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He's older. When on the phone, he tells me to shut up, tells me he owns me, says he is my lord and master. He says I need to be very submissive and obey him. I've never met him, only spoken on the phone with him for a year and half. He's never given me money, he's like a sugar daddy but only in waiting. He said since he's offering to pay for my surgery (who knows if he really will), that if he caught me with another man he will kill both of us. He says women from New York are rough and masculine. He also trolls a site we met on with at least 10 different accounts. It's psycho to me as he's 52 and curses people out and says evil things to them. He had told me different lies about his other women, he's polyamorous. Told me he nought her a home in Marina del Rey. Told me she didn't work bur runs her own self help program. Said he pays bills for his other girls, but I believe they are working anyway. Gets irritated at things I do when he does them too. Calls me b*tch, h*e, tr*mp. Tells me he needs to beat me because I don't know how to act. He's talk 6'10" and muscular. Why is he this way? I don't understand it.

I am a married man and I have a female co oworker that I am friendly with.She is 30 and not married. I don't know her relationship status but I know she is not married and doesn't have any kids. I find her attractive but I have no intetions of pursuing her since I am married man with grown kids. She is aware that I am married since I bring up my wife in conversations sometimes. She is a nice person and she has qualities I like in a woman. I would like to be friends with her and talk to her outside work. I asked for her number on 2 different occasion so we can talk on the phone sometimes but she declined and said she hatea talking on the phone....that we can talk at work. I didn't press the issue .However I am retiring at the end of this month which means I won't be seeing her anymore.I pulled her aside and told her that I would like her phone number and friendship is the only thing I want from her.She hesitated and said she will come on my floor give me the number on my last day. I insisted and said please right it down incase I don't see you.She wrote it down on the paper.I tried reaching her when I got home but it turned out its a fake number. why did she do that? I told her friendship is the only thing I am interested in

My sister and her husband are living together in the same household as their kids when they don't get along and she says it's just until they grow up so they don't see their parents separated but is that really fair when their always arguing in front of the kids and she's always going out staying out late nights especially on a night like this Father's Day she's gone with " a friend" she claims while the kids and their father are at home at 1100 pm. Is this normal? Should I suggest they separate and have shared custody? Am I the only one who finds this weird and not fair to the rest of her family? Should her husband grow some balls and ask her questions when I know he wants and has the right to?

I am in my mid thirties. My whole life I've thought that eventually I would have a family. This year I began a relationship with a great guy. I havent felt the way about anyone that I felt about him. He is divorced with one daughter. Earlier on in our relationship we had a talk about wanting kids. He said he wasn't sure & I said I wanted them. Now he's saying he's leaning more towards not wanting them. This was surprising to me. But now that I'm thinking about it I'm not sure I want kids either. I'm more concerned about being in a relationship with someone I love. Someone who is good to me and someone I'm happy with. And I've never been the type to go gaga about babies. I'm not sure if I wanted them because society says that's what you should do or if I really want them. I told him this & I think he thinks I'm just saying this because I don't want to break up with him. And maybe I am? But I don't want to lose the man I love because of maybe having kids one day. Especially if that may never happen for me or if I don't want them. But what if I do end up wanting them? It would definitely destroy the relationship then. Thoughts?

I'm really kinky and my husband is very conservative. The thing is I want to do very kinky things to him and vice versa and a ******** is at the top of the list. How do I get him to give some suck action a try?

If I do something absent-minded or make a mistake, my husband has this compulsion to share it with whoever is present, usually his relatives or mind. He'll say "omg, listen to what she just did..." it's so embarrassing! I have put my foot down in the past and told him to stop, he will stop for a while and then it starts up again. I don't think he realizes how it makes me feel. How do I make it stop? I have told him I was not going to put up with it, but i don't even think he realizes he is doing it until later when I point it out

He cheated with some hoe for 5 months. We got 3 boys that r disabled. Has not financially supported us and the only thing he does is confuse me n emotionally abuse me. Bit me due to a argument we had. Kids r confused I've asked him to leave more than once but he won't go. Married 12 yrs. Together 15 yrs.

