I am so happy because I learned from someone who knows him (I've only met him twice after age 2 and am now 33) that he has pancreatic cancer stage IV. I hear pancreatic cancer is one of the more painful kinds. So am I wrong to be grateful he is suffering and am I wrong to look forward to him entering hell when he does die? I'll go to his funeral but I can't wait to be I am so happy because I learned from someone who knows him (I've only met him twice after age 2 and am now 33) that he has pancreatic cancer stage IV. I hear pancreatic cancer is one of the more painful kinds. So am I wrong to be grateful he is suffering and am I wrong to look forward to him entering hell when he does die?I will know to the funeral when he does die but I can't wait to be knowing he is in the eternal flames of hell wailing in pain regardless of what people will say about him being in eternal rest (I will know it is eternal pain).

He is 29 and for example he has fits like one who is 12. My nephew took his napkin (nephew is 9 and my sister's kid) and my brother started yelling at him and calling the 9 year old a bully. So what does emotionally stunted mean as that is what the psychologist called him. My father took him to therapy as my mother never believed in therapy and so he has never gotten help (my mother finally died last year)

I otherwise love her. My mother avoided her siblings when I was growing up so I guess it is okay and I am okay to one of my brothers and really close to the other brother. But the sister I only see at large family functions because I fear she may hear gossip from my mother about feelings I have and then gossip about me. Otherwise I like her. My mother is the same way but she is my mother so there is more of an obligation. I am a single 29 year old guy (youngest in family)

So I'm 13 and me and my mum just fight all the time over things that are unimportant. I don't really want to put details but, I cry a lot and can someone please give some suggestions, please don't say "talk to her" coz I tried that and it caused an even bigger argument.

He's the landlord and keeps threatening to kick my family out to the streets of I don't have sex with him... I have screenshots of him asking me for naked pictures and I got a picture of him naked.... I don't know what to do... I know this will tear my family apart..... Help me please

My mother had a grandfather she was really mad at because when she was a kid and her father died he got in spats with her mother (the daughter-in-law). He also was grouchy mannered and a huge racist she says and drank a lot. She was 20 when he died. So years later she has an aunt that tried to reach out to her and she refused out of bitterness that the aunt has all the families things that were past down when he the grandparents died in the 1970's. My mother resents that the aunt lives in the house her grandparents did (never accepts invites there). She was livid when the aunt came over a lot to see my grandmother (my mother's mother) when she was dying. And she never introduced me to the aunt's son (who has the same disabilities I have) who would have been a good example to me but my mother says is annoying. My mother has equal bitterness to the two uncles and I don't know them well but one is very nice from the times I met him and very Christian. However, that one used to be an alcoholic and she judges that (he has recovered for over 20 years). So my question is if this is the bitterness she is just passing down about her anger at her grandfather (my great-grandfather) for not taking care of her mother after her father died. I ask because I fear people will judge me similarly to my mother like my mother's brother and his kids who my mother is estranged from. Fearing they will dislike me by accident of birth the way my mother dislikes these people by accident of birth This is NOT my grandfather but my mother's grandfather, my great-grandfather, who died long before I was born

My mom s boyfriend is very mean to me and my mom doesn t see it. I need to find a way to get rid of him. I don t have many ways to get rid of him but I need advice. I have tried talking to my mom and it didn t do anything.

My brother just turned 16. He really doesn't want to grow up and he keeps to himself so much more ever since. He was dreading his birthday and he hasn't spoken much since he turned 16. Why is he taking age so hard and what can I do as his older sister of 17 to help?

When someone in my mother's family messes up then my mother resents them for life (with the exception of her parents, children, and siblings). For example, her cousin had a messy divorce and they used to be close, now she doesn't like the cousin. Her aunt was always nice to her but sometimes intrusive, now as an adult she dislikes that aunt. A cousin of hers came to see her at the hospital when she was in labor and my mother resents that cousin 25 years later. Another example is her uncle is an alcoholic so she calls him the "drunk coward" and didn't act like she cared when he died though she did go to the funeral. Is this normal? If I mess up like make a social blunder when someone is having a baby or any other blunder that is not tiny but also not grave, then will extended family likely hold a grudge against me for it even though immediate family (parents and siblings) forgive? My mother also has never forgiven her husband's family for anything and they are a wonderful and normal family. Her first husband, my Dad, she divorced.

Don't start judging.. I'm not talking about us having sex or any of that. So please keep your rude comments to yourself.

