I've lived with my dad since i was 10, relationship was rocky because he was selfish and made decisions that left me hurt and victimized at that age. It was already hard moving to another nation and not being with my mom who had raised me for 10 yrs. When i moved in with my dad I was hoping to build and make up for the time lost that he wasn't physically there( due to immigration) but found out he had a child on my mom (from previous marriage, she was an ex wife when i had moved in) and he would manipulate me saying "your mom doesn't need to know right now, she will feel lonely and scared and could become ill from the news (he would say "she could have a heart attack these things you tell in person" i was so young and i really wish i had never helped my dad burry his lies. I was scared about my mom being hurt so i guess i kept the secret. 3 yrs later my dad has ANOTHER child with his girlfriend who he introduced to me when she was already pregnant and he told me she was a "friend". After that i began seeing a pattern of lies and i lost respect for my father, it was very hard for me to grow a real bond, it has been a decade and i am still living with my dad and we still don't have a solid relationship. I had broke down in the past during my teens when i felt the most depressed about how he needed to stop lying and that being in 2 relationships was wrong. He would tell me to shut up and that i cant judge because I'm not God.He is now single (53) & thinks i have to care for him

My mother had not one, not two, but THREE children with my father, and one child with my step-father, but she says she never loved either of them. I don't understand why I'm so upset?

He is a pathological liar And with that an evil man

I was born into a family of 6 siblings and and one of my siblings the one that is not succeeding much in her relationship & her life is full of poison. For example, she always stares at me at family parties I tend to get along with a lot of people in my family. All my siblings are doing decent in their lives and relationships. The staring turns into a red face full of hate I can tell. Once I started a business and that same sibling started the same business behind my back which I didn't care because it didn't make me much money. My father even started noticing she's a bit crazy by the way she eats she's obese. She talks very poorly behind my back, but also talks about her boyfriends mother, her boyfriend, etc. The vibe is so poor, that I wonder what I would become if I stepped up to her? How would I look stepping up to her? Someone told me to allow her to act how she wants? Would you cuss out your siblings?

I know girls typically mature faster than boys but still. Some younger brothers even when they try to be nice to their sisters and engage them in basic conversation their older sister shuts them down. It makes it difficult to bond. Sometimes older sister play pranks on their younger brothers too. 

My mother is like this, and I can barely wrap my head around the idea. Today we were talking and I called her ungrateful. This was a joke, as that's what she always calls me, and I was imitating her when I said it. We joke around a lot, but I guess this got on her nerves because she proceeded to say that she doesn't have to be grateful to me because I'm not even close to paying off the debt I owe her. She says I should be happy I have a roof over my head and food to eat and that what I have done for her does not compare to what she has done for me.  I agree with that to a certain extent. Yes, she has done and sacrificed a lot for me, and I should be grateful. I am actually. I appreciate her for all the stuff she's done and the older I get the more I realize it. But Jesus Christ I think gratefulness should run both ways. I think she should also appreciate me for the stuff I do, however little it may be. And I'm not a bad kid, I'm graduating with the highest honors and don't ho around (lol), have started helping out around the house more, etc. Granted, I have my flaws and I'm not perfect, but why is it so hard for the appreciation to be a two-way street?  Why do I owe her as well? She's my mom, this isn't some transaction. When I have kids, yes I want them to recognize all I do and be appreciative. But I also don't feel like they'll owe me. I'm their mother, it's my responsibility to give them food and shelter. I just can't wrap my head around it. 

My brother sold his home. He's moving into an apartment but they changed the move in date to April 22. So he's staying in my one bedroom apartment on the couch. He hogs the tv Netflix and amazon prime. He stinks up the bathroom. My job is having me work from home. He has enough money for a hotel. I need my space back. He's working from my table that I need for my job. He told me I should work from my bed. I'm on camera an I don't want my coworkers seeing my bedroom. He doesn't want to stay with my dad in a house because they get into fights.

It's harder for me to annunciate words. However my parents still don't seem to understand it. Sometimes when I speak I and my Mother didn't hear me she responds with an angry "WHAT?!" or a "SPEAK UP!" And then I will back into my shell from the fear and just say nevermind because she's angry at me now.

My family has been bullying me since I was born. They verbally and physically abuse me. They give me dirty looks. They ruined my life.  They neglect me.

