I know a man that has a child and him and the mom are divorced so when he has visitation he has her in his home where there are people drinking and partying every night. He openly gets drunk in front of her and the house is filthy like a tower of beer boxes and layers of dog hair on the carpet pretty much the place hasn't been cleaned for months. She is 13 and to my knowledge she isn't drinking yet herself however I just feel like they are unsanitary living conditions and maybe the dad needs help like rehab or something.... Any ideas or suggestions on what to do??

we get paid the same at the optometrist office yet i do more work. we work on our own days yet she doesnt do alot of tasks that i am unable to get to. simple things as calling patients to pick up their order. its left in the section and then the optometrist tells me that she tells him she doesnt do them because she doesnt understand what i want her to do with them. i feel like shes just using that excuse because shes too busy playing on her phone at work whenever the doc isnt in office. she knows how to do the work. shes just not doing them and theres no way for me to get the doc to see it. office needs someone to micromanage but boss unwiling to hire and hands off. im not the type to complain to boss about every little thing.. i rather just get the job done and go to him if something important i guess my main issue is that im having to pick up her slack when i already do more than her. I am stuck in a limbo as well because I am trying to get into optometry school so want to look good. ill definitely look to move on to another job once the opportunity comes. thats one thing im certain of. love the job and patient interaction but its wearing on me.

I am a senior in high school and my boyfriend is a freshman in college. We've decided to stay together even when I leave for college in the summer. Right now I'm torn between two colleges but I feel like deep down, I know where I really want to go, and I'm just not sure if it's a smart choice. I applied to the same college as my boyfriend and ended up falling in love with it. They offered me a great amount of money in scholarships and it's a really good school for me. I'm nervous about going here and I don't want people to think I'm just following him (which I'm really not). I know that if he wasn't in college already my mind would be made up and I would be going there. Is it smart to go here? I like the other school I'm considering but I'm totally in love with my boyfriends college. I also don't want it to feel like it's his school and not mine. Please give advice!! Also, the school has about 10,000 people and my boyfriend and I have been dating for 2 years, if any of that helps. And, he has even told me that he would love for me to go there and would not be uncomfortable with it at all. Thank you!!

I use to be a massage therapist before I met my ex boyfriend> I decided to not persue it as career because the school I went to was no longer around & because of that they said I would have to go back to school , plus I was concerned about arthritis in the future.But I was by no means ever ashamed about my profession, until i met my fiance. He thinks that getting or giving a massage to or from someone is cheating and says hes glad I don't do it anymore. whats ven more disturbing to me is that he considers any woman who was a massage therapist a hooker, the same goes for any waitress or bartender. he especially hates bartenders. I've never done anything sexual for money but I still find this insulting to have been thought of having been a hooker. I use to joke and say "so that 55 year old lady that just served us at the bar is a prostitute? DID we just both solicite a prostitue?" lol. This made him angry so apparently he only feels this way about younger or attractive women. I finally told him to never call me that word again or we were finished. He apologized but said he can't help thats the way he feels about massage therapists, bartenders etc. I asked him then why was he with me and he replied "no ones perfect everyones made mistakes". So my question is getting a massage cheating , or are bartenders basically prostitutes because they are nice to customers in order to get tips?

I am a 28 year old living with a boyfriend of two years. We have been living together for about7-8 months now and you know it has been great. He is a good, caring, loving guy who makes feel safe, loved but him being a complete guy, he someitmes makes me a bit mad for being unattentive. However, this is not the reason why i want your views... I have had this "weird, somewhat right" feeling for a guy from my highschool class. Over the past 12 years, we have been friends discussing everything that is going in our lives, love life, school, work..etc. Somewhat he was a comfort to me, someone who made me feel good at my down days, someone who would take the length to make me smile. But over that 12 years we have never had the chance to be together. because one of us was always in a loving relationship. we would talk for a year time and not for another half a year or a year time. But it doesn't matter how long we have not talked to one another, we come back to that moment that last we spoke---with everything - the feeling, the comfortable state, etc. It is even "worse" when we see each other, we resist not to touch or get close to one another. But we always end up getting close - not sexually often, but other physical closeness. We both live in two different countries, but visit the counties often as once a year, and everytime we see each other the sparks, the urge and wanting begins... that is EVERYTIME.... but it is not that we see each other often. We are both developing and growing in two completely different culture with different backgrounds (work, family) but somehow when we see each other we find that equilibrium to connect and discuss. Today I am in where he is right now. before I came here, i tried to meditate and put in my head that I am in a loving relationship with a good guy who understands me who I connect with. But when I saw this guy, I wanted him to touch me, hold my hand, talk.. I try to act at a normal... But I keep thinking if this guy loved me for the past 12 years, wouldn't he have come and get me from wherever? Wouldn't he have fought for me during those times that I was single? Even if I was with someone, wouldn't he have tried? But we keep having this over and over again this past decade. Going over details. I feel like my boyfriend will propose this year, but seeing this guy today...hmm. Your views please..

