What makes you the "fun one"?  Or is that your spouse?

How do I cope with this? I was madly in love with my boyfriend who just so happened to be a millionaire and a professional athlete, to move to Europe to start a business that I thought I was passionate about but I was naive and thought starting a business would be easy, and I failed miserably. Now I have to move back home with my parents at 30 years old and have nothing to show for it, any advice? It's been 3 years since I ended our relationship and moved overseas, my ex boyfriend is now in a relationship with someone I'm a dual citizen in the country I started a business (if you're asking how that's possible)

He's forgiven me 3 yes for cheating. I believe he probably cheated too and that's why he managed to forgive me a lot. I can't imagine my life without my husband but like every 6 months I have a new interest I have a new guy I'm obsessed with. I don't know if it's because me and my husband fight every day or because he's been my only long term partner. Ive been in lots of short term flings but this is my only long term relationship. I prayed and wished for a stable guy for so long so why do I finally have someoje stable and now I crave excitement. My husband is a good provider but kind of boring and I haven't been able to catch em orgasm the entire 4 years we have been married. I did sleep with another man who I became obsessed with but I also wanted to see if it was my husband I couldn't get an orgasm with or if it's just something wrong with my body. Also in the very beginning of our relationship my husband was emotionally abusive so that might be why my attention is always elsewhere We also barely spend time together because work is more important so I'm just like forget it I'll just let the relationship die 

Ladies, lets face it.  Getting all bent out of shape over a spouse cheating is a small blip in the grand scale of things. Think about it.  A vegan only complains about "meat is murder" because society has made things easy enough that there is plenty of food to go around.  Now, take all that food away, the vegan will eat meat or whatever other food item is available.  I guarantee. Another example; if you're busy fighting off zombies in the coming zombie apocalypse, and you happen to get some side action, is it really that big a deal? Bet you be glad to see your dude made it to live another day instead of freaking about a little side action. You follow me?

Husband is 1 in. taller than me and 200 lbs. I am 5'9" and 150 lbs. Last year he needed ski pants for a trip we were taking to the mountains and so he tried mine on, thinking a small womens would fit him. He couldn't even get his leg in, duh! He even had the gall to say I couldn't fit in them either. So, I tried them on and they fit perfectly. I've had these pants for 15 years. So today I was looking for a jacket online for work. He says he has a jacket that I can wear. It's a large mens. I tell him it's too big, but he insists I try it on, knowing it's going to fit me great because I wear the same size as him! Uh, no, it's too big! I reminded him about the ski pants and he still says I couldn't fit in them even though I did and can. I wore them for a week in the mountains in December and I weigh the same as I did when I was in high school. I know this is silly, but it's just annoying he can't figure out I'm not the big mama he thinks I am. People at work always compliment me on how thin I am, and he thinks I'm the size of a 200 lb. man? How can his idea of himself and I be so distorted?

Suppose your violent wife/husband was physically assaulting you.

I am seriously considering divorcing my spouse for irreconcilable differences. We have different goals for our futures and other stuff.  However I do have some debt that he does not know about at this point in time and I would really rather he not know about it if we are getting divorced. If we were going to stay together I would absolutely  tell him but since we are ( most likely) divorcing I just would rather keep this private. I know it's probably super weird!!! It's just how I feel. My question is am I able to keep my debt private drone my spouse if I don't expect him to pay any of it?? Or do I have to disclose all of my debt to him???  *** Question is supposed to read "Do I have to tell my spouse about my debt in a divorce? 

I was married to my previous partner for years. But we broke up and I decided to change my name back to my maiden name. i had my name changed before we married but I ended up changing it to his. But since I reverted to my birth name I have been trying to get a divorce going. Sadly my ex isn't answering and the courts ain't helping.. Is there a way to marry legally? I was under a different name before we got married. does that count in anyway of needing a proper divorce? been looking for advice but haven't gotten anywhere

That's why in divorcing his *** because he refuses to work!

