Hi, so I'm 30 weeks pregnant with our second child and I'm currently living with my in-laws house which my husband and i have been trying to get out of for about a year now. We do help with bills, groceries etc. But for a while now I've been feeling the desperate need to get out to the point where I go multiple days just crying and crying because I feel stuck here. Now again I'm 30 weeks pregnant and my husband and I are trying to move out before our daughter is born. So everyone knows that when you're a low income fam your income tax refund is much higher than most because of kids, not making enough a year etc. So our income tax refund this year is around 5k, and my husband and I were planning on using that money to pay off debts we have, begin the moving out process and start buying our baby stuff (we have NOTHING atm). But I'm having a huge issue with my in-laws asking to "borrow" money from our refund and they are even counting down the days till we get it... (I quote "borrow" because they did this last year and "borrowed" $500 and never paid us back) I told my husband to please let them know we already planned what we wanted to do with the money and he told me not to worry that he'll tell them but his parents are being EXTREMELY pushy about us giving them money from OUR refund so they can buy a tv, etc when they know we have a baby on the way and need to start planning because I'm 30 weeks pregnant. Am I wrong for stressing about this?

if parents set their expectations too high, they will be disappointed but the lower their expectations, the be happier they will be as well as their kids. childhood only lasts 18 years it should be the most enjoyable part of our lives, not a time focused on our parents expectations

My question is ... What's worse.. a submissive man who stands by and watches his children get tortured by his wife or the wife who tortures them? You really get to know people when you live with them I mean really get to know them. I've lived with my brother my entire childhood both of us were adopted because our mother gave us up. Sad but true. She just kept popping out babies only to give them up for adoption. I believe that's why he seeks out women who are abusive but he needs to break the cycle before his kids end up being abusive as well when they are adults because they might feel like it's all they know. I've already seen signs in the youngest one who is 9 and who appears to have a bit of angry streak. I was taking a bath and they were loud so I could hear as day the conversation. One of my nephews made a mess in the kitchen and my sister in law completely lost her mind. Called him worthless and good for nothing. Then the other day my other nephew pushed him into the car i guess he was tired of waiting but that was completely out of line. My sister and law sat there and laughed while there were tears falling down his face. I felt so heartbroken for him. I got him in a room alone when were back to the house and I asked him about times he felt like he was in danger and he said he was scared to live in that house and was very depressed. He said about a year ago his mother choked him. I was appalled and went straight into the room whwre my sister in law and my brother were I told my sister in law listen since my brother is too submissive to stand up to you this is the last time you're going to hurt belittle or mock my nephew period or I have some numbers on speed time. And I told my brother I cannot believe he would stand back and allow his children to be mistreated in such a way. My blood was boiling and it's still boiling as I type this  My brother told me he is not a yes man and she is not a yes woman and that he's not submissive and I said yes the hell you are. What the hell have you done while you're children are being mentally and physically abused. Don't start crying if one commits suicide because it's too much for them to take. The blood will be on y'all hands. My brother told me that he told his wife to start treating them better. I said that's a bunch of bull. I told him I want to hear him stand up for his kids right now right here where I can see it. Can y'all believe this man was talking in the most timid and soft voice. This is why my sister in law doesn't take him seriously and he gets ran over. He blindly follows her lead even if it means his children are abused. I told him he needs to talk sternly 

A guy from a minoriatian community and from a poor family who fights for freedom, his father died at sea, his mom committed suicide. His sister doesn't want to deal with him anymore since he was arrested, as she married an english man and had a child with him, ans refuses to hide him. He flees and during a long journey he rescues a girl being thrown off her bike. She is an orphan girl who lost her parents tragically and is exploited and hated by her relatives for field work. He helps her, treats her wounds and takes her home on his back. She falls for him at first sight because he is the most gorgeous human being she has ever seen. He never smiles, doesn't talk much, has always sad eyes and sometimes sighs. As he doesn't want to endager her, seeing that she has already her fair share of trouble, he hides his feeling on purpose. She gets mad at his coldness and fights with him. At some point he tells her all the truth. She cries hearing the truth and kisses him multiple times but he refuses her cause he says she cannot be with someone like him.she insists that she wants to be with him.and they make love. Then they flee together, on the ship he is arrested and she fights with the officers to defend him. He is set to war while she is pregnant and alone