There's a guy who works at a deli I visit pretty much everyday to buy soup or a wrap. Everyone there pretty much knows me/my order and I notice this guy rushes out to help me every time (well, except today b/c he was busy working in the back room, from what I could see-but he did look at me lol) & says to his coworkers "I got it, I got it." The last few times he has helped me, he has asked me a couple questions like "do you like tofu?" b/c I always order tofu in my wrap and the other day asked me how my weekend was, but that's about it so far, as far as talking goes. He looks up while making me my wrap and smiles and when he hands me my wrap to bring up to the cashier, he says "have a good day!", smiles & looks at me a little longer. Whenever another employee is making me my wrap, he watches me from the back and if I notice him, he'll wave to me/smile. I like him a lot and think he's cute, but are these signs he likes me back?

I had an experience some time ago when I felt that way. In school I've always been the quiet, shy, reserved type. Always keeping to myself or my friends. I talk with my classmates when necessary, but I'm not friends with them. I had a friend then, she's well-liked by my classmates because she's pretty and cute and funny. That time, she and I were the only ones together. But it's like we're polar opposites, she's like the popular while I'm the one in the background. I didn't have problems with that actually, it's just that one time, my friend said something to the class and it was funny, so everyone laughed. I thought that she's liked by everyone. And I wondered how people thought about us. I'm like invisible to the crowd, and I think the only reason why people noticed me was because she was my friend. That day I concluded, I'm the type of person who doesn't matter. I'm not hated or disliked, I just wasn't noticed, like they know my existence, but that's it. Like when I suddenly changed school, they would certainly notice, but won't give much thought to it. I always thought that besides my appearance and behavior, my existence is pretty much plain and ordinary. One time while riding the bus for a school trip, I ended up being on the middle of the line. My friend and I separated ways, I was hanging out with a new friend, someone who's exactly like me. We weren't even the last persons in line, there were there were still lots of students behind us. When we got on the bus there were no seats left. So we walked to the back, where the seats were not taken. But some of the boys sitting there said that they were reserved. When I looked behind, the pretty, popular girls passed by us and the guys ushered them towards the seats. All of the students found their seats, except me and my friend. The driver brought out plastic chairs and situated them in the aisle, and me and my friend sat there for the rest of the trip. During breaks, when all of us got out to buy food or stroll around, my friend and I usually had to give way, lifting our chairs, etc. We were supposed to go back, we were already sitting on our chairs, when one of the guys who sat on the back came late, he didn't even try to sidestepped our chairs, he directly, unceremoniously, without hesitating, stepped with his shoes on our seats and went directly to the back. That was how our trip went. While on the bus, my friend and I were busy fiddling with our phones, talking animatedly with each other. I didn't try to think much into it, although deep inside I was actually embarrassed. I just didn't act like it because I didn't want people to notice, cause I didn't want them to pity me or my friend. I didn't know what my friend thought of it, we didn't talk about what happened ever. Maybe she didn't think much of it as much as I did, but I was very sensitive. For a long time that day kept intruding my mind, though I didn't try to acknowledge it. I wasn't ready. But after some time, a year maybe, I resigned to thinking about it. For me it was the most humiliating, downgrading thing that has happened to me as a woman. No guy offered their seats to us two girls. While some of them reserved seats for the pretty ones when WE were the first to arrive there. That time I felt I wasn't girl enough, like I wasn't even worth a gentleman act. It's something I didn't say to anyone but my closest friend (another girl, she's the only one I told about it coz this experience is really humiliating for me). Even now this is embarrassing for me to say. I just want a release since I feel so down today, similar experiences. This happened to me a year ago. And people still see me the same. I'm not looking for pity though. I just wanted to share, and maybe ask if girls experienced the same, share it probably? :)

