I have a friend who needs some advice. She lives in Australia. Anyway she lives with her two children and her x partner (not married). She is experiencing domestic violence.she started protecting herself by fighting back and ended up getting an AVO against her and one against her x. The thing is she wants to move with her children to a different house and the x can visit the kids whenever he likes but he won't allow her to take the children with her. She is the main caretaker, looks and do everything for the children. They both don't want to go through family court. What can she do? 

is it weird i got a ride from my husband to work, he had a day off. I thought it would be nice because im usually exhausted in the morning driving to work. I got a weird vibe a co worker acted weird about it, the next day they asked if my husband was picking me up and i said no i drove and he had the day off that he drove me. they did not say anything. I know most people drive themselves these days. sometimes i like the company

I've been a STAHM for six years now. No help from family whatsoever. Got married to my husband at twenty years old, he was in the military. I was in the middle of community college before I left with him, got pregnant, had an emergency C-section at twenty four weeks, our first child was born and passed away after being in the NICU for over two weeks. Then I got pregnant again and had another emergency C-section at twenty nine weeks where my second child was born and survived. I had serious health issues with both, maybe because I was premature too but almost lost blood and almost died. It's been financial struggles, bad mistakes and drama these entire nine and a half years but I refuse to give up. I've never had any family support, really. I've been to therapy once since my daughter died, my husband and I haven't talked about it ever, really. When I do bring her up mostly everyone just tries to change the subject or acts like I am being dramatic. Being a STAHM is difficult but I love it, though. My husband and I fight often. He has said before he doesn't respect me as a STAHM, that I should get a job and calls me a "consumer". He is gone now from early morning to late evenings, doesn't help with our son at all or have to clean and recently when he gets home he gets mad at me for wanting to watch TV alone or if I want some wine or have even the slightest attitude. He says, "you win" or "I'll go away now", knowing I get only a few hours alone at night.  It's as if I can't even be bored or he'll call me an alcoholic or act like how dare I even mention that since I've been home all day long. Tonight I told him I had show on to watch and he said, "don't worry I'll go away", saying I was just in my PJ's all day long. I'm losing my mind. I don't know how to feel. Why is he trying to ruin my only hours alone? Why does he think being a STAHM is doing nothing all day long? Why does he say I'm being controlling when I'm just trying to relax?!  The most frustrating part is that he says he understands but then turns around and flips it like he's the victim. How do I put a stop to this? What do I do? Every time we argue it's like nothing we said before even mattered at all. He insults the shows I watch, the things I like and acts like I don't deserve anything because I don't have to physically go to a job. But I do have a job, it's called taking care of my son, I'm even homeschooling him soon and starting school myself. Please help!!  The last thing he said to me was, "I'm sure you'll be nice tomorrow the consumer always knows when payday is"...when I wasn't even being rude or mean! I was just saying how I wanted to watch my show when all he watches is YouTube anyway! I don't want to do this forever so can I please get some advice. I can't and don't want to divorce him and I'm just at a loss at this point. I'm trying to be more proactive and focused on myself...but I'm still upset!  I'm sorry for typing so much but I just don't understand why this always has to happen. I know I am not THAT rude or b*tchy but when this always happens he makes me feel like I'm the problem ALWAYS. Should I have just had this big grin on my face when he got here when I all I wanna do is relax since I just put my son to bed?! Is this what he wanted? Why?! I'm trying to still have a good night but I just don't know what I did wrong and would love some advice. Thanks! 

I have a boyfriend and we've been together for 5 years now. He's always talking about wanting to get married and I just tell him I don't know if I'm ready for that yet or try to change the topic. It's not because I don't want to it just my mom and dad have had a horrible marriage ever since I was young. I think seeing how hurt my mother is while being married makes me afraid to actually get married. I don't get excited when I think about a big wedding and marrying the person I love because I'm too busy thinking about what if my marriage ends up like my parents. How can I change this? 

Side actions should not be the cause of losing half you assets.  Instead, its easy, just pay the fine and everything all good.  Similar to speeding violations, parking tickets, etc. So if you married and want to play, just don't get caught.  If do then we have these simple fines. For example: 1) Flirty with woman, -0, get off with warning. 2) Flirt with woman and she repeatedly jumps on you.  Only -$20 3) No condom, -$100 for no using brain 3) STD, - $199 5) She having baby, -$1 There you go.  With Xavier rules, everyone win and the city can collect funds like with traffic laws. Do you agree? I know you can come up with some.  Please help spread the word.

I had an affair because my husband was never home he was never paying attention to me he was controlling and I felt like my marriage was slowly ending. I regret it; I told my husband everytjing that happened and now we are in therapy trying to fix things. The affair was mostly emotionally with the guy talking to me 24)7 and giving me a lot of advice and support but we did have sex 3 times as the emotional support made me attracted to him sexually. He Made me feel wanted desired loved beautiful you name it. He also made me laugh and smile constantly..for the first time in about 10 years I had smiled. I felt life again. I decided to end the affair because although my husband was neglecting me you can't do dirt for dirt. I'm not going to lie I still have a lot of feelings for this other man but it wouldn't be right to end my marriage for something so uncertain. My marriage is my stability. I like this other guy but I love my husband. I told the other guy we can just be friends and he was okay with it for a couple of weeks and things were great and platonic but then he brought up wanting to have sex one last time and when I told him I didn't wanna cheat again. He said " your husband barely talks to you or sees you and you're not happy. At least I give you great conversation and laughs but whatever". 