So basically my dad got let go from his job months ago, he went to some retreat because he was unstable (that's how i see it), he went there because i was told that he needed some help getting back on his feet. Then I haven't talked to him in months, the last time was probably New Years, he texted my mom and sister on and off but never asked to talk to me I guess. (plus i dont have a phone at the moment) and then he moved to south caroline with his wife and sons (my stepmom) they moved into her parents house, Im not sure if he has a job or not... Yesterday I was going to text him on my mom's phone and they were having some convo about my sister (didnt read that cuz it was none of my business) and my dad responded with "cant talk now, at an AA meeting" and he hasn't texted since... okay so i think im hurt about it, i didnt ask my mom if he was drinking again (rough past, he was abusive, said he would never go back to it) and I feel pissed at her for not telling me and pissed at him because i feel betrayed in way, even though i feel like i shouldnt feel betrayed cuz im like telling myself its not his fault if he was depressed and decided to drink to take away the pain... but I can't help but feel angry and sad, but numb at the same time because i dont wanna feel it... I feel like its gonna be really awkward when he comes to my senior graduation this spring... it kinda ruined something for me, like wtf, man? Am I selfish? or would you feel the same? Before I had sympathy for him when he was at that retreat and trying to find a job, I got his pain, I understood, but now I'm just... I don't even know. Angry? Sad? Hurt? One reason i probably feel betrayed is because he helped me a lot with my troubles, giving me advice on stuff, we would have long convos on the phone about life... and its weird, i dont even feel shocked that he was drinking, its almost like i expected it but I'm dissapointed, you know?

My sister is so annoying she's the good child and the favorite, Me and my friend hate her but my dad makes my stupid sister join my friend. She gets special treatment I always confront my dad but he just freaks out. My sister and my dad allways see the worst in me and always think of me as the bad child I was 5 years ago. What should I do?

I didn't know how to word it sorry...! But recently my own MOTHER put a cable bill under my name without asking me for permission . Also note the fact I absolutely hate her. Let me tell you why though.. she doesn't take care of my sisters AT ALL. She lives off welfare & depends on the government for money. She is disgusting & so dirty it's so sad.. Where they live is absolutely just disgusting. It was worse when I was younger. She locks my 3 little sisters who are 12 , 5 & 3 out of her room & goes smoke weed with her husband who is not my biological father & is the father of the 5 & 3 y/o. & the 12 y/o is my full sister. But regardless I love them all dearly! My mom doesn't deserve to have them . I can't have them because I am only 18 & still making ends meet. And don't tell me to call cps , they have showed up a couple times before & have done nothing ! & I don't want them to go to foster care. I could go on & on .

My dad has an associates degree in criminal justice. He got it right before I was born. My dad complains about so much buy yet his parents do a lot for him and my aunt. I'm 21 and realize that my grandpa won't be here forever. I guess I'm more grateful. Why is it that those who get everything handed to them are the most unappreciative?

I always have an attitude with him about everything and he is so annoying and hard on me he just pisses me off

I am not dense or anything. Just confused. I was driving in my SUV. My teenage stepdaughter was sitting behind me. She kept putting her foot up on the console and slowly rubbing my tricep with the side of her foot. I didn't confront her and I haven't told her mom. And the reason is because I don't want to blow things out of proportion. I felt uncomfortable because I felt kind of violated. I know that sounds odd because I am a grown man. Am I over reacting? Seems like something that might not be as she intended. Should I be passive about the situation and hope it doesn't repeat and its a phase or should I talk to my wife?

Ok so I have dark brown eyes. So does my mom and dad. My grandma however has blue eyes and my grandpa had brown. All over my grandmas family tree did they blue eyes. So my husband has blue so do both his parents. Since I have a blue eyed history can we have blue eyed kid even though I have brown eyes? Thanks!

In December, I learned through a FB posting that my mother had passed away. Since then, I have been trying to get in touch with my aunt, who was her caregiver during her final days and who had also planned the funeral. It was by chance that I just happened to be on FB that day to read the posting. Now--being newly Catholic--I feel like I was led to there TO find the posting. It took me awhile to reach out to my aunt--I was in shock, after all--and I wasn't sure how my correspondence would be received. I sent her a "Thinking of You" type Valentine's Day card. I still haven't heard anything from her. We've been out of touch for a few years. All this time, I have been giving her the benefit of the doubt as to why she never even notified that my mother was sick. But now, nearly 2 months since I sent her a Valentine's Day card, it's starting to feel like a slap in the face. I was on FB again last night, and came across a girl--well, woman--who I know I'm related to in some way. I have no answers, and everywhere I've searched has come up empty. I would like to believe that my mother had made peace with our Lord before her passing (growing up, she wasn't the best mother, very abusive and what not). I've thought about reaching out to my aunt's church, but I'm not sure if they would tell me anything, let alone how my aunt would feel about it. Any suggestions? BTW, the death certificate only raised more questions.

I'm a stay at home mom and I have been for over 4 years.. What are some things I can do to help me grow or things like food for the brain maybe.lol..

I am grounded and want to go to a really turnt party tonight but I could just lie and sneak out and go to the party and have the time of my life or I could just sit at home and be boring

Mind you I'm not a father nor would I be for a long time to come but I been thinking, both my grandfathers were horrible fathers, my father was also a terrible father. Will I be a bad parent as well? I mean I really hope not but the pattern is making me think.

