She wears clothing that like shows off her butt and wears things like tight white tank tops with no bra underneath. And she will look at me like it's no big deal that I'm looking.  You can see everything. Why and what to do? To be honest I am not experienced with women. And I think she had a boyfriend last year but they broke up. She has avery nice body but I'm trying to not be lustful.  I'm being very serious. I am definitely not trolling.  Sometimes when my cousin comes to play games she will go back to regular clothing. More conservative.  Me? Honestly I'm a regular guy. I'm not special in the looks department. I'm not sure if she would even want a guy like me. 

I go to the gym nearly every day, and one other regular comes a few times a week.  At least twice a week, He works out with a personal trainer who seems to train him and another guy at the same time.  That's great. However, I don't get this: 1. He lives a long way away (12 blocks) and his office is in the other direction, several miles away.  So he heads north to the gym, about 12 minutes from home, and then heads south 30 minutes to work.  That seems odd since there is a gym per block and my gym is nothing special. 2.  He comes to the gym and spends about 30 minutes reading the paper before he changes and goes to work out.  The gym is loud and not particularly comfortable. I guess he's looking for friends?  Or why else would somebody do that? When I say hello to him, he has always remembered my name (even after the first time we met) and always makes good eye contact.  So I assume he's up for being friends. How would you strike up a conversation with him?  Would you just directly ask if he wants to grab a drink? People in my gym are all around the same age as me (40s and 50s) and we often work in similar lines of work, so I figure it's good to spend an hour getting to know them.   (Mr. Friendly and I are both straight men.  I assume he's divorced or widowed or wants to escape his wife, but I haven't noticed a wedding ring.) Thanks.

I'm a 21 year old guy. I have a girl on my Instagram page, 19, that I've never met. She lives in my town. Right now, I'm lacking friends and I think she's a really cool person. We have messaged back and fourth briefly and we like each other's posts. I used to think what I wanted was a girlfriend, but right now I think I really need to build new friendships. I want to become friends with her in real life. What steps should I take?

There's a guy I know who I would see around but not talk to in the past, and back then I had a vibe to just stay away from him in the first place. However, when he came to me saying he was friends with my brother, I decided to try and let him befriend me. It was after that I heard some stories about him from others that weren't the greatest...apparently he was inappropriate, rude, and violent, but he never displayed any of that behavior towards or around me. My brother has grown to detest him for his own reasons, but neither I or him know how to back up away from him nicely--and I want to nicely because what if we're wrong about our bad feelings about him and he's simply just a misunderstood person? This person doesn't know about our feelings towards him. Am I just being too judgmental? He's never done anything bad to me personally...however, I can't shake off the uncomfortable feeling I have around him. Should I listen to my gut or try to understand him better?

I'm a guy and I'm 28 and I have a female friend who's 18 or 19. Last summer we worked together as co workers and a couple times she said hi to me by saying my name in an affectionate voice sounding kinda motherly and compassionate and or like an older sister. She often asked me how I am and how I'm feeling or something like that. I caught her looking at me one time. She would smile at me telling me about a trip she was planning with her family, she's shared personal details about her family. One day my finger was hurting but not bleeding and she worried that my finger was bleeding on the inside. I have a learning disability but she doesn't appear to have one and she's also very smart. Is my female friend protective or affectionate 

I've known my friend for 3.5 years. He's older, almost 40 while I just turned 29. He used to be my boss, that's how we met. We used to be somewhat close, at least to where I considered he and his family like family to me. They used to be there for me often and I did what I could to return the favor. We go to the same church (he invited me 2 years ago and I've been going ever since) and things have been different lately. I announced my pregnancy back in late September. His family has never acknowledged it or been supportive, even on the rare occasion that I ran into his wife at church. They stopped going to service or the service my fiancé and I go to, at least, a while back. I miss them and feel hurt that they've been so distant. Yes, we got pregnant out of wedlock, but we don't deserve to be treated like we are strangers now. Should I address this to them and if so, how? Their oldest son was in the hospital for a serious surgery last April and my fiancé and I generously visited and brought a card and food. I would love for them to give the same respect and visit us when we have our son, but I doubt they will. 