My friend was out with me at a bar a couple days ago, and when he got home he found his wife and her friend and that friends son's girlfriend( 22 yrs old) drinking wine and hanging in and around their hot tub naked and laughing and mutually masturbating. When they saw him they just laughed and thought it was funny, and didn't stop. The wanted him to join but he was upset and drunk as well, that he left and came over to my place and told me about it. He is still distraught about it, thinking his wife cheated. His wife told me it wasn't all out masturbation but they were touching themselves and not each other just having fun. Should he get over it? Should he be jealous? And its got me thinking, DO WOMEN MASTURBATE with their friends sometimes? Not lesbian acts but do it together for fun? I keep thinking I wish that happened to me with my wife, but don't know how it would actually turn out.

Hello, me and my wife have been married for 7 months, and something has been bothering me, it's her relationship with her brother.. I work out of town and I guess this is why it bothers me. He is 19 and my wife is 28. There mom died about 10 years ago, and she says she helped raised him. Okay, she went thru a divorce two years ago and got on drugs last year and him and her both did crystal, they don't do it anymore, but I know how drugs can change people's relationship with each other. She is always picking him up and letting him stay the nigjt while I'm away. Last time I was home, we all went swimming and drinking was involved. She paid no attention to me and her and her brother were playing with each other in the pool alot, on the drive home, the vehicle was full, I was driving, but she sat on her brothers lap. He had his arms around her waist and she had her around his. It weirded me out. I don't know how to respond to this. I don't have a relationship like that with my sisters. She is very close to her family. I haven't caught her lying about anything, and she does tell me when he is over there, but the past two times he has been over there the kids were gone. I have told her it makes me feel uncomfortable and she says she can't believe I would think that. It really bothers me to the point we're I'm probably going to lose my head. We talked it out and she says she doesn't want it brought back up. What do I do? I know this is wrong of me to think, but it happens.

Last night my wife was out of town and I was at home half drunk. My mother in law came over and the next thing I knew she was on top of me and I couldn't stop. Should I keep this from my wife or let her know what her mom did to me

My husband and I have been married for a few months. He is 34 and I'm 33. We are both in the medical field and work at the same office during the same hours. We knew and dated each other for five years prior to marriage. We have no children but every single night, I cook him homemade and gourmet(no boxed or already made foods) meals. Every morning, I wake up at 5:30 in the morning (even though we don't go to work until 7:30) and make him breakfast. We also make love five nights a week. I also take care of the cleaning around the house. Don't get me wrong--he's a fantastic guy. He does some of the chores around the house sometimes but I understand that he's tired. He even offers to help me cook sometimes. I was just wondering if I am doing too much as a wife and if he should help out more as I am tired sometimes? Or is this what I should be doing? Not to mention that I also battle an eating disorder that he is unaware of, which also makes me tired during the day.

When my wife drinks she is a violent, lies about the drinking, and does things with out any regard to consequences. She was arrested last night after drinking with one of her friends and driving around town. Like an idiot she wrecked the car. I'm thinking about divorcing her this has been going on for the past 3 years. Cops have been called out to our house twice. I'm confused on what actions I should take.

I just got sick and tired of my husband and son fighting constantly its the same with them everyday my husband comes home with his foul mouth and he cheated on me last year and this year but I forgave him well it wasn't cheating but its was a friendship but he got texts from her I'm the middle of night and secret calls. So everyday I come home and my son always hungry but never does anything around the house but only leaves a mess and I have to cook and then clean then I have to pack food for my husband to take to work. Then I have to wake up at 6 am to make breakfast for my ungrateful son and cheater of a husband. I got so pissed and began throwing stuff like forks and knives. I also my son tortoise because I got tired of my 17 year old son talking back to his father on fathers day. What can I do? Am I a bad person?

My boyfriend/ financee wants to get married next year and I am nervous esp with him beimg in the army. How to cope? Thanks!

Ok, so 5 years ago I had an affair. Now before we all say I'm disgraceful, I know that. I did the right thing and told her about 3 weeks after it happened so yes she knows. It's now nearly 5 years on, we have 2 beautiful children and we are about to get married. Knowing now that I'm about to marry her, I'm scared she has this bottled up. I spoke with her a couple of weeks ago and she said why would you bring that up, I forgave you along time ago. Now I know I am a very very lucky man. I truly love her and I know I will never do it again. I just want to know, would she think about it a lot. What's a good way for me to just relax a little more and trust that she is ok and we have both moved on. Yes I deserve the guilt and I am fully aware of this. I hurt the one I love. I just want to marry her and keep her happy for the rest of our lives. What advice Is out there??