So I've been married to my wife for about 4 years a now and I'm starting to get really annoyed with my wife's negativity towards everything and me. She always seems to see the down side to up and complains constantly. I'm a positive person and see the up side of down but its really starting to get to me. I just noticed my wife never says anything good about me while talking to family or friends.  With the constant negative comments about me she makes over time to people they are starting to look at me different now. I'm not a bad person though I constantly tell her I love her and try to be the best person I can be and do things to show my appreciation, but she never seems to tell anyone about the good things. What can I do to fix this?

Describe them My crush at work has nice curled eyelashes and dark hair and hes black and dark skinned. And hes soo freaking tall oh my gosh. He has muscular arms. And nice lips xD Every time i see him he looks better and beter like a greek statue

My step kids don't say anything when I tell them I love them, but they do when their dad says it. I'm upset about it. Should I keep saying it or wait until they say it first? I've known them for 2 years. Should I mention it to my husband? They are 4 & 6. 

How is it determined truly how kids are determined if they go with mom or dad. Because I've seen many situations and it's just like I don't understand how or why the kids end up with one parent over the other.  Like for instance I understand like most of the time the mom gets custody I'm told.  Would that be the case if let's say I stay in a better environment for the child, I have a higher income,  and I live an drug free/no alcohol lifestyle. Then I should gain custody before my unemployed girl, who may not live in such a stable environment. 

Or do you just restrict sexual activity as the marriage fails, causing some two-thirds of husbands to seek out sideass. And when do you start compromising? A) Immediately in the relationship; B) a month or so into the marriage; C) after you've pretended to be all about the sex and gotten what you wanted; D) really late in the marriage, after the kids are out, and you realize he is going to leave you.

In a previous question, I had a responder that asked me to elaborate on what exactly are "womanly duties". Do I really have to explain, or can't you guys guess?  Or maybe every woman has a different standard or definition for these. SO, what do womanly duties mean to YOU?

Do people cancel medicaid because of marriage?

changeMe and wife have decided to divorce but unfortunately we still live together until we return to the states in jun she has already moved on with another man and has been seeing this man for three months today she asked if I would get her oil changed I told her no why cant your man or you do it an I wrong for not wanting to help her

I have 2 little girls who are 3 & 6. I had been with my ex fiancé through most of my pregnancy with my six year old and until she was 2. We had some issues that came up for majority of that time that led to our relationship being unstable. We went through a break and during that time I became pregnant with my 3 year old. The biological father of that child wasn't who he was when we were kids and had some drug issues I didn't see. When I was six months pregnant my ex fiancé and me decided to give it another go even though I was afraid we would have the same issues which we ended up having and I went through some emotional abuse being in the vulnerable state of just having a child and unable to be independent immediately. My ex fiancé and his parents have always been consistent with the girls and visit them regularly after our relationship ended three years ago. I have since remarried and got fixed so cannot have anymore kids. I do not get child support from the biological fathers even though the cases are setup but who they know as dad has clothes for them at his house along with supplying what they need when they visit with him. My current husband I just married last year has mentioned wanting to adopt them but doesn't want to step on non bio dads toes but think if the girls call him dad he should be paying me monthly child support. His daughters mom does nothing for her and she is 12. Every time I bring up holding her accountable he throws my ex fiancé paying in my face. 

My wife passed away 6 years ago giving birth to our daughter. I haven't had an interest in dating at all and I've always felt very guilty about trying to find another women. My daughter is 6 years old now and is in kindergarten. I've felt like maybe it's time to get out there and date again. I still can't help but feel a little guilt. I'm also concerned how women will react when I tell them I'm a widow at 32. They might be turned off by this. Is it ok to date again? Will it be strange? Will I ever feel love like I had for my wife? Will I ever move on? I'm hoping I don't love someone else more then I loved my wife or I'm not "glad" she passed. I've heard people say that years later that their significant others passing was a blessing and that they wouldn't have met their new husband or wife had their previous spouse not passed away. Has anyone dated after losing their spouse? 

