Basically.... he's been married 2x so far & he's only 27. He is so quick to make the decision as well I noticed. The first time he was going overseas to his home country & wanted to divorced her & kicked her out the house. He hasn't been overseas since then. He got married again... he never once mentioned getting a divorce with her but now that he suddenly is going overseas again he wanted a divorce with her. Why is he like that?    The past few days she has been staying with him at his house (they didn't live together & she rarely spent the night). I find that super odd considering they divorced . Is it normal for them to just now wanna get close like that ? I have a feeling he's gonna be more invested in her than our relationship. He's gonna be concerned about what she doing & be jealous if she's with someone else.      He seems like the type to make a decision fast without thinking which is kinda scary. I mean he told me he loved me after 2weeks of knowing me for god sake.    Before anyone asks I was unaware he was married until it was too late. 

My husband and I are going to try soon for a kid, but when we talk about it, he only wants to have a daughter. Why does he only want a girl? Whenever i ask him, he just says it's because he's always wanted one.. Thanks i'm advance!

Is the wife treating him like "seconds" and "inferior" compared to her exes whom she submitted herself fully?

Ok so me and my ex husband got a divorce 1 year and half ago he had affair on me we have 2 boys together they have broke up and he just got married to someone a mo ago I went over to drop our boys off his wife was at school it was his day with the kids and he had his ring off I asked why and showed him my ring and told him I never take it off then he start to flirt with me and take it off Then my debt card feel out of my pocket and he got it I was trying to get it back and I notice he was getting aroused I said really and he said it was totally normal cuz we have been married befor I told him it wasn't cuz we are both married now I did tell my husband cuz that who I am I felt like it was wrong just wanted to know what this meant on my ex husband part 

All best friends of wives have betrayed them with their best friend's husband. Why are they so trusting?

I wouldnt mind marrying a super highly smart man... But its not a requirement. My ex was like that but everything else about him was out of alignment with my goals of life and we ended. But gosh golly gee darnit chipmunks. I wouldnt mind melding brains together with a super intelligent very smart minded guy. He had that intelligence 'spark.' Perhaps it is hard to describe but kanye has it too. I could see it by looking at them. But anyway theres way more to life than being smart. Its not enough to be worthy of being with me

And the registration of the police for example of the penal facts .since the spose is not kept under arrest since trial why do they harress with the trial ?

Should I tell her that her problems are just that HER problems like she does with my problems? Or should I tell her that I'm not going to work on the solution to the marital problems until MY problems can become a marital problem as well? TL;DR version: My wife disrespects my problems with her and says they aren't important but every problem she has with me gets resolved so what am I supposed to do to fix this going forward? Do I stop resolving her problems with me or do I tell her that I won't do any more until she starts fixing the problems that I have with her first? TL;DR in this case means "Too Lazy; Didn't Read". I know it's supposed to be Too Long; Didn't Read but y'all are lazy f'ers so I used the term obscurely

While the husband will have to watch. Is it modernism?

i will be honest and say i recently had to check myself on focusing too much on women and hooking up.Cheating on my wife via hook up apps and constantly searching for my next one has taken me off track of my person goal as well as taken a toll on my mental health.I get it..adultery is wrong and i except responsibility for the negative energy im putting out into the world and feel guilty enough.How can i focus on family and goals and somehow "tune out" my lustful mind.

I don't know what my mental illness is but from a psych eval test I just have ADHD and GAD so there's no reason my sexual dysfunction could be caused by anything mentally other than mind over matter stuff but the point is I don't enjoy having vag sex any more. I was circumcised as a baby so I have hardly any friction when I have sex (but I do like that bacteria/virus protection of not having skin flaps) so the only way I can ejaculate with my wife is through a lip rubbing bj or anal (something she said she will never do again due to her being a germaphobe). I'm not sure what to do though because she hates giving oral, so that's left me to basically masturbate until she is feeling up to going down... On another note, I am tense and stressed all the time now. My body never rests and I feel unable to relax. The only time I do relax is during and after receiving a bj. When we have vag sex I can't finish because she's too wet (no friction) so it stresses me out and then she won't give a bj because it has her wetness on me. I just don't know what to do, I don't want to take up smoking or drinking or getting anti-depressants to relieve my chronic stress and adrenal fatigue but I think I might have to if she won't help me. I know it isn't her "job" to help me, but for richer and for poorer and sickness and health; I just feel like she could be doing her part like I do mine to help her with her disorders...

