I am 24 years old, I recently had a vasectomy and I have no plans on getting married. This is because I would rather die than allow a woman to leech off of me, however I understand that other guys think differently. My question is this, why would a guy want to get married with egregious anti-male laws on the books? For example: a woman can steal half of a man's wealth in a divorce, cheat on the man and force him to pay child support for her love child, or make him pay lifetime alimony. I could understand their way of thinking if this was the 1950's--where it was very difficult for a woman to divorce and where there was no such thing as child support-- but nowadays getting married or having kids seems onerous and not a wise thing to do.

My wife and I have been happily married, 2 children, everything was great.. Suddenly around the summer of 2009.. My wife just, over night, started acting like a different person.. Cold and distant, pushing me away, very unemotional.... After about 3 months of this behavior and her denying anything was wrong... I got contacted by a woman at work who claimed her husband had an affair with my wife.. I didn't believe the woman, and asked her not to contact me again, I came home and talked to my wife about it, she laughed, I laughed with her.. My wife said it must have been a prank.. I thought nothing of it... The next day at work , I received a Express mail package which had to be signed for, I opened it and what I found was hundreds of emails printed out between my wife and this man... The woman who called me the day before sent them to my office... I left work immediately and returned home, confronted my wife.. At first, she denied it, said it was part of a hoax... I asked her to let me look at her email.. My wife refused.. I told her if she had nothing to hide, she would let me see... Then I reminded her she has the password to my email and my facebook account... My wife throws a temper tantrum.. Saying I should be able to trust her... At this point I knew she was lying... The fight continued until she admitted that she was in communication with this man... She denied there was any affair.. Even though the emails say otherwise... Even though I was devastated, I didn't want to end our marriage and break the family apart... We went to marriage counselling for 6 months... I thought everything was fine.. But it's not.. Ever since that day, there has been a strange, errie... I can't put my finger on it, about her... About me... Things just don't seem to be the same... We have fights and she accuses me of not trusting her... I point to her affair and ask her who would.. Even intimacy is weird... Should I suggest we think about a divorce? It has been years since her affair, but I just dont know if I love her anymore... and visa versa.

So basically my husband and I were at a drive thru. For whatever reason she felt she needed to hold the bottom of his hand as she gave his change back. I initially was annoyed because normal people don t count back money that way. Like WTF? Am I overreacting or do you feel that was disrespectful? I m mad meat myself for not saying anything. My husband felt like I was overreacting.

It seems to me that it's still more taboo than gay marriage.

I always took my mother's side since I am the daughter and now I feel I got my parents divorced by doing that. Also I kept it a secret that I was upset they were divorcing, had I spoken up they might not have divorced. So I am 30 now and this guilt has remained with me, they divorced 20 years ago. How do I overcome this? My two brothers got over it but I never did.

Growing up I was always the "funny" girl. Loved to crack people up. Especially since I was not attractive as a young girl or a teenager, my humor got me through many insecurities and social situations. But now at 23, my looks improved as I aged, lost weight, started dressing better etc., A couple times men I went out with would comment how great it is to be with a woman who is "genuinely funny" or can "actually make me laugh". I also was told once "I never met a girl who is pretty AND funny." I never really understood why they would point that out, imagining there are many, many funny girls, attractive ones as well. I decided to ask a few guys around and apparently there's a major stereotype that women, in general, are not very funny or have a good sense of humor, at least comparable to men. Is this really true? Are "funny" women uncommon? Details are great!

Go ahead; I know some of you will say I'm acting like a child and a pig. At the same time, I wouldn't be the first person to make this decision about a divorce. I should have given more thought to things before getting married, but too late for that. Thoughts?

I got arranged marriage and didn t like to have sex with my wife after few days. I was forced to have sex before sleep and she wouldn t let me go to sleep until I comply for sex. Some days I consented to sex so that I can be free for next few days. Every evening after work I started worrying about how to escape from her. This continued on for 4 years or more. Once I kept crying and she didn t leave me and raped me. It was more emotional fight not able to full fill her desire at the same time fighting to go to bed to start my work next day. I started suffering from depression and panic attacks around women at office and eventually became panic disorder with agoraphobia around women and public. I suffered from 2003 ro till now. I finally quit my job in 2013 and not able to concentrate on intense mental job (software developer). Now she wants divorce and I have to stay away from 2 of my kids. Is there legal remedy for this? Can I file criminal charges against her?