I notice very good looking and successful women hardly ever have any female friends 

- them showing me something but when I go to do the same thing they pay no attention  - gets into moods where they do not talk or respond to what I say - makes fun of me but plays it off as a joke - never drives anywhere and makes me - goes into silent treatment if I don't want to do something they want to do - gets mad if I do something with another friend - rarely does anything back for me Should I cut this ho off

*would like to clarify i don't want her to stop talking to her friend, just about her friend. it makes me uncomfortable because i'm jealous of her and her friend, i even told her about the way i feel and we decided that she will stop talking about them but she will still have communication with them which is fine to me, i just don't wanna hear about it. though, she keeps bringing her friend up and completely ignored what i said and it hurts a lot.  is it okay for me to feel upset over that? i feel guilty for wanting her to stop talking about them too, am i being toxic..? i always said im not because i'm not making her cut people off but deep inside i feel like a horrible person-  thank you for helping me if you do, it really means a lot. :) i just wanna be happy with her and not hurt her and i can't really ask a professional about this and i feel ashamed asking friends of mine- 

Sometimes I get into situations with people where I could have said no or not done that thing, but I steady do it because I don't want to disappoint anybody and I have a hard time saying no. This comes with sex, friends, people in my family asking me for money, etc. Why can't I just be mean sometimes and say no?

Me and my best friend of 12 years (we are both 30 now) were always inseparable. I, myself have been feeling a strain in the relationship because it seems that as of lately things have been one-sided. She now lives in another state and I've flown out here several times making sure she was straight while she adjusted/tried meeting new friends. I've used my personal days at work just to fly to her for her birthday and once was a random trip over the summer. When I asked her if she would come home for my birthday, she had an excuse "I can't take days off, etc" When I ONLY wanted her to consider coming on The Weekend (her days off). Although we are both grown with our busy lives...me married and a mom..and her single, but working full time, I KNOW life gets hectic. But there has been a pattern of her going ghost on me and I'm always the one reaching out and it is so draining. I just want us to be as close as we once were but I need the friendship to be equal!! We've had talk but why am I still feeling uneasy about this??? Ironically her bday is coming up and I'm not even sure if I should go all out for her KNOWING she won't reciprocate. And I doing too much? Any advice?

Ive been friends with this girl for about 6 and a half years so shes basiclly my best friend. Practiclly the only one.  And whenever we go out i feel like in the only one talking and shes just staring into her phone. So whenever im quiet she always like "what the hell is wrong with u". Or when her phone is dead but my isnt and im using it she always attacks me for not "talking to her" despite the fact that about 99 percent of the time im the one keeping the friendship going with my silly ideas or just talking in general. I honesly feel as tho she doesnt give a frick about our friendship. Thought?

I was once walking in a line of people, and my friend was a fair distance away from me. He was in a conversation with one other person, and I could only hear my name being spoken a few times. The rest of his conversation is inaudible to me. My friend also caught me glancing at him when he mentioned me. He even asked how could I hear that.

So basically there s this girl I ve been friends with since September. We got very close and spent a lot of time together. However, whenever we talk, she constantly insults and belittles me. Nothing I do is right. She treats me like I m stupid, she insults my academic performance (despite my grades being better than hers), she always corrects me and acts as if I m a small child who knows absolutely nothing. During science class, she kept telling me I was wrong even though I was right. I literally had the facts in front of me and was showing them to her. Since she s super stubborn, she refused to admit her mistake. "Lisa, you re wrong. You re wrong. You re wrong." She said. It started out in a flat tone but then she began to laugh and condescend me, as she loves to do. Eventually I said in a loud harsh voice, "I m right! I literally have the facts right here! I m right, I m correct. I know I m right!" My other friend (who is close with both of us) eventually interfered and I went out of the class with her to get food since we were both hungry. This was all a pretty public display since everyone else in the class was silent. I m really scared and embarrassed. To make matters worse, after class, she began to boss me around again. "go to your class, go to where you need to go." I kinda ignored here and wouldn t look her in the eye. After I left school, I texted her an apology but she read it without responding. I m really frightened for school tomorrow. Help!!

I had a pretty devastating experience that I still don't really understand. I had a mentor in graduate school when I went to a two year art program. Over the two years, I had two classes with him, he chose me as his TA, and I put him on my thesis committee. We had numerous studio visits over the two years. Eventually, I thought we had formed some kind of friendship. During my first year of school, he told me that he saw trauma in my art work and tried to get me to talk about it with him. He seemed concerned. I didn't tell him I had ptsd at that time. At the end of school, after several times of trying to open up to my classmates /ppl in my life in general, I decided to tell him that I have ptsd. I actually told him through an email after I had graduated. He never responded to that email. It was really painful because I thought we had a friendship and I was in the process of trying to tell people in my life for the first time about my disorder. I was trying to become less ashamed and more open. His lack of response hurt my feelings a lot. I am just curious what people think. Why would someone not respond if you tell them you have ptsd? I'm reposting this because someone was confused about how I originally phrased the question. Thanks !