I'm 37. She's 27. She has a degree but has been struggling to find a job for about a year, So I give her $200 every two weeks. Her passion is writing so since she doesn't have a job she started up a blog and she started working on A book. Me and her both have been applying for jobs even jobs outside of her field I have no idea why no one is trying to hire her. She had one job that called her and the job ended up being a scam. Anyways. I was giving her $200 a week and she woke blow all of that money in a day. She said $200 is not a lot of money she said she can spend $200 easily. I was shocked when she left Sephora and only had a few things in her bag and it was $200. She was like " see. Not a lot of money." She was like " haven't you seen those girls on YouTube spending 2,000 at one time in Sephora get real". I've been wanting to have sex since it's been a while since we had sex and she refuses saying we should wait until marriage so I told her "I don't think I should give you anymore more money to make it fair for the both of us then." She flipped out and said I was selfish. She was like " you know it's hard for me to find a job. F*** you. I'll remember this when my book becomes successful. You won't get a dime off my sales," I told her she doesn't need to buy shoes clothes and makeup every week. I will give her money for her phone bill and Netflix. She was like " makeup and clothes are important if I want a company to hire me I have to look nice"  She was like "go ahead and drag me further in the grave while I'm already down and depressed"

Same thing for women bragging about their husbands/boyfriends. You never see  woman bragging about her millionaire model good looks Medical Doctor husband who is a neurosurgeon and knows 8 languages and can play 5 different instruments, but you always hear women bragging how handsome and smart her husband is who works as a truck driver and is 300 lbs and dropped out of high school "Oh wow my husband johnyy knows how to use Microsoft Excel, he's so smart, I'm so proud of him, he's the smartest man I've ever met!" vs. the wife of a doctor and molecular biology researcher who is modifying viral vectors to genetically modify someone's DNA and she tells her friends "Oh my husband is just a regular guy, nothing special"

I am 30 years old woman and I work 60 hours a week just to pay my bills and I have barely any money left over each month. I am single and can't even find time to date because I work 6 days a week and I'm exhausted on my days off and have to catch up on errands and chores when I have the time. I feel like I'm going to die alone because because most men my age are already married and have kids and I never took advantage of my younger years due to social anxiety and never dated in college and I majored in a non-practical major (Anthropology and Theatre double major). I've never had a boyfriend. I really want to have children and get married some day. I just can't even afford to date with my career. I am rarely ever even home because I travel for work gone for 3+ days at a time. staying in hotels paid for by my company I feel like I should have taken my younger years more seriously in regards to dating and majoring in a useful marketable major that offers a steady career with steady hours, don't know what to do because I'm already 30 almost 31

Husband filed for divorce and the entire process from start to finish was 2 1/2 years. During this period we were back n forth working on the marriage and still intimate. I was faithful through it all. He had cheated before during the marriage but while separated I couldn't  prove anything. He is military and so he was living out of state for most of the separation but we met up and he visited often plus we have kid. Divorce finalized Fev 2018, Fast forward one year later (March of this year) while we was exchanging our kids, he tells me he has a 2 year old. Threw me completely off!!! He'd told our kids a few months before me but my oldest didn't say anything because he didn't wanna hurt my feelings. So apparently baby was conceived while we were still separated yet still intimate and supposedly working on the marriage. Actually he been living a lie for the last almost three years and did a good job of hiding it.  So my question is could I have the divorce modified and change grounds to adultery. He clearly had this going on the 2 1/2 years we were separated so the irreconcilable differences isn't settling with me. He sat on this divorce for 2 1/2 years and finally boom it was final. Had I know this before it was final I would have counter his complaint!!!!!!!!!!! 

Husband cheated, then left me and got into a relationship with a new woman. I told him i dont care that he cheated and want to talk to him still.  He said maybe we can be friends in the future. I haven't heard from him since about 3 or so years. I don't at all check his social media or keep up with him. It hurt so much to see him pledging allegiance to this new girl years ago and flaunting their relationship online. I decided to be faithful. I still want him to come back one day, though chances are not high. We had differing life opinions enough to where many couples today might just leave each other.  i adore him and want to be back with him.

