So here's the thing my children's father has been deported for domestic violence but not just once but several times I want to file for Sole custody of the 2 children but he doesn't want to give me full custody because he feels he still needs to be in the children's life he's never paid child support an kids don't even know him at all would I have a good chance of getting sole custody I mean cos even thought the domestic violence was years ago we are still going to to counseling for it .?

Ok I already am aware how terrible a person I am. All I want is advice. Please do not berate me. U have no idea how much this is eating me up. Me and wife just recently got married (she's 22 and I'm 26). So this incident happened last week. Her sister was over at our house and my wife went out with her friends for a girls night. Well while she was gone me and her sister were watching a movie and her sister got extremely close to me on the couch. I didn't think anything of it. I thought maybe she was cold or a little creeped out by the movie we were watching. Anyway, after a while she started touching my crotch and asked me if I find her attractive. She is a very attractive 20 year old girl so I told her this. And next thing I know she kisses me and we started having sex and went up to one of the bedrooms. I ended up falling asleep after and got woken up when my wife called me to tell me she was coming home. I immediately felt like a scumbag and told my wife's sister that this was a huge mistake. She was totally fine with what happened but didn't want my wife to find out. Now ever since it happened I want to tell my wife. I love her not her sister. I know I cannot blame her sister entirely since I didn't stop her but it feels like such a nightmare. Being able to look her in the eye and know what I did just makes me want to pukeZ I'm disgusted with myself. I will give 10 points to whoever gives me the nicest or best advice to deal with with situation.

Friends on social media, occasional texting and meeting for lunch...

I'm not sure what to do anymore. My husband has been friends with this girl since high school he's 31 now. Last year he was being not himself so I went snooping on his phone which he knows I will if I notice him not acting his normal self since work is a major part of his phone use and I was trying to see if their was something I could do to help his stress level. Well I found a text of his female friend and him flirting I confronted him and he got upset that I saw it and I never seen a flirt text again until now but it's very rare I go on his phone. He was calling her "sweetheart" and sending her emoji hearts and kiss faces I confronted him again and he flipped out saying i am too nosey and need to mind my own business , hes always talked like that and they are just friends he even said he was trying to make her feel better on her birthday because her and her husband just filled for divorce in January (the text wasn't sent near her birthday it was 2 weeks ago) which I already knew about the divorce as Iv met her and talked to her many times. Iv explained to my husband I don't like him flirting with women regardless of who they are and he gets upset Iv even asked him about how he would feel if I did they with some of my guy friends and he never answered me except to ask what guy friends I have been talking to. I have a strong feeling he's cheating on me but I can't prove it. Even our sex life has gone to hell all of a sudden as well. I use to not be able to keep him away from me and now we might do the deed twice a month if I'm lucky and he makes up an excuse of I'm not in the mood and I'm too tire or Iv got a headache which I know 90% is not true. The other day I was joking with him and asked when was the last time you got any (sex reference) and he said in a a few days (not in a joking back kinda way) we haven't had sex in almost 2 weeks which I find is odd.

Please be thorough. I haven't yet because he was very abusive and I'm actually a little scared and think I shouldn't file. But then he doesn't have any responsibiliy for our child. Please help. Thank you.

Also 1. How old were you when they got divorced? 2. Male or female? 3. How many siblings do you have?

So my wife and I have been married for a year and 1/2 together for 7 total we were saving for a house and trying to have a kid . Then,I found out she was cheating off and on since we were engaged. I was pretty devastated. I had no were to go at the time since we have an apartment together so i couldnt leave. Anyways now it's been about 4 months things are somewhat back to normal and now she whats to have twins through ifv. She wants it within the next few months. (Her sister just had a baby so now she wants a kid even more)And I feel like I should leave and just be single but that's a huge choice aswell? I can't figure out my feelings because everything is moving so fast. Can I really trust my wife this time? To go and have children with her? Ps she cheated on me on our first year dating. (also I got my sperm checked and I was normal so not sure with that either?)

My husband doesn't seem to love me, or at least, not as much as I love him. On several occasions he has said this, "thats why we shouldn't be together". Especially while we are fighting but also when we were separated but on good terms and I would try to get him to come home. I suspect that I am being used, as he has no job, no money, and few options for other places to live. Now please don't lecture me about why I want to be with him if that is true, i just need other peoples opinion. When I confront him about how I don't think he is in love with me and is only using me, he denies it. I am 40 years old and don't know one single person who would say that to their significant other if they were truly in love with their partner. It almost seems like he is trying to convince me we should break up, in order to make a clean break without bitterness and a messy divorce. What do you think? Is my gut feeling that I am being used and he is not in love with me true?

Well here is the thing, I like this guy who is 23 yes old n I m 21. He has a ex wife but had no kids with her. Knowing my parents who are really religious will probably see this as adultery...or something like that. Is it consider adultery if he married me? Thanks you for your time! !

I say yes. Spouses come and go, but a good job will give you money, which you need to survive, and relatives will give you company and help in tough situations, which you need. You can get another spouse in most cases. Even if you can't, if you've good relatives and a good career, you'll be okay. Marriage is not as important as a career when it comes to survival.