I didn't contest the divorce in my divorce response. what does uncontested trial mean?

so they can enjoy the satisfaction of turning him down? like the hot chick in high school that waits for the nerdy dude to ask her to the prom, just so she can enjoy the satisfaction of rejecting him and laughing in his face and totally humiliating him?

And I want him to leave her for me. Backstory: I've been bestfriends with my friend since childhood, I literally consider her like a sister to me and we've been through hell and back. 2 years ago she started dating this tall, chocolate, smart, funny, sexy guy and I was always jealous of her for finding a good guy while I always ran into the bottom of the barrell men. A year later he came up to me asking for my help with helping him find an engagement ring for my friend and of course my jealousy went into over drive but I kept calm and helped him pick out the engagement ring. After they got engaged he came by to thank me for helping him pick out the ring and I was slightly drunk and high so I started to come on to him. Make a long story short we ended up having sex. Ever since then we've been having an affair. We also had sex 2 hours before their wedding which I was the bridesmaid. I always told him that she didn't deserve a man like him because in all honesty she doesn't. 2 weeks ago I found out that I was pregnant by him and I feel bad because she's been trying to have a baby for awhile now. I haven't told him yet but I'm planning on telling him tonight.

My husband and I have been married 2 years now. We met through his mom. Everything was good until he started distancing himself since I came along in the picture. I do not encourage this at all , I thought I had it made by marrying a woman I considered like a dear and sweet mother to me so i just knew everything would be like heaven. NOPE it has been hell. I feel like I'am stuck in middle and want my relationship back with her and my father in law but my husband is holding in to hold feelings and feel resent towards his parents. I try to stay out of it but I really thought they were a great and strong family unit but they really are not. Family is very important to me and I wish that I can bridge the gap between my husband and I and his parents. I offered my husband to invite them to lunch with us , he will not budge. For mother's day he didn't pick up a phone to call his mom until 10pm. Today is Father's day he text his day Happy Father's day and if there is anything he needs to call him. His mom text him to come over for dinner with the family for his dad ...my husband makes an excuse he is too tired. UGH!!! I would have loved to go and make a step into making things right. They all blame me for him being that way but honestly this family had issues long before I came and my husband does not like drama so we stay to ourselves but I want more. I pray everyday about this and don't to mess up our marriage pestering him about this. I'm tired of being the imaginary blame. HELP!

he have female friend and hes following what that **** say..we are engage for 3 years and were together for 2 years..we ddnt marry because him father dnt like me to be the wife of him son..so I was waiting...then 1 year ago there is lady come into our life and change him mind for everything..same like why did she need to check where are you..what shes calling always..you are man..and he change untill now..i dnt know what to do..im.really depressed

I have absolutely no justification for this and I know this. I feel awful about it. I'm 25 years old and been married for 6 years. However, we both work a lot, and her job includes having to travel a lot. Sometimes I don't see her for a month, or two. Lately she's been doing that more often. I hadn't had sex in months. We hired a new maid, some really beautiful 19 year old girl. She never flirted with me or even tried to talk to me. I was the one showing some attention a while later. My brother, who's single, changed her outfit into something shorter and it was really hard to maintain myself. I slept with her and took her out to dinner. She says she doesn't want to come between me and my wife and wants to end this but there's just... no spark and I'm thinking of a divorce as well. Should I tell my wife I cheated on her? I'm starting to fall for our maid, who's thinking of quitting which is making me anxious and upset. I don't know what to do.

I am a guy and typically they don't give guys custody I know that. But my soon to be ex works 12 hours a day 6 days a week. I work 20 hours a week and make great money in the 20 hours I work. Also my soon to be ex is the one that asked for divorce. I filed it but she asked for it. She ran off to Canada for 75 days and left me with the child. Unfortunately she came back into the house and I can't get her to leave since both our names are on the house. She is trying to say now that she went to Canada to take care of a sick relative (not true--it was most likely to have an affair and she got kicked out by the guy). Anyway any answers would help! Oh one more thing she initially said she wanted to give me custody but now has changed her mind...and it has become a contested divorce. I do want my son. I think he would have a better life with me.

Assuming that the male and female has dated 2.5 years. No physical/verbal abuse, breakups, infidelity or whatsoever. Both of us have been very happy but there's still "fear" from her side. What would you do in such a scenario?