I need some advice, (27 years, female) I am currently married but separated from my spouse. Been married for 3 years but together overall for 6 years. We don't live together, but we communicate and see each other often. He is still trying to work on our marriage and give us a second chance.  I've been with my current boyfriend for a year now, yes he knows that I am still currently married. My husband and I decided to date other people, but my husband doesn't know about my boyfriend. I met my boyfriend after my husband and I decided to go our separate ways.  My dilemma is that my green card is about to expire and I run a risk of getting deported. My husband knows about my situation and is willing to petition for me, (we did not get married for this particular reason) but that would require for us to live and get back together. And I would have to break up with my boyfriend, he knows nothing about my immigration status. I don't want to break up with him, I feel like I am falling in love with him. But I still have some feelings for my husband.  I either get divorce, risk getting deported, and come clean to my boyfriend, or I break up with my boyfriend, get back with my husband, and get my status fixed. 

I got married recently, I'm 26 my hubby is 29 and his grandma has been making remarks about how I'm fat or how I shouldn't eat so much, or commenting about how I have a big butt and it looks fake and I should workout so my hips/legs/butt are not so big. I'm 5" and I can't help that I'm naturally thick and curvy. I'm a runner but I stopped running 6 months ago so I gained a little bit of weight but I honestly am not complaining about my weight or how I look. I don't think I look bad, I'm okay with myself and I hear no complains from my husband. I am obviously working on running again once my ankle feels better. So why is the grandma so upset about me? I've only ever been nice to her and this didn't start until we actually got married and she got upset because my dress was too short and I ended up switching to converse at the end of the night since we only had a simple lunch after our courthouse wedding and she also commented how I'm not girly enough or I eat too much. I go to school full time, work part time and my husband and I share his car for now so we go back and forth a lot and I don't have time to look my best this semester, because I got married a month after he proposed, adopted a puppy, am taking 5 classes, and I'm stressed and busy these past few months. My husband reassures me he loves me and I only tell him what his grandma says days later because I feel bad. She's jehova's witness if that helps, I know they're more conservative in the way they dress but I don't think I dress out of the ordinary.

I left a comment on Facebook that said "It's common for single people to be told 'When you don't want to get married any more, you'll meet your spouse .' . If you marry somebody who don't want to get married, that's a one -- way ticket to divorce court ." . One person said I was stepping over the line with remarks like that . If an employer is looking for an employee, he asks "Do you want to work ?" because he wants somebody who's willing to put in the work . I'm looking for somebody to marry, I'm definitely willing to put in the work to have a successful marriage, and I want to make sure the woman I marry will put in the work as well . Am I wrong in what I said ? How am I wrong ? Thank you in advance for your answers .

My husband and I are both 29 and he has cheated on me for the majority of our marriage. He had a baby on me, I caught him with multiple girls online, and he's even locked me out of a hotel room when he randomly brought some girl home and I kicked them out I drove him to take her home and he went to a hotel room and Locked me out. That's was year one of our marriage. In January we will be going on year 3. We have a lot of happy times together but I know the cheating is not over and it bothers me.  Just last weekend he ignored me and came home at 6 am randomly. I went through his phone and basically found out he was I a hotel room doing coke with a prostitute. I went off on him when he came home and his excuse was that he did that because I stayed out all night one time. He was referring to another time when I left the house and didn't come back because he cheated and I had just had enough. He says he did all this because Of that time. When I tried to explain the differences in the situation he says "wrong is wrong" and basically said I did the same thing. But I didn't. I only left home to keep my sanity. I didn't sleep with someone else and do drugs. Now he has decided to sell drugs to make money when really all he needs to do is go to work. I feel like he's dragging me down and I want to leave but I don't want to give up on him. I have a great  job and career and I'm afraid he's either going to give me hiv or get me caught up in something that could risk my freedom

