Okay, I really need some answers. Last night my wife woke me up to her on top of me. I was tired. I kept saying no and was yelling that I didn't want to have sex with her, but she kept going and slapped me. She said that this was supposed to be special, she said I was supposed to feel good, but I feel so violated. This happened last month too... I just tried to forget about it. So is it rape?

Let me start by saying our families are so different. His dad makes very good money, mom stay at home wife, took care of the kids. MY family single mom worked three jobs, went to school to get her degree when we were all very young, we never had a lot of $, told me to learn from her mistakes haha Husband and I have been with each other 5 years, no kids. Met in college, both work full time, love our jobs. I've noticed his dad seems to be a bit sexist... his wife hangs on his every word, and the household revolves around him. Any opinion stated by him is a fact in his house. I've never been around a household like this. Husband has one sibling 25 years old, no schooling, no work, acts like shes 14, parties, lives at home. parents seem totally fine taking total care of her while she literally does NOTHING. Im only a year older than her is the crazy part. I guess his dad thought he could order me around like he does his wife and sister, didnt go with it, and it was very awkward. His mother in law is nice, but she seems to be...i dont even know how to describe it..... she'll talk behind a family members back to me then see them and act all sweet. I'm not dumb enough to realize shes probably done that to me. Anyone have a similar experience? how do/did you handle it? Also, just as a side note I dont see anything wrong with people who stay at home to raise kids. I think i would have liked having two parents around and all that.

Litz or Sherbert? Cos my dad's lastname is Sherbert and my mom's lastname is Litz. They are married but my mom didn't change her maiden name tho. So is my last name Litz or Sherbert?

My mom cant afford to divorse in US, can she go to mexico to file divorse?

I am scared I will lose my Dad as my cousins' parents got divorced and they only see the father once or twice a year for a weekend. Both my parents hate the other.

It seems as though there are some people who use the child support they get for their kids on themselves, don't even try to work, and the kids go without. I'd like to see each state have a system where one can anonymously report those who they suspect are misusing child support. It should be treated like a welfare program, where at least there's *some* oversight as to how the welfare is used. It just makes me sad to think about kids who aren't benefitting from the child support a parent pays.

Can you guys share with me why you got married, or better yet your feelings when you got married, and the reason you got divorced after wards? I am just interested to know. Don't mean to open any old wounds just curious. Thank you for your time. (^v^)

Firstly let me start off by saying I am in no way "anti-women" or stuff like that. I am simply looking in the best interest for my family. I am a 14 year old male, and I am fully aware of the economic and emotional consequences after a divorce. My question is: what role can I play during their court trial? Is it possible for me to be some sort of witness? My state is Michigan Basically my Mother has filed false accusations on my father. Not only that, she is trying to completely ruin his reputation within our househould. My youngest sister is a "slow learner" (mildly disabled", while my other sister is utterly a spoiled brat (she doesn't care about neither my mother or father). Anyways, I, being the oldest child in the family, have been trying to tell my mom not to do this. Not only is she going to ruin my fathers life, but our lives as well. And you know what she says? "Right now I'm focusing on whats best for my future" Im in no way saying my mom is a monster. In fact, I know that some of her Lawyer friends are manipulating her so that she can ruin my dad's life. But from the circumstances that are present, what she's doing is utterly unfair. Overall is there anything I can to do help return things to normal, to defend my dad, etc, or is it too late?

She will have intercourse, or give me head whenever I want it, but it's always me that has to bring it up. She never even kisses me first. Ive been ******* other women because they make it fun, and are all over me. After she found out, she was the one who decided to stay with me. I told her it was because I am the only one initiating everything so I thought that she would change her ways. I told her about a sexy woman at my work paying interest in me, and said that it turned me on so if she started doing the same it would be good for me, and she tells me that she does initiate sex. Whichj is a lie. What am I supposed to do?