She keeps asking if I can practice it on her I dont know why

She is only 30 years old. I am 33. The spark seems ro have left our marriage. We have been married for 4 years. We have financial pressure and need to secure a loan to settle our apartment that is nearly built. Her job is a high pressure one in real estate and the market is starting to flatten out for Chinese investors. She is Chinese and I'm Aussie. My job involves retail assistant work and I'm studying towards a better career through language classes and a second uni degree. I am constantly worried about the drop in uer sex drive. Since late last year it has dropped sognificantly. But she still comes to hug and kiss me, talk a bit with me etc. I have put on a lot pf weight and I'm aware of my limited salary. I'm actively working towards solutions with study and I need to try and make time to go to the gym. I have injured myself in the home a couple of times with a broken toe from falling out of bed etc. I have tried to ask her more about why she has no feelings for sex and she says she doesn't know. She did say she wishes I could learn kung fu (she posted a photo of a young Chinese guy here in Sydney demonstrating it). But the rods in my back prevent me from learning it. I am also very quiet. I asked about hormones and she said that if I know a solution, she would be happy to take it to get those feelings back. She is only 30! Often says to give her time for the feelings to come back and has asked me if I cheated on her because lately I have ignored urges to make moves on her (I just resigned to living a sexless marriage). We have had sex only twice this year. So my serious question is am I being cheated on? Or why has she lost her sex drive at such a young age? She isn't on contraceptives. So why the sudden change? She reckons she has no interest in anyone. I upset her when I said I still have normal functioning and get turned on by the sight of a woman (esp. her). So does anyone have a way to enlighten me? We went away with her aunty on a few big interstate trips over xmas and new year. Do you think a getaway could help? Because I worry she will be thinking about her job and the property settlement the whole time. I'm considering waiting until May when it settles. A typical day for us is a simple cuddle in bed at the end of the day before sleep. That's it. She goes about her days wothout me around. Doing her job, learning tai chi, attending church, dancing and going wherever she feels like with freedom. So that's where I'm concerned that she may be having an emotional or physical affair and trying to hide it. On the flip side, how to get that passion back? What can I do differently? Why can't she just love me for who I am? Like I have been loving her for who she is. I just don't get it. Do all married women end up doing this to their husbands? Or do they make an effort to stay in the mood? I feel like I'm being unfairly punished or mistreated despite her claiming to the contrary. What the hell is going on? I did some reading online about the benefit of counselling and I think online skype counselling would be a bonus. The other stuff about romancing each other doesn't occur. If I try to message her throughout the day, she will ignore it. When she comes home she heads straight to the bedroom and continues to chat to her clients about biying property. She gets home about 11pm most days.

and since then we live together in a rented house and have a joint household.Her name's Mary.I want to receive your advice how to create a strong,happy and successful family

My husband and I have been separated for 3 years. During this time we have remained friends and even moved on to casually seeing other people (coworkers). Whenever it comes time to take the plunge and get divorced, we always find a reason not to. Recently our daughter needed surgery and as a result we found ourselves spending more time together. More shockingly, I found myself leaning on my husband more than my boyfriend (despite him being a great guy). My husband told me that he missed me and our family, that he sometimes resents his girlfriend for not being me, and that there has been times that he can t get me out of his head. He leaned in to kiss me, but I wouldn t let it happen. After thinking about things and weighing the pros and cons I proposed we try to take things slowly and see where they go, but I was met with "I can t." He explained to me that even though the times in our marriage were the best in his life and he d never been happier that he wouldn t be able to just blow up the life he s built for himself in these three years to take another chance on us, particularly the girl. Then he said that if no one else s feelings were involved, he would pick me, and that at his core, I m what he wants. Do I need to be fighting for this, or just let it go?

I really just need advice. I m 26 with 4 kids. Just had my son 2 weeks ago. I m a stay at home mom my kids are my world. My husband is a functioning alcoholic and despite numerous fights he never changes and I don t know what to do... he drinks liquor daily, often wets the bed, becomes hostile, and very often is so drunk he makes no sense while talking. I can t leave I can t support myself and my kids and have no one to babysit so I could get a job. He threatens that if I leave him he will quit his job so he won t have to pay support.... how do I convince him to get help?

It's a fantasy of hers, and her birthday is coming up. I figured I would let it happen. I'm even considering messing with the guy as well if she wants. Thoughts?

We have been married for 4 yrs, and its been rough. I used to just leave, but now I can't because I rented my other house out. I stopped sleeping with him because I just feel so ashamed. He gets drunk and starts growling, and thrashing all over the bed. He kept me up all night Friday, and I had to go to work Saturday morning with not even 10 min of sleep and I was exhausted and too embarrassed to tell anyone why I was up all night. Im not getting another divorce. Im too embarrassed. Any thoughts?

My girlfriend and I have been together for about 5 - 6 years now and we recently got married and we have one baby boy and she is pregnant with another. She has a past of drug use, alcohol use , being a stripper. and sleeping with a lot of guys and she told me this because she didn't want me to hear the wrong side of the story from someone else. I also have a past of jail time, drug use and alcohol use but that's not who we are anymore. I love her and I don't care about her past. She is now a very sweet girl who is a lawyer, she donates tons of money to charity, she has very nice things and she is just so sweet but my friends constantly judge her. I don't know why though. I have a past 10x worse than hers. I started hate attacks, shop lifted, etc, etc. but they constantly hate o her. I am so in love with her and I don't know what to do about my friends. They say that she is going to leave me because she used, key word being "used" to have commitment issued but we have been together for 5+ years and we have been just fine. What do I do about them ?