My husband and I have been married for 10 years. We have 3 beautiful children together. 2 years into our marriage we decided to separate. We lived separately for a year and decided after a year to work on our marriage. I  had no idea until recently that during our separation he was having an affair. It all came about recently because of a court ordered paternity test which proved my husband was the father to another women's child whom he was with during our separation. I'm shocked, I'm devastated, I feel lied to. He said he had absolutely no idea she was pregnant or had a child. The child is now 8 years old. I can't wrap my mind around this. My family and friends think I should leave him after all of this came out. Anyone been in a similar situation?

The challenge is how to keep things interesting till death, right? Here what I learn from U: 1) Do the extreme version of any tips recommend here. 2) If that don't work, then do an extreme opposite of the boring recommendations. For example, long married boring recommends reading a book, Xavier tek book, throw in the fire, then get busy with the ladies. Example 2, long married boring recommend going take a hike in the woods, Xavier go to Vegas baby! Sound like plen?

The wife and I have failed to break in the mattress properly these last few days!  Problem is, it's so comfy that we both knock out in less than 5 minutes then won't wake up till mornin.I don't wanna set the alarm cuz some of us have jobs and don have time to sit on our behinds giving substandard, mediocre, and flat out boring advice.What do?Ladies, please no off color jokings.

No ladies, Torrid is not. I mean walking by there I saw some straps look big enough to make a slingshot with it!  Goooodaaaanm! I'm talking about the good stuff. Keep it clean, no raunchy suggestions please!

Have you ever gone a day or two without kissing your spouse if you're stressed or too tired from work? My husband and I have been married for 8 months and we go at least 2 days without kissing. Is this okay? We both get off late at night and just watch tv and hit the bed some days. 

My husband plopped on the bed (he'd just got off work) and I asked him if he would like a massage, am I initiating affection/sex? It did lead to it. 

Is it bad that, even though I'm married, there are some days where I don't want to be touched or kissed or anything? Especially when I'm tired from work. 

I was kissing my husband's body (he was laid on his back) and I started from the bottom and worked my way up. Well, when I got to his neck and just as I was about to kiss his lips, he turned around for me to kiss him on his back.  It kinda bothered me. What could this mean? Anything personal? We didn't even kiss lips at all during sex either. 

Should he die from those infections, n live a tragic life filled with fear of the STD's forever without complaining? And what should the wife do for her husband who is suffereing for her enjoyment in the past?

I have very good hygiene and hate the feeling of being dirty or anything like that. But it takes me a total of an hour to get everything done. (And when I say everything, I'm NOT getting all dolled up. I do just the basics. I shower, I floss, brush my teeth, comb my hair, style it, wash my face, moisturize my body, pick an outfit) and at this point I'm really tired of that and now I just feel dread when I know I have to go somewhere because I'm like "ugh, here's an hour of me just getting ready" and I know i have to do it but I don't WANT to do it and I feel like something may be wrong because I shouldn't feel this way about something as simple as keeping up my hygiene. 

Currently they are separating and she is using their accountant to spread dirt on my dad and those that love him. The accountant is giving her lies and is pure evil in my eyes. She is spreading the lies to me and on top of that my dad lied about the money and has a habit of lying to my mom. He even got me to lie for him on one or two occasions. So since my mom has spread everything to me and tried to get me involved now I'm wondering should she divorce him over this? My aunt says it is not grounds for a divorce but my grandfather apparently feels my mom should get a divorce if this continues. I am an adult and out of the house but it's painful to watch and three of my siblings are still kids (teenagers). Their marriage has been going downhill for about 10–15 years as my mother has bad anxiety and sometimes lashes out at my father. They have 5 kids and I'm the oldest at 24. Should she divorce my dad over his lies? I'm really furious with both of them and just staying away as much as I can. I was on my mom's side until this dirty accountant of her's started spreading lies and she spread them to me. Now I'm on my mom's side just to get her and her accountant Jim back. So my question is should she divorce him over this? Is this horrible like adultery or battery? Or should she forgive and let it go since the offense is not that bad? My father is not cheating despite with this Jim guy is trying to get my mom to think.  History: Yeah he is having to go to court next month. 

As we grow older and older, more and more matters triggers our stress getting more overwhelming, if you have children, how do you balance the stress and work? How do you deal with the family matters between your family and your wife's family?

Life definition for me is my daughter cynthia. Just want to see him as a happiest girl in this world.

Like marriage, my old mattress been around for over a decade and its time to cut her loose. The wife tells me the new mattress just arrived! How do you suggest we break it in? I want to give it a proper christening! Please ladies, nothing obscene or vulgar!  I'm trying to keep the negative commentary to a minimum.