Is it possible to be married but detest kissing, hugging, or even touching your spouse? I can't stand her even accidentally touching me when asleep!!

How is it I can stay in love with someone who drives me crazy with mood swings, nagging and complaints? She does have reasons behind her ways , we'v been through a lot. But everytime I think she's pushed me away for good I end up forgiving her.

I have a cousin that I never see because she lives far away. My busband has never seen her or met her. We both have her as a friend on Facebook and she's very cool and friendly. She has liked a lot of our photos and my husband seems to like the fact that she gives us attention. One day he told me: "Is it okay if we see your cousin on Snapchat to talk to her and say hello?" My cousin is 19 years old!!! She's still like a girl and my husband is 40 and I'm 30. I found it odd for him to be interested in chatting with a girl. I felt uncomfortable but since I didn't want to be dramatic, I accepted. So my husband wrote to her and she agreed on this. When the day arrived, she did not go on Snapchat so I told my husband: "let's just forget it". But he still asked her if she was going to be able to talk, but she never replied to him. Another day she posted a picture of herself with a guy on Facebook and my husband asked me: "Is that her boyfriend?" Why would he ask this stupid question? It's none of his business. And for Easter, he asked me: "Can I say Happy Easter to your cousin from both of us?" And I said "ok". As soon as she replied, he said with a very excited voice: "Woww Ellie replied!! Now the last thing that REALLY pissed me off is that I just saw that he liked one of her photos on Facebook. It's the first time he likes a picture of another girl. He has always been respectful and has never liked any other girl's pictures until now. I feel so humiliated. What are your thoughts?

How can you tell if your spouse sin't as into you as you are into them? Like they like you but not that much but want you around for reasons of using until they find another.

How do you cope with moving on with your life when your significant other has cheated on you? What do you tell yourself to keep you from getting very down?

Do you think this is possible? I've been married for 24 years and there is absolutely no affection whatsoever. No kissing, hugging, or touching. No giggling or tickling. Nothing. But yet we sort of love each other and still sleep in the same bed. (Although when she accidentally touches me through the night I feel like throwing up, and move away) Anyone else in a similar situ?

I am wanting to throw a gender reveal party for a friend. When do I plan it for? She is supposed to find out at 20 weeks and wants to have it right away. What if when they go, the baby is in a position that they cannot tell the gender. I don't want to have a gender reveal party and no gender to reveal! What was your timeline?

My Wife.

we've only been together for 5 years now. it's been a roller coaster!! I love him, but this wearing a ring business is taking some getting used to

My husband and I are both on Google+. I noticed on my page that some of his communities have postings that contain pornographic material. All of this is mixed in with photos of our kids. Would it be wrong if I unjoined him from those communities? He won't do it himself. If he wants a separate account for those communities, that's his decision. But postings mixed in with photos of our kids? Maybe it's just me, but scrolling past a video of two lesbians licking each other to a baby pic of our son just underneath....

In your opinion, what were his intentions?

Is there something wrong with "allowing" your spouse to do things. Meaning that your spouse has to go through you and ask your permission for everything . So your spouse "allows" you permission to do whatever you asked of them. Is there anything wrong with that ? If yes, why? If no , why ?

If a woman makes all of the money for her family (husband and three kids) should the husband do all the house work and everything a "house wife" should do or should the wife do most or half? How should that dinamic work when it comes to house works and taking care of the kids? Even if the woman has two days off during the week and has time to do some of the work.