I love my wife. Let me say that first, she and I have been married for a year and a half. So we live in Provo Utah but I have been dealing with some stuff and so I took up very heavy drinking. When I was drinking I would pass out drunk and wake up hung over the next day, shower brush my teeth use mouth wash and go to classes/work. One night when drinking I fell and hit my head and broke both my legs, I fell down the stairs. Anyway I was given some pain medicine and started taking it with alcohol and was rushed to the ER. I guess the final straw was when my wife tried to take my vodka away and I pushed her....I hate to admit that that happened. I do not like to think about what that does to her. I am experiencing night terrors from being abused as a child, was homeless for four years until a family from my church took me in. I am a damaged man wanting to get help but I don't want to deal with these feelings alone how do I get her back? I need her to be there with me when I go to counseling and I need her to be there when I get back. As you can tell from the question my wife left me and went to stay with her sister at her place. She said I need to think about us. How do I apologize and show I want to get better.

Mine is only 5 inches erect and I want to know how soon a woman would like to know this before they get too invested. I know that for most women, this would be a deal-breaker.

We recently got married, we been together a total of five years. I love him alot but he doesn't please me in the bedroom anymore. He use to put effort into it but now it's all about him. He very very very selfish when it comes to sex. I've talked to him about it been very straightforward but it doesn't seem to help everything about his needs his desires. After we do anything sexual I feel unsatisfied and used. I've even thought about having an affair (I have not had an affair only bc it's not in my charter or beliefs). I'm considering leaving the marriage/relationship. I feel I'm out of options. Advice please.

Llevo 9 años de novia con mi futuro esposo, hemos crecido juntos tanto personal ocmo profesionalmente, estoy muy orgullosa de todo lo que hemos logrado jutnos. Yo tenía un muy buen amigo, eramos inseparables en la facultad, nunca pasó nada entre nosotros, por que eramos muy buenos amigos, este amigo se hace de una novia -que era mi compañera de la facu- y se alejó completamente de mi, me dolió muchísimo, le reclamé en su momento y me dijo que ahora ella era su prioridad, en ese momento decidí alejarme para siempre de el, se acabó la amistad. Todo esto pasó cuando llevaba como 4 años con mi novio, el se dio cuenta de mi estado de ánimo (xk si me pegó fuerte), y ps supo que estaba así por aquel amigo que se fué, tuve muchos problemas con mi novio por eso y nos dimos un tiempo, 1 año más o menos. dsp de eso regresamos, le dije que me dolió no por amor si no por amistad. La vdd es que el tema de aquel amigo para mi durante todos estos años ha sido como una mosca que viene a molestarme de forma intermitente, me regañaba a mi misma por eso, no lo podía controlar, pero hasta en mis sueños aparecía. Amo a mi novio, tenemos tantisimos planes juntos. Justo ayer suena mi cel y era aquel amigo preguntandome que si ya me habia casado y me dice que me quiere ver antes de que lo haga. Y acepté verlo la prox sem. Hay muchas emociones dentro de mi, tanto de coraje x haberme hecho a un lado y de no se que más, se me acelera el corazón cuando pienso en el. No se que sea esto.

I'm 24 and she's 23. We've been married a year and have a 3 month old daughter. I had cheated on her once when we dated in college and she warned me that if I do it again she would be done with me. I should've listened to her but I didn't and cheated on her during most of our marriage with this 19 year old girl. I told the girl and she told me was going to tell my wife so I was pretty much forced to tell her. When she found out she started crying and told me to get out and that she's divorcing me and never wants me near her again. I'm heartbroken and want another chance. I don't want my daughter to grow up hating me and I really do love my wife. She will most likely find another man and forget about me. Hell I don't even know how much I be able to see my girl. My baby and wife are the most precious things in my life and I can't stand to lose them. How can I convince my wife to give me one last chance?? I know she's not at the moment going to even hear me out but it's worth a shot. I have an excellent job as a chemical engineer and I can fully support both of them. Does she have the power to restrict me from seeing our daughter? What do I do???? No one in my family will help me. I'm having to live with a friend because I got kicked out of my house, my parents won't talk to me and my sister (who's in college) thinks I'm a completely piece of ****. My life is completely falling apart. Please help!!! I won't cheat again.