My sister and I have been living together for a little over two year. At first I was living in her apartment, where I paid half of the rent. I moved out into my own apartment after a year. When her apartment became infested with roaches I let her move in with me. We agreed that she'd pay half of the utilities, electric and cable, because she didn't anticipate her rent going up by 200 a month. I was fine with that at first. She never seemed to be able to pay her half on time though. Eventually we got everything worked out by her paying once a month. After a while we moved into a bigger apartment. Pay in mind this apartment was 930 a month and she only paid 170 (for half cable and electric). I let this go on for a year. Now we have moved into a new house where the rent is 785 and it has a yard for her dog. All together with rent, electric, gas, water, and cable the house costs 1200, so she should pay 600 and I should pay 600 right? Nope, she pays 300 because I feel rude asking her to pay more. I've mentioned to her that I need her to start pay exactly half of the whole rent and utilities soon so I am less stressed but she shows no sign that she knows when she will start doing that. What do I do? I'm tired of always being stressed about money, wondering if she going to pay her measly part of the rent on time this month. It should be noted that while I am in school and receive loans for my rent we basically make the same amount of money each month between our four jobs.

Okay. So get this. I'm stuck in my own basement and my mom and dad are upstairs. I hear screaming and I think I just heard something made of glass shatter on the floor. My dad is yelling to my mom about how he hates n**ers and wants her family to die. (I'm half black) What do I do? I'm only 12.

It like she always wants to ruin my day. Like literally she is in the kitchen but she ******* calls me out of my room and asked me to microwave her something like seriously are you that lazy. I can't even use the bathroom without her bothering me. Its gotten to the point where she says my name so much that I hear her voice when I'm sleeping or anywhere where she is not. WTF.

He always puts off seeing me like he doesn't really care. He has a new wife, new family, etc... He sees me at get togethers and is always nice but never asks me over to his stuff (it is my grandparent's get togethers he sees me at as well as weddings or funerals). Like I offered to go by recently for Easter and he said he and my step-mother were going out for the day with their kids (he could have asked me to come along but he didn't). How can I get him to be a father to a 22 year old son? He has been like this always some but especially since he remarried 14 years ago. My mother says he doesn't love me, is this true also?

I know that everyone always says "money isn't everything" and stuff like that, but having little money when you're a teenager (like me) is extremely difficult. At my age, everything is about what brands you're wearing and how you live, but my family can't afford stuff from lululemon and aritzia. I make as much money as I can by babysitting, but I'm only 14 so I can't get a real job yet. I do plan on going to university, and I have the potential, but I'm worried we won't be able too afford my tuition if I can't get a scholarship and I don't want to be in debt from bank loans. My mom has a job that pays average, but my dad hasn't had a job for as long as I can remember. He used to work for Nortel, but he got laid off then fired completely. What makes it worse is that he hasn't even really tried to get a job, at least not as hard as he can. He just sleeps all day. It's embarrassing to have friends over because he always creates a mess and my house is tiny and ugly. All my friends live in huge houses with luxuries like ipads and macs and it's hard to feel like I'm below their level. The fact that my family doesn't have a lot of money is even affecting my social status and pretty much all my friends left me for more popular girls. I know I sound like a brat, but I just don't know what to do to help my parents or if I even can help. Please help!

I'm a 23-year-old male who works, studies and lives with my parents and siblings. But I seem to be in a situation where my teen siblings and 25-year-old then violent macho brother has decided to permanently exclude me from ever attending when parents took them to such programs without me due to me having an actual job that my eldest sibling never had so far, and my siblings basically decided to exclude me by hiding this from me while my eldest sibling has decided to defame me with all the lies he does such as being the violent one, having no interest in following these trends, wanting to have sex with the mother and being a poser. Parents have also tried to force me to being exactly as my brother's old self as well. I'm more of the person who always had the idea of having hairstyles, following trends and being like the rest, and I have had this preference well before my siblings attended and had me excluded.

I'd like to take my neice to experience a new culture and see the other side of the world. She's seventeen which is the perfect age to go out and explore the world. I have indeed asked her parents already and while her mom disapproved at first, her dad said yes! I feel a bit unsure if i should take her still because her parents promised her they'd take her to Japan after she graduates high school. They made her this promise while she was only in fourth grade and she has been working hard each year so she can go. Now she is a junior, grade eleven, and she's very excited to come since she no longer has to wait another year! She's worked so hard for this trip but I am not sure if I am in the right to just interfere with the plan she and her parents have. We would only stay there for two or three days which is a problem because she will have to miss those days of school.

Hi. I am a 23 year old man. Me, my parents, and my 19 year old sister all sleep on the same bed every night. However, recently my parents decided that me and my sister are now adults and we are now mature enough to sleep quietly while they have sex on the same bed. My parents tell me that to "wear earplugs", "just ignore it", "stop preventing us from having fun" when I am trying to sleep and they are trying to have sex. My sister does not seem to mind their sexual intercourse and she constantly tells me to "grow up" and "they are just making love." I am not allowed to get my own bed or my own place until marriage because my family has a tradition that states that a person must sleep in the family bed until the day he or she gets married. P.S. My parents also set an obnoxious loud alarm at 3:00a.m. so that they can wake up to have sex in the middle of the night and the alarm wakes everyone up and disrupts everyone's sleep. PPS. My sister claps and cheers very loudly every time my parents finish sexual intercourse.