Hello everyone. This one is interesting.  I am teeming with so many feelings, it's almost unreal. Where do I begin? Anywhere I guess I'll just start. So my significant others 'sister in law' does things that are very discomforting. She kisses him on the lips. Slaps his behind and over the phone says I love you baby. Wait? Am I confusing myself you may be wondering...no this real. Real. She's quite a bit older than him. She's 50, he's 34. She's known him since he was 16. Does this give means to this behavior? No. He calls her Mom. She isn't his Mom. In fact he has a Mom who's absolutely wonderful and acts like a Mom should.  Okay, so back to sister in law. She will come over unexpectedly, and he will get right up. He won't get up to help me with things, but as soon as she's over it's whatever she needs. Btw, she's a stay at home Mom. And has everything she possibly could want or need. So my significant other who didn't have a vehicle, just guess what! Got a car from them. And she calls frequently to see if he wants to borrow her sports car and motorcycle and help her with taking the cars in for routine check ups because she has the kids and all. We have a nine month old together. And I can't even get him to help me to put on my windshield wiper without him putting up an argument or complaining. So I said to him last night, I don't like that she does that it's creepy and weird and he got so upset! He said that's it I'm calling her this is rediculous. And did! And told her.wow And calls her on speakerphone in front of me. Like I get it maybe this family stuff you do, but talk with me about it. I couldn't believe he just called her like who cares about my feelings? Wow, I'm just like pretty much on the last straw here. I feel like I did the right thing speaking up, but how it was handled just blew me away. I don't like the situation and I guess I'm here to express myself. I am sad. I'm so sorry that I can't make him happy like she can and give him whatever he wants.

I was getting the mail at my house and there's was this package. I didn't know what it was and I didn't look at the label so I open it impulsively. And when I opened it there was a dildo inside! I immediately knew it was my older's sisters. I started to have a panic attack. I didn't want to tell my sister because she would yell at me for looking at her stuff. I also didn't want to have that awkward moment with her. I couldn't just put it back because my sister would know I opened it because I've opened her stuff that she's gotten in the mail before. She wouldn't believe that it came like that. So my brain came up with the plan to throw it away the package so my sister would think it got lost in the mail. I didn't want to throw in away at my house so I went to the dumpster near my house. The dumpster is behind a church. So I ran to the dumpster and the top of the dumpster was open so I tried to toss it in but i missed! the package hit the wall of the church. I thought I heard some voices and I didn't want anybody to ask me what I was doing and to investigate so I just ran home. So basically I threw a dildo at a church. My mind is coming up with all these scenarios that's going to happen. I have really bad anxiety. I'm scared someone who works at the church is gonna find the package and there gonna look at the cameras and see that I threw and I'm gonna go to get arrested. I can't eat or sleep. Should I be worried?

Who is she??

You are free to make whatever life choices you want, yet these women feel like they can't settle for anything less in terms of career advancement, it's like they are living a life they don't want to just to look "powerful" to people they don't even care about at the end of the day. They'd rather be miserable and look "empowered" to strangers who don't give 2 shyts about them than to be happy and find love and be a good mother. These women work 60 hours a week to impress strangers and have high blood pressure, stressed, hate their life. What a great life.... my sister is like this, she works so much and has become an alcoholic because of it but she refuses to go out on a date or date men because "men are evil" and she wants to be "independent". She's just doing this to herself for literally no reason other than to "rebel against the patriarchy"

Hi me and what I think is my half sister did a ethnicity test on myheritage recently and we came up with results saying we share 27% dna, 47 segments and 1919cm. It says half sisters but I was wondering can we be full sisters sharing a small amount of dna 

I woke up struggling to breathe as if I was really crying. Now that's my biggest fear, my mother dying. She's the only one that ties me to the family. The only reason they put up with me. I'm afraid that if she were to pass nobody in the family would ever talk to me again. It also made me realize that life is too short to be angry all the time. So I'm torn, my mom is not the best mom and it's so many things I wish she'd do as a mother like be there for us more emotionally. Teach us things that mothers are suppose to teach their children. Or act more motherly but now I'm torn between still expressing that I want that type of change from her or getting what I can while she's alive.. this dream really hit me I woke up in a panic ready to cry . 

My oldest brother got married in May. My older sister ("Meg") was in the wedding party and she was escorted down the aisle by his wife's brother ("Mike"). (Not their real names) So Meg and Mike hit it off really well. He has just finished college and was going into the Navy. Like until he had to leave for bit boot camp they were together all the time. He left in August and he came home for a week before he has to go for more training in Florida. For Xmas he got her a pearl necklace. Mom said they are cultured parks and not real ones but I looked on Amazon and ones that are just like then are almost $300. As soon as he could have visits, she flew to Florida. And he calls it they gave time every day. For Valentine's day he sent her a dozen pink roses and a matching bracelet (About$150 on Amazon). She flew down to see him this weekend and came back engaged. This is so weird. My sister is engaged to little brother if my brother's wife! Here's the thing. They are getting married on March 14, when he comes home before getting his assignment. He doesn't even know where that will be yet, but Meg is ready to quit her job and go wherever it is. Mom isn't happy about how fast things progress, but said Mike seems like a nice guy. Dad says it's unusual but it's not weird in a bad way and if they had met some other way, it wouldn't be weird at all. I just can't believe this is happening.