Would you tell them? I was married and my husband practically harassed me about it, even asking for details. I feel like that was wrong because he was so insecure after that but he wanted to know so I told him. Now am not dating anyone but when I do, if they were to ask, what should I say? I just feel like that s private and I don t want anyone to know/. I ve slept with a few people not ashamed of it but don t feel like telling it either. What would you say?

i dont want to sound ignorant but every white friend ive had has always had parents that are divorced. Sometimes their parents had gotten a divorce for the dumbest ******* reason ever i dont understand why. Also why do white people always cheat on their significant other. Like if their bf or gf leaves for a couple days for something like college or something, the other "gets lonely" and cheats. That's ******* disgusting.

If husbands and wives never appreciate it? I mean, the bad boys and bad girls always get faithful husbands and wives but the good men and good women who put their spouse first are mistreated and given poor treatment by their spouses in return. Don't give e Bible quotes on becoming one and such garbage. You're never one with anyone. You're you, and your partner is someone else.

So there was a guy I know who's not successful but really likes this one lady, and her vice versa with him. The lady isn't successful, either. So he asked me for advice cuz they've dated for a while and might eventually marry, and so here's what I told him: I said that he should go and work on being successful first, then MAYBE he and she can think about marrying. He asked why and so I said if you get married you don't wanna have to worry about money since that's one of the biggest reasons for divorce and lots of times low-down suckers like he and me are barely avoiding loserhood. and of course no good-quality lady worth her salt wants to be with dudes who are losers or barely not losers. So yeah I tried to really discourage him but for nice reasons. Was I being a jerk and giving bad advice? I also told him about how we need to save up money since in this economy money is crucial to getting by. Well he seemed kinda mad at me like as if I was being a jerk but I thought I was fully right. But then again maybe I was wrong? And I'm not successful either so I'm not being cocky or looking down on him, I'm just really trying desperately to be successful and never again have to worry about respect from others or money or whatnot since getting out of loserhood is the best thing anyone can do for themselves

How do you handle social media in your relationship? Is it an issue at all? If it has been an issue, why? Is it because past experiences make you suspicious now? I'm curious to see if social media has more of a negative impact on relationships then a positive one..or neutral.

Okay so first a bit about me and my husband. We've known each other eight months and only been married a short time. He knew before hand that I have a history with being raped. I was hurt first when I was fifteen years old by a 60 year old man. He took my virginity. I had been a depressed, bulimic/anorexic girl when it happened. He was a family friend that used to have me come over to his house to help with stuff. My mom and dad and family went on a trip once and left me with him for the week.He raped me multiple times. I didn't want it. I swear to god I didn't. I screamed and cried but we lived in the middle of nowhere, north carolina. I began cutting and lost a lot of weight.After that we moved back to michigan. I had my first boyfriend. He was nice to me. I loved him. I was then taken advantage drunk and high, the young man also took advantage of my younger 13 year old sister. He is now in jail. She was also cutting and we both had the same problem. She was raped anally. I lost his baby.So after that I went into a relationship with a young man with anger and violent issues in the past. I started choosing men that were bad for me. I didn't care anymore. He treated me like ****. Like he didn't care about me at all. He didn't care if he hit me. He didn't care about my past. I get that don't care but don't treat me like ****.So I broke up with him. Hooked up a few times since. Now I'm with my husband.I have completely cleaned up my drinking/smoking/bulimia I have a job at a hospital. I don't have an anger problem I'm very passive. I'm just numb. But I love him so much. He used to be a crack addict. Comes from a messed up family. Used to hurt people. See it does not matter to me. love him for all his good all his bad all the things he's done right or wrong and I want to be in his future. He has never tried to hurt me. He is everything to me. I love his soul and his heart.But once we were drunk, and we were having sex. This was after we had been together for a lil bit. And he asked me if i was okay with this. I apparently answered, "yes I am used to being ****** while im like this." he got mad, jumped up and we had a long fight. He still gets mad about that.Another time he playfully swatted at my face to wake me (again whist we were drunk) and I jumped up and tried to scratch him.Today we were play wrestling he was trying to throw me on the bed. And I dunno what snapped inside me but for a moment I became defensive. He noticed so he started messing with me. Like he wanted to see what kind of reaction I would have (he says it's because he wants me to be able to defend myself) I'm five 8 150 lbs and a weight lifter. I can defend myself. I took ju jitsu and a lot of self defense and boxing just for that purpose. I refused to react I tried not to but he tried to hold my arms down I reacted and grabbed at his throat and got on top him to where he shove me off and pinned my arms down. I had a terrible attack like i couldnt breath. I had tears streaming down my face and wrenched out from underneath him and shoved him off. I lost it all. I couldnt speak I was shaking hard. And he smiled and said "That's all I wanted you to do. I wanted you to defend yourself. I won't always be there to help you." He went on to say "This will help you to no longer be afraid." Then he asked me if I was really ready for this life together. Because he didnt want to not be able to just mess with me. All of that happened to me around four years ago. He was also abused as a child. So he is numb to this sort of thing too. I'm becoming a quiet person.I can't see my family because they hate him/ All my friends have rejected me because of him. I love him more than life itself I will never leave him. I just want advice on how to handle this. I told him please dont ever do that again, and he said he would.

