I haven't found anyone I can love deeply without feeling like I am making a huge mistake. Evidently, no one has found me lovable enough to want to marry me. I am already 34. Should I keep trying or just give up? I've dated two men so far in my life, each one for 4 years. That's 8 years down the drain that I'll never get back, should I be wasting more emotions and time over men and the possibility of marrying for love?

she had the baby and now our child is 15 months old in that fifteen months we have had sex about 12 times! i ask all the time and get turned down every time unless i beg, if she agrees, she lays there and says just get it done quickly... this hurts my feelings so badly. i never complained about it though. then one day i asked for sex and she told me once again not tonight... ten minutes later she takes a shower, i have to use the bathroom, but i wait she is taking for ever so it became en emergency, i opens the door to use the bathroom and catch her masterbating intently she didn't even notice me walk in. i was in shock! she was watching porn on her phone. i closed the door and she came out of the bathroom imbarresed andtried to lie to make it seem like it wasn't what it seemed like, but i was there for 45 seconds before she caught me. normally i wouldn't be mad but its the fact that she denied me ten minutes before doing that, i was so hurt and asked her why she would deny my needs for her and go off and do that, i told her i was hurt and felt betrayed, not only because she is putting me off but she lied too my face even though, she was clearly caught, she tells me that her vibrator is the only way to get her off, i invited to use it in bed together or try anything to help her in bed, she said she's to shy. what should i do?

My husband and my sister and her husband don t get along. Everytime my husband says something or makes a request for his own home they take it as a personal attack on our family. For instance Thursday my son and I were sick. We were both vegging out on the sofa. Trying to catch some Z s when my BIL showed up. He has been texting me requesting to borrow our treadmill. And even though I had slept through them and didn t answer he took it upon himself to just show up. I let him in and I let him use the treadmill. He asked if he could also take a shower. A little hesitantly I said yes. It was awkward. I ve known my BIL for most of my life. And there are times where he doesn t know boundaries. (Smacking my behind, texting me that I look good with winky faces, and him and my sis sending me pictures of his bare behind) I wanted to say no but my sis and BIL don t take no for an answer. They want reasons. And if reasons aren t good enough they hold a grudge. My hubby had said later he wasn t comfortable with BIL showering while he s away at work and I home alone. And he texted him nicely saying he can use treadmill but please shower at home. BIL and sis took offense! Again said hubby is destroying our family values. He doesn t trust them. They don t see the moral values of why it s awkward. Sis, who I thought would always be my side, won t let me take her kids anywhere all because of this. Are we overreacting? Or are they?

I made a mistake hitting her. I was in jail for one year. I love her. Should I reconcile with her?

I'm 20 years old. I've been with my boyfriend for the past 2 years and I've been living with him for the past 8 months. He's going to propose to me (he's not good at hiding it) and I'm so excited! I know that I'm young and everything, but I'm OK with that. Some people tell me I would be throwing my life away if I got married so early, but I don't think I just feel like I'll be able to experiences with him. I've never had another serious boyfriend, but I'm OK with that. I love the idea of my man being the only man I ever really have (aside from a few high school flings I don't really count). Part of me really likes the idea of getting married young because it would give me a few more years of just me and my husband before I would have kids (not that I don't want kids, but I would like some time with just him before I have any). Getting married young wouldn't prevent me from getting my degree or getting a job, and I think having my husband supporting me would help. I feel like I already know what being married to him would be like because I've been living with him for almost a year. I love living with him. I feel like marriage is just the extra promise that we will be together forever. Some people tell me that I'm too young. They say I don't have enough life experience or I don't know what I want because I haven't dated a lot of other guys. Maybe I haven't dated a lot of other guys, but I know I love my boyfriend. However, as time has gotten closer I've gotten a little nervous. I know he's going to propose next week. I want to say yes, but I'm a bit worried. I feel like I shouldn't be too worried because I know I love him, but I feel guilty because I am. Sometimes love isn't all that's needed to keep a marriage together. Am I too young to get married? How can I know if saying yes is right? For those of you who will wonder my boyfriend is 27. I know he's older, but I actually prefer older guys.