Im 14, almost 15 years old and I want to go to the Florence and the Machine concert but none of my friends like that tye of music, so my mum wants to go with me. I love my mum and she likes Florence and the machine too, but Im afraid I will be the only one with my mum and being laughed at, but I dont want to tell her to not come with me. What should I do? P.S:Not going to the concert isnt an option.

My mom always laughs at me and calls me stupid and worthless.She always hits me if i cry and she always insults me and shouts at me even when i'm in my room and i'm being quiet. I once tried to talk to her when i wanted to go to an afterschool lesson (drama club because theatre has always been interesting to me) and she started to laugh at me and call me talentless. I want to have a normal relationship like most mother-daughter relationships and i try to get closer to her by talking to her about my crush and expected her to talk to me about her crushes when she was my age...but when i think i can trust her,she always makes me change my mind because whenever i don't agree with something she said or she takes the pocket money my dad gave me for school and i ask her about that,she is always threatening me that she will come to my school and embarass me in front of the whole school so I won't have any friends... She often hits me in these arguments... She always acts like the 'nice' and 'patient' mother in front of her friends and always says them things about me that I don't want them to be known... She curses at me and yells at me:I wish you to have ten times worse kids than you are! I just want a normal relationship with my mother and i don't want to be yelled and insulted in that way because I'm really hurt from her words...

Okay so, Me and my mom don t have no relationship at all. We have been constantly fighting this week. And this morning, my mom told me she had enough of this bullshit, and lunged at me. I got scared so I didn t know what to do. I hit back (yes I know, I did do wrong) after the massive fight, am guessing my mom called my dad and told him what happend. And my dad called me and told me,"Watch your back when I gor home, you re going to pay what you did to your mother!!" And I know what he s gonna do, he s gonna grab me by my hair and punch me mulitple times, and throw me to the wall like he always does.... Am scared to death and I know my dad very well, and he for sure will do that. Please help anyone I need to know what to do!!!

I'm 15. I recently, at my request, moved to Mississippi to live with my dad and stepmom because my biological mom has drug problems and has been a very inconsistent mom (to say the least). I love her, but my dad and stepmom have always been there for me. and I needed stability. Before I made the decision to move here, my dad and stepmom warned me that they still believed in spanking as a last resort even at my age. I was kind of shocked, but really wanted to move in here, and (since I rarely get in any trouble) wasn't all that concerned. We have no school today (teacher work day) and this morning I got in big trouble for something that I, in all fairness, deserved to be in trouble for. But I was still flabbergasted when dad had my stepmom take me out back and bust my behind. She didn't leave any bruises or "hurt" me or anything like that, but she did light me up something good and the pain was/is very intense. I'm just kind of shocked. I know that they love me, I'm NOT looking to turn them in or get them in any trouble (regardless of the answer to this question), but this is so far from my cultural norms that I have to ask, are they even legally allowed to do this? Is it fair at all? I just never really saw this happening at my age, and it all went down so suddenly....

Hello I am a single aunt, 24 years old, no children (but LOVE them). I have a niece who is seventeen years old and has no chores, no responsibilities, no independence and no job. My brother and sister in law have given her a free pass throughout her entire life. My niece is wonderful and such a sweetie pie but she lacks responsibilities and sadly social skills as well. Her grades are dropping as is her GPA. Last year she had a good 3.9 GPA and now her GPA is a 3.4? Her parents allowed her to attend online high school because she did not want to wear uniforms or wake up early. She's a good kid, never gets in trouble and always respectful but so lazy nowadays. Her father bought her a car, pays for her gas, pays for her new phones amd laptop, pays for new clothes every week and basically says yes to anything she asks. Now i don't know how to raise kids of my own but I have already asked my brother to let her stay with me starting May and he has agreed. Is it too late to learn responsibility at her age??

I'm a professional massage therapist. I have a 17-year old daughter and 15-year old son. I LOVE them to pieces! When possible I give them massages a lot, often when they're under stress or feeling upset and both always seem to love it. After hearing about this a lot of my friends started saying this was kind of creepy since I give them the same type of professional massages, not just a quick backrub. It's probably because I'm doing it without their clothes on and just under towels, which I can see why a teenager would find weird to be dressed as around their mother, but that seems to be exactly how both want it. My daughter once kept her bra on, but she said she didn't like it because it prevented long interrupted strokes. Do you think this type of massage is inappropriate in this sense?

I m looking for some legal advice or at least where to start. I am an (almost) 21 year old female living in Iowa with my boyfriend. My mother and stepfather live in Minnesota. My stepfather has been in my life since I was 10 and has practically raised me and my brothers. Ever since my parents divorce, our "dad" had been fading from our lives. He didn t make much of an effort for anything, avoiding talking to me and my brothers or taking care of us at his place. Between constantly moving and taking new jobs he didn t have time for us an it was pretty obvious he didn t want to be around us. Soon, I stopped talking to him and I stopped going to his place. My stepfather taught us how to ride a bike, drive a car, and get our first jobs. With talk of getting engaged, I know I want my step dad to walk me down the aisle. And to make it official and show him how much raising me to what I am now how much I appreciate that. So what type of paper work do I need for him to adopt me and who all needs to be involved?