He lost his job in HVAC and is not responding to recruiters contacting him for excellent job opportunities with great pay and benefits, instead choosing to work under the table for less money and no benefits doing landscaping while I pay for 90% of all our expenses. Should I be supportive of his new "career" or mad - like I am. I feel I am being used. If I mention how I feel about all this, he gets angry, calls me names, says I am irrational and it ends up me yelling ta the top of my voice and him pinning me down saying our situation is all my fault (I do not see how - his twisted logic) I am also wondering if I should consider him "abusive". He attacked me while the argument escalated to yelling and him pinning me down yelling in my face. I honestly do not see how he can blame me for our finances. He says it's all my fault because he did not want to buy the house we live in. I also have a rental in my name only as a retirement investment. He has 2 rentals. If he paid his half bills I do not see how these purchases affect him. What I mean is, he keeps trying to get me to sell my rental and not start a business because I am wasting money. So he can have rentals but not me? Also, it's MY $$$. If he would pay his half shared expenses, I could start a business I started to start, but can't finish because I am "supporting" him. Is he doing all this on purpose so I cannot afford to start my own business and have my own retirement rental, or, is he plain stupid and selfish? Do you think his behavior is "abusive"? Also, I bought the rental before we were married or even engaged.

Short story: I have been having a lot of physical pain lately and trying to keep it to myself. Last night I made dinner for her and cleaned up the house (for the second night in a row). I had a particularly bad episode of pain right before we ate dinner, and I literally ran out of the room to avoid showing my wife how much it hurt or yelling or anything like that in front of her. She then berated me for not taking medicine earlier in the day (when I actually had) and we started yelling. I turn to walk down to the basement and get away from her and she shoved me in the back and I ALMOST fell down the stairs. I am a big dude-over 6 foot and 200 lbs+ and I actually lost my footing so she must've pushed me pretty hard. After that she ran out of the house and went to stay in a hotel like I had done something wrong. I didn't touch her, and I did nothing to provoke this physicality. What would you do?

For the past few months I've notice subtle chances in my spouse, things you notice when you've been together for long periods of time. I confronted her one evening and asked if I was losing her, she said yes. I was of course shocked, hurt and felt totally blindsided by this. The next day, we had a long conversation about why, and it stems from a rut that our relationship has been in for the past couple of years and the fact that there was a co-worker that has been pouring on the sweetness(who is also getting divorced w/2 children). She states that she loves me but sees a future with this other man, but that I would always be part of her life as we have a 9 year old daughter together. She indicated that nothing was going to happen anytime soon(but implied it was happening) due to the house we have and the fact her mother currently lives with us. So those things would need to be resolved. We had a good Easter with family and I thought maybe there was still something there, but then Monday it was go to bed early for her(so she text said coworker). Then the next day, we had another good. It's quite maddening. I see now where our relationship has gone downhill. She wants to see me be more aggressive in what our future holds. To show more passion about my work, take vacations and dating. Like I said what we have isn't bad, but I can see how she could see that we weren't going anywhere. I've vowed to start doing something about it, not just for her but my self and my daughter.

Hey guys! My husband and I both full time and go to school! I pay for all of the groceries and do all the cooking. His reason for not paying groceries is because "he doesn't eat at home." He does not like my cooking and he does not cook, so he eats fast food all the time. I just cook for my son and I, and I'm not such a good cook :,(. I clean the house, he does throw the trash once in awhile. He does take my son to school when I work. I also pay for my son's daycare tuition by myself, since it was "my idea." He claims we could have left our 4 year old son with his 76 year old grandma. I pay for my son's clothes and for any items he needs at school. The other bills are split 50/50. What are your thoughts? I don't want to bash him, I just want your viewpoint.