I've been stuck at home because of the coronavirus and I cannot deal with my home situation any longer. I am not old enough to leave on my own yet, but I KNOW when I am, I'm leaving. My dad has bullied me and messed me up so mentally that I literally cannot see him as a father anymore. He responds to anything I do aggressively and lays the blame on me. He expects way too high of me in school, too. I remember during the first quarter of 6 grade (a long time ago, around 2016 or 2015) I had gotten all B's on a report card. Of course, my dad yelled at me instantly for saying that I'm 'lazy' and that I should be getting straight As. This stress has kept me up some nights and the worst part is he hates if I stay up to do homework, even though he wants it done. My solution to this was to do it in my bed with my door locked. Also, he has given me so much stress whenever I do something that should be normal for any other family. For example, he asked me if I wanted to eat breakfast yet. I said no, and he got really mad for no reason. And then, when my MOM said she didn't want to eat, he just said ok. The reactions were completely different and I still do not understand why. Also, when I have to help him find an item and I don't know where it is when he gives a general area (garage, bedroom, closet), I know I'll expect being yelled at or called useless/dumb. I thought of self harm and suicide to get his attention so that he'll understand how much I'm hurt, but I'm too scared to do it.

My parents want me to quit my job because my grandma lives with us and they're afraid I'll bring Coronavirus home to her. I'm in high school so I don't make a ton of money and I pay for my own car insurance and cell phone and a few other random things that my parents refuse to pay for so if I quit I won't be able to pay for anything. (Unless it's a loan/I agree to pay them back my parents have a strict you want it, you pay for it policy). They told me if I don't quit they'll just take my car off the insurance so I can't go to work (I work in the next town over). What do I do??

I have 3 roomates and I share a room with one of them. One of them went to his parents because they were worried about coronavirus and they wanted him with them. He told me to sleep in his room and I did that. Now there are 3 people in my house. Yesterday my roomate got angry with us. We decided to buy food for all once a week to avoid going out too much and split the expense but she wanted to pay less because my other roomate bought some meat and she doesn't eat meat. I told her we bought things he doesn't eat so it's easier if we split the expense in 3 equal parts and she got angry. So I told her to discuss with our other roomate and tell me how much I have to pay because I don't care about money but I don't want to spend time doing calculations. My other roomate told her we should split in 3 equal parts because we bought alchool and he doesn't drink.  Now she's angry with us. She locked locked the door of her room. There are my clothes and other things there and she said she locked the door because I don't knock. I think she did that because she's angry with me. I was used to enter in my room without knocking because it's the room I'm paying. My clothes are still there and I can't take them in the room I'm sleeping because the closet isn't empty. Do you think I was wrong because I entered without knocking in my room? Do you think I should think it's not my room anymore because I'm sleeping in another room? English isn't my first language.

I am a high school guy with a step mom who is just 6 years older than I am. Dad married a much younger woman. I really like my step mom. I think she is the greatest. To say she is beautiful is an understatement. She is gorgeous. I guess dad likes young beautiful women. When my buddies come to hang out with me they always tell me how beautiful, hot, and sexy my mom is. I tell them I know she is beautiful but she is NOT hot and sexy. Off hand one day I told her with her great looks, she could be model. She told me she was a model before she married my dad. She asked if I wanted to see her pictures when she was a model? Of course I said yes. She showed me her photo album and it turns out she was a lingerie model. In some of the pictures she had very little clothes on. It took ALL of my will power NOT to get a b0ner looking at these pictures. I can only guess how mad my dad would be if I got a b0ner for his wife. Lucky for me I didn't. Does this make me a VERY SICK son?

Everyone in the family agrees that I'm the justified party in the estrangement and my sister is the wrong one. So since were estranged what band is there? If she died of coronavirus tomorrow the only sadness I would have is a concern for my mom who would be grieving.

 A little background info. I'm 15 and my brother is 25 rn. My mum is a doctor working in a hospital to treat Corona and my big brother has moved out but currently in the same city.He usually spends his time messing around with friends, spends nights in hotels and other stuff.however, 2 hours ago, I got a text from him(which I rarely got cuz he does his thing and I'm busy with boardexams) saying hey. How's it been. We spoke for a while. And he dropped the bomb. I've got corona...don't tell mum. I was shocked. My hands went numb. I had absolutely no idea what I should do next. My mum is out there fighting to save lives while her own son is currently in the same city but different hospital admitted.  WHAT SHOULD I DO?   Should I tell mum cuz she got quarantined for a week or keep his word and not tell her?(I know it seems dumb. But my brain just went dead). Thnx Ok. This is serious. I'm dead serious and i won't try and write all this just for someone people out there to waste their time and effort. It's a matter of urgency. And PS.  They both have good relationship with each other. But he simply refuses  to tell her

