Why don't all husband's realize that their wives give birth to extramarital affair babies? When a husband is at work, the wife skips work for the day, and rides the husband's best friend's dick on the marital bed. Why don't husband's realize this?

My mother in law has been living with my husband and I for three almost four months now rent free. She doesn't have a job. We recently moved and she gave us $100 to help. She wants to be paid back but I don't think we should. She hasn't helped with one bill or anything since she's been here. I think the least she should do is give us the $100 and not expect to be paid back because my husband and I are basically paying for her every living expense. My husband got her a job where she works but she claims she can't find her ID and she doesn't know how to get a new one. My thing is she always finds a way to get alcohol and other things from her boyfriends.

My mom has been with him for a couple of years. They are married. I have never trusted him.. I know he isnt actually in love with her. He always whispers things under his breath about me and my brothers. He is mean to his actuall son. I just dont trust him. He always started at me and is completely different when my moms not around. What do I do?  I get a bad feeling when thinking about him. We have never got along.  I also have bad anxiety... and am very paranoid.

Do you guys ever feel alone. Although your here with your kids. My husband works a lot. I'm great full but I'm home with a 2 and 6 month old and we're down to one car at the moment. Lives hrs away and don't know anyone where we live. He works 2nd shift and sleeps till he wants too. When I have a moment to talk he always wants making our kids laugh. I know sounds awful but when I do try to talk he never listens. When I talk to him about it he gets mad and says " god forbid I wanna talk and hang with my kids" making me look like the bad one. 

Something like their pregnancy. or they're getting married... Or they are getting a job promotion. I got nothing. I have nothing. So why do I need to congratulate others who have things that I won't ever have.

Here are the obstacles, someone help me trample them or get around them or resolve them. Special needs 17 yr old son. Won't do his hygiene without force, won't do his online school work without force, won't do chores even if paid or forced, won't get license or leave the house, won't get a job, won't make food (eats junk food), talks to himself in the mirror rather than make friendships (he has PDD-NOS so he has social deficiency with no ABA therapy to help since he doesn't qualify without re-eval of autism), and he argues when you give him advice (like me only worse). Special needs 18 yr old daughter. Cannot make phone calls herself, can't get license due to anxiety, wants to be left alone and be her own authority figure but doesn't want to pay room&board to exclude herself from family, has PTSD from previous family and argues with anyone that triggers her, gets jealous very easily and doesn't consider autism a reason for special treatment, very manipulative to get her way, will do chores if asked but holds grudges when others don't do it too, tries to keep to herself but also gets lonely and complains she has no friends. Special needs 13 yr old daughter. Honestly she's the easiest of the 3, she just needs to deal with her emotional reactivity when things don't go well. She eats her feelings and is currently overweight and is also in online school so she doesn't get out of the house much. Refuses to do chores because she doesn't make messes like the other 2. Any ideas?

So we've been having a rough time in our relationship. He doesn't contact me much, he goes DAYS without speaking to me. He treats me like absolute crap most of the time.  This time around after 4-5 days of him not contacting me he calls me just to simply tell me he's getting a divorced. I asked why and he got mad saying it's none of my business (he was mean when he said that). I just don't understand why he called me to tell me that if he just gonna say that to me. I didn't contact him the day after that phone called and he texted me that morning asking if i seen his marriage papers & that he's getting divorced... basically accusing me of stealing Them knowing damn well I didn't. I told him to F off and let me know when he finds them.... he found them 5 minutes later.  That made no sense & I started thinking he just wanted me to know once again he's getting divorced. Well I started messaging him smh I should've stayed strong during no contact & moved on but I didn't..... that day he got divorce but now he doesn't wanna talk to me. He's blocked me on everything. He's had her stay over for the past 3 nights when she never ever sleeps over his house (they didn't live together) ...  I just don't get why he kept texting me during no contact that he is getting divorced then treating me like crap & still be invested in her after the divorce. 

He could be flirting with as many as 20 men and after your cellphone. After he borrowed your husband's cellphone he will exchange it to a bad one.  That is how he makes money on your husband besides applying credit card fraud and defrauding all your accounts.

My father in law has nowhere to go. After his wife died, he was kicked out of their home for remodeling and is now bouncing back and forth between my husband's (older son) and his younger brother's home.  He used to be part of the KKK.  I'm hispanic and he can barely stand the sight of me.  He can't stand his young grandchildren (who are hispanic but look white)  If they want to play a song for him, he tells them "no i don't want to hear you" He has spent the last 6 months in our house and will not talk to me, barely utters a sentence to his own son during the day.  He shits everywhere, he knows he has fungus on his feet and most of his body, but refuses to shower.  He will pick his scabs and purposely leave the blood scabs on the table. He spends all day watching TV, waits for us to come home to feed him, but doesn't utter a word. Yet when his younger son calls, they have the longest most complex conversations!! BOY does he sound loving to him.  Yet with my husband he sounds like he's using him he's only a means to an end to him.   When he goes to live w/ his younger son, he NEVER calls my husband.   We are going to throw away the mattress / antique bed frame and carpet that he sleeps in because of his lack of hygiene. Oh and he has bowel incontinence, if he shits himself, he makes my husband clean it up, EVEN though he is perfectly capable!!!  He has noooo respect for our home of any of us. It's a long story, but my mother in law's side of the family pretty much left him in the streets.  They said they were remodeling, but they now use that house as a family vacation home. She died in 2017, and he is now left bouncing between sons.   After getting rid of our (his) furniture, that will be our sign to him that he is no longer welcome to come back!!  

