My wife of 14 years had an affair with a coworker. We have two kids together. She became hyper critical of me and started blaming me for ridiculous things. She insisted on a divorce. I got her to go to therapy with me, but she wouldn't put an effort in. She divorced me and immediately started dating the guy. We have the kids 50/50, but I tend to have them 60%+ of the time. 2+ years have passed and that guy dumped her. I'm still in our marital home. She's trying to find a house and has been renting a town home. She hasn't found a home yet and her lease is running out. She doesn't want to renew. She asked, if necessary, if she could store some of the kids things in my basement and I said yes. Tonight, my son told me that mom said she might ask me or her sister if they could all temporarily a move in until she found a house if the lease ran out. He also mentioned that mom was talking to her sister and hung up on her after calling her a b!itch. Her sister lives 4 cities away, which seems like a bad option when we live near the kid's schools. My son could be confused and there could be a misinterpretation. But it isn't outside of the realm of possibility. Would you let your ex move back in under similar circumstances? What conditions might you put on them living there? She checked out before andvi was doing all errands and house chores. She wasn't eating with the family either. She was living a separate life. I wouldn't want those things again.

Humans are not monogamous, right? People get married, cheat, remarried, blah blah. There are so many attractive people, I feel like emotions just get in the way of this principle and sucker us humans into lusting one person for a little while. Clearly I've never met "the one". Just wanted to know if anyone thinks everlasting love truly exists.

My husband and I were at our six yr old's doctor's clinic. After deciding on going for two procedures, the doctor told us to set up an appt for our son's surgery. During the meeting with the appointment setter, I said I was not going to call the other doctor who was going to do her part in the surgery since I did not have any info. to give her and that I was going to wait for the appointment setter to call me and give me the details. My husband did not say anything about my idea. The appointment setter responded to me, saying that I should go ahead and update the other doctor of the meeting we just had and that the dates for the surgery are being coordinated. My husband's response to the appointment setter's idea was, "Perfect"! That sealed our discussion and we left the clinic. I thought my husband sounded very bias. He could have responded in a less enthusiastic way instead of blurting the word, Perfect! He is never supportive of my ideas.especially when we are with other people. What do you think?

Both of my parents are white right? And I was born dark like an indian color.. And then after I started to be pale, then now I recently gotten tan, and its been almost two years and I still have it, I am pretty dark, I hardly ever tan either.. Its like i m in a different ethnic group and I am nothing like him, I know for sure that I am not adopted because my Mom has an actual video of her giving birth to me, and for some reason my Mom didn t want me watching haha. But my Dad isn t really like one.. My whole family is shy, and always mad, and I am just like a flower of sunshine coming in, and my brother is the same as them, and my grandparents get fishy all the time, I have really dark elbows, knuckles, creases, knees, its crazy.. How can I see if he s really my father just to be on the safe side? Or even without testing because what if my Mom had an affair and they gotten into a divorce I want it all to be a secret, whats all the ways I could do this? Me and him have the same blood type but that could be for any guy. Thank you for your time.

Everytime i know a women is married i pursue.Why?

So my right now is the worst time of my life: I am failing 2 subjects, my parents are getting a divorce with that my dad is having his girlfriend over here frequently, and all my friends have ditched me. My life is falling apart what should I do? How will it get? Will it get better? When will it get better?

I say it's beyond inappropriate.It might sound extreme but I am now questioning if this woman should be arrested for committing adultery since she's MARRIED.She and my son would talk about non school stuff with each other,they would joke around with each other,she would say peace out girl scout to my son which is insulting because he's a male and she's MARRIED.It's adultery for this MARRIED woman to say"I love seeing my son" because it shows that she doesn't love her husband anymore even tho she may feel differently about this.I don't think this teacher knows her boundaries since she is talking and joking around with my son.What's also inappropriate is when my son wrote he's her favorite student and she said that she really likes it.That's creepy on my son's part and even sinful on my son's part.I just don't know why this woman can still be teaching at this point.Does this teacher even love her husband anymore?I asking this because if she did,she wouldn't be joking around with male students and she wouldn't be having conversations with my son.For anyone saying that she's trying to make learning easier for my son,he's not even in her class anymore.She's NOT teaching him anymore so it makes it more inappropriate since she's MARRIED.My son is 18 and this teacher is a MARRIED 25 year old woman.Why would she be so friendly to my son tho he's not in her class anymore?Does this teacher even love her husband?My son does have a 17 year old girlfriend.