Is it even possible to rebuild your trust once he cheats on you? I lost all of my faith and understanding to what a meaningful marriage should be ever since he came back into my life. When i tried so hard to be the perfect wife, he never loved me, but claimed he was single and mingled around with his friends and other girls he met.. he cheated on me twice with real girls, and the way he treated me when i found out.. Let's not get into details, but he was abusive... I went online and tried meeting other men but that never worked out. Nothing feels like the first love/heartbreak. Now that he says that i had also "cheated" on him online, he wants to work this relationship out. I had never physically been intimate with another man like what he did with another woman. He slept with another girl for a month before i even found out because he wanted to "move on". And when i found out it was too late, because i was pregnant. I was two timed, yet his ego is too high to even admit that he even two timed me and the other girl. Like if he wanted to move on, why even come back to me? A few months later, i still cant get over it. All i ever knew about love, is crushed and ruined and he doesn't understand me at all. Instead he says i need to "stop playing victim" because he is a victim also, since right now i am giving him the cold shoulder and i'm "emotionally abusive". I told him multiple times, i dont mean to be, but i am traumatized by our past together. Can we rebuild our trust? i've been so unstable and can't even tell him because he doesn't understand me. I know he's hurt, but i am too. He says i am comparing who has it worst, and it obviously would be me. But he says am ignoring that he also is hurt. What i am confused and I can't get over the fact is that if he wanted to move on so badly after what he did to me and finding out that i "cheated" on him online, then why is he still with me? I dont trust him at all and theres something in my gut telling me not to. I don't know if i want to go to a therapist... I've went through 3 school counselors, and one psychiatrist throughout our whole marriage/relationship together. The first one, was because i was suicidal. The second and third one, they just made me vent and thought i would get over it. The fourth one, gave me advice, but then my husband threatened me when i asked for a "break" from him. I realized, that she became more busy and had enough of me when she gave me the cold shoulders... He told me he went to a therapist also, and said that i was impulsive since i was emotionally unstable and suicidal in the beginning of our relationship together. I felt hurt, because he forgot to mention so much things to his therapist, like how he told the girl he cheated on me with that i forced him to marry me, how he hit me... called me names... and how his family was treating me. We're asian, so it's considered "normal" if the men wants to have girlfriends and i was making a "big deal".

My wife was my princess before marriage. But her mother and family influenced her to hate me from the honeymoon!! I was treated like filth by them all for 24 years. I was made eat the same meal for 3 months until I cried, then she said eat it or do without. I hated confrontayion. Anyway the ma in law from hell died after 24 years and the in laws lost their power with no hitler. My wife started to love me as she had no one else. Thing is I can't forget how I was treated. There was never kisses hugs or touching in fact the thought of it makes me sick!!! Am I wrong to not forget? I can"t help it. Anyone else suffering in silence??

My husband and I have been married for 4 years this month and have been together 6 years. Married young at age 18, we are still best friends and get along great. We work and spend most of our free time together. It's not often that we argue and we've never had an actual fight. People that know us well can't get over how happy we are and how much we are a like. There is one problem- our sex life. Since first getting married our sex life has definitely been less than average. In fact, it has been 5 months since we have had sex. I guess you could say that it just doesn't work for us. I believe we both have low sex drives but other than that there is no good reason why we don't do it. It's not even a situation where one of us wants it and the other doesn't- we just don't have sex. The truth is I feel like we should be having more sex but I don't really miss not having it, if that makes sense. My husband says that it makes no difference to him if we have it often or not but I can tell that it does embarrass him when other guys talk about their sex lives. That being said, he never seems to actually want it very often, maybe once every 2 or 3 months. My questions are: How common is it for married couples to not have much sex, especially couples in their early 20s? And even though we are happily married could not having sex be bad for our marriage? All opinions are appreciated!

Ok so I was just wondering why was it ok for couples to get married at an early age back in the day but today it's frowned upon for 18-23 yr old couples to get married. I'm asking this because since I was little (I'm 18 now ) I've always like being old fashioned and wanted to get married young and have kids and cook and clean and do all that stuff. I just feel like that's what I was born to do. But in today's day it's acceptable to "date around " with many different guys or girls. Why would society want that? Why wouldn't you want young adults today to learn the value of marriage and if they wanted to get married it would be a joy to everyone not "oh boy are you sure you wanna do that" I think if people based marriage AND life off the Bible and did it right, the divorce rate would be so low. I'm saying this because I want to get married young to my bf who will be 21 soon and I know times will be hard sometimes but just like everything else you work at it and through it. So why is society so against young marriage ?

What are people's opinions about getting married? Do you think people who marry young are less likely to stay together? One thing that I keep hearing is that people who marry young miss out on their life. I can understand missing out on your life with having children young but not marriage. The only thing I can think of missing out on while married young is one night stands. But what are your opinions? Also I'm not geting married any time soon. I just want to know peoples opinions about the topic.

Shouldn't the wife come first? It's annoying that my sister is married to a guy who won't stand up to his mom for her! His mom lives with them and she's always on her case since she can't and doesn't cook and she doesn't have a job or clean up either. She's trying to find a job but can't but cleaning is not really her thing. He has never really minded before but now that his mom brings it up he's saying that he's been meaning to tell her that. And when they go out to dinner she always asks to tag along and he let's her! Which is very stupid! Whenever my sister and her MIL fight he always takes her side! But since as his wife, and therefore she is number one in his life now, shouldn't he take her side instead?