Ok, I have had this idea for a game bouncing in my head for a long while now, and because of it I plan on going to college to be able to enter the industry. I want to talk about it with other people though. I joined Redditch and posted it to the truegaming sub, before being told that it was against the rules to post there. The only other sub I found that fits what I'm looking for is the gameideas sub, but that says your ideas are free range and I don't want people using my idea. (Not that I think its good enough to take) So my question is this: are there any sort of blogs, sites, etc, that I can discuss my ideas on? With a decent number of people to bounce it against? Also I don't want to see any answers here telling me not to put the cart before the horse. I know I am and I hear it enough where I'm at. Thank you for any answer you guys might be able to give.

That's because they think only with the vagina? I mean major ones, and I am 20 years

I've been arguing with my mom a lot and we can't have a simple conversation with her I hate Nebraska I moved here from California and I miss my family she gave me a choice to move back but idk if I should I have good friends here but I hate the school she controls my life I couldn't even choose the school I wanted to go I have a wonderful girlfriend but I don't want to leave her she's my everything she's helped me through a lot of things and I just want to be happy I'm almost done with school I have a year left but I just really miss my family me and my mom never got along we always argue every single day we've tried to work it out but we never can't and if I move its very hard for me to make friends at a new school so I'm scared and I just don't think it will be like how it used to be back then please help I don't know what to do

My younger brother is almost 50 but acts like a spoiled kid. Every relationship he has had his girlfriend has either left him or cheated on him. He takes care of my elderly Dad and resents that because he thinks he's the only one who cares about him which is not true. We all live in different states. Whenever I call he cusses me yells and tells me what an awful son I am. I visit my Dad about once a year and give him gifts. I think my brother might need therapy. He's mean, nasty, and tries to make me feel guilty because he feels he's burdened by Dad, but I have a family of my own to support. Should I just cut my brother off permanently?

I heard a little story, that quite shocked me to my core. A couple of 70 year olds were taking a stroll out in the city park, I guess it was kind of late and dark. They recently celebrated their 40 year anniversary. Anyway, they both were brutally murdered, and thrown down the slope. According to CCTV cams, it clearly wasn't white Swedish people. They were muslims. So why is Sweden allowing this to happen? Is this the future of my homeland? I'm not from Sweden, I am from Lithuania, I had a nightmare that I was killed just like that by two angry faced muslims.

Is it smth we have or we have not and that's it ? I see people who are so confident and secure with themselves and I'm like how ? I struggled with this all my life. I'm 19 now. I am much more confident than I was but I still struggle. I always wanted to be friendly and good with communication skills. I am but the only thing that's stopping me from everything is confidence and courage. I feel like I will never be and I won't be able to do what I want.

It's been about 2 years now, and I'm beyond sick of him. I could go on with the long list of bad qualities (laziness, disrespect, hateful, selfish, entitled, etc), but then we'd be here all day. the current situation i witness is a vicious cycle. they go through where there's a honeymoon phase where everything is just fine (lasts from a few days to a month), big fights blow out and they scream at eachother for a good while, mom kicks him out, he finds a way to worm himself back in, gropes and kisses her to make things all better and the cycle repeats. he's good for nothing, and since my mother is getting older she doesn't need that around. i've tried to break the cycle myself, but so far i've made little progress. this usually involves me reasoning with my mom on why this relationship just isn't working and she should call it off altogether. usually she agrees with my points and seems pretty determined to cut him out of her life, but the very next day they seem to be back in that darn honeymoon phase. i don't even care anymore about why i'm upset with him. I've expressed it aggressively and logically, and it seems to get me nowhere. I just can't take it anymore. no one is happy. My mom isn't happy with his glaring faults and how often these screaming matches and kick-outs are occuring. He isn't happy being constantly ridiculed. I'm not happy watching the cycle repeat so much; and his presence in general. I feel exhausted at this point, and I just want it to stop.