I'm tired of this situation... My mom and her husband are constantly fighting over a fight I had with that *** hole a year ago. He is a child molestor and does not admit it. I called the police that night cuz he was trying to molest me with hugs, he did not let go.. And he tried to kiss me. I prayed that hell would take him. My mom does not believe me, and he acts as the innocent one. I am a sophomore in HS, & act completely different. I am outgoing, and just try to be positive. I just try to have many friends.. And I guess cope. Lately, I've been wearing mascara, and I have really long eyelashes, making them look thick. He saw me with it for the 1st time, and he told my mom I looked like a crazy girl. He thinks he jas the control over EVERYTHING in the house.. When he is only a piece of sh**. I am a straight A student.. And I just can't handle this anymore. My mon can not divorce him, because he threatens her to take my little sister away to a different city. My mom is super smart, but acts dumb In this situation. I do not know what is the matter with her. What should I do? I need advice.. Thank you

He received an inappropriate text message asking him "Do you want to f***?" We texted back asking "Who is this?" After, we called and a girl picked up. My husband said "Who is this?! then she hung up. He said it's a prank and he has gotten strange calls with his new number. Should I be suspicious? Should I find out more about who this is?

would a women spend money on a guy in jail and go visit him if they was just friend's ? also talk to him 2-5 times a day when it cost her money ? She also had his stuff in her possession keeping up with it until he got out of jail. This guy also is her husband ex best friend . what do you think , why would she be doing all this ?

When you google his name, there he is on one of those crappy swipe left dating dating sites. Does he not realize anyone can google his name and see him right there?

I've been married 6 years & a friend said my husband is abusive. I just don't know if it counts as abuse. (I am now thinking of divorce but am too scared to tell him. He refuses counseling.) Feedback is appreciated. Constants about him that point to abuse: He tells me he loves to watch me eat, fixes me food, buys me candy saying "they don't count" & is hurt if I refuse; the next day he tells me I'm a failure, I'll never lose weight, I'm fat, "they'll need a tow truck" to move me around, etc. & that it's all my fault. He tells me that he loves it when I drink, because I'm fun & that he likes to fix me drinks. He buys me expensive bottles of champagne & liquor as gifts. He then turns around & tells me I abuse alcohol & that he's going to call my family members & tell them I'm an alcoholic. When he gets angry at me, he starts screaming & won't let me respond. He backs me into the bedroom, stands over me, waving his arms & yelling insults & threats. like he'll commit suicide. If I start crying, it makes him angrier. One of his trademarks is to leave the room, & then come back a second/10 second/a minute, etc., starting in again at the same volume. I have no privacy with him, even in the bathroom. I've asked him to let me have privacy, but he says that husband/wife shouldn't hide anything from each other & that he's not hiding anything from me. It's his right to go through my things. Sorry there I couldn't write more, but yahoo has a limit.

is it due to a lifetime of indoctrination?

I'm 24 and my husband Ed and myself lives with his parents. I been living with them for over a year now . Now I can't stand living with his parents .. No matter what I do it doesn't work to make mother in law to feel better or me . Ex: we share a kitchen. The oven is being used a lot but then I have to give up what I want because he oven is in use . I have no time to wait .. I eat late because I work a lot . Solotion: I buy my own convention oven and cook in my room . Mother in law hates it . It doesn't make her feel good . It bothers me that my happy solution for me is hurting mother in law and her solotion for her Is hurting me. I'm doing stuck :( I love hubby and we have a good relationship with some problems . One of them is no sex . I beg for it . I now ether want to go to a Unversity in Maine and be a college student and play sports :) that will make me happy but heartbroken because of no hubby :( Or hubby moves out with me and we find a place together:) by hubby wants to stay with parents because it makes life less stressful for him because less bills and optional rent . He in debt too . I'm helping him the best I can . Also , I care about my hubby a lot. It makes me happy to care for him but his mother take care of him and that makes me sad because then it takes away the feeling of taking care of someone you love . :( it makes me sad Should I move out and live my life in Maine . I loves Maine or deal with the misery of living with hubby for a few more years ?