I've been divorced for 5 years. It was an extrmemly painful divorce for me, and my ex took me to court for joint custody. Although painful to only see my kids every other week it has been beneficial to my children. Their dad and I live about 5 minutes from each other. It's been 3 years sharing houses and each year gets a little easier. But yes I'm extrmemly hurt. I tell my mom the kids are better off this way. She is so angry now she won't even babysit my kids of their dad is to pick them up from my house. I have to either get alternate childcare or make sure I am home when he comes to get them. My son mentioned to my mom that he had a friend over when he was with his dad. She looked at me and said why would he invite friends over there? I said well because he's in junior high and having friends over is part of being a kid?!! She said oh. Well I don't like it. I told her that she's going to have to get over this for the kids' sake. I said believe me I'm a lot more hurt than you. He cheated on me and left me for another woman. That woman is now their step mom. But I'm trying very hard to be positive for my kids. Is there a way for both of us to forgive ourselves and my ex husband ?

I've noticed that my vagina has become quite dry over the past few days and now its itchy. It itches on the inside "lip" and around the vaginal opening. How can I make it stop?

PLEASE DONT JUDGE.. I just need to know if I caught anything. I had sex in a week with 3 different guys. One is sexually active & I don t know when his last time was but I figured it hasn t been more than a month. The other hasn t been sexual active in so long & the last guy was a Virgin. I didn t use condoms but I m just worried.. Please don t judge

ok I ll be honest im 18 years ago and i never taste nor smell vagina before cuz I m still a virgin so is my gf.. Anyway one time we were in my room and she gave me bj :-D and she wanted me to lick her vagina so I try to lick but it smell so bad to me that I wanted to throw up.. I said to myself "maybe I m not use to the smell nor taste " so I try it again and again and again ... The smell/ taste is getting worse and worse .. And I know she take shower daily cuz she smell super good, just not down there and if i tell her that her vagain smells she will never make out with me again and i dont want that to happen (well maybe).. Anyway now she wants to do all sorts of stuff with me, but I m too scary to go down there ..I really love her and I want to make this work .. So the questions is am I begin a big pussy or is it just her ..

I realise this is odd to complain about, but there is just no excitement in our marriage. Shell have sex whenever I want, make me food, get me a beer from the fridge. Like a stereotypical 50s woman, except she has a real job. But I get tired of this? Everything is just so predictable I am getting bored of her,I have had to sleep with other women to get me excited In life.she has no backbone?

and if yes, what would be your reaction ? will you get horny or excited or just feel fine that he respects/ worships you ? I think my wife likes it, we do it eventually sometimes during foreplay, but i want to do it more often, not just for sex but during normal day times. but i don't know if she really likes it, or just she let me do it as for my own pleasure in foreplay times, so i wanted to know what others think of this?

I'm 20 years old. I've been dating my boyfriend for the past two years. I've been living with him for the past six months. I know I'm in love with him and I know he's going to propose to me soon (he's not good at hiding it, which I think is kind of cute). I've been thinking about my answer. I've had a couple boyfriends before him, but they were high school flings that I knew were never going to go anywhere. He's the first serious relationship I've ever had. Some people have told me I can't really know that I want to be with him if he's the only guy I've ever really been with. I guess it's true, but I feel OK with that. A big part of me is happy that he's the only guy I've ever really been with. It makes my relationship with him feel all the more special. My parents have said I'm too young to get married. I am barley 20. I would probably be married at the latest by 21. I don't feel like I would be giving up my life, but that I could grow my life with my husband. I feel like I can do many of the same things, but it'll be better because he'll be with me. When I heard these things at first they didn't bother me and I knew I wanted to marry him, but as I get the feeling that he gets closer to proposing I get more nervous. Some of the things they say make me think, and I hate that because I know I love him. I know that I love him. However, there's a little bit of me that is getting cold feet. Am I too young to marry? How can I know I know he's the right one? I know we've been living together, but that feels different to me. Marriage is a much stronger commitment. It makes me more nervous And for those who want to know my boyfriend's age he's 26. He is older than me, but that's never been a problem. In fact, I prefer older guys.