The husband is the blood relative but he had an affair and thus the marriage ended. So the wife I am told was the victim in the divorce. I was never terribly close to her but have old photos to share and she remembered me when she saw me at the great-uncle's funeral back in September. So would I be wrong to friend her?

I currently am living with my dad due to hard times. He goes to church every Sunday for the day and evening service. I don't go in the evening because I like to have my evening to prepare for the work week. My brother, who also lives at home had said he was restless and wanted to get out of the house but wasn't too sure he wanted to go to church with my dad. My dad told him that if he was restless then maybe he should go to church with him. The two went back and forth with my dad encouraging my brother and my brother still unsure of what he wanted to do. I chimed in and said to just let him make his own decision if he wants to go instead of pushing him to go. Needless to say my dad was irritated with my comment and essentially told me to mind my own business. He then said that if I choose not to go to church on Sunday evening that it was myself I had to live with for that choice. Basically saying that I was making a poor choice by not going myself. Was he being passive aggressive? 

She is pretty on the outside and I saw her picture on someone's Facebook and she is not anymore. I can't help but to feel bad for her as much as we hate each other. Everyone is on my side in the feud between the sister and I but I still feel I should show sympathy. My mother knows how bad my sister is and told me not to worry about it. Should I bother or just be nice if I have to see her? Do I send flowers next time she is in the hospital? She is one of those people no one likes but family still has to love. 

I moved to be with my parents. They're in their 70s. I ended up really hating this state though. I don't like the weather, everything is a huge distance to drive to, but really it's the weather. I'm from the north and my parents are in Florida. I'm terrified of hurricanes and I hate humidity and thunderstorms. My parents love the weather and are content here. They're getting up there in age..they don't Require my help for things however since I've been here they've asked for help with things like driving at night so it's easier for them and looking up things on the internet or other technology they didn't know how to do. Then I found out my brother is sick. He was an alcoholic so he has liver damage now. He has ascites and his liver enzymes are elevated. He lives up north. He won't come down here (falling out with the parents over his wife..is a sad shame..life is short).  Anyway I'm torn. I feel awful leaving my parents when they say they want me to stay. I feel awful not helping my brother, I feel awful that I hate it here. Does anyone have any advice please? Also. I knew Florida was hot, humid and has hurricanes before I moved here of course. I didn't realize I'd react this bad though since I've visited here many times

For my entire life, my parents have not loved each other. My mom is constantly talking to me about my dad & how drained she is to be around him. He has never been grateful for the life that he has. Always complaining about work, how expensive 4 kids are, etc. Moms always had to convince him why he should be thankful. He's always making smart comments around her. it all started when I was born. I was born through a vasectomy & dad blamed her. While my mom saw it as "this child was meant to be here" dad saw it as "oh wow 4 kids." & never wanted to be seen with all of us. Mom would go to the theater alone with all our strollers.This hurt my mom so much that she didn't even want to have him in the room when I was born. it's all my fault. my dad is just now trying but mom thinks it's cause we are all grown & he has less to worry about and pay for. But she raised us alone. She doesn't even wanna kiss him anymore. I think it's affecting my relationship now. I'm constantly worried I'm gonna end up like them so I pick apart my current boyfriend. I'm constantly thinking about it 24/7.  my brain is going crazy over the slightest sign of being a bad husband/father? The thought of him proposing to me soon scares me because I'm like "what If we end up like them?"If I see any sign of my dad in him I get scared. He kind of has a short temper and it makes me terrified. I love him with all my heart and he loves and and treats me so well and I think it's just me picking him apart. What do I do?

My Dad gets mad at me for things I cannot help (disabilities) and my sister picks on me.

I had a really great conversation with my grandmother (75) that started because someone on TV said back in the day everything was better. And she immediately went like ugh that is nonsense nothing was better back then and went on a long rant. Some of the things she said were that nobody could do what they wanted especially the women her entire life she just was raising kids and working hard while my grandfather was away at sea and living his best life. You just had to do what you had to do, no question asked and no room for personal dreams. She also said there was so much sexual abuse but either no one believed you or it was dealt with at home. She said she was lucky cause she had a good father the one time her uncle tried to touch her she told her dad and he took care of it by threatening the uncle. That was it, he was still invited everywhere and probably found another victim. She thinks people these days have much more freedom and if she could turn back time she would do everything differently. She said so much more but just to sum it up the past was not better. The only thing my grandparents both loved where their childhoods but those were cut short as well. My grandfather had to start working at 14 and my grandmother even earlier than that. I think it was like 10? So why are old people always so insistent that the past was better? Like I get when my mom is saying it cause she was a teen in the 80s so fun music and fashion and stuff but the 40s, 50s, 60s?