My wife often experiences pain when we have sex, i know because i can see it on her face and over the years I've learned when she was in pain, Everytime i ask her about it though, i get no straight answer, only "just continue it doesn't matter" or "i can handle it" but ofcourse, i never do. This fustrates my wife to no end but i don't see what im doing wrong?

My husband (53, white American) and I (47, Chinese) with young kids (10 and 4) moved in China 6 months ago. He is an expat in a big company as a technical head with good income. I gave up my job in the States and stay home. He has a Chinese female colleague (25) who got married end of last year. He likes her as he claims she reminds him his older daughter (22 from last marriage). He admits that she likes him too. Now he wants to make friend with her. The way he wants to do it is to have weekly Chinese lesson with her so he could know her better. I don't feel comfortable (actually feel hurt) so he said it is my problem - I should be more open and trust him so I won't feel hurt. It already hurt our relationship but he doesn't want to give up making friend with her. "I want to have Chinese lesson with someone I like" is what he insist on. He told me if he is forced to stop lesson with her, he is going to consider moving to a hotel for a few weeks so it would help him to control his life, and reduce resentment, anger, and depression in front of me and kids. I have been in painful for the last month and could not sleep and have the same feelings: resentment, anger, depression, as to me it is almost like an emotional affair but of course he denies it. I would never feel good about his being a close friend with her and having Chinese lesson with her. Should I accept his request but keep myself in pains, or say no to him but he'd think I am controlling him so he may leave me anyway?

My mother-in-law will make negative comments about our house, style, yard, parenting, in an inspector type way, but will say these things to my husband in front of me, in an indirect way where I can't really address it, or will say things in private to him about our house to him. She will expect holidays to be her time and her way without addressing it with us first, and getting mad if we can't make it. Also, my husband will sometimes tell stories meant to be funny about things that drive me crazy like his snoring, or things that we wouldn't think could possibly make me look bad, but she will make it dramatic and go to my husband later and tell him she would Never mind his snoring. When I didn't ask my bf to share these stories, or they are just to be funny she treats me rudely for it. Should I confront her, and how should I if she says everything so passive aggressively. It for some reason has really gotten under my skin because there's never a way to address it without causing a scene in front of people, or because she takes it up with my husband in a way that makes me feel like I'm interfering with her conversation with her son, even though these things have to do with me too.

We have been together for 8 years, (married for the past year) and are both virgins. We both come from really religious families and neither of us have masturbated or anything. Im really shy and shes more of the outgoing type so i dont get why it hasn't happened yet. We both do the normal couple stuff that we always did, and she hasn't shown any sign of losing interest. I feel like if i confront her about it she will think im being a pervert and being selfish. Its gotten to the point where i am thinking about masturbating in the shower to relieve the stress from work. I also the farthest we have gone is dry humping -.-

So I am a pretty asexual guy these days. I actually preach it pretty hard on here between 9 to 5 EST, that's how much I stand by it. It doesn't make a whole lot of people happy to know that their ideas of sexual ecstasy and romantic erotica can easily be overlooked, so I generally get crowded out through Thumb Downs and people telling others to "not listen to me" but I don't care. It's fine if my beliefs are unpopular, that's okay with me; but I'm not the only asexual person out there so people need to get over themselves as the ONLY belief. Now, with that out of the way, something really weird happened to me tonight. While I was in my kitchen talking to my wife, I was looking across the street to where a group of young adults were congregating in the driveway. I've seen some of these young adults before and I imagine them to be around 25 years old and they are all smokers (which is a huge pet hate of mine). While staring out there, the weirdest thing happened; for some reason this not very attractive girl came into sight who was wearing pink booty shorts and blocky heels (not wedges, just thick/blocky heels) and I couldn't stop fixating on her. I really don't understand why either, I didn't feel an erection or horny or even recall me thinking "she's pretty" because she wasn't. But she caught my gaze and I couldn't figure out why. I think it was the shorts/heels but why am I attracted to articles of clothing? Any ideas why? My wife thinks it's weird too. Oh, I meant to add a link to something about asexuality. A lot of people see asexuality as celibacy but it isn't. Here's a link to learn more about it: http://everydayfeminism.com/2014/10/5-myths-and-misconceptions-about-asexuality/

We've been together for four years and want to get married. We've been engaged for 3 months. My parents won't allow it. They said I'm too young, need to focus on college and building up a "career". They also think I should date other men and wait until I am 25 to marry. I don't want to be one of those selfish and unfeminine career women. All I want to do with my life is be a housewife and have 4 or 5 children. I want to take care of the home, cook and clean and make my husband happy. I want to be as feminine and lady like as possible. Having a career is not feminine at all. It's for men only. My boyfriend is 20 and has a good paying job with a promising future. He also comes from a wealthy family.

