I was home alone with him and he was in the garage and I was in the living room and at some point he left I have no idea when but it was definitely a really long time ago and he isn't home yet and it's 11:40 pm and he hasn't answered his phone and him and my mom are going through a divorce rn and he always says things like he can't do it anymore and he has depression and I'm really worried

A female friend and I refer to each other as boyfriend and girlfriend. And we exchange cards for every nice Holliday. She even got me a really nice Valentine's Day card and wanted to go to lunch that day. Then she told me that she will marry me if her and her husband split up. Idk. Just seems like a lot. Not trying to be a home wrecker or anything.

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My best friends husband seems to not care that his wife has been having suicidal thoughts or that the doctors have upped her dosage of antidepressants. That or he hasn t taken it seriously. I worry with the current state she s in. How can I help him understand just how serious her situation is? She has spoken with him on several occasions out of fear and he has yet to respond.

My husband has been feeling unsatisfied with where he is in his life at 43 years of age, and trying to find ways to improve things, such as to make more friends at work, which I m happy about. But I felt uncomfortable when he mentioned a young single woman he was making friends with. He mentioned several specific details about her, suggested that we invite her over. Okay, I m a little possessive of my husband, so at first I responded (calmly and respectfully) that I didn t like the idea of him making friends with other women. But this made him mad, and we ended up getting in a heated discussion about it. A few days later I brought it up again and said I would be okay with him inviting her over, as long as I was there, but he wouldn t discuss it anymore. A few weeks later when I brought up the young woman again, and I tried to ask him what her name was. He said there never was such a person, and that he d made her up. He stuck to that story for a few weeks. Then I noticed someone I didn t recognize at his place of employment. I gave her a friendly little smile, and she just gave me this strange, almost fearful look, and her eyes quickly darted to my husband and back to me. My husband also seemed to tense up as we passed. I asked my husband her name later, and he was at first reluctant to give up her name, pretending he didn't remember. Okay, I am a little possessive, like I said, but do I have reason to be supsicious here?

Like, it doesn't really change anything that happened before marriage, unless you are a religious nutshell.

I'm a Philippine born US citizen. Earlier in my life, I married a US born woman. Our marriage collapsed, parted ways, and lost contact. For almost two years, my Philippine girlfriend and I have been serious with each other. I would like to marry her in the Philippines. Is that legal since I'm officially not married in that country?

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Me and my husband have been together for 2 years but we dnt know if we are ready for a kid. When is the best time in someones marriage to start having kids?

Being married. I m well educated and have never asked for help from anyone elseThree years of battling the bank and working 80+ hours... I face losing it all. What should I do. Please be kind... I m educated but trusted the person I thought was a saint. Stupidity for trusting someone so much.

I'm 25 and already have a 4 year old and a 16 month old. I can barely handle my 4 year old since he does not want to behave no matter what I try. The problem is that I don't want any more kids right now because I can barely keep up with these two. It seems like my husband wants to keep me pregnant all the time because he gets mad and says "you say you want more babies but you don't want to get pregnant right now!" I tell him no because I haven't even lost my dumb pouch that I have been working on and it just DOES NOT want to go back down. I'm not fat. I weigh 114 lbs and I'm 5 feet tall. But it's not the weight that's my problem. It's just the stupid baby fat I want to get rid of and my husband doesn't understand that no matter what. I love my kids but I'm just not ready to have another one so I won't be able to get a job. (My husband doesn't want me to). I just don't know what to tell him anymore. It all seems like a race with his brother to see who has the most babies. If he continues I'm just going to say, "you what f*ck it. I'm leaving" and then my MIL is like, let's see who wins. I just effing hate it that having babies is a damn race!! I just don't know what to do anymore. Do you have any advice for me? Thanks for your answers.. In advance.

So i have been married for more than two and a half years. i dont have a good relationship with my husbands mother. She interferes in our life alot. I dont speak to her much these days. My husband speaks to his parents everyday. I dont mind. But sometimes he acts cranky. He snaps at me. His mom still tells him to ask me to do things. Sometimes i just do those things to avoid arguments. I dont know exactly what happens to him. But he is grumpy. I am not able to understand his psychology. I want to lead a peaceful life. Why does my husband behave this way?

My family know about his marriage and after that they hide this from me because he is in abroad and about his first marriage he never get divorced from her because his marriage was not registered any where and then he went to abroad and settle down and now i came to know that he is having baby in abroad . Now what should i do my whole life is spoil?

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the thought of never having sex with another women is sometimes daunting for this person. also, he cannot consider open marriage, or won't. in a society in which it isn't seen as normal or moral, but in which it is always natural to be attracted, should open marriages be more accepted? could it be that some people are just made for one on one and other are not? this person loves their spouse, but what are the answers for them?