Ok here's the situation. In 2007, I was married in Canada to a Canadian citizen. I'm an American citizen. In 2009 we split up. We are just now filing for divorce. He filed in Canada and told me he was just going to send me the papers and as long as I didn't contest, I didn't have to sign. It's been weeks and I spoke to him 10 days ago. He said they were all filed on his end and it was final but he hadn't gotten to send my copy yet. How can I obtain proof of this? Is there a Canadian court I can call or a number that can put me in ths right direction?

Are you happy in either situation?

My husbands ex girlfriend keeps in touch with his father on Facebook, (emails ,etc.) I feel she has moved on ,she is married with a baby, but i think she should move on and focus on her own family.does anyone else think her motives are sketchy or is it just me.

I m 27 and married for a year to a woman who is 3 years older than me with a daughter from prior marriage. Prior our marriage everything was nice and fun. However, as I got married and moved into her home she began acting differently than the woman i once knew. She always wants to run things the way she wants which I find sometimes irrational. since i feel like I m the man of the house I have responsibility of making decisions that are the best for the family as a whole in the future rather selfish decisions. However, I hate when I express my grown up opinion and her 8 year old daughter pops up and comments on everything with childish irrational remarks. My wife appears to cherish her daughter more than I do and will often have a rebel position where she will exclude me and she and her daughter will turn into a team against me because that is her daughter after all. The wife is always wanting me to spend my whole day involved in activities that are based on what her daughter wants rather than me and the wife have our own quality time. I can t take my wife out to have a quality time because her daughter will cry and freak out, I can t sit with by my wife because the daughter is constantly sitting on the sofa by her mom. If I sat by the wife, she will come and sit between us or put her feet on the wife lap kinda to push me away. My wife said a comment the other day about me not going to the mall often with them and I said because every time I go to the mall I have to (part 2) spend money. I just barely started a new office job that requires me to dress up and I decided to buy me one shirt and dress pants everytime I get paid. Every time I want to go to the mall to buy work clothes the wife and the step daughter wants to come and they want to buy stuff. I feel I'm not obligated to spend money on the step daughter on clothes when she already has a step dad who gives her child support. The step daughter said how come I don't buy her clothes as much as I buy part 3. as much as i buy the mother. i said because I pay for the rent, electricity, internet, netflix, food, and gas ! so your mother saves money and she can use some of that money on your expenses. My wife has a car but she will use my car instead because it is newer and that costs me gas. i'm getting irritated from having an 8 year old girl trying to run my wife and I life. I am very diplomatic and I consider other people thoughts and feelings but It appears that my wife don't want to draw part 4. a line to her daughter running our life. I can't move into a bigger apartment because her daughter wants to stay at the same elementary school rather moving into another one by the bigger apartment I want to move in with the wife. so she can stay with her friends at the same school. My wife has issues with constant complaining and often when she gets upset with me she will talk about me behind my back in a negative way in front of her daughter and vent out. things you should not say part 5. in front a child because they don't have reasoning skills yet. I began to feel the daughter does not respect me and will often try to argue with me or disrespect me with comments or acts. Her daughter has the bad habit of sitting down on the sofa with her legs wide open and I once told her to keep her legs closed because it is not lady like, but her mother does not tell her anything. I often see her wearing very shorts that I would not let my child wear. I don't like the fact that she part 6. she wears certain clothes that I feel it is inappropriate. She one time slapped me in the face because her mother and I were joking and the mother told her to slap him and she actually did although I thought she wouldn't dare to do such thing. I am very polite and respectful in nature but I began to feel different lately. People will often avoid befriending my wife because of her nature behavior of perceiving things wrong and saying comments that ticks people off. All my friends and part 7. all my friends had seen my wife mistreat me. She has argued with me in public and yelled on many different occasions. She would go on facebook and see how other females post pictures of themselves in trips and she will tell me comments such as look what they're doing. how come we don't do the same. I tell her don't compare yourself to others. Just because they go on trips don't mean they're happy. beside i provide everything for you and i won't go on a trip unless we have money saved. part 8. i took her one time to a friends gathering and she