So, here is my situation.  I'm 17, turning 18 in August, and my dad hardly ever wants anything to do with me. He always picks on me, calls me names and talks about my weight in a bad way. I don't drive yet as I don't have a car or a license. I had a car we were gonna well last year for a Tahoe but instead he gave it to his girlfriend (the woman my dad cheated on my mom with). So I just never bothered to get my license. Resulting in me not being able to get a job, which he also wants me to have My little sister is treated like his only child. He bought her a guitar last year and is getting her a new one, with an amo and foot pedal this week. I play acoustic guitar and ask for accessories but my dad says I don't need them because he says I don't know how to play it, I just pick it I also know how to play piano. I asked for a Nintendo Piano Sheet Book for like 7$ and my dad said no because he says I can't play piano (this was the same day my dad told my sister she was getting a new guitar and stuff) and he has heard me play multiple full songs on both my instruments My grandmother actually gave me her acoustic piano because she doesn't play it as much but he keeps it in the shop. I've asked him to put it in the house, like in my room or living room, and he says it wouldn't matter because I "don't even know how to play piano" I don't know what to do. I've tried to talk to him but he says I'm being dramatic, need to move on. Any idea what is going on? I'm r what I should do?

Nothing against them but just want the 2 grandparents who raised me after my parents died in 1941 at Pearl Harbor.

I told my mother that I think that I might be getting molested, and she claims that I am lying about it. When we were arguing, she said that I deserved it because I dress like a ''Slut''. What should I do?, because I am not sure what to do anymore. I want to report it but I feel that I have no proof because he didn't rape me but he was touching me in my sleep. My mother's boyfriend was doing it, I kept waking up with my shirt lifted up when he was around, and inside of my home. I also told my sister but she accused me of lying as well, and called me names. Thank you very much Dr. Stephanie, I appreciate your help.

He is mid 50s and he doesnt have any goals in life except smoking and no friends and doesnt visit his own brother. He hates responsiblity, for example, he make up excuses and he doesnt want to pay a bill or drive my sibling to an interview to avoid responsiblity. He doesnt get groceries either. All his family members keep improving and they take responsiblity except him, so Idk why he doesnt change. 

She is a very cruel person and so I am estranged from her and my parents back me.

She simply buying Time

My grandfather was an alcoholic and my mom tolerated it until I was born. Because of my birth she wanted to protect me and so she became estranged from him and disowned him. I feel so guilty that I caused this by my birth. My grandfather was an alcoholic and my mom tolerated it until I was born. Because of my birth she wanted to protect me and so she became estranged from him and disowned him. I feel so guilty that I caused this by my birth. I know he's responsible also but so am I as I was the icing on the cake even if I was not the original problem. He died when I was 16 but to this day I feel so guilty and I'm 41. How do I make up to my mom's family?

He's an alcoholic so I'm not supposed to be speaking to him

He's very narrowminded mentally speaking. meant to say "Point of View"

I'm jealous of my grandmother, because she's thin and pretty and everyone loves her, espcially the grandkids. The thing that upsets her is she says i'm scary and I feel hurt about it. The thing that upsets ME is she says i'm scary. That was a typo above sorry. 

I don't have a safe place to stay. I have 2 brothers and some distant relatives in the city and around it, but we do not get along. I wouldn't call their places "safe". I have a job at fast food and I have been a pretty good employee. I just got called in tomorrow for some more hours. I'm probably covering somebodies shift, but who cares. Work is work, right? I usually get around 10-15 hrs/week but this week since we started a new breakfast menu I was put in the breakfast team + getting my regular hrs so now I have 20 hrs/week. Hopefully it stays that way too or hopefully it gets better. My manager has openly talked to me about her interest in promoting me to manager In the next upcoming months. I don't know how secure that promotion was since it was only verbally discussed and nothing was written down, but she told me she even told her district manager about promoting me too. I won't hold my breath, but this is all I have. I don't have anything going for me in my life. And now my mom wants to kick me out. I only have 2 weeks to figure something out. She told me to clean my room and so I did, but even after I started to clean my room she told me she was going to kick me out so I told her "why should I clean the room if you're just going to kick me out?". I don't know what's going on in her head. She looks like she is going through something, but instead of talking to me about it her solution every time is just to kick me out. This hasn't been the first time this has happened. I like how everybody is answering Anonymously. Just come here to vent out all of your problems and pretend like I am your son or daughter. Thanks for not helping. Hopefully your child runs away from home too. You guys don't deserve to have a nice family. You have to learn what I have to go through first. And you will see what I mean. Thanks for those who help and don't just leave negative comments. I am going through a lot right now and some people have no dignity to face me w/o being anonymous