People get divorced ultimately because they don't want to be responsible for taking care of their spouse anymore. However then the court orders you to send a paycheck to your ex every week or month for the rest of his or her life. Which is pretty much exactly what you were expected to do during the marriage. If a husband has to pay his wife alimony payments during the divorce shouldn't she have to pay him alimony during the marriage? Think about this for a moment, you'd be free to spend this money however you want but if you don't work on the marriage you'd have to pay it all back. Or be responsible, keep the money in an account without touching it, give it all back in the event of a divorce and go your separate ways. Alimony as it is now, causes the same type of problems as affirmative action and white privilege. It creates a divide within the community. How do women ever hope to be treated as equals if they have to keep using men as a financial crutch throughout their entire lives? Before their was such a thing as divorce the only way out of a marriage was to kill your spouse. Alimony just creates a motive to go back to those dark old days. How do you expect to be taken seriously as an adult when you collect alimony payments from a failed marriage? Why should someone be allowed to collect more than one alimony check from multiple divorces? These laws are being taken advantage of by gold-diggers and there is no way to stop them. Is there a way to make it more fair?

My mom has treated me like a child throughout my teen years. The nagging was super annoying to me so I'm glad that is gone but now that it's gone, I know it's her way of caring. I would not get certain things I had in the past like the emotional pampering I had as a child. It was all a pipe dream though. We both knew I can't be a child forever. I fed off of her emotional pampering so much that I had no friends as a teen so the emotional pampering may have been the one thing preventing me from making my own relationships. What do I do though? All these years I have been unable to make friends and have thought everyone else is cold and mean. She was my only refuge.  I admit though, if it wasn't for her emotional pampering, I would not have stayed by her side for so many years. So maybe it was hindering my growth. She just knows what I want emotionally and she gives it to me. I see other people's parent though, and they never treat their kids like she does maybe for this very reason.  Is it possible for me to grow up and also receive emotional pampering though? FYI she did nothing to prepare me for the real world. @mmm So you conclude that I'm emotionally handicap from a few paragraphs? You don't know me.  @mmm Seems like you're just using my question as an excuse to exercise your own 'authority' just like many other pieces of craps on the internet. 

I have been with my fiancé for 6 years and he just recently proposed. I am african American and he is Lebanese American. His mother and father don't speak English. In the 6 years I've had minimal communication with them because of the language barrier. I know they have been against this simply because i am not from their culture. I have been noticing that they treat me quite differently than the fiancés that are the same race as them. During engagements they would get them gifts, make an effort to meet the parents of the fiancé by flying all the way to Lebanon to do so. My parents live in the same city as them and they have never made the effort. They have not  offered to put any money towards the wedding as i know they have done to the others. They went shopping for the ring with my fiance but that's about it.  There is another wife that is Mexican and she is married to their nephew and she has told me a similar story of how they treat her badly as well. She told me my fiancés family feel I'm disrespectful and have said several nasty things about me. Mind you i have only been kind to them! I respect their culture and i am very hesitant to do anything because i don't want to disrespect it. A few years ago they actually forced him to break up with me. We have been back together for quite sometime now and we lived together now. None of these choices were mine only his. Now that i know this i don't want to be around people who don't like me no matter what i do. What should i do?

This is assuming these two pieces of information were told to you in the same breath. This is also assuming the source of information is ABSOLUTELY RELIABLE.

My husband and I recently separated. I found pictures he was unknowningly taking of women on the Subway. I was horrifed and when I confronted him with this he blamed me. He said he did this because I made like "too hard for him". I didnt know what to say. I offered to go to marriage counseling with him to work on through this isuse and he refused. Said we didnt have any problems and our marriage was fine. He insted nothing happened and I shouldnt be upset. I requested he leave and told him I wanted a divorce. He objected but later agreed. He packed up his things and left peacefully given the circumstances. Before he left he told me I would regret this decision and he may not take me back if I let him walk out the door. I felt bad but told him I think us getting a divorce was for the best. This was two weeks ago. Now I find out he is going around telling people I abused him. Tell people stabbed him when he actually fell in a sticky bushes, tried to drug him and making up all of these insane lies while requesting large amounts of money from people. It has gotten to the point where his friends are sending me threating messages. I havent told anyone we know about what I found on his phone. I did try to report it to the police but without his phone there wasnt much they could do. I dont know why he is doing this and I truly feel like I never even knew him. I already started the divorce proceedings but what should I do about the lies he is spreading?  Regarding the pictures: he took pictures of womens feet and their legs on the Subway without their knowledge. He had months of pictures and in a few you could see the women's faces. My husband told me it was harmless fun. Its my understanding they didnt consent to being photographed.