Knowing what you know now?

Asking here because I literally have no one to talk to. My husband and I have been dating 3 years (married 9). Recently I noticed he s been acting strange. Before we started (& after) dating he smoked weed and did Coke a time or 2. He smoked weed up until the time he joined the military. What made him join the military was his near death over dose. The whole time I had no idea he was hooked on dxm. I confronted him about it 2 months ago and he swears he stopped but I still find questions about dxm in his search history. He still tries to find legal highs. Now I saw on his history he s been looking at personals on Craigslist and such. He also has multiple email accounts and a secret skype account. He gets girls from imvu and internet sites to email and skype. What can I do about this? Can t talk to him or our parents and I have no friends here

My husband wants space and won't tell me why? He's also pushing me and our 1.5 year old son away? Just from what I know when people ask for space, it's bad. Since our son's been born it's been a rocky ride. During this time his mother was also diagnosed with stage 4 cancer. We also have not had a lot of time together since I started my new job. I feel he's being this way partly because of me. I hurt him...He feels that over the past 10 years we've been together I was mean to him, controlling, I put him down all the time, and made him feel like he was worthless. He also hurt me over the past 10 years with his drinking problem (he's improved and we discussed it already, he is getting better). He's been like this for the past 2-3 weeks, what hurts me the most is that he has barely spent quality time with our son. Just this week, my son barely saw his father, he hasn't helped me in putting him to bed or reading him a bedtime story in over 2-3 weeks. My son is small but he is not stupid, and has been different since he hasn't seen his father as much. I'm hurt and frustrated at the same time. I just don't know why he can't talk to me. He told me not to pry, I appreciate your advice, please no stupid comments.

Just wondering what a married guy's take on this is. I was shopping with my husband when a cashier was basically coming onto him before I walked up to the counter. Do married men think women like this are sleazy?

My ex husband is a complete deadbeat dad since I've filed for child support. Which I had to bc when he abandoned us he refused to give me money for him. I had to have someone buy pampers. This went on for months then i said no more!! Daycare 190 week alone! But his other 2 kids get treated like royalty. He didn't even care when i told him our son was in ER

Does anyone else get a sponsored ad from clear blue pregnancy test? I get it from time to time and I'm scared it's coming from my wife's data base since I'm log into her amazon, most of the sponsored I get are base from what I look at I forgot to say was she already has 3 kids between 16, 8, 6. Her daughter the other day was playing and went to my wife's and said mommys pregnant and my wife said are you crazy, her oldest daughter said she had a dream my wife was holding a baby and my wife said well since I have 3 girls you will be the one to have a boy playing around, my wife's mother months ago was in the kitchen cooking together and said to my wife do you want more kids, and my wife kinda yelled at her and said let me live my life, my mind is far away from that, but a day before this happen she told her mom no

Iv already tried turning the tables and he just acts like he doesn't care. I would never cheat and he knows how important our sex life is. All of a sudden one day he got mad at me over something silly. The next day he said he didn't want sex at night anymore because he was usually tired in the evenings. He said if I wanted it, then maybe 1time a week and it would have to be before I went to work, meaning I'd have to wake him up and do all the work. I almost feel like maybe he's cheating. He got a random call the other day from an ex looking for sex. Sapposadly he hadn't spoken with her in two years and sapposadlt her number was blocked. I don't know what to do. We went from 4 times a week to suddenly not even once.

We have been together 5&1/2 married 2&1/2. He got a new job. Which. 1 hour away he come home 3 am. 7 am. And he hadn t said he loves me since March. 5 th. Then completely Stop sleep sAme bed even sex. Nothing. No. Reason. Why. At all. Then he wants joint custody as well. Which. I provide. Their food. I get them ready and dressed for school am home. With them 24/7. And I buy dipears. And give him 450$ to 500$ for bills I have also gave him. Money several time when he asked if I had it I gave. It. Cause I love him. Says I take him for grated. How. He only. Gives me rides but may buy me something once in a blue moon. But. He wants to eat up all the food that I get for my kids. From wic and food stamps. But. I have gave him 400$. Plus loads. More. But. I take him for grated how everyone says he cheating. Asked all he says hanging with friends and finding him self

they look for Mr right, but it means something different: some sap who can be driven crazy until he takes his own life. then you'd probably take your boyfriend and do adventurous things on his gravestone (that you would never do with your late husband) I'm just wondering how young women are when they realize this is what they want?

