So yesterday I told him that I'm gonna be a little busy today and that I might not be able to see him. I then told him I will after I get everything done. Today i went to get my Christmas tree, and afterwards me and my mom were going to visit my grandma, my moms mom at rehab. Right before we were on our way we heard she was being rushed to the hospital again and so we quick visited her at rehab for 10-20 mins before she had to leave. My mom is staying there probably until later tonight and she wants me and my dad to go grocery shopping. I told my boyfriend that I might now not be able to see him bc I have to go with my dad. He got pissed at me saying the story has changed so many times bc he was excited to see me. I told him that my grandma was not supposed to be going to the hospital today it was a last minute thing and I told him it's life and not everything is going to be how you want it. 

My parents always complain when I get drive thru food for them- "it's cold, why did it take you so long?" Usually I drive straight from the restaurant home. The places are 5-15 minutes away. Every once in awhile I get gas on the way home if its cheap enough (takes under 5 minutes more). They are always blaming me for the food being cold. How can I make them happy, but at the same time, stop them from blaming me? "It's cold, you're selfish for getting gas" (it literally adds like 3 minutes).

The other day I got home from work and my gf:s brother was visiting. They have some issues within the family now and I prefer to stay out of it. I let them talk in peace. After about 20 min they start screaming at each other. I ve never heard her talk like that before, to anyone. She calls him a degenerate f**k-up, he calls her a dumb c*nt. They just scream and hurl insults at each other. I would never allow another man to speak to my gf like that. However, this is her brother. I know they have some family issues, they have a history together, and they are not always on the best of terms. I go in there and try to defuse the situation. After a few minutes they calmed down. But how do you react when your girlfriend is having an argument with her brother?

on thursday/ friday my dad walked by my room when i was geetting ready i had no pants on or shirt on just my bra and undies anyway he turned his head and looked while i was getting ready i had a rash or dry skin of some sort on my thighs i had my pants bearly up it was not pass my thighs i was like i better scratch the irrated area before i put my pants on so i did and now i have no privacy what so ever we went to Walmart today and it was cold I try to bend over a little to get warm my mom walked passed me and hit me in the face with her shoulder and I told her you hurt my mouth and she said oh and then she start being mean and everything and my dad to I ask if she was ok and everything he gets mad and says you keep asking questions over and over and over again not my fault idk how to communicate very well.  my dad dont like toquitos and i wanted one and my mom said the rest is my dads and my dad looked at me then looked back at the computre and says theres other people in the house that needs to eat its not all about u well u said u don't like taquitos and I got upset because every time he had said it to me in the past it took me back to it and I start to cry and he did not notice it so everything the had ever said or done is still haunting me I cant stop it hurts so much. HELP ME!!! IDK WHAT TO DO? am 18 btw and they never appoligze to this I have hit people for no reason at all I've been depressed and I tried to behave am not allowed to close my door at all parents dont trust me ive tried to tell my mom how I feel and she tells me she aint getting into the middle of it and she told me I cant get a job unless I got a vehicle which I dont and if I talk to my dad bout it he just going to get mad and blow up at me so it dont matter 

I have OCD, I just got tested to see what level I'm at. But all my life I have had to listen to my mom say that everything I do is weird. And sometimes she makes feel terrible about my "rituals". She says what I do is disgusting and makes her feel like she walking on eggshells. But I cant help it. But sometimes what I do, even if it does not hurt or effect her, she sends me to my room, or she gets angry and keeps me from doing things, or curses at me, which causes me to retaliate and display the same argument about me not being able to control it. I really don't know what to do because her doing that and having the argument and keeping me from going outside or doing things I wanted to do (in today's case go skateboarding) causes me to cry and go insane because of what she says to me and she threatens to call the cops or have my dad pick me up when im in my room crying and angry when she caused the situation. Most of the times though, its not even caused by my OCD, sometimes my hair looks messy or im wearing the wrong type of socks and she says I have to stay home until i fix it, and I cant fix the sock problem because i cant find more socks, but she says im disgusting and embarrass her and look like a homeless kid. It makes me feel horrible and go into "a mental breakdown" according to her. My whole family except my dad and grandpa thinks im mean to her. I dont know what to do with her and she threatens to call the cops on me? I dont want to go to jail. What do I do with her? epfokasfokaspefo This was a repost of a question on r/advice that i didnt make. I just wanted to help the original poster by asking other people on a different platform. Answers will still be taken.