My wife cheated on me with a married man 1.5 years ago. We have since worked it out, and he has since divorced his spouse (they were apparently having problems before he slept with my wife), and is in a new relationship. I feel like he hasn't been punished, and if he has been, I certainly don't see it. Would it be wrong to send screen shots of his explicit conversations with my wife to his new girlfriend, letting her know that he screwed around on his wife with another married woman? He lives in another state so he can't really come at me, but my wife would almost certainly find out about this...

Recently seperated US Marine feeling depressed even though I know I have everything going for me. I quickly got a new job and relocated far from home. I have a great job in a new city, an awesome supportive wife and just closed on a beautiful home. I should be happy but i feel tired bored and lazy.

I'm slightly overweight (like 10-15 pounds), socially awkward without much charisma like most of my friends have, average looking (not ugly but not handsome), am in grad school and in a decent sized amount of debt (like $25,000 or so), and my career prospects are up in the air as of now. Also every time I start feeling something for ladies the feeling always passes quickly. Same applied to when I was in college. So even in high school and college I really thought about foregoing marriage and romance altogether, since I don't need it, and now I'm convinced it's probably not for me and I've chosen instead to try and make something of my life and not be a disgrace. But my parents and siblings still fear that if I permanently forego romance and marrying, that I'll later end up sad, lonely, bitter, miserable, etc and that my life and whatever accomplishments I hope to achieve will then mean nothing in the long run. What do I say to this? What say you? Serious question, not trolling or ranting or trying to reach for pity

My fiancé & I are both graduating with our PhD in May. We currently live in TN. I'm from TN (born & raised) she's from SC. She has always wanted to move back to SC after finishing her PhD. I admit, that I've known this since we started dating a few years ago. She even told me prior to us dating that she planned to move back after graduating. Now that the discussion of job applications etc has been discussed as we are applying for jobs now she's insistent she move back to SC & is only applying for jobs in her home state. She won't budge on this issue. I'm not so sure I want to live in SC to be honest & when we discuss other areas to live she tells me I've known for years that she's wanted to move back home. I'm not sure what to do. I want to honestly stay in TN where my family is & she will not budge. Any advice? Should I consider ending our engagement?

So yesterday i was going to meet a friend whom i hadn't seen for long time at a nice cool bar. Unfortunately he was late, so i ordered a drink and a snack and sat at a table alone. As I waiting I noticed that a well-dressed guy from a nearby table looked at me and said sth to his friends. I pretended texting on my phone but after I stopped texting, the guy approached me and say hello but i did not reply so he went back to his friends. What was that? Isn't talking to strangers a bit weird when you're at a bar/restaurant/coffee shop? No I didn't want to brag. I was waiting for my friend and I clearly wasn't looking for complany. It's creepy to approach someone like that out of the blue

My fiancé's mom passed away after being admitted in the ICU. I promised her that I will keep her daughter happy forever. Her dad passed away when she was an infant. It has been three months, but she hasn't gotten over it yet. She's so beautiful especially when she smiles. Often times, she hugs or puts her head on my shoulders and cries saying "I am an orphan" but I keep reassuring her that she is not because she still has me. She does smile sometimes when I crack some jokes but gets back thinking about her mom's death when she is alone. Both of us go to work and our marriage is scheduled next month. Would some kind of counselling help her?