My mom will never admit fault, will blame everyone for her problems, and then pretend like there's nothing wrong, after a horrible argument.  I try to resolve things with her, but she pretends like nothing ever happened or hangs up the phone, which hurts a lot. She and i have had an estranged relationship for at least 10 years now, but i try to keep the peace for the sake of my children keeping a relationship w/ their grandmother.   About a month ago she said she was going to divorce my dad (married 40 years).  Yet the entire world knew she was going to leave him, EXCEPT for my dad.       She then flipped and said she wasn't going to divorce him, which was a relief to all of us, she even looked happier.   Yet 1 week ago she left him!  She practically cleared out hers and my dad's house... left him without talking to him.  She had ALL of this planned out, while she pretended she was super happy and not going through w/ it. More so than her leaving, i feel betrayed that she plotted for 2 weeks to leave my dad, i feel betrayed that she lied to us and that the entire world knew about her intentions EXCEPT for my dad. I do love her and i worry about her, but I can barely even talk to her right now.  The most conversation i've had with her are 1-word responses to her questions.   I cannot spend more than 10 minutes at her house.  I don't feel my children are safe around her.  Any chance of peace between us is gone!   Fine leave my dad, but why scheme like that????

What does that suggest about her nature? Are those acts related to modernism? How should a husband react in such situation?

My wife and I have been together for 18.5 years and both of us still value productivity over each other's feelings (I assume it's because our parents invalidated our feelings as a kid) and I don't see it changing any time soon without some good advice from you guys since she's too stubborn to go to therapy with me and work this out (couple's counseling as just one person is just normal therapy, nothing can get done with just one person). She wants me to come home from my 40 hours a week job and clean the house, fix everything broke, take care of the animals, take care of the teens (no they can't take care of themselves, they are special needs), and then have time to put everyone to bed. I want her to come home from her 40 hours a week job and take care of the teens, take care of dinner, take care of disinfecting stuff, have enough time for exercising her body, and tending to my sexual needs (sorry, I'm a dude and I want to reduce my prostate cancer risk by ejaculating 21 times a month). Neither of us have the energy to do what either of us want. What ends up happening is: She cooks and I tend to the teens. That's it. And that takes all the remaining energy from us. We're not that old either, we're in our late 30's now, so we should have more energy/strength than this but this is all we have. We are perpetually exhausted and we have chronic stress that never goes away. That and we have climbing debt because the kids are needy. How do we make feelings matter at this point?

I notice older women are much more likely to go after men they desire than younger women, who shy away from introducing themselves to men who are single, good looking, highly educated and rich (such as young good looking doctors, or young tall and handsome lawyers)

As we all know it's tax season and this year I have scheduled an appointment with my mom at H&R Block where she works to have our taxes done. The problem is this. The appointment time I selected conflicts with his work schedule so I told him I would just go ahead and sign the taxes for him. My husband seems to have a problem with me signing for him on our taxes. It's like he doesn't trust me to sign for him. He said that that's not it. He works for a medical company and he says that all day long he gets calls from women calling in for their husbands and when he looks at their accounts and realizes that the wife is not a contact on the paperwork he can't talk to the wife and must speak to the husband, the patient. He says that when he speaks to the husband the husband has no clue about what medications he takes or even his doctor's name and that frustrates him because the wife has been "taking care of everything" until the husband has no clue as to what's going on and he doesn't want to fall into that trap as a husband. I feel like he doesn't trust me because we don't have a joint account so if we do get back a refund he's not going to know exactly how much. He told me to go ahead and sign my portion of it and just have my mom save the paperwork in the system so that when he gets off work he could go by and sign them. Or he asked why I didn't schedule the appointment for a Sat. when we're both off. I just want to get them over and done with. This will be a one time thing but he said that everything always starts with a one time thing.  I sign for him this year then next year I'll use the excuse "well, I signed for you last yer so what's the problem this year?"  It's like he doesn't trust me.  I'm sure that wives have been signing for their husbands for years and years when it comes to their taxes but he doesn't want to be in a relationship when I do everything for him.  What's his problem? No, I don't have legal power of attorney to sign for him but if my mom doesn't have a problem with me signing for him, and she works for H&R Block, why would my husband have a problem with it?  Again, I feel as if he just doesn't trust me.

OK so im autistic and adhd so this stuff flies over my head and is confusing and I also have a tendency to overthink. So i've observed how women being submissive to there husbands was a common thing in the past, and now it is kinda faded away. But yet its still here, in a contemporary sense. Many women are still submissive to there wives, maybe not the same way but you can still see it happening at least subtely. So I see alot of women being "accomodating" to there wife, or in pop culture a man like kissing his wife to calm her down shes mad or something, which I find to be really sexist, you can just kiss someone when there mad at you, what if shes mad for a legit reason and hes like "oh ill just kiss her to calm this crazy ***** down."  I fear talking about this with people as they will be like "stop will ur being offensive you ened to watch what you say" or the "no im not submissive its just accomadation its not ur confused will u dont get it" or someting. it sucks cuz they are like super ******* on me about that whcih is perosnal and i wont get into.  So are contemproary, or modern era women submissive and in denial bout it (2000s,2010s,2020s), women my age (19) teenage girls and older women (20-30) middler age (30-40) are all include