accused me of sleeping with a random girl at the gathering because I knew the girl from before and just said hello. I walked behind the girl to the kitchen to get a drink and when I came back seconds after the wife was acting crazy. we went home and she was yelling at me telling me I only go to my friends gatherings to I fk around. She put her arms on me and was choking me and screaming. She can't choke me because I'm 6ft 200lb n she is part 9 she is 5'2 but I felt scared because I don't want that kind of family life style. She also took a bat and hit the wall and made a hole. I told her what is the point of breaking things and screaming ? it won't solve anything. I told her I did not cheat on her with a calm voice and that I'm very polite respectful and cheerful person that people just like to say hello to me. Maybe because i'm a foreigner and we're brought up in my family to respect women and be polite, but she sees it as a part 10. as a flirting. Don't get me wrong, sometimes I try to avoid going out with her and the step daughter because I want to be alone and relax. i can't handle the noise and childish conversations. I feel like i can't be close to my wife without the step daughter being between us wanting constant attention. now don't get me wrong. the wife is not a demon from what I described. She does things to me such as cook dinner, clean, and affection ( sometimes). I know she loves me, and It hurts me part 11. to leave her because I can't bare breaking her heart, but I'm also not happy where things are going to. I don't want to live the rest of my life like this. In my whole life I never seen my dad or mother swear at each other or yell at each other. I hardly saw my dad get mad but her never once disrespected my mother. My mother never once raised her voice or disrespected my father. She don't talk about the family business with any body nor complain about anything. She always appreciated my part 12 appreciated my father. she always showed affection to my dad through her actions every day. Honestly, sometimes my wife makes me feel like she doesn't really love me or maybe I'm not the right person for her. She only wants me for the sake of just having a man. Even my oldest brother who met my wife seen her abnormal behavior. I think she has borderline. I told her that she needs to see a therapist since i graduated with a bachelor degree in psychology and I see an abnormal pattern of part 13. abnormal pattern of thoughts. I recognize there is abnormality in the process of reasoning in her mind that makes her perceive things in a wrong way which pushes people away from her. I think it is something she experienced in the past growing up in a family of drunkards. She will often argue with me but then apologizes for her misunderstanding and angry behavior. I always think it is not going to solve anything if you scream at each other and call each other names. Don't get me wrong part 14. I lost my temper few times which made me feel ashamed because everyone who knows me, friends, family, ex girlfriends know that I'm not a mad person. I feel sometimes I can't say anything to her or do anything without thinking 3-4 times because i don't want her to get mad. I can't even socialize with my friends because she thinks every single person is not a good person. she always finds something wrong with people and wants me to stay home or hang out with her all the time. final part 1 . I feel like I'm being emotionally abused and controlled. I don't even know why I'm writing this. I know no one will be able to give me an advice of what to do because no one else is experiencing this personally. Everything seems to be going normal at home because I feel I'm pretending and hiding my feelings. She doesn't even know I feel this right now because I'm hiding it. I think I'm just writing this to vent out to people who don't know me and no one will judge me. final part 2. Some may attack me due lack of personal experience or details which I understand I might appear as the one who is wrong. I don't expect any one to draw an idea just based on what I said because you're only reading my side of the story. However, I'd love to read about anyone else story who might be experiencing the same. I feel it helps a lot to have someone just listen to you without even responding. many people appear to be selfish and not willing to listen back to you, but I will like i said i don't want to portray the wife as a demon. she is beautiful in the heart in an innocent way but issues like these arises from time to time...once a week or two weeks almost and it hurts. it is hard to forget, but I can forgive. I want to save this marriage, I don't want us to grow apart where emotions dies. i feel lately that arguments get more intense and I am losing energy to argue and losing hope. Sometimes I stay quiet because I get angry and I don't have the energy to fight. I don't want to get to that point where there is nothing to fight for. The arguments always arise because of something simple that she perceived wrong. She has a fked up way of thinking and I think she might have borderline issues. But she won't seek therapy although I suggested it to happen. Maybe she is scared? I don't want to wait for the next argument to bring the therapy topic back. I'm not judgmental. I graduated with a b.s in psychology and I learned not to judge people.