I'm 17 and want to drop out of high school. I just want to get married to my boyfriend, be a housewife, have a pretty house in the suburbs, have lots of babies and look pretty and feminine for my husband. I don't want to nor do I have any desire to go to college. All of my teachers, parents and guidance counselors are pressuring me to change my mind and trying to force me to go to college. My boyfriend is 20 and has a good paying job. If I'm going to be a housewife for the rest of my life there is no point in me wasting another year in high school. I also don't want to be one of those "career women" who thinks that having a career is so important. A woman's place is in the home. I also like to look pretty and lady like at all times. I always set my hair, do my nails and wear pretty dresses. What should I do?

My boyfriend was divorced 3 years ago because his ex wife cheated on him. They have a son together which I'm fine with. However I'm finding it's starting to bother me that he's been there and done that. We've spoken a lot about our future together and we're both on the same page in terms of what we want. He was with his ex wife 8 years before the divorce so she's a huge part of his life which I can accept, but I'm just finding it hard to accept that nothing we do will be new to him whereas for me it will be a bigger deal! Any advice?

Can you guys list the top 3-5 things you think are most important? This question is mostly for guy who are married but women can answer too. .

My buddy went through an ugly divorce. His ex had been cheating on him and when he found out she moved from Kansas to California to be with her new man. They lived in a huge 5 bedroom home and he was unable to afford the bills and upkeep alone. My fiance and kids moved in with him and we pay all the bills. His ex is moving back to Kansas in October, and she said she wants us out then. My question is two fold, does she have a leg to stand on? And since the house wasnt divided up in divorce court and he's lived there the entire time, isn't it up to him if we move?

My husband snooped into my emails when I let him use my phone to download some apps. He came across 2 emails that were between my ex and I talking about my husbands alcoholism. My ex is an actual friend of mine but nothing at all more. I do regret talking about my husband behind his back to another man. I want us to work through this. My husband has cheated and also verbally abuses when he is drunk. This is day 4 after the incident and he is still a little indifferent but we are maintaining communication and he did say that he. doesn't want me out of his life. But he keeps telling me that he goes between feeling like he wants to let it go and feeling that he should get me back for what I did. I know that I hurt him, but I just want to know of it seems that we will move past this. I know that his drinking is a problem, but we are working on that..a whole nother story. I just need honest feedback and some ways that will help me help me and myself to get on track.

My soon to be husband walked in on me doing a poo this morning and asked if he could wipe my bum.I told him no and he said thats fine and left the bathroom. He never asked anything like that before.is there any good reason behind this or has anyone experienced this before from a partner.Should i have let him?

My boyfriend was divorced 3 years ago because his ex wife cheated on him and they have a son together. I'm finding as our relationship becomes more serious together it bothers me more that he's been there and done that. I don't mind when he talks about her now but I hate hearing about her in the past, but they were together 8 years before the divorce so she's a huge part of his life. Everything that's new to me isn't to him and I'm not sure how to be okay and deal with that. Any advice?

When shes not in the mood for sex and your really horny what else are you supposed to do considering you sleep in the same bed together

First off I want to say that I am a special snowflake. And so is my wife. And so are each and every one of you. The only exception to this rule are these few people out there who would rather NOT be special and would instead be "normalized" - in that case you are CHOOSING to be powerless in this world and you can have fun with that lifestyle (I associate this lifestyle with Christianity - go ahead, hate on me)... So about this rewards and demerits. It is disrespectful and abusive. It was a great 20th century idea so people could do as their told, sacrifice, then get what they wanted. Need dinner made? Let's train the woman how to cook culturally then tell her that if she doesn't cook then her husband will leave her (stick). Then let's tell her if she does cook then her husband will fall deeply, madly in love with her (carrot). She decides not to cook one day? She has an anxiety attack afraid he'll leave. She decides to cook, she expects her carrot in order to remain immersed in this lie/illusion/belief. But all that is, is just low level manipulation. Women do it to men too. Men takes her on a romantic date, he gets sex (carrot); but if men don't take her on a romantic date then he gets nagged (stick). But what happens when he doesn't want sex and he could care less about the nagging? What control do you have now? None. So why might you believe a marriage without give/take and without carrot/stick might not last? P.S. -- The reason we can get away with a marriage like this is because we are self sufficient. We don't need anyone for anything. But we are CHOOSING to be together because we enjoy each other's company, we connect on a mental level, we understand each other (we are special after all), and we are very productive people for what we care about (which won't be what you care about so there's no point in talking about it).