My parents have been divorced for around 3 years now, i'm currently living with my mother; and I have not spoken to my father since the separation (because of personal reasons, not abuse or anything drastic). My dilemma is I can't stand living in the house anymore, because of similar conflicts. My only other choice is to ask my father if he could pay for rent and living expenses away from both of them until I can get a part-time job. Is using my father just for money a bad thing? Even though ill be hiding my true feelings I have about him. Or by using his money toward supporting me be a good thing for a father-son relationship?

. I'm a 10 year old boy.On easter sunday our family had a great time. we played board games and did some egg hunts. But randomly my dad said he had to leave, it made us all feel uncomfortable. I fell asleep at like 9. Randomly I woke up to some scuffling in the living room. I got up and saw a bunny costume with something hanging out of it. I turned the light on and saw my dad in a bunny costume with a hole in the pee pee area, and it turns out his wiener was hanging out of it, he was shaking his wee wee in front of the camera. he also had night vision goggles on for some reason. I was really scared so I went back to sleep, I don't know what to do, is my dad gay? help

My oldest stepson Evan doesn't want to visit his mom anymore, he's 13 so I feel like he's capable of making his own decision however I don't want this decision to become bigger than it is and have us end up in court in a custody battle, I don't think it is fair to drag the boys through that. Should I force Evan to see his mom or let him make his own decision and talk to his mom about it as her and I have always gotten along for the sake of our boys as my husband and her do not.

I'm a 13 year old girl, and my mom pest away when I was 3, so it's just me and my dad, he's super strict when it comes to social media! I'm not allowed to have a lot of it, I only have Facebook,Instagram and Snapchat, okay so all of my friends put there Snapchat username in their Instagram bio, so I did too, the same day I did that I got a request from somebody, so I added him as a friend on Snapchat, so I go back to snapchat and see a message from him, I opened it up and what do I see?! A picture of his "thing" the second I saw it I immediately blocked him! And now I don't know what to do! If I tell my dad he will tell me to close all my social media accounts and probably take away my phone, and I don't want it to happen, I've always been super careful with social media because I know how dangerous it could be! Should I keep this to myself? (I did take off my username of my Instagram) Asking this for the 2nd time because didn't get any answers the first time!

He has landscapes, religious paintings, a crucifix and photos of family all over his walls. But why? I am a minimalist, I like things easy and things on walls are dust collectors, also religious pictures are against the Bible,e claims to be Christian and yet has pictures on the wall! I want him to be like me, all hat effort to dust and polish all those pictures, I just can't be bothered. My nephew is 26 and still has family photos, time to move on and grow up.

Amost 4 years ago, my sister asked me to borrow some money. She told me she had money coming in a few weeks but needed $1500 right away so I let her borrow it with the expectation of having it returned within 2 months maximum. After she didn't say anything for a few months I realized that she was unable to pay me back right away. She had recently moved across the U.S. which was expensive, and didn't have a full time job although she was working. I decided not to put any undue pressure on her and let her pay me back when she can. However, months have now turned into years. I approached her about paying me back a year ago, which is 3 years after the loan was made, and she got defensive and offended. It's true that I did not need the money at that time but I don't like either owing money or having money owed to me. To make matters worse, my sister doesn't tell me anything about her financial situation. She considers that her "private business". She doesn't tell me if she is even looking for a full time job or intending to continue doing the part time work that she is currently doing. She never brings up the money. If I talk to her about it today, it will be the first time in over a year that I've brought it up, and only the second time since the loan was made. I feel like my sister does not put any priority on paying me back because she knows that I don't need it. I've told her that if she is waiting for me to "need" $1500 in order to start paying me then I'll never get paid back because I won't mismanage my finances that badly. When I spoke to her a year ago, I told her not to wait until she has $1500 to give me because that's not easy for anyone to do, but rather to pay me a few hundred every now and then when she can. She ruled that out as a possibility and told me she will pay me the full amount next time she sees me, which would have been a few months later. Needless to say, that did not happen, and she didn't bring up the subject. To be clear, my sister is very intelligent and we have a good relationship. The issue is that she is in a financially weak position and she is too defensive about that. She doesn't want to share her financial state with me because it is embarassing. Any advice is appreciated. Thanks,