My grandparents have a wedding anniversary coming up this week! This Wednesday will mark their 50th year together! Our church is planning a surprise party for them this week, and I am in charge of games! I thought of doing something like a "Not so Newlywed" game, where I would select 3 couples, (my grandparents being one couple of course) in different time frames of their marriage and host a mini-game show! Is that a good Idea? If I did it, I would probably only include 5 questions... Something along the lines of this: Where did your first kiss take place?, What is the one thing you do that drives your wife crazy?, If your husband were an animal, what would he be?...... Good idea? Or no? Also any other cute game ideas? Thanks everyone!

see I has have SSI, cant hold more then 2k. I don't want my wife pay a lot more money because of my disable. do you know anyone like this and how do they live

My husband and I have been separated for about 4 years. He lives in San Marcos Texas. I moved to Houston Texas about three years ago. We made a verbal agreement about our 2 year old sons visitation and we made it work for about a year. My son is now 5 years old and his dad hasn't seen him for exactly 2 years!!!!! He has been getting in trouble legally. he got a felony charge for selling drugs. And hasn't made enough effort to call his son or come see him even tho I've invited him over on a few occasions. My son is about to start school in the fall. this August. About a week ago my spouse filed for a divorce in his county and I understand I will have to go up there for hearings and trials. How can I get the court house to transfer the case to my county. it's going to be hard for me travel 162 miles away back in forth with our son in school. My exact questions are : 1. Does the case HAVE to be PENDING for me to request it be transferred ?? 2. How do I get it transferred . what is The form called that I file?

I have absolutely no justification for this and I know this. I feel awful about it. I'm 25 years old and been married for 6 years. However, we both work a lot, and her job includes having to travel a lot. Sometimes I don't see her for a month, or two. Lately she's been doing that more often. I hadn't had sex in months. We hired a new maid, some really beautiful 19 year old girl. She never flirted with me or even tried to talk to me. I was the one showing some attention a while later. My brother, who's single, changed her outfit into something shorter and it was really hard to maintain myself. I slept with her and took her out to dinner. She says she doesn't want to come between me and my wife and wants to end this but there's just... no spark and I'm thinking of a divorce as well. Should I tell my wife I cheated on her? I'm starting to fall for our maid, who's thinking of quitting which is making me anxious and upset. I don't know what to do.

My friend's ex-wife cheated on him, took the kids & fed them a bunch of lies about so they don't want to see him today. Of course he's torn up about it but doesn't want to push the issue right now. He has a counselor & a social worker but repairing the relationships will take time. He best friend besides me at the moment is his dog. I care for his dog when he's at work. Any advice on what I could do for father's day? Or should I ignore the situation?

I think I might have a fear of marriage. I'm in my second committed relationship (the first one I knew wasn't going to work out in the first place, but still wanted to date him.) We have been talking about marriage lately. I sometimes cry and get anxious if I think about it too much. I will sometimes shut him out temporary (emotionally and physically) because of it. I can't picture myself getting married. I have these overwhelming thoughts of losing myself and the life I'm use to. I have no clue how I got this way. My parents have been married for 31 years, never fight, and overall have a wonderful marriage. The only trauma I experienced in my life is being molested by my cousin at the age of 14. It took be a while to get over it, but I've been over it now for about 2 years. I wish I knew how I got this way. If this doesn't go away soon, I'm might have to end a perfectly good relationship with someone I love. Do I actually have a fear of marriage? Or am I just not ready yet? What should I do? I can't afford therapy or counselling, so that's not an option for me. I can barley afford college right now. Self-therapy techniques, if possible, would be appreciated. This is not a "troll" question. I don't have anyone close to be that I can go to for help. I'm working my butt off as a full time student with a full time job, just to go to a nice university. Don't judge before you know. Stop calling me a troll and stop being ignorant. I am a real person. I seriously am a college student with bridges burned after high school, and no where to turn. I'm on my semester break, that's why I have time for this. I un-did my anonymous. Happy? Again, stop judging before you know! I changed it back to anonymous because I don't want people I know finding me. Just because I prefer to be anonymous, doesn't make me a troll. I don't want my whole life out on the internet publicly for my family to see it. Not everyone on here is a troll, so stop assuming the worst out of everyone. My name is Emily, I am a sophomore in college, and I live in Ohio. That's all the personal information you need. If you still doubt me, report me for all I care! Ignorance isn't wanted here.

We just got married, and are currently on our honeymoon. We have dated for 4 years and lived together for one, and the reason why we haven't had sex is because of religious reasons. We are pretty open about sex, and talked about it while we were dating. we are both each others first, and made sure to get all the awkwardness out of the way. we are comfortable with each other. He is a virgin but says he kinda knows what hes doing and has been looking up tips for the first time and stuff to make things easier. i just am scared that its going to hurt because hes 6 inches long and pretty thick. hes always been gentle and stuff so i know he wont be rough, what should i expect?