From what I see marriage is fun in the beginning stages/the honeymoon stage. After that responsibilities pile up, you have no time for each other, your physical/sexual/emotional attraction goes down, and you end up not being as good of friends. You do things that hurt each other and there s often not a lot of letting go. People usually get divorced or stay in a bad marriage. Is this how marriages usually end up? Why or why not? If you can how can you prevent those things form happening?

My brothers wife moved and took their less than a year old baby to New Mexico from Missouri even though my brother did not want her to leave, well she could leave but not the baby. Now a year later they are trying to settle a divorce. She has sent him the paperwork and has demanded that he return them in less than 24 hours after first reading them. On the documents it states that he makes a large sum of money a month (He doesn't have a job) and that she makes the same amount and pays $620 towards the babys expenses and he pays less than that. In reality he has sent her over $7500 in the 9 months she has been away from him and even though she has a job he still gives her money. Even begging my parents to give him the money to send. She said they have no bank accounts when thats a lie. She mismarked item prices some by as much as $1,900.00. She said they would do the divorce without legal counsel and she lied, she also said he wouldn't have to pay child support since he already sends them any money they need, LIE. So he said since you lied to me I am going to also go get an attorney to look over the paperwork and fix the numbers that are wrong and I will send you the new papers to sign. So she threatens that if he doesn't send them back by tomorrow she will file Contested. Which he is all for a divorce from this psycho but he is also not trying to be royally screwed for life. Can she file like that? What can he do to protect himself?

I received an inheritance and very much wanted to invest it for my retirement. However all the financial advisors I talked to were way too expensive. I know a guy that is a financial genius that could help me but I was afraid to call him. He is my ex husband Joe. We remained friends after the divorce. However he has moved on with his life. Several times I picked up the phone to call him and asked for his help but I couldn't do it, I was afraid he would reject me. Finally it took all the courage I had, I called and explained what I wanted. He said lets meet for lunch tomorrow and I will help you get started. I was in for another surprise. He took me to lunch at Ruth Chris. It was the best restaurant meal I had ever had. It should be for their prices and Joe would not let me pay for it. We had a great meal and great conversation and he gave me great investment advice. He insisted I meed him at Ruth Chris every month to review my investments. Each time he insisted he pay for the meal and he never charged me for his investment advice. That was over a year ago and my investments have done great. Each time I offered to pay for the meal. He said "I don't charge friends for helping them". My friends that I told about this told me he wanted me back. They said no guy will take you to such an expensive place as Ruth Chris once a month unless he had feeling for you. Are my friends right or is he just being a nice guy? Why do you think he is doing this for me?

My husband and I have been together for three years, but recently he's been ignoring me all the time. Lately I've been wondering if I could just set a lamp next to him and see if he notices a difference. He works and I don't, I'm trying to finish a very difficult degree, but he doesn't do much housework unless other people come over. He sleeps on the couch when he gets home from work and says it's just because he isn't tired and watches TV until he falls asleep. He smokes pot almost every day, and gets upset if I try to talk to him while he's watching TV or reading a newspaper. Anyway, the other day my sister-in-law was having brunch with me when she told me that my brother-in-law had gotten a girl pregnant. I told my husband and he said "I knew that. You weren't supposed to know about that. She shouldn't have told you." I don't think I've ever felt less loved than when he said that. I just walked out of the house and spent the day with my friends. Later that night he texted that he loved me, and I didn't reply. I decided to sleep on the couch and he tried to move me into bed but I refused to go and he asked "are you mad at me?" as if he couldn't believe it. I couldn't believe it. I just don't know what to do? I'm so angry but am I overreacting? My friends and I share everything with our husbands--I just feel mad that he kept a family secret from me. I feel like he doesn't trust me or doesn't think of me as family and neither one is comforting.