Hi I dated my husband for 6 years long distance.I knew that he was not interested in going to bars or clubs but he was very social within his small group of friends and I knew that he was a homebody to an extent but what I did not know is that he was a shut in. Fast foward 2 years after getting married. He does not leave the house ever. He refuses to do anything. I have been working 2 jobs while he needs to go to school but keeps procrastinating. Then one day on a vacation I made him go with me, he blew up at me and demanded divorce. He said I was lying to him constantly. I was shocked. It turns out he thinks that his breath is so bad he wont leave the house. I had to beg for 4 hours for the truth after he demand divorce. He has no intrest in work or school or leaving the house due to "bad breath" which is non existant by the way. He thinks Im lying that his breath is fine and laughing behind his back. He wont social with my few friends or family even on holidays. Once before he lost 15 lbs eating veg only bc he thought that meat made him smell. I stupidly took that seriously cuz it went with a healthy lifestyle I was OK. Now I know he keeps making crap up. I cant write more detail here but Ive tried everything. I did not know he had this massive break from reality inside himself. My dentist dosent understand whats going on here even though I called n told him before his appointment. My dentist told him he has gum disease which mad his halitophobia blow up way worse.

What is your definition of wanting the best for someone like a spouse or a partner? This maybe a silly question but I want to know what's the difference between wanting the best for your spouse or wanting them to change for your best interest.

We are both young. In our early 30s. In the bedroom things are failing miserably. She won't be honest with me over why she isn't easily aroused. I have tried many things such as foreplay with limited success. She really upsets me by saying she wants me to do oral on her but sge then wants to grab the phibe and headphones to watch and listen to porn to get everything happening quickly. For a couple of years it has felt like that in the bedroom. Boring and no sparks. No chemistry. Little connection. I have tried to tell her that every time she watches videos it makes everything emotionless and mechanical. I cannot remember the last time was that I have aroused her! It's just so mechanical and degrading. What is it going to take? Our sex life just feels forced and for me it is draining as the human or personal side is taken out. By the way, I'm talking about oral. We have intercourse about once a month. Once a fortnight if I push it. We have been together for 8 years. She shows lots of affection in every other way such as greeting, hugging me on bed etc ... but sex is not about connection or feeling. And that hurts me. Like I'm not good enough. I want to feel valued and desired sexually. For it to be reciprocal when I show my desire. Why do we seem incapable of connecting on that deeper level? Hey! I do not treat her well to get something in return. I do it out of my own desire to be a good husband. But everytime she uses the porn, I feel like I am not good enough to satisfy her and that I'm just a tool. What I want is good old fashioned loving and connection. Not this mechanical get it over with thing. I really feel humiliated and pushed aside when she just watches the video. I dream of connected sex...

I need advice. My husband has been out of state for army for a month. He text me and asked if we had extra funds for him to go eat dinner with "the guys" I told him yes. So he went to dinner, texted me at 730 telling me he'd call me before I went to bed (which is early these days because we have a new baby, and i have another child, I work full time and going to college..so I'm worn out early) I waited an hour and said I was ready for bed.....no reply.....I texted again at 930....no reply ...I called 4 times until midnight....no answer....I fall asleep....I wake up at 550, no missed calls from him, so I text him again, he calls immediately. Claims he got so drunk and didn't hear his phone go off at all. I knew something wasn't right so I pushed and pushed and turns out there was another woman out with them. He didn't tell me because he thought I'd be mad. About what?? It was a group of soldiers out...my problem is he ignored me for nearly 10 hours and made a choice to get that drunk. I think he's lying to me and that he was out alone with this other female soldier and he had an affair....he denies it but I don't believe him as it tool me 4 hours to get the truth out of him that she was with him. Advice??? I have to pick him up from the airport today and I'm not sure if I'm need to suggest a separation or try to work thru it. This is the 3rd time we've had an issue with him and another woman....I have no solid proof, other than catch him in lies..

My wife and I are starting to realize that 1/3 of our relationship is probably all in our heads and the other 2/3 is real (but maybe still tainted by our inner dialogues/fears/demons)... Example: All of the things I've been saying about my wife on here is MY 1/3. It's not that she isn't the person I'm saying she is, because large parts of it is true, it's that how I describe it online or in private messages are intensified because of my inner demons about people and the patterns of abuse that I've endured up to now. So, my wife and I are in phase 1 of trying to face our inner demons. We're going to start by addressing what they are and where they come from then try to figure out why we let these inner demons silence our identity. But once we have identified it all, what do we do next? In your own experience, how long does it take to lock up your inner demons and get your vitality back?

It is not so much the divorce but my mother's behavior after. She was one of those people who tried to alienate us from our father by giving us bad info about him that sometimes was proven not to be true (she talked herself into believing it). I am 30 now and they divorced 22 years ago but despite being in therapy I still have anxiety about "what if I lose my Dad again" even though as an adult I see him regularly. Is this normal in these circumstances? I am in therapy and it helps but I also ask on here. Also, how can I learn to forgive my mother for her abuse? She was otherwise a good mother but very bitter at my father to this day. She actually was the one to proclaim the marriage over and ask for a divorce though there is no doubt both made mistakes.