My husband and I have been together for 5 years.  For the first 2 years our sex life was great, had it's occasionally dry spells but nothing more than a week or two. We had fun , we were spontaneous. I didn't have to beg, I mean it flowed.  Fast forward 3 years. No sex, barely touches and the extremely rare occasion (once every few months) he sees me naked and we have a quickie. He gets off, I'm left in the dust to take care of myself later on.  I've tried therapy, he won't do it. I've tried getting his t levels tested. That's normal. I've tried getting him to seek out help for depression. He won't do it. I've tried changing my look, he doesn't even notice and that doesn't increase his appetite. I've tried lingerie, worked once years ago. I dress cute and sexy he don't seem to care. I've even suggested open relationship to get sexual satisfaction and he can't do it. He says ; "he can't live with knowing another man ****** me" I told him he could seek sexual attention elsewhere. I've suggested maybe a 3some. He ain't having that either.  I've tried talking with him, asking his preferences, asking what I can do to help. I've cried , pleaded, withheld, initiated, not initiated . Tried date nights. No luck.  Every other man in my life fancies me and flirts with me, even his friends. I'm a young, attractive, intelligent and confident women. But my own husband doesn't notice. Why? What am I doing wrong?

And when the husband whom she herself chosed to marry complains, she says that its not a big deal and its her right and her choice, with whom she willsleep with on wedding night and also after strucking of IPC 497  adultery is not a crime, so as she has not commited any crime then why should she worry...also when the victim husband talks about divorce then she refuses to divorce as there is no evidence of her cheating. Then what can the husband do? Will he get divorce the next day or will he have to waith for 6 months to 1 yr as per law to get divorced.  And even if he gets divorced after some years will he still have to pay alimony? Also, what if her exes openly come to the husband's house and says he will sleep with his wife, as she hasconcent, and also its not a crime, so in that situation what can the husband do? Because till they are not divorced, the husband's house also belongs to the wife, so she too can use it as per her choice amd cant treat her exes badly...as otherwise instead he willbe punished by law. So, in such hypothetical situation, will the poor husband simply watch other men enjoying with his wife openly in his own bedroom without any fear? Also, what if she gets STD's from him(ex) and passes it to herhusband now after marriage? What can he do? Simply suffer from STD's or die? And how is he supposed to deal this as collecting evidences is not that easy practically in India, specially if the wife is very clever?

Ok hi. I literally am so curious about something and I REALLY want to know if it's possible..😂 so my husband and I live in San Diego, CA. He is turning 21 this year in June! We're very excited and wanna celebrate it on a night out on the town (I mean obv we're in this big *** city) ... but I'm only 19 and that REALLY SUCKS because I know it's not legal to drink anywhere. Does anybody know if spousal consent is a thing in CA? Like if we went to a club, or somewhere fun would I be able to drink with him?? If not ... does anyone know of good places to party for a big birthday in San Diego or LA? 🤷🏻‍♀️🤷🏻‍♀️🤷🏻‍♀️ just tryna celebrate with my mans ok thanks

I can understand cheating on these wives who let themselves go and then some.  I  mean, if you take a look around and spot a married broads and your initial reaction is "Godaaaaaam!" but not in a good way.....ladies, this cant be good. But yeah, is it justified to cheat if the wife isn't a porker and is performing her womanly duties quite well?

I'm planing on relocating I'm in the Uk down south and would like to relocate up north to be nearer family. It would mean getting a different job, and obviously some where to live.  At present I live with my other half, but our relationship has really run its course, been together for 14 years, but never married , it's his house so it would mean completely starting from scratch.  Where do I start? Thank you. 