I got a call from an attorney's office that they were probating the estate of my former husband Bill's grandmother, a person I really liked and admired. They said she had left me $400,000 in her will. I was shocked. She had told me I was in her will when I was married to Bill but I never gave it much thought. I thought there must be some mistake so I called Bill and asked him about. I thought perhaps she forgot to change her will when Bill and I got a divorce. Bill assured me that she loved me VERY MUCH and she wanted me to have the money as did he. He said that I had given her a lot of happiness during her life and I deserved the money in her will. Bill said she knew about our divorce but that did not change her love for me. I got another surprise when my current husband told me he does not want me to take the money. He says it is "tainted" because it is coming from my ex husband's family. I told my husband that this transaction HAS NOTHING TO DO WITH HIM. Bill's grandmother was my friend and she wanted me to have the money and I am taking it. It will provide me (and him) with a life time of financial security and he is going to have to accept it and get on with his life or else. Did I make the right decision in this matter? Gals, what would you do in this situation? YOUR ADVICE PLEASE.

picked up your kids at school in that condition? I truly believe she drove them home drunk. She has had problems with drinking in the past, she even lost a job over it. However I thought she was improving and managing, but now I don't know. This may be the first time in a while, or it may just be the first time I noticed. The sad part is even if I ask her I don't think I trust her enough to believe what she says at this point anyhow

We were close to her family despite serious scandals. 

My brother is recently going through a divorce. They have been married for twenty years. My soon to be former sister in law, had cheated on my brother. She had asked for lifetime alimony which she legally wouldn't be entitled too. In the months before his wife finally filed divorce he cashed his 401K and bought my 19-year-old niece and 18-year-old nephew brand new cars, and paid off some loans for his parents. I learned the reason for this is he told he was diagnosed with a terminal illness, and he didn't want his cheating wife to get more than she deserved. She is angry and is asking for their house, rental, lifetime alimony, and the balance in his personal checking account and a bunch of other crap. Of course she isn't entitled to all of that.  They came to an agreement which on paper seems very unfair for my brother. Her lifetime alimony, he gives all ownership of their house to his wife (but he remains financially responsible for the house until she can refinance), and in return, he gets to keep the two-bedroom rental and some meager savings.  But he told me that the only way she can afford the house is from alimony, and the house is valued less than when they bought it. He said that he plans to leave the rental to their two adult kids, and plans to use the rest of the money to take his kids on vacation before he is too sick to work.  My question is does he have to disclose that he has a terminal illness?

I'm a stay at home wife and never had a job before. I did go to college but I got married immediately after I graduated to escape from my abusive family. My husband is not abusive but very controlling. I need to go to the doctor because I've been having bladder problems for years but I don't even have any insurance. Plus I'm broke. My husband makes good money and I just cook and clean and make sure the house is spotless. I'm so broke I don't even have but one dollar in my bank account. My husband and I do not have a joint account. He decided before we were married he wanted separate. My bladder problems are so mad that I can't sit in the car without having to pee 10 times. I'm constantly getting up to pee throughout the night: anyways about the affair I did stupidly have sex with this man twice once the condom slipped off and second time he was in my raw but only for two seconds and he did not *** inside me because I saw the *** in the condom. I'm still very nervous. My anxiety is so bad. My peeiod is 3 days late I've been feeling Nauseous a couple times. I talked to the man I was having an affair with telling him this and he said that he really doesn't think I'm pregnant but if I am then he supports whatever decision I make  What's even worse is that I don't want kids I hate kids and abortion is now illegal in my state  I'm not on birth control or anything. Me and my husband have had sex a million times and I've never got pregnant because we use the condors right 

My significant other wants me to move half was around the world to be closer to her sister so she can support her in fulfilling her "dream". I don't know what to do, please help me. Thanks in advance, I hope I didn't sound squirrelly.

I recently posted a question about my husband's thoughts about my weight gain and how he doesn't find me sexually attractive anymore. Last night after I went to sleep he was laying next to me watching TV then he turned it off and rolled over. Knowing my husband he likes to play on his phone a little while until his sleep meds kick in. At one point I rolled over and when I saw his phone he was watching some sort of porn clip. When he realized I was watching he quickly switched to something else. I didn't say anything but this morning I asked him about it and he seemed to get on the defensive. He said first of all most people watch porn, especially men and secondly it makes me look bad to be asking him about it. He said that men don't want to be asked what they were watching or even why. He then asked how i'd feel if he just started watching it in the open right in front of my face. Why doesn't he understand that with his comments on my weight the last thing I want to see is him watching porn with some with some young, attractive, thin, fit woman. Was I wrong to ask him about it or bring it up this morning?