I currently am going through a lot. I recently started having panic attacks that throughout the whole day my body is tensed and I cry. I have a husband who is a mommy's baby and can't put me first. I have tried MANY times to talk to him. It's just like talking to a wall. I will be starting a new job soon but he isn't emotionally there for me. It's just like I am here for his convenience to cook food for him, sleep with him and pick up after him. It is taking a toll on me. His family isn't the best bunch either. His sisters are jealous and always starting trouble for me. His mum thinks I am her slave because her daughters are useless. Honestly, he shows no qualities of a husband. He is selfish and puts me last. I am becoming more and more unattached to him. He goes and spends time with his mom every single day and visits his friends and comes home late. We have spoken on many occasions about it but he keeps on taking me for granted. I have all of this stressing me out. The only person who I can really rely on to be here for me is my mom. I have a year of studies to complete and I want to do it whislt I am working. I want to be independent. He is very immature and everything is a joke but when it comes to him and his family I must move mountains for them. Bull! I know I am too good for him. He thinks because he is earning money that he is a man. He behaves like a 12 year old guy. I have all of this stress and worries and thoughts. He doesn't appreciate me and I am tired.

we have a daughter she is asking divorce .but she never tell that to her parents. she creates stories as i was the reason for divorce. But from the begining she did not like me. only for her parents compulsion she agreed for the marriage. after 10 years she is telling that she realized and want to get divorce. but we have baby 7 years old . But she never tells her parents that she wants divorce. she she creates stories that she was suffering a lot from me. her parents believe her stories and tried to beat me many more times. she had a help of a criminal for threaten me. she wants money and she says her parents that i am asking for divorce. my wife is under that criminal control now. she went away and have no communication. what to do ?

If Marriage is a "legal" construct, why are there so many religious beliefs surrounding it? What does religion have to do with Marriage then? Why is "God" mentioned in the traditional vows? Why are most weddings in a church? Lastly, why are the vast majority of people angry about LGBT having a "Marriage" instead of a "Civil Union" Christian? If Religion has nothing to do with it, then why is it brought up a lot in M&D?

I've been married 7 years to a man whose 16 years older than I am. His first wife and son were killed in an automobile accident about 4 years before we met. I get that you don't "get over" something like that. Not ever. Every two weeks or so he visits their graves and keeps flowers and wreaths on them. I've gone with him. He's somber but not brought to tears. But it's like in good weather, it's every two weeks or so and in the winter it's at least once a month. We have two kids ages 5 and 3 1/2 and the oldest one has recently taken an interest in his half-brother who died before he was born. Hubs showed him a picture of his late son. Our son asked a lot of questions about his dead half-brother about his favorite things and things like that. Then he asked hubs if he still missed him. Hubs said every single day. Then our son asked him if he missed the mother of his dead son too. He said "Yeah I do." I got very very jealous. It's irrational and I know it. I'm completely convinced of hubs fidelity. So why am I jealous over his first wife I don't know. I'm just wondering if it's normal for a man with a second wife to be grieving forever over his first wife.

Things I'm looking for are things like how a wife/husband "should" look and behave. What roles do they have in the marriage. Who (if anyone) controls the relationship. What are priorities. And how do you know if you are doing it "correctly".

We were arguing because my girlfriend sent me a photo of another mans small penis and it was suppose to be a joke but she sent it when my husband and I were watching a film so I told him to check it out and unexpectedly it was that photo and he snapped I feel really awful it was a massive fight but he's at his parents house he walked out mid argument for the first time and I miss him..

I unfortunately gave into temptation last night and opened our sacred jar of sanctimony. There was a gold coin and a brass ring inside covered in caramel. I held the coin and now it's tainted. I've broken the vow to never do this and it's permanently broken, isn't it? Does this mean I have to divorce my wife? If she finds out I opened the jar and touched the coin, she'll probably want to chemically castrate me.