He bashes my religion and my beliefs and thinks I'm the hateful one about his beliefs. Not true. I gave him my opinion on gay marriage and he started basically bashing me. I may not approve of it, but I'm not going to mistreat those who are. All I know is that I'm not the one being hateful and disrespectful over people and their opinions.  He man handles me in front of the children and out in public. I hate being man handled and my children don't need to go around doing his perverted behavior. Not helping me with the children like he should. Having my daughter has made my body ache more than it used to. I just need more help some days than others. I just find it to be disrespectful that everything is left up to me. Heck, he wonders why the children don't really want anything to do with him. I even find it disrespectful that he messes up, up to 6 dishes a day and doesn't clean up after himself. If I use dishes and stuff, I clean it up and put it up. I can't even get him to do any cleaning for me. He says it's not his job. I feel like a maid and not a wife. No wonder I get an attitude with him about cleaning and caring for the children.  He is a good husband to an extent, but he needs to get off the computer to be a better father. He needs to learn he isn't always right and people are aloud to have opinions. He needs to learn respect is earned, not given. I make sure my babies have everything they need. I may be a stay at home mom, but have you had a toddler with ADHD from hell? It takes longer to get stuff done and constantly recleaning the same area so other stuff gets neglected. 

My wife is 6 months pregnant she has a bad headache. How can I make her feel better ? 

What was it and how did you react/feel?

My gf has stretchmarks everywhere on her body!! They're on her arms, hips,behind her knees,sides of legs, calves,thighs, and even near her vajay! I feel so bad for her. 

The other day we went on a boat ride. The guy who drives wanted to fill the fuel in his can he asked me to help him filling the bottle while we were ready for the ride. I got down from the boat to help this guy my wife was saying not to help him let him do it but there were nobody to help him except me. I got down from the boat and few feet away he was filling the fuel in his can I told him my wife is scared sitting alone the boat with my kid but he said not to worry nothing will happen to them. In a couple of minutes we were done and started riding. I am I wrong here? Did I put my family in danger in this way? Can anybody help clear this. I feel bad myself 

I recently found out the love of my life has been cheating on me, he gave me the "I'll change" "I'm so sorry" spiel. I forgave him but I've been having these moments where I just break down and cry. A few days ago he found out his brother died, so I'm trying to put aside my pain to be there for him and his family right now but it's so hard. I'm still breaking down in front of him and I feel so selfish for being in pain when he's going through hell. I also lost my job for calling out to be with him and his family, so I'm living off of my tax money for right now and I have bills to pay soon and I'm not having luck with job applications right now. Today I finally just wished he would leave me so I could just end it all. As ridiculous as that sounds I just don't have hope. And having to put on a happy face so that I can be there for him is killing me but I'm trying so hard. Does anyone have any advice or just kind words before I lose it

He's in my dreams I can't hardly work because he invades my thoughts. I dream of us having a great life together. Part of me wishes that I would've married him instead of my husband. He's amazing. He's extremely attractive He's family oriented he's goal oriented. He supports my career. And a lot of the times we even finish each other's comvsesation. He's funny he gives me life. He makes me laugh until I cry. Last night I was looking at all of the conversations between me and my ex marital affair man and I swear I couldn't stop laughing. I couldn't stop smiling. And I could delete the messages but I don't want to delete them because they being me some joy in my extremely stressful life. I'll find myself reading the messages over and over again. I fantasize about me and him wining and dining and then ripping each other's clothes off. Me and my husband have never had a bond this strong even when me and my husband first got together we fought our entire relationship and oir entire marriage. We have different opinions on almost everything the only thing holding us together is the love we have for one another. There have been so many nights where I have fell asleep crying  And when he proposed I didn't wanna say yes I was confused I wanted more time to think about it but I said yes even though I wasn't happy or excited. I put on a happy face for family and friends for years  I ended the affair but I didn't want to. I did it because I wanted to do the right thing but I'm so in love with this other man I can't even think straight. I feel like we are so much more compatible. I always wanted a relationship where we could joke around and have fun but then have deep.cpnversations when need be. This guy has ever quality I have ever wanted in a man