Good Morning, So last night my husband told me that he'd got himself stuck in a situation which resulted in What he feels are acts of being unfaithful. There was this women, his known her parents for years. His an boiler engineer and she needed a lot of work doing on her house with radiators etc. He'd go round and do some work, they'd have a cuppa tea and talk. She'd flirt - which his told me about before and that was that. She's with someone too. She started to do the odd little things. Like touch his hand as she passed him the tea, give him a hug as he left. They become friends. We'd argue for a bit and he'd go to hers to have a cuppa. He saw nothing more then just friends. She then tells him she loves him and became obsessed. Kicks her boyfriend out. Telling him to leave me for her. His explained to her his married Etc but that doesn't seem to have bothered her. The situation in question.. he told her enough was enough he had no interest and was finishing the radiator in a bedroom. As he got up to pack his tools away she's dropped her clothing and pulled his trousers down. His pushed her off and asked her what she's doing. She pulls them down again and pushes him onto the bed and gets on top of him. He doesn't know if she's managed to get his dick inside her or not as she was moving about, he pushed her off. He can't give me an exact timeframe or details says it happened all so fast. Can this situation happen? Do you think his covering something. Feeling lost! Any advise? Forgot to add. Once he pushed her off he left immediately leaving his belongings behind. He went back another day to collect his stuff. His stopped doing the work for her

So husband(29) and his Friend (28) have been buddies for some time and know each other before our marriage.Me are hubby are the family oriented type and from what I heard from him, his buddy is a ladies man. Yeh, hes attractive and good to talk to, but there is something off about him and also irresponsible (gets kicked out of his job regularly) and is not settled down. He does hang around with me(26) and husband once in a while, sometimes at home, sometimes at mall and always seems to not care to involve my husband in the discussion.Its almost as if husband becomes passive around this guy. More recently, I got a whatsap message from him, just the normal, hi hello thing.I asked him where he got the number from, and he was like, I asked your husband and he gave it.I said, Oh..ok and we started talking.Also, recently, we went to a fest together with all of us, and it was rush while hubby went to buy some popcorn.So, for like 10 minutes me and his buddy were together and hubby couldnt reach us and he comes back home and fusses about it. PS - I dont mind talking to this guy,overtime hes become my friend aswell, hes quite interesting to be around and talk to.but is it a little bit weird that he asked my hubby for my number and he gave it?. *Was confused by hubbies behaviour, one side he shares my number on the other side, he fusses that me and his buddy went missing for 10 minutes in the crowd.

I have been an assistant volunteer for my high school basketball team for over 25 years. My wife and I have one child and we have been considering a second. She has a lot of anxiety issues and says she has a hard time with one kid that she needs more of my help with the second. She says the only way she would be ok having a second one is if I quit volunteering for the team. I have loved helping them and I really do not want to stop, but she insists that I do. I have tried to compromise something with her but she says there is no compromise with this. Any suggestions?

I am from.romania .i have a file for divorce from.2015 and i didn t get the divirce nor the anulment at the complaint and the file the trial for rape .the prosecution said it was penal case and the divorve is a civil case .i am.exhausted with annulated requests for i donnt know whatcreasons i don t have money to do it printed i was let without money although the rapist became owner of a hotel after he raped be being bribed by masons of government as i disvpvered.i was hit also with a wood in In the head because he was having a purpose to get me pregnant and he couldn t comand this although he was an impostor onnthe putpode saying he is the son of a minister in other to blakmail me and my family while i had a step father . He hit me with a wood in the head and let me pregnamt after this and becamimg married befire my family knowing his family .i never heard such a thing to marry eithout the two families know each other .acvording to the previous king contract this maroage is already anulated..while the court pretends divorving now and i am raped actually even by the previously continuing laws after revolution before this being comunism.where i had an uncle who was actor of movie and theater Who has been in the great national assembly about which i dodn t know it makes rules i thought regarded rights of the people ..rights that haven t bern during monarchy and now actualy i am.harassed if the courts ...and the aithorities after kings and couo d etait  While during monarchy my family was having some local position and uncle s actor father was a couselor in a party at the capital of the country with the king.

Feminine isn't how you dress, it's how you act and most women I notice especially American women have literally no clue how to be feminine. And most women who are truly feminine are older and often times mothers. I notice mothers are much more feminine than single young 20s somethings. They know how to be beautiful, nurturing, kind, and soft. Most 25 year old women are immature, loud, annoying, obnoxious, clingy, emotional, and overly silly. They don't exude calm feminine energy that is sexy and lady like. It's just bubbly obnoxious energy and they dress like whores thinking that is "feminine" I also notice a lot of American women are socially awkward