I live with my girlfriend and our two year old daughter. I love her very much and we are going to be married once we have saved up enough for the wedding. That is the problem though. We don't have any money to save because she spends it all. We are both unemployed so money is tight. I try to keep costs down but she seems to have no concept of money. She buys gifts everybody she knows, toys and clothes for our daughter, fast food, candy etc. She claims to be allergic to the cheap brands of detergent, shampoo etc. If we are down town and want something to drink she has to drink a 10 $ glass of soda at a cafe instead of buying a bottle in a shop and drinking it on a bench in the park. If time has been running late and we need to get dinner in a hurry she insist that we order takeout instead of just making a quick sandwich. She just spent 200 $ on gifts. She is always planning on new stuff to spend money on - currently it is an iPad. When I try to talk to her about not spending so much money she becomes defensive and claims that I'm the one at fault because I have not contributed anything towards the new clothes for the kid or the gift for this or that cousin. Of course I have not done that - I've spent all my money on groceries! She can't even accept that - she claims that she also buys groceries (which is right, about a tenth of what I do) and implies that I am a miser. In her world all the stuff she buys is necessary and I'm being petty for talking against spending money on it. The result of all this is that we usually end up being forced to live off a very tight budget around mid-month. I also feel guilty for sometimes spending a little on myself - even if it is just an ice cream cone -because I know we are going to need that money for food when my girlfriend has spent all of hers. I would love to spend less than we have and be able to save some money up for unforseen expenses or even for spending on some nice stuff for ourselves but I can't see that happening as long as all our money is spent on useless junk. My girlfriend seems to have no concept of money - every month she seems surprised when it is all gone and even though I try to explain to her what she has spent it on. It is as if those numbers and budgets means nothing at all to her. She simply does not understand how she went from "having money" to "not having money". The most bizarre part of it all is that she is fully able to recognize and criticize this behaviour in others. Her mother is the same way - every month when she gets her paycheck she runs out and buys gifts for our daughter, only to find herself broke at the end of the month. Besides the thing with the money she is an amazing person and a wonderful mother for our daughter. I love her very much and want to spend the rest of my life with her. Her compulsive spending is just driving me insane and I'm afraid it is going to ruin our relationship. What can I do to help her stop?

I'm 25 and I put myself through school. I just graduated last year and I don't make much money. I am now pregnant and trying to pay some debt off. My husband is working very hard to support us and times are tough. My mom (and dad) who used to be wealthy before the recession has lost everything. She is jobless and struggling to make ends meet the money she does get she uses to get her nails done and get haircuts or new phones. My parents claim to not even be able to afford food and she told /tells me to buy her stuff. On a daily basis! It's always something! I don't know what to do! Today she said "I know you have the money, I bought you the nicest stuff when you were growing up now buy me some stuff". I can't even spend money on my unborn baby without feeling guilty that I should thrift shop just so I'm not perceived as "rich". I'm so lost.

Ok so I'm working which is great and been working for about 7 months now. I have like 1800 saved up. So whatever paycheck I get I HAVE to give it to my parents. It's not fair it's MY money, not theirs! I'm almost 17 for crying out loud! I'm not a child! My abuelo and abuela gave me $300 for Christmas. I want to spend some of it, but my parents said "No". I want a proscan tablet like my friend does. My dad said, "No, you don't need it. You already have a laptop so what more do ya want?" So my mom took the money away and put it in the bank for me. Man my parents suck! I want to buy a NEW car too but they won't let me either! My mom said, "The used car you have is fine. You don't need a new car. Save, save, save." God my parents won't let me do ****! They think they know more than me! They also told me 'what's yours is ours.' Can they do that?!!! All they are about is "Save, save, save" .

My grandma died last year and we are visiting her house a year later.Everyone is feeling really sad and sharing memories about her.She died because she kept suffering from short epilepsy shocks, and it started when the day after we went to a restaurant and she got poisoned just like me, my mum, and my dad.The thing is, I really wanted to go the restaurant and literally begged my mum and dad to go, but I was only 9 and didn't know that it was a bad restaurant.A part of me is blaming the restaurant but also a part of me is blaming myself? Am I guilty? I also feel like she died because she thought I didn't like her, because I was quite a bratty child but never meant it, I truly love and miss her. That was her first shock and then my grandad died months later and the shocks got worse.

OK so my brother spanked me for swearing at a teacher. He gave me, like, 100 swats with the hairbrush, and it was on the bare bottom. Don't tell me things about abuse and calling the cops because he only does it out of love and it's only the third time he spanked me. He hugged me and bought me ice cream afterwards. It's been like two hours-ish (I think) and my bottom's still stinging. It's not awful now but I still don't want to sit anywhere. What can I do to relieve the pain? Thank youuuu Please... don't tell me to behave myself. I've misbehaved, paid for it, and it's still stinging. Advice?

She's an out of school youth. She's really an intelligent person, a wiz actually. She wasn't able to get what she wanted a few years ago (to study abroad) because we're so poor and my father wasn't that supportive with our personal endeavor. She's qualified but she wasn't able to go abroad because of financial problem. That was I think 10 years ago or something. Now, 2016, all she does is stay at home. She doesn't have friends outside of home. She has stopped going to school. Although she has a part time through online, she's causing us distress... I know what she's feeling because at some point in our lives, our parents deprived us of our privileges because we're poor. We're all fair. But the problem is that, because her IQ is so high, her EQ is so low. We're all having a hard time because she's the help-rejecting person. She is so negative, pessimistic, and doesn't want to get help from psychologists or from us. We always ask her and try to help her out, but she always avoids or rejects those kinds of topic... She is full of self pity that's what I hate about her. I am starting to get irritated because she's wasting her life away. She has so much potential, I always tell her that and show her that, we always do, but because of what happened in the past... she can't move on. You know, our parents did what they did to my sister to us too but in different forms. Still, we know our situation we should all move forward. Do you know regression? She does that. Help me out. She is not depressed. She is eating normally, she's able to do household chores, have part time job, and take a bath... The problem I think is she lost motivation and meaning in life to keep her from going... Please help me out