I was at my Dad's last night with my wife, and it was 8:45 at night, they hadn't made anything for supper, so I said we were gonna go get something to eat. He said nobody was leaving his house it was 8:45 at night and there's no reason I'm wanting to go out to eat at that time. I work 5 in the morning tell around 6 at night (hour lunch break included) Monday-Friday and I said I wanted to get out for a while. He then started accusing my wife of being lazy and telling her she should go to work, when he knows she's on medical leave for a serious health condition. He then said my wife is going to make me worthless because she's lazy. He then told me he only thought I was with my wife for my son, when that's not the case at all so I started yelling at him and he started putting a fist to me like he wanted to punch me. My wife and I ended up leaving but do you see any reason my Dad behaved this way?

nights. He and I do not get along. Yesterday (Friday) his 9 month pregnant wife stayed home from work and was at home all day. I still watched the kids downstairs. They were upstairs sleeping. At 4pm when I was supposed to leave, no one ever came downstairs. The wife (9 months pregnant) was asleep in the bathtub. She was unresponsive and limp. I did not get paid. I left. I don't know if she went to the hospital, had the baby, or recovered and is at home. The thing is, if she is still ill, her husband has her cell phone and he will not answer if he sees it is me. I don't know what to do. As far as I know I am supposed to be at work Monday morning at 5am. I need to get paid. How should I handle this? If I have to deal with the husband I'll never get paid.

if ur married to a woman who's dishonest and unfaithful and does stuff behind ur back...and u dont know about that ...and trust her and love her...wud u consider urself unfortunate and also if ur brother ...someone u always trusted...is the bad guy and is involved with ur wife...not in sexual activity...but in heavy flirting ad touching and stuff

I don't know about living or dying but in either cast I will need a helping hand will you take my heart, my hand and marry me............

Married white male, 50 I am looking for advice about the following. Long story short. My wife and I, both white, had been happily married for years, then when we became empty nesters went through a difficult period that lead to trial separation. We both agreed to date others including sex, during the separation. Due to the demands of work I never had time to date. My wife had dated two different black men and had sex with them both. I am happy to say my wife are back together again with our marriage doing very well. Yet, it bothers me she had sex with these two men, how do I move past this fact about my wife? Should I be happy her and I are doing better than ever and drop my concerns?

We have been married for 6 months (dated long distance for 1 year and 8 months): we only have sex twice a week. Do you have any suggestions on how to have him want sex more often? He does work 8 hours shifts every night as a police officer. Please don't say lingerie or walking butt naked around the house (been there, tried that). Or simply grabbing his d***…….tried that too. No rude comments please. He is 29 (H: 6'2" W:250), and I am 22 ( H:5'8" W:165) P.S. He does tell me all the time, how he married out of his league.

A few months ago I cheated on my husband with a female and every time we get into an argument he brings it up I recently looked through the history of his phone and saw he was on Backpage looking at prostitutes and he went on a business trip to Seattle he also was searching for some there and I checked his email he was asking how much they charge and was also sending pictures of himself he says he wasn't going to have sex he was curious but we all know it's a lie he says he was thinking about it but I know he's lying I know he loves me and is hurt for what I did so does it make sense for me to try and make it work

I am contemplating divorce but I'm scared to tell my husband. I mean I told him before I wanted a divorce and how I don't love him anymore. It's just I'm afraid of his explosive side. He gets crazy, wreck less with the mouth sometimes physical and he makes threats. How do I tell him in a way that is not confrontational... If that's possible

Well, this might sound really surprising.. 5 days ago it was our anniversary (4 yrs since the day we first met). Our wedding was in January this year only. I wanted to make it special for my wife. So we had gone out of town in a secluded beach house on the outskirts.. there we cooked dinner, I made ice cream n baked cake for her.. n only the two of us spent the entire day together. It was so much fun.. we sang songs with my guitar.. n danced.. n then lemme describe.. She was very tired so i carried her to the bed n there we lay sharing stories of our childhood.. n she began telling really heartbreaking incidents abt her past n we were crying there for like an hour. Then i comforted her n we hugged n cuddled n stuff.. n then all i remember is i lulled her n we were in a trance. All I remember is a feeling of being wrapped in ecstasy n pure love. We were lost until today morning. To us it was hardly an hour but in reality we had been lost making love since 5 Days! No oh it was our first time.. it was very surprising for us to know the date when we checked our phone n called home. Has this happened with you??

I have an 8 year old daughter that my husband and I adopted. She was a wonderful baby. Now, she's 8 years old and she's playing me and my husband against each other. Every time I try to discipline her, he steps in, defends her, takes her out of time out and then proceeds to put me down in front of her. I don't know what to do. Does anyone out there have any suggestions? Additional info.: Here is just a few things that she does. She is very strong-willed. When I try to talk to her and correct her, she curses like a sailor at me, tells me she hates me, hits me and she even broke my nose. Then, when my husband gets home she runs to him, and instead of backing me up, he pampers her and lets her do whatever she wants to do.

How long have you been married? How many kids? How old are you? Did you have more sex in the beginning of your marriage?