My husband and I have been on an off for about 5 months due to him cheating with one girl who he's had contact with. He has been In and out of our home. We have 3 boys with disability and it is causing the boys confusion on why they see their dad come and go. He has shown me in a number of ways that he doesn't love me and doesn't care. He has not helped me financially in five months and even took the car away when I got it for him. He has made it clear he is only hear for the kids. I have told him to leave since he is not happy but he won't. I am not forcing him here, he is here out of his own free will. He is not happy and neither am I.and because even after all the hurt, lies and pain that he is causing me I still love him. I have not kept him away from the boys at all. He has visited and seen them the times he was not living in our home. He has been emotionally abusive to me and has done me wrong. I have told him about the divorce but he won't give me an answer. I don't have the heart to call the cops and have him removed from our home because of the kids. I don't know how to get out of this situation. I am the one that still loves him but he is the one that doesn't love me. I am still telling him to leave so that I can move on and be happy but he won't let go. I don't know what to do.

For example, cheating is like cutting corners in a race . Can anyone give me a couple ideas?

I was with a man for about 4 years and the entire time he was very abusive towards me. It was rarely physical and for the most past it was emotional and verbal. We also have a child together. My ex was very angry and ended up destroying a lot of stuff in the house. Well in May of 2014 he decided to up and move out. We talked to each other a little bit here and there and he wanted to reconcile in August. From August until about December he BEGGED me to move back in with him and i told him no. I told him that I needed more stability. He was once again was trying to get me on his turf since he moved to a different city. He also was adament about having another baby. Fast forward to January he dumped me like a ton of bricks, but was trying to get ME to apologize to him and I would not. He was very used to me being him to get back and I had just had enough of the b. s. The thing I am trying to get is that as long as I was submissive, barely working, not sticking up for myself or having expectiations he loved me, but when I started doing the total opposite is when things went terribly bad. What put the nail in the coffin is that almost 4 in a half months after the break up he got married to someone else and never had the heart to even tell me. The thing is that my son is repeating the things he says over there like stupid b*tch and saying how he is tired of being used. (i am assuming by the new wife) Son has also said how the other girls was in closet crying. Why is it that I feel like i was not good enough and he is living a great life with marriage and possibly a baby.

i been married for 15 years i was in love with my wife then family began getting in the way where she was always out helpping them stepping out all the time for them.we spoke about the same thing over aneing d over for 7 years. and nothing was being done so i needed to talk to someone who was not family i ended up talking to this women who i began fallining in love with the only reason i have not left cause of my 3 boys and dont know what to do. i have not been happy for a long time and thats what i really want is to be happy.

I mean I am getting the feeling that I have done and seen it all now... At 37 i dont think I have time to have the family I tried to create with my wife... I am left to deal with everything, all the loose ends from the failed marriage. Im stuck in the house I tried to build a life in with my wife everything reminds me of it now.. I went and got laid and that didnt help like I thought it would.... I am just at a point of, what difference will it really make? I have become the guy "whos wife left him"... You see this happen to people but you dont think it will happen in your life... I mean at my age whats the point anymore?

Yesterday I woke to her sister performing oral sex on me I couldn't help myself and let her finish. Huge mistake I know should I tell my wife?

Has anyone ever heard of this odd situation? My husband of 5 years recently slept w his ex wife (who I thought he couldn't stand). They have kids together and we don't, he says he doesn't love her but there was a weak moment between them. Should I walk away and not look back? Can ex couples sleep together even if they hate each other and are not in love or is there probably love between them still?

My husband today left this morning to be with his parents instead of spending time with the kids. In the process, he asked us not to contact him just for today. He didn't provide an explanation either. There have been no arguments, he is very supportive, caring and we are a happy family with 2 kids. I suspected that he was cheating but I checked his phone (before he left, while he was in shower), and email; nothing. But he is in a lot of stress because of his job and he takes care of children with their school work. What to do, has anyone been in this sort of situation? I don't know why he's doing this.