I got a call from my ex mother in law Sally (my ex wife's mother) that she needed my help. I always liked her when I was married to her daughter so I said how can I help you. She told me her 15 year old daughter Jill got a note from her teacher that she was failing math in school and Jill needed a math tutor. Sally had priced tutors and they were all very expensive and she ask me if I would tutor Jill on credit. I told her I would tutor Jill for free as I don't charge friends for my help. Jill cam to my house 2 night a week and I helped her with her math. She raised her grade from an F to an A. Everyone was happy or so I thought. I got a call from my ex wife Sandy that I should stop tutoring Jill because Jill had a huge crush on me and that was just too kinky. I told Sandy I would stop tutoring Jill if her mother ask me to. The next time Sally brought Jill for tutoring I told her what Sandy had told me. She begged me to keep tutoring Jill because Jill now enjoys going to school and her grades are up in all of her classes. Sally told me she did not think Jill had a crush on me and even if she did, teenage girls get crushes all the time they usually go away very shortly. Please give me some advice on what I should do so that nobody gets hurt? THANKS

He offered to share his food with me without asking him for any of it or saying im hungry..he didn t have an extra plate so i may have ended up sharing; he is helping me get a job in return for nothing (he offered). helps me with school work; explains a lot of stuff to me; remembers where i live without ever going to my home; has criticized me constructively! Does he have a crush on me?

I don't care about the material things I may be entitled to. She can keep the house and everything in it. I just want out of it. I have tried everything before deciding this marriage is over. She's cheated on me several times while being on drugs. She's been to rehab and counseling. It only got a little better and then she will go back to the same thing again. Everytime I think she's off drugs she will start sneaking around again. She lost a really good job she had making $80k when she stole her coworker's meds. She is always lying about everything. The very last straw was her deleting text from other men. When I asked her why she would say because she doesn't want to upset me but she's not cheating. I never believed that, why delete it if there's nothing. I have given her plenty of chances to change. She won't go to AA, counseling or church or anything I've suggested. She just says she's tired. It doesn't even seem like she cares anymore.

My husband did cocaine prior to meeting me YEARS & YEARS ago. He said he never touch cocaine since. My daughter is adamant that she's seen my husband using cocain recently on 4 different occasions recently. When I asked my husband point blank if he's been using he swore to me up & down he has not. I'm torn I have no idea who to believe. Please help any advice?

She thought everything was ok. I don't understand as we haven't had sex in 9 months and she won't even sit next to me anymore. I know raising young kids is stressful but we need to make time for each other and she doesn't. Thought communication is key so I let her know. Was this wrong of me?

We have been married 3 yrs. I 29 and my wife 25. Somehow I developed the fantasy. I love to imagine that we both are sitting in the couch naked at 10pm. All house is dark no lighs are on. When all neighbours are sleeping and left the main door unlocked for A mature man 50 or above. Who enters naked in the house. Sit with us in the couch. Then he take my wife into the bedroom. Where they have hot sex. And I am listening my wife sexy moans with pleasure. And she is cuming over and over. Then I join them as well. I told my wife about this fantasy. She was happy that I told her. But she said she will not have sex with any other man. She doesn t mind me sending guys cocks pics. Even she said we will discuss this fantasy virtually to just spice up our sex life. Even she likes when I talk about this fantady when having sex. We love each other till death. I want all ladies here to tell me what exactly u think is on my wife mind. We are young with no kids. Sometimes she says she likes this fantasy. But it s not right to start doing these things. As first she want us to have kids and settled down more with money and business. And she also says that we will start this in late 30s coz we will be more settled, mature and free mind to enjoy these things

My new job where I work overnight..I met this Jamaican guy who keeps trying to sweet talk me kinda frequently. I told him I m married! I don t cheat and basically my husband would rip him apart. But in our last conversation he told me he has been dreaming about me.."good dreams"!! In the dream he is doing sexual things to me, and he even asked me if there is any chance he could find out if I m as good as his dream!! I was upset cause I always have this issue at work and besides I m married! I want a way to tell him leave me out his conversation and dreams and just keep it professional! I don t mind talking in a group with him but if it s just him I m highly uncomfortable... What do I do? I want to let him know that I felt disrespected and it makes me feel uncomfortable around him. I don t have a perfect marriage but I do respect it.