Our marriage has become quite volatile of late...every single thing is a fight. For ex tonight I came home and the kitchen table was covered in salt and pepper and noodles, so I politely asked if WE could try to keep the kitchen cleaner and immediately my husband started yelling at me that our house looks like s*** anyway because I suck at cleaning. I got upset that he instantly yelled and told him he was being unnecessarily nasty, he told me I'm a f*****g b****. My three year old daughter was nearby and I'm sure my stepkids upstairs could hear. I told him we need to not fight like that because I don't want the kids thinking it's ok and his response was that I need to stop starting fights with him. We have tried therapy twice and I'm kind of at a loss. Is there maybe a better way to get across that this is not ok?

Because she s saying that s what it means

Actually, the real question is about authoritarian, authoritative, permissive, and uninvolved styles and I just wanted to know how people prefer to treat others. I am in the compassion/warmth but people have tried to bully me to be respect/honor; so I want to know why people prefer authoritarian styles over authoritative styles.

I'm going through a divorce and custody battle right now, and I've seen on facebook that my ex's grandma plans on getting my daughter's ears pierced (she's only a few months old). They don't care what I say, when she's with them, they'll just do it anyway. I believe a person should decide themself if they want any kind of body modification. I don't want my baby's ears peirced. How can I legally stop this?

My older sister caught her husband having an affair with me while living with them. She kicked me out that day. And she begged him to take her back. He then told her nothing was ever going to happen. a couple days later he starts calling and texting me again (sexual) saying he misses me and wishes we wouldn't have got caught. on Christmas he wishes i was with him instead of her, told me they were co parenting and they had no physical or emotional connection anymore.. Valentines day he asked me for pictures and videos. He told her that he still talked to me. she got pissed. He is STILL talking to me sexually wishing i was kneeling over him in bed while she was sleeping next to him. Not to mention they have two kids ages 1 and 5.

Also, check my previous two questions to know why I want to learn about trust. Has virtually nothing to do with trust between me and her, it is almost entirely her holding on to patterns of neglect, abuse, and aggression from her childhood. She extremely distrusts society, to the point of being a recluse and isolating herself (and me since I need to protect her) from the world. I know that I generally don't believe in social norms, mannerisms, etiquette, regulations, and even acting "civilized"; but please tell me how all those things piece together to create trust, even if you just met these people for the first time in your life. Sections where people "should" be able to help me but no one is there to answer this question (so don't move the question there): Mental Health, Psychology, Etiquette, Parenting (because of my wife's parents failure at this), and any "other" section out there. But the reason you WOULDN'T move it there is because the only sections with people answering questions are: Politics, M&D, R&S, Gender Studies, and Polls. Keep it here, okay? Thanks.

Assumed facts: My wife has an undiagnosed mental health condition and she will NEVER get Dx'ed to find out what it is. My wife is willing to follow my lead if I can prove to her that my lead is safe, secure, and just. My wife does make excuses for her behavior and will blame anyone she can to avoid facing her fears. My wife grew up in a poor and immoral neighborhood and wants to be better than that but doesn't know how. I don't think anyone likes abusive, negative, and aggressive people (I know I don't like them much - that's why I use the block button on here). But to completely close yourself off from the world (both offline and online) so you can be safely walled up in your house or behind a monitor (not participating in discussions/debates) is NOT healthy. She will go to work and come home just fine (though she prefers I drive since she can't trust herself to drive properly around aggressive drivers (to whom she thinks they all own guns in the cab with them). She will go to the movies with me and the kids but she will make me do all the talking. She will go a restaurant with me and the kids but she will make me give her order to the waitress (occasionally I make her do it though by pretending I'm still looking at the menu and telling her to go ahead). She will also go to nail and hair salons but that's because she knows they are not generally aggressive since they wouldn't get paid if they were (she sees all servant jobs as safe). But this is the extent of her life. More facts: I love my wife and I would do just about anything for her. I have changed who I am to accommodate her anxiety but now my life is painted into a corner and miserable. I have tried to encourage her to go to therapy but she refuses. She went once but quit after being told to change her beliefs and to stop seeing patterns in things. I married her because I love her, but I married her when I was 22 (committed since 19) so these things weren't developed then (she was "normal" then). I find it bizarre that all of you will talk about abuse, affairs, addictions, and your morals ALL DAY LONG on here; but when someone actually has a real problem you're all like "Nope, never saw that on Jerry Springer; I don't know what to say!"