Im a 14 year old girl, and for the past year or so i have been sharing a room with my 8 year old sister. It was originally my room but my mum gave up work and got students so my sisters room is being rented out. when my sister moved in my room she had to bring all her stuff and she has ALOT of stuff, and now i have litterally got my bed, 2 draws in my wadrobe, a shelf and two small baskets. Recently, i have been wanting to paint my room and decorate it. my parents have given me permission but i cant do it when my sister is in here because she will ruin it.... It it really stressing me out because she never keeps it clean and i can never do homework because she messes my stuff up and all my work goes missing and that is starting to really affect me because im in im GCSE years in school and im getting in alot of trouble.... my mum always blames me and tells me to sort my stuff out but its my sister who keeps going through my things and stealing them, and when i tell my mum she keeps telling me to grow up.... i really dont know what to do and my mum says we are going to have students for ages so my sister has to stay in my room...

My niece (not giving out names so I will just say Niece A) had a baby girl and called her Rachel, my other niece (Niece B) is upset because she wanted to call her baby (if she has one in the future) Rachel after her sister who died. Niece A refuses to change her mind on the baby's name and her husband told me to mind my own f-----g business. The day Niece A got out of hospital I barged down there with my boyfriend and sons, my sons had knives to confront her husband for swearing at me and I tried to get her to change her mind and she refused, I called her a selfish b***h and she told me to get out her house, I refused to budge but my boys pulled me back and we went home. Niece B is heartbroken, she wanted to call her baby Rachel, what should I do? The family is falling apart.

My parents think that I will get addicted to it and that I will spend all my time on it. I'm in year 9 now, and all my friends have instagram, and it's bothering because I feel kinda excluded when they talk about it. Plus, I have lived all over the world, and I think that it will be easier to keep in contact with them on Instagram rather than emailing them so much. How do I convince my parents to let me get Instagram? P.S. I have good grades, so I guess I could use that as an advantage... ?

My mother in law has been overstepping boundaries with my children and my marriage. Little things she's been doing have been bothering me. For example, prior to this past Easter she asked what she could get the children for the holiday. She wanted to get them Easter baskets. I said I had already gotten Easter baskets and all of the stuff for them, so please don't get them another one (she has a tendency to go overboard with spoiling). So she said she would just buy them each an outfit for the holiday, for which I was grateful and said "great. Thank you." On Easter she shows up with 3 overflowing Easter baskets for each child and clothes. At a recent family BBQ my son asked for a second helping of cake. I told him no. She was right next to me so I assumed she heard. She gave him a large second piece. Which really aggravated me. In hindsight I probably should have taken it away and told him "I said no", but felt uncomfortable and was fuming a little inside. Then my son made a comment about how she had 2 angel food cakes in her trunk when he was getting something out for her. She asked him if he wanted one, to which I said "Oh, thanks for offering but no thank you. We already have a pie at home in the fridge". She spoke over me, ignored what I said and in a condescending tone toward me said "you can have that cake if you want it, Samuel." I again said louder "no thank you", which she ignored and then told him he could have it again, all the while with a huge smile in her face. It seemed rather obvious that this was intentional disregard for me and what I was saying. Later my husband went and talked to her and although she feigned innocence at first she knew exactly what he was going to talk to her about, so she knew what she had done was rude. This was all after a conversation he had with her after another incident in which she purchased a gift for my son that was the prize he was working towards on a reading chart with me. He told her that I was going to buy him the super hero after he completed his reading chart in a week as she said "well, why don't I just get it for you now." She is now upset with us, is playing the victim, said that we hate her, is bein manipulative and dramatic, accusing her son of not loving her... and now is saying that she will just have no contact with us if she "can't be who I am". She is a generous person but it often crosses the line. Now she's making me out to be the bad guy to all of the family and is saying that she feels "abused" by us and the way we treat her. What to do?

Well first off I'm 17 years old. I have a job and I do great in schoo (i'm homeschooled.) I've always been the girl afraid of getting in trouble so I just never did anything bad. Well in 2015 I got my first boyfriend. My parents went from being loving to all of a sudden. Jealous and angry.. My parents had always had a problem with any of my friends. My dad would make fun of my friends and they'd try and limit my time with them. I have been playing music for a while and all they want me to do is stay home and then when they want me to, they want me to go to jams to see older people who are my "friends." I don't mind going to jams but they make me miss out on seeing my friends for these people or get mad at me for saying no to going and then punish me by not letting me go see my friends. I'm 3 months from turning 18 and my parents track my miles on my car, they want my passwords to my social media accounts, they constantly want to look at my phone, they count the hours I spend with my boyfriend, and they call me constantly or text me when I'm on a date. My curfew is also 10. But lately they have been making it like 6 and 7. They constantly yell at me and tell me how I'm going to end up terrible and probably on welfare (nice right?) Or that I'm just going to become a mindless preachers wife (my boyfriend wants to be a preacher.) Anyways, Are they being normal parents here or am I just being a rebellious teen? Or is this definitely not a way I should be treated? Help!