I got a call from my former mother in law Pam asking for my help moving programs and data from her old computer to her new one. I really liked her when I was married to her daughter Lisa so I agreed to help her. She offered to pay me but I told her I don't charge friends for my help. Much to my surprise about a week later I got a call from Lisa asking me not to help her mother any more. She said her mom should be calling her current husband for help, not me. I told her that I would have a hard time not helping a friend that asked for help. About 6 months later I got a call from Pam asking from my help again to get her computer up and running. I told her about what her daughter Lisa ask me to do. Pam said Lisa had told her the same thing and she ask Lisa's husband for help with her computer and he fouled it up so bad it would not boot up. I went to her house and fixed her computer problem. I am having second thoughts about helping Pam again. Am I going to cause Pam a problem with her daughter or is her relation with her daughter none of my business? What would you advise I do in the future? THANKS.

She said we'll see which usually means no. She hates him as do my sisters but I don't. They pressure me for not hating him since it's all they talk about. My parents divorced 5 years ago cause he lied about money to keep my mom from getting angry.

My sister abuses me and so I feel hurt by this. Chrone's does cause involuntary abuse for years prior to discovery and beyond. I have not seen that on any symptoms lists. It is like blaming OCD and Autism for the horrible Sandy Hook tragedy. It's an insult to all who have these conditions. So how do I stop caring?

he has visitation only. My 5 year old hasn't seen him since September and his father called and wanted to pick him up today... my son doesn't want to go I even had them talk on the phone he wouldn't change his mind.. this puts me in a tough spot because he won't give me a reason why he doesn't want to go but is firmly stating he doesn't want to go... what do I do? I have sole legal decision making sole custody all his father has is visitation nothing set for specific days 

My boyfriend/baby's father talks really bad about his other baby's mom. He says things like she's a nothing *** ***** for living in "the hood" with their baby and she's a whore for sleeping with other men. (Which I don't know if that's true) but he did get her put out of her last home and she invited him to the one she's in now. (Stupid move on her part) but He's also staying with me, gambles a lot and asks her for gas money ($15-$20 or he'll ask me. I'm the one telling him when to talk to his baby's mom or go see his child. He's barely around him because he's always up under me. Plus, I'm having a kid with him too. (Which was a mistake). I just don't know what to do! He said he'll be around our kid but he leaves the house for hours and don't come back until dark I'm the one paying all of the rent. 

I mean in this day and age now there's contraception available etc.  I'm 16 and have one older sister and we've never done anything as a family, my dad works full time and my mum is a housewife. We don't get any Xmas presents and no pocket money never have done. I've had a part time job since I was 14 to pay for my own school stuff and clothes so I won't get picked on. We never spend any time as a family, have never been on holiday. I don't get why my parents had me when they never spend time with me and don't encourage me. My mum is always mad and says we can't afford anything, it makes me feel bad about being here. At school recently the teacher asked us all what we are doing for Christmas and when I said nothing staying home every day except working because we have no money she said that is really bad. All my other classmates are seeing family or going on holiday and think I'm sad. I don't understand why my parents had me when we don't do anything together, so am asking here why do people have children?

My step dad is a total jerk and thinks that the way he treats me is fine. I definitely isn't. I'm only 14 and my real dad lives a long way from where I do. So I feel like living there would be difficult because of where everywhere I go.  I am way to scared to hit him when he hurts me, I am even too scared to talk back to him. My mum doesn't know because I am too scared to tell her. I don't know what to do.  Tbh I would like to go to my dads for a long time so that I can stay away from my stepdad. When I mean a long time I mean like a year or something, but my mum wouldn't let me because she knows that she helps me with school, and I agree. I caught my sibling playing computer games when he wasn't supposed to, so I went over and said that he shouldn't really me playing them. So he turned the computer games off, and then my stepdad comes in and looks at the history. Because my mum isn't around, he grabs me by the neck and literally drags me to the kitchen, and I can't tell you how much it hurt. He then tells me off because I was apparently the one who made my sibling play games. Wtf.  I am left crying in my room and so badly want to die when he does this, i just can't do anything about it. Any support or ideas on how to help would be great.  He says that if I don't get at least 70% in my practice exams or he  will pull me out of school. I literally just started GCSE year and he doesn't understand the difficulty of it because he didn't do his gcse course. I struggle to learn because of the way I think which makes it harder at school.  He works for IT and expects me to do really well in it, but I only took it because I enjoy the program. The only thing is that I have a shitty teacher for IT. I don't know what to do. 

This distant family member asked a brother where I am cause I wasn't in a picture and he could have asked about anyone in the family but he doesn't care to talk to me...why ask my brother where I am if you don't care about me? To gossip? He hasn't responded to any of my messages and ignores me so I don't get why he would ask my brother that...

So I can avoid taking my anger on my parents and be away from them and somewhere to cool off.