I'm 19, female and black. My mother (65) doesn't respect me as an adult because I have to live at home now, partly bc of the recent events even though I'm moving out in the fall. She tells me I can't be awake if she's not, I can't eat until she's cooked (even if I want to cook food I bought), I can't wear the clothes I bought bc she doesn't like them and now she's interfering with my school work bc she tries to control everything I do. My mother doesn't like that I'm home so muc and wants to send me off every few days to stay with my grandmother (so I'm home Sunday-Wednesday and moving back and forth Thursday-Saturday) The issue is a. My grandmother lives in the more rural area so I can't do my school work from there and b. I'm an art major, its difficult to pack up all my supplies and move it halfway through the week every week bc my mom wants a "break" from me (I hardly talk to her bc I have other stuff to do, so I don't know what she needs a break from aside from the small chitchat.) As a student I'm also expected to work quite a bit outside of my 3 hr classes, but she doesn't see that, she chooses to see the moments I take breaks or relax and say I'm not doing much. How can I tell her "no, I'm not going to keep moving, I need to stay in one place so I can maintain my work?" She did this all last summer and it wasn't too bad since it was summer but I have school still. She's also violent and I'm not sure how to fight her without hurting her. *19, turning 20 this yr, I pay for my own schooling, aside from living at home rn I'm basically independent but she insists I have to do as she says. Will I have to get in a physical altercation to keep my stance? We've always fought and she got her way bc she would hit me as a kid or threaten me (like threatening to burn me, put me out or use other items in the house to hit me) but now I'm bigger and a lot stronger than her.

My mother in law warns me every time we meet not to wear certain colors because she thinks that will tease her and it is called imitating so she is crazy about shopping and wearing all colors and she wants me to wear dark colors only ? We actually work at the same place and I want a decent way to stop this ****

My mom doesn't have a license but she is damn good at what she does. She is 37 and has done this for years where she goes to people's homes and gives them massages. I would just like to know if it it's likely that she gives guys happy endings.

My parents are being loud during sex now that it's quarantine but I don't know how to tell them My paremts are being loud now that we are in quarantine but I don't know how to tell them How should I ask my parents to keep the volume down now that we're in quarantine? [14] I had never heard my [34F and 37M] parents having sex until quarantine. Now I hear them almost daily and just can't take it. Last night is was especially bad. It was really loud and I couldn't fall asleep. It's usually between 12-1am and it's pretty loud and disturbing actually. I hate quarantine and don't know how to ask them to stop. TL;DR: Parents started banging during quarantine and I hear them almost daily.

They tell me to stay home and stay away from family and not take toilet paper to my aunt it's too dangerous, but they went riding around town at the weekend house visiting friends.

My grandmother favors one aunt of mine and gives her all she needs. She's not happy if this favored daughter (my aunt) is not happy. My aunt says that this is covert incest. Is that accurate? I had thought incest meant sexual abuse and obviously there's none of that. My aunt learned this term at Al-Anon.

My mom doesn't like one bit of me or what I do. Father either. They talk in 3rd person that they had to take the burden once they conceived me. They are both teachers. I have never seen such unorganized people in my life. Also, my father is weirdly kid like. He behaves weirdly. I dropped off the college. They're retiring from jobs now. And I am planning to start a business. They constantly take fights with me and never let me live in peace. Mother is a revenge seeker. She doesn't admit her mistakes yet troubles me all the time. She thinks everything depends on her.and she made me her emotional slave. Together, they back each other all the time and take it on me and talk like it's my fault all the time. I feel no hope for normal for them...it's ******* tiresome I can't ******* take it one more minute. I am 29 and I never got married because these retards ruined my life. Say what you have to say...thanks I suppose... I actually realized it is partly my fault...so thanks for suggestions, and ideas are welcome...I try to be more flexible from now

I am 25M and my roommate I'm not sure how old he is but he acts like a young immature kid.  He literally has no life and stays at home all day and plays video games from morning till 6am at the latest. Wakes up at like 12pm and does it all over again.  To make it even worse there is another loud *** guy that lives with him in his small *** room and it is unbelievably loud.  Some examples of what he yells are:  •"OMFG"  "YOU GOTTA BE ******* KIDDING ME WTF" "YEEEEEEEEEEEEEET!!!!!!!!!!!!!" I've recorded him and my friends have said he sounds special ed.  How can people have no respect for their neighbors and be stupidly loud all day and night ?! How can he not leave his room EVER and just yell at a tv screen?! Is he a loser or am I just being a mean *** dude.  And before you say "just talk to him".. he is a COMPLETE ****head. When he sees me he just gives a mean look and a smart remark such as, "you gonna buy me food?!" (As I've given him food a few times).  Please help. We are in the army also if that makes any difference. Surprisingly he doesn't work and is always at home when I have a chance to be home. (Barracks)  TL;DR: roommate is the most irritating loudest dude ever and won't stfu and yells till 6am at the latest without ever having any other hobbies. What do I do and why is he like this ?! 

I know someone who when he was 14 his mom carried him over her shoulder the fireman's carry. She was in her late 40s / early 50s kind of thin and looked exactly like Brady Reiter and he was 14 and thin.