Everything I do it isn't good enough for anyone I work 4 times a week I have track practice from 3:30 to 6 every day Except on Sunday's I have high school classes and college classes I have a girlfriend and I don't know what to do I hangout with my girlfriend and then my mom and dad get mad because I don't see them so I hang out with them and my girlfriend gets mad and says I never see her and I just can't do it anymore what do I do

im 12 and dyislixic but my older brother is advanced i mean relly advanced and im in 7 grade and still cant do basic math or spelling im always feeling stupid compared to him and try to tell myself im being irashanil and selfish but i breack downt and have to go to my room to calm myself down the last time the happend was when me and my brother got in a fight i usaly love fighing with him becous i could alwaise beet him but that night i lost thatt relly set me off i was in my room just crying snapping out of it telling myself im being selfish and youll only regret this later and breacking down crying but i just got angrer at myself i am very antisohcil becous i feel asthoe i will let someone down if i mess up i just wan to lve alone and be independint but im only 12 and i cant do anything i like to wright but my spelling so bad it takes me a day just to wright one page i like to draw but eaven if i get good at that i cant make a livving of it i have a good life my parents love me and eaven tho they tell me that im good at stuff and im smart i just can stop lothing myself im not emo or suasidle i now that life is meaningles and nothing relly matters in the long run but i plan on living untill i can make somthing of mylife relative to myself i know tha this will be hard to red becous all the spelling errors and i dont evpect anyone ancer but it fells nice just to let out what i have cept boddled up for so long im not going to tell my parents thats part of the problem i dont want to bother theam afer all theve sacraficed i know im a stipid kid and i know nothing but still

im 12 and dyislixic but my older brother is advanced i mean relly advanced and im in 7 grade and still cant do basic math or spelling im always feeling stupid compared to him and try to tell myself im being irashanil and selfish but i breack downt and have to go to my room to calm myself down the last time the happend was when me and my brother got in a fight i usaly love fighing with him becous i could alwaise beet him but that night i lost thatt relly set me off i was in my room just crying snapping out of it telling myself im being selfish and youll only regret this later and breacking down crying but i just got angrer at myself i am very antisohcil becous i feel asthoe i will let someone down if i mess up i just wan to lve alone and be independint but im only 12 and i cant do anything i like to wright but my spelling so bad it takes me a day just to wright one page i like to draw but eaven if i get good at that i cant make a livving of it i have a good life my parents love me and eaven tho they tell me that im good at stuff and im smart i just can stop lothing myself im not emo or suasidle i now that life is meaningles and nothing relly matters in the long run but i plan on living untill i can make somthing of mylife relative to myself i know tha this will be hard to red becous all the spelling errors and i dont evpect anyone ancer but it fells nice just to let out what i have cept boddled up for so long im not going to tell my parents becus that is part of the problem i dont want to bother them after every thing theve sacraficed for me

im 12 and dyislixic but my older brother is advanced i mean relly advanced and im in 7 grade and still cant do basic math or spelling im always feeling stupid compared to him and try to tell myself im being irashanil and selfish but i breack downt and have to go to my room to calm myself down the last time the happend was when me and my brother got in a fight i usaly love fighing with him becous i could alwaise beet him but that night i lost thatt relly set me off i was in my room just crying snapping out of it telling myself im being selfish and youll only regret this later and breacking down crying but i just got angrer at myself i am very antisohcil becous i feel asthoe i will let someone down if i mess up i just wan to lve alone and be independint but im only 12 and i cant do anything i like to wright but my spelling so bad it takes me a day just to wright one page i like to draw but eaven if i get good at that i cant make a livving of it i have a good life my parents love me and eaven tho they tell me that im good at stuff and im smart i just can stop lothing myself im not emo or suasidle i now that life is meaningles and nothing relly matters in the long run but i plan on living untill i can make somthing of mylife relative to myself i know tha this will be hard to red becous all the spelling errors and i dont evpect anyone ancer but it fells nice just to let out what i have cept boddled up for so long im not going to tell my parnts becous thats part of the problem i now im a stupid kid and i know nothing but i want to try to solve my probem in my one i dont want o bother them after they have sacraficeed so mutch for me