Do they not care about the fact that their man will most likely be dead long before them?

SO I went out with a friend of mine yest evening . It got late . We decided to catch a bus home. My husband called when we were half way to my home. It was 9 pm. He was angry that I was coming home late but never offered to pick us up. My friend told me how caring her husband was and how he would drop her off and pick her up. More than yest situation, in general does my husband not care much about me? He expects I do everything by myself. And he doesn't like if I share my problems with him. Sometimes I feel neglected.

Im 18 and me and my bf have been thur way more then most and i want to wait till i get out of collage. My nanny and ger husband where high school sweet hearts ge cheated then 30 years later got remarried. My in laws high school sweet hearts he became disabled and said she deserved better. Then they got back together And my parents got married at 17 and yeah it was a terrible marriage. Our older friend will is getting a divorced from his school sweet heart bc she said she dosent love him any more..... I was told once i know then ill know and i know now but idk if there is something that im missing?

I feel like maybe he is doing this because of my fetish.

I found that my husband has been using narcotics and has been addicted for about 2 years. Also, I found that he was cheating with two different girls. One girl new that he is married and was ok with that. The other girls he lied and said that he is single. the second girl even got pregnant while I was 7 months pregnant. When I had my baby, my husband stopped talking to second girl and telling her that he is in jail, then just stopped any contact. I don t want to believe that he has been this type of person. Can addiction make ppl do such horrible things?

Now I am letting her bake muffins by herself because she doesn t want to talk to me. What gives?

I'm 22. My husband is 23, and we have been married for a year now. Lately, things have gotten out of hand, at least how I see it. I am a full-time student and ROTC cadet for the Army. I also participate in a National Guard program which takes up weekends and some more of my time. My husband used to work at Winco, night shifts, but quit because the hours were too much. He is also in the National Guard, his 4th year. We have been having this fight over and over again: I don't have time for him. I'm up by 5 AM, and I usually don't get done with homework until around 5 PM. I'm also constantly inundated with Army and ROTC things to take care of, since I am in a leadership position. Also, since he quit his job, I am the only one really bringing any money in. He was able to quit because I have so much in scholarships to let us do it. Last night, we had another fight. Again, it came to me as the problem. I said "Pick one: a clean house with cooked food, or spending time together. I can't do both." He responded "Clean house, so I can at least have people over." He then also told me he expected me to also keep up the house, and that, in his opinion, if I couldn't do that, that I was in the wrong. I feel so trapped! I can't break my contract, and my grades are slipping as is! I feel like I can't keep up with school and ROTC and be the cooking/cleaning/tons-of-free-time wife that he expects me to be! He has said he would do some cleaning, but hasn't really done much. A touch more context, if helpful: We've had this problem for a while. Yes, a while ago, I did promise things would get better. However, more responsibilities and school got piled on me that I wasn't prepared for. When I tried to explain this, he simply told me that I lied to him. I swear I didn't! I didn't know all this would get piled on me! But he doesn't hear me. He just tells me that I lied to him and its my fault that we're doing so poorly.

Hello, I need a load of help. I have been married to my husband for almost two years and we now have a month old baby girl. During this time I have been in the military for 3 years now and my husband has not held a job. Before the baby got here all the financial stress has been on me, as well as all the house work and cooking. I have been patient with him to get a job and take responsibility. But now that the baby is here he is spending money more than ever and avoiding responsibility. I practically feel like a single mother while he disappears to hang out with friends all day and spend most of the money. I am finally getting to the last hair and just want to put my foot down with him. But I don t know how. I m afraid to do this but I know it needs to be done because I will not be driven further into debt with a new baby while he runs around without a care in the world. Any and all advice is welcome. Thanks in advance

When we got married, she had previously got arrested 3 times for DUI, 3th time got in jail by 1 year. She told me that, and I don't care it, because I looked she was a good people (seriously, she even don't wanted to go with her friends to party to avoid do it again). All was fine for 3 years, and even we thought in have a child when finished university. We got graduated, and she asked me to go with her friends to a party to celebrate, and you must know what I thought, but I let her go thinking all would be fine if she went and return to home in taxi. But one of her friends used their car to go, and asked her to drive it to their home... We are in Loisiana, and she was sentenced to 10 years. It's really horrible to stay alone the most of the day. I try to stay strong, but without her is really hard to do it. In last visit, she told me I looked very bad, too much tired. I'm doctor, and being tired is a normal thing in my work, but obviously she wasn't talking about it. She told me that, if I want, we can got divorced, to let me relax and don't be worried about her or feeling alone, and let me search another girl. I told her I don't want get divorced, I really love her, but she told me being worried all the time isn't healty for me, and she must stay in prison for 9 year more. I'm thinking go to psychological therapy for stress, but I really doub it can help me enought, and don't like religious activities. I'll be very grateful with your comments.

Ive seen this once too many times. Husband dies and the wife follows a few years later. They get sick and then go down fast. One day they are ok and then the next this happens to them.