His sadness is due to the loss of his father recently and I don't know how to help, please let me know if you have an idea of how I could help him.

When I video called my baby's father he was sitting on his other baby's mom bed. Then he said that they were on good terms. I said, "okay" just hurry home.". I don't know if they slept together or not but he did tell me that he was stopping by to see their child. Is he using me and her?

I'm 29 years old and my parents divorced when I was a baby. Both my mom and grandmother have talked trash to me about my dad since I was a kid. To this day my mom will spend several minutes talking about him anytime we talk. Anytime she finds out I've seen my dad for holidays or just visited she tries to give me a hard to time about it.  I'm not saying my dad is perfect but I'm frankly tired of hearing about it. I told her awhile ago that I was tired of hearing about it and asked her not to say anything about him to me anymore. She got offended and accused me of being disrespectful and ungrateful. Is it disrespectful this disrespectful of me and what advice do you have?

My boyfriend and I have dated for almost a year. We sre in our mid-20s. Our relationship hit a rocky place a few months ago and we had to stop it, he was going through a very hard (mental) time and needed time to himself. Nothing bad happened with us, we have a great bond and relationship, he just needed time to get into a better place...  A month later he got back in contact with me and worked for us to get back together , doing all he could to work on everything he needed to work on. Such as communicating when something is going on or just expressing himself more when he is not doing okay.  We are back together. He is still in the toughest time in his life, although he has done a lot better at improving himself and communication. It is taking work but, it's gotten better, slowly but surely.  I have wondered though, WHY, in the worst time in his life would he even think about having a girlfriend? Or even wantvme back in his life when he already has so much stress on his plate? Not saying I don't want to be with him, I love him dearly. But why would he even want a girlfriend right now?  I thought maybe once we stopped dating he would just want to stick with himself and feel relieved he doesn't have to worry about a girlfriend (again, with all the stress he already had). Instead he stuck with himself - got himself into a better placed and wanted me back. I would think, he would have just wanted himself to himself at that point.

My 5th grade sister only wants to play with kindergarten girls because it makes her comfortable. The school doesn't let kids play with children more than 1-2 years apart. Even the principal told her that there's a 2 year limit when it comes to who she's allowed to play with. Lots of schools have rules where they try to make kids stay within their own age category (no friends more than 2 years apart). My sister keeps wandering over to the kindergarten playground. I know she's socially awkward for her age though. 

My parents cant admit they do anything wrong. They take everything so to heart. That is something thats just normal in my culture that I have to suffer through as a first  gen teen. I had a fight with my mom today because I was at a high school conference, and her and my dad forced me to get out of the car. They refused to drop me off where everyone else was and told me to suck it up when I said I was the first one there. I had to walk 15 minutes to get to where my group was. I cried because the whole time they were yelling at me. I was finally having fun and told my mom to pick me up at 10 when everyone else was leaving. She kept spamming me so my phone would die, begging me to come home earlier, and i finally agreed because my phone died and I was left stranded anyways. She later made it seem like I wanted to leave early, when I said 3 different times I wanted to stay. She kept going on about how she makes so much "sacrifices" for me. She starts cursing at me in another language and blocked my number. Every time i try to have a civil convo about how I feel she slaps herself. I just want to do what everyone else gets to do. My dad just thinks im really bratty. I cant live in a house knowing my parents feel this way towards me. Im thinking about living with my aunt. Should I?

I'm an unemployed mother I live with my child father and his mother for 6 years now I didn't work year 2019 because I wasn't in the country for some time but straight to the point anytime my daughter grandmother comes in the house she always finds something to complain about even saying how dirty her place is when in reality it's really not as what she makes it seems cause my daughter goes to school so u know she hardly home during the day and I'm hardly home either cause I always come home around 1pm then go get my daughter at three but this lady keeps finding faults at home and then said in an argument one day that she and her son is not here everyday I am so I'm supposed to clean the house now if you go to work everyday and come home eat sleep **** that means your home everyday so why do I have to be the one to clean the house everyday now tell me isn't she taking me for a maid knowing that her son also pays rent for both of us and I ain't obligated to do everything in her house 

