I broke down (as I do quite frequentlyrics at her house because I'm always stressed about school and family and friends) and cried and we didn't fight, per se, but she almost cried for the first time around me. She said that me being angry all the time and not liking anything anyone does for me makes her feel awful. She said that she feels like a terrible mother and that she's sorry if she was a failure as a mother and I don't know what to do. I'm tired of not being happy and I always feel like a disappointment. I want to be better. If someone has gone through this, please tell me how to fix it.

Question: 4 year old wont listen?

Posted: 21 Feb 2016 07:28 AM PST

-I ask her to put on her shoes, she just stands there and says I want help. I put them on for her. -I ask her to go potty, she just stands there and says I want help. I take off her pants and sit her on the toilet. This goes on everyday with everything ALL DAY! She knows I am gonna end up doing the things she knows how to do FOR HER! If i dont, we'll never leave the house or keep moving, she literally just stand there and doesnt move! I cave in each time cause I got things to take of and I need her cooperation, unfortunaltly I cant get her out of this SPOILED BRAT HABIT SHE IS IN. Then she likes scratching and slapping whenever I ask her if she wants something like yesterday. She was sitting next to me at the dinner table I asked 'do u want a carrot' she says 'No I scared she hits the carrot from my hand hits me in my arm then hugs my arm and puts her head on it like cuddling and says 'i scared' I should have put her in timeout for hitting me but even grabbing her by her hand to put her in timeout she slaps the crap out of arm and scratches it bad...

Question: Am I wrong to be upset about this?

Posted: 21 Feb 2016 07:26 AM PST

Long story short I m 24 and fell pregnant so last week I moved out with my partner. I took most my things from my room and said I come get the rest at the weekend (since we both work all week) anyway I came home this weekend to find they had moved all the rest of my stuff and built an office in my room. I was just so upset and it feels like they ve just shifted me out when I only moved out not even a week ago!!! I get that it s my choice to have this baby and to move out but like come on they could have waited until I got the rest of my stuff first. There was no rush to build an office which they don t even need. Am I wrong to be upset?

Question: What is your opinion on talking back?

Posted: 21 Feb 2016 06:59 AM PST

My brother and I got into a fight last night and I was trying to walk away and my mother kept chanting "beat his ***" and "he needs an *** wopin". After the fight I asked her why she keeps egging my brother on to fight me and I also told her he is a kiss *** so anything you say or do he is going to be up your ***. (I didnt say the expletives of course) then she said "dont talk back to me little boy" and "All your suppose to do is listen" When in my opinion talking back is trying to give a response to a situation i'm confused what is you opinion on back talking?

Question: Okay, so I think I may hate my parents. They've done nothing but mentally hurt me for the last 17 years of my life and what do you think?

Posted: 21 Feb 2016 06:55 AM PST

My father: Homophobic, sexist, racist, and has alcoholic issues. I've lived with him for five almost six years and I think that I hate him. He has told me that if I ever leave he'll kill my cats, that my mother was a gold digger, that my mother is a whore, that my mother deserved to be abused by her last boyfriend, that women are weak, that my mother doesn't love me she only loves me for money, I'm ugly, and that anyone gay is disgusting. I find him disgusting most of the time and I can't seem to talk to him sometimes because of what he says. His favorite is my brother simply because my brother is male. He also said my mom cheated on him with many men. My mother: I honestly don't know what to think about her. My parents divorced a while ago and I don't know about her. However, she tells me all the time that my father is actually insane, I am fat, I am basically a slut, my dad punched a doctor because of the day I was born on, he was abusive towards her, and she is a constant nag. I am not even allowed to watch a movie unless it is 10 at night or raining. For the hell of it, I'll add my cousins. Cousins: They tell me no one loves me, my moms a whore, I am ugly, my dad is crazy, and they're basically just a horrible mash of both of them. What do you think about my situation? Any questions?

Question: Is it ok to get married without my family?

Posted: 21 Feb 2016 06:52 AM PST

His family all live in the same state where we got married, my family live 2,000 miles away in another state. They dont have the money to fly and stay there. It would cost them each around $1,000 fly back and forth, I didnt want to invite them cause i didnt want to make them feel pressured to spend that much for me, the wedding was small with 80 people only His family. I'm just wondering if i'm the only one who has done this...my family just wanted to see pictures anyway they didnt feel bad at all, they said 'wow that is far away where you got married'

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