I thought I was pregnant because my period was late ( and it was no possible way for it to be my husbands baby because me and my husband don't have sad anymore.) it's hard for me to catch an orgasm and it's hard for me to even get horny in my husbands presence because we have so many problems. My husband is a loving guy when he wants to be but for the most part he's controlling, he's sort of cold, we rarely spend time together, he places everything else before me, he's not romantic. I always feel like I'm walking on egg shells with him because whenever I have a difference of opinion from him we get into argument. He always has to be right and refuses to see someone else's point of view. I'm tired of arguing with him. I'm tired of crying. I'm tired of feeling so alone all the time. My health is going downhill because I'm always so stressed my mental health is goin downhill. I notice I'm always so snappy with my friends for no reason. I'm depressed and lost a lot of motivation for most things that used to bring me joy. Then I started hanging out with and texting my long time friend of 10 years. We started getting closer and closer and closer and I confided in him about my marriage, he gave me great conversation great laughs happiness smiles a great vibe. I was starting to fall for him and he said he felt the same way about me. We talked about a relationship together. We had sex a couple times and it was the first time I caught an orgasm. Our emotional connection was intense And this affair had been going on for months and I actually looked forward to talking to him more than my actual husband. He was a breathe of fresh air  Then I started getting weird symptoms sudden nausea I had never felt better my period was like two weeks late. I took a test and it said negative then eventually I got my period but I called my friend freaking out and I went crazy on him  I was on the phone with him all night thinking I was pregnant and I was stressing him out as well and he said you're not pregnant calm down please calm down"  He told me I owe him one last sex round for going crazy and giving him a huge headache over nothing I told him I don't wanna cheat again even though my husband doesn't treat me right. And he said " you're in a toxic marriage. At least I give you advice, I give you good conversation, I'm there for you, I make you laugh" I do have feelings for my side dude but I want to do the right thing.. I don't know if I should end my marriage or not.

...the time you have to your-self?   After raising 11 children, six from start to finish and, 35 and 20 years of marriage, I Truly appreciate "me" time!   I live in the back of a canyon on 5 acres, last driveway on the left.  This is my Home!  This is my sanctuary, solitude and Peace.  I would never wish to leave here - alive.  However,  when my children come for a visit with (!0) grandchildren, it's a lot to comprehend - overwhelming - to be candid.  I need my 'Me' time before they ever get here!  How do 'you' cope? Please be sincere.  This post is from the heart.  :D

ever wonder what it's like to be with someone else? 

When Bitchez get 'cheated' on, it is because they stopped putting out, and after too long of a time, the guy stopped being able to resist the lack of sex, and so started banging sideass. If anything, the guy was being cheated out of his right to sexual access. Bitchez certainly wasn't being cheated out of anything. Is it because Bitchez fear that the guy will start giving away resources to the sideass? That is all that Bitchez care about, right? When a Bitchez starts putting out for a new guy, trying to trade up, then, yes, most certainly, she is cheating the OG out of his right to exclusive sexual access. I get that. And when can we stop pretending like relationships aren't all about the sex. And fail for reasons that are all about the sex. Knowing a number of world linguistic specialists and their writings, it is well-established that if a language doesn't have a termed coined for a behavior, then it likely doesn't exist. There is no contemporary for cheating. Cheating is clearly about sex. There is no term for say, disagreements about raising children. If that was anything except a behavior, there should be a term for it. Why are people so inclined to avoid linking sexual issues to why break-ups happen? It is really all about the sex. You Bitchez should learnt that b'now.

"Boyfriend" has been divorced a year after it taking 12 years. Ex-wife still lives at house to share bills till sold. House is his as part of divorce division. Also money's still being worked on. She is vindictive and if she finds out he's dating she will start trouble. Why does he think we should have intimacy if we can't be seen together or have little time time together. It took 11 years to get divorce. In the time we have been together we have never done much outside my home. I decided if he loves me he should move things along and we can't be together. He's really ticked at me but I'm done waiting. It's wrong. Can't make him see that his slow mo ways is not cutting it. FYI we are old.  There is much more to story but it's just too complicated.  