This literally happened over a year ago but I haven't been able to get over it. In the photos you can see that the lady is completely clue-less. He zoomed in with his phone and took all these pictures of her butt and figure. I didn't normally go through his phone but I was taking pictures of all the bithday gifts he got me and the cake and flowers and he just had them sitting in his camera roll..like an absolute idiot. When I confronted him about them he said he frgot that he took them and forgot to delete them and that he instantly regretted doing it. I still don't trust him. I feel like he is bored with me. We have tried to fix things. It doesn't help that I found them on my birthday..so that is a constant reminder..and he still has his job there...part of me thinks that I am just acting crazy and that they are only picture. The other part of me thinks I'm stupid for sticking around when he is showing interest in another women.

I recently caught my husband using porn, something he knows I consider cheating. He has since apologized but my trust is broken and I feel very hurt/insecure etc. so I shared this issue with a close girl friend of mine who happens to be his cousin s wife. Then, my husband told me that if anyone finds out, he will divorce me and that I have no right to share such personal issues with anyone, especially since he already apologized. His apology does not take away my hurt and I feel like I should be able to seek out help from at least one trusted friend. He does not have any friends with whom he shares anything personal about me (I wouldn't mind if he did) and thinks I shouldn t either. Am I wrong for sharing something that could embarrass him for the sake of seeking out needed advice from someone I trust will build up my marriage?

I have been with my husband for over 3 years. We have 2 kids and 1 on the way together. I also have 2 other kids. All he does is work (we own our own company). When he is home he is like an empty shell. I have told him about my feelings of being alone and unloved. He tells me that he loves and he will try to get better but there has been no improvement. For valentines day he did nothing for me. I planned a weekend at a resort and went all out to show him that he is my love. I know he works hard to care for our needs as a family, but he has abandoned his emotional and relationship responsibilities. We can't even go to a movie. I am beyond this feeling just being a day to day thing. I am tired of it. I don't want to end a marriage that doesn't have to be ended. But he is so egotistical and full of pride that I don't think he is going to do anything to change. There is no fun in our life together. No flirting or playing. I feel like I am here to take care of the kids, the house chores, and his sexual needs. I would like to be his best friend that he enjoys. I feel like it is time to leave, but I don't want to leave because I know that when he was emotionally here for me we were great. I used to feel so blessed to have an amazing relationship and man, now I don't know what to think. I've thought about separating for a few days to maybe let the situation really become real to him but I fear that he would end up sleeping around on me. What should I do? Is divorce the only way?

I cheated on my husband, we got divorced. We are back together now 8 months. We were high school sweet hearts. Long story short off n on for 18 years now together about 11 years of those 18. He left two months ago and was after a day talking to someone else after a week he came back home. M so depressed and he treats me way different thus go round. It's so hard to cope. I keep praying and every day gets better. Has anyone overcame anything similar? How did you do it? Any advice?

I jus left a company I was with for 10 years for more pay and less travel (working from home mostly). My boss asked myself and my wife to go to CA for 8 months but that tell through. Now he is asking me to come out for 4 months without my wife (we have been married 6 months now). I would fly back home for a weekend 3 times in the 4 months. My wife has PTSD and can't sleep in an empty house. I don't know what to do. I know she would tell me I can do whatever I want and that she would stay with her folks but I don't know if I should even ask her to do that. What would you do?

Hey everyone. Basically I come from a culture where females marry very early and Im at a age where aunts and fmaily are "concerned" as to why Im not married yet. My cousin is 19 and married to some guy who is 30. She JUST had a baby girl. He wasnt present for the birth because he was at his best friend's wedding. The guy is very religious and he likes to bring his family and friends around ALL THE TIME! she doesnt like that, She hates when he brings his friends and his whole family. There are issues already in the beginning of the marriage. What becomes of females who marry at 18 and have kids at 19? Im not trying to be rude but she is very childish too. SHe is jealous of her sister in law(husband's sister) because her husband got her more gold and diamonds. She comes from the side of the family that think everything is a race/competition in life.