I have been married for 2 years. My husband is a really great guy and his mother is very nice. She is separated from her husband and has 2 kids. I know this happened 6 months ago, and will not happen for another 6 months but I would like to get it resolved before the holiday comes up again. On our first Mother's Day together I visited my mother's grave on Sunday and my husbands mom, sister in law, and her in laws that same day. It proved to be too much as my mom's grave and his family and in laws live on opposite sides of the state. The next year I visited my mom on Saturday so Sunday would be free to do what his family wanted and we wouldn't have to drive as much on Sunday. This past mother's day was my first as a new mom so I wanted Sunday to be special with my husband and son. I suggested 1 of 3 choices so everyone would be happy: 1. Me and my husband take his mom out on Saturday so she would have a full day with him. Her daughter and daughter's in laws would still take her out on Sunday. I would have all Sunday with my husband and son. 2. I visit my mother's grave and have lunch with my husband and son on Sunday. Then we would have dessert with his mom at our house afterwards. We again wouldn't have to drive across the state. 3. I visit my mom and he visits his mom separately so we both get to see our mom's and then he and I would meet up to spend the afternoon together. All of these 3 options were refused by my sister in law (husband's sister) because she thought her mom was so nice to me and did so many nice things for me since I met her and I needed to treat her for Mother's Day. She said her mom is very sentimental and it could be done on no other day than Sunday. I said but it's my first Mother's Day as a new mom and I want it to be special and do not want the stress of driving to different places. She said well last year was my first Mother's Day as a new mom and it was one of the worst day of my life. I had to be selfless and accomodate my mother and mother in law. I had to put myself aside for them to be happy. That is just what we do. I said it is unfair that just because my mother is dead that she doesn't count and it doesn't matter if I see her or not. We fought via email to the point where my husband had to call his mother and sister. In the conversation his mother said, you have hurt me one too many times, so do what you want for Mother's Day, I just don't care anymore. The resolution was that me and my husband visited my mother and family for lunch and his mom came over for dessert (didn't I say that to begin with?). I had a bad attitude because I was still upset about everything. I did not speak to my mother in law very much while she was there because I was upset. I thought she has had 30 mother's day to spend with her son and this is my first as a mother and her and her daughter were selfish enough to ruin it by putting up a big fight. I asked my husband what we are going to do this year to "make up" for last year and he said why should I reward you for your bad bahavior with the attitude you gave my mom. I said I was still upset. He said they apologized. I said NO ONE said anything to me. Because of this and many other situations similar to this I feel like she wants to still be the center of the family when in actuality we have started our own family now. They are still family but my husband is responsible to us first. In my opinion him and I should discuss our holiday plans first and then bring them to them. His sister especially tries to dictate our lives. When does a man choose his wife over his mother? When does his sister stop trying to tell him what to do?

An orphan is a child who has lost both parents A bastard is a child who has lost a father or both parents are not married but what about a child who has lost a mother?

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I feel like I'm living in a Jerry Springer episode. My fiance's family has been cold to me from day 1. I have tried very hard to be nice and kind and generous but it just makes me bitter when they spurn my efforts with insults or just complete indifference (sometimes I wonder if they even know I'm in the room). For instance I'm sure that his brothers don't know how many siblings I have or what I do for a living or what I study in school. We bought the house they grew up in and they haven't stepped foot in it since. Fast forward to 18 months ago when his one sister in law started raging at me. She accused me of trying to kill her baby and destroying her family. Apparently she had already been raging behind our backs about me walking near a grill with the baby. For the record I have a lot of child care experience and the grill itself had died down to almost nothing, that child was in more danger of being eaten by zombies than being grilled. The rage episode, which was three months after the offending act, was witnessed by my fiance's other brother, sister in law and mother. Fiance has not gotten a single word of support. He was told that they are not "taking sides". We have been insulted and criticized so many times over hte past five years. Every time we just swallow our pain for the sake of family harmony but this was the last straw. We have made it clear that we just want an apology, a simple "I'm sorry". But, that's too hard for anyone to say. Our wedding is in 4 months and my mother in law to be has just notified us that she's not attending. ITs not as if it is difficult for her as the wedding is about 2 miles from her house. Fiance is ripped apart emotionally. He lost his father very young and feels completely betrayed. We are being ordered to grovel before the bullies and to welcome them to our wedding. We have good reason for not inviting an unstable rage-a-holic who we both feel will use our wedding to showcase her anger. In addition we were excluded from an all expenses paid vacation to Florida last year under the guise of being unable to schedule around our mid term schedules. When we complained about this we were told we are selfish (selfish for not wanting to fail graduate school apparently). I'm glad that the old witch decided to not come to our wedding, but clearly this is difficult for my fiance. I don't think he can fix the situation because we are dealing with illogical d-bags. What can I say to him to make him feel better? How do you tell your mother that its fine and that you have decided that she doesn't exist? At least this has put into perspective my insane family, they are sooooo much better and I'm so grateful that they are dysfunctional but loving instead of coldhearted like my in-laws.