Let's start with when her son was 17.  Her mom met a man online and gets engaged a month later, not realizing he's a con artist.  Within that month... 1. He moves in with she and her 17 y/o son who he verbally disciplines for not having a job, even though he graduates soon. He speaks to him like he's spoiled and not doing anything w/his life, since you can legally get your working papers at 16.   2. He's a college professor and a lawyer, but stays home all day until he takes his fiancee's car to pick her up from work at bus stop. 3. Her son is depressed, and she let her fiancé accompany them to therapy session. He tells the shrink, "This man has never had a job in his life" and continues to put him down, making her son cry. She just sits there and doesn't defend her son. But the shrink politely defends him, "Well, he's only 17." On the way home while driving her car, he looks at her pouting son through the rearview mirror, giving him a "don't test me" look. 4. He says that her son's last name will be legally changed when they get married, and that his new last name will be on his high school diploma. 5. He's a widower [whose wife died in a car accident] with 2 daughters, but his fiancée never met his daughters/family, or at least saw pictures or spoke to them on phone. 6. He tells her how to raise her "spoiled" son, such as suggesting she change his Facebook password every Sunday so that he'll only have access on the weekend and can focus on school, which she obliged. Prior to this, when he was in his teens, she constantly yelled at him due to his horrible grades in school.  Her constant drinking triggered her temper and judgement, which was evident by the fact that he wasn't a problem child (NEVER got suspended/expelled, stayed out of trouble).  So it's possible being a single mom with a stressful job and no man to help raise him and pay the bills, drove her to drink, which made her impatient with his learning disability.   In her defense, she spoiled him rotten, as he's her only child. If he becomes snippy with her as he got older, is he unappreciative, or did her mistakes (con artist who talked down to him while she never defended him, and drinking) make him that way? Is it not really fair for his friends and family to talk reckless about him behind his back ("what a spoiled brat!" and such)?  In her defense, she spoiled him even though he was a lousy student, but does he really deserve the ridicule when his mom just stood there letting her "fiancé" belittle him?  Perhaps that's the cause of his anger issues with her, as well as his smart mouth.  To many, he's the bad guy, because men who disrespect their mothers are monsters.  But what about the backstory?

The cousin's parents don't like her (their own daughter) however the daughter reciprocates and is mean to them and her sister as well and ignores her brother. Of the 3 sets of grandparents I like my grandmother and want to keep her happy, the other two can handle their own fight. So how do I do this? Another aunt has turned on all.

The reason I chose my dad over my mom is because he for one would never hurt me.

Im listening to christmas music while decorating my house, who else is excited? have you decorated yet?

Me and my child's father have a 4 month old son together. We were never in a relationship but we were friends with benefits on and off again (I guess you can say) for a little over 10 years. It was mostly a sexual relationship which I was fine with. We just didn't care and stopped using condoms. I ended up pregnant. He didn't attend any of our son's appointments when I was pregnant and didn't show up when he was born. A month after he was born he came to my house and saw him one time. We ended up having a sex. I honestly think that's all he wanted. After that I didn't hear from him for almost a whole month. Fast forward, he reached out to me but we argued. I just feel like if you can a month without seeing your child then you don't give ****. We argued and that was it. Fast forward to another month he recently reached out again. The first thing he asked when I picked up was if I was laid up with someone. Not even ask how his son is doing or anything. I hung up and he continued to text me and call me. He text and said he wants to be in our son's life,ask if I had a man now, asked if he could come take care of his son and help me with bills. I blew him off once again but now I feel bad. I want my son to know his father but I think my child's father only comes in and out when he wants. A part of me wants to just move on with my life. I have did everything on my own and my son is just fine. but then I want him to have his dad in his life. What should I do?

We had our first time together she was a bit worried and strange afterwards and asked me if what we did was wrong. I thought about all the things I could say but eventually I said that as long as we love each other, it's not wrong. I kissed her hrad and she hugged me. But her question made me question a thing. I never thought of the love I feel for her as something dirty or wrong. Then why does she think so of it? She was holding me tight and asked me this question, as if I knew all the answers. 

Due to my job we have to be apart for about 2 months, then I have a break of 2 weeks and then again on deployment. The truth is that I miss her so much and the longing has been so tough that it feels like a tightening on the heart. I daydream all the time about her if I eat something or before going to sleep. While on duty it would be really dangerous if I thought about her but her memory is always in the back of my mind. I miss everything of her, her face, smile, lips and skin, the smell of her chest and the scent her just washed hair. I miss her head on my chest and her arms around my back, the way she smiles like a child when she looks at me, I miss her innocence and her love, the sound of her voice, the way she is everything for me. And of course I miss when me and her...when we make love. I miss her body. I know I shouldn't say it but it's like this, I miss every single thing about her. Some days I'm so desperate I want to cry but I can't because I am a man and I have this job which is more than a job it takes everything even your thoughts. When she calls me and I hear her crying saying I miss you I cant stand it anymore it's just... I dont know if I should be happy or sad because she's hurting. Everyday it's always about drugs, human trafficking, injustice and people complaining about the government. She is like the light at the end of the tunnel, what keeps me alive in this mess. Am I madly in love or am I just suffering from abstinence?