ive lived in a small town my whole life and have gone to the same school up until now, my junior year. But just a week ago my dad got a job transfer to Germany and apparently we'll be leaving right when the school year is over. All of my friends are here, I'm a varsity cheerleader and have been all of high school and I'd like to have my senior nights, and I actually like my school and want to experience my senior year here with my friends! We had tons of trips already planned for the summer too. I've traveled all over Europe so I know it's cool there, but there is no way I want to move. And all of the graduation requirements are different, I'd have to take two extra language classes and two extra math classes. And I do running start here and it isn't offered there. Basically it's just a mess and moving would be horrible. Does anyone have any advice for getting my parents to let me finish school here, or stay by myself to finish? Or if I do have to move, how to make it less terrible? Thanks!

like this guy at a warehouse I work in only on the weekends. A lot of times I work in the same area he works in and we talk to the same similar people there. I glanced at him once and recently he had told me something work related and we made direct eye contact and gave me a sweet smile. So the next step is to talk to him and try to be his friend. He seems really nice and I feel like we would get along well. What else can I do to let him know slightly I like him a little but be his friend? I will not ask him out or for his number because I have done that in the past and I just get rejected but I really want to get to know him and be his friend idk what to do.The more I see n talk to him the more interested I am. A lot of the guys there r super nice n try to talk to me all the time n stare so maybe I can have hope with him idk :/ waiting for the weekend feels like forever I try to stop my feelings but it just happend I never expected this

Usually whenever my mother drives my friend and me to school, my mom would start a conversation with my friend. Often at times, my mother will interrupt my friend mid sentence; I confronted my mother about this and she said that she was doing nothing wrong and told me to go away. Just recently, she told me to stop looking at builds for Blade and Soul. I m not allowed to play video games during the weekdays and I totally respect that; all I do when I have free time after homework is look at builds for either league of legends or blade and soul to either change my play style or make myself better at both games, not actually launching the games and playing them. I explained to my mother that I wasn t playing games and that to tell me not to have anything connected to playing video games in the beginning. She instead of taking it peacefully, she instead accused me of playing games once again. I m also fourteen years old and yet I m not allowed to go outside, go to a friends house, or even walk to school even if I have friends with me. I m not sure what to do, I feel that my mother doesn t respect me, or really anyone else unless they are connected to her work. What should I do? I feel limited and it makes me somewhat depressed.

My girlfriend loves to tickle my toes and I love it too !! My feet are most ticklish so she always go for my feet and toes with like feathers, fingers and whatever she finds haha. She also uses that to her advantage ( or gain control :D ) to get her way most of the time lol. So that's what led me to ask this question. Want to see how many woman control their men by tickling their feet XD If you don't like this question don't answer

I found out that the guy I was seeing was married all this time. He lied not only to me but to the whole company as well because everyone thinks of him as a single father (we met at work). So yesterday I found out he has a second profile on facebook where all his happy real life pictures are posted...it's heartbreaking and shocking people can be so two faced. Do you think I should let his wife know what he is doing? I'm pretty sure now, it wasn't just me as he made up all this legend and made a separate profile for his cheating...

So I'm 14. I'm a good teen. I don't date, do drugs, have sex, I don't even go out. I'm nice to people and have good grades. But bad things always happen to me. Like I could be in a room of 100 kids and guess who's computer doesn't work? Mine. Or who gets called out by the teacher? Me. I'm shy in school and people kind of push me around, mainly the louder more outgoing girls. Oh and I'm going on a trip this week and I was really excited to stay at this main hotel, that same day my dad cancelled it and booked another one. Why does everything I look forward to always go bad ? Also it's even with people. I can be nice to them and they can be so unexpectedly rude for no reason. Like damn whats wrong with you? It just happens with everything I like. I like this guy and guess what? He has a gf. I wanted to get something but I had to wait till today and guess what ? Sold out. I can study hard for a test and what? Fail. My family also really bugs me and doesn't even care about my happiness. Seems like my happiness is always pushed aside and never taken into consideration. There's so much more I can talk about. Main point. Why does everything go bad for me ? Why does everything I like or look forward to end up bad? I hate this stupid life ugh

