He's a great man pays majority of the bills comes home every night doesn't party doesn't cheat ( that I know of), he doesn't hit me but sometimes I look at my life and to think " Is this it . Is this really my life.." I didn't even feel excited when he proposed. I wasn't mad it was just ehhhh whatever. I'm never excited to see him even working long hours and being apart from him. He's a good man he helps me with my anxiety and OCD he's been there for me in the darkest parts of my life but I feel myself desiring more. He's a very dull person he doesn't have a sense of humor and every time I talk to my guy friends I realize just how dull he is. I don't think it's normal that he has never made me laugh ever. I have a sense of humor and I always wanted a man that makes me laugh until I cry. He also doesn't know how to dress and a lot of times wears the same things over and over again. I'm big on style and looking fashionable. Also he's not adventitious he wants to do the same thing go the same places eat the same food see the same people. I crave excitement I don't like being at home everyday he on the other hand is happy being at home watching tv all day long. But the sense of humor is a big thing with me. Honestly and idk I just have a vision in my head about my dream guy I feel like I haven't met my perfect match yet Also I don't have that strong sexual urge with him. There's men I look at and automatically have a desire to rip their clothes off. I want to be in a marriage where I can't wait to rip his clothes off 

It's like so weird like our senses of humor are totally opposite or something. 

He flew into a rage over a huge misunderstanding and did this. My female cousin was there too . Thank God she was or I don't know what would have happened. I filed a restraining order . He keeps trying to get me to drop it. On the order we are only supposed to talk thru text for in regard to the kids only. Me and my oldest have been traumatized. How to move forward from my 7 year marriage .  I have endured a lot from him from the lies and escorts and random acts of abuse. We would fight sometimes but never like this . I know he's sorry and he didn't mean it but he scared me and my kids and I don't know how to recover from that.

The saying goes men are only as faithful as their options. Do most women look to marry and settle down with men who have fewer or no other options? Would you marry a man who every women wanted to be with?

Anybody else felt like that? We met when I was 19 and I'm now 30. And he's a great person but I miss when you're first getting to know a man and you feel those butterflies in your stomach. I'm so used to him I don't even get excited to see him anymore. I miss excitement and thrills and butterflies and being so excited when you get a text or call from them. I miss new love. I don't want to divorce but it would be fun to have that experience with a new man and go back to my husband and then at least I'll know how it feels again I feel myself living vicariously through other couples and romance movies to get my high 

I don't know if I can completely trust him and please tell me DONT get on birth control because I don't like effects birth control have on a woman's body I don't believe in the shot all of that crap is dangerous. Condoms have never let me down and I have been having sex for like 10 years. No scares until I met this guy. He says he doesn't want kids because he alresdy has 2 kids but it's weird how he's not being extra cautious with putting on the condom right. He is 36 but can't figure out why the condom always slips off. I have been having sex for years and years and every man I've been with before him has been able to put it on without it coming off. Idk if he's taking it off without me looking and just pretending it slipped off of what. But I have sex twice with him so far and both times it slipped off. Thank god he caught it before he nutted in me but still scary. Also last night he told me he wanted to do it raw just one time and get a plan b right afterwards. He said it's hard for many women to get full pleasure with the condom on and there is a huge difference between a condom and without. He said they invented plan b for people who like to have fun without getting babies. I had a scare with him a couple weeks ago with my period being late and feeling nauseous but it ended up coming I think it was just stress

He kicked her 21 year old daughter out the house months ago because she was stealing money from him. Apparently she would take his card and rack up all kinds of charges with shoes, purses, makeup, etc. we know she was lazy and didn't want to work but none of that matters anymore. I would do anything to have her mind. I would have rather him kick me out, I would rather die. When you are a mother you will risk anything and everything for your child. The moment she died I knew our marriage was over. I knew I could never look at him the same. We aren't officially divorced but in my mind we are. I look at him with disgust and anger and resentment. I don't want him touching me, looking at me. Everything about him makes my skin crawl. I want our daughter back and it's killing me to know I will never be able to look her in the eyes again. I don't know if I will ever be able to be happy again. I have cried myself to sleep every single night for months. When I got the news of her death I feel like I couldn't breathe. My husband was sad also but he is not broken like me. He didn't shed a single tear when we got the news. She died on the streets she got shot by some crazy man. I hate that man for taking our daughter but for some reason I hate my husband even more. If he never kicked her out none of this would happen.

I married out of my race, I'm White my wife is Asian and it's great, my father is happy for me but, my mom can't accept my marriage. What's your opinion?

I've been having an affair with another man who is nicer and not a total prick who has to be right about everything. All of a sudden my husband has been nicer and even setting up therapy sessions for us/me/him . Watch him go back to being an a$$hole when he thinks I no longer have another man In my life. I bet as soon as I stop dealing with this other man I'll see his dark side again. It's almost like hav ing an affair is making things better because I'm not having to complain so much to him about being understanding attention affection etc

I work a professional job and I'm always freezing. I have to wear big sweatpants and a huge puffer coat in order not to be cold and this is in the summer time also I have goose bumps all over my body and can't focus. Because of this I have lost many jobs because they want you to wear a strict uniform I'm always freezing wearing a blazer doesn't work for me I'm still freezing

My husband and I moved for his job in 2017. I am absolutely miserable here, I do not like the area, the people, the pay. I'm a teacher and my husband and I agreed that in June we would be relocating. His job has already given him the green light for a transfer.  Apparently I'm well liked around town as far as my teaching skills are concerned (was a bit shocked) I got a phone call from another school in the district and they asked me if I was looking for a transfer or to teach 2nd grade. They said someone recommended me and they'd like to interview me if I was interested. The school is one of the best in the district. I would be making more money but I'm just not happy here! It doesn't matter WHERE I work I'm miserable.  My family and fiancé are putting TONS of pressure on me to accept the job and stay where I am. It's gone as far as my fiancé threatening to leave me if I don't accept this job if I get an offer. My mother was the one who TOLD my fiancé to leave me if I don't accept the job!  YES financially it would be much easier on us then having to relocate if I took the job but is it worth my mental health to stay here?!? HELP

Idk if hes good looking and charming or both or just charming. Ugh.

