As a cashier or whatever, I don't need to constantly hear "shes ugly." from anyone. Some guys will wishper to their friends or some girls have the nerve to say "she is so ugly." and make from of the way I speak. Like you're there for food, stfu and go on. Seriously cut this crap out. That's why they say fast food workers get treated like absolute dirt, customers equal low income trash

There is a couple people in my life right now who I wish to not be close with for personal reasons. I still like them as people, I just want to be distant friends. I'm not going to say it outright because they're going to take it to heart and probably not want to talk at all, which is not what I'm aiming for. You know those people you were good friends with for a while, but then gradually grow apart from and now just once in a while bump into each other and say hi? Like that but in person and over text

I'm a 33 yo girl. In 2005 my friend died in action in Iraq. After couple of years I put my life back on track,went to college,graduated,got a job,got married and now I'm a mother of 2. In 14 years though I never really lost the guilt about him. I cannot help but think that when we were seniors in high school he confessed he had feelings for me. I loved him but just as friends. We still went out often. It' not like we cut contacts or something,we would still see each other every day. He had told me he would stay in our small mountain town only for me but since given the fact that I didn't become his girlfriend he told me he had no reasons to stay in our small town. His dad had passed away during our senior year of high school,so when we got our diplomas he enlisted in the Marines. I drove him to the greyhound station. That was the last time I'd see him. Now that I live in another state when I come home I just can't go to see his white headstone,I feel kinda guilty. I know that I didn't love him so I couldn't tell him that just to make him stay but perhaps I might have waited and give him a chance. After all his dad had just died few months before,perhaps he wans't lucid enough... I don't know,I don't really dwell much on it but now that I'm here in my state visiting fam I just thought about him and wanted a raincheck. Advice? A Yahoo User: I don't think I have a survivor's guilt in the classic form so it would be hard for me to look into that: After all he died in combat in Iraq. I don't feel guilty that he's gone whereas I survived. I was never a Marine nor in Iraq so that doesn't really apply to me

I went to my high school class reunion and this beautiful woman came up to me and hugged me and said I never got to properly thank you for what you did for me in high school. I did not remember who she was and what I had did for her. She told me I had talked her into going to college instead of getting married soon after she got out of high school. She said if she had not gone to college she would not been able to have the wonderful career she has had. She ask me if I would join her and her husband for dinner so she could express her thanks. At dinner her husband said he also wanted to thank me for convincing her to go to college. If she had not gone to college he would not have met her and they would not have got married. She then said "You didn't recognize me did you". Slightly embarrassed I told her I didn't recognize her when I first saw her. She said that is understandable. I had a face lift and a boob job. I was at a loss for words. Ladies, what should I have said? I couldn't say nice boob job with her husband setting there next to her could I? Gals (and husbands), please give me some advice on how I should have responded? THANK YOU.

This woman cared a lot about me. During 2017 we met and we had an amazing work connection. She pushed me to be better. She defended me behind my back. She gave me many advice about my work. She inspired me and believed in me. The end of 2018 I had to change jobs so I did not see her much. I stopped by to see her and she asked me to hang out. I freaked out because I was going through a very difficult time in my life. Middle 2019 I had to leave my job completely so she told me how bad its for her to see me leaving and she asked me to please stay in touch, she even tried to help but did not workout. I just disappeared. I am going through a lot right now, I am unemployed, don't know where my life is going, I am starting therapy which is something I cannot afford I just try to go every 5 weeks or so. I have a very bad family situation. Very bad financial situation. Like everything just fell apart in my life and my mental health is not helping. I really feel like even though I do miss her since she is the only person in my life who never betrayed me and was very loyal to me. But I feel unable to establish any friendship right now. Like what would I tell her if I contacted her that my life still a mess. I don't want to burden her with my issues because I know that she is the only person I know that would care. Am I being a bad friend?

He got the news about 6 weeks ago about his childhood friend. They didn't hang out as often the last few years but they were still good friends. They saw each other a few times per year. During this time it has been very stressful and he has flown back and forth several times. Helping with the funeral arrangements, being supportive to his friends family, wife and kids. I know it's been hard on him. But I think he didn't have the time to process it. He has been so busy that he never quite emotionally understood what happened. The other day he turning in bed and couldn't sleep. So he went to the couch. He had his headphones on, watching some pictures and videos of his friend from when they were kids. I could see that he was crying. He has never cried in front me. I didn't know how to react. I wanted to go up to him and hug him but I didn't want him to feel embaressed. I don't know how to react during these situations?

My boyfriend and I have dated for a year. We sre in our mid-20s. We have a great relationship, although it had hit a rocky place a few months ago and we had to stop it, he was going through a very hard (mental) time in his life and needed time to himself. Nothing bad happened with us, we have a great bond and relationship, he just needed time to get into a better place...  A month later he got back in contact with me and worked to get back together with me, doing all he could to work on everything he needed to work on. Such as communicating when something is going on or just expressing himself more when he is not doing okay.  We are back together. He is still in one of his toughest times in his life, although he has done a lot better at improving himself and communication. It is taking work but, it's gotten better, slowly but surely.  I have wondered though, WHY, in the worst time in his life would he even think about having a girlfriend? Or even wanting me back in his life when he already has so much stress on his plate? Not saying I don't want to be with him, I love him dearly. But why would he even want a girlfriend right now?  I thought maybe once we stopped dating he would just want to stick with himself and feel relieved he doesn't have to worry about a girlfriend (again, with all the stress he already had). Instead he stuck with himself - got himself into a better placed and wanted me back. I would think, he would have just wanted himself to himself at that point.