OK, flirting is a big word, all she does is walks by him and says "hi guys, haven't seen you for a while" every time in a sort of sexy voice. She makes more eye contact with him than me. I feel hurt when she does this also because my husband sometimes blushes when she talks to him and now if I don't acknowledge her If I don't acknowledge her because I was distracted he tells me "didn't you say hi to her?" or say "bye to her' when he get out. I feel hurt when we see her and she puts me in a bad mood.

Ex fb father of my kids. Messy breakup 8 years ago. Certainly not friends. But I try and stay friendly and nice to him because it's the right thing to do. He is usually nice but has a temper sometimes. He text me earlier when he was dropping off the kids that something was wrong with his tire. Eventually he got the kids to me. Then he text me from the airport saying"after all that, my flight got cancelled" he's got a fiancé why would he complain to me and not her. One day he even told me he was looking for another job so he doesn't have to travel at all. Thoughts?

My mom told me she wanted to divorce my dad near the end of my freshman year in high school when she was dropping me off. I guess the word "divorce" triggered my emotions because I instantly started to cry. They fully split that summer after my freshman year. I'm a junior now and there are moments when I start crying about how my parents aren't together anymore. I should be happy for my mom for taking a stand and changing thing because she was unhappy, but I just miss how we use to be one family where I'd watch movies with them that I couldn't understand so I'd ask them to translate. I hate that my mom tries to avoid my dad but wants to know what I do with him when I get to hang out with him. I see him at least once a week for a few hours, but it's not the same since I live with my mom and get to physically talk to her or hug her anytime at home when I feel like it. I can't hug my dad anytime whenever I'm down. I honestly feel like a stranger and awkward when I'm with him now. It's been two years and each time my birthday comes up I try so hard not to break down when my dad comes to give me a cake because it ******* hurts even though a child would be happy to be receiving two cakes. I'm fearing senior year when I graduate because I know how much my mom doesn't want to see my dad after the divorce but I'd like them both to be there when I graduate or get married. I obviously haven't been coping with the split well enough after two years. I'd just like to know how others felt.

my uncle had brain cancer. he shot himself recently, but it wasn't due to depression from brain cancer, he was married for 30 years. I envy him (for his escape)

how do you feel about it? what do you think about it in general-is it normal for a married man to masturbate?

Does anyone else get a sponsored ad from clear blue pregnancy test? I get it from time to time and I'm scared it's coming from my wife's data base since I'm log into her amazon, most of the sponsored I get are base from what I look at I forgot to say was she already has 3 kids between 16, 8, 6. Her daughter the other day was playing and went to my wife's and said mommys pregnant and my wife said are you crazy, her oldest daughter said she had a dream my wife was holding a baby and my wife said well since I have 3 girls you will be the one to have a boy playing around, my wife's mother months ago was in the kitchen cooking together and said to my wife do you want more kids, and my wife kinda yelled at her and said let me live my life, my mind is far away from that, but a day before this happen she told her mom no

Married for 6 years and divorced for a year and a half. Relationship was never abusive or anything like that. We lost respect for one another because we felt the other failed our expectations. She began lying about everything during the final year. I didn't trust her and violated her personal space (cell phone) and we were not there for each other emotionally. Three weeks after divorce, she moved a new man in. Rebound? Probably. But I was beyond hurt and angry, which then led her to be that much meaner to me. A lot of terrible things were said by both of us. Eventually I gave up and left her alone after 4-6 months. This man was arrested for domestic battery on her. Four weeks later, she met a new man and moved him in. I laid back and left it alone. I refused to be in a relationship until I was healed, although I did have a few dates. She has been single for four months now and says she wants to be friends and maybe see where things could go. She wants to spend time together to rebuild trust and to see if we get along. I'm all for it. I've always loved her and have never been more attracted to a woman. I forgave her and myself and have worked hard on improving myself. She will be kind and sweet and told me days ago that she has always loved me and misses me. But will then ignore me, blow me off after SHE makes plans and it hurts like hell! What is going on here? Is she messing with me? Any thoughts?

Knowing what you know now?

Marry a British girl. @peterr, I will trust my mum before I trust some man on the internet.

A guy at work acts extra friendly with me, stares, touches, etc. I have noticed that if he has his car parked across the parking lot, he will move his car to be parked where I always park as soon as the current occupant moves their car. He does know my car and where I park for sure. Also, the other day he forgot where his car was (across the parking lot) and went to open the other person parked in that spot's car and then realized that was not his vehicle. Why does he have to always park near me?