I have been married to my wife for a little over a year and we began dating in the fall of 2011. We have one son who is 13 months old, so yeah we got married because of that. Originally I was working and going to school while she recovered from the pregnancy and now she wanted to work while we both go to school and I stay home with our son while she works. We live with her mom and sister in a two bedroom apartment. While a lot of this has been going on for a long time, I can't take it much more. She tends to yell over every little thing and I often feel as though I'm walking on egg shells with her. When she does get mad, being sorry doesn't calm her down nor does acknowledging her or telling her what I can do to be better. The things she gets angry about are not being clean enough, wanting to see my friends, making a mistake while trying to help her with homework, just a whole lot of things. She often tells me to move out, throws her ring, tells me that I'm stupid, etc. I am often blamed when things don't turn out, no matter how minimal my involvement, and I'm accused of whining or being dramatic and annoying when I try to express any hurt feelings to her. No purchases are made without her express authorization. I was raped by a man repeatedly over the course of six months before I met her and she'll tell me I'm using that as an excuse when I tell her not to touch my butthole or buttcrack. Counseling isn't working, should I leave? It's hard with a child and I need advice.

My husbands ex texted him a collage of pictures and wished him Happy Fathers Day. They are not on good terms and I know she only did it to get at me and him. I will admit it got to me. Do we say we didn't feel this is appropriate? I had fathers day covered and we have custody of his son, I just don't think it was necessary.

The only reason why I want to marry the man who I choose as a significant other is so that if he or I end up in the hospital, then we can see each other without much hassle from the staff. Well, that and to make sure that he will be provided for if something should happen to me. But let's pretend for minute that all the legal benefits that come with marriage never existed! If there weren't any legal benefits that come with marriage than it wouldn't be any different than unmarried couple living together for the rest of their lives. I know plenty of couples in this position and they're happy and just as comitted to each other as a married couple. Yeah, so other than the legal benefits that come with it, I don't see why people feel the need to marry their significant others!

We are high school sweethearts, we have been dating for 4 &1/2 years & (living together for 3 1/2 years). He proposed to me Dec. 2015. I filed for health ins through my finance's work, as a dependent. Later we received a letter in the mail that we needed proof of our marriage. In TX, we are Common Law married, since we've been living together for more than 6 months, but we are NOT legally married via the courts. Now we have about a month to get married. If I don't get married, I will be dropped from his ins & we will have to pay the fee in our income taxes for not having health ins. I know it SOUNDS bad. Getting married for insurance coverage & avoiding fees, but we were already planning our wedding. It was supposed to be May 2016 but due to these circumstances it may get pushed a lot sooner. Idk if this is cold feet, but I am nervous & scared to take this big step. I wasn't expecting to get married so soon. We really love each other, we've made it 4 & 1/2 years together, but there are some characteristics my fiancé has that worries me. He can be immature & mean sometimes, which causes arguments. But we have talked about it recently & I have a feeling he finally realized it is time to change, for the better. Is getting married a good idea? Or should I not get married, & go without health insurance for a year & pay the fee with my income taxes? My family hasn't come out & said it but I know deep down they don't want me to get married. But his family is ecstatic for us. I meant "he proposed to me on Jan. 2015"

Could you trust your husband again after being lied to about everything including financially for 9 years. Now the truth is coming out and more and more is not adding up. How could someone do all this to someone you love~ very hurt and his mom thinks I'm a horrible person cause I can't forgive him, she will only hear his side and won't even listen to me

Seems like if you are living in separate houses it's just too easy to call-off or cancel an engagement......and you'd look like an idiot for pre-announcing it to your family. If you're co-habitating......much less likely that it will be called off or canceled. If you wake up in the same house or the same room.........you're pretty much already married anyway.

I am still in shock because last night, my husband and I were drinking at home and somehow we got into an argument because I saw on his phone that he had been leaving work on lunch break with his female coworker riding in her car and atleast done it multiple times and I and no idea. He sees nothing wrong with riding in a car to get lunch with his single female coworker....he ended up punching me in my face 8 times open hands and I almost lost consciousness...I hid in the bathroom and called the cops for help. They came called an ambulance and took me to the hispital. I didn't press charges because we have a 3month old baby. Now that I am back, he is apologizing and doesn't want me to leave him. What do you think about all this??? Please help I don't have that many people I can talk to in my life

I have a good job and income, and I am financially stable. I feel like this is about time one should get married. But I am single and because of my job, I really won't have a chance to meet anyone anytime soon. It's weird because I mean I did once have a beautiful girl back in college who I would have been married to already, but she passed away while we were in college. Ever since that its many years and I haven't really had any luck finding love with anyone and nowadays I feel like I am going to just be forever alone. Life is so weird, one minute it's so magical and beautiful and other minute, it's so dark and gloomy.

Is it good to talk bad about deadbeat dads on Facebook when you was the one to sleep with him and not marry him first?