Please know that he is very childish and immature and can be selfish. He has treated me badly in the past and present to the point of where he has pushed me away. We have even separated once. I ve already placed an order for a custom cake to be made for him and not just go to Walmart and buy one and made some party favors myself to reflect on the turning 40 and he s already telling me to cancel the cake. He said that he s going to go somewhere by himself because he said he would be in a bad mood (which is nothing new cause he stays in a bad mood). We are not into surprise parties and don t have close family or friends. It would basically be just go out for dinner or a weekend get away. In the past of when I have bought him something or tried to do something for whatever occasion it seemed like it was never good enough. I welcome any and all comments to this.

My husband left a job he was @ for 5 years due to issues. While he was there he had a female friend I did not particularly like. It caused a major drift and drama in our marriage. Soon as he left our relationship improved dramatically. Yesterday he was talking to that woman about reapplying there. I told him I don't feel like going back to the ay we were. Fighting everyday about ur relationship with this other woman being to close to comfort. I get he's a grown man, he can have female friends, as I have make friends. I get you can't change someone, but out of respect for myself and our marriage I feel he should just go full time where he is employed and not go back. There's no reason to go back, he complained while he worked there and the drive is 45 min each way, compared to 15 each way now. It's foolish to me. I know what will happen their "relationship" will pick up again and here comes the drama. I decided to stay so I get its my fault I allowed it to happen, but love doesn't make u think right all the time. I have made a decision to leave if he does go back and things go back the way they were between the two. This relationship caused me depression and anxiety but he never understood my point of view, as they are just friends. Myself unless I knew the person for years and they were a family friend I would never put my husband in a situation he felt uncomfortable no matter how rediculous it may have sounded out of respect for him and out marriage. I have good reason

I am currently living with my parents and have been unemployed for 2 weeks now. I need to divorce my wife because we are ready to get it all over with. I m the one that left in the relationship so she's making me pay the fees. I want to pay them and move on but I don't have the money right now. It is an uncontested divorce with no children. Everything is agreed on I just don't have the money. I was wondering if I would qualify for an indecent divorce since my spouse can't afford the fees either.

wife hits husband. Who do you call?

My main concerns are multiple overnights (such as vacations). I am not angry with him and I am not doing this to punish him; I am genuinely concerned about the safety of my kids. 2 years ago he lost his license due to a second drunk driving offense and insists on driving anyway and I know he will try driving the kids. I'm willing to do all the driving but he will try to take them places, I'm certain of that. He drinks excessively and doesn't pay attention to what they're doing (they are 3.5 and 1.5). For ex I came home from work once and he had passed out drunk and my three year old was running around climbing tall pieces of furniture and the one year old was trying to eat a battery my husband had left out. He also won't ever get them medical attention. My daughter literally dented her forehead when she slammed into a cabinet and he wouldn't even call the pediatrician to ask what should be done, then called me psycho for calling. I'm scared to leave because I fear their welfare will be in danger during extended periods alone with him. I hope he eventually gets it together and then I would gladly agree to more parenting time. Are any of these things grounds for shortened visitation periods? I'm in Michigan.

Anyone who follows my profile knows that my fiancé is really a difficult person. Anyway, we were planning on getting married this July and she has always said she wanted a baby soon as well as I. We have been engaged for a year, both wanting marriage badly but she went really beserk today. Yesterday we were having a normal good day of talking, I was going to see her but something came up and we were going to see today. This morning she sent me a text saying I love you at a really late hour of 11:30pm, making me think she didn't sleep, and then she randomly went crazy and woke me up calling me at 3 am and before I even said hello, she was screaming telling me not to force her to marry me. Like where did this come from? She always says she wants to marry me and never had a problem. Then during the day she was saying I was using her for sex, that I didn't know love, and really random crazy things that don't make sense, she really is telling me to never see her again, which she has said as a bluff many times before so I'm not scared, but what is causing this surge of crazy???

Without our kids finding out?