Husband seems to find fault with everything I say. He says I am always negative. He was not like this before surgery.  He flew off the handle when I said I ordered a new  soundbar for our TV because the sound does not sound right. He said I never like anything and there is nothing wrong with the TV. We have been married for 41 yrs and he has never been like this.  He has been running to our daughter complaining.  Of course when we are around each other she sees us fight and says we need to sit down and talk to each other. I tell him he is different since surgery but he won't listen . He has also become stingy what is good for him is great but he seems to forget that there is 2 of us living here 

I met this couple in the gym, a similar age as me (they are probably younger) and we all have a good time working out together. I usually end up chatting with the husband more because he gets there a bit earlier than his wife and we also have a good rapport. He is funny and is friendlier than his wife. Sometimes she is friendly, and many times looks through me, so I am not sure if she likes me. (and that's ok). However, I am now in this weird situation where the husband has asked me a couple of times to join them in some events outside the gyn ...but I have not been asked by his wife and sometimes I wonder if she even knows that I was invited. So it is very odd for me to think of hanging out with them. I don't want to keep turning down the invitations and sound rude, but I feel I have no choice. What would you do? 

My husband and i went to Electric forest last year was my 1st time and I loved it was his 3erd year All last year we spend time jumping to see tpain and other amazing DJ the music was amazing and dont get me started on the vibe there was that good we got two tickets for this year only my hubby wants to go walk arould by him self for like a hour or so without me he's the kinda person that loves to enjoy alone time but for me i hate it i love hangout out with friends family alone time to me is boring mostly. Am i wrong for wanting to just hangout with him and enjoy myself too. Everything hes into I'm into so we get what the other wants ethier way I just wanna know if I need to open up and learn to have fun alone and meet new forest family I only feel uncomfortable about it. Like I'm the odd one out please be nice on here to me im not asking to agrue or to piss anyone off I'm just wondering if any of yous go to festivals with your wife husbands and walk away from eachother to shop or watch a show then have a meeting spot to catch up? Do yous have fun? Whats your bonderies

My brother's dating life has been full of drama. Even at 50 he is dating a ****** up woman who is married and been promising to divorce her hubby for three years. My brother is just "the other man", and he cannot escape that. This is not his first. I have been "the other man" before, and I let my female suiter keep me hanging on for a year before I realized that she was never going to divorce her husband.I had dated nothing but trouble my whole life. Only at 45 did I meet the grates woman in the world, who is now my wife.We lost our young sister to some birth defect that lead to hear death at a young age. We also have a half-sister that my father made after his tour in Vietnam. We have never met her. Has the lost of our sisters caused us to make bad choices in female suiters?

Or is this common in couples? They had 3 long term splits and 3 short term splits (one was just for days). Then split 7 was it. They are officially divorced now I learned. Also just guessing I know but why would people be upset with his wife for divorcing him when the talk in the family has always been "they just need to get a divorce"? Why would they be mad when she simply did what they wanted them to do? 

And how they were able to escape from a jumping women like his wife who would sleep with anyone and easily jump to another, and also says how the husband is so unlucky to get such a wife and how his life will be made hell by her and how she would dump him after some dayd and jump to another leaving him to suffer alone like a loser, then what should she do to save her husband in front of them? Should she support her exes or the husband? If yes, how?

As its not a new thing for them and they already saw her naked and slept with her tons of times, then what should the husband do and how should he face them?

While she deeply begs for it and promises not to repeat it. What should the wife do to make her husband forgive? And what should she do to her ONS partner who laughs and makes fun of her husband saying how he(husband) is not enough for her so he(ex) easily got to bang her and she enjoyed with him? Can she save her husband's dignity from her bullying ex?

Me and my husband are married for 14 years. It was never  a picnic in the park . Have two young daughters. He been sleeping on the couch for the past two years. I can't even count the times that we are intimate. Even when we go on vacation and in the same bed nothing . Not to mention he loves alcohol. I just found out I was positive for disease. I told him to go get checked out he did he told me that everything was negative but still never showed me no paperwork I'm confused. Marriage and love is not supposed to feel like this I'm so unhappy looking for any advice or opinions... I just don't know I only have to take care of me and the kids.