I have been getting a vibe lately from a friend of mine that this person does not want to be as good friends with me anymore as she did at one time so I decided to come right out and ask her in an email if my suspicions are correct. I asked her if it was all in my head? Or is she no longer interested in being my good friend. I told her that I would just like to know where I stand with her in regards to our friendship. Was it good that I asked her this? Would you be upset if a friend asked you such a question? Or would you understand? Will choose a best answer

I've been friends with this girl for about two years. We are in the same group of close friends. I've planned to start a relationship with her when we're older but I'm not sure now. We actually used to be really good friends. When she was new here, I was one of her only few friends and she would always talk and text me. After a while, I had a crush on her and she was fine at first but after I made it more obvious, she didn't like that about me, so she quit talking to me like she used to and she avoided any direct contact with me. Currently we are friends again because I gave her space for a few months but I feel like she still isn't a good friend like she used to because 1) she has never gone out of her way to talk to me, even though I do a lot, 2) when I start a conversation with her, she smiles and responds but she doesn't help continue it. Although when her other guy friends talk to her, she always laughs and has a good time. Some things to understand though is she has a shy personality and she mostly hangs out with other girls but if she likes a guy, she will talk to him ALL the time and she will barely talk to boys she isn't interested in like me. I would like to keep being friends with her because she's one of my only few close friends but at the same time, I would feel very good to not think about her anymore because she does hurt my feelings a little when she does this to me.  She is a very sweet person though, she just seems a little immature.

So there is this girl i have been forced to be friends with for 3 years. I have scars from her. She scrapes me and kicks me in the shin. I am in 6th. I have tried to let her down, but she goes crazy. Today I tried to tell her i want her to go away, and i don't want to be her friend. She started crying, and i hate making people sad. But she doesn't support me, and she physically hurts me. I have talked to the school councillor and my parents. But nothing is happening. What should i do?

On Saturday night, literally two days after Thanksgiving, I was hit by a drunk driver on my way home from reuniting with my old high school friends since we were all home for the break. We out to get milkshakes & fries, things we used to do in high school. We're all in college now so I thought, why not go see them since I haven't seen them in a while, right? I've always gone out late, so I really didn't see any danger in going to see them. Well, on my way home, I had to drop off a friend and after dropping them off, I was hit by a drunk driver. It really breaks my heart knowing this happened to me. The car I drive, or at least drove, was the car my mom used to drive while I was growing up and it really makes me incredibly sad to know that car is gone. But, of course, it's just a car and the fact that I am alive and made it out ok (with just whiplash) is all that's important. But, my mom seems super upset with me. She has said things like "If you didn't go out", "If you didn't take home your friends", etc. She did make it very clear that she was happy I was alive and safe, but it just hurts me knowing I did that and her saying those things makes it worse. I get that she's sad because it was her car and we've had it for 20 years and came with so many memories, but I just don't know if how she's reacting is normal. At one point, she's hugging me, making me know that she's glad I'm safe, and the next she's ignoring me. For me, it's very confusing. How should I feel? 

So there's two names (fake) : John & Lilly So john is my friend and before him and lilly started "dating" they were friends. Lilly, while they were still friends, had a boyfriend that we didn't know about. Lilly "caught feelings" for john and they started "dating". Not even a week had passed when someone told john that lilly had a boyfriend and was cheating. John stopped talking to her and then a few months later lilly asked if john wanted to be friends again he said no. A year later (today or so), lilly has been trying to befriend john but john has not given an answer.. I asked him why he said that he's contemplating on whether or not he wants to be her friend. He told me deep down he kind of does, because before all of that happened, they were good friends.. but he's not sure. He is nice to her, followed her back on ig, but he's not sure at all.  If you guys were John, what would you do? Befriend Lilly or no? If it helps, John does not claim Lilly and will deny that they ever went out or messed with each other since it wasn't real John doesn't always talk to her though. He's nice but he doesn't talk to her like have full on conversation and tries not to make eye contact

So my friend and i have been friends since 2016 and met in first grade and recently me and him got in a fight over something stupid and he blocked me on my email so i made new emails to reach him and he kept ignoring them and not replying so i asked my friends to ask him why hes ignoring me and he said he doesnt hate me he just doesnt want to talk now

A few months ago I began hanging out with someone that I had a bunch of mutual friends with. To start I will say that I always considered myself straight and have had numerous girlfriends. Me and this friend became really close quite fast and I consider him my best friend, we do almost everything together. I always felt like I wanted to be around him more than any of my other friends just wasn't sure why. It's been a few months and I'm starting to think I have some serious feelings for him and I don't know what to do about it. He has a girlfriend and I'm just getting over a serious relationship. We are both very affectionate people so we hug quite a bit, something I typically wouldn't want to do with guys on a regular basis but I look forward to his hugs everyday. He is very touchy with me he always sits next to me and sometimes will cuddle a little, he plays with my hair and my hand, he will kiss me on the head and says he loves me a lot. I definetly have feelings for him and he definetly does things that are very uncharacteristic of stereotypical straight guy friends, but all of my friends have no doubt he is completely straight and he does have a girlfriend. Is it too risky to talk to him, I don't want to ruin our friendship because I care about him but at the same time I feel like I can't properly function because I'm always thinking about him. I feel like he acts in a very affectionate way towards me but I just don't think he has feelings for me! I'm just so confused!