my wife has became paraplegic and i have not had sex for 1.5 years, im too shy to ask her, i touched her in a sexual way today when i was changing her clothes so so she can hang out and she smiled at me, though she cheated on me 2 years ago and she admitted it to me and she swore to god that she'll change (i didnt find out, she told me all about it), we moved to a far place and she barely knows anyone, and we got 2 kids, i chose to forgive her but i dont have sex with her since because i dont want to touch that man's ejaculation inside her. 1.5 years or not, when it dries out, dead sperms stay there. my wife told me it was one night stand + he used a condom (she cheated because i couldn't take care of her + i had too much overtime), but the sexual desire is killing me, and im religious and i dont like sex outside marriage and divorce is not my thing, how to tell my wife i want to have sex with her even if she's paraplegic? and i want to get pregnant??? she became paraplegic because a car hit her while she was visiting her parents and she had deep depression and a phobia and she thought i would leave her and she kept crying but im too religious to leave her for that and i love her and i dont want to divorce she's much better now but she thinks i wont have sex for my whole life because of her and she is depressed again but not that much depresson, i want to make a baby with her, any advice??? i dont have sex with her anymore because god knows how millions of dead sperms of that guy im touching as i hump her. thats too disgusting and i dont want to think about it Noiamnotagain how can she have an affair again when everyone is calling her a paraplegic idiot and im fighting and punching those who offend her? no one gives a fu c k about her anymore except me and her kids. her parents said a whore is not their daughter and im the only person who is taking care of her now, she'd be thrown in a nursing home if not for me. im sure she'd throw me out to a nusring home if roles were reversed but i want to be the better person and i will take care of her. she says she loves me but she was treating me like **** sharon, i doubt you read my question correctly she's the one who cheated she's saying she dont want to have sex with anyone except me (im sure she's saying this because she's paraplegic) also i like how you all are siding with her while she cheated on me when i did nothing wrong. she herself admitted it was her fault, and i havent cheated. on the second thought, i'll just divorce her and go bang other women. she has damaged me too much to take care of her. maybe have that child with another woman. i told her this and she is crying like hell and i dont care. i told her its over and she's dead for me and i had enough she is crying and she said she wont divorce me either i want or not. she dont know about something called no fault divorce i guess. she begs me now and seeing her beg me while in a wheelchair? that relieved my anger of her cheating. i doubt that someone will date her. she has hurt me too much by banging someone else and now its the time for the payback. the kids dont know yet, and live is too short to be wasted on taking care of a cheater (the worst, paraplegic cheater) life is too short to be* her situation makes me a bit sad though. im on edge. i mean, she's in a wheelchair and no one cares about her, even her parents dont talk with her, i need opinions on this? and please talk about it, i see all answers outside what i asked for... please answer my question

Would you rather be known for your looks, your brains, your faithfulness to God, how good the sex is, how much he means to you, or the type of work you do?

I am getting a plaque made for my fifth wedding anniversary. It is going to say Happy fifth anniversary and then the date do I but the date of our wedding or the date of the fifth anniversary. Or do I do both? I'm not sure what to put on it.

Me and my husbands sex life is pretty good! The thing is I'm pretty open and like to try new things where he is not open unless I bring it up..he only tells me his fantasy is me which I mean come on lol I'm looking at any tips to bring the freak out of him or just so that the inner freak in my self is satisfied.. He is more lazy at sex..any advice from guys and gals..and from the guys side what can I do to help him open up :)

I have been married to her for 22 year and I have already thought that there's nothing that can separate us.Then a three months ago,we have been getting into argument concerning my son.She keep saying leave him and the teacher alone unless they actually do something inappropriate by society standards.Also one day when we was going out to dinner,she was talking to another man while we were in a line ,waiting to get seated and I feel very angry inside.Soon as me and my wife got home,we had a big a argument about how controlling I am tho she didn't mind all these other years I married her.Then a about month ago when my son's teacher from last semester was saying peace out girl scout" to him,I felt very insulted because one,he's a male not a female,she's MARRIED,and she she shouldn't be talking to my son in a informal way but my wife keeps saying I am controlling and I said that it's morally wrong for MARRIED woman to talk with other men while MARRIED.She also start having sex less tho I am 47 and she's 44 so it's normal but she stop saying that she loves me and that I am controlling.Then a few days ago I said that she can't leave out without me for anything,she started to get really frustrated with me and then packed her stuff and left me and I never heard from her since.I thought I had a loyal wife for all these year and while it might be still true,she just seems been so mad at me lately.Will I ever be able to get her back?She also says I am controlling financially as well.