(My boyfriend is 35 & I'm 17 by the way) My boyfriend's best friend is getting married out of town in a few months and my boyfriend has invited me to attend the event with him :) I've already got permission from my parents who have met my boyfriend and they are okay with us dating. When my older sister found out she flipped out and told me that "I wasn't allowed to go, because she doesn't approve of our relationship" I told her too bad, because mom and dad DO approve & I already have the OK to go. She then started ranting about how "I was supposed to listen to HER" I told her that she is not in charge of me and that I didn't need her "approval" Now my sister is mad at me for "not obeying her rules" I don't live with her, I live at home with our parents. How do I get her TO SHUT UP & MIND HER OWN BUSINESS?

So my stepdad has been living with us since I was 12 but lately his been acting weird. I'm 15 now btw. And he likes to hug me from behind and the other night he kissed my boob and. He laughed really creepy and was like I meant to kiss your check let me just point out that I told my mom before that he was being Inapropiate he liked to me to sit on his lap and he would talk about sex with me and his first time and masterbation and it's starting again and he also like to pick me up and play with my hand . Am I over reacting ?

I am 20 & ive been with my bf for over a year now but she doesn t want him sleeping over anymoRe because shes heard our arguments & see more bad then good on his part. Hes also called her in the middle of the night like 2 or 3 times before. So now i drive back & forth from home to his house after work to hang out & leave at 4am when he leaves for work. Its running me down that we cant stay a night or two at my house , closer to his work /gym making it easier for both of us. I need a way to start the conversation with my mom on how my mom & i could compromise on the subject. Side note shes very stubborn , please help ! Haha

okay so latley..I met my boyfriend in november 2015, and i was always happy with him and stuff then around january...I found out all that time he was cheating and sexting about 20 other girls while dating me. I was broken and hurt but 2 weeks later... he promised me he would never cheat again and i havent caught anything else since.. except him saying another girl was pretty and hot.... But now...i kinda have trust issues and i have gave him so many chances with him cheating. Now ive noticed he talks to alot of beautiful girls and he video chats with them alot and i get really nervous and jealous. then i saw he was calling a girl lil shawty (meaning a young sexy girl) and i just get so torn about it and im depressed because of him. What should i do? I tried leaving him but it hurt too much and id hate too see him with another girl. Please help?

In June I'll be moving a 15 hour drive away from home to live at my boyfriends house. I'm happy to be closing the distance with my boyfriend, but thinking about leaving my mom breaks my heart. I'm ready to do this, and I'm excited to start a new life for myself but my mom is my best friend. We're so close and she's always there for me if I want to go out shopping or for whatever advice I need. We're both so sad about me moving but we will visit each other, but we won't be able to see each other that often. I'm basically okay with leaving everything I have here except for my parents. Can anyone help me see my situation in a new light? Is is that bad that I'm moving away from my mother? If anyone has any advice that would be appreciated!

He will stand up for me when They don't like something that I did like I told her kids to get ready to go and I didn't know they weren't supposed to go and she screamed "she's acknowledging the fact that we're leaving !" She says we always fight with them and my husband just stood up for me and him bc she was being redicilous and of course we apoligized bc she said we started it . My brother in law got mad bc my husband use the rest room Before him and said your always fighting with us I can't call u my brother anymore and he was the one that was fighting . Why do they do this and they say we are sensitive and don't talk to us anymore

So I am just entering a relationship with my autistic guy friend. Thing is I am confused about how will we start acting my bf/gf since you know some autistic people don't show emotions, may not be comfortable with touch, etc... We have our first date on wednesday, but other than that I'll see tomorrow and the rest of the week in my class.. What do I do? When do I?

So i have two twin boys and i caught them in the shower together i dont know why they couldnt even explain why so i grounded them because i didnt know what else to do its really shocking they are 16...

Necesito enviar un Money order de 250 usd a ee.uu a un doctor para q me atienda, sino no siquiera me da la cita! He buscado en todos los moneygram/westernunion y nadie tiene ese servicio. Dice el pinche asistente q esa es la única forma de garantizar la cita, donde puedo comprar un Money order en Tijuana. O se podra comprar un cheque sin tener cuenta local? Y q se lo envie x correo. Donde comprar Money order en Tijuana?