I am in quarantine/self isolation in a suburban neighborhood. At strange hours like 8:15 AM, or 10 at night, an overweight gentleman who I don't know takes a walk by our lawn, steps on it, and stares at nothing. No matter the weather, he wears very revealing clothing (near naked). He doesn't respond when I talk to him, but he isn't bothering anyone. He doesn't destroy my garden or approach the house, or do anything aside from staring into space peacefully, but his presence upsets my family. He is not one of our neighbors.  We are social distancing and do not go outside, so I can't go out to confront him because I don't want to get sick. My wife doesn't want me to yell at him from the windows, as he's not doing anything harmful. How can I ask if he's alright and could he kindly leave. I forgot to add, he scares my children. My youngest daughter had a nightmare about him where his name was "the chunkerman." I hope this is helpful.

My sister was diagnosed with autism when she was 6. She didn't know until a teacher told her that she's autistic. Then, she started looking up facts about autism on the Internet. When my sister confronted my parents, they told her not to tell anyone that she's autistic — not even family members. It's a secret. Whenever the diagnosis gets mentioned, my parents get irritated and tell my sister to consider herself as a normal person, not as a person "with issues". My parents go on and on about how they never thought about her as a child with issues, but her school required them to get her tested anyways. It's been 11 years since my sister was first diagnosed, they should've accepted it by now. My parents' plan was to never inform my sister that she's autistic, and have her lead a "normal life". My sister figured it out the truth. They couldn't keep the secret for long.

I don't know if they lack common sense or if they do things on purpose to smite me but how do I tell them when I dont like what they say or do?

We are a family of 7 and we have our own private island in the South Pacific. We haven't been in contact with the outside world since late February.

I'm not a psychiatrist but many say I should be one. My mom punishes me and us I can't see the aunt at the same time I think she might be trying to protect me since I'm so knowledgeable about acquired situational narcissists and other psychiatrically anti-social behavioral patterns. I am a high school sophomore.

My mom is good enough of a parent that I can't complain, but just bad enough to make my life shitty. She never listens to me, nothing in life can ever go my way because of her, she refuses to admit when she made a mistake, and she is just an overall hypocrite and *****. I honestly don't know what to do. 

I'm a 15 year old girl and my criminal justice teacher who's in his 60s emailed me on my school email today that he wants to catch up since school has been closed and will be closed for the rest of the year cause of corona virus. we talked over email then he asked for my number and said he wants to facetime, is this ok? he said it wasn't school related he just wants to talk as friends and update each other on our lives 

I am currently 16 and I have three younger siblings (14,10, and 8). She was in a car accident when her and my dad where in College she broke her pelvis and her hips and has chronic pain (so I'm told) My dad got a DUI (he was the driver). Up until the age of 11, the drinking really became an issue due to us losing our house in a fire. My mom is a very hardworking person and has a well-paying job (we all are in private school). I definitely realized that I was raised totally different than my sibling due to the fact they cuss and have really bad tempers. My dad is seen as a deadbeat to my mom, and they have a lot of fights around us usually about little things like how he build something, etc. These fights usually contain cussing etc. my little siblings usually get involved which I hate so much. I'm really trying to be there for then and help them be kids like I was. Drinking is an issue on my mom's side of the family, she has had multiple family members die from liver failure. I really just want to leave the environment I'm in, I feel like all of this is really hurting me now and will in the future. I've had most of my relationships ruined due to my behavior which I have due to observing my parents. I don't want to be like her and have an unhappy marriage, and I don't want my kids to be like us. I know this is out of order but its my reality and I really just want advice. 

So my family likes to play favorites and my family tends to treat me more fairly than my older sister. She is very outspoken about it and mentions it in front of me but everytime she does i dont know what im supposed to do. Im very introverted and im not good in some social situations so i always come off as insensitive. So not only does this lead to conflict with the family, but she feels a kind of way towards me because it seems as if i dont care when i actually do. How am i supposed to express how much i care for my sister without seeming as if im not being genuine?

Every time I do something, someone in my family starts doing it. Started drawing anime and now my sisters draw anime, play fnaf and now they play fnaf, watching bnha now my parents watch it. I just want one thing to myself. Cus of them, I don't draw often and have excluded myself from all things fnaf and bnha, I don't listen to certain music and stopped watching certain channels. I'm not the type to ever talk and I'm scared of my dad so I'm not gonna be able to tell them anything really, and keeping a secret doesn't work either. 

I have older cousin who gets mad when I mention sports. He doesn't like the fact I know a lot more. He hates it when I mention a historical moment or record. He always claims I'm using Google even though he sees when I'm telling him this stuff im not looking at my phone or anything. I don't get why he does this. He's 11 yrs older than me. Many times I complement on how good he is at playing pool and his job but he can't say anything positive about how much sports facts I know. He says how can you know a lot more than me when your 11 yrs younger. I said I've read a lot of books and a lot research

I bought a white 2006 24 inch iMac on eBay and it delivered today but it's so old i can't install any modern operating system on it... so what should i do with it?