Im a civil engineer and I make decent money. I've been with my fiancé for 3 years. I knew she had a Masters Degree and she told me she was a special education teacher. It came out a week ago that while she does in fact have a Masters Degree it's NOT in education, she could not find work in her field, she is 75,000 in debt after completing her undergrad and graduate degree and she works as a teachers aid in a special education classroom bringing home around 575 every 2 weeks. Money isn't everything to me but I feel very lied to for the past 3 years. I'm really hurt. She told me she was embarrassed and assumed I would not want to be with her if I found out how little money she makes. To be completely honest with you I do think her employment and wage may have been a turn off to me but maybe not a deal breaker. PLUS the 75000 in debt which will become my debt if I marry her. I'm just not sure what to do I love her but she's really not doing much with her life or her actual degree (She has an MBA) I don't know if I should end things or work on things? What would all of you do in my situation? Help

Here you goings: stick·ler /ˈstik(ə)lər/   noun a person who insists on a certain quality or type of behavior. "he's a stickler for accuracy" Bet you're real fun at parties.

And, does the wife has anything to lose? Because shr already enjoyed with others, even got pregnant by him and later got forgiven by the husband and gets to enjoy thr life agsin normally? But ,the husbsnd who was loyal and innocent gets this treatmrnt, and has to bear all the consequences for her choices and also face the humiliations alone in the soceity and also face the other men with whom the wife slept with?

 In such situation, will the biological father laugh at the husband's situation, as he got to sleep with this husband's wife, got her pregnant and also made him suffer with child support, and when he accepted thr child and fully got attached to him, now again he(biological father) took the child away from him and he did'nt had to spend a singlepenny on him? So, if there is such a situation, then what should the wife and the mother do for whose mistakes, her husband's life has got destroyed from all sides, even though the husband forgave her on her continuos apologies and again gave her another chance facing all the hurt and discomfort? Also, is there anything this husband can do or file any case on that biological father for destroying his life from so long? How, will the husband feel in such situation

Part of me doesn't want to but I'm tired of seeing my son wear torn up and dirty clothes and this is a representation of me

At the beginning of 2010 I was working at GameStop (then 27 yrs old) and my new assistant manager was making my life hell. He really badly wanted my job and reported everything to my district manager (who secretly wanted me fired because I was the highest paid store manager in her district). To save my job I regularly worked 50 to 60 hours a week; at the time, I was the only income in my household and there wasn't anything I could do find a new job due to my hours. My wife was dealing with depression though and decided to do things with our kids (then 3 and 7) without me. She regularly guilted and shamed me for being a bad dad/husband so I started to focus less on my job and more on my family; that was how I got fired finally - I made one too many slip ups from sleep deprivation. Not only did I lose my 7 year job, but my identity as well. All I was left with was my shame/guilt/regret of not being good enough for anyone. I ended up in depression and unable to work for 3 years. As a stay at home dad I was a failure too; I didn't have the skills to be an adult. My daughter ended up having 6 cavities (we were poor so she had ugly metal fillings) and my son slipped in school and he might not graduate on time now. And then there's my marriage... She doesn't respect me at all because of those 3 years unemployed and because I lost my job in the first place... I'm just an inferior to her and she shames me all the time... I don't know what to do any more but I has so much regret... After I got a job in 2013 I've been here since but my wife has been in the workforce for 10 years now and she hates my guts. She had her associate's degree (I have no degree) and eventually got her bachelor's and now she's in a well paid position, so the family financials are stable but everything that makes a man a man is gone from me. I make less, I have no adulting skills still, I only have a hs diploma, I make ~1/2 her income, and she shames/guilts me still to remind me that I'm pathetic... Many of you know me as UnderValued. I've been asking for help ever since 2010 when I first lost my job and my identity. Some of you were my only friends, so I posted regularly because I was lonely and scared. I normally post about sex because sex is my coping strategy to all the pain I feel. When I couldn't get sex from my wife any more (again, she resents me) I turned to food... The pain never went away even though the depression did; I hate myself now, but not nearly as much as my wife does. If you go to my profile and go to my asked questions and scroll all the way down to the bottom you'll see I asked questions a decade ago (I just un-anonymoused them). I've been here for 10 years trying to solve this problem but nothing's changed. Not a single damn thing. My wife still hates me, she uses electronics as a coping strategy to stress, my autistic son is coddled by her and is anti-social, I'm depressed, I have no sex, and the communication never improved despite 10 years of advice...

One of my friends told me that one of our other friends told them that he could steal me away from my husband in a heartbeat

I am a 42-year-old male and would like to meet women who are 28 to 35 who are not interested in having children. I like to travel and work as an English teacher overseas and would prefer not to have rugrats around who will complicate things. Obviously if one popped out of the woodwork I would step up and take care of it. I have never really had much interest in children and I think of my teaching as my being a daddy. I like the idea that I get to go to a comfortable home that is quiet. My main interest in getting married is that I want someone to travel with, play games with(PC and Board games), someone who will push me in the right direction, who can share the financial burden of life, and who I can have adventures with both real and imaginary. I figure if I am married but do not have children we can travel as if we were on a honeymoon, it is easier to eat healthy meals, and it is nice to have someone who can hold the line for you when you remember you forgot to buy flour.