I have OCD. Not the type where I wash my hands a lot....OCD centering around obsessive thoughts. I have social anxiety because I feel the need to tell EVERYONE about mistakes my husband or I have made in the past. I am an open book. I feel like when I make new friends, they need to know EVERYTHING bad we have ever done. Then that way they can make a TRUE decision on whether they want to be friends with us or not. Almost like, if we don't tell EVERYTHING we are lying, or holding something back. And if they knew stupid things we had done, they wouldn't want to be around us. My husband did some stupid things when he was 20/21. He made stupid financial decisions with the people that he doesn't really associate anymore. Those people still live in our town. I always feel the need to ask people if they know the guy, if he has mental problems, if he is a good guy or not, etc. The guy is weird, and I think that could mean he has a problem. I get mad at my husband for being involved with him in the first place 14 years ago. I always feel the need to tell people the story and hear their opinions. My husband is a good man and is loved by many. He is not the person he was back then. He is caring and treats me so well. I get mad he got involved in the whole situation, made stupid decisions, and had someone cosign that could potentially have issues. What do I do?? To clarify....when I said " I always feel the need to ask people if they know the guy, if he has mental problems, if he is a good guy or not, etc. ", I was talkign about asking people if they know the guy my husband was financially involved with.

say he appears normal and healthy in all other respects? would his lack of experience be a turn-on or a turn-off to you? would you consider dating him, or fear he suffers some sort of physical or psychological problem? what is the maximum aged virgin male you would consider dating before you'd consider it a problem?

I am 40 and happily married. I love to work out and I'm used to being surrounded by good looking men. I pay no attention to them but I do look sometimes but I try to avoid interaction. I've had some guys hit on me and a few have been persistent. Most of these men I meet have amazing qualities. They make me laugh and sometimes, I want to know more about them but I can't. These men frustrates me as heck.Don't get me wrong. I love feeling beautiful. However, it seems more frustrating knowing I can't do anything about these men who notices me. Thoughts?

By non-skinny I mean size 8 and above. Average and over weight. Skinny is Cindy McCain, Melanie Trump, Ivanka Trump, Gwen Stefani, Lori Loughlin, Nicole Brown Simpson, Tiger Woods' ex wife, etc. They all wear size 2 or 4. Here is my list so far of rich or powerful men whose wives are not skinny: Bernie Sanders, Pierce Brosnan, Dick Van Dyke, Bill Clinton and George W. Hillary Clinton is NOT overweight but she likely falls between a size 8 and 10. Laura Bush is a lovely woman and physically appears healthy but she likely wears a size 10. I considered including Michelle Obama because she also wears at least a 10, probably 12 at times but she is not an average woman because she is extremely toned and in above average physical shape. It is not relevant what the men look like or how old they are or what their wives looked like on their wedding day, as many couples divorce whether weight shifts occurred or not. All that matters is that they are rich/powerful, and their current female partners are not skinny. Thank you.

My 18 year old daughter, who is still in high school, wants to have a court house marriage two months before graduation, but keep living at home separately from her husband. She claims she is not pregnant, which I believe. She is just adamant about getting married on the anniversary of her first date and doesn t want to wait for another year to pass. I can t seem to reason with her to wait four months so we can plan a semi proper wedding. The special anniversary date is a Thursday, she s planning on skipping school, parents will have to request time off of work to attend, Grandparents can t attend and are upset too.

I hate my wife! She's a jerk the only reason i married her was so that she can finally get her green card for marriage she used to be my best friend but ever since i married her she became a huge jerk and uses me for things i met her in Canada when i was visiting my aunt we swapped numbers and we been friends for 4 years now. I want to divorce her but i feel bad for leaving her alone in america without having any friends here besides me what do i do? also if i do divorce her will she loose citizenship?

So after a month of dating we went away for the weekend, had a romantic dinner then we went to our hotel room. He undressed me but seemed reluctant to take his underwear off, I turned the light off and we got into bed. I was shocked when I reached for his penis it couldn't have been over 2 inches hard!!! Feel so bad to say this but it won't do at all I can't feel him in me at all, it just feels wrong I'm not into big c oks but has to be over 4 inches to just 'work' No more short guys he'll have to go

I'm wondering why he didn't get me off there. I now go by my maiden name and have moved back to my home country of Australia and it's now been six years since the divorce. He left me for the girl he married.

the husband is young!(30s) I can't live like a monk, what should I do?

My wife is 24 n I m 39 n she goes to pub to hang with friends. I ve noticed a while back she takes a lot of selfies of herself (though she "may not show to anyone else") should I be concerned about this?

My wife talks dirty to me when we have sex. She says the f word a lot. I wouldn't think as young as she is she would say such things. She's only 26 I never heard her say these words. Why would she do this ?